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Grief is not exclusive to death. Guest Shameka Williams, founder of Those Without Mothers, and From Grief to Love, shares her journey with grief and the lessons she learned, including: Giving yourself permission to grieveHow grief, loss, transition intertwineWhat can happen if we don't process our griefThe difference between processing feelings and stewing in themHow grief is like a weed To learn more about Shameka, visit www.thosewithoutmothers.com, or find her on Instagram @shamekaspeaks, @thosewithoutmothers, @thebipolarpodcast, and @fromgriefwithlove. About Your Host, Carmelita / Cat / Millie Tiu Mom, spouse, coach, podcaster, wordsmith, legal eagle.  Endlessly curious about how we can show up better for ourselves – because when we do that, we also show up better for our kids and those around us.  Visit carmelitatiu.com to learn more about Cat, and for info on 1:1 coaching, the mom collective, and her monthly newsletter. Know Them, Be Them, Raise Them Love staying informed and inspired? Subscribe here: Apple, Spotify, Google. And leave a 5-star review by clicking here - you’ll forever have good karma and my gratitude! For more doses of information and inspiration: follow on Instagram @knowberaisethemsign up for our monthly newslettervisit knowberaisethem.comvisit carmelitatiu.com to set up a complimentary consult/clarity chat with me!

Kids and technology use – we’ve all asked ourselves, how much screen time should kids have?  Am I giving my kids too much?  When should they get cell phones? The list goes on. Today's guest, Dr. Katie Davis, is an Associate Professor at the University of Washington (UW) and Director of the UW Digital Youth Lab. For nearly twenty years, Dr. Davis has been researching the impact of digital technologies on young people’s learning, development, and well-being.  She is the author of three books, including Technology’s Child: Digital Media’s Role in the Ages and Stages of Growing Up (March 2023). Tune in to hear: Why asking "Is screen time is good or bad?" isn't the right questionHer two-step tool to supporting healthy tech experiencesWhat self-directed tech experiences are - what to look for and what to avoidA quick reframe that'll ease your mind about your tween or teen's tech timeHow we can all be a Good Enough Digital Parent It's 25 minutes you'll be glad you listened to! To connect with Katie: Website: https://katiedavisresearch.com/Instagram: @katiebdaX (Twitter): @katiebda  LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/kedavis12/ Sign up for the Technology’s Child newsletter at https://katiedavisresearch.com/ Episode ResourcesTechnology’s Child: Digital Media’s Role in the Ages and Stages of Growing Up, by Katie Davis About Your Host, Carmelita / Cat / Millie Tiu Mom, spouse, coach, podcaster, wordsmith, legal eagle.  Endlessly curious about how we can show up better for ourselves – because when we do that, we also show up better for those around us.  Visit carmelitatiu.com to learn more about Cat, and for info on 1:1 coaching, the mom collective, and her monthly newsletter. Know Them, Be Them, Raise Them Love staying informed and inspired? Subscribe here: Apple, Spotify, Google.  Leave a 5-star review on Apple Podcasts or Spotify -- you’ll help others find the show, and forever have good karma and my gratitude! For more: follow on Instagram @knowberaisethemsign up for our monthly newslettervisit knowberaisethem.com

