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Transgenerational Trauma-Native American Original airdate: 11/26/21   Episode Type: Panel    Hosts: Jill Bellefeuille    Cristine Davidson Education and Cultural Coordinator with Minnesota Indian Women's Sexual Assult Coalition   Description: The release date of this episode is on Native American Heritage Day on November 26th, 2021. November is now recognized as Native American Heritage Month. The focus of our first-panel episode is Transgenerational Trauma in the Native American Community. Recognizing that Native American Heritage was disrupted through the series of cultural assimilation of Native Americans into mainstream European-American culture. Including the acts of the assimilation policy 1951 - 1962. Our panel discusses how the traumatic events and experiences by ancestors have been passed on through transgenerational trauma. Concluding with the need for healing and the hope for inner peace.  People Waiting to Help: Mending The Sacred Hoop | Domestic Violence Prevention | Duluth, MN (mshoop.org) Minnesota Indian Women's Sexual Assault Coalition StrongHearts Native Helpline Call or text 1-844-762-8483   Links Discussed in this Episode: Domestic Violence in Indian Country | Mending The Sacred Hoop | Duluth MN (mshoop.org) decolonising-the-mind-article.pdf (nsw.gov.au)   If you would like to share your story/professional experience in an episode please email us at: [email protected]

Domestic Violence & Mass Shootings   Episode Type: Professional Host: Lisa Geller Links for Lisa Geller: Twitter for Lisa Geller Links for Johns Hopkins: Twitter for Johns Hopkins Center for Gun Violence Solutions Description Nearly 70% of the mass shootings in the US have a domestic violence connection. A victim of domestic violence is 400 times more likely to be killed when there is a gun involved. Lisa Geller, a researcher at the Johns Hopkins Bloomberg School of Public Health; discusses the intersections of domestic violence and mass shootings. Lisa provides context to this discussion through a historical context and concludes with policies and actions we all can take to reduce gun violence, specifically in domestic violence cases.   People Who Are Waiting to Help You Emergency: 911 National Suicide Prevention Lifeline: 1-800-273-8255 National Domestic Violence Hotline: Phone 1-800-799-SAFE (7233) Text “START” to 88788 StrongHearts Native Helpline: 1-844-762-8483 National Child Abuse Hotline: 1-800-422-4453 Safe Helpline, Sexual Assault: 1-877-995-5247 LGBTQ National Hotline: 1-888-843-4564 National Runaway Safeline: 1-800-786-2929 SAMHSA Substance Abuse and Mental Health Services: 1-800-662-HELP (4357) Crisis Text Line: Text 741741 National Eating Disorder Association Helpline: 1-800-931-2237 Veterans Crisis Line: Phone 1-800-273-8255 Text 838255 For more resources please visit The Trauma and Mental Health Report resource page https://trauma.blog.yorku.ca/resources/   Links Discussed: Paper: The role of domestic violence in fatal mass shootings in the United States Johns Hopkins Center for Gun Violence Solutions Program for those who have used domestic violence, DVRC   If you would like to share your story/professional experience in an episode please email us at: [email protected]

