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In this episode of Stronger Marriage Connection, New York Times bestselling author Laura Doyle returns to celebrate the 25th anniversary of her book, The Surrendered Wife. Laura joins Dr. Liz Hale to reflect on the lessons she's learned from helping women strengthen their marriages over the past two and a half decades. Together, they explore how respect, self-care, listening, and expressing desires can transform the way couples connect. Laura shares personal stories from her nearly 37-year marriage, including how letting go of control and focusing on her own happiness helped bring back the affection and connection she once feared was lost. From learning to appreciate your spouse to finding joy in everyday moments, this conversation offers practical ways to create more peace, playfulness, and passion in marriage. Chapters 00:00 – Welcome Back, Laura Doyle  01:26 – Celebrating 25 Years of Marriage Wisdom  02:02 – Why Relationship Skills Need Practice  03:40 – Learning What Respect Really Means  04:06 – How Respect Changed Everything  06:42 – Reflecting on 25 Years of Impact  07:34 – Why Even Experts Make Mistakes  08:37 – Timeless Lessons From The Surrendered Wife  09:41 – How Childhood Experiences Shape Marriage  12:43 – Laura's Mission to End Divorce  13:49 – Finding Healing Through Relationship Skills  15:23 – When Marriage Feels Hopeless  18:26 – Rediscovering the Person You Married  19:22 – The Power of Supportive Women  22:15 – Why Respect Matters in Marriage  23:19 – Letting Go of Superiority and Control  25:14 – Taking Accountability for Your Marriage  27:03 – Staying on Your Own Paper  29:53 – Simple Phrases That Show Respect  30:19 – Apologizing When You Get It Wrong  32:27 – Listening Without Giving Advice  34:56 – Why Self-Care Is Essential  36:42 – Recognizing When You Need Self-Care  38:13 – Taking Responsibility for Your Happiness  40:11 – Rest and Remedial Self-Care  40:55 – Expressing Desires Without Demands  42:46 – The Power of Saying “I Would Love”  44:43 – Learning to Receive Graciously  45:48 – How Gratitude Strengthens Connection  47:59 – Celebrating Laura's Marriage and Legacy  49:43 – Handling Criticism and Negative Feedback  51:35 – Discovering Your Power to Change  52:57 – Resources for Building Intimacy  54:14 – Final Thoughts and Farewell Takeaway of the Day Laura Doyle: You have more power to improve your experience in marriage than you might realize. Rather than focusing on everything your spouse needs to change, begin by looking at your own actions and how you show up in the relationship. Practicing respect, prioritizing self-care, expressing your desires, and graciously receiving love can create opportunities for greater connection and intimacy. Even after 25 years of teaching these skills, Laura emphasizes that nobody practices them perfectly. What matters is continuing to learn, take accountability, and make small changes that strengthen the relationship. Liz Hale: One of the most powerful ways to strengthen a marriage is to recognize the connection between personal happiness and marital happiness. Instead of expecting your spouse to be responsible for your happiness, take time to care for yourself and recognize how your attitude and actions influence the relationship. Liz also emphasizes the importance of listening without immediately offering advice, expressing appreciation, and allowing your spouse opportunities to show love in their own way. Small shifts in how we treat our partners can make a meaningful difference in the connection we share. Laura's Resources: Website: https://lauradoyle.org/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/lauradoyleauthor/ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/user/lauradoyleauthor Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/lauradoyleofficial/ LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/lauramdoyle Happy Hacks: 101 Science-Backed Ways to Boost Happiness, Reduce Stress, and Build a More Meaningful Life. Available now starting at 99¢ on Amazon and Dave's Book Store Written by Dr. Dave Schramm, this practical and uplifting new book offers simple, research-based strategies to help you build greater happiness, strengthen resilience, reduce The opinions, findings, conclusions, and recommendations expressed in this podcast do not necessarily reflect the views of the Utah Marriage Commission. Visit our site for FREE relationship resources and regular giveaways:  Website: https://extension.usu.edu/strongermarriage/ Podcast: https://extension.usu.edu/strongermarriage/podcast/ TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@strongermarriagelife Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/strongermarriage/ Facebook Marriage Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/770019130329579 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/strongermarriagelife/  Dr. Dave Schramm:  http://drdaveschramm.com http://drdavespeaks.com   Dr. Liz Hale:  http://www.drlizhale.com/

In this episode of Stronger Marriage Connection, Dr. Alan Hawkins joins Dave Schramm and Liz Hale to explore the future of relationship and marriage education, including how couples can build stronger relationships without setting unrealistic expectations. Alan introduces the idea of a “good enough marriage” and explains why a healthy, happy relationship doesn't have to be perfect to be meaningful and fulfilling. The conversation also explores how relationship education can better meet couples' needs through practical, accessible skill-building opportunities and how artificial intelligence (AI) may change the way people seek relationship advice. From navigating different seasons of marriage to finding a balance between growth and contentment, this episode reminds couples that good really can be good enough—and that great moments often come along the way.  Chapters  00:00 – The Future of Marriage Education   01:34 – Welcome Back, Dr. Alan Hawkins   03:15 – What Is Relationship Education?   