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In this episode of the F*CK Trauma Podcast, we’re diving into your relationship with money, scarcity, abundance and the subconscious beliefs that may be blocking you from manifesting more. . If you grew up around financial stress, lack, instability or fear around money, those beliefs don’t just disappear as an adult. They shape the way you attract, hold, spend and receive money now. . In this episode, I share: ​How childhood money wounds affect your ability to manifest abundance​Why your nervous system may not feel safe with money​The link between anxious attachment and scarcity​Why lack is a state (and how to shift it)​How to feel safe receiving and holding more money​The beliefs that keep people stuck in financial struggle​Practical mindset shifts to move from scarcity to abundance​My personal journey with money, lack and manifestation.I also share simple practices that helped me transform my relationship with money and begin attracting more abundance into my life. . Plus, I’ve created a free EFT tapping session to help you release scarcity, shift your money beliefs and feel safer receiving abundance. . TAP WITH ME HERE TO ATTRACT MORE MONEY . If you’ve been struggling to manifest more money, hold onto money, or feel constantly stuck in lack, this episode is for you. . My program ⁠⁠⁠Create Your Secure Relationship⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ shows you exactly how to reprogram your self-concept and nervous system so you naturally attract and sustain the relationship & desires you actually want. . Join here: ⁠⁠⁠Create Your Secure Relationship⁠⁠⁠ Signature Program: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Anxious to Secure in Love⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ . Free Masterclass: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Stop Sabotaging Love⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Free Series: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠7 Manifestation Mistakes⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ . Connect with me on Instagram ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@candicetamara_⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Watch on ⁠Youtube⁠ Ways to work with me: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Click here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ . Enjoying the podcast? Follow for more episodes & please rate your experience on your streaming platform so others can find it! Thank you so much!

Anxious attachment, self-concept work, manifestation, subconscious reprogramming and nervous system healing all go hand in hand… and in this episode, I’m breaking down exactly how to actually change your self-concept so your relationships and reality can finally change too. . If you keep attracting emotionally unavailable people, avoidants, hot and cold behaviour, rejection, abandonment or relationships where you never fully feel chosen, this episode will help you understand WHY. . I explain: what self-concept really ishow your beliefs and assumptions create your relationship patternswhy anxious attachment is an identity/statehow subconscious beliefs are formedwhy you keep repeating the same experiences in lovehow to identify your triggers and core beliefshow to start reprogramming your self-conceptwhy affirmations alone sometimes don’t workhow the nervous system impacts manifestation and relationshipswhy EFT tapping helps you feel safe being chosen, loved and secure. I also share my own journey from anxious attachment, chasing emotionally unavailable relationships and feeling unchosen… to becoming secure, loved, engaged and pregnant through changing my self-concept and nervous system. . This episode will help you start shifting the identity that is creating your current reality so you can stop recreating painful relationship patterns and finally feel secure, chosen and deeply loved. . My program ⁠⁠Create Your Secure Relationship⁠⁠⁠⁠ shows you exactly how to reprogram your self-concept and nervous system so you naturally attract and sustain the relationship & desires you actually want. . Join here: ⁠⁠Create Your Secure Relationship⁠⁠ Signature Program: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Anxious to Secure in Love⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ . Free Masterclass: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Stop Sabotaging Love⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Free Series: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠7 Manifestation Mistakes⁠⁠⁠⁠ . Connect with me on Instagram ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@candicetamara_⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Watch on Youtube Ways to work with me: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Click here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ . Enjoying the podcast? Follow for more episodes & please rate your experience on your streaming platform so others can find it! Thank you so much!

