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Can you really separate while still living together? With rising living costs and Australia's housing crisis, more couples are choosing to separate under one roof. But what does that actually mean for your legal rights, your children, your finances, and your emotional wellbeing? In this episode, I sit down with family lawyer in residence Dani Zetzer from Respect Legal to unpack one of the most misunderstood aspects of separation. Together, we explore the legal realities, common misconceptions, and practical strategies for navigating life when moving into separate homes simply isn't possible. Whether you're considering separation, currently living under the same roof as your former partner, or supporting someone through this transition, I hope this conversation provides compassionate, practical guidance to help you feel more informed and supported. Resources Mentioned Family lawyers, parenting coaches, child psychologists, accountants, GPs, Services Australia, Family Tax Benefit, Child Support, and domestic violence financial assistance programs. Let's Keep the Conversation Going: Visit Divorce and Separation Hub to explore expert resources, courses, and programs tailored to your needs. Share your questions or comments you're not alone in this. Host: Nikki Parkinson, TEDx Speaker, Divorce Doula, Coach and Founder of The Divorce and Separation Hub. The Divorce and Separation Hub Website The Divorce and Separation Hub Instagram The Divorce and Separation Hub Facebook The Divorce and Separation Hub Linkedin Join our Divorce and Separation community HERE. Watch Nikki's TEDx Talk HERE. Guest: Danielle Zetzer, Lawyer, Founder of Respect Legal and Host of Diary of a Divorce Lawyer Respect Legal Instagram LinkedIn Diary of a Divorce Lawyer   Loved This Episode? Support the podcast by subscribing, leaving a five-star review, and sharing it with someone who could use a little extra support right now. This podcast's audio production crafted by Dan at dankingproductions.com.au. This episode is a collaboration with Respect Legal. If you're enjoying this conversation and want to hear more from Dani Zetzer, listen to her podcast Diary of a Divorce Lawyer. If you are ready for legal advice, Dani leads a family law firm, Respect Legal. The team at Respect Legal are modern divorce lawyers putting the humanity back into family law — one client at a time. They will help you make empowered legal decisions that support life beyond separation. Respect by name. Respectful by nature. If you want modern, respectful legal advice visit Respect Legal. Disclaimer I hope you enjoyed the podcast today. The information we discussed today was just that information only. It is not specific advice. If you take action following something you heard today, it is important to make sure you get professional advice about your unique situation before you proceed, whether that advice be legal, financial, accounting, medical or other advice. Please reach out to me if you have any questions or if there's another topic you'd like explored.

Have you ever had someone close to you separate and suddenly started looking at your own relationship differently? Maybe it was a friend, a sister, someone at school, work or in your friendship circle. One minute you are supporting them. The next, you are lying awake wondering: Are we actually okay? Have I been ignoring things? Could I leave too? In this solo episode, I talk about "divorce flu" — the idea that divorce can ripple through social circles and make other people question their own relationships. But can you really catch divorce like the flu? Not exactly. I explore the research around divorce and social networks, while making it clear that someone else's divorce does not cause yours. But it can bring up feelings, questions and truths that may have already been sitting under the surface. This episode is about curiosity, not panic. Host: Nikki Parkinson, TEDx Speaker, Divorce Doula, Coach and Founder of The Divorce and Separation Hub. The Divorce and Separation Hub Website The Divorce and Separation Hub Instagram The Divorce and Separation Hub Facebook The Divorce and Separation Hub Linkedin Join our Divorce and Separation community HERE. Watch Nikki's TEDx Talk HERE. Loved This Episode? Support the podcast by subscribing, leaving a five-star review, and sharing it with someone who could use a little extra support right now. Do you have a question you want answered? Submit your question here. This episode is produced by Dan King of Dan King Productions. This episode is sposnored by Simple Separation, the smarter way to separate. Simple Separation is an online, fixed-fee service designed to help Australian couples finalise their divorce and separation respectfully, collaboratively, and without the stress of going to court. From property settlements and parenting plans to child support and divorce applications, everything you need is under one roof, saving you time, money, and unnecessary conflict. Book your free consultation today to find out if Simple Separation is right for your situation at simple-separation.com.au. Disclaimer I hope you enjoyed the podcast today. The information we discussed today was just that information only. It is not specific advice. If you take action following something you heard today, it is important to make sure you get professional advice about your unique situation before you proceed, whether that advice be legal, financial, accounting, medical or other advice. Please reach out to me if you have any questions or if there's another topic you'd like explored.