04:22 – Education Versus Marriage Counseling   05:19 – Different Types of Relationship Education   07:31 – Does Marriage Education Really Work?   09:45 – Concerns About Relationship Education   10:50 – Are Marriage Expectations Too High?   13:14 – What Is a Good Enough Marriage?   14:04 – Intimacy, Commitment, and Security   16:18 – Finding Fun and Comfort in Marriage   18:04 – Accepting Imperfections and Life's Seasons   20:28 – Why Good Really Is Good   22:17 – Finding Joy in Different Seasons   24:57 – The Good Enough Dating Relationship   25:38 – The Dating Recession   28:19 – Rethinking Dating Expectations   29:54 – Learning to Adapt in Marriage   31:28 – Improving Relationship Education   33:12 – Practical Help for Specific Problems   35:06 – Different Levels of Relationship Education   38:18 – Evaluating Stronger Marriage Resources   40:17 – Why Marriage Rates Are Declining   41:27 – The Future of AI and Relationships   42:09 – Will AI Replace Relationship Education?   44:19 – Building Trustworthy AI Relationship Tools   46:12 – Opportunities and Risks of AI   48:52 – Let Good Enough Be Good   50:35 – Takeaway of the Day  Takeaway of the Day  Alan Hawkins: Remember that great is often a season, not a status of a relationship. A good marriage doesn't have to be extraordinary every day to be meaningful and fulfilling. Instead of constantly chasing perfection, appreciate the comfort, security, commitment, and connection you already share. Let good be good enough, and allow the great moments to come naturally.  Liz Hale: Being satisfied with a good marriage doesn't mean you stop growing together. Couples can appreciate what is already working while continuing to identify areas where they would like to improve. Whether it's strengthening communication, having more fun, or developing new skills, there is always an opportunity to move from “good enough to gooder.”  Dave Schramm: Good marriages don't happen by accident. Even healthy, connected couples experience stress, disagreements, and difficult seasons. What matters is continuing to invest in the relationship through intentional effort, learning, and commitment. Rather than expecting constant happiness or perfection, focus on making steady progress and building a marriage that grows stronger over time.   About Alan: Alan Hawkins, PhD, is the current Chair of the Utah Marriage Commission. He serves as the Vice-chair of the National Alliance for Relationship and Marriage Education. And he is a non-resident fellow with the Institute for Family Studies and an Affiliated Scholar with the Wheatley Institute at Brigham Young University. He retired in 2023 from the School of Family Life at Brigham Young University where he taught and did research for 33 years. Happy Hacks: 101 Science-Backed Ways to Boost Happiness, Reduce Stress, and Build a More Meaningful Life. Available now starting at 99¢ on Amazon and Dave's Book Store Written by Dr. Dave Schramm, this practical and uplifting new book offers simple, research-based strategies to help you build greater happiness, strengthen resilience, reduce The opinions, findings, conclusions, and recommendations expressed in this podcast do not necessarily reflect the views of the Utah Marriage Commission. Visit our site for FREE relationship resources and regular giveaways:  Website: https://extension.usu.edu/strongermarriage/ Podcast: https://extension.usu.edu/strongermarriage/podcast/ TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@strongermarriagelife Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/strongermarriage/ Facebook Marriage Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/770019130329579 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/strongermarriagelife/  Dr. Dave Schramm:  http://drdaveschramm.com http://drdavespeaks.com   Dr. Liz Hale:  http://www.drlizhale.com/

In This episode of Stronger Marriage Connection, financial relationship coach Dee Zimmerman joins Dave Schramm and Liz Hale to uncover seven common financial blind spots that can quietly create stress, resentment, and disconnection in marriage. Dee explains why money problems often go deeper than dollars and budgets, reflecting differences in values, fears, family histories, and dreams for the future. Couples will learn how to recognize hidden financial stress, create shared financial goals, communicate more effectively about money, and build systems that support both their finances and their relationship.  Chapters  00:00 – Seven Financial Blind Spots  02:58 – No Shared Financial Direction  05:44 – Start Money Conversations Early  07:20 – Identify Your Money Values  08:58 – Uneven Financial Awareness  11:01 – Build Financial Partnership Together  11:59 – Choose the Right Time  15:24 – Conversations That Go Nowhere  16:36 – Money Is More Than Numbers  19:30 – Hidden Financial Stress  20:34 – Understanding Your Money Fears  21:36 – Signs of Financial Stress  25:02 – Different Comfort Levels With Spending  25:28 – Rethinking Spenders and Savers  28:26 – How Family Shapes Money Habits  31:26 – Financial Systems Without Collaboration  32:10 – Creating Healthy Financial Systems  35:46 – Uncertainty About the Future  37:41 – Financial Fear Affects Relationships  40:22 – Financial Resources and Support  42:06 – Courageous Money Conversations  43:16 – Takeaway of the Day   Takeaway of the Day  Dee Zimmerman: Financial stress doesn't necessarily mean you or your relationship are failing. There are often deeper reasons underneath money struggles that may not be immediately obvious. Becoming aware of those underlying values, fears, and patterns is the first step toward addressing them together.   Liz Hale: Look beneath the numbers. Just as conflicts about sex, parenting, or housework often represent something deeper, financial disagreements can point toward underlying needs for connection, safety, and satisfaction. Understanding what's underneath the conflict can help couples connect more deeply.   Dave Schramm: Be intentional about talking about money rather than allowing fear to lead to avoidance. Strong, connected marriages don't happen by accident. Couples need to take action, have important conversations, and intentionally work together so financial issues don't become a wedge that causes them to drift apart.   