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🎙️Divorce myths debunked: what you really need to know🎙️  When you’re starting out in divorce, you’ll hear a lot of phrases thrown around. Things like ‘just get a quickie divorce’, ‘she took him to the cleaners’ and ‘divorce always ends in a court battle’. This can be overwhelming, and often cause panic. But the reality is very different.  In this episode, family lawyer Liza Gatrell and divorce coach Kate Nestor look at the most common myths they hear about divorce and separation. They spend time explaining where the myths have come from, but unravelling them so you can know the truth about divorce from the experts who see it every day.  00:20 Introductions  02:20 Understanding that there is an element of control in divorce 04:59 You and your spouse will be in different emotional places 05:45 Why are there divorce misconceptions? 06:05 Do mums always get custody of the children? 09:29 The importance of the male voice  10:40 Should pensions be included in divorce finances? 16:32 Is divorce always expensive and a long process? 17:01 How to ensure divorce is cheaper and quicker 20:13 The value of using a lawyer for parts of divorce 21:48 Do you have to use a lawyer for every part of the divorce process? 22:30 Do I need a financial settlement if we don’t have any assets? 24:50 Can I get a quickie divorce? How long does divorce take? 27:00 Dividing assets in divorce isn’t necessarily 50/50 32:22 The emotional vs financial value of the family home 34:13 Looking to the future  Useful links Do mums always get custody? https://youtube.com/shorts/sQNhO4XFQPY Divorce myths debunked: I’m in a common law marriage https://www.stowefamilylaw.co.uk/stowe-support/debunking-divorce-myths-im-in-a-common-law-marriage/ Divorce myths debunked: I can get a quickie divorce https://www.stowefamilylaw.co.uk/stowe-support/debunking-divorce-myths-i-can-get-a-quickie-divorce/  Are pensions included in divorce settlements? https://youtube.com/shorts/E5i29sHrf1A  If you need support with the issues raised in this podcast, or would like to speak to a family lawyer, contact Stowe at: https://bit.ly/35WPSj2 Join our list to get the latest from our lawyers, divorce coaches and relationship experts sent monthly to your inbox. Everything you need, in one  🔎 Access further free resources to help you through a relationship breakdown and beyond at Stowe support. Instagram https://www.instagram.com/stowefamilylawuk  TikTok https://www.tiktok.com/@lifelovelawpodcast  Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/stowefamilylaw  LinkedIn - https://www.linkedin.com/company/stowe-family-law/  YouTube - https://www.youtube.com/c/StoweFamilyLaw1 This podcast is brought to you by the Stowe talks team at Stowe Family Law - https://www.stowefamilylaw.co.uk/

🎙️Can my ex stop me from seeing my child?🎙️ When you’re going through divorce or separation as a parent, your children’s wellbeing is going to be the first thing on your mind. It’s natural to have worries and even fears about what the future holds. Some parents are able to work out post-separation arrangements between themselves, while others struggle. This can raise concerns about whether your ex can stop you from seeing your child. In this episode, Liza and Emily break down how child arrangements work, focusing on what’s in the best interests of the child, and look at whether your ex can prevent contact. Hint: it's almost always a no! 00:18 Introductions 00:47 Can your ex actually stop you from seeing your child? 01:32 The relevance of safeguarding concerns in child arrangements 03:02 How can child contact take place safely where there are safeguarding concerns? 06:01 Options for parents to negotiate arrangements outside of court 08:12 Stepparent options in custody arrangements 10:40 Can I move away with my children after divorce? 15:42 Are the children’s wishes and feelings considered? 18:25 How can children’s wishes be conveyed within decision-making? Useful resources Children and the family court https://youtu.be/-UIFNBYDYC0  Navigating divorce with SEND children https://open.spotify.com/episode/2vRFjJ6ogPSdxuun2r68Ki?si=e38749de0a4e4371 What happens when an unmarried couple with children split up? https://www.stowefamilylaw.co.uk/stowe-support/unmarried-couple-with-children-split-up/  Emergency court order: a guide to urgent family orders https://www.stowefamilylaw.co.uk/stowe-support/emergency-court-order/  How to get a Prohibited Steps Order https://youtu.be/W-bvdF1qbgw  Debunking divorce myths: mums always get custody https://www.stowefamilylaw.co.uk/stowe-support/debunking-divorce-myths-mums-always-get-custody/ If you need support with the issues raised in this podcast, or would like to speak to a family lawyer, contact Stowe at: https://bit.ly/35WPSj2 Join our list to get the latest from our lawyers, divorce coaches and relationship experts sent monthly to your inbox. Everything you need, in one  🔎 Access further free resources to help you through a relationship breakdown and beyond at Stowe support. Instagram https://www.instagram.com/stowefamilylawuk  TikTok https://www.tiktok.com/@lifelovelawpodcast  Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/stowefamilylaw  LinkedIn - https://www.linkedin.com/company/stowe-family-law/  YouTube - https://www.youtube.com/c/StoweFamilyLaw1 This podcast is brought to you by the Stowe talks team at Stowe Family Law - https://www.stowefamilylaw.co.uk/

