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Based on a true story, Madam is a 2024 show made in New Zealand. Following her husband's affair, Mack decides to open her own ETHICAL BROTHEL. Holly & Jenna have thoughts about this. Quite a lot of thoughts.  Support the show MERCH: https://www.somebodyyoulove.net/store Patreon (from $3AUD/month): http://www.patreon.com/somebodyyoupod Instagram: http://www.instagram.com/somebodyyoupod X: http://www.x.com/somebodyyoupod Facebook: http://www.facebook.com/somebodyyoupod YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@somebodyyoupod

In this episode, Jenna shares some of her worst experiences dealing with mainstream media, and we chat about discretion in our Question of the Week and Shit People Say. If you stick around until the end, you’ll be soothed by crooning tunes by our fearless hosts. Support the show MERCH: https://www.somebodyyoulove.net/store Patreon (from $3AUD/month): http://www.patreon.com/somebodyyoupod Instagram: http://www.instagram.com/somebodyyoupod X: http://www.x.com/somebodyyoupod Facebook: http://www.facebook.com/somebodyyoupod YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@somebodyyoupod

Welcome to season 5! Today we're talking about "accidental activists" and "sex work influencers". What is the cost of speaking about the industry under your work persona? We also answer a question about transitioning from a client/provider relationship to a friendship, and Holly delivers a "won't someone think of the men???" style Shit People Say.  Support the show MERCH: https://www.somebodyyoulove.net/store Patreon (from $3AUD/month): http://www.patreon.com/somebodyyoupod Instagram: http://www.instagram.com/somebodyyoupod X: http://www.x.com/somebodyyoupod Facebook: http://www.facebook.com/somebodyyoupod YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@somebodyyoupod

It’s a big fat Holly & Jenna recap episode! What did we get up to this year? What games, movies, and tv shows did we love? What new sexual experiences did we encounter? And what is coming up for us in 2025?? Support the show MERCH: https://www.somebodyyoulove.net/store Patreon (from $3AUD/month): http://www.patreon.com/somebodyyoupod Instagram: http://www.instagram.com/somebodyyoupod X: http://www.x.com/somebodyyoupod Facebook: http://www.facebook.com/somebodyyoupod YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@somebodyyoupod

NSWP (Global Network of Sex Work Projects): https://www.nswp.org/members APNSW (Asia Pacific Network of Sex Workers): https://apnswnew.wordpress.com/membership/members/ Sources:  https://soundcloud.com/socialismconf/behind-the-rescue-sex-work-migration-and-the-anti-trafficking-industry https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=-CfYvmGIzRE https://www.theatlantic.com/international/archive/2012/03/the-white-savior-industrial-complex/254843/ https://www.artofcitizenry.com/podcast/episode-15-rescue-industry https://truthout.org/articles/the-american-rescue-industry-toward-an-anti-trafficking-paramilitary/ https://titsandsass.com/baked-goods-or-baby-missionaries-in-conversation-with-the-cupcake-girls/ https://www.hrw.org/report/2010/07/19/streets/arbitrary-detention-and-other-abuses-against-sex-workers-cambodia Support the show MERCH: https://www.somebodyyoulove.net/store Patreon (from $3AUD/month): http://www.patreon.com/somebodyyoupod Instagram: http://www.instagram.com/somebodyyoupod X: http://www.x.com/somebodyyoupod Facebook: http://www.facebook.com/somebodyyoupod YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@somebodyyoupod

Well, the time has come. We are finally doing a deep dive on the Nordic Model! End Demand, Swedish Model, Equality Model... whatever you want to call it, it sucks.  Sources:  Sex in the New Europe: The Criminalization of Clients and Swedish Fear of Penetration, Kulick, 2003Twenty Years of Failing Sex Workers: A community report on the impact of the 1999 Swedish Sex Purchase Act, Fuckforbundet, 2019 Sex Work and the Nordic Model (w/ Freja and Elizabeth), The Importance of Being Feminist, 2021The human cost of ‘crushing’ the market: Criminalization of sex work in Norway, Amnesty International, 2016What do sex workers think about the French prostitution act?, Medecins Du Monde, 2019Support the show MERCH: https://www.somebodyyoulove.net/store Patreon (from $3AUD/month): http://www.patreon.com/somebodyyoupod Instagram: http://www.instagram.com/somebodyyoupod X: http://www.x.com/somebodyyoupod Facebook: http://www.facebook.com/somebodyyoupod YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@somebodyyoupod

The film The Best Little Whorehouse in Texas was released in 1982, based on the 1978 musical, based loosely on a true story. The movie stars Dolly Parton and Burt Reynolds and this week Holly and Jenna are sharing their thoughts on it!  Support the show MERCH: https://www.somebodyyoulove.net/store Patreon (from $3AUD/month): http://www.patreon.com/somebodyyoupod Instagram: http://www.instagram.com/somebodyyoupod X: http://www.x.com/somebodyyoupod Facebook: http://www.facebook.com/somebodyyoupod YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@somebodyyoupod

