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Send JKO a Text Message Messy Can’t Stop Her is taking a short break to prepare for Season 11, and JKO invites listeners to stay connected and look forward to a meaningful new season inspired by 55 years of reflections.   If Messy Can’t Stop Her blesses or inspires you, please consider supporting it at supportmessycantstopher.buzzsprout.com. Thank you for being part of this journey. If you would love to share your story on the #MessyCantStopHer podcast, click here to let me know.   Thank you so much for listening.    Music Credit:  https://indiefy.me/wanted-carter

Send JKO a Text Message Is God a figment of your imagination? JKO answers this question as she shares shares worship, encouragement and gratitude for her birthday on April 29.   If Messy Can’t Stop Her blesses or inspires you, please consider supporting it at supportmessycantstopher.buzzsprout.com. Thank you for being part of this journey. If you would love to share your story on the #MessyCantStopHer podcast, click here to let me know.   Thank you so much for listening.    Music Credit:  https://indiefy.me/wanted-carter

Send JKO a Text Message Am struggling with the direction of this podcast and I need your help. This show was created to encourage women in difficult intimate relationships, especially those who are not able to leave. But lately, my heart has also been pulling me toward a deeper conversation about how these environments affect children. I would truly love your thoughts after you listen.  References  Living in the Trenches with Legacy in Mind   If Messy Can’t Stop Her blesses or inspires you, please consider supporting it at supportmessycantstopher.buzzsprout.com. Thank you for being part of this journey. If you would love to share your story on the #MessyCantStopHer podcast, click here to let me know.   Thank you so much for listening.    Music Credit:  https://indiefy.me/wanted-carter

Send JKO a Text Message What if authenticity is only welcomed when it makes other people comfortable? JKO explores the hidden cost of being real, especially for women whose lives do not fit polished expectations. If you’re a woman interested in finding safe community without losing yourself, this episode is for you. Key scriptures: Proverbs 27:17, Proverbs 18:24, Proverbs 21:1 References How to Build Trust After Repeated Betrayals Don’t Lose Your Capacity to Love   Picture on cover developed in Canva.  If Messy Can’t Stop Her blesses or inspires you, please consider supporting it at supportmessycantstopher.buzzsprout.com. Thank you for being part of this journey. If you would love to share your story on the #MessyCantStopHer podcast, click here to let me know.   Thank you so much for listening.    Music Credit:  https://indiefy.me/wanted-carter

Send JKO a Text Message JKO uses a touching rework of Kenny Rogers’ Through the Years to remind listeners that God is faithful, present, and able to carry us through emotional and spiritual battles. If you’ve ever experienced difficult seasons where you’ve had to fight despair, and wrestle peace, this episode is for you.  Nuggets of wisdom in this episode  Peace has to be fought for intentionally sometimes  Worship can become a weapon when despair is trying to settle on your mind  Looking back at God’s faithfulness can strengthen you to face the present  When you cannot see clearly, remember how far God has already brought you.  A rewrite of Kenny Rogers’ Through the Years  Key scriptures: Isaiah 26:3, Ephesians 6:12, Romans 8:28   If Messy Can’t Stop Her blesses or inspires you, please consider supporting it at supportmessycantstopher.buzzsprout.com. Thank you for being part of this journey. If you would love to share your story on the #MessyCantStopHer podcast, click here to let me know.   Thank you so much for listening.    Music Credit:  https://indiefy.me/wanted-carter

Send JKO a Text Message This Holy Thursday, JKO reflects on the women of Easter and what their stories reveal about the heart of Jesus toward women. This tender reminder that women are not an afterthought is for every woman who has ever felt unseen, dismissed, or unimportant.  Nugget of wisdom in this episode  You are not an afterthought  Key scriptures: Mathew 27, 28; Mark 15, 16; Luke 8, 10, 11; John 11, 12, 20   If Messy Can’t Stop Her blesses or inspires you, please consider supporting it at supportmessycantstopher.buzzsprout.com. Thank you for being part of this journey. If you would love to share your story on the #MessyCantStopHer podcast, click here to let me know.   Thank you so much for listening.    Music Credit:  https://indiefy.me/wanted-carter