What happens when leaving feels impossible but staying is costing you your health? In this honest conversation, Lindy Klim shares her deeply personal journey through divorce, rebuilding her life, and raising four children while starting over from scratch. She opens up about recognizing the physical signs of stress, asking for help, leaving everything behind, and creating a peaceful life for herself and her family. This episode is a reminder that healing isn't linear, rebuilding takes courage, and life can become lighter after making the hardest decision. Whether you're considering separation, navigating divorce, or supporting someone who is, Lindy's story offers hope, practical wisdom, and reassurance that you're not alone. In this episode, we discussed: Recognising when your body is telling you something isn't right The emotional weight of staying in an unhappy relationship Finding the courage to ask for help Leaving with four children and starting over Motherhood during separation Therapy, breathwork, and healing Why rebuilding isn't about possessions—it's about peace Supporting children through divorce Letting go of guilt and embracing a new chapter Memorable Quote "It's going to be okay. Just keep putting one foot in front of the other." Let's Keep the Conversation Going: Visit Divorce and Separation Hub to explore expert resources, courses, and programs tailored to your needs. Share your questions or comments you're not alone in this. Host: Nikki Parkinson, TEDx Speaker, Divorce Doula, Coach and Founder of The Divorce and Separation Hub. The Divorce and Separation Hub Website The Divorce and Separation Hub Instagram The Divorce and Separation Hub Facebook The Divorce and Separation Hub Linkedin Join our Divorce and Separation community HERE. Watch Nikki's TEDx Talk HERE. Guest: Lindy Klim Instagram Loved This Episode? Support the podcast by subscribing, leaving a five-star review, and sharing it with someone who could use a little extra support right now. This podcast's audio production crafted by Dan at dankingproductions.com.au. This episode is sponsored by Simple Separation, the smarter way to separate. Simple Separation is an online, fixed-fee service designed to help Australian couples finalise their divorce and separation respectfully, collaboratively, and without the stress of going to court. From property settlements and parenting plans to child support and divorce applications, everything you need is under one roof, saving you time, money, and unnecessary conflict. Book your free consultation today to find out if Simple Separation is right for your situation at simple-separation.com.au. Disclaimer I hope you enjoyed the podcast today. The information we discussed today was just that information only. It is not specific advice. If you take action following something you heard today, it is important to make sure you get professional advice about your unique situation before you proceed, whether that advice be legal, financial, accounting, medical or other advice. Please reach out to me if you have any questions or if there's another topic you'd like explored.

This is Episode 2 of The Legal Side of Separation with family lawyer Dani Zetzer from Respect Legal. In this episode I am talking to Dani about separation, parenting arrangements and neurodivergent children and why the usual conversations about "fairness", equal time and 50/50 care often do not meet the needs of children who need more structure, regulation and support. Dani brings both her legal experience and her lived experience as a neurodivergent parent of neurodivergent children to this important discussion. Together, we explore why separation can affect neurodivergent children differently, especially when routines change, handovers increase, therapies need to be managed across two households, or parents are not on the same page about diagnosis, medication or support. This episode looks at why parenting arrangements need to be built around the child in front of you and not what feels fair to the adults. You'll hear Nikki and Dani discuss: • Why 50/50 care is not automatically in a child's best interests • How separation and high conflict can affect neurodivergent children • Why routines, transitions and handovers matter so much • What happens when parents disagree about diagnosis or treatment • The role of mediation, parenting plans and parenting orders • Why parallel parenting may sometimes be more supportive than traditional co-parenting • How therapy, medication, NDIS supports and school needs can complicate parenting arrangements • Why the family law system is limited when it comes to complex children's needs • How parents can shift from "what is fair to me?" to "what does my child need?" • Why finding the right professional support matters This is a powerful and practical conversation for any parent navigating separation with a neurodivergent child, or any parent who feels like the system does not fully understand their child. Because parenting after separation is not about dividing children in half. It is about creating arrangements that help them feel safe, supported and able to cope. Do you have a question that you would like us to answer? Leave you question HERE. Resources If you are experiencing family violence, coercive control, financial abuse, or have concerns about your safety, please seek professional support immediately. 1800RESPECT 1800 737 732 Lifeline 13 11 14 Let's Keep the Conversation Going: Visit Divorce and Separation Hub to explore expert resources, courses, and programs tailored to your needs. Share your questions or comments you're not alone in this. Host: Nikki Parkinson, TEDx Speaker, Divorce Doula, Coach and Founder of The Divorce and Separation Hub. The Divorce and Separation Hub Website The Divorce and Separation Hub Instagram The Divorce and Separation Hub Facebook The Divorce and Separation Hub Linkedin Join our Divorce and Separation community HERE. Watch Nikki's TEDx Talk HERE. Guest: Danielle Zetzer, Lawyer, Founder of Respect Legal and Host of Diary of a Divorce Lawyer Respect Legal Instagram LinkedIn Diary of a Divorce Lawyer   Loved This Episode? Support the podcast by subscribing, leaving a five-star review, and sharing it with someone who could use a little extra support right now. This podcast's audio production crafted by Dan at dankingproductions.com.au. This episode is a collaboration with Respect Legal. If you're enjoying this conversation and want to hear more from Dani Zetzer, listen to her podcast Diary of a Divorce Lawyer. If you are ready for legal advice, Dani leads a family law firm, Respect Legal. The team at Respect Legal are modern divorce lawyers putting the humanity back into family law — one client at a time. They will help you make empowered legal decisions that support life beyond separation. Respect by name. Respectful by nature. If you want modern, respectful legal advice visit Respect Legal. Disclaimer I hope you enjoyed the podcast today. The information we discussed today was just that information only. It is not specific advice. If you take action following something you heard today, it is important to make sure you get professional advice about your unique situation before you proceed, whether that advice be legal, financial, accounting, medical or other advice. Please reach out to me if you have any questions or if there's another topic you'd like explored.

