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Head to Grow Therapy to find your dream therapist today!Sometimes suicidal thoughts aren’t about not enjoying life. Sometimes they come from something darker:“I don’t deserve to be here.”“Maybe dying would be the right thing.”In this video, I challenge that logic with one question that tends to collapse it:"Would the rule you’re using against yourself still make sense if you applied it to all of humanity?"Because most people live under two sets of standards:1. the ones they apply to everyone, and2. the brutal, private “me-only” rules they’d never apply to anyone elseI unpack:- the “holds up at scale” filter (and why it matters)- how self-judgment becomes a private “death-squad” standard- why “earning the right to live” is a dangerous framework- the question that exposes whether your rule is actually universal—or just self-hatred dressed up as moralityIf you’re struggling right now: please don’t do this alone. Reach out to someone you trust or a professional. If my podcast has helped, my new book, The Light Between the Leaves, goes even deeper Next Steps:📩 Get Practical tools for navigating life with depression and anxiety, delivered weekly. About me: I know what it is to feel hopelessly stuck and worthless to the world in general. I also know what it is to live without those feelings. I’m both a Clinical Psychology specializing in treatment-resistant depression and anxiety, and a human who has spent more than a decade managing sever depression and anxiety. Mental Health Coaching with meTherapy with me (for people in Iowa)Find me on YouTubeResources 🪣 Get my free 5-day guide to reclaiming your time and energy despite mental health struggles. 😴 Dramatically improve your sleep in 2 steps with my new Sleep Workbook. 📖 My 1st book: For When Everything is Burning Disclaimer: This content is not intended to be a replacement for receiving treatment. It is purely educational in nature. My relationship with you is that of presenter and audience, not therapist and client. But I do care.

Head to http://cozyearth.com/ and use my code DRSCOTT for up to 20% off to make your home the best part of life. And if you get a Post-Purchase Survey, be sure to mention you heard about Cozy Earth right here!You will never have zero anxiety — and trying to get there will actually make you more anxious.But a surprising amount of the anxiety you feel every day is optional.In this video, I break down 5 common types of anxiety that can be reduced dramatically (sometimes almost eliminated) with straightforward behavioral shifts:- Control Anxiety (the “my conditions must be perfect” trap)- Malnourishment Anxiety (a fueled brain regulates better)- Impression Management Anxiety (trying to control other people’s thoughts)- Exhaustion Anxiety (sleep loss wrecks emotional regulation)- Deception Anxiety (the weight of secrets)The goal isn’t to remove anxiety.It’s to stop accidentally manufacturing the kind you don’t need. If my podcast has helped, my new book, The Light Between the Leaves, goes even deeper Next Steps:📩 Get Practical tools for navigating life with depression and anxiety, delivered weekly. About me: I know what it is to feel hopelessly stuck and worthless to the world in general. I also know what it is to live without those feelings. I’m both a Clinical Psychology specializing in treatment-resistant depression and anxiety, and a human who has spent more than a decade managing sever depression and anxiety. Mental Health Coaching with meTherapy with me (for people in Iowa)Find me on YouTubeResources 🪣 Get my free 5-day guide to reclaiming your time and energy despite mental health struggles. 😴 Dramatically improve your sleep in 2 steps with my new Sleep Workbook. 📖 My 1st book: For When Everything is Burning Disclaimer: This content is not intended to be a replacement for receiving treatment. It is purely educational in nature. My relationship with you is that of presenter and audience, not therapist and client. But I do care.

Build a stronger, more connected relationship with Paired for 25% off a yearly plan plus a 7-day free trial.“The common denominator in all my failed relationships is me… so I must be the problem.”It sounds logical. It’s also massively biased.In this episod, I break down why that conclusion doesn’t hold up, the two other common denominators you’re ignoring (hint: people and a broken world), and the missing data point that changes everything: you don’t actually know your “relationship success rate” compared to anyone else—because you only see your failures, not theirs.I talk about: why hurt is inevitable in real relationshipswhy repair is the real definition of “safe”how confirmation bias and minimization distort your self-imagewhy a relationship ending ≠ a relationship “failing”the “home runs vs at-bats” analogy that makes this click fastIf you’ve been using relationships as evidence that you’re unlovable or broken—this is a necessary reset. If my podcast has helped, my new book, The Light Between the Leaves, goes even deeper Next Steps:📩 Get Practical tools for navigating life with depression and anxiety, delivered weekly. About me: I know what it is to feel hopelessly stuck and worthless to the world in general. I also know what it is to live without those feelings. I’m both a Clinical Psychology specializing in treatment-resistant depression and anxiety, and a human who has spent more than a decade managing sever depression and anxiety. Mental Health Coaching with meTherapy with me (for people in Iowa)Find me on YouTubeResources 🪣 Get my free 5-day guide to reclaiming your time and energy despite mental health struggles. 😴 Dramatically improve your sleep in 2 steps with my new Sleep Workbook. 📖 My 1st book: For When Everything is Burning Disclaimer: This content is not intended to be a replacement for receiving treatment. It is purely educational in nature. My relationship with you is that of presenter and audience, not therapist and client. But I do care.