About Dee  Dee Zimmerman is a Financial Relationship Coach who helps couples talk about money without the fights, so they can manage their finances more peacefully and build long-term wealth together. Her work sits in the space between relationship science and practical financial strategy, blending Gottman-informed communication tools with systems and financial guidance that help couples reduce stress, improve alignment, and feel more confident about their future.  In addition to coaching, Dee is a podcast guest and writer focused on the relational side of money. She and her husband are currently navigating a major life transition and relocation after almost 30 years in Colorado, an experience that continues to deepen her perspective on partnership, communication, and financial decision-making in real life.  You can learn more at Dee's website, dzimmermanfinance.com. She also has a free guide called “7 Financial Blind Spots Worth Noticing,” which ties in closely with what we will talk about today.  Dee's Resources: Free guide—7 Financial Blind Spots Worth Noticing: https://www.dzimmermanfinance.com/blindspotsWebsite: https://www.dzimmermanfinance.com/Private Coaching—Wealth Together: https://www.dzimmermanfinance.com/wealth-togetherBlog: https://www.dzimmermanfinance.com/blogYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC3jenew-JVJa8IQHfCIzGAwHappy Hacks: 101 Science-Backed Ways to Boost Happiness, Reduce Stress, and Build a More Meaningful Life. Available now starting at 99¢ on Amazon and Dave's Book Store Written by Dr. Dave Schramm, this practical and uplifting new book offers simple, research-based strategies to help you build greater happiness, strengthen resilience, reduce The opinions, findings, conclusions, and recommendations expressed in this podcast do not necessarily reflect the views of the Utah Marriage Commission. Visit our site for FREE relationship resources and regular giveaways:  Website: https://extension.usu.edu/strongermarriage/ Podcast: https://extension.usu.edu/strongermarriage/podcast/ TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@strongermarriagelife Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/strongermarriage/ Facebook Marriage Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/770019130329579 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/strongermarriagelife/  Dr. Dave Schramm:  http://drdaveschramm.com http://drdavespeaks.com   Dr. Liz Hale:  http://www.drlizhale.com/

In this episode of Stronger Marriage Connection, global relationship coach and clinical sexologist Dr. Lea Haber joins Dave Schramm and Liz Hale to explain what it means to have a “personal trainer” for your love life. Lea explores the quiet disconnection that can pull couples apart, why small moments of intentional connection matter, and how desire changes in long-term relationships. She also shares practical ways couples can strengthen communication, intimacy, curiosity, and shared vision before serious problems develop. Whether couples are preparing for marriage or simply want to move from a good relationship to a great one, Lea emphasizes that lasting love requires continued investment and intentional effort.  #marriageadvice #relationshipcoaching #marriageintimacy #healthyrelationships  Chapters  00:00 – Meet Dr. Lea Haber  01:53 – Understanding Clinical Sexology  03:17 – A Personal Trainer for Love  05:28 – What Quietly Pulls Couples Apart  06:35 – The Magic Wand Question  07:29 – Creating Intentional Connection  08:07 – The Power of Micro Moments  09:35 – What Are You Chasing?  10:15 – Creating Shared Meaning Together  10:38 – Understanding Desire in Marriage  11:01 – Spontaneous Versus Responsive Desire  12:23 – Why Desire Levels Differ  13:29 – Talking About Desire Differences  14:34 – Homework That Strengthens Relationships  15:39 – Date Your Partner Again  16:28 – Planning Beyond the Wedding  18:51 – Marriage Preparation at Any Stage  20:07 – Conversations Couples Need to Have  21:24 – Personalized Marriage Support  24:26 – Who Benefits From Marriage Coaching?  25:42 – Everything in Marriage Is Connected  26:32 – Helping Couples Find Common Ground  28:23 – Stop Comparing Your Marriage  30:15 – Finding the Right Relationship Expert  32:08 – What Strong Couples Do Differently  33:17 – Stay Curious Before Furious  35:26 – Keys to Stronger Connection  36:26 – Takeaway of the Day   Takeaway of the Day  Lea Haber: Everything in a relationship is deeply interconnected. Communication, emotional connection, intimacy, and other areas of marriage influence one another, so couples benefit from continually investing in the relationship as a whole. Episode 197 - Lea Haber - Love …  Liz Hale: There is value in seeking expert guidance for your love life just as you might seek professional advice in other important areas. Even when only one partner begins making small, positive changes, those efforts can create a ripple effect within the relationship. Episode 197 - Lea Haber - Love …  Dave Schramm: Good relationships can become great relationships when couples are willing to invest the time and effort. Strong marriages aren't built through one “secret sauce,” but through communication, intentionality, outside support when needed, and many small and simple actions over time. Episode 197 - Lea Haber - Love …  About Dr. Lea Haber  Dr. Lea Haber, Ph.D., is a global relationship expert, clinical sexologist, author, and founder of Dr. LoveLea, a private advisory built on the belief that an extraordinary love life is built, not found. Specializing in modern premarital guidance, Dr. Lea works with couples to understand the patterns they bring into relationships, clarify the partnership they want to build, and identify the personal work needed to create lasting commitment. Her approach is secular, flexible, and designed for contemporary couples seeking practical and meaningful preparation for marriage. Dr. Lea holds a Ph.D. in Clinical Sexology and degrees from NYU and Columbia. Her creative, science-informed, and solutions-oriented approach incorporates elements of the Gottman Method, cognitive behavioral techniques, motivational