When you separate, there are some practical things that feel urgent - parenting arrangements, property settlement, bank accounts, where everyone is going to live. But there is another part of separation that many people overlook. Your estate planning. I'm joined by Mike Poynter, Principal Lawyer at MCP Legal, a partner firm of Simple Separation, to talk about the four key documents you need to review when you separate: your will, superannuation death benefit nominations, life insurance, and enduring powers of attorney. Because here's the thing most people do not realise: if you separate and do nothing, your existing documents may still point to your former partner. And if you do not have a will at all, the law may still treat your spouse as the first person entitled to your estate until you are legally divorced.  Mike explains what estate planning actually means, the difference between being separated, divorced, married or de facto, and why it is so important to understand what happens to your assets, superannuation and decision-making powers if something happens to you. This is not about fear. It is about making informed choices. In this episode, we discuss: • What estate planning actually means • Why your will matters after separation • The difference between an executor, trustee and beneficiary • What happens if you separate but do not update your will • The difference between married and de facto couples after separation • Why divorce can change your estate planning position • What happens if you die without a will • Superannuation binding death benefit nominations • Why your super nomination can override your will • Life insurance inside and outside of super • Enduring powers of attorney and medical decision-making • Advanced care directives • Why backup decision-makers matter • The one simple estate planning step you can take today Key takeaway: Separation changes your life, but it does not automatically change every legal document connected to your life. Your will, superannuation nomination, life insurance and enduring power of attorney may still name your former partner unless you take steps to review them. You may not need to change everything immediately, but you do need to know where you stand. Let's Keep the Conversation Going: Visit Divorce and Separation Hub to explore expert resources, courses, and programs tailored to your needs. Share your questions or comments you're not alone in this. Host: Nikki Parkinson, TEDx Speaker, Divorce Doula, Coach and Founder of The Divorce and Separation Hub. The Divorce and Separation Hub Website The Divorce and Separation Hub Instagram The Divorce and Separation Hub Facebook The Divorce and Separation Hub Linkedin Join our Divorce and Separation community HERE. Watch Nikki's TEDx Talk HERE. Guest: Mike Poynter, Principal Lawyer at MCP Legal Website Instagram Loved This Episode? Support the podcast by subscribing, leaving a five-star review, and sharing it with someone who could use a little extra support right now. This podcast's audio production crafted by Dan at dankingproductions.com.au. This episode is sponsored by Simple Separation, the smarter way to separate. Simple Separation is an online, fixed-fee service designed to help Australian couples finalise their divorce and separation respectfully, collaboratively, and without the stress of going to court. From property settlements and parenting plans to child support and divorce applications, everything you need is under one roof, saving you time, money, and unnecessary conflict. Book your free consultation today to find out if Simple Separation is right for your situation at simple-separation.com.au. Disclaimer I hope you enjoyed the podcast today. The information we discussed today was just that information only. It is not specific advice. If you take action following something you heard today, it is important to make sure you get professional advice about your unique situation before you proceed, whether that advice be legal, financial, accounting, medical or other advice. Please reach out to me if you have any questions or if there's another topic you'd like explored.

In the early days of separation, it can feel like your whole life has changed faster than your mind and body can process. You might still be functioning on the outside working, parenting, replying to messages, paying bills — but inside, you feel like you are falling apart. In this solo episode I talk about what I call separation shock: the emotional, practical and mental overwhelm that can happen when a relationship ends or when separation becomes real. I bring you back to what matters most in the beginning: safety, steadiness, support, information and one practical next step. In this episode, I discuss: What separation shock is and why it happens Why the first few days and weeks of separation can feel so overwhelming The difference between urgent and important decisions Why you should avoid making big decisions from panic How separation affects your nervous system, sleep, parenting and decision-making The importance of stabilisation, information and connection What to focus on in the first 72 hours after separation How to support someone you love who is going through a breakup, divorce or separation Why shame and isolation can make separation feel even harder The question to ask yourself when everything feels chaotic: "Who do I want to be in this?" This episode is for anyone who is newly separated, thinking about separation, still living under the same roof, navigating divorce, supporting a friend through separation, or feeling overwhelmed by the practical and emotional reality of relationship breakdown. Note This episode discusses emotional distress, family breakdown and suicide risk. If this episode feels too close or brings something up for you, please reach out to someone you trust or contact a crisis support service in your country. In Australia, Lifeline is available 24/7 on 13 11 14. If you or someone else is in immediate danger, please call emergency services. Resources Lifeline Australia: 13 11 14 1800RESPECT: 1800 737 732 Emergency services Australia: 000 Host: Nikki Parkinson, TEDx Speaker, Divorce Doula, Coach and Founder of The Divorce and Separation Hub. The Divorce and Separation Hub Website The Divorce and Separation Hub Instagram The Divorce and Separation Hub Facebook The Divorce and Separation Hub Linkedin Join our Divorce and Separation community HERE. Watch Nikki's TEDx Talk HERE. Loved This Episode? Support the podcast by subscribing, leaving a five-star review, and sharing it with someone who could use a little extra support right now. This episode is produced by Dan King of Dan King Productions. This episode is sposnored by Simple Separation, the smarter way to separate. Simple Separation is an online, fixed-fee service designed to help Australian couples finalise their divorce and separation respectfully, collaboratively, and without the stress of going to court. From property settlements and parenting plans to child support and divorce applications, everything you need is under one roof, saving you time, money, and unnecessary conflict. Book your free consultation today to find out if Simple Separation is right for your situation at simple-separation.com.au. Disclaimer I hope you enjoyed the podcast today. The information we discussed today was just that information only. It is not specific advice. If you take action following something you heard today, it is important to make sure you get professional advice about your unique situation before you proceed, whether that advice be legal, financial, accounting, medical or other advice. Please reach out to me if you have any questions or if there's another topic you'd like explored.

