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“I want to date you… you remind me of my mom.” Yep, a guy actually sent that as an opener. In this episode of “How to Get a Girlfriend,” dating coach Connell Barrett breaks down 15 real messages and sorts them into three categories: magnificent, meh, and mortifying. You’ll laugh, you’ll cringe, and you might even steal a line or two that actually works. EPISODE HIGHLIGHTS: 01:47: The Insult Opener That Somehow Got a Reply 02:43: Say This on the Apps—It’s Genius 04:25: The One-word Christmas Message that She (Rightly) Hated 08:50: A Line Only Hannibal Lecter Should Use 13:43: The Most Painfully Boring First Message on Earth 20:02: The Secret to Writing Charming Openers BOOK A FREE CONSULTATION WITH CONNELL TO LEARN WHY AUTHENTICITY IS THE SECRET WEAPON TO ATTRACT YOUR DREAM GIRLFRIEND:www.DatingTransformation.com

If you’re an introvert who freezes up around women, help is here. Dating coach Connell Barrett welcomes Charlie, a client who went from from doubting his romantic worth to meeting his dream girlfriend Rachel. Connell and Charlie cover the mindset shifts and real-world wins that worked—and they talk some baseball, too. If you want to find your person, this episode is your roadmap. Episode Highlights: 11:38: The Two Toxic Thoughts that Kept Charlie Stuck 17:23: The Weekend of Approaching that Changed Everything 21:12: The Dating Lesson he Learned from MLB Baseball 34:44: The Moment Rachel Saw Him Differently 47:05: When He Destroyed His Fear of Rejection 53:11: Charlie’s Advice to Introverts who Feel Left Behind BOOK A FREE CALL WITH BESTSELLING AUTHOR CONNELL BARRETT TO LEARN IF 1-ON-1 COACHING IS RIGHT FOR YOU: DatingTransformation.com EMAIL CONNELL TO GET A FREE COPY OF HIS BOOK, “DATING SUCKS BUT YOU DON’T”: [email protected]

You see women you want to meet IRL, but you freeze up, and you don’t know what to say. So you beat yourself up for missing another chance. In this episode of “How to Get a Girlfriend,” dating coach Connell Barrett shares his What-to-Say Method. You’ll learn three simple, authentic ways to confidently start conversations—no cheesy pickup lines required. Episode Highlights: 01:40: Why You Freeze Up—and How to Break the Cycle 04:45: How the What-to-Say Method Gets You Out of Your Head 07:45: What to Say at a Coffeeshop09:49: What to Say at a Bar 12:04: What to Say at the Gym 25:03: Still Hesitating? Here’s the Real Reason You’re Not Approaching and How to Fix It BOOK A FREE CONSULTATION WITH CONNELL TO LEARN HOW HIS 1-ON-1 COACHING CAN HELP YOU APPROACH WOMEN IRL: www.DatingTransformation.com

You get matches, but then you’re not sure what to write for your opener. You don’t want to sound boring or try-hard, so you overthink it, and the conversation dies before it begins. In this live coaching session, dating coach Connell Barrett welcomes his client Evan, who got great at writing openers that women reply to. Plus, Evan gives some tips on how to meet women in coffee shops and get instant dates, just like he does. Episode Highlights 03:20: From Shaking Hands to 80+ Confident Approaches—Evan’s Transformation] 06:01: What to Say and Not Say When You Approach 09:15: The Coffee Shop Icebreaker that Led Evan to a Make-Out in Just 30 Minutes! 18:45: The Funny Hinge Opener that Gets Women Writing You Back 1:01:02: The One Dating Tip Every Guy Needs to Hear BOOK A FREE CALL WITH CONNELL TO LEARN HOW 1-ON-1 COACHING CAN HELP YOU MEET WOMEN AND FLIRT WITH CHARM:DatingTransformation.com

Are you ready to flirt with women without coming off as “creepy”? In Part 2 of his 26 New Rules of Dating, bestselling author and dating coach Connell Barrett reveals the invisible blind spot that makes good guys accidentally seem creepy—and he helps you fix it. Learn how to flirt with confidence and authenticity, and make 2026 the year you meet your dream girlfriend. Episode Highlights: 01:47: The Classy Approaching Move that Women Find Fascinating 06:58: Do This to Get Girls Texting You Back 13:13: The Right and Wrong Way to Use A.I. on the Apps 16:34: The Flirting Flaw that Makes Decent Men Seem Creepy 20:37: The Question to Ask on Every First Date BOOK A FREE CALL WITH DATING COACH CONNELL BARRETT TO LEARN IF 1-ON-1 COACHING IS RIGHT FOR YOU:DatingTransformation.com EMAIL CONNELL TO GET A FREE COPY OF HIS BOOK, “DATING SUCKS BUT YOU DON’T”:[email protected]