To the Peril of My Soul   Episode Type: Victim/Survivor Host: Rosanna (Rosie) Overcomer Link for Rosie:  Instagram rosies_tribe   Description: Rosie reflects on her time living in Gloriavale, a religious cult. Gloriavale is located on the west coast of the South Island of New Zealand. Rosie uses her voice to bring awareness to those still living in Gloriavale, and support for those who have left. Rosie shares her experience of being born into a cult, finding the strength to leave, and her journey in healing in hopes of helping others.   Links Discussed: Support trust https://www.gloriavaleleavers.org.nz/ Resource link https://www.gloriavaleleavers.org.nz/resources/ Gloriavale documentary https://www.flicks.co.nz/movie/gloriavale/ People Waiting to Help: New Zealand Safe to Talk(external link) sexual harm helpline: 0800 044334, text: 4334, email: [email protected] Rape Crisis: 0800 88 33 00 Women's Refuge(external link): 0800 733 843 Shine domestic abuse services(external link) free call: 0508 744 633 (9am and 11pm) Hey Bro helpline(external link) - supporting men to be free from violence 0800 HeyBro (439 276) Family violence information line(external link) to find out about local services or how to help someone else: 0800 456 450 Oranga Tamariki line(external link) for concerns about children and young people: 0508 326 459, email: [email protected], Need to talk?(external link) Free call or text: 1737 for mental health support from a trained counsellor Youthline(external link): 0800 376 633, free text: 234, email: [email protected] Shakti - for migrant and refugee women - 0800 742 584 - 24 hours Elder Abuse Helpline: 0800 32 668 65 - 24 hours, text: 5032, email: [email protected] Psychiatric Emergency- 0800 920 092  Talk Counselling line 24/7 - 1737   People Waiting to Help in the United States: Emergency: 911 National Suicide Prevention Lifeline: 1-800-273-8255 National Domestic Violence Hotline: Phone 1-800-799-SAFE (7233) Text “START” to 88788 StrongHearts Native Helpline: 1-844-762-8483 National Child Abuse Hotline: 1-800-422-4453 Safe Helpline, Sexual Assault: 1-877-995-5247 LGBTQ National Hotline: 1-888-843-4564 National Runaway Safeline: 1-800-786-2929 SAMHSA Substance Abuse and Mental Health Services: 1-800-662- HELP (4357) Crisis Text Line: Text 741741 National Eating Disorder Association Helpline: 1-800-931-2237 Veterans Crisis Line: Phone 1-800-273-8255 Text 838255 For more resources please visit The Trauma and Mental Health Report resource page https://trauma.blog.yorku.ca/resources/   If you would like to share your story/professional experience in an episode please email us at: [email protected]

Episode Type: Professional   Host: Dr. Laura Sinko   Description: Dr. Laura Sinko, sexual assault nurse examiner and assistant professor of nursing at Temple University, shares her work supporting and amplifying the healing journeys of survivors of gender-based violence.   People Waiting to Help in the United States: • Emergency: 911• National Suicide Prevention Lifeline: 1-800-273-8255• National Domestic Violence Hotline: Phone 1-800-799-SAFE (7233) Text “START” to 88788• National Child Abuse Hotline: 1-800-422-4453• Safe Helpline, Sexual Assault: 1-877-995-5247 • StrongHearts Native Helpline: 1-844-762-8483 • LGBTQ National Hotline: 1-888-843-4564• National Runaway Safeline: 1-800-786-2929• SAMHSA Substance Abuse and Mental Health Services: 1-800-662- HELP (4357)• Crisis Text Line: Text 741741• National Eating Disorder Association Helpline: 1-800-931-2237• Veterans Crisis Line: Phone 1-800-273-8255 Text 838255 •Online survivor healing and community building platform: https://ourwave.org For more resources please visit The Trauma and Mental Health Report resource page https://trauma.blog.yorku.ca/resources/   Links Discussed in this Episode: Dr. Laura Sinko's biography https://cph.temple.edu/about/directory/laura-sinko Our Wave https://ourwave.org Short clip "Finding The Strength To Heal" https://discover.ourwave.org/exhibit/finding-the-strength-to-heal Coaching for Change https://www.menaspeacemakers.org/coachingforchange University of Minnesota-Duluth Restorative Justice and Sexual Harm https://rjp.d.umn.edu/resources/restorative-justice-and-sexual-harm   If you would like to share your story/professional experience in an episode please email us at: [email protected]