Today's Divorce Story is with Pete Murphy or Murf, as he's known to his friends. Murf's story is incredibly powerful. It is a story about losing so much of what once felt certain: his family life, his identity, his sense of stability, and at times, his hope. But it is also a story about what can happen when people show up, when support is offered in a way that can actually be received, and when a man begins to rebuild from the inside out. In this conversation, Murf speaks openly about the moment he now recognises as rock bottom, lying in his driveway with police standing over him asking if he was okay. He shares what it felt like to be completely overwhelmed, to feel like there was no point getting back up again, and what it took to keep going. We talk about male grief, the way men are often conditioned to hide pain, and why so many men feel they have to carry separation alone. Murf also shares the daily practices that have helped him through some of the hardest days, including breathwork, meditation, journaling, self-reflection and learning how to create space between what happens and how he responds. This episode is not spoken from the finish line. Murf is still in the middle of his story. And that is what makes this conversation so important. In this episode, we discuss: What life looked like before everything changed Murf's rock bottom moment and what it felt like emotionally and physically Why men often struggle to speak openly about grief The shame and isolation many men experience during separation The importance of friendship, connection and people showing up Why accepting help is not weakness The difference between surrendering and giving up Rebuilding when the story is still unfolding How breathwork, journaling and daily practices helped Murf cope What not to say to someone going through separation Why listening is sometimes more powerful than trying to fix Murf's message for anyone listening, especially men, is simple but deeply important: you are not alone. You do not have to carry this by yourself. And accepting help is not failure, it can be the beginning of finding your way back. Host: Nikki Parkinson, TEDx Speaker, Divorce Doula, Coach and Founder of The Divorce and Separation Hub. The Divorce and Separation Hub Website The Divorce and Separation Hub Instagram The Divorce and Separation Hub Facebook The Divorce and Separation Hub Linkedin Join our Divorce and Separation community HERE. Watch Nikki's TEDx Talk HERE. Guest: Pete Murphy Website Instagram Blokes Day Out Facebook Murf is a Gold Coast-based fitness and lifestyle coach with over 25 years of experience helping people build stronger bodies, minds, and lives. After navigating his own devastating divorce - losing his business, his home, his family, and at times his will to keep going - Murf found his deeper purpose in human wellbeing and connection.  He founded Blokes Day Out, a men's community initiative built on the belief that what saves us isn't programs or resources, it's people showing up for each other.  Through his coaching brand murf.com.au, he works with men and women to build the tools, habits, and mindset to navigate life's hardest chapters. Murf's approach is grounded, honest, and lived - because he's been through it, and in many ways is still going through it.  Loved This Episode? Support the podcast by subscribing, leaving a five-star review, and sharing it with someone who could use a little extra support right now. This episode is produced by Dan King of Dan King Productions. This episode is sposnored by Simple Separation, the smarter way to separate. Simple Separation is an online, fixed-fee service designed to help Australian couples finalise their divorce and separation respectfully, collaboratively, and without the stress of going to court. From property settlements and parenting plans to child support and divorce applications, everything you need is under one roof, saving you time, money, and unnecessary conflict. Book your free consultation today to find out if Simple Separation is right for your situation at simple-separation.com.au. Disclaimer I hope you enjoyed the podcast today. The information we discussed today was just that information only. It is not specific advice. If you take action following something you heard today, it is important to make sure you get professional advice about your unique situation before you proceed, whether that advice be legal, financial, accounting, medical or other advice. Please reach out to me if you have any questions or if there's another topic you'd like explored.

