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Not sure how to initiate sex without feeling awkward, nervous, or like you're forcing it? You're not alone.Whether you're in a long-term relationship, struggle with making the first move, or feel like your partner is always the one initiating, it's time to talk about why initiating intimacy matters.In this episode of Advice That Hurts & Helps, we're talking about how to initiate sex naturally, how to make your partner feel desired, and how to overcome the fear of rejection.Because here's the thing: your partner wants to feel wanted, too.We'll get into:- Why initiating sex can feel so intimidating- How to make the first move without overthinking it- Ways to show your partner you want them- How to handle rejection without taking it personally- The importance of communication and mutual desireRemember, initiating sex isn't about pressure or obligation. It's about creating a relationship where both people feel comfortable expressing what they want.** WORK WITH ME **Need personalized advice about your relationship, dating life, or intimacy?💬 Private Text Coaching:https://www.edenmitelman.com/workwithme/p/text-eden-private-text-coaching💕 Dating Profile Audit:https://www.edenmitelman.com/workwithme/p/dating-profile-audit📞 1:1 Clarity Call (60 Minutes): Personalized advice to help you gain clarity and figure out your next steps:https://www.edenmitelman.com/clarity-call❤️ 3-Month Private Mentorship: Ongoing, personalized support to help you navigate relationships, dating, and personal growth:https://www.edenmitelman.com/mentorship🎧 Listen to the podcast:https://open.spotify.com/show/1dBEbJTujAoXi6o6oc8EVT?si=nMAD19ShQ1-LTuuAPQ99cA🛍 My Amazon Storefront (favorites):https://amzn.to/3QIpGSd📲 Follow me:Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/advicethathurtsTikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@edenmitelmanInstagram (Personal): https://www.instagram.com/edenleemitelman/🎥 Real Life / Mom Vlog Channel: https://www.youtube.com/@edenleemitelman #datingadvice #relationships #selfgrowth #selfmastery #edenmitelman

You can really f*****g like someone. You can hope they text you. You can want a relationship to work. And you can still be okay if it doesn't.THAT is what mastering detachment actually looks like.In this episode of Advice That Hurts & Helps, we're talking about how to want someone without needing them, how to stop obsessing over every little interaction, and how to stay grounded in yourself when you're emotionally invested in another person.Because detachment isn't about pretending you don't care, playing hard to get, or becoming emotionally unavailable. It's about learning to want an outcome without making your happiness dependent on getting it.IN THIS EPISODE:- Why detachment isn't the same as indifference- How to stop overanalyzing texts, mixed signals, and things you don't have answers to yet- Why not every little action needs to mean something- How to build a life that doesn't revolve around one person- Why you need to stop auditioning for someone's affection and start evaluating them too- How to let people show you who they are instead of constantly chasing or compensating- How to feel anxious without automatically acting on it- The real meaning behind "black cat energy" and "don't be a simp"TEXT ME: https://www.edenmitelman.com/workwithme/p/text-eden-private-text-coaching💬 Work with me (coaching & mentorship):https://www.edenmitelman.com/workwithme🎧 Listen to the podcast:https://open.spotify.com/show/1dBEbJTujAoXi6o6oc8EVT?si=nMAD19ShQ1-LTuuAPQ99cA🛍 My Amazon Storefront (favorites):https://amzn.to/3QIpGSd📲 Follow me:Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/advicethathurtsTikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@edenmitelmanInstagram (Personal): https://www.instagram.com/edenleemitelman/🎥 Real Life / Mom Vlog Channel: https://www.youtube.com/@edenleemitelman New videos weekly. Subscribe for real growth.#datingadvice #relationships #selfgrowth #selfmastery #edenmitelman

