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In this episode of Stronger Marriage Connection, global relationship coach and clinical sexologist Dr. Lea Haber joins Dave Schramm and Liz Hale to explain what it means to have a “personal trainer” for your love life. Lea explores the quiet disconnection that can pull couples apart, why small moments of intentional connection matter, and how desire changes in long-term relationships. She also shares practical ways couples can strengthen communication, intimacy, curiosity, and shared vision before serious problems develop. Whether couples are preparing for marriage or simply want to move from a good relationship to a great one, Lea emphasizes that lasting love requires continued investment and intentional effort.  #marriageadvice #relationshipcoaching #marriageintimacy #healthyrelationships  Chapters  00:00 – Meet Dr. Lea Haber  01:53 – Understanding Clinical Sexology  03:17 – A Personal Trainer for Love  05:28 – What Quietly Pulls Couples Apart  06:35 – The Magic Wand Question  07:29 – Creating Intentional Connection  08:07 – The Power of Micro Moments  09:35 – What Are You Chasing?  10:15 – Creating Shared Meaning Together  10:38 – Understanding Desire in Marriage  11:01 – Spontaneous Versus Responsive Desire  12:23 – Why Desire Levels Differ  13:29 – Talking About Desire Differences  14:34 – Homework That Strengthens Relationships  15:39 – Date Your Partner Again  16:28 – Planning Beyond the Wedding  18:51 – Marriage Preparation at Any Stage  20:07 – Conversations Couples Need to Have  21:24 – Personalized Marriage Support  24:26 – Who Benefits From Marriage Coaching?  25:42 – Everything in Marriage Is Connected  26:32 – Helping Couples Find Common Ground  28:23 – Stop Comparing Your Marriage  30:15 – Finding the Right Relationship Expert  32:08 – What Strong Couples Do Differently  33:17 – Stay Curious Before Furious  35:26 – Keys to Stronger Connection  36:26 – Takeaway of the Day   Takeaway of the Day  Lea Haber: Everything in a relationship is deeply interconnected. Communication, emotional connection, intimacy, and other areas of marriage influence one another, so couples benefit from continually investing in the relationship as a whole. Episode 197 - Lea Haber - Love …  Liz Hale: There is value in seeking expert guidance for your love life just as you might seek professional advice in other important areas. Even when only one partner begins making small, positive changes, those efforts can create a ripple effect within the relationship. Episode 197 - Lea Haber - Love …  Dave Schramm: Good relationships can become great relationships when couples are willing to invest the time and effort. Strong marriages aren't built through one “secret sauce,” but through communication, intentionality, outside support when needed, and many small and simple actions over time. Episode 197 - Lea Haber - Love …  About Dr. Lea Haber  Dr. Lea Haber, Ph.D., is a global relationship expert, clinical sexologist, author, and founder of Dr. LoveLea, a private advisory built on the belief that an extraordinary love life is built, not found. Specializing in modern premarital guidance, Dr. Lea works with couples to understand the patterns they bring into relationships, clarify the partnership they want to build, and identify the personal work needed to create lasting commitment. Her approach is secular, flexible, and designed for contemporary couples seeking practical and meaningful preparation for marriage. Dr. Lea holds a Ph.D. in Clinical Sexology and degrees from NYU and Columbia. Her creative, science-informed, and solutions-oriented approach incorporates elements of the Gottman Method, cognitive behavioral techniques, motivational interviewing, and play-based practices. She helps couples navigate communication, conflict resolution, intimacy, shared values, life transitions, and long-term goals. She is the author of the bestselling book Planning Beyond the Wedding, which encourages couples to devote as much intention to building their marriage as they do to planning their wedding. She also created the Kiss & Commit relationship card game and a comprehensive online premarital course designed to make relationship education engaging, accessible, and actionable. Dr. Lea’s Resources  Webite: www.drlovelea.com  Wesbite: www.kissandcommit.com  Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/kissandcommit  Happy Hacks: 101 Science-Backed Ways to Boost Happiness, Reduce Stress, and Build a More Meaningful Life. Available now starting at 99¢ on Amazon and Dave's Book Store Written by Dr. Dave Schramm, this practical and uplifting new book offers simple, research-based strategies to help you build greater happiness, strengthen resilience, reduce The opinions, findings, conclusions, and recommendations expressed in this podcast do not necessarily reflect the views of the Utah Marriage Commission. Visit our site for FREE relationship resources and regular giveaways:  Strongermarriage.org   Podcast.stongermarriage.org YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@StrongerMarriageLife TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@strongermarriagelife Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/strongermarriagelife/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/strongermarriage/ Facebook Marriage Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/770019130329579 Dr. Dave Schramm:  http://drdaveschramm.com http://drdavespeaks.com   Dr. Liz Hale:  http://www.drlizhale.com/

