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This week’s episode comes straight from the DMs: “Can you please make a video about your partner sleeping soundly while you are crying next to him?” It’s a message Margarita gets often, and one she lived herself in her twenties. The internet’s answer is usually just “leave him,” but Margarita argues that skips the most important part: understanding what is actually happening. In this episode, she breaks down the pursue-withdraw dynamic, why men and women experience conflict so differently, and how anxious and avoidant partners are both trying to feel safe in opposite ways. She gets candid about emotional sovereignty, rumination, and handing your emotional weather to someone else. She also explains how to tell a healthy break from stonewalling, emotional overwhelm from emotional punishment, and the one simple test that shows whether it really is time to leave him. In this episode: 1. Three separate reasons this could be happening and they are all different 2. The pursue withdraw dynamic and why it is so painful 3. Anxious versus avoidant attachment and why these two always find each other 4. Sleep does not prove emotional indifference 5. Why women ruminate and men shut down during conflict 6. Emotional invalidation versus nervous system overload 7. Stonewalling versus taking a healthy break 8. Why women carry the emotional labour of the whole relationship 9. Contempt and emotional punishment disguised as withdrawal 10. What the next day actually tells you about everything Write to Dear Margarita and read Unfiltered with Margarita Mentioned in this episode: Unbothered by Margarita Nazarenko Being Her is your no filter space for woman empowerment, relationship advice, confidence, feminine energy, and living life completely on your own terms. Love you lots like jelly tots xx See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Introducing The Complete Menopause Episode: 8 Experts on Belly Fat, Brain Fog, Sleep and Hormones from The Tamsen Show. Follow the show: The Tamsen Show Menopause and perimenopause can leave you with questions about belly fat, brain fog, sleep problems and whether hormone therapy could help. Your jeans fit differently. You’re losing your train of thought. You’re exhausted, but you can’t sleep. Where do you start when so much feels unfamiliar? For World Menopause Month, Tamsen brings eight leading doctors and researchers together in one episode to help you understand what’s changing and what deserves attention. These are the conversations she wishes she’d heard before she was struggling to read the teleprompter at work, leaving herself notes and wondering why she didn’t feel like herself. You’ll hear from Dr. Sharon Malone, Dr. Lisa Mosconi, Dr. Shelby Harris, Dr. Rocio Salas-Whalen, Dr. Vonda Wright, Dr. Kelly Casperson, Dr. Avrum Bluming and Dr. Suzanne Gilberg-Lenz. Eight experts, different perspectives and answers you can come back to—all in one place. Inside the episode: - Why you can still have periods and be in perimenopause—and why a single hormone blood test may be misleading - Whether menopause brain fog can improve, and why women’s experiences vary - Why more time in bed may not mean better sleep, and how cognitive behavioral therapy for insomnia (CBT-I) works - The difference between visible belly fat and visceral fat around your organs - Why bone health needs attention earlier than you might think - How menopause can affect sexual anatomy, arousal and orgasm - What to understand about hormone replacement therapy (HRT) and breast cancer risk - How to evaluate menopause supplements and “hormone balance” claims before spending your money You don’t have to remember everything or make eight changes tomorrow. Start with the moment that makes you think, “Wait, that’s happening to me.” Write down your question and bring it to your next appointment. If a woman in your life keeps telling you she doesn’t feel like herself, share this episode with her. And if these conversations have helped you, follow The Tamsen Show and leave a rating and review. This episode provides general education. Speak with a qualified healthcare professional about your symptoms and treatment decisions. If you want a say on our upcoming guests, fill out ⁠this form HELP US WIN A SIGNAL AWARD - VOTE FOR THE TAMSEN SHOW ⁠HERE Stay connected with Tamsen: ⁠⁠⁠⁠Get ⁠Tamsen's newsletter⁠⁠⁠⁠ filled with free tools⁠ to living better, feeling stronger, and knowing you’re never alone Get Tamsen’s NYT instant bestselling book, ⁠⁠⁠⁠How To Menopause⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠Free Resources⁠⁠⁠⁠ from Tamsen  Watch all the episodes on ⁠⁠⁠⁠YouTube⁠⁠⁠⁠ Follow Tamsen on ⁠⁠⁠⁠Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠  The Tamsen Show on ⁠⁠⁠⁠Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠ Follow Tamsen on ⁠⁠⁠⁠TikTok⁠⁠⁠⁠  Follow Dr. Malone on Instagram Follow Dr. Mosconi on Instagram Follow Dr. Harris on Instagram Follow Dr. Salas-Whalen on Instagram Follow Dr. Wright on Instagram Follow Dr. Casperson on Instagram Follow Dr. Bluming  on Instagram Follow Dr. Gilberg-Lenz on Instagram Sponsors: Learn more about your ad choices, click here Medical Disclaimer: The information provided in this podcast is for educational and informational purposes only and is not intended as medical advice. Always consult with a qualified healthcare professional regarding any medical concerns or treatment options. The views expressed by guests are their own and do not necessarily reflect those of The Tamsen Show. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices DISCLAIMER: Please note, this is an independent podcast episode not affiliated with, endorsed by, or produced in conjunction with the host podcast feed or any of its media entities. The views and opinions expressed in this episode are solely those of the creators and guests. For any concerns, please reach out to [email protected].