🎙️What counts as matrimonial property in divorce?🎙️ Is everything split 50/50 in divorce? Well, sometimes! But most of the time, it’s not quite as black and white as that. In financial settlement discussions, separating couples and their lawyers need to understand what is ‘matrimonial’ and ‘non-matrimonial’, who gets what and is it a fair division based on the needs of each person. In this episode, Liza and her colleague Emily discuss what actually counts as matrimonial property, i.e. assets that are available for division, and what happens to ringfenced assets. They talk about the Supreme Court judgment in Standish v Standish and changing case law on ‘matrimonialisation’, reminding listeners that whatever happens, you will not be left destitute. 00:18 Introductions 1:05 What is matrimonial property and how does it work in divorce settlements? 03:31 How are pensions considered in divorce? 04:56 A discussion of inheritance and financial gifts in divorce settlements 06:17 Can businesses be ringfenced? 08:03 A discussion of Standish v Standish and laws around matrimonial property and ringfencing 12:36 Protecting assets going into or within a marriage 14:35 The importance of fairness in divorce settlements 18:02 Red flags in discussions with your ex 20:55 Protecting your long term financial future Does the law on finances in divorce need to be reformed? https://www.stowefamilylaw.co.uk/stowe-support/divorce-finance-reform/ Is everything split 50/50 in divorce? https://www.stowefamilylaw.co.uk/stowe-support/is-everything-split-50-50-in-divorce/  What is a financial settlement and how does it work? https://www.stowefamilylaw.co.uk/stowe-support/what-is-a-financial-settlement-and-how-does-it-work/  What am I entitled to in a divorce settlement? https://www.stowefamilylaw.co.uk/stowe-support/what-am-i-entitled-to-in-a-divorce-settlement/  How to prepare for your financial settlement https://studio.youtube.com/video/4x4oKDCwDWg/edit  How is inheritance dealt with in divorce? https://open.spotify.com/episode/76eAKtJuIEm3ALk7EOqzy9?si=ac7a75c492934186  If you need support with the issues raised in this podcast, or would like to speak to a family lawyer, contact Stowe at: https://bit.ly/35WPSj2 Join our list to get the latest from our lawyers, divorce coaches and relationship experts sent monthly to your inbox. Everything you need, in one  🔎 Access further free resources to help you through a relationship breakdown and beyond at Stowe support. Instagram https://www.instagram.com/stowefamilylawuk  TikTok https://www.tiktok.com/@lifelovelawpodcast  Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/stowefamilylaw  LinkedIn - https://www.linkedin.com/company/stowe-family-law/  YouTube - https://www.youtube.com/c/StoweFamilyLaw1 This podcast is brought to you by the Stowe talks team at Stowe Family Law - https://www.stowefamilylaw.co.uk/

🎙️What to expect at the family court🎙️ Going to the family court can feel incredibly daunting. We all have visions of large rooms filled with judgemental onlookers, and judges with gavels. But the reality of the family court in the UK is very different. In this episode, Liza speaks to her colleague Shivi Rajput about what to expect at the family court - what does it look like, what should you wear, can you take other people, should you take food? Shivi and Liza discuss how many family law cases really go to court, and how you can avoid it. 00:17 Introduction  0:55 What is the family court? Explanation of the family courts in England and Wales 03:20 What does a court physically look like? 04:45 The different types of hearing within children proceedings 07:02 How do financial proceedings work in the family court? 08:54 The importance of trying to settle disputes out of court 10:59 Practical tips for going to court 12:46 Do you need to speak to a judge at court? 14:03 Understanding litigants in person in family court proceedings 15:50 Practical protection for victims of domestic abuse 17:26 Can I do a remote hearing if I live far away? 19:10 Will the judge speak to children? 21:06 Top tips for dealing with a family law dispute Useful links How to settle a divorce out of court https://www.stowefamilylaw.co.uk/family-law/divorce/dissolving-a-civil-partnership/  The FDR hearing and the first appointment: what you need to know https://www.stowefamilylaw.co.uk/stowe-support/the-fdr-hearing-and-the-first-appointment-what-you-need-to-know/  Preparing for family court https://www.stowefamilylaw.co.uk/stowe-support/preparing-for-family-court/  How to manage financial hearings in the family court https://youtu.be/pAhP_73DETY?si=aqE5J4jSpb1-Tk4A  Children in the family court https://open.spotify.com/episode/4bfBCfFnqxTVD24MO2M5AV?si=764a606bce3a41f7  If you need support with the issues raised in this podcast, or would like to speak to a family lawyer, contact Stowe at: https://bit.ly/35WPSj2 Join our list to get the latest from our lawyers, divorce coaches and relationship experts sent monthly to your inbox. Everything you need, in one  🔎 Access further free resources to help you through a relationship breakdown and beyond at Stowe support. Instagram https://www.instagram.com/stowefamilylawuk  TikTok https://www.tiktok.com/@lifelovelawpodcast  Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/stowefamilylaw  LinkedIn - https://www.linkedin.com/company/stowe-family-law/  YouTube - https://www.youtube.com/c/StoweFamilyLaw1 This podcast is brought to you by the Stowe talks team at Stowe Family Law - https://www.stowefamilylaw.co.uk/

🎙️How does neurodiversity affect relationships and breakups?🎙️ Neurodiversity, as Dr Angharad Rudkin, experienced Clinical Psychologist, explains, refers to the natural variation in how brains work and process information. This can mean that, in some relationships, neurodivergent individuals face different challenges than those experienced by neurotypical people. These unique challenges can manifest in stressful situations, such as adding children to a family, or divorce or separation. In this episode, Liza Gatrell speaks to Dr Angharad about how neurodiversity can impact relationships and relationship breakdowns, both from the perspective of neurodivergent adults and neurodivergent children. They explore the impact, as well as offering insight into how to work with neurodiversity, not against it. 00:26 Welcome and introductions 1:45 What is neurodiversity? 2:33 Is neurodiversity becoming a buzzword or is there better awareness? 5:09 The different ways neurodiversity can manifest 6:21 How do different neurodiversities impact relationships and parenting? 