In this episode, I’m sharing something really personal - how I manifested my pregnancy, and the deeper shifts that had to happen for me to actually receive it. . Because the truth is, it wasn’t about “trying harder” or doing more. It was about what I was still holding onto underneath -fears around responsibility, subconscious beliefs from my childhood, and patterns in my nervous system that didn’t feel safe to hold what I truly desired. . I talk about: The hidden beliefs that were blocking me without me realisingHow anxious attachment and hyper-independence were showing upWhy your nervous system has to feel safe to receive what you wantThe identity shifts I had to make around responsibility, trust, and motherhoodHow I used my Secure Method EFT tapping to reprogram these patternsLetting go of timelines and fully accepting it as done.Whether you desire a baby, a relationship, or any manifestation - this episode will help you see what might still be sitting underneath the surface. . Because it’s not always about what you’re doing… it’s about who you’re being and what your body believes is safe to receive. . If this resonates, share it with someone who needs to hear it . ✨ Ready to receive all of your desires? My program ⁠Create Your Secure Relationship⁠⁠⁠ shows you exactly how to reprogram your self-concept and nervous system so you naturally attract and sustain the relationship & desires you actually want. . Join here: ⁠Create Your Secure Relationship⁠ Signature Program: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Anxious to Secure in Love⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ . Free Masterclass: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Stop Sabotaging Love⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Free Series: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠7 Manifestation Mistakes⁠⁠⁠ . Connect with me on Instagram ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@candicetamara_⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Ways to work with me: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Click here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ . Enjoying the podcast? Follow for more episodes & please rate your experience on your streaming platform so others can find it! Thank you so much!

Anxious attachment: If you keep attracting the same type of person -emotionally unavailable, inconsistent, or “not ready” - this episode will show you why it’s happening and how to finally change it. . In this episode, I break down how to attract a new partner using the law of assumption and why your relationships keep repeating the same patterns (even with different people). . This isn’t about luck, timing, or “meeting the right person.” . It’s about your self-concept. . I share exactly how I intentionally manifested my fiancé, the shifts I made to stop attracting avoidant and inconsistent partners, and how you can do the same to create a secure, committed relationship. . Inside, we cover: Why you keep attracting the same relationship patternsHow your self-concept shapes who you attractWhat it actually means to “manifest a partner”The identity shift that changes everythingHow to stop settling for situationships or inconsistencyThe 3 stages of manifestation (reprogramming, response, reflection)How to take aligned action without chasing. If you’re ready to stop repeating the past and finally experience a secure, consistent, loving relationship - this is for you. . ✨ Ready to change your relationship patterns fast? My program Create Your Secure Relationship⁠⁠ shows you exactly how to reprogram your self-concept and nervous system so you naturally attract and sustain the relationship you actually want. . Includes a pathway specifically for: Shifting a current relationship Reconnecting with someone from the past Attracting a completely new partner . Join here: Create Your Secure Relationship . ⏳ Limited time: Join now to get access to the bonus live coaching call with me. . Free Masterclass: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Stop Sabotaging Love⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Free Series: ⁠⁠⁠⁠7 Manifestation Mistakes⁠⁠ Signature Program: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Anxious to Secure in Love⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ . Connect with me on Instagram ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@candicetamara_⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Ways to work with me: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Click here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ . Enjoying the podcast? Follow for more episodes & please rate your experience on your streaming platform so others can find it! Thank you!

If you have an anxious attachment style, you’ve probably found yourself chasing, overgiving, and trying to get someone to change only to feel more drained, more confused, and more disconnected. . In this episode, I’m showing you how to change the way someone treats you in a relationship without chasing, using the law of assumption and self-concept work. . Because here’s the truth:You don’t need to have the same conversation over and over again.You don’t need to beg or your needs to be met.And you don’t need to wait for someone else to change. . 👉 You change and the dynamic changes. . Inside this episode, I break down: Why your relationships keep repeating the same patterns How your self-concept is shaping how people treat you The truth about avoidant behaviour (and what it’s really reflecting) How to shift inconsistency, lack of effort, and emotional unavailability Why you’re not being prioritised (and how to change that) How to stop feeling unsupported in relationships The real reason you’re chasing commitment — and how to become chosen instead How to stabilise your nervous system so you stop reacting and start creating Practical steps to shift your relationship without chasing, begging, or over-explaining This is the work that changes everything. When you shift your identity, your beliefs, and your nervous system…people naturally show up differently. . My program Create Your Secure Relationship shows you exactly how to rewire your self-concept, regulate your nervous system, and shift your relationship dynamic in as little as 8 weeks. . Includes a pathway specifically for: Shifting a current relationship Reconnecting with someone from the past Attracting a completely new partner Plus if you join now, you'll get a live group call with me to personalise the work to your situation. . 👉 Join Create Your Secure Relationship Here . Free Masterclass: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Stop Sabotaging Love⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Free Series: ⁠⁠⁠7 Manifestation Mistakes⁠ Signature Program: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Anxious to Secure in Love⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ . Connect with me on Instagram ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@candicetamara_⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Ways to work with me: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Click here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ . Enjoying the podcast? Follow for more episodes & please rate your experience on your streaming platform so others can find it! Thank you!