Dating shouldn't be a guessing game. So why are so many people afraid to say what they actually want?Whether you're looking for something casual, a serious relationship, or you're still figuring it out... Making your intentions clear is one of the most important things you can do in dating.In this episode of Advice That Hurts & Helps, we're talking about how to date with intention without coming across as desperate, forcing a connection, or playing games.We're getting into:- Why being honest about what you want isn't desperate- How mixed signals create unnecessary confusion- The difference between communicating your intentions and forcing a commitment- Why you need to pay attention to actions, not just words- How to recognize when someone isn't looking for the same thing- Why walking away from the wrong connection is better than trying to convince someone to choose youThe bottom line? You shouldn't have to manipulate someone into wanting the same things as you. Be clear about your intentions, give people the opportunity to show you theirs, and decide whether you're actually compatible.It hurts. It helps. You grow.Subscribe for honest conversations about dating, relationships, self-awareness, and becoming a better version of yourself.#DatingAdvice #DatingWithIntention #RelationshipAdvice #MixedSignals #ModernDating💌 TEXT ME: https://www.edenmitelman.com/workwithme/p/text-eden-private-text-coaching💬 Work with me (coaching & mentorship):https://www.edenmitelman.com/workwithme🛍 My Amazon Storefront (favorites):https://amzn.to/3QIpGSd📲 Follow me:Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/advicethathurtsTikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@edenmitelmanInstagram (Personal): https://www.instagram.com/edenleemitelman/🎥 Real Life / Mom Vlog Channel: https://www.youtube.com/@edenleemitelman #datingadvice #relationships #selfgrowth #selfmastery #edenmitelman

TEXT ME: https://www.edenmitelman.com/workwithme/p/text-eden-private-text-coachingDo you actually have a relationship problem — or have you convinced yourself that you do?Sometimes when a relationship is healthy, stable, and no longer giving you constant emotional highs and lows, your brain starts looking for something to worry about.Do I still love them?Am I settling?What if there’s someone better?Why don’t I feel as excited as I used to?What if this means we’re not meant to be together?And the more you analyze the relationship, the more uncertain you become.In this episode of Advice That Hurts & Helps, we’re talking about relationship self-sabotage: why you can start searching for problems when nothing is obviously wrong, how anxiety and overthinking can make normal relationship changes feel like warning signs, and how to tell the difference between a genuine issue and a pattern of constantly questioning what you have.We’ll get into why healthy love can sometimes feel “boring,” the danger of chasing certainty, comparing your relationship to an imaginary alternative, and what to do when your own thoughts are becoming the biggest source of conflict in your relationship.Because sometimes the question isn’t “Is this the wrong relationship?”It’s “Why am I trying so hard to prove that it is?”💬 Work with me (coaching & mentorship):https://www.edenmitelman.com/workwithme🎧 Watch this episode on Youtube:https://youtu.be/FNjAzwoyEj0🛍 My Amazon Storefront (favorites):https://amzn.to/3QIpGSd📲 Follow me:Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/advicethathurtsTikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@edenmitelmanInstagram (Personal): https://www.instagram.com/edenleemitelman/🎥 Real Life / Mom Vlog Channel: https://www.youtube.com/@edenleemitelman New videos weekly. Subscribe for real growth.#datingadvice #relationships #selfgrowth #selfmastery #edenmitelman

The worst red flags usually aren’t the obvious ones. They’re the ones that whisper.The little comments you brush off.The subtle inconsistencies.The way you start changing your behaviour to avoid a reaction.The things that feel slightly off... But not bad enough to leave over.Until months or years later, you realize they were telling you exactly what was coming.In this episode, I’m breaking down the red flags that are easy to overlook in the beginning but can eventually become the reason your relationship makes you miserable.Because sometimes the biggest warning signs don’t scream at you.They whisper first.TEXT ME: https://www.edenmitelman.com/workwithme/p/text-eden-private-text-coaching💬 Work with me (coaching & mentorship):https://www.edenmitelman.com/workwithme🎧 Listen to the podcast:https://open.spotify.com/show/1dBEbJTujAoXi6o6oc8EVT?si=nMAD19ShQ1-LTuuAPQ99cA🛍 My Amazon Storefront (favorites):https://amzn.to/3QIpGSd📲 Follow me:Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/advicethathurtsTikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@edenmitelmanInstagram (Personal): https://www.instagram.com/edenleemitelman/🎥 Real Life / Mom Vlog Channel: https://www.youtube.com/@edenleemitelman New videos weekly. Subscribe for real growth.#datingadvice #relationships #selfgrowth #selfmastery #edenmitelman