In this episode of Stronger Marriage Connection, author and speaker Arlene Pellicane joins Dave Schramm and Liz Hale to talk about how technology is shaping family life—and what parents can do when screens begin replacing sleep, hobbies, conversations, and face-to-face connection. Drawing from her book The Great Tech Reset, Arlene explains the “ABCD harms” of technology and shares practical ideas for setting healthier boundaries around smartphones, social media, video games, and AI. Rather than eliminating technology altogether, the conversation focuses on helping families use it intentionally while making more room for real relationships, outdoor activities, creativity, and meaningful family memories.  Chapters  00:00 – Technology's Impact on Family Life  01:08 – When Screens Interfere With Connection  02:50 – Why Families Need a Tech Reset  03:57 – The ABCD Harms of Technology  08:01 – Warning Signs of Technology Problems  09:49 – The Bad Babysitter Problem  11:38 – Helping Kids Play Without Screens  13:18 – Discovering Interests Beyond Technology  13:59 – Expect Resistance From Your Kids  16:26 – Social Media and Teen Anxiety  19:57 – How Smartphones Changed Childhood  20:55 – Raising Kids Without Smartphones  24:45 – Finding Practical Technology Workarounds  26:03 – Parenting in the Age of AI  29:40 – Creating a Family Technology Plan  32:31 – Parents Must Model Healthy Technology  36:03 – Replacing Screens With Real Connection  38:08 – The Great Tech Reset Resources  39:14 – Takeaway of the Day   Takeaway of the Day  Arlene Pellicane: You only get one childhood with your child, so make sure you—not a device—are a major part of it. Don't be afraid to delay technology or remove something that has become problematic. Setting limits may bring resistance, but parents shouldn't be afraid to do the harder thing now to protect connection and healthy development later. Episode 196 - Arlene Pellicane …  Liz Hale: We often worry about dangers to children in the physical world while overlooking risks that can reach them online. Liz's takeaway is to become more aware of those digital influences and give online safety the attention it deserves. Episode 196 - Arlene Pellicane …  Dave Schramm: Technology can be incredibly useful, but it shouldn't replace the experiences that build strong relationships. Keep screens away from bedrooms, beds, and family meals when possible, and replace some of that screen time with real connection—getting outdoors, going on dates, talking together, and creating memories through shared activities. Episode 196 - Arlene Pellicane …  About Arlene Pellicane:  Arlene Pellicane is a speaker, host of the Happy Home podcast, and author of several books including Making Marriage Easier, The Great Tech Reset, and Screen Kids.  Arlene has been featured on the Today Show, Fox & Friends, the Wall Street Journal, FamilyLife Today and Focus on the Family and is the spokesperson for National Marriage Week. Arlene and her husband James have three children and live in San Diego.    Arlene’s Resources:  Website: https://arlenepellicane.com/   Books: https://www.amazon.com/stores/author/B004R7BTF2   Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/arlenepellicane/?hl=en   Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/ArlenePellicaneAuthor/   Focus On The Family: https://www.focusonthefamily.com/contributors/arlene-pellicane/  Happy Hacks: 101 Science-Backed Ways to Boost Happiness, Reduce Stress, and Build a More Meaningful Life. Available now starting at 99¢ on Amazon and Dave's Book Store Written by Dr. Dave Schramm, this practical and uplifting new book offers simple, research-based strategies to help you build greater happiness, strengthen resilience, reduce The opinions, findings, conclusions, and recommendations expressed in this podcast do not necessarily reflect the views of the Utah Marriage Commission. Visit our site for FREE relationship resources and regular giveaways:  Strongermarriage.org   Podcast.stongermarriage.org YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@StrongerMarriageLife TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@strongermarriagelife Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/strongermarriagelife/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/strongermarriage/ Facebook Marriage Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/770019130329579 Dr. Dave Schramm:  http://drdaveschramm.com http://drdavespeaks.com   Dr. Liz Hale:  http://www.drlizhale.com/