Anxious attachment can make it feel impossible to reconnect with someone from your past - especially when you’re stuck in no contact, obsessing over what happened, or wondering if your anxiety pushed them away. In this episode, I’m breaking down how to reconnect with someone from your past using the Law of Assumption, self-concept work, nervous system regulation, and my Secure Method approach. . I share the exact shifts I would make if I wanted to reconnect with someone from the past, including how to change the old story, stop focusing on the 3D, regulate an anxious nervous system, and start embodying the version of you who feels chosen, secure, and deeply loved. . Inside this episode, we cover: how anxious attachment patterns recreate abandonment, ghosting, and inconsistency why your self-concept affects how people show up for you how the Law of Assumption applies to reconnecting with someone from your past why no contact, being blocked, or what they said does not have to be the end the role of EFT tapping and nervous system rewiring in manifesting love why holding on to the old story keeps people from coming back what it really means to “live in the end” when manifesting a relationship how to stop chasing, checking, and looking for validation outside of yourself . If you’ve been asking questions like: Can I manifest someone back? Can I reconnect with someone from my past? How do I use the Law of Assumption when I have anxious attachment? How do I stop abandonment patterns from repeating in love? . This episode is for you. . If you want to go deeper, my programme Create Your Secure Relationship is designed to help you rewire anxious survival patterns, shift your self-concept, and apply this work to one of three outcomes: reconnect with someone from your past, attract a new secure relationship, or transform your current relationship. View & Join Create Your Secure Relationship Here . Listen now if you’re ready to stop repeating the same painful cycle in love and start becoming secure, chosen, and deeply loved from the inside out. . Free Masterclass: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Stop Sabotaging Love⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Free Series: ⁠⁠7 Manifestation Mistakes Signature Program: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Anxious to Secure in Love⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ . Connect with me on Instagram ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@candicetamara_⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Ways to work with me: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Click here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ . Enjoying the podcast? Follow for more episodes & please rate your experience on your streaming platform so others can find it! Thank you!

If you have anxious attachment and you’re trying to manifest love, this episode will explain exactly why it can feel harder for you - especially when using the Law of Assumption. . You’ve been told to “just assume you have it.” . To “live in the end.” . To “stop checking the 3D.” . But when you’re in no contact… when you’re trying to manifest your SP back… when you’re shifting a current relationship… or when you’ve never experienced healthy love before - it doesn’t feel simple. . In this episode, I break down: . • Why anxious attachment makes it harder to stay in the state of the wish fulfilled. . • How hypervigilance and checking the 3D delays your manifestation. . • Why your nervous system is wired for loss (and how that affects manifesting an ex back or new love). . • The real meaning of “feeling is the secret”. . • How self-concept and safety within yourself changes everything . I share my own journey from severe anxious attachment to manifesting my fiancé, shifting past relationships, and helping clients reconnect with someone from the past, attract secure love, or transform their current dynamic... . If you’ve been doing the affirmations, the techniques, the Law of Assumption work - but still feel anxious, triggered, or stuck - this will give you the clarity you’ve been missing. . You’re not failing at manifestation.You just need it explained in a way that understands your nervous system. . And if this resonates, join my free 7-day series: Seven Manifestation Mistakes Anxious Attachment Makes When Manifesting Love - where I break down the patterns that could be blocking you without you even realising. . Free Masterclass: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Stop Sabotaging Love⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Free Quiz: ⁠ Take the free Chasing to Chosen Quiz here⁠⁠ Signature Program: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Anxious to Secure in Love⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ . Connect with me on Instagram ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@candicetamara_⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Ways to work with me: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Click here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ . Enjoying the podcast? Follow for more episodes & please rate your experience on your streaming platform so others can find it! Thank you!

