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This week on Finding Serenity in the Midst of Chaos Podcast, I talked about why it is important to be a better YOU this Christmas! and how you can do that. You can do this by first mastering your mindset and prioritising what is important to YOU!🥰⛪ Then, and ONLY then, you will become  A better mum, A more compassionate boss, More loving wife, More attentive daughter and live a better life!⛪🥰 “I will hate myself and struggle every day and resent everyone in the process to become a better version of me!” Said no one ever!🙄 If you are done giving so much to everyone else to be a better YOU, then STOP! Because you now know, it doesn’t work! Do what works (very well every time) instead. The change will start with you. So work on yourself first and watch others change around you with astonishment.  Tune into today's episode to find out examples of what being better looks like. If you are done waiting for others to change and give you permission to be a better version of yourself, then watch the FREE masterclass titled: Nothing Changes Until You Do here:  https://www.tulaymasseycoaching.com/training

This week on Finding Serenity in The Midst of Chaos Podcast, I gave examples of 'BEing' the change I wanted to see in the world when I did a complete U-Turn on my career and decided to become a coach after almost 2 decades in the Food Industry. It is easy to expect others to change or force them to change, but I had the greatest breakthrough when I realised the only thing I can change is MYSELF. This applies to you, too. You can expect everyone and everything else to change before you change but the truth is: Nothing Changes Until YOU do.  If you are done waiting for everything and everyone else to change and ready to change yourself to get what you want in life, then watch my FREE training here: https://www.tulaymasseycoaching.com/training  If you love the podcast, please hit the SUBSCRIBE button on your favourite platform to see/hear more episodes from me each week.

Feel like you are stuck in a rut?😫...I know how you feel 🤗!I felt like that for 10 years! 😮I spent the best 10 years of my life feeling like I was totally wasting my life!😞😫😟...It turns out I was learning my lessons, again and again, and again🙄 (and it finally clicked)...that everything was happening FOR me!Every 'bad' experience was showing me the way...❌ Sending me the message to reveal what was NOT working...❤ Leading me to my purpose...😊 I am so pleased to say I finally woke up and got the message, learned the lessons and had the courage to move on!and now that I know this and I learned the lessons, the hard way!❤🥰 I made it my mission to save you those years and live your life with purpose NOW!Stop wasting any more of your precious life😁 trying to please everyone,😣 control everything/everyone,😣 looking for your worth in your achievements😢 creating 'busyness' just to fill the void of emptiness inside of you!Save⏲ 10 years of your life!😊 Your sanity and👨‍👩‍👧‍👦Your relationshipsSTOP drifting from one thing to another and find your purpose! It is only then you will find the balance and the fulfilment you have been seeking!You are not stuck! Your thinking is! And ‘what got you here, won’t get you there’ So do yourself a favour this Christmas, do something different and join me on my FREE Master Class where I will share with you the 3 things you must do not just to get unstuck but actually create a quantum leap in 2026 from the inside out! From a place of peace, joy and Serenity, because NOTHING changes Until YOU do! Access that Masterclass here: https://www.tulaymasseycoaching.com/training

Life is not about living in a wonderland of positivity 100% of the time...Life will throw things at you, unexpectedly andyes, it does to me too...😍BUTI have the power to choose how I feel about the challenges!(and so do you!)and not just see them for what they are right now,but see them for what they are here to teach me!and this is changes everything!😢 Just because you experience emotions does not mean you BECOME those emotions!Recognise them for what they are, acknowledge them, feel them, process them and let them pass through me!and believe me, this feels so much better and it helps you enjoy the experience, even when it is painful!No matter what you are feeling, what the challenges are in your life todayYou can always CHOOSE to FOCUS on the learning, the lesson and the experience and show gratitude for all of it!Because this means you are growing!and you will not get to the next level of growth until you learn to ride through these emotions So today, whatever challenge and emotional situation you are experiencing today...I get it. I hear you. I see you and KNOW what you are going throughand this is why I am here for you! If you are a high achieving professional woman struggling to find balance between your work and home life and it feel like you are constantly busy spinning your wheels only to end up not being enough for either, I can help! I invite you to work 1:1 with me before the end of this year. I believe Balance and Serenity should be accessible to anyone, and this includes you. By the time we finish working together, you will learn to BE happy from the inside out. You will get the Clarity of your vision with a clear Purpose, You will have a clear process to move forward and achieve it, without holding yourself back with self-sabotage. You will be able to Focus on your goal and not the fear that comes with it, You will have the Certainty in your heart and Reassurance from the universe that what you want already wants you. You will be able to have pride in your achievements and create an environment of peace, joy and balance at home without guilt. To find out all the details of this amazing offer, book a clarity call now. https://www.tulaymasseycoaching.com/CALL     Inner Peace, Balance and Serenity is possible for you too. By the end of this programme, you will learn to BE happy from the inside out and FEEL happy at anytime you like. You will get the Clarity of your vision with a clear Purpose, You will have a clear process to move forward and achieve it, without holding yourself back with self-sabotage. You will be able to Focus on your goal and not the fear that comes with it, You will have the Certainty in your heart and Reassurance from the universe that what you want already wants you. You will be able to have pride in your achievements and create an environment of peace, joy and balance at home without guilt. To find out all the details of this amazing offer book a clarity call now