Ordinary sounds like chewing or breathing can trigger real fight-or-flight, and that reaction can quietly strain closeness at home. We talk with Dr. Thomas Phelan about what misophonia feels like, why it can spiral into resentment, and how we can respond with no-fault compassion and practical plans. • what mesophonia is and how it differs from everyday annoyance  • why mouth sounds are common triggers and why reactions can include rage and panic  • how repeated triggers can create resentment, distance, and dread around family dinner  • the “second reaction” spiral of shame, blame, and negative stories after a trigger  • how we start the conversation without blaming, including using written resources first  • negotiated accommodations that reduce triggers without avoiding your spouse  • the ABCD model and “five-second plan” to interrupt the reaction fast  • why “no-fault” thinking becomes the heart of therapy for couples and families  • the key to stronger connection: shared one-on-one fun Happy Hacks: 101 Science-Backed Ways to Boost Happiness, Reduce Stress, and Build a More Meaningful Life. Available now starting at 99¢ on Amazon and Dave's Book Store Written by Dr. Dave Schramm, this practical and uplifting new book offers simple, research-based strategies to help you build greater happiness, strengthen resilience, reduce The opinions, findings, conclusions, and recommendations expressed in this podcast do not necessarily reflect the views of the Utah Marriage Commission. Visit our site for FREE relationship resources and regular giveaways:  Strongermarriage.org   Podcast.stongermarriage.org YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@StrongerMarriageLife TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@strongermarriagelife Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/strongermarriagelife/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/strongermarriage/ Facebook Marriage Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/770019130329579 Dr. Dave Schramm:  http://drdaveschramm.com http://drdavespeaks.com   Dr. Liz Hale:  http://www.drlizhale.com/

We welcome back marriage intimacy coach Dan Purcell to talk about why couples drift into “roommate mode” and how to rebuild fun, friendship, and desire with small daily choices. We share mindset shifts and practical tools that help us create “our spark” on purpose, even in busy seasons with stress, kids, and routines.  • Dan’s rebrand from Dating Divas to Date Your Spouse and the mission of strengthening marriages one date at a time  • why fun and play fade after the honeymoon and how passive drifting fuels disconnection  • challenges as a developmental invitation and “irritation is an invitation” mindset  • “our spark” and the courage it takes for one partner to go first  • simple daily habits that keep emotional connection alive  • the emotions check-in practice for speaking emotionally without rebuttal  • curiosity as the skill that keeps your relationship map updated  • differentiation over defensiveness and staying connected through differences  • what makes date nights meaningful, creative, and connecting  • Sparked app features for daily prompts, date planning, memory keeping, and at-home experiences  • Just Between Us for private, protected couple messaging  • where to find Dan’s work at dateyourspouse.com and getyourmarriageon.com  Happy Hacks: 101 Science-Backed Ways to Boost Happiness, Reduce Stress, and Build a More Meaningful Life. Available now starting at 99¢ on Amazon and Dave's Book Store Written by Dr. Dave Schramm, this practical and uplifting new book offers simple, research-based strategies to help you build greater happiness, strengthen resilience, reduce The opinions, findings, conclusions, and recommendations expressed in this podcast do not necessarily reflect the views of the Utah Marriage Commission. Visit our site for FREE relationship resources and regular giveaways:  Strongermarriage.org   Podcast.stongermarriage.org YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@StrongerMarriageLife TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@strongermarriagelife Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/strongermarriagelife/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/strongermarriage/ Facebook Marriage Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/770019130329579 Dr. Dave Schramm:  http://drdaveschramm.com http://drdavespeaks.com   Dr. Liz Hale:  http://www.drlizhale.com/

We sit down with licensed psychologist Dr. Sami Chun to make sexual intimacy easier to talk about and more honest to live. We trade myths and pressure for practical language around safety, excitement, and connection so couples can navigate desire differences without shame.  • why defining “sex” upfront reduces misunderstanding and disconnection  • Dr. Chun’s SEX acronym: safety, excitement, and connection  • how anxiety and performance pressure shut down arousal  • the five gears of intimacy and how to stop “jumping to fifth”  • myths about desire, orgasm, and what arousal “should” look like  • the APPLE framework: anxiety, pain, and loneliness as signals  • how to make requests instead of assumptions or demands  • when to consider couples, family, group, or individual therapy  • the practice of being responsible for yourself to your partner  Happy Hacks: 101 Science-Backed Ways to Boost Happiness, Reduce Stress, and Build a More Meaningful Life. Available now starting at 99¢ on Amazon and Dave's Book Store Written by Dr. Dave Schramm, this practical and uplifting new book offers simple, research-based strategies to help you build greater happiness, strengthen resilience, reduce The opinions, findings, conclusions, and recommendations expressed in this podcast do not necessarily reflect the views of the Utah Marriage Commission. Visit our site for FREE relationship resources and regular giveaways:  Strongermarriage.org   Podcast.stongermarriage.org YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@StrongerMarriageLife TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@strongermarriagelife Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/strongermarriagelife/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/strongermarriage/ Facebook Marriage Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/770019130329579 Dr. Dave Schramm:  http://drdaveschramm.com http://drdavespeaks.com   Dr. Liz Hale:  http://www.drlizhale.com/

We sit down with marriage and family therapist Sonnet Hinsey to talk about premarital education as prevention, not therapy for people in trouble. We break down the Five Love Languages, Gottman-inspired connection habits, and simple action plans that help couples stay close when the “in love” high shifts into real life.  • why prevention work matters before conflict hardens into patterns  • how RELATE and READY assessments create clarity and shared language  • what keeps premarital education from feeling scary or stigmatized  • the Five Love Languages and why couples “miss the mark” with good intentions  • building a concrete love language action plan that actually gets used  • Gottman concepts that strengthen friendship, fondness and daily connection  • bids for connection and why small responses matter more than grand gestures  • budgeting and money talks as part of preparing for marriage  • simple CBT tools for handling triggers and communicating needs  • Sonnet’s online love languages date night and follow-up supports  Happy Hacks: 101 Science-Backed Ways to Boost Happiness, Reduce Stress, and Build a More Meaningful Life. Available now starting at 99¢ on Amazon and Dave's Book Store Written by Dr. Dave Schramm, this practical and uplifting new book offers simple, research-based strategies to help you build greater happiness, strengthen resilience, reduce The opinions, findings, conclusions, and recommendations expressed in this podcast do not necessarily reflect the views of the Utah Marriage Commission. Visit our site for FREE relationship resources and regular giveaways:  Strongermarriage.org   Podcast.stongermarriage.org YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@StrongerMarriageLife TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@strongermarriagelife Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/strongermarriagelife/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/strongermarriage/ Facebook Marriage Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/770019130329579 Dr. Dave Schramm:  http://drdaveschramm.com http://drdavespeaks.com   Dr. Liz Hale:  http://www.drlizhale.com/

We talk with Dr. Paul Jenkins about a clear positivity model that explains why our brains swing between judging what is and building what’s next, and how that swing shows up in marriage. We walk away with simple tools that replace helpless frustration with choice, hope, and daily actions that actually change the tone at home.  • Dr. Jenkins’ shift from traditional therapy to positive psychology after a humbling bankruptcy  • Awareness precedes choice as a foundation for personal growth and relationship repair  • Two constant mind processes: evaluation of what is and creation of what is to be  • How comparison drives emotion and why “it could be worse” can create real relief  • Hope versus anxiety as outcomes of what we imagine is coming next  • Toxic positivity as denial of reality versus healthy positivity as making peace with reality  • Gratitude power-up as a five-day practice to notice what is good right now  • BB8 Better By Eight as a small daily creation habit for immediate upgrades  • Choosing love as a verb and a daily decision that shapes the marriage  Happy Hacks: 101 Science-Backed Ways to Boost Happiness, Reduce Stress, and Build a More Meaningful Life. Available now starting at 99¢ on Amazon and Dave's Book Store Written by Dr. Dave Schramm, this practical and uplifting new book offers simple, research-based strategies to help you build greater happiness, strengthen resilience, reduce The opinions, findings, conclusions, and recommendations expressed in this podcast do not necessarily reflect the views of the Utah Marriage Commission. Visit our site for FREE relationship resources and regular giveaways:  Strongermarriage.org   Podcast.stongermarriage.org YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@StrongerMarriageLife TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@strongermarriagelife Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/strongermarriagelife/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/strongermarriage/ Facebook Marriage Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/770019130329579 Dr. Dave Schramm:  http://drdaveschramm.com http://drdavespeaks.com   Dr. Liz Hale:  http://www.drlizhale.com/