10:39 Relationship breakdowns between neurotypical and neurodiverse partners 13:14 Understanding how neurotypical can support a neurodivergent partner 14:36 Additional challenges faced in separations involving neurodiversities 17:28 Strategies to help manage the stress of separation 18:51 Telling your lawyer about your neurodiversity 21:25 Supporting neurodiverse children through separation  27:11 How to tell children you’re separating  31:26 Where to get extra support as a neurodivergent individual through separation 32:47 Talking to your lawyer about what help you need  39:45 It’s ok to be different  Useful links  Coping with divorce as a neurodivergent individual https://youtu.be/EQUikkUVaLA?si=8WHMNsKSvpS1NkBI Parenting after divorce or separation https://youtu.be/vlvi_O08INY?si=Gdk5H9-I6OL3b3MS  Supporting neurodiverse children through divorce https://youtu.be/Wyuv-sFlRT4?si=wPSNYS-q557Bei5J  Guide to creating a parenting plan https://www.stowefamilylaw.co.uk/premium-content/?type=guide&item=creating-a-parenting-plan  Parenting plan template https://www.stowefamilylaw.co.uk/wp-content/uploads/2025/10/SFL_Premium-handbook-Parenting-plan-template.pdf  How to have difficult conversations and avoid arguments https://www.stowefamilylaw.co.uk/stowe-support/how-to-have-a-difficult-conversation-and-avoid-arguments/  If you need support with the issues raised in this podcast, or would like to speak to a family lawyer, contact Stowe at: https://bit.ly/35WPSj2  Join our email list to get the latest from our lawyers, divorce coaches and relationship experts sent monthly to your inbox. Everything you need, in one place https://mailchi.mp/69a5d247d3ba/stowetalks 🔎 Access further free resources to help you through a relationship breakdown and beyond at Stowe Support https://bit.ly/41heUWN  🎧 Listen to our podcast on Spotify - https://spoti.fi/3L6VFcE  🎬 Watch on YouTube - https://bit.ly/3Mwa4wG  Follow us on socials TikTok https://www.tiktok.com/@lifelovelawpodcast?lang=en  Instagram https://www.instagram.com/stowefamilylawuk  If you need support with the issues raised in this podcast, or would like to speak to a family lawyer, contact Stowe at: https://bit.ly/35WPSj2 Join our list to get the latest from our lawyers, divorce coaches and relationship experts sent monthly to your inbox. Everything you need, in one  🔎 Access further free resources to help you through a relationship breakdown and beyond at Stowe support. Instagram https://www.instagram.com/stowefamilylawuk  TikTok https://www.tiktok.com/@lifelovelawpodcast  Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/stowefamilylaw  LinkedIn - https://www.linkedin.com/company/stowe-family-law/  YouTube - https://www.youtube.com/c/StoweFamilyLaw1 This podcast is brought to you by the Stowe talks team at Stowe Family Law - https://www.stowefamilylaw.co.uk/

🎙️Does adultery affect divorce in the UK?🎙️ Adultery doesn’t always cause the breakdown of a relationship, there are ways to repair after infidelity. But when a couple decides that their marriage or partnership has come to an end after an affair, the main question people ask is ‘does adultery affect divorce’. The reality is that legally speaking, no it doesn’t. In this episode, host Liza Gatrell is joined by her colleague Emily Beven, a UK divorce lawyer based in Reading to discuss adultery and divorce. In what circumstances might an affair impact a divorce settlement or child arrangements? Find out in the episode. 00:17 Introductions 00:38 How does no-fault divorce impact divorce proceedings? 02:00 Are there any circumstances when adultery might be taken into account in divorce 03:35 Cases where ‘conduct’ has impacted financial settlements  04:54 Reframing how to deal with resentment against an ex-partner 06:47 What happens if the adulterer has a new partner? 09:57 Top tips for divorcing after an affair Useful links Adultery and divorce https://www.stowefamilylaw.co.uk/family-law/divorce/adultery-and-divorce/  Top myths about divorce and affairs https://www.stowefamilylaw.co.uk/stowe-support/adultery-and-divorce-the-top-ten-myths/  What should I do if my spouse is having an affair? https://www.stowefamilylaw.co.uk/stowe-support/what-should-i-do-if-my-husband-wife-is-having-an-affair-2/  Keeping children in the centre - not the middle - of divorce and separation https://www.stowefamilylaw.co.uk/stowe-support/keeping-children-at-the-centre-not-the-middle-of-separation-and-divorce/ Navigating the conversation: telling your children about your new partner https://www.stowefamilylaw.co.uk/stowe-support/navigating-the-conversation-telling-your-children-about-your-new-partner-after-divorce/  Life after an affair: divorce and blended families https://open.spotify.com/episode/37l9HFDZj0BmxH37QEJWd3?si=a5650db3aba645d1 If you need support with the issues raised in this podcast, or would like to speak to a family lawyer, contact Stowe at: https://bit.ly/35WPSj2  Join our email list to get the latest from our lawyers, divorce coaches and relationship experts sent monthly to your inbox. Everything you need, in one place https://mailchi.mp/69a5d247d3ba/stowetalks 🔎 Access further free resources to help you through a relationship breakdown and beyond at Stowe Support https://bit.ly/41heUWN  🎧 Listen to our podcast on Spotify - https://spoti.fi/3L6VFcE  🎬 Watch on YouTube - https://bit.ly/3Mwa4wG  Follow us on socials TikTok https://www.tiktok.com/@lifelovelawpodcast?lang=en  Instagram https://www.instagram.com/stowefamilylawuk  If you need support with the issues raised in this podcast, or would like to speak to a family lawyer, contact Stowe at: https://bit.ly/35WPSj2 Join our list to get the latest from our lawyers, divorce coaches and relationship experts sent monthly to your inbox. Everything you need, in one  🔎 Access further free resources to help you through a relationship breakdown and beyond at Stowe support. Instagram https://www.instagram.com/stowefamilylawuk  TikTok https://www.tiktok.com/@lifelovelawpodcast  Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/stowefamilylaw  LinkedIn - https://www.linkedin.com/company/stowe-family-law/  YouTube - https://www.youtube.com/c/StoweFamilyLaw1 This podcast is brought to you by the Stowe talks team at Stowe Family Law - https://www.stowefamilylaw.co.uk/