interviewing, and play-based practices. She helps couples navigate communication, conflict resolution, intimacy, shared values, life transitions, and long-term goals. She is the author of the bestselling book Planning Beyond the Wedding, which encourages couples to devote as much intention to building their marriage as they do to planning their wedding. She also created the Kiss & Commit relationship card game and a comprehensive online premarital course designed to make relationship education engaging, accessible, and actionable. Dr. Lea’s Resources  Webite: www.drlovelea.com  Wesbite: www.kissandcommit.com  Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/kissandcommit  Happy Hacks: 101 Science-Backed Ways to Boost Happiness, Reduce Stress, and Build a More Meaningful Life. Available now starting at 99¢ on Amazon and Dave's Book Store Written by Dr. Dave Schramm, this practical and uplifting new book offers simple, research-based strategies to help you build greater happiness, strengthen resilience, reduce The opinions, findings, conclusions, and recommendations expressed in this podcast do not necessarily reflect the views of the Utah Marriage Commission. Visit our site for FREE relationship resources and regular giveaways:  Website: https://extension.usu.edu/strongermarriage/ Podcast: https://extension.usu.edu/strongermarriage/podcast/ TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@strongermarriagelife Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/strongermarriage/ Facebook Marriage Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/770019130329579 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/strongermarriagelife/  Dr. Dave Schramm:  http://drdaveschramm.com http://drdavespeaks.com   Dr. Liz Hale:  http://www.drlizhale.com/

In this episode of Stronger Marriage Connection, author and speaker Arlene Pellicane joins Dave Schramm and Liz Hale to talk about how technology is shaping family life—and what parents can do when screens begin replacing sleep, hobbies, conversations, and face-to-face connection. Drawing from her book The Great Tech Reset, Arlene explains the “ABCD harms” of technology and shares practical ideas for setting healthier boundaries around smartphones, social media, video games, and AI. Rather than eliminating technology altogether, the conversation focuses on helping families use it intentionally while making more room for real relationships, outdoor activities, creativity, and meaningful family memories.  Chapters  00:00 – Technology's Impact on Family Life  01:08 – When Screens Interfere With Connection  02:50 – Why Families Need a Tech Reset  03:57 – The ABCD Harms of Technology  08:01 – Warning Signs of Technology Problems  09:49 – The Bad Babysitter Problem  11:38 – Helping Kids Play Without Screens  13:18 – Discovering Interests Beyond Technology  13:59 – Expect Resistance From Your Kids  16:26 – Social Media and Teen Anxiety  19:57 – How Smartphones Changed Childhood  20:55 – Raising Kids Without Smartphones  24:45 – Finding Practical Technology Workarounds  26:03 – Parenting in the Age of AI  29:40 – Creating a Family Technology Plan  32:31 – Parents Must Model Healthy Technology  36:03 – Replacing Screens With Real Connection  38:08 – The Great Tech Reset Resources  39:14 – Takeaway of the Day   Takeaway of the Day  Arlene Pellicane: You only get one childhood with your child, so make sure you—not a device—are a major part of it. Don't be afraid to delay technology or remove something that has become problematic. Setting limits may bring resistance, but parents shouldn't be afraid to do the harder thing now to protect connection and healthy development later. Episode 196 - Arlene Pellicane …  Liz Hale: We often worry about dangers to children in the physical world while overlooking risks that can reach them online. Liz's takeaway is to become more aware of those digital influences and give online safety the attention it deserves. Episode 196 - Arlene Pellicane …  Dave Schramm: Technology can be incredibly useful, but it shouldn't replace the experiences that build strong relationships. Keep screens away from bedrooms, beds, and family meals when possible, and replace some of that screen time with real connection—getting outdoors, going on dates, talking together, and creating memories through shared activities. Episode 196 - Arlene Pellicane …  About Arlene Pellicane:  Arlene Pellicane is a speaker, host of the Happy Home podcast, and author of several books including Making Marriage Easier, The Great Tech Reset, and Screen Kids.  Arlene has been featured on the Today Show, Fox & Friends, the Wall Street Journal, FamilyLife Today and Focus on the Family and is the spokesperson for National Marriage Week. Arlene and her husband James have three children and live in San Diego.    Arlene’s Resources:  Website: https://arlenepellicane.com/   Books: https://www.amazon.com/stores/author/B004R7BTF2   Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/arlenepellicane/?hl=en   Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/ArlenePellicaneAuthor/   Focus On The Family: https://www.focusonthefamily.com/contributors/arlene-pellicane/  Happy Hacks: 101 Science-Backed Ways to Boost Happiness, Reduce Stress, and Build a More Meaningful Life. Available now starting at 99¢ on Amazon and Dave's Book Store Written by Dr. Dave Schramm, this practical and uplifting new book offers simple, research-based strategies to help you build greater happiness, strengthen resilience, reduce The opinions, findings, conclusions, and recommendations expressed in this podcast do not necessarily reflect the views of the Utah Marriage Commission. Visit our site for FREE relationship resources and regular giveaways:  Website: https://extension.usu.edu/strongermarriage/ Podcast: https://extension.usu.edu/strongermarriage/podcast/ TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@strongermarriagelife Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/strongermarriage/ Facebook Marriage Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/770019130329579 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/strongermarriagelife/  Dr. Dave Schramm:  http://drdaveschramm.com http://drdavespeaks.com   Dr. Liz Hale:  http://www.drlizhale.com/