Remember getting your first period? Did you feel self conscious, confused, out-of-sorts…just like a lot of body changes around that time? It’s time to flip puberty positive!  In this episode, Konika Ray Wong chats with host Carmelita (Cat) Tiu about puberty, all the awkwardness that comes with it, and how to help our daughters change the scripts around puberty and feel empowered as they navigate the transformation that happens throughout their tweens and teens, even into their 20’s. Listen to hear: Swaps to flip puberty positiveThe importance of separating puberty from sexual maturityHow puberty is a privilegeWhy normalizing change is importantAnd more! Guest bio: Konika Ray Wong is a science teacher and mom on a mission to flip puberty positive. She founded GPS with her daughter during the pandemic when it was obvious the world needed more girl power and science education!  For over two decades, Konika has been a kindergarten through sixth grade science educator. She has a Masters in Education and California teaching credential from the University of San Francisco and a Bachelor of Science in Biology from Virginia Polytechnic University. A Common Sense Media certified educator who also attended the Institute for Social and Emotional Learning, she is passionate about body literacy, destigmatizing puberty, and building communities of empowered learners that confidently celebrate growth. She recently published her first children’s book, "One in a Million - A First Book About Periods". Imagine a world where every little girl felt strong and confident in her body and every child with a uterus celebrated their superpowers. This empowering book, a guided story for kids ages four and up to read with a grownup, is the first step in that direction. In "One in a Million," children meet a cute uterus character that takes them on a journey that demystifies the process of ovulation and the menstrual cycle. The kid-friendly characters and simple scientifically accurate text set a positive tone about periods without shame or stigma. Connect with Konika: Website: www.girlpowerscience.comInstagram: @girlpowerscienceBuy her book, "One in a Million - A First Book About Periods" on Amazon About Your Host, Carmelita / Cat / Millie Tiu Mom, spouse, coach, podcaster, wordsmith, legal eagle.  Endlessly curious about how we can show up better for ourselves – because when we do that, we also show up better for our kids and those around us.  Visit carmelitatiu.com to learn more about Cat, and for info on 1:1 coaching, the mom collective, and her monthly newsletter. Know Them, Be Them, Raise Them Love staying informed and inspired? Subscribe here: Apple, Spotify, Google.  Leave a 5-star review by clicking here.  You’ll forever have good karma and my gratitude! For more doses of information and inspiration: follow the podcast ona...

Do you love learning about how our brains work, and what makes us tick?  Do you wonder what positive psychology is, and whether you’ve got a positive attitude or toxic positivity?  Me too! In Ep. 55, host Carmelita Tiu chats with Jen Rafferty - an educator, speaker, and founder of The Empowered Educator - about brains, positive psychology, toxic positivity, the importance of feeling our emotions, and so much more. Tune in to learn about: What positive psychology is, on a high levelThe difference between positive psychology and toxic positivityGratitude bypasses, aka positivity bypasses Why people fall back into patterns and habits that aren’t good for themAnd more pithy neuroscience goodness! Connect with Jen Rafferty: Website: https://www.empowerededucator.comInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/jenrafferty_FB Group: https://www.facebook.com/theempowerededucator/Podcast:  Take Notes with Jen Rafferty About Your Host, Carmelita / Cat / Millie Tiu Mom, spouse, coach, podcaster, wordsmith, legal eagle.  Endlessly curious about how we can show up better for ourselves – because when we do that, we also show up better for our kids and those around us.   Know Them, Be Them, Raise Them Love staying informed and inspired? Subscribe here: Apple, Spotify, Google.  Leave a 5-star review by clicking here, tap the white rectangle that says “Listen on Apple Podcasts”, scroll down till you see Ratings & Reviews, then tap 5 stars or  “Write a Review”.  You’ll forever have good karma and my gratitude! For more doses of information and inspiration: follow on Instagram @knowberaisethemsign up for our monthly newslettervisit knowberaisethem.comVisit carmelitatiu.com to set up a complimentary consult/clarity chat with me! Interested in becoming a founding member of the Rise & Raise Collective?  Send me an email:  https://www.knowberaisethem.com/contact/ and I’ll send you all the details!

