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This month marked twenty years since I met my spouse and almost five years since she came out as transgender. Knowing what I know now, would I do it all again? Yes. In this episode, I share my reasons for staying.  Due to current events in the US: Rainbow Railroad TransLash: Trans Relocation Guide -- Finding Trans Aslyum and Safe Havens Transgender Law Center Resources US: LGBTQ+ equality maps: MAP Europe: LGBTQ+ equality maps: ILGA Information for allies: PFLAG Guide to Being a Trans Ally(PDF) GLAAD Tips for Allies of Transgender People Advocates for Transgender Equality ally guide Human Rights Campaign ally guide Places to look for therapy and professional support: Psychology Today Coaching for Cis & Straight Partners of Transgender, Gender Diverse, and LGBTQ+ Folx  More transgender families:  YouTube Channel: Wives Vs World YouTube Channel: Great Scotts YouTube Channel: Jammidodger TikTok: TransitionTogether The Cut: My Husband is Now my Wife: Trans Women's Wives on Their Own Dramatic Transformations Chicago Tribune: Suburban Wife Loves the Person, Not the Gender, After Spouse Comes out as Woman More transgender related podcats:  FeedSpot Podcasts: 100 Best Transgender Podcasts * * *  Get in touch, I'm happy to hear from you or answer questions. If you would like to support the podcast, consider donating to: The Trevor Project, GLAAD, PFLAG and PFLAG International chapters,Lambda Legal, Advocates for Trans Equality, The Williams Institute, your local LGBTQ+ centers.

When word spreads that your spouse has come out as a transgender person, usually on an as-needed basis, the people you thought you knew suddenly have a shift in behavior and opinions form. In this episode, I talk about how opinions change after a longer period of time and the disappointing text message I received from the mom of my son's friend.  Mentioned or related to this episode: Giphy: Homer Simpson backs into bushes TikTok: Dolly Parton's comment about people judging her Due to current events in the US: Rainbow Railroad TransLash: Trans Relocation Guide -- Finding Trans Aslyum and Safe Havens Transgender Law Center Resources US: LGBTQ+ equality maps: MAP Europe: LGBTQ+ equality maps: ILGA Information for allies: PFLAG Guide to Being a Trans Ally(PDF) GLAAD Tips for Allies of Transgender People Advocates for Transgender Equality ally guide Human Rights Campaign ally guide Places to look for therapy and professional support: Psychology Today Coaching for Cis & Straight Partners of Transgender, Gender Diverse, and LGBTQ+ Folx  More transgender families:  YouTube Channel: Wives Vs World YouTube Channel: Great Scotts YouTube Channel: Jammidodger TikTok: TransitionTogether The Cut: My Husband is Now my Wife: Trans Women's Wives on Their Own Dramatic Transformations Chicago Tribune: Suburban Wife Loves the Person, Not the Gender, After Spouse Comes out as Woman More transgender related podcats:  FeedSpot Podcasts: 100 Best Transgender Podcasts * * *  Get in touch, I'm happy to hear from you or answer questions. If you would like to support the podcast, consider donating to: The Trevor Project, GLAAD, PFLAG and PFLAG International chapters,Lambda Legal, Advocates for Trans Equality, The Williams Institute, your local LGBTQ+ centers.

My father-in-law visited for the first time in four years, after a difficult start with my spouse's transition. In this episode, I talk with my spouse about how she decided it was time to invite her parents for a visit and whether it went as expected. Ultimately, relationships can be complicated but life is short. Due to current events in the US: Rainbow Railroad TransLash: Trans Relocation Guide -- Finding Trans Aslyum and Safe Havens Transgender Law Center Resources US: LGBTQ+ equality maps: MAP Europe: LGBTQ+ equality maps: ILGA Information for allies: PFLAG Guide to Being a Trans Ally(PDF) GLAAD Tips for Allies of Transgender People Advocates for Transgender Equality ally guide Human Rights Campaign ally guide Places to look for therapy and professional support: Psychology Today Coaching for Cis & Straight Partners of Transgender, Gender Diverse, and LGBTQ+ Folx  More transgender families:  YouTube Channel: Great Scotts YouTube Channel: Jammidodger TikTok: TransitionTogether The Cut: My Husband is Now my Wife: Trans Women's Wives on Their Own Dramatic Transformations Chicago Tribune: Suburban Wife Loves the Person, Not the Gender, After Spouse Comes out as Woman More transgender related podcats:  FeedSpot Podcasts: 100 Best Transgender Podcasts * * *  Get in touch, I'm happy to hear from you or answer questions. If you would like to support the podcast, consider donating to: The Trevor Project, GLAAD, PFLAG and PFLAG International chapters,Lambda Legal, Advocates for Trans Equality, The Williams Institute, your local LGBTQ+ centers.

