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Highlights for this episode: In this episode, I bring on dating coach Laurie Gerber to coach me in real time—so you can hear exactly how a pro would tune up your dating life, too.  Laurie and I talk about my 104/100 score on her “Are You Ready to Date Like You Mean It?” quiz, my 7 deal-makers, and why I’ve been attracting the wrong attachment styles for years. We discuss approaches to vetting on dating apps—my faster-paced, phone-call filter versus her methodical, text-and-video-chat approach.  In this episode, you’ll learn: Laurie’s 3 stages of dating over 50 and obstacles that often keep people stuck in “not quite ready” mode. Why you may be attracting the same attachment styles that help to explain why you keep attracting the same kind of partner—and what to do about it. Discussion of Deal Makers/Breakers to keep them positive and inspiring rather than secretly negative and judgmental. A practical framework (Head–Heart–Hoo-ha) for assessing compatibility in midlife dating. Laurie and Paul debate how quickly you should get to the phone call. Why moving too fast to the phone can cost you potential matches—and why Laurie prefers video chats.About Laurie Gerber Laurie Gerber is the founder of Laurie Gerber Coaching, Inc. and the creator of Master the Art of Love, an online course for women over 50 who are ready to date like they mean it. She hosts the podcast Love at Any Age, and for over 20 years, she’s coached thousands of people in life and love, previously as President of the Life Coaching division at Handel Group®. Her work has been featured on the Today Show, Dr. Phil, MTV, A&E, Match, Zoosk, JDate, AARP, and her own Blog. Check out her TEDx talk on the power of truth-telling called “The Secret-Free Diet” Listen to Love at Any Age on YouTube, Spotify, or Podbean, and grab her free webinar “3 Secrets to Finding and Maintaining Healthy Love without Repeated Disappointments” at https://www.lauriegerber.com/webinar Connect with Laurie: Website: https://lauriegerber.com YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@lauriegerbercoach Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/lauriegerber_coach/ About The Midlife Dating Podcast / 50 Dates at 50 Paul Nelson is the host of the Midlife Dating Podcast and creator of the 50 Dates at 50 website. Helping Gen X and Baby Boomer singles learn to date smart, enjoy the process, and move from right swipe to real-life meetups with frameworks like the 3-1-1 Rule and Right Swipe Discipline. Watch the video version of this conversation on YouTube: https://youtu.be/IMf4y3FGlUwLearn more and grab resources at 50 Dates at 50 – https://50datesat50.com/Questions, Comments, or Podcast Topic Suggestions: [email protected]

Highlights for this episode: Paul reviews the first five or over 30 Common Sense Dating Guidelines for the Gen X and Baby Boomer generations. The guidelines coalesce around the limited dating options these generations had in their youth compared to what is available today. Combining our life experiences with new dating tools, such as online dating, allows us to avoid the same embarrassing slip-ups we made in our youth.  Guidelines in this Episode: Thou Shalt Not Fish Off The Company PierThou Shalt Not Fish At Thy House of WorshipThou Shalt Not Flirt With A Friend’s PartnerThou Shalt Not Date A Friend’s ExThou Shalt Not Date A Friend’s SiblingEpisode Links: Questions, Comments, or Podcast Topic Suggestions: [email protected] 50 Dates at 50 Website: https://50datesat50.com/

Highlights for this episode: Part 2 of Paul’s Holiday Dating-Themed Movie reviews for those Gen X and Baby Boomers who are solo this holiday season. Love at the Christmas Table A destined couple’s trip through time starts at age 4 in the 80s, and at age 4, they meet each year at an annual Christmas gathering. https://youtu.be/4jkprYTRaRU?si=mHIfyHZTgZ5_F2wt Lifetime Channel 2012 Spirited Entertainment – Good Story, Musical, Quality Production Value, For fun to get your mind off how dating can be difficult during the holidays Spirited — Official Trailer | Apple TV+ https://youtu.be/tnAJntI3NNs?si=Dkz4L13LVE4zovSr Spirited — “Bringin' Back Christmas” Lyric Video | Apple TV+ https://youtu.be/_lOU_HN5bY4?si=Q2WRd8AHCUNP3jao From Apple TV+  2022 Episode Links: Questions, Comments, or Podcast Topic Suggestions: [email protected] 50 Dates at 50 Website: https://50datesat50.com/ 

Highlights for this episode: Paul reviews holiday dating-themed movies for those Gen X and Baby Boomers who are solo this holiday season. There are a total of four picks. Two picks in this Part 1 Episode and two more in Part 2. Paul points out the common theme in these movies that is missing in online dating and why we should apply them all year. The Holidate –  After Christmas, a pair of frustrated singles cross paths in the gift return line and agree to be each other’s platonic plus one on holidays throughout the year to relieve the pressure from being single from friends and family.Netflix 2020 Official Trailer: https://youtu.be/hxaaAoI57fk?si=sMuo_3b89ogeDJFYImportant Note: This is not a family-friendly movie. It is best not to have children around when you watch this one or be prepared to explain some awkward situations. The 12 Dates of Christmas – Woman gets 12 chances to get a blind date right in this Christmas version of Groundhog DayABC Family 2011 (Not to be confused with the HBO Max series)Official Trailer: https://youtu.be/JAyOZru4PTYKate and Miles Meet as Strangers: https://youtu.be/AfNBr0w74uE?si=6KUMq921dubOpBhW  Episode Links: Questions, Comments, or Podcast Topic Suggestions: [email protected] 50 Dates at 50 Website: https://50datesat50.com/

Quick Update: After being on hiatus for a little over a year for a variety of reasons, we're back. There will be new content starting late August of 2024.