What do you do if your daughter shares that she’s been sexually assaulted?  Do you know how you would react?  Do you know if your reaction would truly help or hinder your child? In this powerful episode, Claire Horner and Dr. SaDohl Jones of RESET: Trauma Unstuck, share their thoughts on prevention, response, and support.  Listen to hear: What we can do create a safe space for our kids to shareThings that can undermine our efforts to create open communicationHow to respond in the moment, in a way that supports your childWords to use as you and they process the events, the retelling and the journey of healingIf, when, or how to share their experiences with othersFoundational things parents can do to help our kids be less of a target Guest Spotlight: Claire Horner and Dr. SaDohl Jones of RESET:  Trauma UnstuckClaire and Dr. SaDohl (suh-doll), are two sexual trauma specialists in Atlanta, Georgia.  To heal their own trauma while helping others do the same, they have dedicated their professional and personal lives to healing. They have over 39 years of combined sexual trauma recovery experience, both in the therapist chair and on the couch as clients.   Their channel and business is called “RESET: Trauma Unstuck” and they launched “The FOF or Freak Out FREE Podcast on Valentines Day where they match survivors, helpers, and allies with resources for sexual trauma healing to increase confidence and handle life…The Freak Out Free Way.” Connect with RESET Trauma Unstuck, Dr. Sadohl and Claire: Email: [email protected] Instagram: @resettraumaunstuck Tiktok: @resettraumaunstuck  And check out The F O F Podcast – you’ll find expert resources for sexual trauma healing to increase your confidence and handle life…The Freak Out FREE Way.  https://www.podpage.com/freak-out-free-with-claire-dr-sadohl/ Episode ResourcesSaprea is an organization that provides FREE retreats to survivors AND educational materials to parents/educators.  Saprea exists to liberate individuals and society from child sexual abuse and its lasting impacts.Dr. Sadohl and Claire did a wonderful episode with Chris Yadon of Saprea.  Listen to the episode here on Spotify, Podpage, or Anchor. Ep. 53 - Sexual Assault: Creating a Dialogue & 7 Things to Tell Our Daughters Know Them, Be Them, Raise ThemSubscribe here: Apple, Spotify, Google. For more doses of information and...

(Ep. 34 Encore -- because this topic is THAT IMPORTANT). April is sexual assault awareness month -- a reminder to acknowledge and support survivors, advocate for further awareness, and educate ourselves and our kids. While we know what sexual assault is on some visceral level, I wanted to do a quick episode that spells out what body boundaries, sexual assault, and consent are - and how to talk about these things without instilling fear or anxiety. Also, 7 phrases that our daughters need to hear, to help open up the space for safe conversations about sexual assualt. Listen to hear: The definition of sexual assault and consentHow to bring up this topic with your daughters, including using current events and pop culture to help facilitate conversations7 things to tell your daughters for more open communication, and help them feel aware about sexual assault and empowered by the love and safety you provide Other episodes to check out: RAINN.org24/7 Free Support Hotline - 800-656-HOPE (4673) Know Them, Be Them, Raise Them Subscribe here: Apple, Spotify, Google. And if you got something out of the podcast, I'd love it if you could leave a 5* review! For more doses of information and inspiration:follow on Instagram sign up for our monthly newslettervisit www.knowberaisethem.com About Your Host, Carmelita / Cat / Millie Tiu https://www.carmelitatiu.com Mom, spouse, coach, podcaster, wordsmith, legal eagle.  Endlessly curious about how we can show up better for ourselves – because when we do that, we also show up better for our kids and those around us.  Moms -- Are you looking for direction after a life change? Do you feel like you're reacting to life instead of defining it? Do you sense you're made for something more? Head to carmelitatiu.com to learn more about Cat, her 1:1 coaching, the mom collective, and her newsletter. Schedule a free 30 minute complimentary coaching consult to see if a coach/life strategist is right for you!