Be mysterious. Don’t double-text. Use “tricks” to make her chase you. Yuck! Most dating advice is as outdated as flip phones and Fax machines. The old playbook just doesn’t work. In this episode of “How to Get a Girlfriend,” dating coach Connell Barrett unveils his 26 New Dating Rules for 2026. In part 1, he shares how to be kind and confident, why texting “like a girl” is a good thing (seriously!), and reveals the playful dating app opener that women love. Episode Highlights: 02:05: Why Women Want You to Talk to Them IRL (and How to Do It) 07:05: How to Channel Your First Date Nerves to Spark a Connection 09:14: The Dating App Opener You Must Try 20:50: The Dreaded Mistake to Stop Making on Dates 24:51: Talk about This to NEVER Run Out of Things to Say BOOK A FREE CALL WITH DATING COACH CONNELL BARRETT TO LEARN IF 1-ON-1 COACHING IS RIGHT FOR YOU:DatingTransformation.com EMAIL CONNELL TO GET A FREE COPY OF HIS BOOK, “DATING SUCKS BUT YOU DON’T”:[email protected]

You see women you’d love to meet IRL, but you just don’t know what to say. So you freeze up. In this episode of “How to Get a Girlfriend,” dating coach and bestselling author Connell Barrett shares his What-to-Say Method, a simple, rejection-proof framework that makes it easy to meet women in bars, coffee-shops, or the gym. Learn how to start light, flirty conversations without memorized scripts or awkward pickup lines—and finally feel confident talking to women anywhere. Episode Highlights: 02:17: The What to Say Method: 3 Simple Ways to Break the Ice Anywhere 05:52: Option A: The Charming Compliment 07:15: Option B: The Insightful Question 10:39: Option C: The Playful Observation 17:15: Client Win: How Robbie Went from Anxiety to Instant Coffee Dates 20:45: What to Do if You STILL Freeze When You Want to Talk to Women BOOK A FREE CONSULTATION CALL WITH CONNELL TO LEARN HOW TO APPLY HIS WHAT-TO-SAY METHOD AND MEET WOMEN IRL:www.DatingTransformation.com

Andrew was the dateless, anxious guy who never approached women. Now, he gets numbers and dates—and after one especially bold effort, two strangers literally applauded him. In this live coaching session with dating coach Connell Barrett, Andrew breaks down the simple, practical strategies that changed everything. Andrew isn’t a natural extrovert. He just did the work. And if he can do this, you can too. EPISODE HIGHLIGHTS 02:10: From Anxious to Approaching Women Anywhere 35:55: The Daily Confidence Ritual that Changed Everything 38:25: Exactly What Andrew Said to Her that Sparked an Instant Make-out 43:47: The Exact Moment Andrew’s Fear of Approaching Vanished 46:42: What to Say When A Woman You’re Dating Asks, “Are We Exclusive?” BOOK A FREE CALL WITH BESTSELLING AUTHOR CONNELL BARRETT TO LEARN IF 1-ON-1 COACHING IS RIGHT FOR YOU: DatingTransformation.com EMAIL CONNELL TO GET A FREE COPY OF HIS BOOK, “DATING SUCKS BUT YOU DON’T”: [email protected]

Ever had a jaw-dropping dating disaster? Wait until you hear about the guy who sent a cringe-worthy voice note about his date’s breasts… directly to her! But what if a screwup like that gets her MORE into him? In this episode of “How to Get a Girlfriend,” dating coach and bestselling author Connell Barrett answers listener questions, reveals why dating disasters happen, and shares how to recover with confidence and class. Episode Highlights: 00:54: The Vexing Voice Note: How Screwing Up Can Actually Help You 02:35: Whoops! Connell “Hits On” a Stranger—in Front of His Date 05:40: The 3-Step Framework to Recover from a Dating Disaster 16:47: The Do’s and Don’ts of Sexting 21:58: Exactly How Many Texts to Send to Get a First Date BOOK A FREE CONSULTATION WITH CONNELL TO LEARN HOW HIS 1-ON-1 COACHING CAN HELP YOU ATTRACT YOUR DREAM WOMAN: www.DatingTransformation.com

Online dating is changing faster than you can say “swipe.” And not knowing what works on the apps in 2026 will cost you matches, dates… and even keep you from finding love. In this episode, dating coach and bestselling author Connell Barrett reveals the rest of his 26 new rules for online dating success in 2026. Apply these practical tips to go from frustration to finally getting great dates—just like Connell’s clients do. Episode Highlights: 01:45: The New Way to Use Audio Prompts on Hinge 10:10: How the “3 Passions Rule” Makes Your Bio Magnetic 12:00: What Causes Swiping Fatigue—and How to Fix It 16:41: How to Set Up a First Date in Just 3 Messages 19:23: Connell’s Texting Framework to Stop Getting Ghosted BOOK A FREE CONSULTATION WITH CONNELL TO LEARN WHY AUTHENTICITY IS THE SECRET WEAPON TO IMPROVING YOUR DATING LIFE: www.DatingTransformation.com GET A FREE COPY OF CONNELL’S BESTSELLING BOOK, “DATING SUCKS BUT YOU DON’T.” EMAIL HIM WITH THE SUBJECT LINE “FREE BOOK” & GET YOURS TODAY! [email protected]