Highlights for this Episode: The Glossary term is: Orbiting, where someone keeps popping up on your social media radar, waiting to make a move for a date. In the Retro/Etiquette Segment – We listen in on how the US Navy demonstrates to their officers the right and wrong way to handle a Dinner Invitation. From Blondes Prefer Gentlemen. 1965 US Navy Instructional Film. Paul reviews the book: Dating Essentials for Men by Dr. Robert Glover. Highpoints include recognizing the Bad Dater Cycle, Understanding the Relationship Pyramid, where you learn to identify the correct type of person to date. And the significance of being a good ender and effectively ending relationships if they are the wrong type. Episode Links: Questions, Comments, or Podcast Topic Suggestions: [email protected] 50 Dates at 50 Website: https://50datesat50.com/ Dating Essentials for Men: The Only Dating Guide You Will Ever Need by Dr. Robert Glover   Amazon Link: https://www.amazon.com/Dating-Essentials-Men-Only-Guide/dp/B09C3FQ948/ref=tmm_pap_swatch_0?_encoding=UTF8&qid=1611579163&sr=8-2

Highlights for this episode: The Glossary term is: The Maybe Date In the Potpourri Segment, Paul offers listeners an excellent refresher on the highly effective 3-1-1 Rule. This straightforward and efficient three-step process not only helps you filter out the flakes and texting buddies but also saves you precious time, enabling you to swiftly move off the dating apps to a meet up date with someone who truly interests you. Paul reviews the movie About Time. A heartwarming romantic comedy that will leave you feeling uplifted and inspired. With its poignant messages about the importance of cherishing every moment and what can happen when you get a do-over chance to approach dating situations with confidence. In the Retro/Etiquette Segment – We listen in on how the US Navy recommends their officers conduct themselves with their dates at a dance or party. From How to Succeed with Brunettes. 1967 US Navy Instructional Film. Episode Links: About Time Official Movie Trailer: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=7OIFdWk83no Questions, Comments, or Podcast Topic Suggestions: [email protected] 50 Dates at 50 Website: https://50datesat50.com/

Highlights for this episode: The Glossary term is: Serendipidating  In the Retro/Etiquette Segment: We listen in on how the US Navy recommends their officers conduct themselves with their dates in a small gathering. From How to Succeed with Brunettes. 1967 US Navy Instructional Film.  Paul reviews the book: Find a Husband After 35 Using What I Learned at Harvard Business School by Rachel Greenwald, published in 2004. She has a 15-step, easily executable plan of action to market yourself to find better quality, datable, relationship-intentioned men. While written for women, men can easily apply most of Rachel’s advice.  Episode Links: Questions, Comments, or Podcast Topic Suggestions: [email protected]  50 Dates at 50 Website: https://50datesat50.com/  Find a Husband After 35 Using What I Learned at Harvard Business School by Rachel Greenwald. Amazon Link: https://www.amazon.com/Find-Husband-After-35-Business/dp/0345466268/ref=tmm_pap_swatch_0?_encoding=UTF8&qid=1680099504&sr=8-1

Highlights for this episode: The Glossary term for this episode is: Ghostbusting. Paul reviews the movie Big Stone Gap, released in 2014. This movie looks into dating and romance in the late 1970s. It demonstrates the typical outcome of what can easily happen when men try to use logic to pursue romance. In the Retro Segment, How to Succeed with Brunettes. 1967 US Navy Instructional Film guides men on approaching a movie date. In the Potpourri Segment, Dating Truths Part 6. Emerging Truths from repeating patterns that Paul identified when he started dating again in his early 50s. Today he reviews Truths 25-30, including the confusion between Chemistry and Infatuation, Fast and Furious Dating, and why One and Done dates will be your most common experience. Episode Links: Questions, Comments, or Podcast Topic Suggestions: [email protected] 50 Dates at 50 Website: https://50datesat50.com/ Big Stone Gap Official Movie Trailer: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=wx7Q9mSLrfY How 1970s VCR dating paved the way for Tinder and Hinge:  https://www.vox.com/22262353/great-expectations-history-video-dating-vcr-apps