One of the hardest questions you'll ever ask yourself isn't about property settlement, parenting arrangements or court. It's much earlier than that. Should I stay or should I go? In this first episode of our brand new series, The Legal Side of Separation, I'm joined by family lawyer Dani Zetzer from Respect Legal to explore the stage of separation that often gets overlooked the period where you're questioning everything but haven't yet made a final decision. This episode is for anyone feeling stuck between staying and leaving, wondering whether their relationship can be repaired, questioning their own judgement, or trying to understand what their options actually are. Together, Dani and I discuss why this stage requires a different type of support, when legal advice becomes important, and the red flags that shouldn't be ignored. We also unpack coercive control, financial abuse, gaslighting, the myths people believe about lawyers and court, and the practical steps you can take whether you're planning to stay or preparing to leave. Most importantly, we discuss how to make informed decisions from a place of knowledge rather than fear. In this episode we discuss: Why the "should I stay or should I go?" stage needs different guidance than a decided separation; When seeking legal advice is appropriate and when it may not be; The truth about free legal consultations; How to choose the right support team around you; Why education before legal advice can be so valuable; Financial transparency and understanding the reality of your financial position; The risks of delaying important decisions; What "getting your ducks in a row" actually looks like; What coercive control is and how it can present in relationships; Gaslighting and the impact it can have on decision-making; Financial abuse red flags and warning signs; Why engaging a lawyer does not automatically mean going to court; How family law matters are resolved outside of court; Negotiating with high-conflict personalities and narcissistic traits; The June 2025 Family Law Act changes relating to family violence and property matters; The myth that leaving the family home means you lose your entitlement to it; Practical steps to consider if you are preparing to leave; Important considerations for parents navigating separation. Key Takeaway The legal side of separation doesn't begin when court proceedings start. It often begins much earlier when you're trying to understand your options, recognise unhealthy patterns, and make decisions about what comes next. Do you have a question that you would like us to answer? Leave you question HERE. Resources If you are experiencing family violence, coercive control, financial abuse, or have concerns about your safety, please seek professional support immediately. 1800RESPECT 1800 737 732 Lifeline 13 11 14 Let's Keep the Conversation Going: Visit Divorce and Separation Hub to explore expert resources, courses, and programs tailored to your needs. Share your questions or comments you're not alone in this. Host: Nikki Parkinson, TEDx Speaker, Divorce Doula, Coach and Founder of The Divorce and Separation Hub. The Divorce and Separation Hub Website The Divorce and Separation Hub Instagram The Divorce and Separation Hub Facebook The Divorce and Separation Hub Linkedin Join our Divorce and Separation community HERE. Watch Nikki's TEDx Talk HERE. Guest: Danielle Zetzer, Lawyer, Founder of Respect Legal and Host of Diary of a Divorce Lawyer Respect Legal Instagram LinkedIn Diary of a Divorce Lawyer   Loved This Episode? Support the podcast by subscribing, leaving a five-star review, and sharing it with someone who could use a little extra support right now. This podcast's audio production crafted by Dan at dankingproductions.com.au. This episode is a collaboration with Respect Legal. If you're enjoying this conversation and want to hear more from Dani Zetzer, listen to her podcast Diary of a Divorce Lawyer. If you are ready for legal advice, Dani leads a family law firm, Respect Legal. The team at Respect Legal are modern divorce lawyers putting the humanity back into family law — one client at a time. They will help you make empowered legal decisions that support life beyond separation. Respect by name. Respectful by nature. If you want modern, respectful legal advice visit Respect Legal. Disclaimer I hope you enjoyed the podcast today. The information we discussed today was just that information only. It is not specific advice. If you take action following something you heard today, it is important to make sure you get professional advice about your unique situation before you proceed, whether that advice be legal, financial, accounting, medical or other advice. Please reach out to me if you have any questions or if there's another topic you'd like explored.

In this episode, I talk about mediation (family dispute resolution) and why it isn't automatically the right first step for every couple. I'm joined by Christina Salvo, CEO and founder of Simple Separation, who explains mediation as a voluntary, structured process led by an impartial mediator to help separating couples reach agreements about parenting and property and, where possible, avoid the stress, cost and adversarial nature of court. Together, we unpack what couples hope to get from mediation, what a mediator does in session (identify issues, narrow disputes, generate and reality-test options, and support negotiation),  what they don't do (take sides or give legal advice), what are the gaps in a traditional mediation, especially poor preparation and inconsistent legal advice. Let's Keep the Conversation Going: Visit Divorce and Separation Hub to explore expert resources, courses, and programs tailored to your needs. Share your questions or comments you're not alone in this. Host: Nikki Parkinson, TEDx Speaker, Divorce Doula, Coach and Founder of The Divorce and Separation Hub. The Divorce and Separation Hub Website The Divorce and Separation Hub Instagram The Divorce and Separation Hub Facebook The Divorce and Separation Hub Linkedin Join our Divorce and Separation community HERE. Watch Nikki's TEDx Talk HERE. Guest: Christina Salvo, CEO and Founder of Simple Separation  Website Instagram Loved This Episode? Support the podcast by subscribing, leaving a five-star review, and sharing it with someone who could use a little extra support right now. This podcast's audio production crafted by Dan at dankingproductions.com.au. This episode is sponsored by Simple Separation, the smarter way to separate. Simple Separation is an online, fixed-fee service designed to help Australian couples finalise their divorce and separation respectfully, collaboratively, and without the stress of going to court. From property settlements and parenting plans to child support and divorce applications, everything you need is under one roof, saving you time, money, and unnecessary conflict. Book your free consultation today to find out if Simple Separation is right for your situation at simple-separation.com.au. Disclaimer I hope you enjoyed the podcast today. The information we discussed today was just that information only. It is not specific advice. If you take action following something you heard today, it is important to make sure you get professional advice about your unique situation before you proceed, whether that advice be legal, financial, accounting, medical or other advice. Please reach out to me if you have any questions or if there's another topic you'd like explored.