Can you actually know if you’re sexually compatible with someone **before** you have sex with them? I think you can get a pretty damn good idea.Sexual compatibility isn’t just about what happens in the bedroom. It shows up in the chemistry, the tension, how comfortable you are talking about sex, how someone communicates their wants, whether they respect boundaries, and whether you actually feel safe enough to be honest about what you like.Because sometimes the attraction is 🔥… and the compatibility is nowhere to be found.In this episode, we’re getting into the signs that can tell you A LOT before you ever sleep together, and why “we’ll just have to see” isn’t always true.* Sorry about the audio in the second half of this episode. My mic decided to tap out....💬 Work with me (coaching & mentorship):https://www.edenmitelman.com/workwithmeWatch this episode on Youtube: https://youtu.be/KoEj9AISJv4🛍 My Amazon Storefront (favorites):https://amzn.to/3QIpGSd📲 Follow me:Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/advicethathurtsTikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@edenmitelmanInstagram (Personal): https://www.instagram.com/edenleemitelman/🎥 Real Life / Mom Vlog Channel: https://www.youtube.com/ @edenleemitelman New videos weekly. Subscribe for real growth.#datingadvice #relationships #selfgrowth #selfmastery #edenmitelman

Women are not always the victims in dating. In this episode, I'm talking about several dating complaints from men that I actually understand, and in some cases, completely agree with. From coffee dates and financial screening to entitlement, validation addiction, opposite-sex friendships, and the misuse of therapy language, we're having the kind of conversation that tends to make people uncomfortable. Not because men are always right.Not because women are always wrong. But because accountability shouldn't only apply to the people we're dating. If we want healthier relationships, we need to be willing to examine our own behaviours too. 💬 Work with me (coaching & mentorship):https://www.edenmitelman.com/workwithme🎧 Listen to the podcast:https://open.spotify.com/show/1dBEbJTujAoXi6o6oc8EVT?si=nMAD19ShQ1-LTuuAPQ99cA🛍 My Amazon Storefront (favorites):https://amzn.to/3QIpGSd📲 Follow me:Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/advicethathurtsTikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@edenmitelmanInstagram (Personal): https://www.instagram.com/edenleemitelman/🎥 Real Life / Mom Vlog Channel: https://www.youtube.com/ @edenleemitelman New videos weekly. Subscribe for real growth.#datingadvice #relationships #selfgrowth #selfmastery #edenmitelman

What will I teach my daughter before she starts dating?In this episode of Advice That Hurts & Helps, I share the brutally honest relationship advice I wish more women heard younger, the kind that might sound controversial, harsh, or unpopular… but could save years of heartbreak, confusion, self-abandonment, and toxic relationships.This isn’t “fairytale” dating advice.This is real life.These are the lessons I hope my daughter grows up understanding before she ever lets someone close to her heart.And honestly? A lot of adults still need to hear them too.If this episode resonates, there may be a Part 2.💬 Work with me (coaching & mentorship):https://www.edenmitelman.com/workwithme🎥Watch on Youtube:https://youtu.be/eMmGlSitgnk🛍 My Amazon Storefront (favorites):https://amzn.to/3QIpGSd📲 Follow me:Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/advicethathurtsTikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@edenmitelmanInstagram (Personal): https://www.instagram.com/edenleemitelman/🎥 Real Life / Mom Vlog Channel: https://www.youtube.com/ @edenleemitelman New videos weekly. Subscribe for real growth.#datingadvice #relationships #selfgrowth #selfmastery #edenmitelman