Combining 15 years as a professional undresser, award-winning stripper, pole dancer, & 🌽 star with an international research portfolio spanning SWer activism, LGBTQ+ health, sexual rights and sextech, it’s Zahra Stardust! Order Indie Porn: Revolution, Regulation, and Resistance: https://avidreader.com.au/p/indie-porn-revolution-regulation-and-resistance Support the show MERCH: https://www.somebodyyoulove.net/store Patreon (from $3AUD/month): http://www.patreon.com/somebodyyoupod Instagram: http://www.instagram.com/somebodyyoupod X: http://www.x.com/somebodyyoupod Facebook: http://www.facebook.com/somebodyyoupod YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@somebodyyoupod

Pomma Granet, also known as Blair Bishop, also known as OnlyPomma, Juicy Pomma, Succubus Slut, and a host of other usernames given how many times they’ve had accounts deleted, is a New York-based full service sex worker, adult content creator, BDSM & fetish provider, cammer, and much more.  Blair describes themselves as a bit of a nerd - they love video games, cosplay, anime, crafting, and alternative fashion and they are often traveling the country for anime conventions. They also spend a lot of their time online yelling into the void about sex worker’s rights and thus they fit right in here!  Further reading:  https://www.tandfonline.com/doi/abs/10.1080/00224499.2011.628132 https://www.bbc.com/news/technology-23030090 Support the show MERCH: https://www.somebodyyoulove.net/store Patreon (from $3AUD/month): http://www.patreon.com/somebodyyoupod Instagram: http://www.instagram.com/somebodyyoupod X: http://www.x.com/somebodyyoupod Facebook: http://www.facebook.com/somebodyyoupod YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@somebodyyoupod

CW: Stalking, harassment, sexual assault Welcome to part 2, and apologies for the darkness of these episodes! This time Holly & Jenna each share another story of stalking/harassment, as well as talk about the red flags they’ve learnt to watch out for, parasocial relationships, hitting on people at work, and female perpetrators.  Support the show MERCH: https://www.somebodyyoulove.net/store Patreon (from $3AUD/month): http://www.patreon.com/somebodyyoupod Instagram: http://www.instagram.com/somebodyyoupod X: http://www.x.com/somebodyyoupod Facebook: http://www.facebook.com/somebodyyoupod YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@somebodyyoupod

CW: Stalking, harassment, sexual assault, animal death. We use the term “grandfathered” in this episode. We understand this term has very racist origins, and we apologise for the mistake. A better term would have been “legacy rates” While we are not more likely to be victims of violence because we sell sex, we are more likely to be victims of violence because people think the fact that we sell sex makes us less than human. Which is the whole reason this podcast exists. Today Holly & Jenna are each sharing one of the more harrowing experiences they have had in this industry.  For more info on sex work in Australia, please check out the following organisations: Scarlet Alliance: https://www.scarletalliance.org.au/ ACT (SWOP ACT): https://meridianact.org.au/swop/ NSW (SWOP NSW): https://swop.org.au/ NT (SWOP NT): https://www.ntahc.org.au/swopnt Qld (Respect Inc): https://respectqld.org.au/ SA (SIN): http://www.sin.org.au/sindex.html Tas (Scarlet Alliance): https://scarletalliance.org.au/links/ Vic (Vixen): https://vixen.org.au/ WA (SWEAR): http://sexworkerrightswa.org WA (Magenta): http://magenta.org.au Support the show MERCH: https://www.somebodyyoulove.net/store Patreon (from $3AUD/month): http://www.patreon.com/somebodyyoupod Instagram: http://www.instagram.com/somebodyyoupod X: http://www.x.com/somebodyyoupod Facebook: http://www.facebook.com/somebodyyoupod YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@somebodyyoupod

Holly finally convinced Jenna to watch Pretty Woman and here we are! Patreon (from $3AUD/month): http://www.patreon.com/somebodyyoupod Instagram: http://www.instagram.com/somebodyyoupod X: http://www.x.com/somebodyyoupod Facebook: http://www.facebook.com/somebodyyoupod For more info on sex work in Australia, please check out the following organisations: Scarlet Alliance: https://www.scarletalliance.org.au/ ACT (SWOP ACT): https://meridianact.org.au/swop/ NSW (SWOP NSW): https://swop.org.au/ NT (SWOP NT): https://www.ntahc.org.au/swopnt Qld (Respect Inc): https://respectqld.org.au/ SA (SIN): http://www.sin.org.au/sindex.html Tas (Scarlet Alliance): https://scarletalliance.org.au/links/ Vic (Vixen): https://vixen.org.au/ WA (SWEAR): http://sexworkerrightswa.org WA (Magenta): http://magenta.org.au Support the show MERCH: https://www.somebodyyoulove.net/store Patreon (from $3AUD/month): http://www.patreon.com/somebodyyoupod Instagram: http://www.instagram.com/somebodyyoupod X: http://www.x.com/somebodyyoupod Facebook: http://www.facebook.com/somebodyyoupod YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@somebodyyoupod

