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Why Your Wife Has No Energy Left for Connection (And What She Really Needs From You) Your wife isn't rejecting you. She's exhausted, carrying the mental load, and asking for more connection can feel like one more job. Adam and Aston Simmonds explain why emotional connection in marriage is built in small moments across the day, not big gestures. They also share what your wife really needs from you to feel seen, valued and supported. In this episode: Why "I want more connection" lands as pressure, and why connection doesn't require a perfect day The emotional pathway to intimacy, and why it works like a recipe, not two minute noodles Why connecting with yourself first makes it safe to open up to your partner What women want to feel in a marriage, and why connection doesn't always have to lead to the bedroom ———— READY TO GO DEEPER? → Recreate Your Relationship Online (RYRO) — the starting point: https://recreateyourrelationship.com/online-3-part-series-928281 → Book a free Breakthrough Session with Adam: https://recreateyourrelationship.com/breakthrough-session ———— LISTEN ON: → Apple Podcasts: https://podcasts.apple.com/au/podcast/save-my-marriage-podcast/id1596639860 → Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/2lo7rjkwnJADthIAgDO6wn?si=a5701812ef9e4b1a → YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@astonsimmonds ———— LEAVE A REVIEW: If this episode helped you, a 5-star review on Apple Podcasts helps us reach more couples. Apple Podcasts → Save My Marriage Podcast → Ratings & Reviews → Write a Review. ———— CONNECT: → Instagram (Aston): https://www.instagram.com/aston_simmonds/ → Instagram (Adam): https://Instagram.com/adam__simmonds → Facebook (Aston): https://www.facebook.com/coachastonsimmonds → Facebook (Adam): https://www.facebook.com/AdamSimmonds11 → Website: https://savemymarriageschool.com/ READY TO GO DEEPER?  → Recreate Your Relationship Online (RYRO) — the starting point: https://recreateyourrelationship.com/online-3-part-series-928281  → Book a free Breakthrough Session with Adam: https://recreateyourrelationship.com/breakthrough-session LISTEN ON:  → Apple Podcasts: https://podcasts.apple.com/au/podcast/save-my-marriage-podcast/id1596639860  → Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/2lo7rjkwnJADthIAgDO6wn?si=a5701812ef9e4b1a  → YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@astonsimmonds LEAVE A REVIEW:  If this episode helped you, a 5-star review on Apple Podcasts helps us reach more couples. Apple Podcasts → Save My Marriage Podcast → Ratings & Reviews → Write a Review. CONNECT:  → Instagram (Aston): https://www.instagram.com/aston_simmonds/  → Instagram (Adam): https://Instagram.com/adam__simmonds  → Facebook (Aston): https://www.facebook.com/coachastonsim...

Repeating arguments in marriage can leave you feeling more like roommates than a team. Aston and Adam Simmonds explain how to find the unmet needs beneath each fight and ask for what you need without blame. In this episode: Why solving the chores or money issue may not stop the same fight How your last three arguments can help you spot an unmet need How to turn a complaint into a clear, kind request Why staying calm and making things right after a fight are skills you can learn ———— READY TO GO DEEPER? → Recreate Your Relationship Online (RYRO) — the starting point: https://recreateyourrelationship.com/online-3-part-series-928281 → Book a free Breakthrough Session with Adam: https://recreateyourrelationship.com/breakthrough-session ———— LISTEN ON: → Apple Podcasts: https://podcasts.apple.com/au/podcast/save-my-marriage-podcast/id1596639860 → Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/2lo7rjkwnJADthIAgDO6wn?si=a5701812ef9e4b1a → YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@astonsimmonds ———— LEAVE A REVIEW: If this episode helped you, a 5-star review on Apple Podcasts helps us reach more couples. Apple Podcasts → Save My Marriage Podcast → Ratings & Reviews → Write a Review. ———— CONNECT: → Instagram (Aston): https://www.instagram.com/aston_simmonds/ → Instagram (Adam): https://Instagram.com/adam__simmonds → Facebook (Aston): https://www.facebook.com/coachastonsimmonds → Facebook (Adam): https://www.facebook.com/AdamSimmonds11 → Website: https://savemymarriageschool.com/ READY TO GO DEEPER?  → Recreate Your Relationship Online (RYRO) — the starting point: https://recreateyourrelationship.com/online-3-part-series-928281  → Book a free Breakthrough Session with Adam: https://recreateyourrelationship.com/breakthrough-session LISTEN ON:  → Apple Podcasts: https://podcasts.apple.com/au/podcast/save-my-marriage-podcast/id1596639860  → Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/2lo7rjkwnJADthIAgDO6wn?si=a5701812ef9e4b1a  → YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@astonsimmonds LEAVE A REVIEW:  If this episode helped you, a 5-star review on Apple Podcasts helps us reach more couples. Apple Podcasts → Save My Marriage Podcast → Ratings & Reviews → Write a Review. CONNECT:  → Instagram (Aston): https://www.instagram.com/aston_simmonds/  → Instagram (Adam): https://Instagram.com/adam__simmonds  → Facebook (Aston): https://www.facebook.com/coachastonsim...

