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If you’ve been in a long-term relationship for years (or decades), there’s a good chance this sentence will feel uncomfortably familiar: “We haven’t had sex in years, and I don’t know how to fix it.” That’s exactly why this week’s episode of Sex Advice for Seniors hits such a very familiar nerve for me, because it speaks to my own experience. My guest, Elana Auerbach, didn’t come on the podcast with a tidy theory or a list of bedroom “tips.” She came with something far more useful: a lived solution and I’m all about practical ways to fix everyday problems. After nearly twelve years of frustration, mismatched desire, and quietly building resentment in her marriage, Elana and her husband found their way back to intimacy through something surprisingly simple: a weekly, scheduled pleasure practice she now calls The Sure Thing . Yes, scheduled sex. You know, the type of sex I harp on about infinitum. In fact, as I openly shared in the conversation, putting intimacy in the diary can be deeply liberating. When the time is protected, there’s no negotiating, no wondering if tonight is “the night,” no mental load filled with grocery lists or laundry. The body and brain get advance notice: this time is for pleasure. For many women, especially as we agem anticipation alone can gently press our internal intimacy accelerator, much like a car long forgotten in the garage. Once neglected and dust-covered, it’s now a vehicle we’ve chosen to repair, restore, and bring back to life. What makes Elana’s approach refreshing is that it removes performance pressure entirely. The intention isn’t orgasm. Sex isn’t mandatory. Penetration isn’t the goal. The only aim is to deepen intimacy, pleasure, and connection. Sometimes that leads to sex. Sometimes it doesn’t. And paradoxically, that’s exactly why it works. A big turning point in the episode is the discussion around responsive desire - the very normal experience of not feeling “in the mood” until touch, closeness, or sensual context begins. Many older women assume their libido has disappeared when in reality it’s simply waiting for the right conditions. A kiss on the neck. Lying in bed together. Holding hands. Small things that let the nervous system relax and say, oh, yes, this feels good. Perhaps most powerful of all is Elana’s insistence that this practice doesn’t depend on having a willing partner. There’s a “solo Sure Thing” too, a reminder that pleasure, connection, and kindness toward our own bodies are not things we earn through relationship status. If intimacy has quietly slipped out of your life, this episode is a hopeful place to start. And if you think scheduled pleasure sounds unromantic, you might just discover it’s the most freeing thing you’ve tried in years. 🎧 Listen to the full episode of Sex Advice for Seniors to hear Elana’s story, her practice, and why pleasure might be one of the most underrated forms of medicine we have. The Sure Thing is out on 3rd February. Order your copy here: 00:00 Introduction to Sexual Frustration in Long-Term Relationships 01:01 The Birth of the ‘Sure Thing’ Practice 05:16 Scheduling Intimacy: A Path to Liberation 08:12 Overcoming Resentment and Reconnecting 09:26 The Solo Sure Thing: Self-Exploration and Pleasure 11:59 Building Communication Through Rituals 12:25 Responsive vs. Spontaneous Desire 16:28 The Power of Small Touches 18:16 Pleasure as Medicine: The Benefits of Intimacy 21:35 Navigating Imbalances in Desire 24:19 Starting Small: The Importance of Daily Connection 24:57 The Release of ‘The Short Thing’ Book 26:50 Kindness and Intention in Relationships The Sure Thing is available from 3rd February. You can buy it from Amazon here. On similar topic, you may also want to check out this episode. Unlock even more pleasure, clarity, and confidence in your intimate life by becoming a paid subscriber. You’ll gain full access to every weekly blog, the complete archive of 150+ expert-led podcasts, the private chat room for candid Q&A, and my 32‑page guide Sex Toys and Supplements for Thriving in Later Life. If you’re ready to deepen your knowledge, explore new possibilities, and feel fully supported on your journey, upgrade today only £6.99/month or £49.99/year. I rely on your financial support to help produce each weekly episode of the podcast and blog post. Do consider becoming a paid subscriber if you can. This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit www.sexadviceforseniors.com/subscribe

What do we learn about sex when no one talks about pleasure? In this episode of Sex Advice for Seniors, clinical psychologist Dr. La Keita Carter (Dr. L) joined me for a powerful, honest conversation about sex, silence, and the myths surrounding women of colour and intimacy. We explore how cultural messages, shame, and generational “don’t bring a baby into this house” rules shape sexual desire, relationships, and self-worth, often long into adulthood. Dr. L breaks down the difference between sexual interest and sexual activity, why so many women feel obligated to have sex they don’t want, and how the “strong woman” stereotype leaves little room for softness in the bedroom. A thoughtful, eye-opening discussion about pleasure, power, and why whatever we’re silent about often carries the most shame. 🎧 Listen now and join the conversation. 