What happens when your relationship has ended, but neither of you can move out? This is something I am seeing more and more across Australia. Separation no longer always looks like one person packing a bag and moving into a new home. With the cost of living, rental shortages, mortgage pressure, children, leases, school zones and financial stress, many people are finding themselves separated but still living under the same roof. And while that might be the only practical option, it can also be emotionally exhausting. In this episode, I talk about the growing reality of separation under one roof and how you can move through it with more clarity, structure and support. This is not about pretending everything is fine. It is not about staying in the same relationship. It is about recognising that, for many people, physical separation is not immediately possible but emotional, practical, financial and legal separation can still begin. I explore how to create a same-roof separation plan, how to protect children from confusion and conflict, how to manage the emotional load, and why safety must always come first. This episode is for you if you are living in that difficult middle place: the relationship has ended, but the home, the mortgage, the lease, the children or the finances mean you are still sharing the same address. Resources: If you are in immediate danger, call 000. For domestic, family or sexual violence support in Australia, contact 1800RESPECT (1800737732). It is a national counselling, information and support service available 24 hours a day, 7 days a week. For men using, or at risk of using, violent or controlling behaviour, the Men's Referral Service is available nationally on 1300 766 491. Separation under one roof is recognised in Australia, including by the Federal Circuit and Family Court of Australia when couples have lived separately in the same home during the 12-month separation period required for divorce. The Court notes that extra information may be needed if you rely on that period when applying for divorce. Services Australia also recognises this situation and has a "Separated under one roof" form for people who are separated but still living with their ex-partner, so their relationship status can be assessed correctly for payments. Host: Nikki Parkinson, TEDx Speaker, Divorce Doula, Coach and Founder of The Divorce and Separation Hub. The Divorce and Separation Hub Website The Divorce and Separation Hub Instagram The Divorce and Separation Hub Facebook The Divorce and Separation Hub Linkedin Join our Divorce and Separation community HERE. Watch Nikki's TEDx Talk HERE. Loved This Episode? Support the podcast by subscribing, leaving a five-star review, and sharing it with someone who could use a little extra support right now. Do you have a question you want answered? Submit your question here. This episode is produced by Dan King of Dan King Productions. This episode is sposnored by Simple Separation, the smarter way to separate. Simple Separation is an online, fixed-fee service designed to help Australian couples finalise their divorce and separation respectfully, collaboratively, and without the stress of going to court. From property settlements and parenting plans to child support and divorce applications, everything you need is under one roof, saving you time, money, and unnecessary conflict. Book your free consultation today to find out if Simple Separation is right for your situation at simple-separation.com.au. Disclaimer I hope you enjoyed the podcast today. The information we discussed today was just that information only. It is not specific advice. If you take action following something you heard today, it is important to make sure you get professional advice about your unique situation before you proceed, whether that advice be legal, financial, accounting, medical or other advice. Please reach out to me if you have any questions or if there's another topic you'd like explored.

I am welcoming back Psychologist Ben Schiller to answer listener questions about mental health during and after divorce or separation. We discuss how to choose the right therapist, recognise when therapy is needed, and manage the emotional roller coaster that often accompanies a breakup. Ben shares practical strategies for protecting mental health, the importance of social connections, and how to navigate cognitive distortions. This episode is filled with valuable insights and tools to empower you through your breakup. Key Topics: Differentiating between therapists, counselors, and psychologists How to choose the right mental health professional for your needs Signs that indicate you may need therapy Emotional regulation techniques: naming emotions, linking thoughts, and taking action The importance of social connections during separation Strategies for protecting mental health: sleep, diet, and staying connected Understanding cognitive distortions and their impact on mental health Navigating feelings of sadness and guilt after ending a relationship Your Questions Answered: How do I choose a therapist, counselor, or psychologist? How do I know if I need therapy? How can I manage the emotional roller coaster I'm experiencing? What strategies can I use to cope with stress throughout a separation? How can I protect my mental health during the divorce process? Is it normal to feel sad and guilty after ending a relationship? Host: Nikki Parkinson, TEDx Speaker, Divorce Doula, Coach and Founder of The Divorce and Separation Hub. The Divorce and Separation Hub Website The Divorce and Separation Hub Instagram The Divorce and Separation Hub Facebook The Divorce and Separation Hub Linkedin Join our Divorce and Separation community HERE. Watch Nikki's TEDx Talk HERE. Guest: Ben Schiller,  Connect with Ben Schiller HERE Loved This Episode? Support the podcast by subscribing, leaving a five-star review, and sharing it with someone who could use a little extra support right now. This episode is produced by Dan King of Dan King Productions. This episode is sposnored by Simple Separation, the smarter way to separate. Simple Separation is an online, fixed-fee service designed to help Australian couples finalise their divorce and separation respectfully, collaboratively, and without the stress of going to court. From property settlements and parenting plans to child support and divorce applications, everything you need is under one roof, saving you time, money, and unnecessary conflict. Book your free consultation today to find out if Simple Separation is right for your situation at simple-separation.com.au. Disclaimer I hope you enjoyed the podcast today. The information we discussed today was just that information only. It is not specific advice. If you take action following something you heard today, it is important to make sure you get professional advice about your unique situation before you proceed, whether that advice be legal, financial, accounting, medical or other advice. Please reach out to me if you have any questions or if there's another topic you'd like explored.