🎙️Life after an affair: divorce and blended families🎙️ Life, love and the law, a podcast by Stowe Family Law This episode of Life, love and the law welcomes our first ever couple to the podcast. Tom Nash, a regular face with us, brings along his partner Donna to discuss their lived experiences of affairs, divorce and building a blended family. Tom takes off his ‘divorce coach’ hat, to get into the nitty gritty of how the affair came about, the fallout and the next 9 years of hard work and pain to get to where they are now - a successful, happy blended family with his ex-wife and Donna’s ex-husband! 00:53 Introductions 02:28 Tom introduces the topic of his affair and Donna goes on to discuss her separation and parenting 04:38 How Tom and Donna met and the end of Tom’s marriage 06:38 How could conversations have happened in those early days to be more respectful? 09:00 Coping with the aftermath of telling your spouse you want to divorce 11:08 Donna discusses the breakdown of her marriage and her experience of divorced parents 14:45 Lack of understanding around the divorce process itself 15:25 The legal implications of an affair on divorce proceedings 18:28 How does a divorce coach work with people on the edge of a breakup  20:20 Can you recover from an affair? 23:00 The role of a stepparent in a blended family 24:14 Should you stay together for the kids? 26:00 How did Tom and Donna get from the affair to a successful blended family? 33:45 Biggest reflections on the impact of an affair and how to move forward Useful links Adultery and divorce https://www.stowefamilylaw.co.uk/family-law/divorce/adultery-and-divorce/  Top myths about divorce and affairs https://www.stowefamilylaw.co.uk/stowe-support/adultery-and-divorce-the-top-ten-myths/  What should I do if my spouse is having an affair? https://www.stowefamilylaw.co.uk/stowe-support/what-should-i-do-if-my-husband-wife-is-having-an-affair-2/  Avoiding the top divorce mistakes https://open.spotify.com/episode/0miHzVWzorsoj2QH5XOgi6?si=138279a774194e5b  How to introduce a new partner to the kids https://open.spotify.com/episode/3j7T2cGqTrFqb0rV9xat8u?si=3aaf756e1a9647c7  Parenting plan template https://www.stowefamilylaw.co.uk/wp-content/uploads/2025/10/SFL_Premium-handbook-Parenting-plan-template.pdf  If you need support with the issues raised in this podcast, or would like to speak to a family lawyer, contact Stowe at: https://bit.ly/35WPSj2 Join our list to get the latest from our lawyers, divorce coaches and relationship experts sent monthly to your inbox. Everything you need, in one  🔎 Access further free resources to help you through a relationship breakdown and beyond at Stowe support. Instagram https://www.instagram.com/stowefamilylawuk  TikTok https://www.tiktok.com/@lifelovelawpodcast  Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/stowefamilylaw  LinkedIn - https://www.linkedin.com/company/stowe-family-law/  YouTube - https://www.youtube.com/c/StoweFamilyLaw1 This podcast is brought to you by the Stowe talks team at Stowe Family Law - https://www.stowefamilylaw.co.uk/

🎙️Understanding a sexless marriage🎙️ Life, love and the law, a podcast by Stowe Family Law A sexless marriage is one in which the couple has sex less than 10 times a year, as expert sex therapist Natasha Silverman explains. But the important thing is not necessarily the frequency, but the emotional connection between two partners, and what happens when that disappears. In this episode of Life, love and the law, host and family lawyer Liza Gatrell is joined by relationship and psychosexual therapist Natasha Silverman to discuss sexless marriages, understanding how they come about and what you can do as a couple if you are struggling with intimacy. They also explore how to know if your marriage or relationship has come to an end.  00:35 Introductions with Liza and Natasha  02:10 What is a sexless marriage or relationship 02:50 Key trends among sexless partners 03:52 How do you handle periods of sexlessness in relationship 05:35 How does sexual desire work in men vs women? 06:50 The normalisation of duty and expectation around sex  08:30 How to recover from a sexless relationship as a couple and as individuals 11:42 What are the common traits of an unhealthy sexual relationship? 13:34 Why do people go through sexlessness in relationships? 15:17 The honeymoon period and what happens after 17:55 Does a sexless relationship lead to cheating? 19:02 How to broach the topic of sex therapy with a partner 20:53 When do you know it’s time to break up? 22:52 Do you need to share why your marriage has ended with a lawyer? 23:50 Moving forward after a sexless relationship 25:55 Top tips if you’re in a sexless relationship Useful Links Signs your partner doesn’t love you anymore https://www.stowefamilylaw.co.uk/stowe-support/signs-your-partner-doesnt-love-you-anymore/ Is it normal to have doubts in a relationship? https://www.stowefamilylaw.co.uk/stowe-support/is-it-normal-to-have-doubts-in-a-relationship/  How can you tell if your marriage is over? https://www.stowefamilylaw.co.uk/stowe-support/how-can-you-tell-if-your-marriage-is-over/  Is it normal to feel unsure even if your relationship looks good on paper? https://open.spotify.com/episode/6hbSuuBZcEPKghfwrmjMzs?si=f182d7fe46c04703  If you need support with the issues raised in this podcast, or would like to speak to a family lawyer, contact Stowe at: https://bit.ly/35WPSj2  Join our email list to get the latest from our lawyers, divorce coaches and relationship experts sent monthly to your inbox. Everything you need, in one place https://mailchi.mp/69a5d247d3ba/stowetalks 🔎 Access further free resources to help you through a relationship breakdown and beyond at Stowe Support https://bit.ly/41heUWN  🎧 Listen to our podcast on Spotify - https://spoti.fi/3L6VFcE  🎬 Watch on YouTube - https://bit.ly/3Mwa4wG  Follow us on socials TikTok https://www.tiktok.com/@lifelovelawpodcast?lang=en  Instagram https://www.instagram.com/stowefamilylawuk  If you need support with the issues raised in this podcast, or would like to speak to a family lawyer, contact Stowe at: https://bit.ly/35WPSj2 Join our list to get the latest from our lawyers, divorce coaches and relationship experts sent monthly to your inbox. Everything you need, in one  🔎 Access further free resources to help you through a relationship breakdown and beyond at Stowe support. Instagram https://www.instagram.com/stowefamilylawuk  TikTok https://www.tiktok.com/@lifelovelawpodcast  Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/stowefamilylaw  LinkedIn - https://www.linkedin.com/company/stowe-family-law/  YouTube - https://www.youtube.com/c/StoweFamilyLaw1 This podcast is brought to you by the Stowe talks team at Stowe Family Law - https://www.stowefamilylaw.co.uk/