Healing is a Journey (First aired December 24th, 2021) Episode Type: Victim & Professional  Host: Brandon Jones Event/Training Child & Adolescent Mental Health Conference April 23-25, 2023 in Duluth Minnesota USA.  Links for Brandon Jones: Minnesota Association for Children's Mental Health JEGNA Consulting Description: In this episode, Brandon Jones, Executive Director of the Minnesota Association for Children’s Mental Health (MACMH), shares his personal journey in healing. Brandon shares about the complex trauma he experienced in his youth, and how he found healing through formal education and therapy. Brandon further discusses how he utilizes an empathetic approach to help others on their own healing journey, as well as working towards helping the community by repairing harm passed down and ending the cycle of abuse.    People Waiting to Help in the United States: • Emergency: 911• National Suicide Prevention Lifeline: 1-800-273-8255• National Domestic Violence Hotline: Phone 1-800-799-SAFE (7233) Text “START” to 88788• National Child Abuse Hotline: 1-800-422-4453• Safe Helpline, Sexual Assault: 1-877-995-5247 • StrongHearts Native Helpline: 1-844-762-8483 • LGBTQ National Hotline: 1-888-843-4564• National Runaway Safeline: 1-800-786-2929• SAMHSA Substance Abuse and Mental Health Services: 1-800-662- HELP (4357)• Crisis Text Line: Text 741741• National Eating Disorder Association Helpline: 1-800-931-2237• Veterans Crisis Line: Phone 1-800-273-8255 Text 838255 For more resources please visit The Trauma and Mental Health Report resource page https://trauma.blog.yorku.ca/resources/   If you would like to share your story/professional experience in an episode please email us at: [email protected]  

Introduction To StrongHearts Native Helpline   Episode Type: Professional Host: Lori Jump, Chief Executive Officer Links for StrongHearts Native Helpline: Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/strongheartsdv/ Twitter: https://twitter.com/strongheartsdv Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/strongheartsdv/ YouTube Page: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCow_N_KfB-k99FJeip2yxNg   Description: Taking a Native-Centered Approach to Domestic and Sexual Violence.   People Waiting to Help in the United States: • Emergency: 911• National Suicide Prevention Lifeline: 1-800-273-8255• National Domestic Violence Hotline: Phone 1-800-799-SAFE (7233) Text “START” to 88788• National Child Abuse Hotline: 1-800-422-4453• Safe Helpline, Sexual Assault: 1-877-995-5247 • StrongHearts Native Helpline: 1-844-762-8483 • LGBTQ National Hotline: 1-888-843-4564• National Runaway Safeline: 1-800-786-2929• SAMHSA Substance Abuse and Mental Health Services: 1-800-662- HELP (4357)• Crisis Text Line: Text 741741• National Eating Disorder Association Helpline: 1-800-931-2237• Veterans Crisis Line: Phone 1-800-273-8255 Text 838255 For more resources please visit The Trauma and Mental Health Report resource page https://trauma.blog.yorku.ca/resources/   Links Discussed: Sliver of a Full Moon Alaska Daily Don't Buy it Project   If you would like to share your story/professional experience in an episode please email us at: [email protected]

2023 Twin Ports Human Trafficking Awareness Month   Episode Type: Professional Host: Mel Alvar Mel Alvar works as the Safe Harbor Regional Navigator for PAVSA (Program for Aid to Victims of Sexual Assault) in Duluth, Minnesota. Mel has a BAS in Public Health and has been doing community advocacy/education in the Twin Ports since 2004 and an advocate with PAVSA since 2013. As a Safe Harbor Regional Navigator, Mel is a point of contact for 5 counties and 3 tribal reservations in Northeast Minnesota for training, technical assistance, case consultation, referrals, and building capacity for walking alongside individuals/families impacted by commercial sexual exploitation and human trafficking. Links for January 2023 Twin Ports Human Trafficking Awareness Events: 2023 Trafficking Awareness Events Facebook and Instagram @DuluthMNTraffickingAwareness Links for Mel Alvar: PAVSA Mel's Podcast Traveling Beads   Description: Mel discusses the 2023 Trafficking Awareness Events in the Twin Ports of Minnesota and Wisconsin. Touching on what is human trafficking, ways communities can help support folks through the human approach, and learning the facts of human trafficking.    People Waiting to Help in the United States: Emergency: 911 National Suicide Prevention Lifeline: 1-800-273-8255 National Domestic Violence Hotline: Phone 1-800-799-SAFE (7233) Text “START” to 88788 StrongHearts Native Helpline: 1-844-762-8483 National Child Abuse Hotline: 1-800-422-4453 Safe Helpline, Sexual Assault: 1-877-995-5247 LGBTQ National Hotline: 1-888-843-4564 National Runaway Safeline: 1-800-786-2929 SAMHSA Substance Abuse and Mental Health Services: 1-800-662- HELP (4357) Crisis Text Line: Text 741741 National Eating Disorder Association Helpline: 1-800-931-2237 Veterans Crisis Line: Phone 1-800-273-8255 Text 838255 For more resources please visit The Trauma and Mental Health Report resource page https://trauma.blog.yorku.ca/resources/   Other Links Discussed in this Episode: Let's Talk About Body Boundaries Defend Young Minds Maslow's Hierarchy of Needs Fight Child Abuse YouTube Thorn Research   If you would like to share your story/professional experience in an episode please email us at: [email protected]

