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THIS EPISODE HAS SOME TECHNICAL SOUND ISSUE THAT WE TRIED OUR BEST TO FIX. It will be resolved next week. As always, we appreciate yall for listening. Ever wondered why some of us chase people who keep us at arm’s length? We open with a candid story about dating inside a friend group and feeling invisible in public, then follow the thread back to childhood—where love felt conditional, criticism stung, and affection rarely landed. When your nervous system grows up on sharp edges, softness can feel like a trick. That’s how mean partners seem familiar, and elusive partners seem valuable. But scarcity isn’t a love language. We map the difference between mysterious and elusive: mystery has depth and patience; elusiveness is avoidance dressed up as allure. Breadcrumbing keeps you hungry and quiet—ask for clarity and the crumbs stop. That dynamic builds anxious attachment, inflates ego wars, and punishes vulnerability. One of us admits the hard truth: sometimes the pursuit is about entitlement and shaky self-worth. Rejection can collapse identity, so “winning” a reluctant partner feels like proof of worth. It’s not. It’s a loop. Along the way, we check in on fatherhood, career momentum, and a community gala that channels donations to students. A detour on car notes and predatory interest reveals the same lesson we apply to dating: stop glorifying the hard path. You don’t earn value by suffering. Healthy relationships look different—reciprocal effort, emotional accessibility, consistent care. We talk ego ties versus soul ties, the courage to share your inner life, and how to build intimacy reps so connection becomes natural instead of threatening. If you’re tired of hot-and-cold love, listen for the signs of breadcrumbing, the roots of attraction to “hard love,” and the habits that help you choose calm over chaos. Subscribe, leave a review, and share this with a friend who needs a nudge toward steady, healthy love. Then tell us: what’s one boundary you’re ready to keep? Join our Patreon Community Buy some merch and ebooks IG: @terryroseland & @amansperspective_

We trade the usual “have fun while you’re young” script for a sharper take on a man’s prime: use it to build skills, character, and a future you can love. From legwork over shortcuts to builders vs vibers, we press for purpose, influence, and timing. • defining two primes and why the second one matters more • setting boundaries and saying no when the plate is full • doing the legwork, avoiding shortcuts, earning skills • building influence through conduct, not clout • choosing legacy over toys and trends • dating with clarity: don’t stay out too late • the “are we building or vibing” question • nuanced takes on age gaps, readiness, and values • boy moms: be the parent, set direction Patreon time. This is what I was really waiting for. Oh god! Join our Patreon Community Buy some merch and ebooks IG: @terryroseland & @amansperspective_

We unpack why delaying decisions quietly drains time, money, and peace, and how clarity, courage, and iteration change everything. From leaving relationships cleanly to shipping MVPs, we share hard lessons, funny stories, and practical frameworks you can use today. • the cost of letting life choose for you • relationship standards, non‑negotiables, and capacity • how to leave without becoming the villain • stoicism, counsel, and legal strategy under heat • career pivots, promotions, school, and time as a resource • MVP mindset, AI coding tools, and iteration • hire slow, fire fast, and accountability in teams • designing environment for focus and momentum • what men value: peace, respect, and real help • teaching boys to decide early and own outcomes Roses Are Dead Patreon: $8 gets you 300 episodes and the full conversation, plus the questions we couldn’t fit here Rose Gold Gala: March 29, Lakeview, Chicago — donation‑based entry supporting The Village; “all of your ticket goes towards helping support the village and support these young men” JetQuest Offer: “Use promo code ‘roses are dead’ for $200 off” Join our Patreon Community Buy some merch and ebooks IG: @terryroseland & @amansperspective_

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We trace a messy dating triangle to a clean rule: compare partners to your needs, not to each other, then drill into how to vet for upbringing, conflict style, integrity and boundaries. Along the way we reflect on safety, systems that stick and why “no” reveals the truth. • knowing yourself before you date: boundaries, negotiables, beliefs • upbringing patterns and how family roles shape expectations • conflict green flags and red flags that actually matter • consistency and integrity when no one is watching • time respect, clear communication and the power of no • accountability over blame in past stories • building systems that compound wins across a year • speaking up for safety even when it kills the vibe • advice for boy moms on guiding better choices Decide, plan, sacrifice, shoot or shoot Join our Patreon Community Buy some merch and ebooks IG: @terryroseland & @amansperspective_