Men are often expected to be strong, successful, and dependable while receiving little encouragement to express vulnerability or ask for support. Relationship coach Mike Elliott joins Dave and Liz to explore how emotional awareness, presence, and feeling heard and seen can transform relationships. Mike shares his Relational Authority framework, the importance of strong support systems, and a practical tool couples can use to create greater safety and connection. Learn why lasting relationship growth begins with taking responsibility for yourself and choosing devotion over domination.  The opinions, findings, conclusions, and recommendations expressed in this podcast do not necessarily reflect the views of the Utah Marriage Commission. Takeaway of the Day  Mike Elliott: An under-resourced person can become reactive and disconnected. Take an honest inventory of your emotional, physical, and relational resources. Build supportive relationships, care for yourself, and develop the capacity to show up with greater safety and gentle power. Liz Hale: Vulnerability, acknowledgment, and reassurance can deeply strengthen connection. The VAR framework offers a simple way to help your partner feel emotionally heard, seen, and safe. Dave Schramm: Slow down and remember that people are more important than problems. Presence, attention, reassurance, and appreciation create meaningful connection, especially when partners feel valued for their efforts and sacrifices. Mike's Resources: Website: https://www.itsmikeelliott.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/mikeelliott.relating/ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@Itsmikeelliott   Happy Hacks: 101 Science-Backed Ways to Boost Happiness, Reduce Stress, and Build a More Meaningful Life. Available now starting at 99¢ on Amazon and Dave's Book Store Written by Dr. Dave Schramm, this practical and uplifting new book offers simple, research-based strategies to help you build greater happiness, strengthen resilience, reduce The opinions, findings, conclusions, and recommendations expressed in this podcast do not necessarily reflect the views of the Utah Marriage Commission. Visit our site for FREE relationship resources and regular giveaways:  Strongermarriage.org   Podcast.stongermarriage.org YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@StrongerMarriageLife TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@strongermarriagelife Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/strongermarriagelife/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/strongermarriage/ Facebook Marriage Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/770019130329579 Dr. Dave Schramm:  http://drdaveschramm.com http://drdavespeaks.com   Dr. Liz Hale:  http://www.drlizhale.com/

Sexual intimacy can be a powerful source of connection in marriage, but shame, avoidance, unrealistic expectations, and differences in desire can quickly create distance. Licensed professional counselor and certified sex therapist Vanessa Cushing joins Dave and Liz to discuss desire discrepancy, performance anxiety, pornography, sexual trauma, and the importance of honest communication. Learn how couples can stop blaming each other, build emotional safety, and approach sexual intimacy as a team focused on connection rather than performance. The opinions, findings, conclusions, and recommendations expressed in this podcast do not necessarily reflect the views of the Utah Marriage Commission. Takeaway of the Day  Vanessa Cushing: Talk to each other and stop blaming each other. Desire and intimacy improve when couples have hard conversations, approach challenges as a team, and consistently do the small things that strengthen connection.  Liz Hale: Desire is a team effort. Sexual challenges are not simply one partner's problem, and understanding the deeper emotional or psychological factors behind sexual behaviors can help couples respond with greater compassion.  Dave Schramm: Safety and connection are foundational to healthy sexual intimacy. Couples can strengthen their relationship by communicating openly, being vulnerable, and seeking professional help when challenges feel difficult to resolve alone.  Vanessa’s Resources:  Website: https://www.cushingcounseling.com/  Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/cushingcounseling/  YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@vanessacushing  TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@cushingcounseling  Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/people/Cushing-Counseling/61578982936946/    Happy Hacks: 101 Science-Backed Ways to Boost Happiness, Reduce Stress, and Build a More Meaningful Life. Available now starting at 99¢ on Amazon and Dave's Book Store Written by Dr. Dave Schramm, this practical and uplifting new book offers simple, research-based strategies to help you build greater happiness, strengthen resilience, reduce The opinions, findings, conclusions, and recommendations expressed in this podcast do not necessarily reflect the views of the Utah Marriage Commission. Visit our site for FREE relationship resources and regular giveaways:  Strongermarriage.org   Podcast.stongermarriage.org YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@StrongerMarriageLife TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@strongermarriagelife Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/strongermarriagelife/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/strongermarriage/ Facebook Marriage Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/770019130329579 Dr. Dave Schramm:  http://drdaveschramm.com http://drdavespeaks.com   Dr. Liz Hale:  http://www.drlizhale.com/