Val Monroe, former beauty editor for O, The Oprah Magazine and writer of the popular Substack newsletter How Not to F*ck Up Your Face, and Body Relationship Coach Debbie Saroufim, chat with host Carmelita Tiu about how to navigate beauty culture. We cover: The importance of diversifying what you see and media literacyThe myth of “figuring it out” and having it all togetherNormalizing making informed choicesSocial media - the good, the bad, and how much time Debbie spends on it ;)The duality of our emotions - you can feel dislike something and that doesn't mean it needs changeAwesome parting thought from Val about what real beauty is To learn more about Debbie Saroufim, visit www.bodyrelationship.com , and follow her on Instagram @bodyrelationship_coach.  And check out her Parents Guide, for what NOT to say to your kids if you want them to have a health relationship with their bodies. Want to feel happier about your appearance—especially as you age—you might like reading more about what Val has to say about it. Subscribe for free to How Not to F*ck Up Your Face at valeriemonroe.substack.com. About Your Host, Carmelita / Cat / Millie Tiu Mom, spouse, coach, podcaster, wordsmith, legal eagle.  Endlessly curious about how we can show up better for ourselves – because when we do that, we also show up better for our kids and those around us.  Visit carmelitatiu.com to learn more about Cat, and for info on 1:1 coaching, the mom collective, and her monthly newsletter. Know Them, Be Them, Raise Them Love staying informed and inspired? Subscribe here: Apple, Spotify, Google.  Leave a 5-star review by clicking here, tap the white rectangle that says “Listen on Apple Podcasts”, scroll down till you see Ratings & Reviews, then tap 5 stars or  “Write a Review”.  You’ll forever have good karma and my gratitude! For more doses of information and inspiration: follow on Instagram @knowberaisethemsign up for our monthly newslettervisit knowberaisethem.com ***Are you a dreamer, a bucket-list maker, a multi-hyphenate -- and a mom who's passionate about parenting with intention? If you're ready to step up and lead a legacy-worthy life, then coaching with me may be right for you. I offer 1:1 coaching packages, and in

What is equality? What is equity? What is gender equity? How can we embrace all of these? In this episode of Know Them, Be Them, Raise Them, Annie Warshaw, co-founder of Mission Propelle and a gender justice professor at Roosevelt University, unpacks gender equity in her chat with host Carmelita Tiu.   In this episode, Annie: Answers the question, "What is gender equity?" Explains how we can be aware of gender equity and encourage it Tells us the 3 things that will make her feel like she’s raised her sons successfully Helps us reframe our beliefs about old-school etiquette so we can foster more equitable gender rolesTalks about the importance of having a list of shared family values To learn more about Annie Warshaw and her work: for equity consulting and coaching, visit missionpropelle.com, or follow @mission_propelle on Instagramfor information about Youth Alliance Yoga, go to youthallianceyoga.com Other references: International Women's Day Know Them, Be Them, Raise Them Follow here: Apple, Spotify, Google -- and leave a review! New episodes drop every Tuesday (and sometimes in between).  For more doses of information and inspiration:  follow @knowberaisethem on Instagram  Like the podcast on Facebook sign up for our monthly newsletter visit knowberaisethem.com for all things about this podcast, and visit carmelitatiu.com to learn more about how you can connect 1:1 with Cat or join a community of other mindful, growth-oriented moms of girls.

Resilience – we know we all want our kids to have it. But what is it really, and how do we foster it in our kids? In this episode of Know Them, Be Them, Raise Them, Host Carmelita Tiu chats with Dr. Kate Lund, Psy.D., author of Bounce: Help Your Child Build Resilience and Thrive in School, Sports, and Life.  Dr. Kate shares her unique viewpoint on how to help our tweens and teens build resilience and provides various strategies for how we can equip our kids to thrive, through all of life’s ups and downs. Listen to hear Dr. Kate share: How to define resilienceWhat really listening to our kids looks likeTips on sharing struggles and normalizing challengeWhy to focus on the process as opposed to the outcomeHow we’re wired to have negative thoughts, and how we can respond as parents   About this week’s guest Kate struggled as a child with a medical condition called Hydrocephalus which made some of the typical activities of childhood challenging. Her parents' unwavering belief in their child built an inner resilience that led to a successful career and life despite her challenges. She worked as a radio reporter while in college interviewing some notable figures such as Barbara Bush and Ivan Lendl the number one tennis player in the world at the time. She was also a White House intern for President Bill Clinton. As a licensed, clinical psychologist, she has worked with major hospitals, schools, and hundreds of parents. Her international bestselling book Bounce: Help Your Child Build Resilience and Thrive in School, Sports, and Life is the ultimate guide to helping children build resilience and thrive in all areas of life. Kate’s mission is to help parents bring out the best in their kids to create the leaders of our future. She’s also launched a new podcast called “The Optimized Mind” - reflecting on what we need to think about in terms of being at our best.  In This Episode: The Optimized Mind PodcastConnect with Dr. Kate Lund on LinkedInCheck out her course, The Seven Pillars of the Resilient Child   About Your Host, Carmelita / Cat / Millie Tiu Mom, spouse, coach, podcaster, wordsmith, legal eagle.  Endlessly curious about how we can show up better for ourselves – because when we do that, we also show up better for our kids and those around us.  Visit carmelitatiu.com to learn more about Cat, and for info on 1:1 coaching, the mom collective, and her monthly newsletter. Know Them, Be Them, Raise Them Love staying informed and inspired? Subscribe here: Apple, Spotify, Google and leave a 5-star review -- I'd be forever grateful! For more doses of information and inspiration: follow on Instagram a...