What does NO mean? What does it 'mean' about you? NO means, NO. A complete sentence. It means NO you will not do what you are asked to do at that moment. Whether it isTurning down a job,A request from a colleague, a neighbour, your kids,A friend asking you to go somewhere,Going to a meeting You don't have to justify it, you could if you want to, but you don't have to. How they feel about you saying NO is for them to deal with! Saying NO does not MEAN anything about YOU! It just means you don't have the time right now, you don't like to do it, you have other things you would rather do, it is not safe to do etc. It allows you to set and stick to your boundaries to preserve your physical and mental energy. It is not bad or good, right or wrong. It just is. A complete sentence you chose to use at that point in time! If you struggle to say NO often, you might find it easier if you practice it daily. Perhaps saying NO to one thing a day! If you are an ambitious professional woman struggling to find balance between your work and home life, and it feels like you are constantly busy spinning your wheels only to end up not being enough for either, I can help! If you find yourself saying YES when your heart says and means NO, It is time to consider a different approach. I invite you to work 1:1 with me before the end of this year. I believe Balance and Serenity should be accessible to anyone, and this includes you. By the time we finish working together, you will learn to BE happy from the inside out. You will get the Clarity of your vision with a clear Purpose, You will have a clear process to move forward and achieve it, without holding yourself back with self-sabotage. You will be able to Focus on your goal and not the fear that comes with it, You will have the Certainty in your heart and Reassurance from the universe that what you want already wants you. You will be able to have pride in your achievements and create an environment of peace, joy and balance at home without guilt. To find out all the details of this amazing offer, book a clarity call now. https://www.tulaymasseycoaching.com/CALL

It’s a tough truth—but also one of the most liberating realizations you’ll ever have: No one is coming to save you. In this episode, Tulay explores what happens when you stop waiting for someone or something outside of you to change your life, fix your problems, or make you feel better. Instead, you learn to turn inward—to the strength, wisdom, and peace that have been there all along. You’ll discover: ✨ Why waiting for others to change keeps you powerless ✨ How self-responsibility becomes the gateway to freedom ✨ The mindset shift that moves you from helplessness to empowerment ✨ How to reconnect with the part of you that already knows the way forward This episode is your invitation to stop searching for rescue and start reclaiming your power. Because when you finally realise you’re the one you’ve been waiting for, everything changes. This is why I created the self-study version of my 8-week transformational coaching programme! If you are ready to finally step into your true power, this is perfect for you. With this course: ✔ You get access to exactly the same homework study material and audios my high-ticket clients go through when they work with me 1:1 ✔ You have instruction videos each week explaining what you need to do. ✔ You get to do it at your own pace for a fraction of the investment PLUS- you get to have the opportunity to work with me at the end if you choose to and your investment for the self-study will be deducted from your investment for the coaching. What's not to love? Join now and start your transformation with the self-study version of the Serenity Principles for Life Programme at: https://www.tulaymasseycoaching.com/serenity-principles-self-study

Today, in a throwback episode,  we talk about my experience with COVID and how that can apply to many things we do in life. Often, how you experience something is very much determined by what you believe about that specific thing. Most people let the external circumstances determine how they experience certain things, without even knowing. This inevitably can make them a victim to their circumstances. We talk about how by living in your circumstances, you repeat them. We also talk about the concept of creating your own life merely by the way you think and the things you attract as a result. If you are serious about attracting what you want in life, make gratitude a part of your daily routine and watch amazing things happen... Did you know that you can have😍 A better mental and physical health🤗 Enhanced compassion😊 Feeling of calm and peace😴 Better sleep 😎 Improved self-esteem. just by making gratitude a habit?Well, I have just the thing for you to integrate gratitude into your daily life in just 8 minutes a day.It is what I call a 'Heartfelt Gratitude' meditation.I put it together just for you and it is now available to anyone who wants to use it for FREE! Go to www.tulaymasseycoaching.com/gratitude and start living your life in gratitude right now!