Sexual intimacy can play an important role in emotional connection, relationship satisfaction, and overall well-being. Relationship therapist Laura How joins Dr. Liz Hale and Dr. Dave Schramm to explore sexless marriages, differences in sexual desire, and the physical and emotional benefits of a healthy sexual relationship. Laura shares practical insights for understanding desire, talking openly about intimacy, and making your marriage a greater priority. Discover how curiosity, intentional connection, and playfulness can help couples rebuild intimacy and create a stronger marriage. The opinions, findings, conclusions, and recommendations expressed in this podcast do not necessarily reflect the views of the Utah Marriage Commission. Takeaway of the Day Laura How: Make your marriage the project of your life. Prioritize personal growth and create a relationship that feels playful, joyful, and energizing. A strong marriage is possible when couples intentionally nurture their connection.Liz Hale: A healthy sexual connection offers powerful benefits for individuals, couples, and families. Liz emphasizes the positive influence a loving, connected marriage can have on children and encourages women to recognize their power to strengthen their relationships.Dave Schramm: Relationships require intentional attention. When work, children, stress, and technology take over, emotional and physical connection can slowly fade. Couples need to talk openly, make time for each other, and remember that a lack of attention can lead to a loss of connection.Laura's Links: Website: https://laurahow.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/laurahow/ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@LauraHow TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@laurahowcounselling X: https://x.com/laurahow Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/laurahowcounsellor/ Happy Hacks: 101 Science-Backed Ways to Boost Happiness, Reduce Stress, and Build a More Meaningful Life. Available now starting at 99¢ on Amazon and Dave's Book Store Written by Dr. Dave Schramm, this practical and uplifting new book offers simple, research-based strategies to help you build greater happiness, strengthen resilience, reduce The opinions, findings, conclusions, and recommendations expressed in this podcast do not necessarily reflect the views of the Utah Marriage Commission. Visit our site for FREE relationship resources and regular giveaways:  Strongermarriage.org   Podcast.stongermarriage.org YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@StrongerMarriageLife TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@strongermarriagelife Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/strongermarriagelife/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/strongermarriage/ Facebook Marriage Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/770019130329579 Dr. Dave Schramm:  http://drdaveschramm.com http://drdavespeaks.com   Dr. Liz Hale:  http://www.drlizhale.com/

We flip the mic and let Liz and Rex interview Dave about his new book, Happy Hacks, and the science-backed habits that make joy more durable in real life. We dig into why happiness matters for marriages and families, how small choices build momentum, and why compassion and kindness are the glue of a stronger marriage connection.  • why happiness is not toxic positivity and still involves choice through perspective  • why Dave wrote a “hacks” book and how short, simple practices beat jargon  • the structure of each hack: what it is, why it works, try this today, what if, bottom line  • gratitude and kindness as the quickest ripple effect for well-being and relationships  • “Text Two Before 10” and why delayed gratitude can be surprisingly powerful  • foundational habits that shape mood: sunlight, hydration, protein, sleep, stopping doomscrolling  • “happy hack attacks” that steal joy: comparison, rumination, avoiding emotions, materialism  • purpose beyond the self as a buffer against stress and a path to meaning  • hack 101: writing a letter to your future self to live with more intention now  • the key to a stronger marriage connection: compassion and kindness  Dave's Resources: Website: https://www.drdaveschramm.com/  Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/drdaveschramm/  Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/DrDaveUSU  YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCUgmEM9eheDC5AbNYUB3ENA/videos  