Body Image is an important topic to me because our relationship with our bodies and our body image is complex, especially for women and girls, and it lasts a lifetime. The societal challenges to healthy body image don’t stop…and just like any relationship, having a healthy relationship with our bodies typically requires ongoing attention.   My guest today, Pam Luk, is intimately familiar with how the world can make you feel uncomfortable in your skin, and what we can do about it. She’s passionate about body diversity and empowering kids to have a healthy body image. Listen to hear: Why Pam started Ember & AceThe importance of clothes and activewear that fits plus sized kidsHow to talk with kids when they're struggling with their bodiesWhat to add to your social media feedsHow we sabotage our efforts to get our kids to believe that all bodies are good bodiesMedia literacy and how to navigate messaging About Our Guest, Pam Luk Pam Luk is the founder of Ember & Ace, an athletic wear brand for plus size kids. Growing up playing sports, Pam learned firsthand the importance of finding active wear that fits. Not finding it is one of the main reasons kids quit sports. Ember & Ace launched their first five-piece essentials collection on February 2nd 2023. Visit emberandace.com to learn more. To learn more about Pam and her work, connect with her here: Website: www.emberandace.comInstagram: @emberandaceLinkedin:  https://www.linkedin.com/company/emberandace References in this Episode:Debbie Saroufim - Ep 37 / Defying Diet Culture and Ep 38 / Tough Truths & TipsEmily Lauren Dick - Ep 24 / Body Positivity & Fat Phobia About Your Host, Carmelita / Cat / Millie Tiu Mom, spouse, coach, podcaster, wordsmith, legal eagle.  Endlessly curious about how we can show up better for ourselves – because when we do that, we also show up better for our kids and those around us.  Visit carmelitatiu.com to learn more about Cat, and for info on 1:1 coaching, the mom collective, and her monthly newsletter. Know Them, Be Them, Raise Them Love staying informed and inspired? Subscribe here: Apple, Spotify, Google.  Leave a 5-star review by clicking here, tap the white rectangle that says “Listen on Apple Podcasts”, scroll down till you see Ratings & Reviews, then tap 5 stars or  “Write a Review”.  You’ll forever have...