Do your values feel completely different from your partner's — and does that mean you're not compatible? This episode breaks down the win-win marriage framework, showing high-achieving couples how values alignment in relationships actually works — and why "different" doesn't mean "broken." In this episode: Why couples confuse values alignment with being identical — and how this misconception creates win-lose relationships The real questions to ask to uncover your true values hierarchy (not the socially-approved answers) How value expression differences — like business growth vs. family connection — can actually benefit each other instead of competing The one-page values exercise Adam and Aston use with couples to turn values conflict into a win-win marriage ———— READY TO GO DEEPER? → Recreate Your Relationship Online (RYRO) — the starting point: https://recreateyourrelationship.com/online-3-part-series-928281 → Book a free Breakthrough Session with Adam: https://recreateyourrelationship.com/breakthrough-session ———— LISTEN ON: → Apple Podcasts: https://podcasts.apple.com/au/podcast/save-my-marriage-podcast/id1596639860 → Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/2lo7rjkwnJADthIAgDO6wn?si=a5701812ef9e4b1a → YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@astonsimmonds ———— LEAVE A REVIEW: If this episode helped you, a 5-star review on Apple Podcasts helps us reach more couples. Apple Podcasts → Save My Marriage Podcast → Ratings & Reviews → Write a Review. ———— CONNECT: → Instagram (Aston): https://www.instagram.com/aston_simmonds/ → Instagram (Adam): https://Instagram.com/adam__simmonds → Facebook (Aston): https://www.facebook.com/coachastonsimmonds → Facebook (Adam): https://www.facebook.com/AdamSimmonds11 → Website: https://savemymarriageschool.com/ READY TO GO DEEPER?  → Recreate Your Relationship Online (RYRO) — the starting point: https://recreateyourrelationship.com/online-3-part-series-928281  → Book a free Breakthrough Session with Adam: https://recreateyourrelationship.com/breakthrough-session LISTEN ON:  → Apple Podcasts: https://podcasts.apple.com/au/podcast/save-my-marriage-podcast/id1596639860  → Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/2lo7rjkwnJADthIAgDO6wn?si=a5701812ef9e4b1a  → YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@astonsimmonds LEAVE A REVIEW:  If this episode helped you, a 5-star review on Apple Podcasts helps us reach more couples. Apple Podcasts → Save My Marriage Podcast → Ratings & Reviews → Write a Review. CONNECT:  → Instagram (Aston): https://www.instagram.com/aston_simmonds/  → Instagram (Adam): https://Instagram.com/adam__simmonds  → Facebook (Aston): https://www.facebook.com/coachastonsim...