The Reality of Family Court   Episode Type: Survivor and now, professional/advocate Host: Tina Swithin Links for Tina Swithin One Mom's Battle Alienation Industry Facebook Instagram Tiktok Description: So many of us go into the family court system believing that we just tell the truth and unfortunately, that does not end well. While yes, we do need to be truthful and honest, we are forced to navigate a system strategically if we want to truly protect our children and that does not come naturally to most. We are in a court system that prioritizes parental rights over child safety - and the "alienation industry" has infiltrated an already broken system and pushed it into a state of crisis. As a result, we are currently planning 50 protests across the United States (one in each state) during 2023 with the first one in Sacramento on January 17.   People Waiting to Help in the United States: Emergency: 911 National Suicide Prevention Lifeline: 1-800-273-8255 National Domestic Violence Hotline: Phone 1-800-799-SAFE (7233) Text “START” to 88788 StrongHearts Native Helpline: 1-844-762-8483 National Child Abuse Hotline: 1-800-422-4453 Safe Helpline, Sexual Assault: 1-877-995-5247 LGBTQ National Hotline: 1-888-843-4564 National Runaway Safeline: 1-800-786-2929 SAMHSA Substance Abuse and Mental Health Services: 1-800-662- HELP (4357) Crisis Text Line: Text 741741 National Eating Disorder Association Helpline: 1-800-931-2237 Veterans Crisis Line: Phone 1-800-273-8255 Text 838255 For more resources please visit The Trauma and Mental Health Report resource page https://trauma.blog.yorku.ca/resources/   Discussed in This Episode: National Safe Parents Organization Doctor Ramani YouTube Angelina Jolie Speaks on the Violence Against Women Act   If you would like to share your story/professional experience in an episode please email us at: [email protected]

With Great Power, There is Great Responsibility   Episode Type: Hybrid Host: Logan Cohen Links for Logan Cohen Logan's Website Tiktok How to (Hu)Man Up in Modern Society: Heal Yourself & Save the World Instagram https://linktr.ee/logancohen www.BalancedManPlan.com Description: In this episode, licensed psychologist, influencer, and author Logan Cohen discuss how males can (hu)man up. Logan author of the book How to (Hu)Man Up in Modern Society: Heal Yourself & Save the World gives a brief outline of his work and what he hopes people will gain from it.  People Waiting to Help in the United States: Emergency: 911 National Suicide Prevention Lifeline: 1-800-273-8255 National Domestic Violence Hotline: Phone 1-800-799-SAFE (7233) Text “START” to 88788 StrongHearts Native Helpline: 1-844-762-8483 National Child Abuse Hotline: 1-800-422-4453 Safe Helpline, Sexual Assault: 1-877-995-5247 LGBTQ National Hotline: 1-888-843-4564 National Runaway Safeline: 1-800-786-2929 SAMHSA Substance Abuse and Mental Health Services: 1-800-662- HELP (4357) Crisis Text Line: Text 741741 National Eating Disorder Association Helpline: 1-800-931-2237 Veterans Crisis Line: Phone 1-800-273-8255 Text 838255 For more resources please visit The Trauma and Mental Health Report resource page https://trauma.blog.yorku.ca/resources/   Discussed in This Episode: Logan's Book White Fragility Schindler's List   If you would like to share your story/professional experience in an episode please email us at: [email protected]

