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Poppy and Kass introduce the concept of consent as a practice, and how to apply this knowledge to a create a healthy, pleasure-centred sex life. Show notes: Betty Martin Wheel of Consent https://bettymartin.org The Art of Receiving and Giving by Betty Martin https://wheelofconsentbook.com ;

Poppy and Kass tear down the “victim” and “perpetrator” stereotypes, and discuss what it means to be a true ally, contributing to conversations to incite lasting change.   Show notes:   ABS statistics https://www.aihw.gov.au/getmedia/0375553f-0395-46cc-9574-d54c74fa601a/aihw-fdv-5.pdf.aspx?inline=tru... Believe Me: How Trusting Women Can Change The World https://www.goodreads.com/en/book/show/43886163 Almost No One Is Falsely Accused of Rape https://www.thecut.com/article/false-rape-accusations.html

Poppy and Kass talk about taking accountability if you’ve violated someone’s consent, and how to transform your behaviour to prevent future or ongoing harm.   Show notes:   Mia Mingus’ The Four Parts of Accountability: How To Give a Good Apology https://leavingevidence.wordpress.com/2019/12/18/how-to-give-a-good-apology-part-1-the-four-parts-of... (via https://transformharm.org/transformative-justice-a-brief-description/)   Beyond Survival: Strategies and Stories From The Transformative Justice Movement by Leah Lakshmi Piepzna-Samarasinha and Ejeris Dixon https://www.goodreads.com/book/show/51778952 ;   I felt pure shame: How These Men Came To Realise they Sexually Assaulted Someone https://www.abc.net.au/triplej/programs/hack/young-men-sexual-assault-reckoning/13280118 ;

As well as discussing how best to hold space for survivors of sexual trauma, Poppy and Kass break down the process of reporting perpertrators of sexual violence. Show notes: Sex Gets Real with Dawn Serra. Episode #300: Jaclyn Friedman on Believing Women https://podcasts.apple.com/au/podcast/sex-gets-real-with-dawn-serra/id814025804?i=1000471251292


Poppy and Kass touch on what the concept of ‘rape culture’ means and why we, as a community, tend to ignore behaviours that we inherently know are harmful.

Poppy and Kass do a deep dive into coercive control, demonstrating why the ‘no means no’ version of consent is so problematic and outdated.

Poppy and Kass unpack the relationship between structural oppression and consent, and explain why 'freeze' and 'fawn' are common stress responses in sexual scenarios where we feel unsafe. 

Poppy and Kass discuss approachable ways to communicate that you’re not feeling up to sex, and how to validate your intimate partner’s pleasure while respecting your own boundaries. Consent Labs NSW consent program for schools: https://www.consentlabs.org.au/im-in-whats-next When only Yes means Yes: https://www.consentlabs.org.au/blogwhenonlyyesmeansyes  https://www.queersexedcc.com/post/what-does-consent-mean