Our son just finished his first school year in a new country. This episode is a quick check-in of how it was, if he feels the perception of having a transgender parent is different here, and if he has any advice for other kids with a transitioning parent.  Due to current events in the US: Rainbow Railroad TransLash: Trans Relocation Guide -- Finding Trans Aslyum and Safe Havens Transgender Law Center Resources Information for allies: PFLAG Guide to Being a Trans Ally(PDF) GLAAD Tips for Allies of Transgender People Advocates for Transgender Equality ally guide Human Rights Campaign ally guide Places to look for therapy and professional support: Psychology Today Coaching for Cis & Straight Partners of Transgender, Gender Diverse, and LGBTQ+ Folx  More transgender families:  YouTube Channel: Great Scotts YouTube Channel: Jammidodger TikTok: TransitionTogether The Cut: My Husband is Now my Wife: Trans Women's Wives on Their Own Dramatic Transformations Chicago Tribune: Suburban Wife Loves the Person, Not the Gender, After Spouse Comes out as Woman   * * *  Get in touch, I'm happy to hear from you or answer questions. If you would like to support the podcast, consider donating to: The Trevor Project, GLAAD, PFLAG and PFLAG International chapters,Lambda Legal, Advocates for Trans Equality, The Williams Institute, your local LGBTQ+ centers.

We've all seen it and some of us have done it: the people or companies who show allyship during Pride month and then pack it all up at the end of June and store it away until next year, like it's a holiday. In this episode, let's explore what performative allyship is, why it is harmful, and how to avoid it. Mentioned or related to this episode: Library of Congress: 1969: The Stonewall Uprising Rizing Tide Foundation: Identifying and Dismantling Performative Allyship IGLTA: Pride Calender Outright International: Pride Around the World Volvo Group: LGBTQ+ Flags and What They Stand For We Shape Tech: Performative Allyship: How to Spot it and Avoid Engaging with it Seventeen (video): What is Performative Allyship? Workplace: GLAAD's Recommendations for Corporate Allies Workplace (PDF): LGBT Great: Striving for More - Authentic Allyship Guide Due to current events in the US: Rainbow Railroad TransLash: Trans Relocation Guide -- Finding Trans Aslyum and Safe Havens Transgender Law Center Resources Information for allies: PFLAG Guide to Being a Trans Ally(PDF) GLAAD Tips for Allies of Transgender People Advocates for Transgender Equality ally guide Human Rights Campaign ally guide Places to look for therapy and professional support: Psychology Today Coaching for Cis & Straight Partners of Transgender, Gender Diverse, and LGBTQ+ Folx  More transgender families:  YouTube Channel: Great Scotts YouTube Channel: Jammidodger TikTok: TransitionTogether The Cut: My Husband is Now my Wife: Trans Women's Wives on Their Own Dramatic Transformations Chicago Tribune: Suburban Wife Loves the Person, Not the Gender, After Spouse Comes out as Woman   * * *  Get in touch, I'm happy to hear from you or answer questions. If you would like to support the podcast, consider donating to: The Trevor Project, GLAAD, PFLAG and PFLAG International chapters,Lambda Legal, Advocates for Trans Equality, The Williams Institute, your local LGBTQ+ centers.