Send JKO a Text Message A woman can lose her capacity to love in the trenches of pain, betrayal, shame, guilt, and repeated disappointment. In this episode, JKO shares tips on how to protect your heart from becoming hardened by what you have been through. If you’re a woman who has noticed that life has made her more irritable, more guarded, more critical, or more difficult to get along with, this episode is for you. Nuggets of wisdom in this episode How pain changes the way we love The overflow effect of bitterness Protecting your heart without losing tenderness Rebuilding your love capacity with God’s help Key scriptures: Hebrews 12:15, Ephesians 4:31–32, Proverbs 4:23    If Messy Can’t Stop Her blesses or inspires you, please consider supporting it at supportmessycantstopher.buzzsprout.com. Thank you for being part of this journey. If you would love to share your story on the #MessyCantStopHer podcast, click here to let me know.   Thank you so much for listening.    Music Credit:  https://indiefy.me/wanted-carter

Send JKO a Text Message When life feels like one long crisis, how do you keep believing God? In this episode, JKO talks about how to hold on to faith during betrayal, crisis, loneliness, and long seasons of hardship. If you are a woman who has been navigating challenges for a while, this episode is for you.  Nuggets of wisdom in this episode  Faith is confidence in God’s character when your circumstances are confusing. You do not have to fake strength to have faith. You may be in the furnace, but God has not abandoned you in it. Faith is sometimes as simple as refusing to compromise.  Key Scriptures: Habakkuk 3:16-18, Daniel 3, Hebrews 11:1, Romans 5:3–5, Isaiah 43:2  Safety Note: Please use these ideas in a way that feels right and safe for your situation. For personal support, reach out to someone you trust or a local service in your area.  Picture on cover developed in Canva.   If Messy Can’t Stop Her blesses or inspires you, please consider supporting it at supportmessycantstopher.buzzsprout.com. Thank you for being part of this journey. If you would love to share your story on the #MessyCantStopHer podcast, click here to let me know.   Thank you so much for listening.    Music Credit:  https://indiefy.me/wanted-carter

Send JKO a Text Message An honest and compassionate conversation about inherited shame, colonized thinking, and the importance of self-reflection. JKO discusses how intergenerational shame affects who a woman becomes, what she accepts in relationships, and how she can pass it down to the ones she loves most.  If you have ever wondered where your struggle originated from, this episode will help you think more deeply about identity, healing, and the freedom that comes when a woman stops rejecting herself.  Nuggets of wisdom in this episode  Colonization also affects identity and how people see themselves.  Shame can be inherited through families, communities, institutions, and repeated messages.  Shame can make a woman struggle in relationships.  Women do not have to keep passing down what wounded them.   If Messy Can’t Stop Her blesses or inspires you, please consider supporting it at supportmessycantstopher.buzzsprout.com. Thank you for being part of this journey. If you would love to share your story on the #MessyCantStopHer podcast, click here to let me know.   Thank you so much for listening.    Music Credit:  https://indiefy.me/wanted-carter

Send JKO a Text Message This International Women’s Day special examines how some women manage to rise in spite of difficult and even abusive relationships. JKO highlights the importance of women’s support systems, the courage it takes to leave harmful environments, and the quiet strategy some women use to build a path to safety and stability. The episode is both a reflection and an encouragement to women in hard places. Nuggets of wisdom in this episode The role of community in helping women survive hard conditions. A grounded explanation of “ajo” and women’s informal support systems. The importance of planning for women who cannot move right away. An example of a Canadian woman who used long-term planning to secure a safer future for herself and her children.  Safety Note: Please use these ideas in a way that feels right and safe for your situation. For personal support, reach out to someone you trust or a local service in your area.  Picture on cover developed in Canva.  If Messy Can’t Stop Her blesses or inspires you, please consider supporting it at supportmessycantstopher.buzzsprout.com. Thank you for being part of this journey. If you would love to share your story on the #MessyCantStopHer podcast, click here to let me know.   Thank you so much for listening.    Music Credit:  https://indiefy.me/wanted-carter

Send JKO a Text Message An unequal yoke is a relationship marked by misalignment, and women in such situations often pay a huge price for staying in it. JKO discusses the impact of unequal yokes and ways that a woman can protect herself in such a situation.  Nuggets of wisdom in this episode  What it means to be unequally yoked in a relationship  The price of an unequal yoke  How to know if you are unequally yoked  What to do if you are unequally yoked  Key scripture: 2 Corinthians 6:12  References  Why Some Smart Women Stay in Abuse  Integrity Music's Lionel Peterson - Peace lyric video  Unveiling Your Core - Values Worksheet  Safety Note: Please use these ideas in a way that feels right and safe for your situation. For personal support, reach out to someone you trust or a local service in your area.  Picture on cover developed in Canva.   If Messy Can’t Stop Her blesses or inspires you, please consider supporting it at supportmessycantstopher.buzzsprout.com. Thank you for being part of this journey. If you would love to share your story on the #MessyCantStopHer podcast, click here to let me know.   Thank you so much for listening.    Music Credit:  https://indiefy.me/wanted-carter