Iatrogenic Harm: When the places we go for help hurt us   Episode Type: Hybrid Host: Dr. Jay Watts Description: Dr. Jay Watts talks about the traumatic revictimization that we can experience as survivors from psychiatric providers - something called iatrogenic harm. In a wide-ranging discussion, we talk about the problematic nature of the diagnosis of borderline personality disorder; trauma-informed care, and the power of survivor healing communities.  Links for Dr. Watts #TraumaNotPD https://qmul.academia.edu/DrJayWatts Twitter Dr. Jay Watts Website ‘Borderline Personality Disorder - A Diagnosis Of Invalidation’ https://www.huffingtonpost.co.uk/dr-jay-watts/borderline-personality-di_b_12167212.html  ‘Feminism and Borderline Personality Disorder’ https://soundcloud.com/national-elf-service/jay-watts  ‘Self Harm’ by Louise Roxanne Pembroke: http://studymore.org.uk/shpfpe.pdf ‘A Simple Guide To Avoid Receiving A Diagnosis Of ‘Personality Disorder’ by Recovery in the Bin https://recoveryinthebin.org/a-simple-guide-to-avoid-receiving-a-diagnosis-of-personality-disorder/ ‘New Ways of Supporting Child Abuse and Sexual Violence Survivors’ https://survivorsvoices.org/wp-content/uploads/2022/03/New-Ways-of-Supporting-Child-Abuse-and-Sexual-Violence-Survivors-FINAL-MANDATE.pdf  People Waiting to Help in the UK: Home - Women's Aid (womensaid.org.uk) Refuge Against Domestic Violence - Help for women & children. Male Victims of Domestic Abuse – Please call 01823 334244 to speak to us confidentially - (mankind.org.uk) Domestic Violence & Abuse · Emergency Injunction Service (ncdv.org.uk) Safe Helpline, Sexual Assault: 1-877-995-5247 National Child Abuse Hotline: 1-800-422-4453 Crisis Text Line: Text 741741 SODA https://sodahq.uk/support/ The Freedom Programme. Learn about domestic violence and abuse If you or someone you know would like to participate in the Freedom Programme, you can email [email protected] You can zoom into the programme from anywhere that you have internet access. People Waiting to Help in the United States: Emergency: 911 National Suicide Prevention Lifeline: 1-800-273-8255 National Domestic Violence Hotline: Phone 1-800-799-SAFE (7233) Text “START” to 88788 StrongHearts Native Helpline: 1-844-762-8483 National Child Abuse Hotline: 1-800-422-4453 Safe Helpline, Sexual Assault: 1-877-995-5247 LGBTQ National Hotline: 1-888-843-4564 National Runaway Safeline: 1-800-786-2929 SAMHSA Substance Abuse and Mental Health Services: 1-800-662- HELP (4357) Crisis Text Line: Text 741741 National Eating Disorder Association Helpline: 1-800-931-2237 Veterans Crisis Line: Phone 1-800-273-8255 Text 838255 For more resources please visit The Trauma and Mental Health Report resource page https://trauma.blog.yorku.ca/resources/   Discussed in this episode: Hashtag on raising awareness on BPD and trauma #TraumanotPD The Indignities of Being a Woman If you would like to share your story/professional experience in an episode please email us at: [email protected]

Sex Research   Episode Type: Professional Host: Dr. Heather Tillewein   Description: In this episode, Dr. Heather Tillewein discusses the various types of sex research she has been conducting.  Dr. Tillewein’s Published Research  The link between centrality, gender identity, and sexual pleasure People Waiting to Help in the United States: Emergency: 911 National Suicide Prevention Lifeline: 1-800-273-8255 National Domestic Violence Hotline: Phone 1-800-799-SAFE (7233) Text “START” to 88788 StrongHearts Native Helpline: 1-844-762-8483 National Child Abuse Hotline: 1-800-422-4453 Safe Helpline, Sexual Assault: 1-877-995-5247 LGBTQ National Hotline: 1-888-843-4564 National Runaway Safeline: 1-800-786-2929 SAMHSA Substance Abuse and Mental Health Services: 1-800-662- HELP (4357) Crisis Text Line: Text 741741 National Eating Disorder Association Helpline: 1-800-931-2237 Veterans Crisis Line: Phone 1-800-273-8255 Text 838255 For more resources please visit The Trauma and Mental Health Report resource page https://trauma.blog.yorku.ca/resources/   If you would like to share your story/professional experience in an episode please email us at: [email protected]  