00:00 Introduction to Dr. La Keita Carter 00:54 Understanding Sexuality and Trauma 01:59 Cultural Assumptions About Women of Color 03:44 The Silence Surrounding Sexual Education 05:19 The Role of Pleasure in Sexuality 09:14 Duty vs. Desire in Sexual Relationships 10:45 Masturbation and Self-Exploration 12:45 The Importance of Orgasms 15:22 Strength and Vulnerability in the Bedroom 17:58 The Exhaustion of Being Strong 20:42 Historical Perspectives on Women of Color and Sexuality 22:25 Over-Sexualization of Women of Color 25:48 The Male Perspective on Sexuality 27:24 The Importance of Language in Gender Discussions 31:37 Ending the Cycle of Shame Unlock even more pleasure, clarity, and confidence in your intimate life by becoming a paid subscriber. You’ll gain full access to every weekly blog, the complete archive of 150+ expert-led podcasts, the private chat room for candid Q&A, and my 32‑page guide Sex Toys and Supplements for Thriving in Later Life. If you’re ready to deepen your knowledge, explore new possibilities, and feel fully supported on your journey, upgrade today only £6.99/month or £49.99/year. I rely on your financial support to help produce each weekly episode of the podcast and blog post. Do consider becoming a paid subscriber if you can. This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit www.sexadviceforseniors.com/subscribe

I’m a big believer that we can receive good advice from anyone, regardless of their age. Emma Shandy Anway is a West Coast-based Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist who specialises in relational and sex therapy. Although in her mid thirties, she has extensive experience working with couples aged 50+ and, during this episode, we discussed her work specifically with those aged 70+. Having chatted several weeks ago with Dr. Susan Campbell, herself in her 80s, about her sex life, I was curious on how someone fifty years her junior approaches the topic with her older clients because I have found that lived experience counts for a huge amount and sometimes those who have no concept of what it means to be older fall into familiar tropes and stereotypes that have no bearing on reality. I can’t say that about Emma whose approach with her older patients clearly demonstrates an openness and eagerness to help them embrace their sexual selves, whether that means exploring open relationships, kink or simply learning how to be a better lover to each other. As Emma says, age, illness and changing bodies do not have to mean the end of a vibrant sex life; the biggest shifts are in mindset, communication and willingness to experiment.​ What I know is that it is never too late to learn, explore or rewrite your sexual story, as long as you genuinely want to and are prepared to be curious, honest and kind with yourself and your partner. You can find Emma here: https://www.esacounseling.com/about https://www.instagram.com/pennyboardpsych Here’s a Yes/No/Maybe checklist I consider to be particularly comprehensive: You can find the episode with Dr. Susan Campbell here: Chapters 00:00 Introduction to Sexuality in Later Life 01:44 Understanding the Motivations for Seeking Therapy 06:53 Redefining Good Sex: From Okay to Magnificent 12:06 Navigating Disappointment and Apathy in Relationships 16:19 Body Confidence and Aging: Embracing Change 23:09 Exploring Alternative Relationships and Sexuality 27:47 Communication Tools for Sexual Exploration Unlock even more pleasure, clarity, and confidence in your intimate life by becoming a paid subscriber. You’ll gain full access to every weekly blog, the complete archive of 150+ expert-led podcasts, the private chat room for candid Q&A, and my 32‑page guide Sex Toys and Supplements for Thriving in Later Life. If you’re ready to deepen your knowledge, explore new possibilities, and feel fully supported on your journey, upgrade today only £6.99/month or £49.99/year. I rely on your financial support to help produce each weekly episode of the podcast and blog post. Do consider becoming a paid subscriber if you can. This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit www.sexadviceforseniors.com/subscribe

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As soon as I saw Dr. Nikki Monti’s photo, an older woman with her streak of blue in her dark hair, I thought, we’re going to get along. A psychotherapist, who also calls herself a ‘thought healer,’ Nikki has appeared on a variety of high profile TV shows such as Keeping up with the Kardashians and recently published a memoir, ‘The Divine Traumedy of Nicki Joy: A True Grime Tale.’ This is a woman with a colourful past that includes three marriages, the first two short and chaotic, intertwined with drugs, alcoholism, violence and very brutal sex, which she now sees as reflecting how badly she treated herself. Her third lasted three decades and ended with the death of her partner, who following a prostatectomy, decided sex was over for both of them. Without wishing to spoil this very lively episode, her current partner, whom also had a prostatectomy, chose a very different path, embracing creativity, sensuality and adaptation, and with him she describes having the best sex of her life. Nikki is the living embodiment of my catchphrase ‘desire never retires’ and proof that, as she says, “older people can have rich sex lives if they stay in their bodies and stop running from themselves.” I encourage you to have a listen. You can find Dr. Nikki Monti here: https://www.instagram.com/drnickimonti All her books and her website is available here: https://stucknomore.com/books/ 01:43 Exploring Relationships and Marriages 04:20 Lessons from Past Marriages 08:40 Navigating Love After Loss 10:21 The Importance of