I call baloney on anyone who suggests that only a man and woman can lay the foundation for a so-called nuclear family. As someone whose marriage began in the heterosexual sense and morphed into a mixed orientation marriage, we remain more traditional than most. In this episode, my spouse and I chat about the term nuclear family and why it is anti-LGBTQ+ at the core. Mentioned or related to this episode: Advocate: June is Pride Month. Tennessee Republicans Say it's 'Nuclear Family Month' Raising Children Network: How to Support LGBTQ+ Families in Your Community QueerAF: Challenging the "Nuclear Family" Helps Everyone, Not Just Queer Families Due to current events in the US: Rainbow Railroad TransLash: Trans Relocation Guide -- Finding Trans Aslyum and Safe Havens Transgender Law Center Resources Information for allies: PFLAG Guide to Being a Trans Ally(PDF) GLAAD Tips for Allies of Transgender People Advocates for Transgender Equality ally guide Human Rights Campaign ally guide Places to look for therapy and professional support: Psychology Today Coaching for Cis & Straight Partners of Transgender, Gender Diverse, and LGBTQ+ Folx  More transgender families:  YouTube Channel: Great Scotts YouTube Channel: Jammidodger TikTok: TransitionTogether The Cut: My Husband is Now my Wife: Trans Women's Wives on Their Own Dramatic Transformations Chicago Tribune: Suburban Wife Loves the Person, Not the Gender, After Spouse Comes out as Woman   * * *  Get in touch, I'm happy to hear from you or answer questions. If you would like to support the podcast, consider donating to: The Trevor Project, GLAAD, PFLAG and PFLAG International chapters,Lambda Legal, Advocates for Trans Equality, The Williams Institute, your local LGBTQ+ centers.

A brief dive into how anti-transgender hate bills and laws are set in motion. It is a well-coordinated, 50-year-running long con to dismantle democracy.  Mentioned or related to this episode: PBS LearningMedia: How Laws are Made in Congress Rock the Vote: State Legislatures, An Explainer  American Bar Association: What is an Executive Order? Video: Human Rights Campaign - Who's Behind the Anti-LGBTQ+ Movement?  ACLU: Project 2025 Explained Greenpeace: The Heritage Foundation PBS News Hour: What is Christian Nationalism and Why it Raises Concerns about Threats to Democracy Common Cause Foundation: Why Does Big Oil Bankroll the Anti-Trans Movement?  Open Secrets: Top Contributors, Federal Election Data for DT, 2024 Open Secrets: Companies that Publicly Condemned Anti-LGBTQ Legislation, Sent Political Contributions to Advancing Anti-LGBTQ Legislation Greenpeace: The Fossil Fuel Industry is Inherently Patriarchal and Criminal Williams Institute: The Impact of Anti-Transgender Legislation on Youth ACLU: The Impacts of Anti-Transgender Laws and Policies ACLU: Mapping Attacks on LGBTQ Rights in State Legislature Erin in the Morning to follow for transgender legislation updates Due to current events in the US: Rainbow Railroad TransLash: Trans Relocation Guide -- Finding Trans Aslyum and Safe Havens Transgender Law Center Resources Information for allies: PFLAG Guide to Being a Trans Ally(PDF) GLAAD Tips for Allies of Transgender People Advocates for Transgender Equality ally guide Human Rights Campaign ally guide Places to look for therapy and professional support: Psychology Today Coaching for Cis & Straight Partners of Transgender, Gender Diverse, and LGBTQ+ Folx  More transgender families:  YouTube Channel: Great Scotts YouTube Channel: Jammidodger TikTok: TransitionTogether The Cut: My Husband is Now my Wife: Trans Women's Wives on Their Own Dramatic Transformations Chicago Tribune: Suburban Wife Loves the Person, Not the Gender, After Spouse Comes out as Woman   * * *  Get in touch, I'm happy to hear from you or answer questions. If you would like to support the podcast, consider donating to: The Trevor Project, GLAAD, PFLAG and PFLAG International chapters,Lambda Legal, Advocates for Trans Equality, The Williams Institute, your local LGBTQ+ centers.