🎙️The importance of health and fitness during divorce and separation🎙️ Life, love and the law, a podcast by Stowe Family Law When you’re going through a stressful life event, keeping up with your workout schedule, eating well, or even just getting outside for a walk can feel overwhelming. But it’s so important for your mental and physical wellbeing to include activity, movement and good nutrition in your day-to-day.  In this episode of Life, love and the law, Alana Ellis, personal trainer and nutritional coach, explains the value of exercise even when you really don’t feel like it. She talks about lowering the bar, not expecting too much of yourself, and taking small steps.  00:25 Introductions 01:55 The impact of stress on the body 03:21 Fight or flight vs rest and digest physical and emotional states 04:57 How important is sleep and how can you improve your sleep 08:22 Supplementing with magnesium and how it can help support good sleep 09:57 How can meditation support the nervous system? 11:53 What are the main obstacles for people when it comes to healthy food routines? 13:14 The impact of stress on relationships with food 14:36 What can replace food as an emotional coping mechanism? 15:28 Easy wins when it comes to health and fitness 16:50 The value of exercise in building up your energy bucket, not depleting it 18:20 Debunking the all or nothing mindset when it comes to exercise 23:45 Finding the motivation to exercise especially when you’re stressed 25:15 Lowering the barrier to entry with exercise  27:17 Divorce and separation to do list vs exercise and wellbeing 30:13 Top tip for health and fitness during divorce and separation Useful links Why emotional wellbeing matters during divorce https://www.stowefamilylaw.co.uk/stowe-support/why-emotional-well-being-matters-during-divorce-and-how-it-affects-legal-outcomes/  Looking after your mental health through divorce https://www.stowefamilylaw.co.uk/stowe-support/looking-after-your-mental-health-during-divorce/  The first steps to divorce https://youtu.be/p6ZWYK7zXN0?si=eh0aaj6K_r2nykE5  Avoiding the top divorce mistakes https://open.spotify.com/episode/0miHzVWzorsoj2QH5XOgi6  If you need support with the issues raised in this podcast, or would like to speak to a family lawyer, contact Stowe at: https://bit.ly/35WPSj2  Join our email list to get the latest from our lawyers, divorce coaches and relationship experts sent monthly to your inbox. Everything you need, in one place https://mailchi.mp/69a5d247d3ba/stowetalks 🔎 Access further free resources to help you through a relationship breakdown and beyond at Stowe Support https://bit.ly/41heUWN  🎧 Listen to our podcast on Spotify - https://spoti.fi/3L6VFcE  🎬 Watch on YouTube - https://bit.ly/3Mwa4wG  Follow us on socials TikTok https://www.tiktok.com/@lifelovelawpodcast?lang=en  Instagram https://www.instagram.com/stowefamilylawuk  Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/stowefamilylaw  LinkedIn - https://www.linkedin.com/company/stowe-family-law/  If you need support with the issues raised in this podcast, or would like to speak to a family lawyer, contact Stowe at: https://bit.ly/35WPSj2 Join our list to get the latest from our lawyers, divorce coaches and relationship experts sent monthly to your inbox. Everything you need, in one  🔎 Access further free resources to help you through a relationship breakdown and beyond at Stowe support. Instagram https://www.instagram.com/stowefamilylawuk  TikTok https://www.tiktok.com/@lifelovelawpodcast  Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/stowefamilylaw  LinkedIn - https://www.linkedin.com/company/stowe-family-law/  YouTube - https://www.youtube.com/c/StoweFamilyLaw1 This podcast is brought to you by the Stowe talks team at Stowe Family Law - https://www.stowefamilylaw.co.uk/

🎙️Is it normal to feel unsure, even if the relationship looks good on paper? Navigating relationship uncertainty🎙️ We've all heard the phrase 'looks good on paper' - the relationship has everything you ever wanted, you've got the house, the kids, the date nights. But something doesn't feel right and you can't understand why. Is it normal to feel that uncertainty? Can you come back from it? And what happens if actually it's not that you can't fix things, it's more that you don't want to? In this episode, host and family lawyer Liza Gatrell welcomes Kate Nestor, a divorce coach with a combined role as Content Lead at Stowe, to discuss all things insecurity in relationships and understanding our emotions. 00:50 Introductions 02:24 What is a divorce coach? 03:25 Feeling unsure or unhappy in your relationship and taking initial advice 04:30 Expectations in relationships - the impact of modern life 08:35 Feeling uncomfortable in your relationship and the build of disconnection 09:55 How does uncertainty manifest mentally and physically 11:10 Facing your emotions head on 16:25 Are doubts and overthinking always a linear process ending in separation? 18:55 Pressure of expectations from others about your relationship 21:15 Our own expectations of how our partners should behave - the mental load 27:39 The importance of safe place to work through and listen to your emotions: emotional awareness 29:27 How a divorce coach or therapist can support through emotions and practicalities 32:10 Taking the first steps and building resilience 35:20 The tipping point from uncertainty into a decision 37:18 Top tip for the understanding a period of uncertainty Useful links How can you tell if your marriage is over? https://www.stowefamilylaw.co.uk/stowe-support/how-can-you-tell-if-your-marriage-is-over/ Reality TV to real life: why compatibility matters more than a 'spark' https://www.stowefamilylaw.co.uk/stowe-support/reality-tv-to-real-life-why-compatibility-matters-more-than-the-spark/ When growing apart doesn't have to mean the end of your relationship https://www.stowefamilylaw.co.uk/stowe-support/when-growing-apart-doesnt-have-to-be-the-end-of-your-relationship/ If you need support with the issues raised in this podcast, or would like to speak to a family lawyer, contact Stowe