Sexuality and Intimacy 18:17 Finding Connection Beyond Type 27:46 Rising into Love and Self-Discovery If you like this episode, and you’re a man who has also had a prostatectomy, you might find these two other episodes useful: Unlock even more pleasure, clarity, and confidence in your intimate life by becoming a paid subscriber. You’ll gain full access to every weekly blog, the complete archive of 150+ expert-led podcasts, the private chat room for candid Q&A, and my 32‑page guide Sex Toys and Supplements for Thriving in Later Life. If you’re ready to deepen your knowledge, explore new possibilities, and feel fully supported on your journey, upgrade today only £6.99/month or £49.99/year. I rely on your financial support to help produce each weekly episode of the podcast and blog post. Do consider becoming a paid subscriber if you can. This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit www.sexadviceforseniors.com/subscribe

As we age, the complexities of love and intimacy evolve, often leading to challenges that can impact our relationships. In this episode of “Sex Advice for Seniors,” I engaged in a candid conversation with clinical psychologist Dr. Karen Stewart, exploring the intersection of mental health, retirement, and sexual relationships among older adults. One of the key themes we discussed was the profound effect of mental health on sexual relationships, particularly for men in later life. Dr. Stewart pointed out that many older adults experience a crisis of identity after retirement. For instance, men who have defined themselves by their careers may struggle with feelings of depression and aimlessness post-retirement. This shift can lead to challenges in intimacy, as depression can diminish sexual desire. Dr. Stewart emphasised that it’s difficult to engage in a fulfilling sex life when one is battling feelings of inadequacy or sadness. Ageing is a complex journey that affects our relationships in profound ways. As Dr. Stewart highlighted, understanding the interplay between mental health, medication, and intimacy is vital for older adults. Open communication, empathy, and a willingness to explore new forms of intimacy can help partners navigate the challenges that arise as they age together. By fostering understanding and connection, couples can maintain vibrant, fulfilling relationships well into their later years. Unlock even more pleasure, clarity, and confidence in your intimate life by becoming a paid subscriber. You’ll gain full access to every weekly blog, the complete archive of 150+ expert-led podcasts, the private chat room for candid Q&A, and my 32‑page guide Sex Toys and Supplements for Thriving in Later Life. If you’re ready to deepen your knowledge, explore new possibilities, and feel fully supported on your journey, upgrade today only £6.99/month or £49.99/year. This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit www.sexadviceforseniors.com/subscribe

In this conversation, I speak with psychotherapist and sexologist Suzannah Weiss about women’s sexual health, the challenges we face, and why it’s so important for us to advocate for our own needs. We discuss her book Eve’s Blessing, which explores how pain has been normalised in women’s lives and why healthcare systems need to respond more effectively. We also talk about empowerment, objectification, and the vital role of consent, especially in the context of sexual assault. Together, we explore how women can navigate their sexuality post‑menopause and the importance of finding healthcare providers who truly support us. Chapters 00:00 Introduction to Sex Advice for Seniors 01:21 Eve’s Blessing: Women’s Sexual Health and Pain 05:30 The Importance of Healthcare in Women’s Sexuality 10:11 Subjectified: Empowerment and Objectification 17:29 Healing Through Narrative: Sexual Assault and Consent 23:05 Navigating Sexuality Post-Menopause 26:45 Conclusion and Resources www.suzannahweiss.comhttps://www.psychologytoday.com/profile/1549106 https://www.amazon.com/Eves-Blessing-Uncovering-Pleasure-Behind/dp/1509566171/ https://www.amazon.com/Subjectified-Becoming-Subject-Suzannah-Weiss/dp/150956019X Unlock even more pleasure, clarity, and confidence in your intimate life by becoming a paid subscriber. You’ll gain full access to every weekly blog, the complete archive of 150+ expert-led podcasts, the private chat room for candid Q&A, and my 32‑page guide Sex Toys and Supplements for Thriving in Later Life. If you’re ready to deepen your knowledge, explore new possibilities, and feel fully supported on your journey, upgrade today only £6.99/month or £49.99/year. This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit www.sexadviceforseniors.com/subscribe

Today on Sex Advice for Seniors, I’m speaking with Dr. Tammy Nelson, a sex and relationship expert, psychotherapist, author, and host of The Trouble with Sex. Tammy joins me from Los Angeles to talk about her book Open Monogamy, a title that grabbed me immediately. We explore what “open” and “monogamy” can mean today, why relationship agreements are no longer one‑size‑fits‑all, and how couples can navigate changing needs, fantasies, jealousy, and long‑term desire with honesty, integrity, and transparency. In an era where traditional relationship models are being challenged, Dr. Tammy Nelson’s concept of “open monogamy” is gaining traction. This innovative idea invites couples to explore their commitments openly, redefining what monogamy means in today’s world. I’m curious to know - what does commitment mean to you? 00:00 