Ordinary sounds like chewing or breathing can trigger real fight-or-flight, and that reaction can quietly strain closeness at home. We talk with Dr. Thomas Phelan about what misophonia feels like, why it can spiral into resentment, and how we can respond with no-fault compassion and practical plans. • what mesophonia is and how it differs from everyday annoyance  • why mouth sounds are common triggers and why reactions can include rage and panic  • how repeated triggers can create resentment, distance, and dread around family dinner  • the “second reaction” spiral of shame, blame, and negative stories after a trigger  • how we start the conversation without blaming, including using written resources first  • negotiated accommodations that reduce triggers without avoiding your spouse  • the ABCD model and “five-second plan” to interrupt the reaction fast  • why “no-fault” thinking becomes the heart of therapy for couples and families  • the key to stronger connection: shared one-on-one fun Happy Hacks: 101 Science-Backed Ways to Boost Happiness, Reduce Stress, and Build a More Meaningful Life. Available now starting at 99¢ on Amazon and Dave's Book Store Written by Dr. Dave Schramm, this practical and uplifting new book offers simple, research-based strategies to help you build greater happiness, strengthen resilience, reduce The opinions, findings, conclusions, and recommendations expressed in this podcast do not necessarily reflect the views of the Utah Marriage Commission. Visit our site for FREE relationship resources and regular giveaways:  Website: https://extension.usu.edu/strongermarriage/ Podcast: https://extension.usu.edu/strongermarriage/podcast/ TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@strongermarriagelife Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/strongermarriage/ Facebook Marriage Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/770019130329579 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/strongermarriagelife/  Dr. Dave Schramm:  http://drdaveschramm.com http://drdavespeaks.com   Dr. Liz Hale:  http://www.drlizhale.com/

We welcome back marriage intimacy coach Dan Purcell to talk about why couples drift into “roommate mode” and how to rebuild fun, friendship, and desire with small daily choices. We share mindset shifts and practical tools that help us create “our spark” on purpose, even in busy seasons with stress, kids, and routines.  • Dan’s rebrand from Dating Divas to Date Your Spouse and the mission of strengthening marriages one date at a time  • why fun and play fade after the honeymoon and how passive drifting fuels disconnection  • challenges as a developmental invitation and “irritation is an invitation” mindset  • “our spark” and the courage it takes for one partner to go first  • simple daily habits that keep emotional connection alive  • the emotions check-in practice for speaking emotionally without rebuttal  • curiosity as the skill that keeps your relationship map updated  • differentiation over defensiveness and staying connected through differences  • what makes date nights meaningful, creative, and connecting  • Sparked app features for daily prompts, date planning, memory keeping, and at-home experiences  • Just Between Us for private, protected couple messaging  • where to find Dan’s work at dateyourspouse.com and getyourmarriageon.com  Happy Hacks: 101 Science-Backed Ways to Boost Happiness, Reduce Stress, and Build a More Meaningful Life. Available now starting at 99¢ on Amazon and Dave's Book Store Written by Dr. Dave Schramm, this practical and uplifting new book offers simple, research-based strategies to help you build greater happiness, strengthen resilience, reduce The opinions, findings, conclusions, and recommendations expressed in this podcast do not necessarily reflect the views of the Utah Marriage Commission. Visit our site for FREE relationship resources and regular giveaways:  Website: https://extension.usu.edu/strongermarriage/ Podcast: https://extension.usu.edu/strongermarriage/podcast/ TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@strongermarriagelife Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/strongermarriage/ Facebook Marriage Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/770019130329579 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/strongermarriagelife/  Dr. Dave Schramm:  http://drdaveschramm.com http://drdavespeaks.com   Dr. Liz Hale:  http://www.drlizhale.com/

We sit down with licensed psychologist Dr. Sami Chun to make sexual intimacy easier to talk about and more honest to live. We trade myths and pressure for practical language around safety, excitement, and connection so couples can navigate desire differences without shame.  • why defining “sex” upfront reduces misunderstanding and disconnection  • Dr. Chun’s SEX acronym: safety, excitement, and connection  • how anxiety and performance pressure shut down arousal  • the five gears of intimacy and how to stop “jumping to fifth”  • myths about desire, orgasm, and what arousal “should” look like  • the APPLE framework: anxiety, pain, and loneliness as signals  • how to make requests instead of assumptions or demands  • when to consider couples, family, group, or individual therapy  • the practice of being responsible for yourself to your partner  Happy Hacks: 101 Science-Backed Ways to Boost Happiness, Reduce Stress, and Build a More Meaningful Life. Available now starting at 99¢ on Amazon and Dave's Book Store Written by Dr. Dave Schramm, this practical and uplifting new book offers simple, research-based strategies to help you build greater happiness, strengthen resilience, reduce The opinions, findings, conclusions, and recommendations expressed in this podcast do not necessarily reflect the views of the Utah Marriage Commission. Visit our site for FREE relationship resources and regular giveaways:  Website: https://extension.usu.edu/strongermarriage/ Podcast: https://extension.usu.edu/strongermarriage/podcast/ TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@strongermarriagelife Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/strongermarriage/ Facebook Marriage Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/770019130329579 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/strongermarriagelife/  Dr. Dave Schramm:  http://drdaveschramm.com http://drdavespeaks.com   Dr. Liz Hale:  http://www.drlizhale.com/