Have you ever stopped to question the version of success that you may be pushing your kid to achieve?  Do you wonder if you’re over-involved in your tween or teen’s life, or not enough? Do you want your kids to get straight As and secretly get a thrill if they say “I think I want to go Stanford or Harvard or Yale”? And then you kind of feel anxious about the pressure and what that means for them? As parents, we all have an internal compass that guides us as we raise our kids.  And it today's competitive world, it's more important than ever for parents to raise their kids with intentionality and grace. Today’s guest, Cindy Muchnick, co-wrote the book, The Parent Compass: Navigating Your Teen’s Wellness and Academic Journey in Today’s Competitive World to help us navigate questions like this, and help us calibrate our parent compasses towards our kids’ wellbeing. Listen to hear: The downsides of over-involved parentingWhen and how to nurture self-advocacy in your tweens and teensA tip for teen self-advocacy that Cindy’s never shared before!The ask that can forge new connections with your tween and teensWhat parents need to do before looking at how they're raising their kids And more nuggets of wisdom! About Our Guest, Cynthia Muchnick Cindy, a graduate of Stanford University, is an expert in the college admission process: she got her start in admission offices before opening a private study skills and college counseling business in Southern California, which she ran for over fifteen years. As an Assistant Director of Admission for the Illinois Institute of Technology and the University of Chicago, she screened and reviewed over three thousand applications, interviewed prospective students, and served on the admission committee to evaluate borderline applicants and appeals cases. Then, as a private counselor, she helped hundreds of high school students navigate their academic journeys, including course selection, study skills, time management, and college applications. Since closing her private educational practice in 2011, Cindy has focused on public speaking to student, parent, school and business groups on a variety of education-related topics. Over the course of her career, Cindy has written numerous books; The Parent Compass: Navigating Your Teen’s Wellness and Academic Journey in Today’s Competitive World (Familius/Workman/Hachette, 2020) is her tenth. Her other titles include The Best College Admission Essays (co-author, ARCO/Peterson’s, 1997), The Everything Guide to Study Skills: Strategies, Tips, and Tools You Need to Succeed in School (Simon& Schuster, 2011), Straight-A Study Skills (co-author, Simon& Schuster, 2012), The Everything College Checklist Book (Simon& Schuster, 2013), Writing Successful College Applications: It’s More than Just the Essay (Peterson’s Publishing, 2014), and four other books (Simon & Schuster and Penguin Random House). Her essays have appeared on Zibby Owens’ Moms Don’t Have Time To Write Medium platform, Your Teen Magazine, College Confidential, Raising Teens Today, The Los Angeles Times, and The Mom Experience, among others.  Cindy holds a bachelor’s degree in Political Science and Art History from Stanford University and a master’s degree in Liberal Studies from Nova Southeastern University. Some of the other twists and turns in her multifaceted career include her stints as a campus tour guide and volunteer student coordinator for Stanford’s Office of Undergraduate Admission and a tenth-grade history teacher at The University School, in Ft. Lauderdale, FL. She is a professional speaker and panelist on the subjects of education, study skills, parenting, and mental...

We’re still early in 2023 and if you’re like me, you’re still jazzed about goals, intentions, resolutions, etc.  Julie DeLucca-Collins joins host Carmelita Tiu to talk about the power of tiny habits, and how small habits can build into big results. Listen to hear: How motivation doesn’t work when creating habits, and what doesThe recipe for creating tiny habits that stickThe importance of celebrating even the small wins About Our Guest Julie DeLucca-Collins is the Founder and CEO of Go Confidently Services, the host of the popular Casa DeConfidence Podcast®, and her weekly Radio Show Confident You featured on a global talk radio network.   As a Business and Life Strategist Coach, Julie helps women business owners launch or grow their businesses, get clients, be productive, and achieve their dreams. Julie helps her clients create simple habits to achieve goals and change their lives.  Julie is a sought-after public speaker, author, trainer, and course creator. She is certified as a coach in Cognitive Behavioral Techniques, Holistic Coach, and Tiny Habits. She is also certified as a Social Emotional Learning Facilitator and has completed her 200-hour Yoga Teacher Certification. Julie enjoys helping her clients build mental fitness and improve their mindset to be at peace and improve peak performance. Julie is also the #1 best-selling author of the book Confident You (simple habits to live the life you've imagined).  Julie has been honored with the "25 Most Powerful Minority Women in Business Award." by the Minority Enterprise Executive Council in Washington, DC. Julie and her Podcast co-host/producer husband Dan reside in Vernon, CT, with their fur babies, Yogi Bear, Junior, and Simba. To learn more about Julie and her work, connect with her here: InstagramLinkedInFacebookPinterestTikTok References in this Episode: Tiny Habits AcademyTiny Habits - The Small Changes That Change Everything, by B.J. Fogg About Your Host, Carmelita / Cat / Millie Tiu Mom, spouse, coach, podcaster, wordsmith, legal eagle.  Endlessly curious about how we can show up better for ourselves – because when we do that, we also show up better for our kids and those around us.  Visit carmelitatiu.com to learn more about Cat, and for info on 1:1 coaching, the mom collective, and her monthly newsletter. Know Them, Be Them, Raise Them Love staying informed and inspired? Subscribe here: Apple, Spotify, Google.  Leave a 5-star review by...