Start the New Year off right and give your home the luxury it deserves, and make home the best part of life. Head to http://cozyearth.com/ and use my code DRSCOTT for up to 20% off. (or DRSCOTTBOGO for the pajama deal). If your sleep is bad, your mental health has a ceiling—no matter how good your therapist is, how much insight you have, or what meds you’re on. In this episode, I walk through my 10 highest-conviction sleep moves for 2026, including the #1 rule almost everyone gets backwards: your circadian rhythm is built on your wake-up time, not your bedtime. You’ll learn how to: lock in your wake time (even on weekends) build a real wind-down routine (without “bedtime revenge procrastination”) handle 2–4am awakenings the right way set a caffeine cutoff that actually protects sleep quality optimize comfort, darkness, temperature, and white noise stop training your brain to treat your bed like an office If you want better mood, better focus, and better impulse control, start here. If my podcast has helped, my new book, The Light Between the Leaves, goes even deeper Next Steps:📩 Get Practical tools for navigating life with depression and anxiety, delivered weekly. About me: I know what it is to feel hopelessly stuck and worthless to the world in general. I also know what it is to live without those feelings. I’m both a Clinical Psychology specializing in treatment-resistant depression and anxiety, and a human who has spent more than a decade managing sever depression and anxiety. Mental Health Coaching with meTherapy with me (for people in Iowa)Find me on YouTubeResources 🪣 Get my free 5-day guide to reclaiming your time and energy despite mental health struggles. 😴 Dramatically improve your sleep in 2 steps with my new Sleep Workbook. 📖 My 1st book: For When Everything is Burning Disclaimer: This content is not intended to be a replacement for receiving treatment. It is purely educational in nature. My relationship with you is that of presenter and audience, not therapist and client. But I do care.

Build a stronger, more connected relationship with Paired for 25% off a yearly plan plus a 7-day free trial. @pairedapp  Chronic depression can wreck relationships—friends, family, coworkers, and especially romantic partners. But I don’t believe it’s inevitable that you end up alone.In this video, I share the highest-conviction strategies I’ve learned (through a lot of trial and error) for building relationships that can survive depressive episodes—without turning your partner into your therapist or expecting people to read your mind. You’ll learn: Why disclosure matters (and how it protects your relationships)What to say when you’re in an episode, not just “I have depression”How depression creates a filter that distorts how you interpret peopleWhy relational anhedonia can make you feel detached from people you loveHow to avoid making relationship decisions from a depressive stateWhy appreciation of effort matters even when “nothing helps”How prompts, reminders, and structure can keep connection aliveIf you’re in the middle of a rough season: you’re not broken, and you’re not unlovable. Your brain is doing what depressed brains do. The goal is to build relationships that don’t collapse every time the weather changes. If my podcast has helped, my new book, The Light Between the Leaves, goes even deeper Next Steps:📩 Get Practical tools for navigating life with depression and anxiety, delivered weekly. About me: I know what it is to feel hopelessly stuck and worthless to the world in general. I also know what it is to live without those feelings. I’m both a Clinical Psychology specializing in treatment-resistant depression and anxiety, and a human who has spent more than a decade managing sever depression and anxiety. Mental Health Coaching with meTherapy with me (for people in Iowa)Find me on YouTubeResources 🪣 Get my free 5-day guide to reclaiming your time and energy despite mental health struggles. 😴 Dramatically improve your sleep in 2 steps with my new Sleep Workbook. 📖 My 1st book: For When Everything is Burning Disclaimer: This content is not intended to be a replacement for receiving treatment. It is purely educational in nature. My relationship with you is that of presenter and audience, not therapist and client. But I do care.