Working away is hard on a marriage but it's not the FIFO arrangement destroying your connection, it's the missing plan. In this episode we break down exactly how high-achieving FIFO couples stay connected through fly in fly out work arrangements, and how to build a coming home agreement that actually works. In this episode: Why both partners in a FIFO relationship are struggling  and why fighting over "who has it harder" is a lose-lose battle The five minute coffee check in framework for long distance marriage communication that replaces logistics talk with real connection How to build a coming home agreement that stops the role-switching chaos and resentment when your partner walks back through the door Why missing each other is a gift in FIFO couples therapy  and how to use distance to bring back spark instead of letting it become a wedge ———— READY TO GO DEEPER? → Recreate Your Relationship Online (RYRO) — the starting point: https://recreateyourrelationship.com/online-3-part-series-928281 → Book a free Breakthrough Session with Adam: https://recreateyourrelationship.com/breakthrough-session ———— LISTEN ON: → Apple Podcasts: https://podcasts.apple.com/au/podcast/save-my-marriage-podcast/id1596639860 → Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/2lo7rjkwnJADthIAgDO6wn?si=a5701812ef9e4b1a → YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@astonsimmonds ———— LEAVE A REVIEW: If this episode helped you, a 5-star review on Apple Podcasts helps us reach more couples. Apple Podcasts → Save My Marriage Podcast → Ratings & Reviews → Write a Review. ———— CONNECT: → Instagram (Aston): https://www.instagram.com/aston_simmonds/ → Instagram (Adam): https://Instagram.com/adam__simmonds → Facebook (Aston): https://www.facebook.com/coachastonsimmonds → Facebook (Adam): https://www.facebook.com/AdamSimmonds11 → Website: https://savemymarriageschool.com/ READY TO GO DEEPER?  → Recreate Your Relationship Online (RYRO) — the starting point: https://recreateyourrelationship.com/online-3-part-series-928281  → Book a free Breakthrough Session with Adam: https://recreateyourrelationship.com/breakthrough-session LISTEN ON:  → Apple Podcasts: https://podcasts.apple.com/au/podcast/save-my-marriage-podcast/id1596639860  → Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/2lo7rjkwnJADthIAgDO6wn?si=a5701812ef9e4b1a  → YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@astonsimmonds LEAVE A REVIEW:  If this episode helped you, a 5-star review on Apple Podcasts helps us reach more couples. Apple Podcasts → Save My Marriage Podcast → Ratings & Reviews → Write a Review. CONNECT:  → Instagram (Aston): https://www.instagram.com/aston_simmonds/  → Instagram (Adam): https://Instagram.com/adam__simmonds  → Facebook (Aston): https://www.facebook.com/coachastonsim...

Menopause doesn't ruin marriages — silence does. In this episode, Adam and Aston Simmonds unpack why divorce rates and women's suicide rates both peak during menopause, and how emotional acceptance, compassion, and nervous system awareness can turn this transition into the making of your relationship instead of the end of it. In this episode: Why menopause removes your capacity to keep tolerating things that were already broken — not the cause of them The two very different experiences happening simultaneously for her and for him, and why neither is talking about it Why "it's just hormones" is the most damaging thing a husband can say — and what to say instead How feminine and masculine energy dynamics shift during menopause, and why surrender (not force) is the real strength How to move from criticism and blame back into compassion and curiosity as a couple READY TO GO DEEPER?  → Recreate Your Relationship Online (RYRO) — the starting point: https://recreateyourrelationship.com/online-3-part-series-928281  → Book a free Breakthrough Session with Adam: https://recreateyourrelationship.com/breakthrough-session LISTEN ON:  → Apple Podcasts: https://podcasts.apple.com/au/podcast/save-my-marriage-podcast/id1596639860  → Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/2lo7rjkwnJADthIAgDO6wn?si=a5701812ef9e4b1a  → YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@astonsimmonds LEAVE A REVIEW:  If this episode helped you, a 5-star review on Apple Podcasts helps us reach more couples. Apple Podcasts → Save My Marriage Podcast → Ratings & Reviews → Write a Review. CONNECT:  → Instagram (Aston): https://www.instagram.com/aston_simmonds/  → Instagram (Adam): https://Instagram.com/adam__simmonds  → Facebook (Aston): https://www.facebook.com/coachastonsim...

If you're carrying the mental load — planning, organizing, remembering everything — while your partner seems to do less and less, this episode names exactly why. Adam and Aston break down the over functioning under functioning dynamic and show you how to rebuild real partnership instead of silent resentment. In this episode: How the over functioning under functioning trap forms, and why it's perspective, not fact Why these patterns trace back to childhood roles and the beliefs that keep them alive The exercise Aston uses to reveal how much you're carrying that was never yours How control disguised as helping makes your partner feel like an employee READY TO GO DEEPER?  → Recreate Your Relationship Online (RYRO) — the starting point: https://recreateyourrelationship.com/online-3-part-series-928281  → Book a free Breakthrough Session with Adam: https://recreateyourrelationship.com/breakthrough-session LISTEN ON:  → Apple Podcasts: https://podcasts.apple.com/au/podcast/save-my-marriage-podcast/id1596639860  → Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/2lo7rjkwnJADthIAgDO6wn?si=a5701812ef9e4b1a  → YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@astonsimmonds LEAVE A REVIEW:  If this episode helped you, a 5-star review on Apple Podcasts helps us reach more couples. Apple Podcasts → Save My Marriage Podcast → Ratings & Reviews → Write a Review. CONNECT:  → Instagram (Aston): https://www.instagram.com/aston_simmonds/  → Instagram (Adam): https://Instagram.com/adam__simmonds  → Facebook (Aston): https://www.facebook.com/coachastonsim...