Note: we had some technical issues when recording this episode, so unfortunately the audio isn’t at the level we usually like to deliver!  Buy SLUTDOM: ​​https://www.uqp.com.au/books/slutdom-reclaiming-shame-free-sexuality Dr Hilary Caldwell has been a sex worker for over 20 years and decided to come out of hiding to publish her first book. She is an academic with a Masters in Health Science and Applied Science. Her doctorate, ‘Women Who Buy Sex in Australia’ was the first study in the world to explore women buying sexual services and was informed by her sex work and professional career in the field of sexology. She is kinky and queer, a mother and grandmother. Dr Caldwell has recently released her first book, Slutdom, which argues convincingly and passionately for women’s enjoyment of sex as a force to advance gender equality. Delving into topics such as pleasure, pain, empowerment, and including real women’s stories and saucy tips, we are welcoming Dr Caldwell on the show to discuss her research, the Slutdom movement and her experiences as an academic and secret sex worker. Patreon (from $3AUD/month): http://www.patreon.com/somebodyyoupod Instagram: http://www.instagram.com/somebodyyoupod X: http://www.x.com/somebodyyoupod Facebook: http://www.facebook.com/somebodyyoupod For more info on sex work in Australia, please check out the following organisations: Scarlet Alliance: https://www.scarletalliance.org.au/ ACT (SWOP ACT): https://meridianact.org.au/swop/ NSW (SWOP NSW): https://swop.org.au/ NT (SWOP NT): https://www.ntahc.org.au/swopnt Qld (Respect Inc): https://respectqld.org.au/ SA (SIN): http://www.sin.org.au/sindex.html Tas (Scarlet Alliance): https://scarletalliance.org.au/links/ Vic (Vixen): https://vixen.org.au/ WA (SWEAR): http://sexworkerrightswa.org WA (Magenta): http://magenta.org.au Support the show MERCH: https://www.somebodyyoulove.net/store Patreon (from $3AUD/month): http://www.patreon.com/somebodyyoupod Instagram: http://www.instagram.com/somebodyyoupod X: http://www.x.com/somebodyyoupod Facebook: http://www.facebook.com/somebodyyoupod YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@somebodyyoupod

How do I ask how recently they were tested for STIs? How do I ask for us to do something different this time? What if I get down there and it smells really bad? Holly & Jenna give you tips on how to tackle tricky topics and sticky subjects. They also answer the listener question “Is there room for older ladies to succeed in SW?” Patreon (from $3AUD/month): http://www.patreon.com/somebodyyoupod MERCH: http://www.somebodyyoulove.net/store Instagram: http://www.instagram.com/somebodyyoupod Twitter: http://www.twitter.com/somebodyyoupod Facebook: http://www.facebook.com/somebodyyoupod For more info on sex work in Australia, please check out the following organisations: Scarlet Alliance: https://www.scarletalliance.org.au/ ACT (SWOP ACT): https://meridianact.org.au/swop/ NSW (SWOP NSW): https://swop.org.au/ NT (SWOP NT): https://www.ntahc.org.au/swopnt Qld (Respect Inc): https://respectqld.org.au/ SA (SIN): http://www.sin.org.au/sindex.html Tas (Scarlet Alliance): https://scarletalliance.org.au/links/ Vic (Vixen): https://vixen.org.au/ WA (SWEAR): http://sexworkerrightswa.org WA (Magenta): http://magenta.org.au Support the show MERCH: https://www.somebodyyoulove.net/store Patreon (from $3AUD/month): http://www.patreon.com/somebodyyoupod Instagram: http://www.instagram.com/somebodyyoupod X: http://www.x.com/somebodyyoupod Facebook: http://www.facebook.com/somebodyyoupod YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@somebodyyoupod

In part three of this series (make sure you’ve listened to parts 1 & 2 if you’re new or thinking about joining the industry!), we’re talking about the actual booking - how do you keep time, how to set up for and run a booking, how to do health checks, tips for building assertiveness, and what mental self care is necessary in this job.  Patreon (from $3AUD/month): http://www.patreon.com/somebodyyoupod Instagram: http://www.instagram.com/somebodyyoupod Twitter: http://www.twitter.com/somebodyyoupod Facebook: http://www.facebook.com/somebodyyoupod For more info on sex work in Australia, please check out the following organisations:  Scarlet Alliance: https://www.scarletalliance.org.au/ ACT (SWOP ACT): https://meridianact.org.au/swop/ NSW (SWOP NSW): https://swop.org.au/ NT (SWOP NT): https://www.ntahc.org.au/swopnt Qld (Respect Inc): https://respectqld.org.au/ SA (SIN): http://www.sin.org.au/sindex.html Tas (Scarlet Alliance): https://scarletalliance.org.au/links/ Vic (Vixen Collective): https://www.vixencollective.org/vc WA (SWEAR): http://sexworkerrightswa.org  WA (Magenta): http://magenta.org.au Support the show MERCH: https://www.somebodyyoulove.net/store Patreon (from $3AUD/month): http://www.patreon.com/somebodyyoupod Instagram: http://www.instagram.com/somebodyyoupod X: http://www.x.com/somebodyyoupod Facebook: http://www.facebook.com/somebodyyoupod YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@somebodyyoupod