Head to https://huel.yt.link/lEnX8Jo and & use SCOTT20 to get 20% off your first order of the High Protein Starter Kit!If you struggle with suicidal thoughts, you’ve probably asked the scariest question: “Which version of me is real?” In this video, I explain why suicidal ideation is not a character reveal—and how to tell the difference between intrusive thoughts, impulsive thoughts, and the deeper desire underneath both.We’ll talk about why suicidal thoughts often mean “I want the pain to stop” (not “I want to be dead”), how over-identifying with these thoughts makes them stronger, and the practical biological levers (sleep + nutrition) that can reduce intensity and frequency. If my podcast has helped, my new book, The Light Between the Leaves, goes even deeper Next Steps:📩 Get Practical tools for navigating life with depression and anxiety, delivered weekly. About me: I know what it is to feel hopelessly stuck and worthless to the world in general. I also know what it is to live without those feelings. I’m both a Clinical Psychology specializing in treatment-resistant depression and anxiety, and a human who has spent more than a decade managing sever depression and anxiety. Mental Health Coaching with meTherapy with me (for people in Iowa)Find me on YouTubeResources 🪣 Get my free 5-day guide to reclaiming your time and energy despite mental health struggles. 😴 Dramatically improve your sleep in 2 steps with my new Sleep Workbook. 📖 My 1st book: For When Everything is Burning Disclaimer: This content is not intended to be a replacement for receiving treatment. It is purely educational in nature. My relationship with you is that of presenter and audience, not therapist and client. But I do care.

If my podcast has helped, my new book, The Light Between the Leaves, goes even deeper 2025 was one of the hardest years of my life—but it taught me lessons I wouldn’t have learned any other way. In this video, I break down the 14 most important insights that came from pain, mistakes, and hard-earned clarity—and how I’m applying them in 2026.This isn’t motivational fluff or “new year, new you” advice. It’s an honest reflection on emotional health, discipline, relationships, identity, and what actually leads to a life that feels sustainable. Next Steps:📩 Get Practical tools for navigating life with depression and anxiety, delivered weekly. About me: I know what it is to feel hopelessly stuck and worthless to the world in general. I also know what it is to live without those feelings. I’m both a Clinical Psychology specializing in treatment-resistant depression and anxiety, and a human who has spent more than a decade managing sever depression and anxiety. Mental Health Coaching with meTherapy with me (for people in Iowa)Find me on YouTubeResources 🪣 Get my free 5-day guide to reclaiming your time and energy despite mental health struggles. 😴 Dramatically improve your sleep in 2 steps with my new Sleep Workbook. 📖 My 1st book: For When Everything is Burning Disclaimer: This content is not intended to be a replacement for receiving treatment. It is purely educational in nature. My relationship with you is that of presenter and audience, not therapist and client. But I do care.

Head to https://huel.yt.link/tUoz2cs and & use SCOTT20 to get 20% off your first order of $75+ !Most people don’t get stuck in therapy because they’re not trying.They get stuck because they misunderstand the timeline.Mental health change isn’t like turning a steering wheel and instantly seeing results—it’s more like steering a massive ship. The lag between effort and improvement is longer than you think, and that delay is where people quit… right before the payoff.In this episode, I explain:- Why effective therapy skills often feel “useless” at first- How impatience keeps you cycling through tools without using any long enough to work- Why quick fixes (alcohol, porn, shopping, gambling, etc.) feel tempting—and why they backfire- The mindset shift that makes therapy skills actually stick- A practical way to commit to skills without obsessing over results- If you’ve ever thought, “I tried that and it didn’t work,” this is for you.Next Steps: If my videos have helped, my new book, The Light Between the Leaves, goes even deeperhttps://bit.ly/DrScottLightBetweentheLeavesYT📩 Get Practical tools for navigating life with depression and anxiety, delivered weekly. https://bit.ly/SelfHopePsychologyDepression and Anxiety resource:🪣 Get my 5-day guide to reclaiming your time and energy despite mental health struggles. https://bit.ly/DrScottBucketTheory♥︎ 2 Unique ways to work with me - https://drscotteilers.com😴 Dramatically improve your sleep in 2 steps with my new Sleep Workbook.https://www.drscotteilers.com/resources#how-to-sleep-better📖 My book: For When Everything is Burninghttps://bit.ly/forwheneverythingisburning Disclaimer: This content is not intended to be a replacement for receiving treatment. It is purely educational in nature. My relationship with you is that of presenter and audience, not therapist and client. But I do care.