New laws are trying to erase transgender people and Law SB 244 that recently passed in the U.S. state of Kansas is a prime example. Transgender people are here to stay and in this episode, I touch on how wasteful and cruel this law is for the transgender community, a sliver of the population who are people like the rest of us.  Mentioned or related to this episode: ACLU: Understanding the SB 244 Law in Kansas Kansas SB 244 Law Details Request Assistance from ACLU Kansas Transgender Law Center Resources Lamda Legal LGBTQ Foundation of Kansas Trans Lawrence Coalition Boots on the Ground Midwest  Transgender Institute (Kansas City, MO) PFLAG Kansas City (including KS)  Erin in the Morning to follow for transgender legislation updates Advocate & Educator to follow on Instagram Due to current events in the US: Rainbow Railroad TransLash: Trans Relocation Guide -- Finding Trans Aslyum and Safe Havens Transgender Law Center Resources Information for allies: PFLAG Guide to Being a Trans Ally(PDF) GLAAD Tips for Allies of Transgender People Advocates for Transgender Equality ally guide Human Rights Campaign ally guide Places to look for therapy and professional support: Psychology Today Coaching for Cis & Straight Partners of Transgender, Gender Diverse, and LGBTQ+ Folx  More transgender families:  YouTube Channel: Great Scotts YouTube Channel: Jammidodger TikTok: TransitionTogether The Cut: My Husband is Now my Wife: Trans Women's Wives on Their Own Dramatic Transformations Chicago Tribune: Suburban Wife Loves the Person, Not the Gender, After Spouse Comes out as Woman   * * *  Get in touch, I'm happy to hear from you or answer questions. If you would like to support the podcast, consider donating to: The Trevor Project, GLAAD, PFLAG and PFLAG International chapters,Lambda Legal, Advocates for Trans Equality, The Williams Institute, your local LGBTQ+ centers.

In this episode, my spouse shares whether she has regrets not coming out sooner and touches on the topic of what might have been missed since she came out as an adult. Due to current events in the US: Rainbow Railroad TransLash: Trans Relocation Guide -- Finding Trans Aslyum and Safe Havens Transgender Law Center Resources Information for allies: PFLAG Guide to Being a Trans Ally(PDF) GLAAD Tips for Allies of Transgender People Advocates for Transgender Equality ally guide Human Rights Campaign ally guide Places to look for therapy and professional support: Psychology Today Coaching for Cis & Straight Partners of Transgender, Gender Diverse, and LGBTQ+ Folx  More transgender families:  YouTube Channel: Great Scotts YouTube Channel: Jammidodger TikTok: TransitionTogether The Cut: My Husband is Now my Wife: Trans Women's Wives on Their Own Dramatic Transformations Chicago Tribune: Suburban Wife Loves the Person, Not the Gender, After Spouse Comes out as Woman   * * *  Get in touch, I'm happy to hear from you or answer questions. If you would like to support the podcast, consider donating to: The Trevor Project, GLAAD, PFLAG and PFLAG International chapters, Lambda Legal, Advocates for Trans Equality, The Williams Institute, your local LGBTQ+ centers.

The new season begins with a reflection on the fourth year post-disclosure and how things looked then versus now.  Mentioned in or related to this episode:  PFLAG and International PFLAG: Support, Education, and Advocacy for LGBTQ+ People and their Loved Ones Due to current events in the US: Rainbow Railroad TransLash: Trans Relocation Guide -- Finding Trans Aslyum and Safe Havens Transgender Law Center Resources Information for allies: PFLAG Guide to Being a Trans Ally(PDF) GLAAD Tips for Allies of Transgender People Advocates for Transgender Equality ally guide Human Rights Campaign ally guide Places to look for therapy and professional support: Psychology Today Coaching for Cis & Straight Partners of Transgender, Gender Diverse, and LGBTQ+ Folx  More transgender families:  YouTube Channel: Great Scotts YouTube Channel: Jammidodger TikTok: TransitionTogether The Cut: My Husband is Now my Wife: Trans Women's Wives on Their Own Dramatic Transformations Chicago Tribune: Suburban Wife Loves the Person, Not the Gender, After Spouse Comes out as Woman   * * *  Get in touch, I'm happy to hear from you or answer questions. If you would like to support the podcast, consider donating to: The Trevor Project, GLAAD, PFLAG and PFLAG International chapters, Lambda Legal, Advocates for Trans Equality, The Williams Institute, your local LGBTQ+ centers.