What if everything you’re experiencing right now—your relationships, challenges, and even frustrations—is simply reflecting you back to yourself? In this episode, Tulay invites you to look deeper into the mirror of your life and explore how your inner world shapes your outer reality. You’ll discover: ✨ Why life mirrors your beliefs, emotions, and energy ✨ How to recognise when you’re projecting old stories onto new situations ✨ The powerful shift that happens when you stop resisting what you see ✨ How to use reflection as a tool for peace, growth, and transformation This isn’t about blame—it’s about awareness. Because when you have the courage to look honestly at what life is showing you, you reclaim your power to change it. Tune in to uncover what your life is reflecting back—and how to use it to create more peace, alignment, and freedom within.

If you are like most high achievers I work with, the chances are you are a great problem solver, an analytical thinker and absolutely love working through something until you find the answer! However, you might also realise that some of the problems you are trying to work through are not going away, no matter how much you focus on them. 'You cannot solve a problem with the same level of thinking that created it'- Albert Einstein 'What got you here, won't get you there'- James Wedmore 'If you are willing to be uncomfortable, you get to see what you are capable of' -Brooke Castillo These are three profound quotes that I live by since I started my transformation journey Transformation is 'not easy' some might say. Looking deeper into yourself, digging into what is not working in your life and why getting yourself to think about what you truly want is not easy! I would ask, compared to what? Some might even say it is a struggle, as it requires discipline, consistency, bloody-mindedness, integrity  You see, everything is relative. I don't know about you but I would rather push through the initial struggle of looking deeper, learning new things about myself and becoming aware of what is holding me back any day knowing at the end of I get to experience the life I really truly want! Yes it will take time and it will need you to 💥 BE a different person than you have been; 💥 THINK differently to you have done before and 💥 DO the things that may well be uncomfortable for a while... BUT it will be worth it in the end, because what got you here, won't get you there for sure! This is why I created the self-study version of my 8-week transformational coaching programme! ✔ You get access to exactly the same homework study material and audios my high ticket clients go through when they work with me 1:1 ✔ You have instruction videos each week explaining what you need to do. ✔ You get to do it at your own pace for a fraction of the investment PLUS- you get to have the opportunity to work with me at the end if you choose to and your investment for the self-study will be deducted from your investment for the coaching. What's not to love? Join now and start your transformation with the self-study version of the Serenity Principles for Life Programme at: https://www.tulaymasseycoaching.com/serenity-principles-self-study

Have you ever caught yourself thinking, “Why does this always happen to me?” The truth is, it’s not what happens that shapes your life—it’s the meaning you give it. In this episode, we explore how every emotion, reaction, and result in your life is linked to the choices you make—often unconsciously. You’ll discover how to reclaim your free will, rewrite unhelpful meanings, and step out of victim mode for good. Because the moment you choose differently, everything changes. --------------------- If you are serious about attracting what you want in life, make gratitude a part of your daily routine and watch amazing things happen... Did you know that you can have 😍 A better mental and physical health 🤗 Enhanced compassion 😊 Feeling of calm and peace 😴 Better sleep 😎 Improved self-esteem. Just by making gratitude a habit? Well, I have just the thing for you to integrate gratitude into your daily life in just 8 minutes a day. It is what I call a 'Heartfelt Gratitude' meditation. I put it together just for you and it is now available to anyone who wants to use it for FREE! Go to www.tulaymasseycoaching.com/gratitude and start living your life in gratitude right now!

Are you in the significance trap? When will you know you will be good enough? This Episode relates to you if you are the kind of person 🙋‍♀️ Constantly focuses on the next achievement 🙋‍♀️ Never celebrate or acknowledge your last achievement 🙋‍♀️ Always want to talk about your accomplishments rather than yourself. You will love this episode because at the end of it you will discover ✅ The real reason why you want to be significant ✅ How you can free yourself of the significance trap And until you believe you are good enough just as you are, you will never feel good enough, no matter what you have, how much you achieve or how many people think you are good enough! ---- If you are finding it hard to recognise what is it about you that is already good enough, you might want to consider starting a daily gratitude practice. The easiest way to do that is to download for FREE my heartfelt gratitude audio that will help you do that in just 8 minutes a day. Did you know that you can have😍 A better mental and physical health🤗 Enhanced compassion😊 Feeling of calm and peace😴 Better sleep 😎 Improved self-esteem. just by making gratitude a habit?Well, I have just the thing for you to integrate gratitude into your daily life in just 8 minutes a day.It is what I call a 'Heartfelt Gratitude' meditation.I put it together just for you and it is now available to anyone who wants to use it for FREE! Go to www.tulaymasseycoaching.com/gratitude and start living your life in gratitude right now!