Head to https://huel.yt.link/O6TCyKx and & use SCOTT10 to get 20% off your first order of $75+!Minimum spend required. New customers only. #adIf you have intense mood swings but bipolar disorder or major depression never quite felt like the right fit, this video may explain why. I break down Cyclothymic Disorder—a commonly overlooked mood disorder that causes chronic emotional highs and lows without full manic or depressive episodes.We’ll cover symptoms, common misdiagnoses, and evidence-based treatments so you can better understand what’s happening—and what actually helps stabilize your mood.If my videos have helped, my new book, The Light Between the Leaves, goes even deeperhttps://bit.ly/DrScottLightBetweentheLeavesYTNext Steps: 📩 Get Practical tools for navigating life with depression and anxiety, delivered weekly. https://bit.ly/SelfHopePsychologyDepression and Anxiety resource:🪣 Get my 5-day guide to reclaiming your time and energy despite mental health struggles. https://bit.ly/DrScottBucketTheory♥︎ 2 Unique ways to work with me - https://drscotteilers.com😴 Dramatically improve your sleep in 2 steps with my new Sleep Workbook.https://www.drscotteilers.com/resources#how-to-sleep-better📖 My book: For When Everything is Burninghttps://bit.ly/forwheneverythingisburning Disclaimer: This content is not intended to be a replacement for receiving treatment. It is purely educational in nature. My relationship with you is that of presenter and audience, not therapist and client. But I do care.

Thanks to Grow Therapy for sponsoring this episode! Head to to the site to find your estimate and get started today!If you’ve never felt like a “people person,” this video is for you. I break down the practical strategies I’ve used to function in society without pretending to love it—or becoming someone I’m not.This isn’t about becoming social, charismatic, or likable. It’s about surviving—and occasionally enjoying—human interaction when your default setting is avoidance.If my videos have helped, my new book, The Light Between the Leaves, goes even deeperhttps://bit.ly/DrScottLightBetweentheLeavesYTNext Steps: 📩 Get Practical tools for navigating life with depression and anxiety, delivered weekly. https://bit.ly/SelfHopePsychologyDepression and Anxiety resource:🪣 Get my 5-day guide to reclaiming your time and energy despite mental health struggles. https://bit.ly/DrScottBucketTheory♥︎ 2 Unique ways to work with me - https://drscotteilers.com😴 Dramatically improve your sleep in 2 steps with my new Sleep Workbook.https://www.drscotteilers.com/resources#how-to-sleep-better📖 My book: For When Everything is Burninghttps://bit.ly/forwheneverythingisburning Disclaimer: This content is not intended to be a replacement for receiving treatment. It is purely educational in nature. My relationship with you is that of presenter and audience, not therapist and client. But I do care.

Get $50 off at shortform.com/drscott and start learning more from NonfictionSome people are born resilient. Others have to build it from scratch. In this video, I break down what resilience actually is (and what it isn’t), why you can’t will it into existence, and the 10 practical strategies that helped me go from painfully sensitive to functionally resilient in a harsh world.This is for the people who feel everything deeply, overthink everything, and still want to keep going anyway.If my videos have helped, my new book, The Light Between the Leaves, goes even deeperNext Steps: 📩 Get Practical tools for navigating life with depression and anxiety, delivered weekly. Depression and Anxiety resource:🪣 Get my 5-day guide to reclaiming your time and energy despite mental health struggles. https://bit.ly/DrScottBucketTheory♥︎ 2 Unique ways to work with me - https://drscotteilers.com😴 Dramatically improve your sleep in 2 steps with my new Sleep Workbook.https://www.drscotteilers.com/resources#how-to-sleep-better📖 My book: For When Everything is Burninghttps://bit.ly/forwheneverythingisburning Disclaimer: This content is not intended to be a replacement for receiving treatment. It is purely educational in nature. My relationship with you is that of presenter and audience, not therapist and client. But I do care.

Most people don’t realize what mattered most to them until it’s already gone—and by then, all that’s left is grief, regret, and the feeling that you wasted time you didn’t know was precious. The human mind is terrible at appreciating the present while we’re still living it. In this episode, I share a set of practical ways to recognize what truly matters before you lose it—from doing things like it’s the last time, to putting a price tag on what you’d never trade, to a few unconventional techniques that can snap gratitude into focus when your brain refuses to cooperate. This is a chapter preview from my upcoming book The Light Between the Leaves, releasing April 2026 and available now for pre-order. This chapter is called “Remember What Matters Most.” Get the book here.https://bit.ly/DrScottLightBetweentheLeavesYT Next Steps: 📩 Get Practical tools for navigating life with depression and anxiety, delivered weekly. https://bit.ly/SelfHopePsychology Depression and Anxiety resource: 🪣 Get my 5-day guide to reclaiming your time and energy despite mental health struggles. https://bit.ly/DrScottBucketTheory ♥︎ 2 Unique ways to work with me - https://drscotteilers.com 😴 Dramatically improve your sleep in 2 steps with my new Sleep Workbook. https://www.drscotteilers.com/resources#how-to-sleep-better 📖 My book: For When Everything is Burning https://bit.ly/forwheneverythingisburning Disclaimer: This content is not intended to be a replacement for receiving treatment. It is purely educational in nature. My relationship with you is that of presenter and audience, not therapist and client. But I do care.