Send JKO a Text Message If you’ve been betrayed repeatedly, it’s not easy to trust again, especially when the betrayal came from someone you depended on. This episode is for the woman who feels lonely, cautious, and tired of being used. We talk about the Trust Ladder, how to spot safe people by patterns, and a lesson from 1 Kings 13 about misplaced trust. Nuggets of wisdom in this episode Trust is layers and patterns over time. The 4 Cs that prove a person is trustworthy. Loneliness makes you vulnerable to wrong counsel. God’s Word is your safest guide. Key scriptures: Matthew 10:16, Proverbs 4:23, Proverbs 27:12, Psalm 118:8, 1 Kings 13 References Betrayal Trauma: The Impact of Being Betrayed  How to Stop Hustling for Love  Safety Note: Please use these ideas in a way that feels right and safe for your situation. For personal support, reach out to someone you trust or a local service in your area.  Picture on cover developed in Canva.  If Messy Can’t Stop Her blesses or inspires you, please consider supporting it at supportmessycantstopher.buzzsprout.com. Thank you for being part of this journey. If you would love to share your story on the #MessyCantStopHer podcast, click here to let me know.   Thank you so much for listening.    Music Credit:  https://indiefy.me/wanted-carter

Send JKO a Text Message Valentine’s season can be sweet… or sour. So this is not a romance episode, but a reset episode. Last week we talked about self compassion in the place of self-occupation, that inner courtroom of harsh self-talk. Today we continue with two practical paths to indoor and outdoor reset for physical and mental healing. If you’ve been carrying stress in your body and shame in your mind, this episode is for you.  References It's not Sephora, but Bath and Body Works Shower Steamers  If Messy Can’t Stop Her blesses or inspires you, please consider supporting it at supportmessycantstopher.buzzsprout.com. Thank you for being part of this journey. If you would love to share your story on the #MessyCantStopHer podcast, click here to let me know.   Thank you so much for listening.    Music Credit:  https://indiefy.me/wanted-carter

Send JKO a Text Message Women’s bodies go through changes in the course of their lives, but in the trenches, these changes from pregnancy, childbirth, stress, or trauma can feel like grief. Many women judge themselves for the weight, scars and visible reminders of survival that they carry. If you recognize this feeling, this episode is for you. JKO calls you out of that inner courtroom of relentless “self-occupation” and harsh self-blame, into self-compassion.  Nuggets of wisdom in this episode  The grief of body change is not vanity  The changes from child-birth and c-sections  Do not join “the committee” of judgement against yourself  Why self-compassion is not self-indulgence  Key Scriptures: Psalm 139:14, Romans 8:1, Matthew 11:28  References  Fascia cut after c-section is not Dr. Eric Berg but Dr. Bobbie Price's video about cellulite removal Bessel van der Kolk’s book, The Body Keeps the Score  Safety Note: Please use these ideas in a way that feels right and safe for your situation. For personal support, reach out to someone you trust or a local service in your area.  Picture on cover developed in Canva.   If Messy Can’t Stop Her blesses or inspires you, please consider supporting it at supportmessycantstopher.buzzsprout.com. Thank you for being part of this journey. If you would love to share your story on the #MessyCantStopHer podcast, click here to let me know.   Thank you so much for listening.    Music Credit:  https://indiefy.me/wanted-carter

Send JKO a Text Message Every decision has a price and a prize, and they rarely happen in perfect conditions. Most times, we decide under pressure, with limited information, and moving pieces. JKO explains the trade-offs women making hard choices in the trenches face and breaks down why constant “re-deciding” can steal your peace.  Nuggets of wisdom in this episode  Hindsight is not wisdomSome correct decisions still hurtDecision trade-offs don’t make you a hero or a failureA simple 6-step decision process God can still bring good out of what you didn’t fully understandKey Scriptures: Proverbs 3:5–6, Romans 8:28, Genesis 50:20, Lamentations 3:22–23   Safety Note: Please use these ideas in a way that feels right and safe for your situation. For personal support, reach out to someone you trust or a local service in your area. Picture on cover developed in Canva.    If Messy Can’t Stop Her blesses or inspires you, please consider supporting it at supportmessycantstopher.buzzsprout.com. Thank you for being part of this journey. If you would love to share your story on the #MessyCantStopHer podcast, click here to let me know.   Thank you so much for listening.    Music Credit:  https://indiefy.me/wanted-carter