Introduction to Open Monogamy 02:32 The Concept of Open Monogamy 05:31 Navigating Relationship Changes 08:17 Communication in Relationships 11:03 Defining Monogamy and Non-Monogamy 14:01 Jealousy and Relationship Dynamics 16:33 The Role of Appreciation in Relationships 19:35 Fantasies and Their Impact on Relationships 22:26 Conclusion and Key Takeaways You can find Dr. Tammy Nelson here. Browse Dr. Tammy Nelson’s eBooks here. Unlock even more pleasure, clarity, and confidence in your intimate life by becoming a paid subscriber. You’ll gain full access to every weekly blog, the complete archive of 150+ expert-led podcasts, the private chat room for candid Q&A, and my 32‑page guide Sex Toys and Supplements for Thriving in Later Life. If you’re ready to deepen your knowledge, explore new possibilities, and feel fully supported on your journey, upgrade today only £6.99/month or £49.99/year. This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit www.sexadviceforseniors.com/subscribe

In this episode of Sex Advice for Seniors, I had the pleasure of speaking with the remarkable Dr. Susan Campbell—psychologist, relationship coach, and author of Getting Real, The Couple’s Journey, From Triggered to Tranquil, and many more. Susan is in her 80s and in a loving relationship with a partner also in his 80s, and we had an open and wonderfully honest discussion about what sex, intimacy, and connection look like in our later years. She shared how she met her partner online in their mid‑70s, what makes their relationship thrive, and how they’ve both redefined pleasure as their bodies continue to change with age. Susan’s approach to intimacy is warm, playful, and I enjoyed our conversation immensely. We talked about how scheduling “love dates,” using mirrors, dancing, experimenting with new erogenous zones, and finding humour in the realities of ageing all help keep things fun and sensual. She reminded me that sex doesn’t have to mean penetration to be satisfying - it’s about staying curious, laughing together, and remaining open to new ways of giving and receiving pleasure. She even confessed that her orgasms are better than ever at 84, which gives all of us something to look forward to! What struck me most about Susan is her combination of wisdom and vulnerability. She spoke beautifully about accepting physical changes, supporting a partner through cognitive decline, and finding meaning and intimacy even as we experience loss. Her philosophy is all about honesty, compassion, and embracing life as it is — laughter, limitations, lust, and all. It’s truly inspiring to see what intimacy in your 80s can look like when you stay connected through communication, humour, and love. 00:00 Introduction to Aging and Sexuality 02:40 Navigating Online Dating in Later Life 05:32 The Evolution of Intimacy and Sexuality 08:04 The Importance of Communication in Relationships 10:47 Building Confidence and Resilience in Dating 13:45 Exploring Sexuality Beyond Penetration 16:15 The Role of Humor and Playfulness in Intimacy 19:07 Addressing Vulnerability and Loss in Aging 21:48 Intentionality in Sexual Relationships 24:26 Exploring Alternatives to Penetrative Sex 27:08 Creative Approaches to Intimacy 29:46 The Power of Vulnerability and Honesty in Relationships Hi, I’m Suzanne, author of the bestseller ‘The Butcher, the Baker, the Candlestick Maker: An Erotic Memoir,’ pleasure seeker and curious about ways to improve our intimate relationships as we age. Each week, I delve into a different aspects of sex, dating and relationships with an expert which I bring to you via the Sex Advice for Seniors podcast. Once a week, I write or invite a guest to write a more personal story, which could be in the form of an erotic experience, a sex toy review or perhaps a new perspective, typically behind a paywall. Alongside this Substack, I advocate for the right to sexual pleasure in later life through speaking engagements, attending conferences and other events, which your subscription helps to pay me to attend. Being a subscriber has multiple benefits for you: * Receive my book, ‘Sex Toys & Supplements for Thriving in Later Life’ * Join my private chat where you can ask questions of a personal nature * Helping to contribute to the conversation around sex and sexual health in later life I’m grateful for each and every subscriber that pays £6.99 or £49.99 per year so do consider taking a subscription if you have the means to do so. Thousands of people are saying, I’m so grateful Suzanne has taken on one of the big taboos because I wouldn’t have the confidence to do it. If you’d like to support me talking about sexual pleasure in later life, hit subscribe. Hey, but don’t take it from me. Here’s what others say about Sex Advice for Seniors: “Not enough older voices talking about sex. Are we just supposed to dry up and fade away?” “I enjoy staying abreast of new ideas and learning new ways to please my wife.” “Straight non judgmental information that relates to my needs.” Subscribe now and discover why desire never retires. Sexy stories, stimulating podcasts, great deals on products to support your sexual health. This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit www.sexadviceforseniors.com/subscribe