Tired of always being the first to say sorry after a fight? Adam and Aston explain why this pattern develops and share five steps to repair your relationship without waiting for your partner's apology. In this episode: - Why arguments turn into lasting resentment when you never repair - How childhood experiences shape the way you apologize or shut down - Five steps to acknowledge hurt, take responsibility and reconnect - How to validate your partner without agreeing or keeping score 00:00 Repairing after a fight 10:36 Why apologizing feels so hard 20:28 What repair really means 25:36 Five steps to repair and reconnect 28:39 Going first without keeping score READY TO GO DEEPER?  → Recreate Your Relationship Online (RYRO) — the starting point: https://recreateyourrelationship.com/online-3-part-series-928281  → Book a free Breakthrough Session with Adam: https://recreateyourrelationship.com/breakthrough-session LISTEN ON:  → Apple Podcasts: https://podcasts.apple.com/au/podcast/save-my-marriage-podcast/id1596639860  → Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/2lo7rjkwnJADthIAgDO6wn?si=a5701812ef9e4b1a  → YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@astonsimmonds LEAVE A REVIEW:  If this episode helped you, a 5-star review on Apple Podcasts helps us reach more couples. Apple Podcasts → Save My Marriage Podcast → Ratings & Reviews → Write a Review. CONNECT:  → Instagram (Aston): https://www.instagram.com/aston_simmonds/  → Instagram (Adam): https://Instagram.com/adam__simmonds  → Facebook (Aston): https://www.facebook.com/coachastonsim...

Perimenopause doesn't just change her body. It exposes everything your marriage has been tolerating for decades. If the rage, distance, and disconnection feel suddenly unsurvivable, this episode is for you. In this episode: - Why perimenopause doesn't create marriage problems. It reveals what was already there, and why hyper-independent women are hit hardest - How to shift from blame and labeling ("she's just hormonal") to curiosity and compassion. Why that shift changes everything - The move from complaints to positive requests: practical language that keeps your partner leaning in instead of shutting down - How the five-minute coffee check-in can rebuild daily connection fast and why doing nothing is the most dangerous choice you can make READY TO GO DEEPER?  → Recreate Your Relationship Online (RYRO) — the starting point: https://recreateyourrelationship.com/online-3-part-series-928281  → Book a free Breakthrough Session with Adam: https://recreateyourrelationship.com/breakthrough-session LISTEN ON:  → Apple Podcasts: https://podcasts.apple.com/au/podcast/save-my-marriage-podcast/id1596639860  → Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/2lo7rjkwnJADthIAgDO6wn?si=a5701812ef9e4b1a  → YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@astonsimmonds LEAVE A REVIEW:  If this episode helped you, a 5-star review on Apple Podcasts helps us reach more couples. Apple Podcasts → Save My Marriage Podcast → Ratings & Reviews → Write a Review. CONNECT:  → Instagram (Aston): https://www.instagram.com/aston_simmonds/  → Instagram (Adam): https://Instagram.com/adam__simmonds  → Facebook (Aston): https://www.facebook.com/coachastonsim...

Most couples asking "Should I get a divorce?" are actually asking the wrong question and that one shift in perspective can change everything. If your marriage feels hollow, disconnected, or like you're living as roommates, this episode is for you. In this episode: - Why "should I get a divorce?" is usually the wrong question and what to ask instead - How emotional disconnection builds silently over years through thousands of small moments, not one big event - Why therapy and counselling often leave couples more defeated and what actually creates change - Co-created patterns keeping you stuck, and how taking responsibility for your part breaks the cycle READY TO GO DEEPER?  → Recreate Your Relationship Online (RYRO) — the starting point: https://recreateyourrelationship.com/online-3-part-series-928281  → Book a free Breakthrough Session with Adam: https://recreateyourrelationship.com/breakthrough-session LISTEN ON:  → Apple Podcasts: https://podcasts.apple.com/au/podcast/save-my-marriage-podcast/id1596639860  → Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/2lo7rjkwnJADthIAgDO6wn?si=a5701812ef9e4b1a  → YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@astonsimmonds LEAVE A REVIEW:  If this episode helped you, a 5-star review on Apple Podcasts helps us reach more couples. Apple Podcasts → Save My Marriage Podcast → Ratings & Reviews → Write a Review. CONNECT:  → Instagram (Aston): https://www.instagram.com/aston_simmonds/  → Instagram (Adam): https://Instagram.com/adam__simmonds  → Facebook (Aston): https://www.facebook.com/coachastonsim...