The season ends with a message of hope and an encore interview with special guest, Abbe Kruger. Abbe is a life coach who dedicates herself to supporting cisgender and straight spouses or partners, and couples, managing changes in sexuality, gender identity and gender expression. Abbe can help you anywhere in the world, you can contact her here.   The podcast returns in January. Thank you for listening and here's to hoping for a wonderful year ahead. Mentioned in or related to this episode:  Coaching for Cis & Straight Partners of Transgender, Gender Diverse, and LGBTQ+ Folx  Them: How to Prepare for your First Visit Home after Transitioning TransVitae: Helping Your Family Accept a Transgender Partner Pronoun Pins: Human Rights Campaign pronoun pins , PFLAG pronoun buttons, Dissent pins, Etsy pronoun pins  Information for allies: PFLAG Guide to Being a Trans Ally(PDF) GLAAD Tips for Allies of Transgender People Advocates for Transgender Equality ally guide Human Rights Campaign ally guide Places to look for therapy and professional support: Psychology Today Coaching for Cis & Straight Partners of Transgender, Gender Diverse, and LGBTQ+ Folx  More transgender families:  YouTube Channel: Great Scotts YouTube Channel: Jammidodger TikTok: TransitionTogether The Cut: My Husband is Now my Wife: Trans Women's Wives on Their Own Dramatic Transformations Chicago Tribune: Suburban Wife Loves the Person, Not the Gender, After Spouse Comes out as Woman   * * *  Get in touch, I'm happy to hear from you or answer questions. If you would like to support the podcast, consider donating to: The Trevor Project, GLAAD, PFLAG and PFLAG International chapters, Lambda Legal, The Williams Institute, your local LGBTQ+ centers.

It is an ongoing calculation to decide when to tell someone new that your spouse is transgender. Everyone in your circle may know, but one still has to decide if it is necessary, if you think your spouse will be okay with it if they're not there, and whether it is even up to your spouse when you feel like it is the right moment to share that piece of information with someone new. In this episode, my spouse and I discuss a recent situation where we were caught off guard and another where I made the decision to tell someone that she happens to be transgender. Information for allies: PFLAG Guide to Being a Trans Ally(PDF) GLAAD Tips for Allies of Transgender People Advocates for Transgender Equality ally guide Human Rights Campaign ally guide Places to look for therapy and professional support: Psychology Today Coaching for Cis & Straight Partners of Transgender, Gender Diverse, and LGBTQ+ Folx  More transgender families:  YouTube Channel: Great Scotts YouTube Channel: Jammidodger TikTok: TransitionTogether The Cut: My Husband is Now my Wife: Trans Women's Wives on Their Own Dramatic Transformations Chicago Tribune: Suburban Wife Loves the Person, Not the Gender, After Spouse Comes out as Woman   * * *  Get in touch, I'm happy to hear from you or answer questions. If you would like to support the podcast, consider donating to: The Trevor Project, GLAAD, PFLAG and PFLAG International chapters, Lambda Legal, The Williams Institute, your local LGBTQ+ centers.