X: https://x.com/DrDaveUSU  Happy Hacks: 101 Science-Backed Ways to Boost Happiness, Reduce Stress, and Build a More Meaningful Life. Available now starting at 99¢ on Amazon and Dave's Book Store Written by Dr. Dave Schramm, this practical and uplifting new book offers simple, research-based strategies to help you build greater happiness, strengthen resilience, reduce The opinions, findings, conclusions, and recommendations expressed in this podcast do not necessarily reflect the views of the Utah Marriage Commission. Visit our site for FREE relationship resources and regular giveaways:  Strongermarriage.org   Podcast.stongermarriage.org YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@StrongerMarriageLife TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@strongermarriagelife Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/strongermarriagelife/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/strongermarriage/ Facebook Marriage Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/770019130329579 Dr. Dave Schramm:  http://drdaveschramm.com http://drdavespeaks.com   Dr. Liz Hale:  http://www.drlizhale.com/

Discovering infidelity can be one of the most painful experiences a couple faces. In this episode, Dr. Bill Bumberry shares practical guidance and hope for couples navigating betrayal trauma and rebuilding trust. Drawing on decades of clinical experience and the Gottman Method, Bill explains the three key phases of healing after infidelity—atonement, attunement, and attachment—and offers actionable strategies for restoring safety, connection, and commitment. Whether you're recovering from betrayal or looking to strengthen your relationship against future threats, this conversation provides valuable insight and encouragement.  • defining infidelity as betraying an agreement plus secrecy  • why social media and dating apps make hiding easier  • how friendships drift into emotional and physical affairs  • common trauma responses for the hurt partner, including hypervigilance and dysregulation  • why remorse has to become active compassion to restore safety  • using the Gottman phases of atonement, attunement, and attachment  • deciding which details help and which details harm early on  • how avoidance and negative sentiment override set the stage for disconnection  • what to consider when talking with kids at different ages  • daily connection rituals that matter most, including the first two minutes together  • loyalty as an active practice, especially when your partner is not present Happy Hacks: 101 Science-Backed Ways to Boost Happiness, Reduce Stress, and Build a More Meaningful Life. Available now starting at 99¢ on Amazon and Dave's Book Store Written by Dr. Dave Schramm, this practical and uplifting new book offers simple, research-based strategies to help you build greater happiness, strengthen resilience, reduce The opinions, findings, conclusions, and recommendations expressed in this podcast do not necessarily reflect the views of the Utah Marriage Commission. Visit our site for FREE relationship resources and regular giveaways:  Strongermarriage.org   Podcast.stongermarriage.org YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@StrongerMarriageLife TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@strongermarriagelife Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/strongermarriagelife/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/strongermarriage/ Facebook Marriage Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/770019130329579 Dr. Dave Schramm:  http://drdaveschramm.com http://drdavespeaks.com   Dr. Liz Hale:  http://www.drlizhale.com/

We sit down with psychotherapist Kirsten Davidson to unpack why couples drift into disconnection and how Internal Family Systems therapy can help us lead ourselves with more clarity, compassion, and courage. We challenge the stories we tell ourselves in conflict, practice speaking from “parts” instead of blame, and lay out simple shifts that rebuild real connection.  • assumptions driving communication breakdowns and unnecessary hurt  • avoiding hard talks out of fear of the truth and discomfort  • using IFS “parts” language to create space and reduce shame  • defining self-energy and what “self-led” looks like at home  • turning fights into dialogue instead of debate  • choosing radical honesty about our limits and patterns  • why couples counseling works better when we go earlier  • tips for newlyweds and engaged couples to benchmark what works  • resources to learn IFS, including Richard Schwartz’s No Bad Parts  • how we build hope when couples feel exhausted and stuck  Happy Hacks: 101 Science-Backed Ways to Boost Happiness, Reduce Stress, and Build a More Meaningful Life. Available now starting at 99¢ on Amazon and Dave's Book Store Written by Dr. Dave Schramm, this practical and uplifting new book offers simple, research-based strategies to help you build greater happiness, strengthen resilience, reduce The opinions, findings, conclusions, and recommendations expressed in this podcast do not necessarily reflect the views of the Utah Marriage Commission. Visit our site for FREE relationship resources and regular giveaways:  Strongermarriage.org   Podcast.stongermarriage.org YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@StrongerMarriageLife TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@strongermarriagelife Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/strongermarriagelife/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/strongermarriage/ Facebook Marriage Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/770019130329579 Dr. Dave Schramm:  http://drdaveschramm.com http://drdavespeaks.com   Dr. Liz Hale:  http://www.drlizhale.com/