We sit down with marriage and family therapist Sonnet Hinsey to talk about premarital education as prevention, not therapy for people in trouble. We break down the Five Love Languages, Gottman-inspired connection habits, and simple action plans that help couples stay close when the “in love” high shifts into real life.  • why prevention work matters before conflict hardens into patterns  • how RELATE and READY assessments create clarity and shared language  • what keeps premarital education from feeling scary or stigmatized  • the Five Love Languages and why couples “miss the mark” with good intentions  • building a concrete love language action plan that actually gets used  • Gottman concepts that strengthen friendship, fondness and daily connection  • bids for connection and why small responses matter more than grand gestures  • budgeting and money talks as part of preparing for marriage  • simple CBT tools for handling triggers and communicating needs  • Sonnet’s online love languages date night and follow-up supports  Happy Hacks: 101 Science-Backed Ways to Boost Happiness, Reduce Stress, and Build a More Meaningful Life. Available now starting at 99¢ on Amazon and Dave's Book Store Written by Dr. Dave Schramm, this practical and uplifting new book offers simple, research-based strategies to help you build greater happiness, strengthen resilience, reduce The opinions, findings, conclusions, and recommendations expressed in this podcast do not necessarily reflect the views of the Utah Marriage Commission. Visit our site for FREE relationship resources and regular giveaways:  Website: https://extension.usu.edu/strongermarriage/ Podcast: https://extension.usu.edu/strongermarriage/podcast/ TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@strongermarriagelife Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/strongermarriage/ Facebook Marriage Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/770019130329579 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/strongermarriagelife/  Dr. Dave Schramm:  http://drdaveschramm.com http://drdavespeaks.com   Dr. Liz Hale:  http://www.drlizhale.com/

We talk with Dr. Paul Jenkins about a clear positivity model that explains why our brains swing between judging what is and building what’s next, and how that swing shows up in marriage. We walk away with simple tools that replace helpless frustration with choice, hope, and daily actions that actually change the tone at home.  • Dr. Jenkins’ shift from traditional therapy to positive psychology after a humbling bankruptcy  • Awareness precedes choice as a foundation for personal growth and relationship repair  • Two constant mind processes: evaluation of what is and creation of what is to be  • How comparison drives emotion and why “it could be worse” can create real relief  • Hope versus anxiety as outcomes of what we imagine is coming next  • Toxic positivity as denial of reality versus healthy positivity as making peace with reality  • Gratitude power-up as a five-day practice to notice what is good right now  • BB8 Better By Eight as a small daily creation habit for immediate upgrades  • Choosing love as a verb and a daily decision that shapes the marriage  Happy Hacks: 101 Science-Backed Ways to Boost Happiness, Reduce Stress, and Build a More Meaningful Life. Available now starting at 99¢ on Amazon and Dave's Book Store Written by Dr. Dave Schramm, this practical and uplifting new book offers simple, research-based strategies to help you build greater happiness, strengthen resilience, reduce The opinions, findings, conclusions, and recommendations expressed in this podcast do not necessarily reflect the views of the Utah Marriage Commission. Visit our site for FREE relationship resources and regular giveaways:  Website: https://extension.usu.edu/strongermarriage/ Podcast: https://extension.usu.edu/strongermarriage/podcast/ TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@strongermarriagelife Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/strongermarriage/ Facebook Marriage Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/770019130329579 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/strongermarriagelife/  Dr. Dave Schramm:  http://drdaveschramm.com http://drdavespeaks.com   Dr. Liz Hale:  http://www.drlizhale.com/

Men are often expected to be strong, successful, and dependable while receiving little encouragement to express vulnerability or ask for support. Relationship coach Mike Elliott joins Dave and Liz to explore how emotional awareness, presence, and feeling heard and seen can transform relationships. Mike shares his Relational Authority framework, the importance of strong support systems, and a practical tool couples can use to create greater safety and connection. Learn why lasting relationship growth begins with taking responsibility for yourself and choosing devotion over domination.  The opinions, findings, conclusions, and recommendations expressed in this podcast do not necessarily reflect the views of the Utah Marriage Commission. Takeaway of the Day  Mike Elliott: An under-resourced person can become reactive and disconnected. Take an honest inventory of your emotional, physical, and relational resources. Build supportive relationships, care for yourself, and develop the capacity to show up with greater safety and gentle power. Liz Hale: Vulnerability, acknowledgment, and reassurance can deeply strengthen connection. The VAR framework offers a simple way to help your partner feel emotionally heard, seen, and safe. Dave Schramm: Slow down and remember that people are more important than problems. Presence, attention, reassurance, and appreciation create meaningful connection, especially when partners feel valued for their efforts and sacrifices. Mike's Resources: Website: https://www.itsmikeelliott.