I asked my 12-year-old to share his perspective on moving abroad and squeezed out just enough to create a short episode. It is a reminder that kids are resilient and can handle big things as long as there is a support network to lean on — in this case, he has his parents plus family and friends from afar.  There are lots of books, podcasts, resources and groups online to help you and your kids with an overseas move and even more specific to your situation and where you are going -- if you are planning a move, I encourage finding those groups and resources to help make the process feel less daunting. Mentioned or related to this episode: First interview with my son: Perspective from a 10-year-old Second interview with my son: A Child's Perspective on FFS Information for allies: PFLAG Guide to Being a Trans Ally(PDF) GLAAD Tips for Allies of Transgender People Advocates for Trans Equality ally guide Human Rights Campaign ally guide Places to look for therapy and professional support: Psychology Today Coaching for Cis & Straight Partners of Transgender, Gender Diverse, and LGBTQ+ Folx  More transgender families:  YouTube Channel: Great Scotts YouTube Channel: Jammidodger TikTok: TransitionTogether The Cut: My Husband is Now my Wife: Trans Women's Wives on Their Own Dramatic Transformations Chicago Tribune: Suburban Wife Loves the Person, Not the Gender, After Spouse Comes out as Woman   * * *  Get in touch, I'm happy to hear from you or answer questions. If you would like to support the podcast, consider donating to: The Trevor Project, GLAAD, PFLAG and PFLAG International chapters, Lambda Legal, Trans Formations Project, The Williams Institute, your local LGBTQ+ centers.

In this episode, my spouse shares her feelings about moving abroad. "We are not chess pieces," she says, regarding the current anti-transgender climate in the US. That says it all.   Mentioned or related to this episode: USA Today: Safest States for Gay and Trans People Rainbow Railroad TransLash: Trans Relocation Guide -- Finding Trans Aslyum and Safe Havens Erin in the Morning: Countries Should Accept Transgender Refugees from the U.S.  Information for allies: PFLAG Guide to Being a Trans Ally(PDF) GLAAD Tips for Allies of Transgender People Advocates for Trans Equality ally guide Human Rights Campaign ally guide Places to look for therapy and professional support: Psychology Today Coaching for Cis & Straight Partners of Transgender, Gender Diverse, and LGBTQ+ Folx  More transgender families:  YouTube Channel: Great Scotts YouTube Channel: Jammidodger TikTok: TransitionTogether The Cut: My Husband is Now my Wife: Trans Women's Wives on Their Own Dramatic Transformations Chicago Tribune: Suburban Wife Loves the Person, Not the Gender, After Spouse Comes out as Woman   * * *  Get in touch, I'm happy to hear from you or answer questions. If you would like to support the podcast, consider donating to: The Trevor Project, GLAAD, PFLAG and PFLAG International chapters, Lambda Legal, Trans Formations Project, The Williams Institute, your local LGBTQ+ centers.

You know how we sometimes dissect our night out on the way home from an event — you think about things you said, what others said, what you would do differently. That's what it feels like I've been doing after living abroad for two months — looking back and wondering if things are as bad as I thought they were, and if we made the right move. This can't be covered in one episode but let's explore how things are currently looking from here.  Mentioned or related to this episode: ACLU: Mapping Attacks on LGBTQ Rights in U.S. State Legislatures in 2025 NBC News: Texas to Become 20th State with Transgender Bathroom Law Lambda Legal: Identiy Document Guidance for Transgender, Nonbinary, Gender-Noncomforming, and Intersex People  TransLash: Trans Relocation Guide -- Finding Trans Aslyum and Safe Havens Erin in the Morning: Countries Should Accept Transgender Refugees from the U.S.  Information for allies: PFLAG Guide to Being a Trans Ally(PDF) GLAAD Tips for Allies of Transgender People Advocates for Transgender Equality ally guide Human Rights Campaign ally guide Places to look for therapy and professional support: Psychology Today Coaching for Cis & Straight Partners of Transgender, Gender Diverse, and LGBTQ+ Folx  More transgender families:  YouTube Channel: Great Scotts YouTube Channel: Jammidodger TikTok: TransitionTogether The Cut: My Husband is Now my Wife: Trans Women's Wives on Their Own Dramatic Transformations Chicago Tribune: Suburban Wife Loves the Person, Not the Gender, After Spouse Comes out as Woman   * * *  Get in touch, I'm happy to hear from you or answer questions. If you would like to support the podcast, consider donating to: The Trevor Project, GLAAD, PFLAG and PFLAG International chapters, Lambda Legal, Trans Formations Project, The Williams Institute, your local LGBTQ+ centers.