This episode delves into the concept of "living loss," a term encountered in Dr. Lucy Hone's book, How Will I Ever Get Through This. I share insights on how separation and divorce can feel like a profound loss, even when life continues around you. I discuss the emotional and practical challenges that arise during this difficult time, emphasising that the grief experienced is not just about the end of a relationship but also about the loss of a future, identity, and the life you envisioned.  I give you practical sugestions on how to navigate the early days of separation, including the importance of focusing on small, manageable steps and creating a sense of steadiness in your daily life.  Key Takeaways: Living loss is an ongoing experience that affects every aspect of your life during separation. It's normal to feel a mix of emotions, including grief, relief, and confusion. Focus on what you need today rather than trying to solve everything at once. Create small points of steadiness to help ground yourself during this tumultuous time. Resources: How Will I Ever Get Through This, by Dr Lucy Hone Host: Nikki Parkinson, TEDx Speaker, Divorce Doula, Coach and Founder of The Divorce and Separation Hub. The Divorce and Separation Hub Website The Divorce and Separation Hub Instagram The Divorce and Separation Hub Facebook The Divorce and Separation Hub Linkedin Join our Divorce and Separation community HERE. Watch Nikki's TEDx Talk HERE. Loved This Episode? Support the podcast by subscribing, leaving a five-star review, and sharing it with someone who could use a little extra support right now. This episode is produced by Dan King of Dan King Productions. This episode is sposnored by Simple Separation, the smarter way to separate. Simple Separation is an online, fixed-fee service designed to help Australian couples finalise their divorce and separation respectfully, collaboratively, and without the stress of going to court. From property settlements and parenting plans to child support and divorce applications, everything you need is under one roof, saving you time, money, and unnecessary conflict. Book your free consultation today to find out if Simple Separation is right for your situation at simple-separation.com.au. Disclaimer I hope you enjoyed the podcast today. The information we discussed today was just that information only. It is not specific advice. If you take action following something you heard today, it is important to make sure you get professional advice about your unique situation before you proceed, whether that advice be legal, financial, accounting, medical or other advice. Please reach out to me if you have any questions or if there's another topic you'd like explored.

I'm back with Gerard Rees from Simple Separation for part two of our conversation. In Episode 84, we spoke about superannuation what I sometimes call the hidden asset. In this episode, we're talking about something I hear from clients all the time: "I just want to be heard." But what does that actually mean in mediation? And more importantly how do you make sure your voice is heard without the room blowing up? Gerard shares what he listens for as a mediator when someone says that sentence. Often, it's not just about speaking. It's about power imbalance. It's about fear. It's about worrying you'll be intellectually, emotionally or financially overpowered. We talk about: How mediators create safety in the room Why preparation builds confidence The behaviours that can accidentally make you harder to hear The difference between telling your story and negotiating your future Income disparity and how "future needs" really work What happens when you're still living under one roof When mediation isn't appropriate and why a mediator has a duty to withdraw This is a practical, grounded, honest conversation about what mediation really looks like and how to approach it in a way that gives you the best chance of reaching an agreement you can actually live with. Let's Keep the Conversation Going: Visit Divorce and Separation Hub to explore expert resources, courses, and programs tailored to your needs. Share your questions or comments you're not alone in this. Host: Nikki Parkinson, TEDx Speaker, Divorce Doula, Coach and Founder of The Divorce and Separation Hub. The Divorce and Separation Hub Website The Divorce and Separation Hub Instagram The Divorce and Separation Hub Facebook The Divorce and Separation Hub Linkedin Join our Divorce and Separation community HERE. Watch Nikki's TEDx Talk HERE. Guest: Gerard Rees, Senior Mediator, Simple Separation  Website Instagram Loved This Episode? Support the podcast by subscribing, leaving a five-star review, and sharing it with someone who could use a little extra support right now. This podcast's audio production crafted by Dan at dankingproductions.com.au. This episode is sponsored by Simple Separation, the smarter way to separate. Simple Separation is an online, fixed-fee service designed to help Australian couples finalise their divorce and separation respectfully, collaboratively, and without the stress of going to court. From property settlements and parenting plans to child support and divorce applications, everything you need is under one roof, saving you time, money, and unnecessary conflict. Book your free consultation today to find out if Simple Separation is right for your situation at simple-separation.com.au. Disclaimer I hope you enjoyed the podcast today. The information we discussed today was just that information only. It is not specific advice. If you take action following something you heard today, it is important to make sure you get professional advice about your unique situation before you proceed, whether that advice be legal, financial, accounting, medical or other advice. Please reach out to me if you have any questions or if there's another topic you'd like explored.