We press the case for saying “fuck the streets,” separate people from a destructive code, and lay out real alternatives that change outcomes. We close the year with a blueprint for men under 25: identity, solitude, money systems, and leadership that starts with tough conversations. • “F**k the streets” means rejecting a harmful mentality, not abandoning people • Survivorship bias in rap and street culture challenged • Who gets to decide what helps the community questioned • Information gap versus intelligence in youth explained • Trade schools, Pell Grants, and$80K outcomes highlighted • Streaming’s appeal and limits for young creators noted • Year-end reflections on intentionality over rote consistency • Faith, setbacks, and grace reframed as normal growth • Live alone first to build boundaries and peace • Discipline via routines, early mornings, and self-trust • Hard conversations as core leadership skill • Money system with separate accounts and HYSA outlined • Sales and communication as high-value, portable skills • Keep one passion unmonetized to protect joy • Mental health through therapy, journaling, and brotherhood • Lead conflict repair by crossing the gun line • Proactive child support to regain control and plan • Stay single under 25 to lock in goals Join our Patreon Community Buy some merch and ebooks IG: @terryroseland & @amansperspective_

We pull apart self-sabotage with honesty: why we protect ourselves from pain by shrinking our lives, and how discipline, vulnerability, and positive self-talk rebuild momentum. We cover coasting, perfectionism, money myths, cultural tone, and the moving goalpost that demands smarter habits. • early lessons that prime self-sabotage • procrastination, coasting and perfectionism as hidden traps • nervous system patterns that mistake chaos for love • vulnerability in career pivots and late starts • inflation, compounding and why breaks are costly • practical money frames and slow path to millionaire status • culture, accents and protecting Blackness without erasing self • audience-building by shipping imperfect work • positive self-talk as a daily performance tool • advice for boy moms on speaking life Subscribe on YouTube, leave a comment and rating, and join us at Rose Gold—pay what you want. “If you pay a thousand dollars, what do you get? Get to help some goddamn kids, man.” Join our Patreon Community Buy some merch and ebooks IG: @terryroseland & @amansperspective_

We trade nostalgia for hard questions, moving from house-party anthems to a candid look at ambition, moral compasses, and why respect for the work outlasts hype. Then we unpack the Diddy doc, boxing ethics between friends, IP lessons from a stolen idea, and why teens should learn to hustle, not clock in. • soft life vs adulting and shared responsibility • why intention beats talent and C’s stall growth • pride in work as a portable reputation • diddy documentary bias, complicity, and accountability • consent, moral compass, and culture’s blind spots • boxing ethics and why friends should never fight • boundaries, “trains,” and real-world risks • $8 plug and supporting independent creators • IP protection, NDAs, and internships’ fine print • high school entrepreneurship over hourly jobs • product vs service thinking for teen hustles 300 episodes of Roses I Did Patreon for $8. It’s up to you Join our Patreon Community Buy some merch and ebooks IG: @terryroseland & @amansperspective_

We bring back 21 Questions and open up about purpose as a daily practice, community without the performer’s mask, and the skills that turn love from a feeling into a craft. Along the way we get candid about fatherhood, boundaries, and what it takes to feel valued, not used. • Thanksgiving trip reflections and why people matter more than place • Community over celebrity and rejecting meet-and-greets • Purpose as practice and rebuilding self-belief • Discipline versus self-punishment and sustainable routines • Custody stress and rebuilding fatherhood with consistency • Anger as secondary to embarrassment, fear and disappointment • Compatibility versus commitment and why checklists miss the fit • Therapy lessons on communication and conflict resolution • Patterns we create and project in dating • Needed versus valued and the role of reciprocity • Independence inside partnership and keeping your circle • Rethinking love languages beyond what feels good • Joy and risk in love, and losing extended bonds • Teaching sons about integrity, discipline and vision • Modeling partnership as a daily, mutual choice Subscribe to the motherfucking YouTube. Make sure you scan this link right here to subscribe to the Patreon, to the Safe House. Here are the monologues. We got the shadow work group where we meet every other Saturday. Join our Patreon Community Buy some merch and ebooks IG: @terryroseland & @amansperspective_