Thanks to Huel for sponsoring this video! Get 15% off Huel’s newest and existing products by heading to nhttps://huel.yt.link/1cTKz1e and using code SCOTT10 (new customers only, min $75 purchase).Depression isn’t just sadness—and having “a good life” doesn’t make you immune to it. In this conversation, I break down the two very different ways depression shows up, why success and stability don’t protect your mental health, and how purpose, pressure, and meaning shape both work and well-being.We also explore discipline, isolation, alcohol, motivation, and why mental health improvement requires effort—but not constant self-punishment. If you’ve ever wondered why things should feel good but don’t, this episode is for you. If my videos have helped, my new book, The Light Between the Leaves, goes even deeperhttps://bit.ly/DrScottLightBetweentheLeavesYTNext Steps: 📩 Get Practical tools for navigating life with depression and anxiety, delivered weekly. https://bit.ly/SelfHopePsychologyDepression and Anxiety resource:🪣 Get my 5-day guide to reclaiming your time and energy despite mental health struggles. https://bit.ly/DrScottBucketTheory♥︎ 2 Unique ways to work with me - https://drscotteilers.com😴 Dramatically improve your sleep in 2 steps with my new Sleep Workbook.https://www.drscotteilers.com/resources#how-to-sleep-better📖 My book: For When Everything is Burninghttps://bit.ly/forwheneverythingisburning Disclaimer: This content is not intended to be a replacement for receiving treatment. It is purely educational in nature. My relationship with you is that of presenter and audience, not therapist and client. But I do care.

The holidays can be one of the hardest times of year for mental health — and if you dread this season instead of enjoying it, you’re not broken. You’re human.In this video, I break down a practical holiday survival guide for navigating winter depression, family stress, loneliness, grief, financial pressure, and emotional overload. Whether you’re overwhelmed by too many people, struggling with too few, or just feeling crushed by the season itself, this is a grounded, realistic framework for getting through it with your sanity intact.This isn’t about toxic positivity or “just be grateful.” It’s about boundaries, energy budgeting, nervous system care, and redefining what the holidays actually need to be — for you.If my videos have helped, my new book, The Light Between the Leaves, goes even deeperhttps://bit.ly/DrScottLightBetweentheLeavesYTNext Steps: Get $50 OFF an annual Shortform ( @_Shortform ) sub at shortform.com/drscott and start learning more from nonfiction.📩 Get Practical tools for navigating life with depression and anxiety, delivered weekly. https://bit.ly/SelfHopePsychologyDepression and Anxiety resource:🪣 Get my 5-day guide to reclaiming your time and energy despite mental health struggles. https://bit.ly/DrScottBucketTheory♥︎ 2 Unique ways to work with me - https://drscotteilers.com😴 Dramatically improve your sleep in 2 steps with my new Sleep Workbook.https://www.drscotteilers.com/resources#how-to-sleep-better📖 My book: For When Everything is Burninghttps://bit.ly/forwheneverythingisburning Disclaimer: This content is not intended to be a replacement for receiving treatment. It is purely educational in nature. My relationship with you is that of presenter and audience, not therapist and client. But I do care.

If my videos have helped, my new book, The Light Between the Leaves, goes even deeperhttps://bit.ly/DrScottLightBetweentheLeavesYT PTSD is one of the most misunderstood mental health conditions on earth. In this episode, I explain what PTSD really is, how it differs from Complex PTSD, what happens in your brain and body during trauma, and why some people develop it while others don’t. You’ll learn the four symptom categories, the overlap with other diagnoses (like anxiety, depression, and BPD), and the treatments that actually work—including exposure therapy, EMDR, and TF-CBT—plus practical self-regulation tools you can start using today. Whether you’ve been through trauma yourself or are trying to understand someone who has, this is your crash course in what PTSD really means—and why recovery is possible.Next Steps: 📩 Get Practical tools for navigating life with depression and anxiety, delivered weekly. https://bit.ly/SelfHopePsychologyDepression and Anxiety resource:🪣 Get my 5-day guide to reclaiming your time and energy despite mental health struggles. https://bit.ly/DrScottBucketTheory♥︎ 2 Unique ways to work with me - https://drscotteilers.com😴 Dramatically improve your sleep in 2 steps with my new Sleep Workbook.https://www.drscotteilers.com/resources#how-to-sleep-better📖 My book: For When Everything is Burninghttps://bit.ly/forwheneverythingisburning Disclaimer: This content is not intended to be a replacement for receiving treatment. It is purely educational in nature. My relationship with you is that of presenter and audience, not therapist and client. But I do care.