at: https://bit.ly/35WPSj2  Join our email list to get the latest from our lawyers, divorce coaches and relationship experts sent monthly to your inbox. Everything you need, in one place https://mailchi.mp/69a5d247d3ba/stowetalks 🔎 Access further free resources to help you through a relationship breakdown and beyond at Stowe Support https://bit.ly/41heUWN  🎧 Listen to our podcast on Spotify - https://spoti.fi/3L6VFcE  🎬 Watch on YouTube - https://bit.ly/3Mwa4wG  Follow us on socials TikTok https://www.tiktok.com/@lifelovelawpodcast?lang=en  Instagram https://www.instagram.com/stowefamilylawuk  Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/stowefamilylaw  LinkedIn - https://www.linkedin.com/company/stowe-family-law/ If you need support with the issues raised in this podcast, or would like to speak to a family lawyer, contact Stowe at: https://bit.ly/35WPSj2 Join our list to get the latest from our lawyers, divorce coaches and relationship experts sent monthly to your inbox. Everything you need, in one  🔎 Access further free resources to help you through a relationship breakdown and beyond at Stowe support. Instagram https://www.instagram.com/stowefamilylawuk  TikTok https://www.tiktok.com/@lifelovelawpodcast  Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/stowefamilylaw  LinkedIn - https://www.linkedin.com/company/stowe-family-law/  YouTube - https://www.youtube.com/c/StoweFamilyLaw1 This podcast is brought to you by the Stowe talks team at Stowe Family Law - https://www.stowefamilylaw.co.uk/

Starting out on your divorce journey can be really overwhelming. It’s hard to know how or where to begin with the practical and legal aspects, let alone trying to navigate this through the huge range of emotions you’re feeling.  In this episode of Life, love and the law, a divorce day special, host and expert family lawyer Liza Gatrell is once again joined by firm favourites Tom Nash, aka Mr Divorce Coach, and Jodie Phelps, leading financial planner. They provide professional insight into taking the first few steps, answering the FAQs they get from clients on an almost daily basis.  00:25 Introductions from Jodie Phelps, financial adviser and Tom Nash, Mr Divorce Coach 01:18 How do you know when it’s time for a divorce? 03:01 I want to give my marriage another shot - what happens now? 05:00 Financial concerns at the beginning of divorce - am I going to be ok? 06:17 Understanding the basics of the matrimonial pot 09:27 The importance of the family home 15:19 Temporary finances and budgeting - understanding current habits and future prospects 20:19 Legal avenues if your ex won’t provide financial support during proceedings 21:23 Getting your team around you 22:46 What could you be doing if you feel that your relationship is on the rocks? 24:35 Is it always 50/50 in a divorce? 26:52 How can friends and family support you during divorce 29:35 What is a no-split divorce? Does living together apart work? 33:22 Approaching divorce in bitesized chunks and the circle of control 35:48 Expert insight into the very start of divorce process - messaging your ex, processing and ignoring hearsay 41:41 The role of the social media and TV in influencing our thoughts around divorce 44:36 AI and divorce vs speaking to a real person  45:25 The most common mistakes in divorce and how to overcome them Useful resources for getting started in your divorce journey... Download our in-depth handbook A Beginner’s Guide to Divorce 7 steps to an amicable divorce Using AI in your legal case What do I need to know when I start divorce proceedings? A beginner’s guide to divorce webinar Avoiding the top divorce mistakes  Find your local Stowe family lawyer If you need support with the issues raised in this podcast, or would like to speak to a family lawyer, contact Stowe at: https://bit.ly/35WPSj2  Join our email list to get the latest from our lawyers, divorce coaches and relationship experts sent monthly to your inbox. Everything you need, in one place https://mailchi.mp/69a5d247d3ba/stowetalks 🔎 Access further free resources to help you through a relationship breakdown and beyond at Stowe Support https://bit.ly/41heUWN  🎧 Listen to our podcast on Spotify - https://spoti.fi/3L6VFcE  🎬 Watch on YouTube - https://bit.ly/3Mwa4wG  Follow us on socials Instagram If you need support with the issues raised in this podcast, or would like to speak to a family lawyer, contact Stowe at: https://bit.ly/35WPSj2 Join our list to get the latest from our lawyers, divorce coaches and relationship experts sent monthly to your inbox. Everything you need, in one  🔎 Access further free resources to help you through a relationship breakdown and beyond at Stowe support. Instagram https://www.instagram.com/stowefamilylawuk  TikTok https://www.tiktok.com/@lifelovelawpodcast  Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/stowefamilylaw  LinkedIn - https://www.linkedin.com/company/stowe-family-law/  YouTube - https://www.youtube.com/c/StoweFamilyLaw1 This podcast is brought to you by the Stowe talks team at Stowe Family Law - https://www.stowefamilylaw.co.uk/

Christmas is one of the most important times of the year for many families. When you're dealing with divorce and separation, though, the pressure can easily mount up and there can be a tidal wave of emotion. Dealing with child arrangements over Christmas, making a new financial situation work around a festive budget and navigating loneliness are just some of the things divorcing or separating people take on. In this Christmas Special of Life, love and the Law, host and family lawyer Liza Gatrell welcomes back familiar faces from Stowe talks, Jodie Phelps, financial adviser, and Tom Nash, divorce coach to the podcast. Together, they discuss planning Christmas well before December, working through the tough times and the importance of presence over presents. 00:03 Family lawyer Liza Gatrell introduces Stowe Family Law’s new podcast Life, love and the law 00:40 Jodie Phelps and Tom Phelps introduce themselves 01:35 Why is Christmas such an important topic for divorcing couples? 04:43 Blended families at Christmas - experiencing contention and working through it 07:21 Financial challenges coming up to Christmas 08:30 Are gifts truly the most important thing for children? 