If you have anxious attachment, this episode is for you. . You might not be double-texting. You might not be chasing in obvious ways. You might even look secure on the outside. . And yet… you’re still not being chosen. . In this episode, I’m breaking down the subtle, unconscious ways people with anxious attachment are still chasing love without realising it - and why simply “acting secure” doesn’t change your relationship outcomes. . I share my own personal stories, client patterns, and the six chasing archetypes I see over and over again in people who want love, stability, and commitment - but keep recreating the same painful dynamics. . We cover: • The difference between secure behaviour and anxious survival strategies • How anxious attachment shows up as fixing, proving, pleasing, performing, waiting, or hyper-independence • Why you can stop chasing on the surface and still sabotage love underneath • How self-concept and subconscious beliefs determine who chooses you • Why being “low maintenance”, overly understanding, or hyper-independent is still chasing • How these patterns keep recreating partners who don’t fully choose you . If you’ve ever thought: “Why am I still not chosen even though I’m doing everything right?” . This episode will help you see exactly what’s happening - clearly, honestly, and without blame. . Find out your dominant chasing archetype Most people don’t just have one - but there is usually one that runs the show underneath. . 👉 Take the free Chasing to Chosen Quiz here . When you know how you’re chasing, it becomes much easier to stop sabotaging love without realising it. . Ready to shift from chasing to being chosen? If you recognise yourself in this episode, the work to change these patterns is inside my Chasing to Chosen Masterclass. . 👉 Watch the Chasing to Chosen Masterclass here And if you’re trying to manifest love, shift a current relationship, or attract someone new - make sure you listen to next week’s episode. Hit FOLLOW so you don't miss it! . If you’re ready to experience this work directly, explore my masterclasses or my signature program ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Anxious to Secure in Love ⁠⁠⁠⁠where The Candice Tamara Secure Method™ is taught in full. . Free Masterclass: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Stop Sabotaging Love⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Signature Program: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Anxious to Secure in Love⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ . Connect with me on Instagram ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@candicetamara_⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Ways to work with me: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Click here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ . Enjoying the podcast? Follow for more episodes & please rate your experience on your streaming platform so others can find it! Thank you!

Anxious attachment doesn’t come from the people you date - it comes from the belief that you are not chosen. . In this episode of the F*CK TRAUMA Podcast, I explain why they’re not choosing you - and why it has far less to do with them than you’ve been led to believe. . If you keep finding yourself in cycles of anxiety in love, attracting emotionally unavailable partners, or waiting, chasing, and hoping to be chosen, this episode will connect the dots for you. . SHARE this with your friends also stuck in these cycles . This is not surface-level dating advice.This is the belief underneath everything. . I’m breaking down the “not chosen” wound - a subconscious belief formed in childhood that says: • I’m not a priority• I don’t matter as much as others• Love isn’t safe• I have to earn being chosen . And how this belief silently shapes your relationships, your attachment patterns, and even who feels “right” to you. . In this episode, I share: • Why anxious attachment is rooted in self-concept, not other people . • How the not chosen belief causes people to pull away, ghost, or say “I’m not ready” . • Why you end up chasing reassurance, texts, effort, or commitment . • How “waiting to be chosen” actually creates more rejection . • Why people who do want to choose you can feel uncomfortable or boring . • How this wound shows up not just in romantic relationships, but in family, friendships, work, and money . • The exact shift that changed every relationship in my life - including attracting my fiancé . I also explain how the Law of Assumption works in relationships, why people are mirrors of your internal beliefs, and why awareness alone is not enough to create lasting change. . If you’ve ever thought: “Why does this keep happening to me?”“Why does it always start well and then fall apart?”“Why do I feel anxious the moment I care?” This episode will land deeply. . And if you’re ready to stop understanding this pattern and actually shift it, I’ve created a new masterclass called From Chasing to Chosen. . Inside the masterclass, I guide you through reprogramming the not chosen belief at the subconscious and nervous system level, so you’re no longer reacting, spiralling, or self-abandoning in love and instead begin embodying the version of you who expects to be chosen. . Watch From Chasing to Chosen masterclass . ✨ Next episode: I’ll break down the specific behaviours that show you’re unconsciously waiting to be chosen - even when you think you’re not. Hit FOLLOW so you don't miss it! . If you’re ready to experience this work directly, explore my masterclasses or my signature program ⁠⁠⁠⁠Anxious to Secure in Love ⁠⁠⁠where The Candice Tamara Secure Method™ is taught in full. . Free Masterclass: ⁠⁠⁠⁠Becoming Secure You⁠⁠⁠⁠ Signature Program: ⁠⁠⁠⁠Anxious to Secure in Love⁠⁠⁠⁠ . Connect with me on Instagram ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@candicetamara_⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Ways to work with me: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Click here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ . Enjoying the podcast? Follow for more episodes & please rate your experience on your streaming platform so others can find it! Thank you!