This episode includes discussion around mental health, emotional distress, and suicide risk, particularly for men navigating separation and divorce. Please listen in a way that feels safe for you. If you need support, reach out to someone you trust or a qualified professional. In this episode I am joined by Dr Eran Magen, Yale Pyschologist and Founder DivorcingDads.org. In this episode, we talk about: Why you might look fine on the outside but feel completely destabilised inside The loss of identity that can come with separation The emotional exhaustion, fear and uncertainty that often go unspoken Why there is no quick fix and why that's actually okay A simple way to understand your energy when everything feels depleted: Escape. Recharge. Growth. Why sadness is so difficult to express and how to start The fear of opening up and "not being able to close it again" Loneliness, withdrawal and why connection matters more than you think Suicide risk in men going through divorce and what to look out for What actually helps when you feel overwhelmed The one place to start: talking to someone I would like you to take this away -  What you're feeling makes sense. You're not weak for struggling. And you don't have to do this on your own. Resources & support If this episode brings anything up for you, please reach out. Australia Lifeline — 13 11 14 MensLine — 1300 78 99 78 Beyond Blue — 1300 22 4636 Host: Nikki Parkinson, TEDx Speaker, Divorce Doula, Coach and Founder of The Divorce and Separation Hub. The Divorce and Separation Hub Website The Divorce and Separation Hub Instagram The Divorce and Separation Hub Facebook The Divorce and Separation Hub Linkedin Join our Divorce and Separation community HERE. Watch Nikki's TEDx Talk HERE. Guest: Dr Eran Magen, Yale Psychologist and Founder of DivorcingDads.org Meet Dr Magen - Dr. Eran Magen earned his M.A. in education and Ph.D. in psychology from Stanford University, completed post-doctoral training in child psychology and population health, and currently serves as an assistant clinical professor at the Yale School of Medicine Department of Psychiatry. He is the founder of ParentingForHumans.com and DivorcingDads.org, which support parents in creating strong, collaborative and joyful relationships with their children. He is also the founder of EarlyAlert, which prevents suicide among students and veterans. Loved This Episode? Support the podcast by subscribing, leaving a five-star review, and sharing it with someone who could use a little extra support right now. This episode is produced by Dan King of Dan King Productions. This episode is sposnored by Simple Separation, the smarter way to separate. Simple Separation is an online, fixed-fee service designed to help Australian couples finalise their divorce and separation respectfully, collaboratively, and without the stress of going to court. From property settlements and parenting plans to child support and divorce applications, everything you need is under one roof, saving you time, money, and unnecessary conflict. Book your free consultation today to find out if Simple Separation is right for your situation at simple-separation.com.au. Disclaimer I hope you enjoyed the podcast today. The information we discussed today was just that information only. It is not specific advice. If you take action following something you heard today, it is important to make sure you get professional advice about your unique situation before you proceed, whether that advice be legal, financial, accounting, medical or other advice. Please reach out to me if you have any questions or if there's another topic you'd like explored.

I loved this episode. In this conversation, I'm joined by Samantha Thomas, founder of MyndGym, to talk about mental fitness and why it matters so much during divorce and separation. When you're navigating a major life change, your nervous system narrows. Your window of tolerance shrinks. Everything feels heavier. More urgent. Harder than it "should". Sam explains the difference between mental health and mental fitness and why small, repeatable daily practices build real capacity when you're overwhelmed. We cover: Why rest is productive What's happening in your nervous system during separation How to regulate before making big decisions Why journaling helps (and why you can throw the paper away) Simple tools beyond meditation Anchoring into your values when identity feels shaky The "Ta-Da List" for when you feel behind A powerful 3-minute reset Why gratitude might be the smallest habit that changes everything If you're functioning but exhausted this episode is for you. You can find MyndGym at: myndgym.life (Mind is spelled with a "y"). Host: Nikki Parkinson, TEDx Speaker, Divorce Doula, Coach and Founder of The Divorce and Separation Hub. The Divorce and Separation Hub Website The Divorce and Separation Hub Instagram The Divorce and Separation Hub Facebook The Divorce and Separation Hub Linkedin Join our Divorce and Separation community HERE. Watch Nikki's TEDx Talk HERE. Guest: Samantha Thomas, Founder of MyndGym. Meet Sam - She is a a life coach, certified youth mentor, and founder of MyndGym - a mental fitness gym with classes every day in journaling, coaching, meditation and breathwork. She believes that for people to be truly well, they need to prioritise and nurture the relationship they have with themselves and practice the little things that help their physical, mental and emotional wellbeing. MyndGym is her chance to help people exercise their mental fitness on a regular basis, so they can feel better and supported in their lives. myndgym.life Instagram @mynd.gym Instagram @samanthalthomas_ Loved This Episode? Support the podcast by subscribing, leaving a five-star review, and sharing it with someone who could use a little extra support right now. This episode is produced by Dan King of Dan King Productions. This episode is sposnored by Simple Separation, the smarter way to separate. Simple Separation is an online, fixed-fee service designed to help Australian couples finalise their divorce and separation respectfully, collaboratively, and without the stress of going to court. From property settlements and parenting plans to child support and divorce applications, everything you need is under one roof, saving you time, money, and unnecessary conflict. Book your free consultation today to find out if Simple Separation is right for your situation at simple-separation.com.au. Disclaimer I hope you enjoyed the podcast today. The information we discussed today was just that information only. It is not specific advice. If you take action following something you heard today, it is important to make sure you get professional advice about your unique situation before you proceed, whether that advice be legal, financial, accounting, medical or other advice. Please reach out to me if you have any questions or if there's another topic you'd like explored.