Somewhere along the way, modern dating stopped being about connection and started becoming a marketplace. Everybody is “high value.”Everybody thinks they deserve better.Everybody is ranking humans like stocks.And somehow… nobody is happy.In this episode, we’re talking about how the internet’s obsession with “high value men” and “high value women” is destroying dating, inflating egos, confusing standards with entitlement, and keeping people disconnected from reality.This isn’t about “settling.”It’s about self-awareness.Compatibility.Reciprocity.And dating people who actually align with you instead of chasing status, validation, or fantasy.Because dating on your level isn’t an insult.It’s usually where real relationships begin.💬 Work with me (coaching & mentorship):https://www.edenmitelman.com/workwithme🎧 Listen to the podcast:https://open.spotify.com/show/1dBEbJTujAoXi6o6oc8EVT?si=nMAD19ShQ1-LTuuAPQ99cA🛍 My Amazon Storefront (favorites):https://amzn.to/3QIpGSd📲 Follow me:Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/advicethathurtsTikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@edenmitelmanInstagram (Personal): https://www.instagram.com/edenleemitelman/🎥 Real Life / Mom Vlog Channel: https://www.youtube.com/ @edenleemitelman New videos weekly. Subscribe for real growth.#datingadvice #relationships #selfgrowth #selfmastery #edenmitelman

Most men think women become “annoying,” emotional, controlling, or nagging out of nowhere.But a lot of the behaviours men complain about are actually responses to inconsistency, broken trust, poor communication, and emotional imbalance in the relationship.Because the truth is:A lot of women don’t actually want to control everything.They just stopped feeling like they could rely on you.💬 Work with me (coaching & mentorship):https://www.edenmitelman.com/workwithmeWATCH ON YOUTUBE: https://youtu.be/LAVrT9Q2CKg🛍 My Amazon Storefront (favorites):https://amzn.to/3QIpGSd📲 Follow me:Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/advicethathurtsTikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@edenmitelmanInstagram (Personal): https://www.instagram.com/edenleemitelman/🎥 Real Life / Mom Vlog Channel: https://www.youtube.com/ @edenleemitelman New videos weekly. Subscribe for real growth.#datingadvice #relationships #selfgrowth #selfmastery #edenmitelman

You’re not “chill.”You’re just afraid to lose them.You think you’re playing it cool but really, you’re overthinking every text, holding back what you feel, and pretending you don’t care… Just to keep someone around.In this episode, I break down the difference between real detachment vs. self-abandonment and why acting “low maintenance” is actually what’s keeping you stuck in shallow, unsatisfying connections.Because here’s the truth:You don’t lose people by being “too much.”You lose yourself by trying to be just enough.If you’ve ever:- Held back your feelings so you don’t scare someone off- Acted unbothered when you actually cared- Felt disconnected in a relationship but didn’t know whyThis is for you.💬 Work with me (coaching & mentorship):https://www.edenmitelman.com/workwithme🎧 Listen to the podcast:https://open.spotify.com/show/1dBEbJTujAoXi6o6oc8EVT?si=nMAD19ShQ1-LTuuAPQ99cA🛍 My Amazon Storefront (favorites):https://amzn.to/3QIpGSd📲 Follow me:Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/advicethathurtsTikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@edenmitelmanInstagram (Personal): https://www.instagram.com/edenleemitelman/🎥 Real Life / Mom Vlog Channel: https://www.youtube.com/ @edenleemitelman New videos weekly. Subscribe for real growth.#datingadvice #relationships #selfgrowth #selfmastery #edenmitelman

If you’ve been hurt in past relationships… this is the episode you need to hear.Most people think they’re healing… But they’re actually keeping their wounds open.Waiting for closure.Waiting for an apology.Waiting for someone to finally say:"You were right. I was wrong."But here’s the truth no one wants to admit:No one is coming to save you.And the longer you wait… The longer you stay stuck in the same patterns, the same pain, and the same relationships.In this episode, we break down:- Why you can’t move on (even when you try)- The illusion of “closure”- How your past is silently controlling your dating life- And what it actually takes to heal and move forward-This one might hurt… but it will help.💬 Work with me (coaching & mentorship):https://www.edenmitelman.com/workwithme🎧 WATCH to the podcast:https://youtu.be/UkBCj94ItdE🛍 My Amazon Storefront (favorites):https://amzn.to/3QIpGSd📲 Follow me:Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/advicethathurtsTikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@edenmitelmanInstagram (Personal): https://www.instagram.com/edenleemitelman/🎥 Real Life / Mom Vlog Channel: https://www.youtube.com/ @edenleemitelman New videos weekly. Subscribe for real growth.#datingadvice #relationships #selfgrowth #selfmastery #edenmitelman