Women in their 40s aren’t always leaving. Sometimes, they’re just checking out quietly. In this episode: - Why silence can be a bigger warning sign than arguing - How perimenopause can change what women are willing to tolerate - Why saying “I love you” isn’t the same as showing care - What to ask yourself if your marriage feels disconnected READY TO GO DEEPER?  → Recreate Your Relationship Online (RYRO) — the starting point: https://recreateyourrelationship.com/online-3-part-series-928281  → Book a free Breakthrough Session with Adam: https://recreateyourrelationship.com/breakthrough-session LISTEN ON:  → Apple Podcasts: https://podcasts.apple.com/au/podcast/save-my-marriage-podcast/id1596639860  → Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/2lo7rjkwnJADthIAgDO6wn?si=a5701812ef9e4b1a  → YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@astonsimmonds LEAVE A REVIEW:  If this episode helped you, a 5-star review on Apple Podcasts helps us reach more couples. Apple Podcasts → Save My Marriage Podcast → Ratings & Reviews → Write a Review. CONNECT:  → Instagram (Aston): https://www.instagram.com/aston_simmonds/  → Instagram (Adam): https://Instagram.com/adam__simmonds  → Facebook (Aston): https://www.facebook.com/coachastonsim...

Most couples hit a wall, both waiting for the other to move first. This episode names the gridlock, explains why it keeps high-achieving couples stuck for years, and shows you exactly how to break it. In this episode: Why waiting for your partner to change first keeps you both stuck The chicken-and-egg problem between emotional and physical intimacy What “going first” looks like without sacrificing your standards Why loving someone the way you want to be loved can miss the mark, and how the “princess passenger” technique changes that READY TO GO DEEPER?  → Recreate Your Relationship Online (RYRO) — the starting point: https://recreateyourrelationship.com/online-3-part-series-928281  → Book a free Breakthrough Session with Adam: https://recreateyourrelationship.com/breakthrough-session LISTEN ON:  → Apple Podcasts: https://podcasts.apple.com/au/podcast/save-my-marriage-podcast/id1596639860  → Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/2lo7rjkwnJADthIAgDO6wn?si=a5701812ef9e4b1a  → YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@astonsimmonds LEAVE A REVIEW:  If this episode helped you, a 5-star review on Apple Podcasts helps us reach more couples. Apple Podcasts → Save My Marriage Podcast → Ratings & Reviews → Write a Review. CONNECT:  → Instagram (Aston): https://www.instagram.com/aston_simmonds/  → Instagram (Adam): https://Instagram.com/adam__simmonds  → Facebook (Aston): https://www.facebook.com/coachastonsim...

Your wife says she doesn't trust you but you've never cheated, you work hard, and you show up for your family. This episode breaks down why men and women define trust differently, and what it actually takes to rebuild emotional safety in marriage. In this episode: Why saying “I’ve never cheated” doesn’t actually address what she’s worried about when she says she can’t trust youHow promising too much and following through too little slowly breaks trust — and how to change thatHow being emotionally present, keeping your word, and taking responsibility help a woman feel safe and trust youWhy independent women can have a hard time accepting support, and how learning to rely on each other can make the relationship stronger READY TO GO DEEPER?  → Recreate Your Relationship Online (RYRO) — the starting point: https://recreateyourrelationship.com/online-3-part-series-928281  → Book a free Breakthrough Session with Adam: https://recreateyourrelationship.com/breakthrough-session LISTEN ON:  → Apple Podcasts: https://podcasts.apple.com/au/podcast/save-my-marriage-podcast/id1596639860  → Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/2lo7rjkwnJADthIAgDO6wn?si=a5701812ef9e4b1a  → YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@astonsimmonds LEAVE A REVIEW:  If this episode helped you, a 5-star review on Apple Podcasts helps us reach more couples. Apple Podcasts → Save My Marriage Podcast → Ratings & Reviews → Write a Review. CONNECT:  → Instagram (Aston): https://www.instagram.com/aston_simmonds/  → Instagram (Adam): https://Instagram.com/adam__simmonds  → Facebook (Aston): https://www.facebook.com/coachastonsim...