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/mikeelliott.relating/ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@Itsmikeelliott   Happy Hacks: 101 Science-Backed Ways to Boost Happiness, Reduce Stress, and Build a More Meaningful Life. Available now starting at 99¢ on Amazon and Dave's Book Store Written by Dr. Dave Schramm, this practical and uplifting new book offers simple, research-based strategies to help you build greater happiness, strengthen resilience, reduce The opinions, findings, conclusions, and recommendations expressed in this podcast do not necessarily reflect the views of the Utah Marriage Commission. Visit our site for FREE relationship resources and regular giveaways:  Website: https://extension.usu.edu/strongermarriage/ Podcast: https://extension.usu.edu/strongermarriage/podcast/ TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@strongermarriagelife Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/strongermarriage/ Facebook Marriage Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/770019130329579 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/strongermarriagelife/  Dr. Dave Schramm:  http://drdaveschramm.com http://drdavespeaks.com   Dr. Liz Hale:  http://www.drlizhale.com/

Sexual intimacy can be a powerful source of connection in marriage, but shame, avoidance, unrealistic expectations, and differences in desire can quickly create distance. Licensed professional counselor and certified sex therapist Vanessa Cushing joins Dave and Liz to discuss desire discrepancy, performance anxiety, pornography, sexual trauma, and the importance of honest communication. Learn how couples can stop blaming each other, build emotional safety, and approach sexual intimacy as a team focused on connection rather than performance. The opinions, findings, conclusions, and recommendations expressed in this podcast do not necessarily reflect the views of the Utah Marriage Commission. Takeaway of the Day  Vanessa Cushing: Talk to each other and stop blaming each other. Desire and intimacy improve when couples have hard conversations, approach challenges as a team, and consistently do the small things that strengthen connection.  Liz Hale: Desire is a team effort. Sexual challenges are not simply one partner's problem, and understanding the deeper emotional or psychological factors behind sexual behaviors can help couples respond with greater compassion.  Dave Schramm: Safety and connection are foundational to healthy sexual intimacy. Couples can strengthen their relationship by communicating openly, being vulnerable, and seeking professional help when challenges feel difficult to resolve alone.  Vanessa’s Resources:  Website: https://www.cushingcounseling.com/  Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/cushingcounseling/  YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@vanessacushing  TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@cushingcounseling  Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/people/Cushing-Counseling/61578982936946/    Happy Hacks: 101 Science-Backed Ways to Boost Happiness, Reduce Stress, and Build a More Meaningful Life. Available now starting at 99¢ on Amazon and Dave's Book Store Written by Dr. Dave Schramm, this practical and uplifting new book offers simple, research-based strategies to help you build greater happiness, strengthen resilience, reduce The opinions, findings, conclusions, and recommendations expressed in this podcast do not necessarily reflect the views of the Utah Marriage Commission. Visit our site for FREE relationship resources and regular giveaways:  Website: https://extension.usu.edu/strongermarriage/ Podcast: https://extension.usu.edu/strongermarriage/podcast/ TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@strongermarriagelife Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/strongermarriage/ Facebook Marriage Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/770019130329579 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/strongermarriagelife/  Dr. Dave Schramm:  http://drdaveschramm.com http://drdavespeaks.com   Dr. Liz Hale:  http://www.drlizhale.com/

Sexual intimacy can play an important role in emotional connection, relationship satisfaction, and overall well-being. Relationship therapist Laura How joins Dr. Liz Hale and Dr. Dave Schramm to explore sexless marriages, differences in sexual desire, and the physical and emotional benefits of a healthy sexual relationship. Laura shares practical insights for understanding desire, talking openly about intimacy, and making your marriage a greater priority. Discover how curiosity, intentional connection, and playfulness can help couples rebuild intimacy and create a stronger marriage. The opinions, findings, conclusions, and recommendations expressed in this podcast do not necessarily reflect the views of the Utah Marriage Commission. Takeaway of the Day Laura How: Make your marriage the project of your life. Prioritize personal growth and create a relationship that feels playful, joyful, and energizing. A strong marriage is possible when couples intentionally nurture their connection.Liz Hale: A healthy sexual connection offers powerful benefits for individuals, couples, and families. Liz emphasizes the positive influence a loving, connected marriage can have on children and encourages women to recognize their power to strengthen their relationships.Dave Schramm: Relationships require intentional attention. When work, children, stress, and technology take over, emotional and physical connection can slowly fade. Couples need to talk openly, make time for each other, and remember that a lack of attention can lead to a loss of connection.Laura's Links: Website: https://laurahow.