What if Uncertainty is a good thing? Are you staying awake, wondering what is going to happen next? Is the worry of uncertainty causing you so much anxiety? Have you considered if the uncertainty can be a good thing? In this episode, I argue that it, in fact, is! You see if you already knew what was going to happen, you would have already lived it and made it happen.  Everything in life is uncertain, but you create certainty through your daily habits and create a little comfort zone which gives you a false sense of security/certainty.  If you want to create something new there is always a big uncertainty associated with it, but it is a good thing because it actually helps you keep an open mind for the possibilities you could not even think of. So today, just let the uncertainty be a good thing and just take a moment to be grateful for the journey that you are on to create whatever exciting thing you are about to create. If you are serious about attracting what you want in life, make gratitude a part of your daily routine and watch amazing things happen... Did you know that you can have😍 A better mental and physical health🤗 Enhanced compassion😊 Feeling of calm and peace😴 Better sleep 😎 Improved self-esteem. just by making gratitude a habit?Well, I have just the thing for you to integrate gratitude into your daily life in just 8 minutes a day.It is what I call a 'Heartfelt Gratitude' meditation.I put it together just for you and it is now available to anyone who wants to use it for FREE! Go to www.tulaymasseycoaching.com/gratitude and start living your life in gratitude right now!

Knowledge Makes You Powerless! Hear me out before you think I am crazy! I get why you think knowledge is power! This is the paradigm we all grew up with! In fact, I spent 21 years of my life just studying to know all I could know about a given topic, and further 18 years in an environment where I could apply that knowledge. But all that knowledge didn’t give me any power! In fact, it made me powerless, because after a while I made having a certain amount of knowledge a measure of how good I was! Which, inevitably, I thought, meant that if I didn’t have enough knowledge, I was not good enough! Not realising for years… that my value didn’t actually come from my knowledge (or lack of it) but it came from how courageous I was to apply and embody what I already knew! If you resonate with any of the above, then read on (and share this article with someone who would benefit from reading it) Here are the 3 beliefs that is causing you to become powerless Knowledge = Power—WRONG! You can have all the knowledge in the world about a specific topic or many topics, but if you don’t know your own value first, you will keep sitting on the side lines without sharing what you know with anyone! You won’t have the courage to apply, embody or share It with the world! Knowledge that is not shared and just rotting in your head and is worth NOTHING! Knowledge = Your Value—WRONG! Because you determine your own value by how much you know, this becomes your reference point to compare yourself to others (most likely) who know more than you. So instead of celebrating and sharing what you know and standing in your own value, you constantly compare yourself to others and create a reason to de-value yourself. This becomes your daily (negative) self-talk that you are now immune to, and you don’t even realise how toxic it actually is (Try talking to your best friend the way you talk to yourself for half a day and see how long your friendship lasts). More Knowledge/Achievements = More Respect/Approval/Appreciation from others-WRONG! This belief leads you to learn more, chase more titles, achievements… and before you know it, you are overwhelmed with all the learning you ‘have to’ do and constantly chasing your tail to keep up with the expectations you put on yourself. All in the name of getting the respect, approval and appreciation externally. You give your power away to those who don’t appreciate you by getting angry, frustrated and end up working harder which keeps you in this broken cycle forever! You probably already know where this leads to = burnout! STOP it! Like I said many times before, until you realise your own value because of who you are; courageously embody it and share your knowledge with the world as you are… No amount of learning, knowledge, job title or external validation will give you the value, peace and fulfilment you are seeking. Don’t take my word for it, see what one of my clients said after working with me: “Before I started coaching with Tülay, I was confused and losing focus.  I was struggling to accept that my priorities and identity had changed - I kept looking for the next challenge/qualification/ project/job without considering where these were leading, and how they supported my journey towards my ultimate goal - because I could not see that goal clearly. I was so focussed on the mechanics and ‘the how’ that I was losing sight of my vision” “I now feel much calmer, content and at peace. I am clearer at laying down boundaries.  The biggest change is clarity of my goal and my commitment to it and accepting that the rest is just details. Also knowing that if I remain focused on my goal, the universe will provide, and that is where fulfilment actually lies - not the places I was looking in before.” If you would like to hear more about this topic, head over to today’s podcast episode here. When you are ready to let go of giving your power away to knowledge/job titles/achievement and step into your ‘KNOWING’ to find peace and fulfilment, book a call with me. Let’s chat about what is the real driver in all of this. I have 3 spots left for my 1:1 coaching this month and I would love to help you realise the power you have within. Book your call now and reserve your spot here:https://calendly.com/tulaymasseycoaching/30min Have you ever stopped working for a minute or looked up from your phone, to consider how balanced your life is right now? Yes, really, have you? When is the last time you took a break from ‘doing things and going through the motions of daily activities on autopilot and had a good look at yourself; your life and how things are going? If you are listening to this podcast, it means that there is a part of you who believes that there are some areas of your life that are not working as they should. The good news is, I have just the thing for you! You can now discover how balanced your life is in 7 essential areas with my FREE Life Balance Workbook! Just go to: https://www.tulaymasseycoaching.com/thelifebalanceworkbook-podcast  and download this workbook for absolutely FREE now!