In this episode of Sex Advice for Seniors, I had a blast talking with Lauren  Elise Rogers, a certified holistic sexuality educator and embodied intimacy coach based in West Virginia. Lauren introduced me to a fascinating idea she calls weeding our sexual gardens—a powerful metaphor for examining and removing outdated sexual beliefs that no longer serve us. Through her gentle guidance, she led me through an exercise that explores the sexual and relational messages we absorb at ages 7, 14, and 21, helping us understand how those early “seeds” continue to shape our adult desires and choices. Lauren also shared her deeply personal journey from growing up in a conservative, evangelical environment to reclaiming her body, pleasure, and autonomy after leaving a difficult marriage. Her transformation is remarkable - from purity rings and religious shame to running SexEd4U, a global coaching practice focused on informed, ethical, and joyful sexuality. Our conversation touched on everything from pleasure as an antidote to pain, to how parenting and relationships evolve after midlife, and why empty nesters often rediscover who they really are. What resonated most for me was Lauren’s message that pleasure has no age limit and no moral hierarchy. As she beautifully put it, it’s not about what we do with our bodies but about knowing we deserve choice, consent, and joy at every stage of life. By “weeding our sexual gardens,” we can cultivate new beliefs that let our intimate lives flourish—whether we’re single, partnered, or still figuring things out. You can find Lauren here: Chapters 00:00 Welcome and Introduction to Sexual Gardens 03:09 Exploring Sexual Beliefs and Personal Growth 12:03 Navigating Relationships and Parenting Dynamics 21:04 The Importance of Informed Decision-Making in Sexuality Hi, I’m Suzanne, author of the bestseller ‘The Butcher, the Baker, the Candlestick Maker: An Erotic Memoir,’ pleasure seeker and curious about ways to improve our intimate relationships as we age. Each week, I delve into a different aspects of sex, dating and relationships with an expert which I bring to you via the Sex Advice for Seniors podcast. Once a week, I write or invite a guest to write a more personal story, which could be in the form of an erotic experience, a sex toy review or perhaps a new perspective, typically behind a paywall. Alongside this Substack, I advocate for the right to sexual pleasure in later life through speaking engagements, attending conferences and other events, which your subscription helps to pay me to attend. Being a subscriber has multiple benefits for you: * Receive my book, ‘Sex Toys & Supplements for Thriving in Later Life’ * Join my private chat where you can ask questions of a personal nature * Helping to contribute to the conversation around sex and sexual health in later life I’m grateful for each and every subscriber that pays £6.99 or £49.99 per year so do consider taking a subscription if you have the means to do so. Thousands of people are saying, I’m so grateful Suzanne has taken on one of the big taboos because I wouldn’t have the confidence to do it. If you’d like to support me talking about sexual pleasure in later life, hit subscribe. Hey, but don’t take it from me. Here’s what others say about Sex Advice for Seniors: “Not enough older voices talking about sex. Are we just supposed to dry up and fade away?” “I enjoy staying abreast of new ideas and learning new ways to please my wife.” “Straight non judgmental information that relates to my needs.” Subscribe now and discover why desire never retires. Sexy stories, stimulating podcasts, great deals on products to support your sexual health. This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit www.sexadviceforseniors.com/subscribe

In this episode of Sex Advice for Seniors, I sit down with writer Angela Burk, author of The Real Girl’s Guide to Over 55s. Angela and I first connected on Substack, and it was great to finally chat about her journey as both a writer and a woman redefining life after 50. She told me how the idea for her book actually began decades ago, when she was 35, and how rediscovering those old notes after retiring inspired her to start again, this time exploring transformation, self-discovery, and pleasure from a midlife perspective. Angela was wonderfully candid about her own sexual awakening. She spoke about learning to understand her body, discovering self-pleasure in her 40s after her divorce, and how finding a caring, open partner helped her reclaim her desires without shame. I really related to so much of what she shared - especially how exhausting it can be to write and reflect deeply on these topics while living them. We also talked about how difficult it can be for women of our generation to have open conversations about sex and the body, given how little information and support we had growing up. What be both share a belief that pleasure doesn’t have an expiration date. We talked about women in their 50s, 60s, and beyond who are finally finding the language and courage to talk about sex, menopause, and libido without embarrassment. We agreed that doctors often downplay these issues, and that we have to become our own advocates. Our conversation reminded me that reclaiming pleasure, at any age, is important and possible because desire doesn’t retire. You can find Angela here. 00:00 Introduction to Substack and Its Community 01:42 The Birth of The Real Girl’s Guide 04:21 Reclaiming Sexual Power After 50 10:16 The Impact of Upbringing on Sexual Awareness 14:55 Exploring Pleasure and Self-Discovery 19:20 The Importance of Communication in Relationships 24:14 Navigating Sexuality in Later Life 32:01 The Ongoing Journey of Sexual Empowerment Hi, I’m Suzanne, author of the bestseller ‘The Butcher, the Baker, the Candlestick Maker: An Erotic