We sit down with marriage and family therapist Andrea Dindinger to name the repeat fight loops that hijack connection and to practice simple ways to interrupt them before they turn mean. We walk away with concrete tools for calmer conflict, deeper intimacy, and more intentional partnership that ripples into the next generation.  • naming the “loop” as the problem, not each other  • spotting triggers and the deeper needs underneath them  • using “bookmark” to pause conflict and return at a specific time  • building trust by always coming back to the bookmarked talk  • leading the moment by listening without taking it personally  • using a firm “stop” paired with reassurance and safety  • choosing curiosity before defensiveness as a relationship superpower  • rethinking intimacy through “sexy logistics” and mental load  • trying a 21-day experiment of small daily connection practices  • letting go of perfection and focusing on repair and accountability  • creating a shared vision and doing an annual relationship review  Happy Hacks: 101 Science-Backed Ways to Boost Happiness, Reduce Stress, and Build a More Meaningful Life. Available now starting at 99¢ on Amazon and Dave's Book Store Written by Dr. Dave Schramm, this practical and uplifting new book offers simple, research-based strategies to help you build greater happiness, strengthen resilience, reduce The opinions, findings, conclusions, and recommendations expressed in this podcast do not necessarily reflect the views of the Utah Marriage Commission. Visit our site for FREE relationship resources and regular giveaways:  Strongermarriage.org   Podcast.stongermarriage.org YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@StrongerMarriageLife TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@strongermarriagelife Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/strongermarriagelife/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/strongermarriage/ Facebook Marriage Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/770019130329579 Dr. Dave Schramm:  http://drdaveschramm.com http://drdavespeaks.com   Dr. Liz Hale:  http://www.drlizhale.com/

We sit down with therapist Josh O’Tani to talk about pornography use as a couples issue and why secrecy can wound a relationship as deeply as infidelity. We map the shame and anger cycle that keeps partners stuck, then share practical ways to rebuild trust through curiosity, empathy, and consistent repair.  • Reframing pornography use as relational and systemic, not just individual behavior  • Pornography as a coping strategy for difficult emotions and how avoidance spills into marriage  • The negative interaction cycle after betrayal, including shame, fixing, withdrawal, anger, and distrust  • Why empty promises fail and how trust rebuilds through time and consistency  • Why secrecy matters more than the content for many couples  • Confessing early versus being discovered and the impact on safety and vulnerability  • Betrayal trauma responses, including volatility and PTSD-like symptoms  • Simple language shifts that validate pain without defensiveness  • Clarifying values and agreeing on goals, abstinence versus negotiated boundaries  • Tools from emotionally focused therapy, enactments, and impact versus intent  • The mindset shift that you don’t have to heal alone, and why professional help accelerates progress  • Where to find Josh and his resources at Big Valley Therapy  Happy Hacks: 101 Science-Backed Ways to Boost Happiness, Reduce Stress, and Build a More Meaningful Life. Available now starting at 99¢ on Amazon and Dave's Book Store Written by Dr. Dave Schramm, this practical and uplifting new book offers simple, research-based strategies to help you build greater happiness, strengthen resilience, reduce The opinions, findings, conclusions, and recommendations expressed in this podcast do not necessarily reflect the views of the Utah Marriage Commission. Visit our site for FREE relationship resources and regular giveaways:  Strongermarriage.org   Podcast.stongermarriage.org YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@StrongerMarriageLife TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@strongermarriagelife Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/strongermarriagelife/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/strongermarriage/ Facebook Marriage Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/770019130329579 Dr. Dave Schramm:  http://drdaveschramm.com http://drdavespeaks.com   Dr. Liz Hale:  http://www.drlizhale.com/