Highlights for this episode: The Glossary term for this episode is: Bromance Paul reviews the movie Swingers, released in 1996. This movie gives us a look into dating in the 1990s, how damaging holding on to your ex and being unable to put them behind you can be, and how dance lessons can come in very handy. In the Retro Segment, How to Succeed with Brunettes. 1967 US Navy Instructional Film. Restaurant date. In the Potpourri Segment, Dating Truths Part 5. These truths emerged from repeating patterns and behaviors Paul began to pick up on when he started dating again in his early 50s. Today we look at Truths 21-24, which include, Your type is no longer your Type, You only get one chance, The one who gets to the meet up date first wins, and Beware of the all-or-nothing attitude. Episode Links: Questions, Comments, or Podcast Topic Suggestions: [email protected] 50 Dates at 50 Website: https://50datesat50.com/ Swingers Official Movie Trailer: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=zHT2zOnutCA Swingers Answering Machine Meltdown Scene: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=DU3Pk6oDNRU Swingers Swing Dance Scene: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=G3Ec9Wqn-ms Cupid’s Coach Episode 51 – Dating & The Money Trap Courtney Ryan: Which Guy Would Women Choose (Would you Rather…) 

Midlife Dating Podcast EP 19 – Dating Truths Part 4 Highlights for this episode: Have you ever gone on a meetup date only to find out their colorful online charisma is nowhere to be found when you meet them in person? This is known as the Cyrano de Bergerac. It's the glossary term for this episode, and we'll take a closer look at this curious creature. I'll be reviewing the movie Before We Go, released in 2015. This film demonstrates that even the worst of days can turn out to be the best of days. It also provides an excellent roadmap of how to proceed when things don't go as planned and how important it is to maintain a sense of humor. In the Potpourri Segment, I'll cover "Dating Truths," Part 4. These truths emerged from repeating patterns and behaviors I began to pick up on when I started dating again in my early 50s. Today we take a look at Truths 16-20, which include, The Bigger Better Deal, The Candy Store Effect, and the outdated Three Strike Rule. Questions, Comments, or Podcast Topic Suggestions: [email protected] 50 Dates at 50 Website: https://50datesat50.com/ Before We Go Trailer:  https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=vNzaiGzPoUg Definitely, Maybe role-playing clip: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=GARQJHyaBD0

Have you been guilty of Professing? It's the glossary term for this episode, and it describes behavior that many of us have embraced at some point in our dating lives, that Hollywood has glamorized but turns out to be creepy in reality. Following the glossary segment, Paul discusses some dating and relationship takeaways from the movie, All I Wish. Here we see that time can heal a rough start and change our attitude about relationships for the better. In the Potpourri Segment, Paul reviews Dating Truths 11-15. Outlining the necessary skills one can quickly master by first putting maximum effort into their profile pictures and written profile. Also, why "One and Done" will be a regular part of your online dates as you endure the learning process. Please contact Paul at the email address below If you have any dating topics you'd like covered or have questions or comments. Of course, we'll keep your identity confidential. Questions and Contributions: [email protected] 50 Dates at 50 Website: https://50datesat50.com/

Having problems getting past the first few dates, let alone the first meetup? Then, you could be guilty of "Projection." This glossary term describes how we may subconsciously project our past negative dating and relationship experiences onto our new dates. Following the glossary segment, Paul reviews Esther Perel's book "Mating in Captivity."  Social and emotional intelligence are standard terms we hear about. However, Perel gives us much-needed insight into "Erotic intelligence," which is understanding what attracts a couple to one another, including how and why those couples grow apart. In the Potpourri Segment, Paul expands on dating Truths 6-10, explaining why dating with purpose is so difficult, what the dating long game versus the dating short game looks like, and why we want to play the long game. Please contact Paul at the email address below If you have any dating topics you'd like covered or have questions or comments. Of course, we'll keep your identity confidential. Questions and Contributions: [email protected] 50 Dates at 50 Website: https://50datesat50.com/

Have you ever heard of the Flannel Nightgown? It's our glossary term for this episode, and it explains the transition that develops in all romantic relationships. I'll be reviewing the movie Sing Street, released in 2016. It will bring us back to the 80s when things were so much simpler. The film has a great message about taking risks in putting yourself out there and being willing to accept some levels of humiliation as you grow, learn and chase your passion.  In the Potpourri Segment, I'll cover "Dating Truths," Part 1. These truths emerged out of repeating patterns and behaviors I began to pick up on when I started dating again in my early 50s regarding Soul Mates, Rejection, and how to test the dating waters effectively. Questions, Comments, or Podcast Topic Suggestions: [email protected] 50 Dates at 50 Website: https://50datesat50.com/

Approximately Half of those you run across on the dating apps seek "Electronic Vanity Validation." This glossary describes those who use online dating apps and legacy websites who validate themselves simply by who they match up with. Paul reviews the book, The Proper Care & Feeding of Husbands by Dr. Laura Schlessinger. In it, we learn that good men are simple beings, hard to find but easy to keep. Additionally, why women regret marrying "Nice Guys," and how real men think about their committed relationship. Then, in the Potpourri Segment, Paul explains how the Counteroffer is one of the most significant indicators if someone is interested in pursuing a dating relationship with you. We're retaking dating questions now that the podcast production is more dialed in. If you've got one you'd like Paul to answer on the podcast, please submit it to the email address below. We'll keep your identity confidential.  Questions and Contributions: [email protected] 50 Dates at 50 Website: https://50datesat50.com/