Memoir,’ pleasure seeker and curious about ways to improve our intimate relationships as we age. Each week, I delve into a different aspects of sex, dating and relationships with an expert which I bring to you via the Sex Advice for Seniors podcast. Once a week, I write or invite a guest to write a more personal story, which could be in the form of an erotic experience, a sex toy review or perhaps a new perspective, typically behind a paywall. Alongside this Substack, I advocate for the right to sexual pleasure in later life through speaking engagements, attending conferences and other events, which your subscription helps to pay me to attend. Being a subscriber has multiple benefits for you: * Receive my book, ‘Sex Toys & Supplements for Thriving in Later Life’ * Join my private chat where you can ask questions of a personal nature * Helping to contribute to the conversation around sex and sexual health in later life I’m grateful for each and every subscriber that pays £6.99 or £49.99 per year so do consider taking a subscription if you have the means to do so. Thousands of people are saying, I’m so grateful Suzanne has taken on one of the big taboos because I wouldn’t have the confidence to do it. If you’d like to support me talking about sexual pleasure in later life, hit subscribe. Hey, but don’t take it from me. Here’s what others say about Sex Advice for Seniors: “Not enough older voices talking about sex. Are we just supposed to dry up and fade away?” “I enjoy staying abreast of new ideas and learning new ways to please my wife.” “Straight non judgmental information that relates to my needs.” Subscribe now and discover why desire never retires. Sexy stories, stimulating podcasts, great deals on products to support your sexual health. This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit www.sexadviceforseniors.com/subscribe

In this episode of Sex Advice for Seniors, I sat down with Marie Morice, whom I have met in real life! She’s a clinical sexologist and advocate for sexual health, and we spoke about the importance of sexual justice and its intersection with ageing, pleasure, and health. With World Sexual Health Day as a backdrop, we explore the theme of sexual justice—ensuring everyone, regardless of age, gender, or ability, has access to sexual health, autonomy, and pleasure. Marie shares her insights on societal stigmas around older adults’ sexuality, the unique challenges faced by LGBTQIA+ individuals and those with disabilities, and the critical need for intersectionality in sexual health advocacy. We also discuss the impact of climate change on women’s reproductive rights, access to healthcare, and the harmful chemicals present in intimate products. Marie has recently designed Pleasure Atelier workshops, to help midlife and older women reclaim their relationship with pleasure and wellness, introducing them to innovative sex toys and emphasising the importance of embracing fun and pleasure in everyday life. For more information, visit Marie’s work at the Women’s Environmental Network or join her Pleasure Atelier workshops. 00:00 Introduction to Sexual Health and Justice 02:45 Understanding Sexual Justice 05:54 Barriers to Sexual Health for Older Adults 08:44 Cultural Perspectives on Sexual Health 11:28 The Impact of Climate Change on Sexual Health 14:16 Access to Sexual Health Services 17:08 The Role of Pleasure in Sexual Health 19:43 Advocacy for Women’s Health Products 22:42 The Pleasure Atelier and Reclaiming Pleasure Hi, I’m Suzanne, author of the bestseller ‘The Butcher, the Baker, the Candlestick Maker: An Erotic Memoir,’ pleasure seeker and curious about ways to improve our intimate relationships as we age. Each week, I delve into a different aspects of sex, dating and relationships with an expert which I bring to you via the Sex Advice for Seniors podcast. Once a week, I write or invite a guest to write a more personal story, which could be in the form of an erotic experience, a sex toy review or perhaps a new perspective, typically behind a paywall. Alongside this Substack, I advocate for the right to sexual pleasure in later life through speaking engagements, attending conferences and other events, which your subscription helps to pay me to attend. Being a subscriber has multiple benefits for you: * Receive my book, ‘Sex Toys & Supplements for Thriving in Later Life’ * Join my private chat where you can ask questions of a personal nature * Helping to contribute to the conversation around sex and sexual health in later life I’m grateful for each and every subscriber that pays £6.99 or £49.99 per year so do consider taking a subscription if you have the means to do so. Thousands of people are saying, I’m so grateful Suzanne has taken on one of the big taboos because I wouldn’t have the confidence to do it. If you’d like to support me talking about sexual pleasure in later life, hit subscribe. Hey, but don’t take it from me. Here’s what others say about Sex Advice for Seniors: “Not enough older voices talking about sex. Are we just supposed to dry up and fade away?” “I enjoy staying abreast of new ideas and learning new ways to please my wife.” “Straight non judgmental information that relates to my needs.” This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit www.sexadviceforseniors.com/subscribe