Domestic Violence & Child Custody - VAWA Kayden's Law: How We Created It and What States Can Do Now To Protect Children   Episode Type: Professional  Host: Danielle Pollack Links for Danielle Pollack Danielle Pollack Personal Website: https://www.daniellepollack.com/ Personal Twitter: https://twitter.com/danielle2u National Family Violence Law Center at GW Law NFVLC Website: https://www.law.gwu.edu/national-family-violence-law-center NFVLC Twitter: https://twitter.com/nfvlcgwu NFVLC Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/nfvlc_at_gwu/ National Safe Parents Organization NSPO Website: https://www.nationalsafeparents.org/ NSPO Twitter: https://twitter.com/safe_parents NSPO Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/nationalsafeparents/ Description:  Growing out of Pennsylvania after several years of intense strategic policy work and analysis by Danielle Pollack and a group of legal experts she brought together in 2017-18 - including Professor Joan Meier, litigators Richard Ducote and Jodi Lewis, and others - the federal Kayden's Law was signed into law by the President as part of the Violence Against Women Act (VAWA) in 2022. In Congress, the effort was led by Pollack's Pennsylvania Congressman Fitzpatrick and it built upon the state-level work on Kayden's Law, led by Pennsylvania State Senators Santarsiero and Baker, in consultation with Pollack's team. In the U.S., child custody is a state matter, meaning custody laws are determined by the states and differ somewhat from state to state. There are a few things, though, one can do on a federal level to help uniformly improve and reform family courts' response to family violence and child safety risks in custody decision-making nationwide. The intent of VAWA Kayden's Law is exactly this, and it does so by incentivizing states with federal grant money to adopt the provisions in the new federal law, thereby making the needed protective improvements in state custody laws. All states which adopt the provisions will become eligible for the funds, and the National Family Violence Law Center at GW Law, where Pollack is Policy Manager, is providing state lawmakers and stakeholders with technical assistance. Research shows that family courts are too frequently making child custody decisions which ignore or minimize family violence and safety risks to children. As a result, vulnerable children are being preventably court-ordered to be in the care and custody of an abusive party. These children are subsequently often maltreated for prolonged periods and/or sometimes murdered by an abusive parent - as Kayden Mancuso was in Pennsylvania - when there was a safe parent available and seeking to protect the child from harm. This is a systemic state, national, and international problem in private custody courts. Increasingly organized grassroots coalitions of advocates, protective parents, domestic violence survivors, and some family court practitioners have been calling for more protective reforms for children in family courts for many years. Recently, some celebrities, including actor and UN Ambassador, Angelina Jolie, have spoken out on behalf of the protective reforms Pollack and her team have developed and advanced, including VAWA Kayden's Law. The press is increasingly covering these family court issues, with recent in-depth investigative reporting from ProPublica, NBC Nightly News with Lester Holt, The Texas Observer, the Philadelphia Inquirer, the Denver Post, and others. The national organization which brings the country's leading advocacy groups together under one umbrella is the National Safe Parents Organization.   People Waiting to Help in the United States: Emergency: 911 National Suicide Prevention Lifeline: 1-800-273-8255 National Domestic Violence Hotline: Phone 1-800-799-SAFE (7233) Text “START” to 88788 StrongHearts Native Helpline: 1-844-762-8483 National Child Abuse Hotline: 1-800-422-4453 Safe Helpline, Sexual Assault: 1-877-995-5247 LGBTQ National Hotline: 1-888