09:03 Getting the children’s input on what’s important to them at Christmas 10:00 How do child arrangements work after divorce or separation? 11:10 Putting children in the centre not the middle of divorce and separation 13:23 Making new traditions around special occasions and reframing 17:57 Having the conversations about Christmas earlier in the year 19:40 Is it fair that the primary caregiver should have to split Christmas equally? 21:00 Making room for compromise 23.17 Understanding and navigating loneliness at Christmas 27:10 The social media highlight reel 28:45 Practical tips for budgeting at Christmas 31:02 Should you buy a gift for your ex partner? 33:03 Top tips for approaching your first Christmas after separation Useful resources to further support you through divorce and separation at Christmas Co-parenting at Christmas: tips for a peaceful holiday season https://www.stowefamilylaw.co.uk/stowe-support/co-parenting-at-christmas-tips-for-a-peaceful-holiday-season/ Download Stowe’s parenting plan template https://www.stowefamilylaw.co.uk/premium-content/?type=guide&item=creating-a-parenting-plan  Going on holiday at Christmas after divorce or separation https://www.stowefamilylaw.co.uk/stowe-support/going-on-holiday-at-christmas-after-divorce-or-separation/  How to embrace being single at Christmas https://www.stowefamilylaw.co.uk/stowe-support/surviving-christmas-solo/?swpmtx=0e3c8d40138a1fd65651c4db809f0a67&swpmtxnonce=a124aac3ec  Tips for navigating Christmas alone from a divorce coach https://www.stowefamilylaw.co.uk/stowe-support/tips-for-navigating-christmas-alone-from-a-divorce-coach/  How to manage the cost of Christmas crisis https://www.stowefamilylaw.co.uk/stowe-support/how-to-manage-the-cost-of-christmas-crisis/  If you need support with the issues raised in this podcast, or would like to speak to a family lawyer, contact Stowe at: https://bit.ly/35WPSj2  If you need support with the issues raised in this podcast, or would like to speak to a family lawyer, contact Stowe at: https://bit.ly/35WPSj2 Join our list to get the latest from our lawyers, divorce coaches and relationship experts sent monthly to your inbox. Everything you need, in one  🔎 Access further free resources to help you through a relationship breakdown and beyond at Stowe support. Instagram https://www.instagram.com/stowefamilylawuk  TikTok https://www.tiktok.com/@lifelovelawpodcast  Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/stowefamilylaw  LinkedIn - https://www.linkedin.com/company/stowe-family-law/  YouTube - https://www.youtube.com/c/StoweFamilyLaw1 This podcast is brought to you by the Stowe talks team at Stowe Family Law - https://www.stowefamilylaw.co.uk/

You loved our first live episode, and there were so many questions that needed answering, we’ve done another one! In this live show, Liza is joined by Managing Partner Sebastian Burrows to answer all the family law questions you put to them. From finances, to the family home, to communicating with your ex, Liza and Seb provided guidance and information, using their extensive expertise. 01:10 How much does a divorce cost? 02:41 Starting out on the divorce process 03:40 What is mediation and why is it helpful? 06:45 What to do if you’re struggling to agree on what happens to the house 07:48 Ringfencing pre-marital assets and matrimonial vs non-matrimonial assets 12:05 Law around changing the locks on the family home 15:25 Adaptations to the property for disabilities  17:17 The importance of disclosing inheritance in financial proceedings  20:53 Managing an ex who you believe is hiding assets 23:45 The concept of percentages in dividing finances 27:28 How are children 16+ treated in the law? 30:25 How is debt treated in divorce? 33:05 Is there an end to spousal maintenance? 3715: Keeping your financial disclosure up-to-date 40:50 Spending inheritance during divorce proceedings 42:36 An explanation of Mesher Orders 47:00 Managing an uncooperative ex-partner 49:54 Housing needs for older children with ongoing medical needs 50:58 Paying your mortgage during divorce 51:31 Cohabitation disputes and financial disclosure View our upcoming events https://www.stowefamilylaw.co.uk/stowe-talks/  Ask a family lawyer - Live https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=MBr19NPLgRs Cohabitation and separating as an unmarried couple https://youtu.be/L3HCXKdQz1g?si=21ODuz1ip6ea6EhQ What ‘needs’ and ‘sharing’ really mean https://www.stowefamilylaw.co.uk/stowe-support/divorce-finances-explained-what-do-needs-and-sharing-really-mean/  Clean break v maintenance - what’s right for me https://youtu.be/0sIi22ST4uI  Avoiding the top divorce mistakes https://open.spotify.com/episode/0miHzVWzorsoj2QH5XOgi6  How to manage financial hearings in the Family Court https://youtu.be/pAhP_73DETY?si=7F8M3-uIXMne9Sri  If you need support with the issues raised in this podcast, or would like to speak to a family lawyer, contact Stowe at: https://bit.ly/35WPSj2  Join our email list to get the latest from our lawyers, divorce coaches and relationship experts sent monthly to your inbox. Everything you need, in one place https://mailchi.mp/69a5d247d3ba/stowetalks 🔎 Access further free resources to help you through a relationship breakdown and beyond at Stowe Support https://bit.ly/41heUWN  🎧 Listen to our podcast on Spotify - https://spoti.fi/3L6VFcE  🎬 Watch on YouTube - https://bit.ly/3Mwa4wG  Follow us on socials Instagram https://www.instagram.com/stowefamilylawuk  Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/stowefamilylaw  LinkedIn - If you need support with the issues raised in this podcast, or would like to speak to a family lawyer, contact Stowe at: https://bit.ly/35WPSj2 Join our list to get the latest from our lawyers, divorce coaches and relationship experts sent monthly to your inbox. Everything you need, in one  🔎 Access further free resources to help you through a relationship breakdown and beyond at Stowe support. Instagram https://www.instagram.com/stowefamilylawuk  TikTok https://www.tiktok.com/@lifelovelawpodcast  Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/stowefamilylaw  LinkedIn - https://www.linkedin.com/company/stowe-family-law/  YouTube - https://www.youtube.com/c/StoweFamilyLaw1 This podcast is brought to you by the Stowe talks team at Stowe Family Law - https://www.stowefamilylaw.co.uk/