Sarah Ward helps people get undressed — literally and emotionally. As a Certified Sexologist and Somatic Sex Coach, she guides clients to reconnect with their bodies, reclaim their pleasure, and shed shame rooted in religious and cultural conditioning. Before this, Sarah spent a decade as a wardrobe stylist and art director, with over 5,000+ photo shoots under her belt, to help clients feel confident fully clothed. Now, she helps them feel even better in their own skin. During this episode we explored the complexities of intimacy, communication, and sexual desires, particularly for older adults. We talked about the challenge of asking for what one wants in the bedroom, which I suspect, isn’t solely a problem of the Boomer and beyond generation, but is challenging at any stage of adult life! We also spoke about the impact of hormones on libido, and the importance of trust and safety in relationships. Our conversation also delved into the concept of erotic blueprints, which is Sarah’s area of expertise, and how understanding different desires can enhance sexual experiences. Ultimately, it all boils down to the need for open communication and the courage to explore fantasies without fear. Links: * Website: www.sarahward.co * Blog: * Social media: www.instagram.com/sarahward.co As a FREE gift, Sarah invites you to download The Sensual Embodiment Guide, which is a 12-page ebook with an audio practice that listeners can use to help reconnect with their sensual selves. Why Subscribe to Sex Advice for Seniors? Because Desire Never Retires. Hi, I’m Suzanne Noble, author of the bestselling The Butcher, the Baker, the Candlestick Maker: An Erotic Memoir, and passionate advocate for sexual pleasure at every age. If you’re curious about improving your intimate relationships as you age, then Sex Advice for Seniors is your ultimate resource. For just £6.99/month, you’ll unlock a wealth of benefits designed to inspire, educate, and empower you to live a more fulfilled, pleasure-filled life: What You’ll Get as a Subscriber: * Exclusive Content: Every week, I share personal stories, erotic experiences, podcast highlights, sex toy reviews, or fresh perspectives—all behind a paywall for subscribers only. * Practical Resources: Receive a free copy of my book Sex Toys & Supplements for Thriving in Later Life, packed with tools to enhance your pleasure. * Private Access: Join a private chat community where you can ask me (or other members) personal questions in a supportive, judgment-free space. * Advocacy in Action: Your subscription helps me advocate for sexual pleasure in later life, from speaking at events to distributing practical guides like Sex Toys for Thriving in Later Life. Together, we can smash those final taboos around aging and intimacy. Why Our Readers Love It: * “Not enough older voices talking about sex. Are we just supposed to dry up and fade away?” * “I enjoy staying abreast of new ideas and learning new ways to please my wife.” * “Straight non-judgmental information that relates to my needs.” By subscribing, you’re not just accessing valuable content—you’re joining a movement to challenge outdated taboos and celebrate the joy of intimacy at every stage of life. Let’s keep the conversation going. For just £6.99/month (or £49.99/year), you can help ensure that the right to pleasure and connection doesn’t end with age. Subscribe now and discover why desire never retires. Sexy stories, stimulating podcasts, great deals on products to support your sexual health. This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit www.sexadviceforseniors.com/subscribe

In this enlightening episode of Sex Advice for Seniors, I am joined by Dr. Rebecca Lahann, a licensed psychologist and certified sex therapist, to discuss the multiple challenges that older people experience in their quest for pleasurable sex, from physical limitations and hormonal shifts to the impact of medications. Dr. Lahan shares her insights on fostering emotional connection, adapting to physical changes, and debunking myths about ageing and libido. We also discussed the rising rates of STIs among older adults, the importance of communication, and the need for education on sexual health in senior living and retirement communities. Touching on LGBTQ+ experiences and non-traditional relationships, this episode emphasises the importance of redefining intimacy and exploring sexuality authentically at any age. Dr. Lahann offers practical advice, including safe practices, accommodations for physical limitations, and the role of healthcare professionals in supporting older adults’ sexual health. For more resources, visit Dr. Lahann’s website at drrebeccalehann.com. 00:00 Introduction to Seniors and Sexuality 01:50 Understanding the Impact of Aging on Sexuality 05:37 The Role of Medications in Sexual Function 08:19 Debunking Myths About Seniors and Sex 11:10 Fostering Emotional Connection and Intimacy 12:59 Adapting Sexual Practices for Physical Limitations 16:31 Hormonal Changes and Their Effects on Sexuality 18:32 Addressing STIs in Older Adults 20:58 Supporting LGBTQ+ Seniors in Sexual Health 24:39 The Need for Broader Sexual Health Education 27:33 Future Directions in Sexual Health for Seniors Hi, I’m Suzanne, author of the bestseller ‘The Butcher, the Baker, the Candlestick Maker: An Erotic Memoir,’ pleasure seeker and curious about ways to improve our intimate relationships as we age. Each week, I delve into a different aspects of sex, dating and relationships with an expert which I bring to you via the Sex Advice for Seniors podcast. Once a week, I write or invite a guest to write a more personal story, which could be in the form of an erotic experience, a sex toy review or perhaps a new perspective, typically behind a