You’re exhausted by the dating apps, right? The endless swiping, the scarcity of matches, the ghosting. The problem? Online dating has changed, and most guys are still using outdated strategies. In this two-part episode, dating coach Connell Barrett breaks down his 26 new rules for online dating in 2026. It’s time to match more, get ghosted less, and finally find your dream woman in the new year. Episode Highlights: 03:30: The Biggest Myth About Online Dating that Changes Everything 07:20: How to Choose Photos You KNOW Will Work (Backed by Data) 13:27: Survival of the Spiciest: The Prompt Women Respond To 19:02: Replace Your Opening Photo with This 33:12: The Secret to Taking Your Bio from Boring to Swipe-able BOOK A FREE CONSULTATION WITH CONNELL TO LEARN HOW HIS COACHING CAN HELP YOU MEET THE GIRLFRIEND YOU’VE ALWAYS WANTED: www.DatingTransformation.com

Chances are, you freeze up around women because you’re afraid of seeming weird or creepy. You just don’t want to give women “the ick,” right? In this episode, dating coach and bestselling author Connell Barrett proudly unveils his new framework: The 6 Icks—the 6 core behaviors that creep women out. Once you know them, you’re free to make confident, calibrated moves without seeming pushy or inappropriate. Episode Highlights: 02:45: The Moment Connell Learned How to Approach with Charm, Not Creepiness 12:15: The Sex Object Ick: Leading with Sexual Comments that Objectify Women 13:05: The Too Timid Ick: Hesitant, Fearful Energy that Feels Uncomfortable 14:20: The Me-First Ick: Making It About What You Want, Rather than a Win-Win 15:22: The Try-Hard Ick: Desperate Bragging, Instead of Authentic Core Confidence 16:35: The Signal-Blind Ick: Missing or Ignoring Her Cues and Escalating the Wrong Way 20:01: The Agenda Ick: Using Manipulative Tactics & Ignoring Her Boundaries BOOK A FREE CALL WITH CONNELL TO LEARN HOW 1-ON-1 COACHING CAN HELP YOU MEET WOMEN AND FLIRT WITH CHARM:DatingTransformation.com

Dating sober raises real questions: Will women find you less interesting without alcohol? How do you handle social anxiety at bars or parties without “liquid courage”? And is liquid courage even real? In this episode of “How to Get a Girlfriend,” dating coach and bestselling author Connell Barrett answers 10 questions from sober (and sober-curious) men, revealing how to unlock core confidence, enjoy great dates, and make sobriety your new edge in dating. WANT TO MEET YOUR DREAM GIRLFRIEND IN 90 DAYS OR LESS? BOOK A FREE CALL WITH CONNELL TO SEE IF HIS 1-ON-1 COACHING IS RIGHT FOR YOU: http://DatingTransformation.com

Most guys need alcohol to approach women. But what if meeting women in bars actually gets easier when you’re sober—if done the right way? In Part 2 of his Sober Dating series, dating coach and bestselling author Connell Barrett shares his 5-step framework for reaching a fearless flow state when out meeting women, no booze required. Episode Highlights: 01:58: What Happened When Connell Approached Models Sober 10:03: Getting “Drunk” on Action: the Natural High that Beats Booze 13:48: The 5 Master Steps–Your Framework for Confidently Approaching Women 23:25: How Robbie Went from Frightened to Getting 5 Numbers in One Night 29:30: The Truth about What to Say When You Approach BOOK A FREE CONSULT WITH CONNELL TO LEARN HOW YOU CAN APPROACH WOMEN WITHOUT THE CRUTCH OF ALCOHOL: DatingTransformation.com

If you struggle with dating, you’re probably addicted to something. Maybe it's “liquid courage,” or settling for so-so relationships, or choosing porn over approaching women. In this 3-part sober dating series, dating coach Connell Barrett shares his 1,000-day journey of sobriety—and offers 3 steps that can help you beat almost any addiction. Whether you want to date sober or get out of your comfort zone, this inspiring episode shows you how to upgrade your love life. Episode Highlights: 06:54: How a 30-Day “Booze Break” Became 1,000 Days—and a Whole New Life 13:04: “This Is Not Me”: The Moment Connell Knew He Had to Change 19:01: The Liquid Courage Lie 28:00: The Lasting Way to Destroy an Addiction 37:30: Three Steps to Kick Any Habit—and Transform Your Dating Confidence FOR A FREE CONSULTATION WITH CONNELL BARRETT TO SEE IF DATING COACHING IS RIGHT FOR YOU: Go to DatingTransformation.com