Everyone tells you to “choose yourself.” . But no one really explains what choosing yourself actually means or how to do it in a way that doesn’t leave you burnt out, overwhelmed, or feeling like you’re doing it wrong. . In this episode of the F*CK Trauma Podcast, I’m breaking down what choosing you really means, why so many people misunderstand it, and how to start choosing yourself in a way your nervous system can actually hold. . This episode is especially important if you struggle with anxious attachment, self-abandonment, people-pleasing, burnout, or feeling like you’re constantly pushing yourself from survival. . Because choosing yourself isn’t about cutting people off, acting unbothered, forcing confidence, or playing it cool. It’s about building self-trust, internal safety, and boundaries with yourself first - so you stop sabotaging, overriding your body, or abandoning yourself for relationships, goals, or outcomes. . In this episode, you’ll learn: What choosing yourself actually looks like in real life (not the Instagram version) The most common ways people misunderstand and get choosing themselves wrong Why forcing change, discipline, or “motivation” often leads to burnout and self-sabotage How anxious attachment and survival patterns show up when you don’t feel safe with yourself Three simple ways to start choosing yourself today by building trust with your body and nervous system Why small, consistent actions matter more than intensity, overhauls, or willpower How choosing yourself internally changes your relationships externally - without trying to control or chase the outcome This episode is the foundation. Before we talk about the chosen wound, anxious attachment patterns in relationships, or why you keep chasing to be chosen, we have to start here - with safety, self-trust, and learning how to stay in relationship with yourself. . If you’ve ever wondered: Why does choosing myself feel so hard? Why do I keep abandoning myself for people, goals, or validation? Why do I burn out every time I try to change or improve my life? This episode is for you. Take the pressure off.Start where you are. And learn how choosing yourself actually begins - quietly, gently, and powerfully. . If you’re ready to experience this work directly, explore my masterclasses or my signature program ⁠⁠⁠Anxious to Secure in Love ⁠⁠where The Candice Tamara Secure Method™ is taught in full. . Free Masterclass: ⁠⁠⁠Becoming Secure You⁠⁠⁠ Masterclass: ⁠⁠⁠Stop Attracting Avoidants⁠⁠⁠ Masterclass: ⁠⁠⁠Stop Them Pulling Away⁠⁠⁠ Signature Program: ⁠⁠⁠Anxious to Secure in Love⁠⁠⁠ . Connect with me on Instagram ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@candicetamara_⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Ways to work with me: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Click here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ . Enjoying the podcast? Follow for more episodes & please rate your experience on your streaming platform so others can find it! Thank you!