You showed up. You cared. You supported them. You tried to be the best partner possible… and somehow they still pulled away.In this episode, I’m responding to a listener submission from someone who feels like they always do everything right in relationships — thoughtful, supportive, emotionally available — yet their partners eventually lose interest and run.So what’s actually happening?We’re breaking down why doing more for someone doesn’t necessarily create more attraction, how over-investing early can quietly shift relationship dynamics, and why being the “perfect partner” can sometimes backfire.If you’ve ever heard “you’re amazing but…” or felt like you were the one carrying the relationship emotionally, this conversation will probably hit home.In this episode, we talk about:• Why over-giving can reduce attraction• The hidden problem with trying to prove you’re a great partner• Why some people love being chosen but struggle to choose back• How to stop over-investing in the wrong peopleIf this pattern keeps repeating in your dating life, this episode might explain why.💬 WORK WITH ME(coaching & mentorship):https://www.edenmitelman.com/workwithme🎧 Listen to the podcast:https://open.spotify.com/show/1dBEbJTujAoXi6o6oc8EVT?si=nMAD19ShQ1-LTuuAPQ99cA🛍 My Amazon Storefront (favorites):https://amzn.to/3QIpGSd📲 Follow me:Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/advicethathurtsTikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@edenmitelmanInstagram (Personal): https://www.instagram.com/edenleemitelman/🎥 Real Life / Mom Vlog Channel: https://www.youtube.com/ @edenleemitelman New videos weekly. Subscribe for real growth.#datingadvice #relationships #selfgrowth #selfmastery #edenmitelman

Wanting a relationship and being ready for one are two completely different things.A lot of people say they want love, commitment, and a serious partner — but their lifestyle, habits, and behaviour make a healthy relationship almost impossible.In this video, we talk about the real reasons someone may not actually be ready for a relationship yet.Healthy relationships require more than attraction. They require emotional discipline, accountability, and the ability to build something with another person.If you want a serious relationship but keep repeating the same patterns, the work usually starts internally.If you're serious about becoming relationship-ready and building something real, I work privately with clients inside my mentorship.💬 Work with me (coaching & mentorship):https://www.edenmitelman.com/workwithme🎧 Listen to the podcast:https://open.spotify.com/show/1dBEbJTujAoXi6o6oc8EVT?si=nMAD19ShQ1-LTuuAPQ99cA🛍 My Amazon Storefront (favorites):https://amzn.to/3QIpGSd📲 Follow me:Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/advicethathurtsTikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@edenmitelmanInstagram (Personal): https://www.instagram.com/edenleemitelman/🎥 Real Life / Mom Vlog Channel: https://www.youtube.com/ @edenleemitelman New videos weekly. Subscribe for real growth.#datingadvice #relationships #selfgrowth #selfmastery #edenmitelman

She didn’t just “lose interest.” Attraction doesn’t disappear randomly. It shifts when the dynamic shifts. In this episode, I break down the real reasons women pull back after being interested — and it’s rarely about looks, money, or another guy. If women seem interested at first and then suddenly distance themselves, it’s not bad luck. It’s behavioural patterns you may not be aware of. And the good news? Patterns can be corrected. If you’re serious about understanding attraction and building a healthy long-term relationship, I work privately with clients inside my 3-month mentorship. Apply here: https://www.edenmitelman.com/mentorship 💬 Work with me (coaching & mentorship):https://www.edenmitelman.com/workwithme🎧 Listen to the podcast:https://open.spotify.com/show/1dBEbJTujAoXi6o6oc8EVT?si=nMAD19ShQ1-LTuuAPQ99cA🛍 My Amazon Storefront (favorites):https://amzn.to/3QIpGSd📲 Follow me:Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/advicethathurtsTikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@edenmitelmanInstagram (Personal): https://www.instagram.com/edenleemitelman/🎥 Real Life / Mom Vlog Channel: https://www.youtube.com/ @edenleemitelman New episodes weekly. Subscribe for real growth.#datingadvice #relationships #selfgrowth #selfmastery #edenmitelman