Most high-achieving couples have built everything — except a marriage they actually enjoy. This episode is about breaking that pattern with a two-day immersive couples retreat designed to rebuild real connection and intimacy. 📂 THE RECREATE YOUR RELATIONSHIP EXPERIENCE™ https://recreateyourrelationship.com/weekend-perth-852731 In this episode: Why successful couples still end up living like roommates and what's actually keeping them stuckThe truth about marriage skills: why willpower and date nights aren't enough, and what to do insteadWhat happens inside the Recreate Your Relationship two-day experience (day-by-day breakdown)Why getting in the right room with the right couples changes your relationship thermostat permanentlyREADY TO GO DEEPER?  → Recreate Your Relationship Online (RYRO) — the starting point: https://recreateyourrelationship.com/online-3-part-series-928281  → Book a free Breakthrough Session with Adam: https://recreateyourrelationship.com/breakthrough-session LISTEN ON:  → Apple Podcasts: https://podcasts.apple.com/au/podcast/save-my-marriage-podcast/id1596639860  → Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/2lo7rjkwnJADthIAgDO6wn?si=a5701812ef9e4b1a  → YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@astonsimmonds LEAVE A REVIEW:  If this episode helped you, a 5-star review on Apple Podcasts helps us reach more couples. Apple Podcasts → Save My Marriage Podcast → Ratings & Reviews → Write a Review. CONNECT:  → Instagram (Aston): https://www.instagram.com/aston_simmonds/  → Instagram (Adam): https://Instagram.com/adam__simmonds  → Facebook (Aston): https://www.facebook.com/coachastonsim...

Most couples mistake distance for indifference. This episode names what's actually happening when your husband goes silent — and why chasing him makes it worse. In this episode: Why avoidant men are driven by deep insecurity — not a lack of care How fight-flight-freeze-fawn shuts down the prefrontal cortex mid-conversation Why pursuing an avoidant partner reinforces the exact pattern you want to break The mindset shift that creates space for real change — for both of you READY TO GO DEEPER?  → Recreate Your Relationship Online (RYRO) — the starting point: https://recreateyourrelationship.com/online-3-part-series-928281  → Book a free Breakthrough Session with Adam: https://recreateyourrelationship.com/breakthrough-session LISTEN ON:  → Apple Podcasts: https://podcasts.apple.com/au/podcast/save-my-marriage-podcast/id1596639860  → Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/2lo7rjkwnJADthIAgDO6wn?si=a5701812ef9e4b1a  → YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@astonsimmonds LEAVE A REVIEW:  If this episode helped you, a 5-star review on Apple Podcasts helps us reach more couples. Apple Podcasts → Save My Marriage Podcast → Ratings & Reviews → Write a Review. CONNECT:  → Instagram (Aston): https://www.instagram.com/aston_simmonds/  → Instagram (Adam): https://Instagram.com/adam__simmonds  → Facebook (Aston): https://www.facebook.com/coachastonsim...

Most couples aren't struggling with affection because one partner is "just not affectionate" they're struggling because of childhood attachment patterns that rewired how safety and closeness feel. This episode breaks down the hidden reason affection disappears in marriage and gives you a practical path back to real connection. In this episode: Why affection avoidance is a protective strategy formed in childhood — not a personality trait — and how to recognise it in yourself or your partner The pursuit-withdrawal dynamic that turns affection into a battlefield, including how anxious attachment and hypervigilance make it worse How Adam went from being physically uncomfortable holding hands in public to completely rewiring that blueprint — and what that process actually looked like The 1% behavioural shifts that rebuild affection safely, and why demanding more affection always creates the opposite result. READY TO GO DEEPER?  → Recreate Your Relationship Online (RYRO) — the starting point: https://recreateyourrelationship.com/online-3-part-series-928281  → Book a free Breakthrough Session with Adam: https://recreateyourrelationship.com/breakthrough-session LISTEN ON:  → Apple Podcasts: https://podcasts.apple.com/au/podcast/save-my-marriage-podcast/id1596639860  → Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/2lo7rjkwnJADthIAgDO6wn?si=a5701812ef9e4b1a  → YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@astonsimmonds LEAVE A REVIEW:  If this episode helped you, a 5-star review on Apple Podcasts helps us reach more couples. Apple Podcasts → Save My Marriage Podcast → Ratings & Reviews → Write a Review. CONNECT:  → Instagram (Aston): https://www.instagram.com/aston_simmonds/  → Instagram (Adam): https://Instagram.com/adam__simmonds  → Facebook (Aston): https://www.facebook.com/coachastonsim...