We wrestle with cognitive dissonance, the quiet lies that let us call ourselves good while doing harm. We push into faith, accountability, fatherhood, influence, forgiveness, and how to raise boys who can carry a heavy world • slavery analogy used to explain cheating and self-deception • clear definition of cognitive dissonance and why it sticks • gratitude practice and faith after the blessing arrives • Chicago pride and media narratives balanced with responsibility • influence of circles and the ripple effect of one choice • voicemail on caring for an estranged, ill father and conscience-led action • forgiveness with boundaries and peace you can live with • masculinity myths, validation from men, and truth about “player” stress • losing good partners, therapy, and better communication • boy moms preparing sons through standards, discipline, and competence • happiness as a decision anchored in service and growth Keep God first, man. Keep God first. Join our Patreon Community Buy some merch and ebooks IG: @terryroseland & @amansperspective_

We unpack how to protect kids without excusing bad behavior, tracing a path from strict 90s upbringing to modern overcorrection and the cost of both. Along the way, we talk gratitude, purpose, teacher bias, fair consequences, and the realities of co‑parenting. • drawing the line between advocacy and enabling  • gratitude as fuel for better parenting  • the village relaunch and mentorship for 12–19s  • teacher bias, targeting and fair classroom rules  • daily resets versus reputation policing  • origins of harsh parenting and inherited fear  • practical due diligence with schools and staff  • co‑parenting boundaries and letting fathers father Make sure y’all call in. 773-340-1509  If y’all haven’t subscribed to our YouTube, subscribe to a nigga channel, man  Scan the link to the Patreon, it should be right here on your screen  Join the safe house group for shadow work, prompts, and meetups  Chicago: The Village meets every other Sunday, 2–5 pm, 99th and Halsted Join our Patreon Community Buy some merch and ebooks IG: @terryroseland & @amansperspective_

We break down how delaying gratification builds real wealth, not just a better-looking life. Nate Randall joins us to talk real estate, networking across, and investing in people, while we share practical tactics for money, relationships, and raising boys with standards. • saving on a teaching salary and buying the first building • why delaying gratification never ends • wealth versus things and status • networking across to create future lifts • leading with value to earn mentorship • FHA strategy for couples before marriage • reinvesting rental income and using trusts • lifestyle autonomy over labels and cars • working with dad in real estate with balance • parenting boys with structure and clarity • leaving room for failure while building skills Subscribe to the YouTube. Subscribe to the Patreon. Leave us a voicemail at 773-340-1509. Leave a review on Apple and Spotify Join our Patreon Community Buy some merch and ebooks IG: @terryroseland & @amansperspective_

We examine how a two-parent upbringing shapes our idea of normal love, confront the “highlight reel” trap, and make the case for coexistence, self-leadership, and seasons. A new job win, style and posture tips, and an AMP segment on why men often win later round it out. • growing up with married parents shaping expectations • social media highlights distorting healthy relationship norms • conflict resolution without chaos • leadership as self-discipline and example • rejecting happy wife happy life in favor of shared wellbeing • coexistence over constant entertainment and boredom traps • seasons of money and setting a realistic floor • men’s late wins and the value of losses • style, posture, and presence boosting a man’s look • boy moms teaching positive self-talk Join our Patreon Community Buy some merch and ebooks IG: @terryroseland & @amansperspective_

We unpack how “exclusive vibes without an agreement” let one person enjoy access while dodging the work of commitment, and we share a clear script and decision tree to end mixed signals. We draw firm lines on boundaries, couple privileges, and the difference between romance performance and real accountability. • ambiguity as a tactic to avoid labels and responsibility • exclusive routines without a clear agreement • obligation versus fun and why labels feel risky • practical boundaries on sleepovers, access and trips • the “man dance” of performed intimacy without substance • holiday pressure, social jealousy and non-breakups • a direct script to define exclusivity and terms • if it’s not yes, it’s no as a rule • choosing a clean break over dating while attached • self-audit on what accountability you are dodging Get in the comments and tell us why you move how you move Join our Patreon Community Buy some merch and ebooks IG: @terryroseland & @amansperspective_

Two hosts trace a line from childhood confrontations to adult courage, unpacking how fear multiplies when we avoid hard choices and how truth ends the loop. We answer a listener facing grief, money strain, and trust wounds, then map courage across love, work, and parenting. • stories of being pressed and how fear lingers • the quote that frames courage vs avoidance • cheating, faux bro code, and real brotherhood • listener question on space, grief, money, and past infidelity • negotiation, self-worth, and career in tech • dating confidence that spills into networking • speaking up vs suffering in silence • logic over heat in hard talks • boy moms: prepare, don’t overprotect If you’re chasing anything in life, make sure you give it y’all man: decide, plan, sacrifice. Shoot a shoot we out Join our Patreon Community Buy some merch and ebooks IG: @terryroseland & @amansperspective_