You can be comfortable, and still be unhappy! This is not another article I will be banging on about the comfort zone, because you probably heard enough of that! This is about contentment, aka, good old happiness! So, you might be comfortable in your job, in your home, in the external environment you are in and can still be unhappy! You see, happiness is an inner state! It doesn’t depend on external circumstances, even though most people believe, act and make it about that! In fact, no external circumstance will result in happiness, until you decide to become happy on the inside first! How many times did you say to yourself any of these or something similar…? I will be happy when… I finish my presentation The kids grow up All of this [lockdown, a launch, a significant event…} is over I book my holiday I have kids… The list goes on. Listen, happiness is not a destination (as cheesy as this sounds, it is true) but most of us treat it that way and this is why you one day, expect to arrive there… This causes you to fail at being happy in 2 ways You constantly wait for a condition to be fulfilled before you can BE happy When you arrive at the condition and find yourself still NOT HAPPY, you get disappointed and become even more unhappy! You can see now what a broken way of thinking this is, can you not? It is not your fault though; this is what you have been conditioned to do from as early as age 3 (remember the when…then technique all the parenting gurus are teaching you?)! You have been taught to have live conditionally- when I have this...then I can have that! And whilst it might ‘work’ for your 3-year-old (for a short while), it is not a sustainable strategy for a happy life! Because you will not be happy on the outside until you DECIDE to be happy on the inside. NO matter how comfortable, successful, rich, famous [insert desire] you might be! The good news is that when you are happy on the inside FIRST, all the other external conditions you have been hoping, wishing, and expecting to happen WILL actually happen much more easily. Sometimes though, being comfortable but not content can be a good thing! Because it shows you are becoming aware of a misalignment in your life and are on the verge of a breakthrough!   If you are serious about attracting what you want in life, make gratitude a part of your daily routine and watch amazing things happen... Did you know that you can have😍 A better mental and physical health🤗 Enhanced compassion😊 Feeling of calm and peace😴 Better sleep 😎 Improved self-esteem. just by making gratitude a habit?Well, I have just the thing for you to integrate gratitude into your daily life in just 8 minutes a day.It is what I call a 'Heartfelt Gratitude' meditation.I put it together just for you and it is now available to anyone who wants to use it for FREE! Go to www.tulaymasseycoaching.com/gratitude and start living your life in gratitude right now!

I grew up thinking and believing that life consisted of 6 stages. 1. You go to school 2. You go to university. 3. You get a job. 4. You get married. 5. You have children. 6. You pass. At stage 4, your life is no longer about you as you would 'become responsible' for how your 'other half' feels, what he/she does or doesn't do. At stage 5 your life would practically be over and is now dedicated to the 'other people' in your life. You no longer matter! The only purpose you serve is to EXIST for your kids, your job, your husband, and occasionally for yourself by having a haircut or drinking to numb the pain of no longer 'having a life'. Is this the life you were dreaming of? Of course not!  This episode is all about how you are conditioned to live your life this way, but also what you can do to break away from this way of thinking and being. If after listening, you think something is still not right, but you don't know what then I can help. Have you ever stopped working for a minute or looked up from your phone, to consider how balanced your life is right now? Yes, really, have you? When is the last time you took a break from ‘doing things and going through the motions of daily activities in autopilot and had a good look at yourself; your life and how things are going? If you are listening to this podcast, it means that there is a part of you who believes that there are some areas of your life that are not working as they should. The good news is, I have just the thing for you! You can now discover how balanced your life is in 7 essential areas with my FREE Life Balance Workbook! Just go to: https://www.tulaymasseycoaching.com/thelifebalanceworkbook-podcast and download this workbook for absolutely FREE now!