Matt and Liza discuss the problems around the lack of protection for unmarried couples living together. Cohabitation is the fastest growing family type and with this social change, there have been calls from family lawyers to review the law and help protect the financially vulnerable. But is this just inventing new laws for the sake of it? Can current marriage and divorce laws be adapted to better reflect society? 00:51 What are the problems with current cohabitation laws? 01:56 How property ownership works 04:47 Do unmarried couples have claims other than to property? 05:30 Why there are calls for cohabitation reform 07:39 Options for cohabitation reform 09:38 The importance of education around relationships and marriage 13:49 Role of prenuptial agreements  14:15 Social changes and the impact on marriage laws 16:25 How to educate people 17:50 Do the current laws reflect society? 18:45 The role of civil partnerships 19:25 Cohabitation laws providing a middle ground  20:29 Are cohabitation laws just renaming marriage? 21:32 Reforming marriage laws 22:10 The importance of protection for cohabitees Living together before marriage: the legal reality https://www.stowefamilylaw.co.uk/stowe-support/living-together-before-marriage-the-legal-reality/ Legal Q&A: “My partner and I are buying a house together. How can I protect myself?” https://www.stowefamilylaw.co.uk/stowe-support/legal-qa-my-partner-and-i-are-buying-a-house-together-how-can-i-protect-myself/ Buying a house as an unmarried couple https://open.spotify.com/episode/6hAGmZJSUsKh8fxEa508xV?si=54025b36c4bd4859 TOLATA claims https://www.stowefamilylaw.co.uk/family-law/cohabitation-lawyers/tolata-claims/  What rights do cohabiting couples have? https://open.spotify.com/episode/1rzM1yDZkKeG9mfS6GZ02j?si=1cf8b74a2c5441ca  If you need support with the issues raised in this podcast, or would like to speak to a family lawyer, contact Stowe at: https://bit.ly/35WPSj2  Join our email list to get the latest from our lawyers, divorce coaches and relationship experts sent monthly to your inbox. Everything you need, in one place https://mailchi.mp/69a5d247d3ba/stowetalks 🔎 Access further free resources to help you through a relationship breakdown and beyond at Stowe Support https://bit.ly/41heUWN  🎧 Listen to our podcast on Spotify - https://spoti.fi/3L6VFcE  🎬 Watch on YouTube - https://bit.ly/3Mwa4wG  Follow us on socials Instagram https://www.instagram.com/stowefamilylawuk  Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/stowefamilylaw  LinkedIn - https://www.linkedin.com/company/stowe-family-law/  YouTube - https://www.youtube.com/c/StoweFamilyLaw1  If you need support with the issues raised in this podcast, or would like to speak to a family lawyer, contact Stowe at: https://bit.ly/35WPSj2 Join our list to get the latest from our lawyers, divorce coaches and relationship experts sent monthly to your inbox. Everything you need, in one  🔎 Access further free resources to help you through a relationship breakdown and beyond at Stowe support. Instagram https://www.instagram.com/stowefamilylawuk  TikTok https://www.tiktok.com/@lifelovelawpodcast  Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/stowefamilylaw  LinkedIn - https://www.linkedin.com/company/stowe-family-law/  YouTube - https://www.youtube.com/c/StoweFamilyLaw1 This podcast is brought to you by the Stowe talks team at Stowe Family Law - https://www.stowefamilylaw.co.uk/

Moving on after a break-up is rarely easy, but many individuals do go on to have new relationships after divorce or separation. But what happens if you want to move in with a new partner? Buying somewhere together, or either of you moving into an existing property can have knock-on effects. Matt and Liza discuss how having a new partner can impact your divorce, including your finances, child arrangements and ongoing communication with your ex. 00:54 How does moving in with a new partner impact a financial settlement? 02:10 When the court will take a new partner into consideration 02:57 Exceptions to the rule 03:23 New partners and ongoing maintenance claims with your ex-spouse 05:09 Does a new partner have to provide financial disclosure?  07:00 Housing needs and mortgage capacity post-divorce 08:03  Supporting a new partner’s children 10:19 Impact on child arrangements of moving in with a new partner 12:10 What to do if you have safety concerns  13:23 Your ongoing relationship with your ex spouse 14:27 Communicating with your ex If you need support with the issues raised in this podcast, or would like to speak to a family lawyer, contact Stowe at: https://bit.ly/35WPSj2  Join our email list to get the latest from our lawyers, divorce coaches and relationship experts sent monthly to your inbox. Everything you need, in one place https://mailchi.mp/69a5d247d3ba/stowetalks 🔎 Access further free resources to help you through a relationship breakdown and beyond at Stowe Support https://bit.ly/41heUWN  🎧 Listen to our podcast on Spotify - https://spoti.fi/3L6VFcE  🎬 Watch on YouTube - https://bit.ly/3Mwa4wG  Follow us on socials Instagram https://www.instagram.com/stowefamilylawuk  Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/stowefamilylaw  LinkedIn - https://www.linkedin.com/company/stowe-family-law/  YouTube - https://www.youtube.com/c/StoweFamilyLaw1  If you need support with the issues raised in this podcast, or would like to speak to a family lawyer, contact Stowe at: https://bit.ly/35WPSj2 Join our list to get the latest from our lawyers, divorce coaches and relationship experts sent monthly to your inbox. Everything you need, in one  🔎 Access further free resources to help you through a relationship breakdown and beyond at Stowe support. Instagram https://www.instagram.com/stowefamilylawuk  TikTok https://www.tiktok.com/@lifelovelawpodcast  Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/stowefamilylaw  LinkedIn - https://www.linkedin.com/company/stowe-family-law/  YouTube - https://www.youtube.com/c/StoweFamilyLaw1 This podcast is brought to you by the Stowe talks team at Stowe Family Law - https://www.stowefamilylaw.co.uk/