Most people believe anxious attachment is a personality type. It isn’t. . In this episode, I reveal the truth almost no one is teaching:.Your anxious attachment style is not who you are - it’s a state created by the assumptions you hold about yourself, love, and your worth..And when you understand that, everything changes. This is the foundation of The Candice Tamara Secure Method™ - my signature state-based approach that combines subconscious reprogramming, nervous system regulation, identity work, and the Law of Assumption into one cohesive, transformational framework. . Inside this episode, I take you deep into: ✨ Why anxious attachment isn’t an identity - it’s a conditioned state.✨ How subconscious assumptions become your lived experience.✨ How your nervous system stores old emotional imprints.✨ Why awareness alone isn’t enough to create change.✨ The mechanics of shifting into a secure state.✨ The three pillars of The Candice Tamara Secure Method™: • Belief Reprogramming • Nervous System Regulation • Secure Identity Embodiment.✨ How state-shifts transform your relationships and your life . This is where psychology meets consciousness.Where the nervous system meets the Law of Assumption.Where you stop trying to “fix” yourself and step into a new state of being. . Your attachment style was learned.It can be unlearned..And the path back to security is far more powerful and far more possible than you’ve been told. . If you’re ready to experience this work directly, explore my masterclasses or my signature program ⁠⁠Anxious to Secure in Love ⁠where The Candice Tamara Secure Method™ is taught in full. . Free Masterclass: ⁠⁠Becoming Secure You⁠⁠ Masterclass: ⁠⁠Stop Attracting Avoidants⁠⁠ Masterclass: ⁠⁠Stop Them Pulling Away⁠⁠ Signature Program: ⁠⁠Anxious to Secure in Love⁠⁠ . Connect with me on Instagram ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@candicetamara_⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Ways to work with me: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Click here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ . Enjoying the podcast? Follow for more episodes & please rate your experience on your streaming platform so others can find it! Thank you!

Are avoidants actually avoidant… or are they reflecting something deeper back to you - especially if you have anxious attachment? . In today's episode of the F*CK TRAUMA Podcast, I’m breaking down one of the most perspective-shifting teachings you will ever learn about relationships: Why avoidants show up the way they do, and how the Law of Assumption can transform the dynamic completely. . Not by chasing.Not by fixing.Not by abandoning yourself. .But by understanding self-concept, your nervous system, and the inner story that avoidants mirror back to you. . Inside this episode, you’ll learn: ✨ Why anxious attachers are drawn to avoidants ✨ What the “abandonment mirror” actually is ✨ How your inner assumptions create avoidant patterns ✨ Why avoidant behaviour feels so familiar to your body ✨ How changing your identity changes how THEY show up ✨ How to shift the story of them and the story of you ✨ Embodiment practices to step into secure, chosen energy . This is the deeper layer behind everything I teach: You are not powerless in your relationships, and avoidants are not “fixed this way.” They reflect your inner world and when you shift, they do too. . If you haven’t listened to these episodes yet, start here: They’ll give you the perfect foundation for today’s teaching: 🔹 You Can't Change Them Until You Change You (Self-concept & Law of Assumption) 🔹 Transform Your Relationships with the Law of Assumption . Want to go deeper? Free Masterclass: ⁠Becoming Secure You⁠ Masterclass: ⁠Stop Attracting Avoidants⁠ Masterclass: ⁠Stop Them Pulling Away⁠ Signature Program: ⁠Anxious to Secure in Love⁠ . Connect with me on Instagram ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@candicetamara_⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Ways to work with me: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Click here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ . Enjoying the podcast? Follow for more episodes & please rate your experience on your streaming platform so others can find it! Thank you!