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/laurahow/ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@LauraHow TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@laurahowcounselling X: https://x.com/laurahow Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/laurahowcounsellor/ Happy Hacks: 101 Science-Backed Ways to Boost Happiness, Reduce Stress, and Build a More Meaningful Life. Available now starting at 99¢ on Amazon and Dave's Book Store Written by Dr. Dave Schramm, this practical and uplifting new book offers simple, research-based strategies to help you build greater happiness, strengthen resilience, reduce The opinions, findings, conclusions, and recommendations expressed in this podcast do not necessarily reflect the views of the Utah Marriage Commission. Visit our site for FREE relationship resources and regular giveaways:  Website: https://extension.usu.edu/strongermarriage/ Podcast: https://extension.usu.edu/strongermarriage/podcast/ TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@strongermarriagelife Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/strongermarriage/ Facebook Marriage Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/770019130329579 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/strongermarriagelife/  Dr. Dave Schramm:  http://drdaveschramm.com http://drdavespeaks.com   Dr. Liz Hale:  http://www.drlizhale.com/

We flip the mic and let Liz and Rex interview Dave about his new book, Happy Hacks, and the science-backed habits that make joy more durable in real life. We dig into why happiness matters for marriages and families, how small choices build momentum, and why compassion and kindness are the glue of a stronger marriage connection.  • why happiness is not toxic positivity and still involves choice through perspective  • why Dave wrote a “hacks” book and how short, simple practices beat jargon  • the structure of each hack: what it is, why it works, try this today, what if, bottom line  • gratitude and kindness as the quickest ripple effect for well-being and relationships  • “Text Two Before 10” and why delayed gratitude can be surprisingly powerful  • foundational habits that shape mood: sunlight, hydration, protein, sleep, stopping doomscrolling  • “happy hack attacks” that steal joy: comparison, rumination, avoiding emotions, materialism  • purpose beyond the self as a buffer against stress and a path to meaning  • hack 101: writing a letter to your future self to live with more intention now  • the key to a stronger marriage connection: compassion and kindness  Dave's Resources: Website: https://www.drdaveschramm.com/  Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/drdaveschramm/  Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/DrDaveUSU  YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCUgmEM9eheDC5AbNYUB3ENA/videos  X: https://x.com/DrDaveUSU  Happy Hacks: 101 Science-Backed Ways to Boost Happiness, Reduce Stress, and Build a More Meaningful Life. Available now starting at 99¢ on Amazon and Dave's Book Store Written by Dr. Dave Schramm, this practical and uplifting new book offers simple, research-based strategies to help you build greater happiness, strengthen resilience, reduce The opinions, findings, conclusions, and recommendations expressed in this podcast do not necessarily reflect the views of the Utah Marriage Commission. Visit our site for FREE relationship resources and regular giveaways:  Website: https://extension.usu.edu/strongermarriage/ Podcast: https://extension.usu.edu/strongermarriage/podcast/ TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@strongermarriagelife Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/strongermarriage/ Facebook Marriage Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/770019130329579 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/strongermarriagelife/  Dr. Dave Schramm:  http://drdaveschramm.com http://drdavespeaks.com   Dr. Liz Hale:  http://www.drlizhale.com/

Discovering infidelity can be one of the most painful experiences a couple faces. In this episode, Dr. Bill Bumberry shares practical guidance and hope for couples navigating betrayal trauma and rebuilding trust. Drawing on decades of clinical experience and the Gottman Method, Bill explains the three key phases of healing after infidelity—atonement, attunement, and attachment—and offers actionable strategies for restoring safety, connection, and commitment. Whether you're recovering from betrayal or looking to strengthen your relationship against future threats, this conversation provides valuable insight and encouragement.  • defining infidelity as betraying an agreement plus secrecy  • why social media and dating apps make hiding easier  • how friendships drift into emotional and physical affairs  • common trauma responses for the hurt partner, including hypervigilance and dysregulation  • why remorse has to become active compassion to restore safety  • using the Gottman phases of atonement, attunement, and attachment  • deciding which details help and which details harm early on  • how avoidance and negative sentiment override set the stage for disconnection  • what to consider when talking with kids at different ages  • daily connection rituals that matter most, including the first two minutes together  • loyalty as an active practice, especially when your partner is not present Happy Hacks: 101 Science-Backed Ways to Boost Happiness, Reduce Stress, and Build a More Meaningful Life. Available now starting at 99¢ on Amazon and Dave's Book Store Written by Dr. Dave Schramm, this practical and uplifting new book offers simple, research-based strategies to help you build greater happiness, strengthen resilience, reduce The opinions, findings, conclusions, and recommendations expressed in this podcast do not necessarily reflect the views of the Utah Marriage Commission. Visit our site for FREE relationship resources and regular giveaways:  Website: https://extension.usu.edu/strongermarriage/ Podcast: https://extension.usu.edu/strongermarriage/podcast/ TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@strongermarriagelife Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/strongermarriage/ Facebook Marriage Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/770019130329579 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/strongermarriagelife/  Dr. Dave Schramm:  http://drdaveschramm.com http://drdavespeaks.com   Dr. Liz Hale:  http://www.drlizhale.com/