paywall. Alongside this Substack, I advocate for the right to sexual pleasure in later life through speaking engagements, attending conferences and other events, which your subscription helps to pay me to attend. Being a subscriber has multiple benefits for you: * Receive my book, ‘Sex Toys & Supplements for Thriving in Later Life’ * Join my private chat where you can ask questions of a personal nature * Helping to contribute to the conversation around sex and sexual health in later life I’m grateful for each and every subscriber that pays £6.99 or £49.99 per year so do consider taking a subscription if you have the means to do so. Thousands of people are saying, I’m so grateful Suzanne has taken on one of the big taboos because I wouldn’t have the confidence to do it. If you’d like to support me talking about sexual pleasure in later life, hit subscribe. Hey, but don’t take it from me. Here’s what others say about Sex Advice for Seniors: “Not enough older voices talking about sex. Are we just supposed to dry up and fade away?” “I enjoy staying abreast of new ideas and learning new ways to please my wife.” “Straight non judgmental information that relates to my needs.” Subscribe now and discover why desire never retires. Sexy stories, stimulating podcasts, great deals on products to support your sexual health. This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit www.sexadviceforseniors.com/subscribe

In this episode of Sex Advice for Seniors, I welcome back Michelle Jermy, psychotherapist and founder of The Yoni Therapist, to discuss her groundbreaking work on women’s sexual health, low libido, and the often-overlooked relational aspects of desire. Michelle shares her mission to help clinicians and patients better address issues like low libido, pain during penetration, and the pressures many women feel to “perform” sexually. While current clinical tools like the Female Sexual Function Index, which I have never heard mentioned previously, focus on biomedical factors, Michelle emphasises the need to explore relational and emotional dynamics. She is developing a new toolkit to help clinicians ask deeper, more relevant questions, such as, “Do you feel pressured to have sex to maintain your relationship?” or “Do you know what brings you sexual pleasure?” The conversation highlights how women’s sexual health is often dismissed or under explored in clinical settings. We discussed the importance of clinicians adopting a more expansive view of sex—not just focusing on penetration, but including a full spectrum of intimacy and pleasure. Michelle also stresses how understanding basic wellness factors, such as sleep, mental health, and physical touch, is essential for restoring desire. We tend to think of libido as purely driven by hormones, but as we discussed in this episode and I have discussed in previous conversations with doctors such as Lauren Streicher MD, it’s much more complex than that! Michelle’s upcoming research project aims to train clinicians and provide tools for better addressing women’s sexual health concerns. For patients, she advocates for proactive communication with healthcare providers, even suggesting template letters to help women articulate their needs confidently. It’s so important that we normalise conversations about women’s pleasure and sexual health, in order to bridge the gap between patients and clinicians. Why Subscribe to Sex Advice for Seniors? Because Desire Never Retires. Hi, I’m Suzanne Noble, author of the bestselling The Butcher, the Baker, the Candlestick Maker: An Erotic Memoir, and passionate advocate for sexual pleasure at every age. If you’re curious about improving your intimate relationships as you age, then Sex Advice for Seniors is your ultimate resource. For just £6.99/month, you’ll unlock a wealth of benefits designed to inspire, educate, and empower you to live a more fulfilled, pleasure-filled life: What You’ll Get as a Subscriber: * Exclusive Content: Every week, I share personal stories, erotic experiences, podcast highlights, sex toy reviews, or fresh perspectives—all behind a paywall for subscribers only. * Practical Resources: Receive a free copy of my book Sex Toys & Supplements for Thriving in Later Life, packed with tools to enhance your pleasure. * Private Access: Join a private chat community where you can ask me (or other members) personal questions in a supportive, judgment-free space. * Advocacy in Action: Your subscription helps me advocate for sexual pleasure in later life, from speaking at events to distributing practical guides like Sex Toys for Thriving in Later Life. Together, we can smash those final taboos around aging and intimacy. Why Our Readers Love It: * “Not enough older voices talking about sex. Are we just supposed to dry up and fade away?” * “I enjoy staying abreast of new ideas and learning new ways to please my wife.” * “Straight non-judgmental information that relates to my needs.” By subscribing, you’re not just accessing valuable content—you’re joining a movement to challenge outdated taboos and celebrate the joy of intimacy at every stage of life. Let’s keep the conversation going. For just £6.99/month (or £49.99/year), you can help ensure that the right to pleasure and connection doesn’t end with age. Subscribe now and rediscover why desire never retires. Let’s help smash one of the final taboos. Subscribe to Sex Advice for Seniors and discover why desire never retires. This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit www.sexadviceforseniors.com/subscribe