If you’ve ever tried to “fix” a relationship, change someone’s behaviour, or get consistency from someone who keeps pulling away… this episode will completely shift the way you see love, relationships and attachment. . In today’s episode, I’m diving deep into self-concept, the Law of Assumption, and how your inner state quietly creates the relationship patterns you keep experiencing - especially if you struggle with anxious attachment, relationship anxiety, or attracting emotionally unavailable partners. . You’ll learn: ✨ Why you can’t change someone’s behaviour without first changing your own self-concept. ✨ How the Law of Assumption shapes your relationships (even when you don’t realise it). ✨ Why inconsistency, mixed signals and emotional unavailability keep showing up. ✨ How your nervous system and inner child influence your relationship patterns. ✨ The deeper reason you attract avoidants or hot-and-cold partners. ✨ How to shift into the identity of being chosen, prioritised and emotionally safe. ✨ What happens when you change the story you’re telling about love. ✨ How to use your triggers as data in relationships instead of spiralling into anxiety . This is the episode that finally helps you understand why the same patterns repeat, why people don’t change when you try to fix them… and how to transform your relationships from the inside out. . If you’re ready to stop chasing love, stop attracting avoidants, and become the securely-attached version of you who naturally attracts emotional safety and consistent love — this will be life-changing. . Want to go deeper? Free Masterclass: Becoming Secure You Masterclass: Stop Attracting Avoidants Masterclass: Stop Them Pulling Away Signature Program: Anxious to Secure in Love . Connect with me on Instagram ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@candicetamara_⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Ways to work with me: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Click here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ . Enjoying the podcast? Follow for more episodes & please rate your experience on your streaming platform so others can find it! Thank you!

If you have an anxious attachment style or find yourself constantly attracting emotionally unavailable, avoidant, or inconsistent partners, this episode will change everything. . In this powerful episode, Candice Tamara reveals the real reason you keep repeating the same relationship patterns — and why it’s not about them being avoidant or unavailable, but about the mirror of your own fears, wounds, and self-concept. . You’ll learn:✨ How your fear of abandonment, rejection, commitment, vulnerability, and being “too much” creates emotional unavailability within yourself..✨ Why every partner is a mirror reflecting your beliefs, attachment wounds, and nervous system state — not your worth..✨ How to heal anxious attachment patterns at the root so you can finally attract and hold secure, consistent love.✨ The exact mindset and embodiment shifts Candice used to go from anxious and avoidant dynamics to being securely loved and chosen. . This episode will help you see relationships differently - not as something happening to you, but as a reflection of what’s ready to be healed within you. When you stop abandoning yourself, you stop attracting people who abandon you. . Want to go deeper? My masterclass Stop Attracting Avoidants is now live. . Break the cycle of chasing avoidant, emotionally unavailable love and become the secure version of you who only creates consistent, available relationships.This masterclass works whether single or in a relationship to stop avoidant patterns.  . ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Click here to join Stop Attracting Avoidants now⁠⁠ . Connect with me on Instagram ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@candicetamara_⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Ways to work with me: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Click here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ . Enjoying the podcast? Follow for more episodes & please rate your experience on your streaming platform so others can find it! Thank you!

If you struggle with anxious attachment and relationships that feel like a rollercoaster… this episode will change EVERYTHING.. Because no matter how hard you try, you can only attract what you believe you deserve and the Law of Assumption shows you exactly how to shift that. . In this episode, I’m breaking down how your assumptions about love, connection, and self-worth create the relationship dynamics you keep ending up in - even the ones you hate.. I’ll share the exact mindset and healing shifts that helped me go from anxious and overlooked… to engaged to a secure, loving partner. . You’ll learn:✨ What the Law of Assumption actually is (beyond the “think positive” stuff).✨ How your subconscious beliefs are choosing partners for you.✨ Why avoidants and pullbacks keep showing up (it’s not your fault).✨ How to reprogram your self-concept so secure love becomes your new normal.✨ The exact approach I’ve used with clients to transform their relationship patterns . This isn’t spiritual bypassing..This is trauma-informed manifestation - for people who grew up in survival mode. . You are not at the mercy of old patterns or past..You can change your assumptions….and your entire relationship reality will change with them. . Want to go deeper? My masterclass Stop Attracting Avoidants is now live. . Break the cycle of chasing avoidant, emotionally unavailable love and become the secure version of you who only creates consistent, available relationships.This masterclass works whether single or in a relationship to stop avoidant patterns.  . ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Click here to join Stop Attracting Avoidants now⁠ . Connect with me on Instagram ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@candicetamara_⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Ways to work with me: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Click here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ . Enjoying the podcast? Follow for more episodes & please rate your experience on your streaming platform so others can find it! Thank you!