Episode mentioned: The Bossticks with Margarita Nazarenko Peep the comments on the IG Reel that sparked this conversation Books mentioned: Unbothered by Margarita Nazarenko The New Rules by Margarita Nazarenko To learn more about Margarita Nazarenko, visit https://www.margaritanazarenko.com Welcome back to Being Her, where today it’s getting juicy, spicy and real life. Margarita is launching her new Substack, Unfiltered with Margarita, and using a viral moment from her recent appearance on The Bossticks to unpack why so many women feel burnt out, frazzled and in constant conflict with the people they love. When a clip about her husband forgetting the diapers in Las Vegas blew up online, the comment section revealed something bigger: women are carrying loads that were never theirs to carry. In this episode, Margarita breaks down the psychology of over-functioning, the difference between caring and controlling, and why stepping back and letting natural consequences play out can transform your relationships. She gets candid about her own over-functioning roots as the child of an immigrant, the mental load, catastrophizing, and why being unbothered means knowing exactly what deserves your energy. As always, 10 takeaways and 10 actionable steps. In this episode: 1. Stop turning inconveniences into emergencies 2. You are not an emergency service for every adult in your life 3. The psychology of over functioning in a family system 4. Stop confusing caring with controlling 5. Consequences are often the best teacher, stop removing them 6. Your nervous system does not know you are arguing about small things 7. Stop treating every mistake as evidence of something bigger 8. Women are exhausted from monitoring everything 9. You cannot complain about carrying everything while refusing to put it down 10. Being unbothered means knowing what actually deserves your energy If you do everything and nobody notices, if you correct how everyone else does things because your way is right, or if you are exhausted but cannot actually let go, this one is going to hit home. Write to Dear Margarita and read Unfiltered with Margarita Subscribe to receive my emails Being Her is your no filter space for woman empowerment, relationship advice, confidence, feminine energy, and living life completely on your own terms. Love you lots like jelly tots xx See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Join me in The Final Round of Unbothered Woman Receive emails from me You already know what you need to do. You are just scared of what it is going to cost you. Margarita is back from her book tour in America, freshly moved into a half renovated house with two small children, and she has things to say. In this episode she shares the 10 mindset shifts that came up for her on the trip, the permissions she had to stop waiting for, and why the life you want is already inside you and has been the whole time. In this episode: 1. You are probably not confused you are just scared of the consequences 2. Stop collecting advice you already have the answer 3. Distance tells you things proximity cannot 4. Your next life requires disappointing someone from your current one 5. Stop waiting to feel ready confidence only comes after evidence 6. When you transform the old identity will fight back hard 7. Stop making permanent decisions based on temporary emotions 8. Your life changes when you stop negotiating with what you know 9. There is no future version of you coming to save you 10. Give yourself until the end of the year to prove you can do hard things If you know what you need to do but cannot bring yourself to do it, if you keep asking everyone else what you should do with your life, or if you are waiting to feel ready before you start, this one is for you. This is your sign. Lock in. Being Her is your no filter space for woman empowerment, relationship advice, confidence, feminine energy, and living life completely on your own terms. Love you lots like jelly tots xx See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Join me for the Final round of The Unbothered Woman Ever - We start October 2nd. She was a fashion editor at GQ and Allure. She built a fashion line that dressed every A list celebrity. Then covid shut it all down. And at 52 years old she started over. And built the biggest success of her entire career. In this episode Margarita sits down with Mary Alice Haney in Hollywood and has the conversation every woman in her thirties, forties and fifties needs to hear. About reinvention. About the why not me mentality. About what it actually costs to build something. We talk about how Mary went from fashion editor to founder to podcaster, why confidence is not something you wait for it is something you fake until it becomes real, what nobody tells you about balancing motherhood and ambition, why your biggest success might still be ahead of you, and why your age and your children are not the excuses you think they are. If you have ever thought you are too old, too busy, too far behind, or that the window has closed, this episode will change your mind. Being Her is your no filter space for woman empowerment, relationship advice, confidence, feminine energy, and living life completely on your own terms. Love you lots like jelly tots xx See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Check out Hinge Get my Book: Unbothered The Art of Letting Go to Find Yourself Join the Unbothered Woman Watch Detach My 3 Day Intensive If there is one episode you listen to this year on anxious attachment, fear of abandonment, and why you can never fully relax in a relationship, let it be this one. Your gut is not a wise little oracle. It is a nervous system shaped by everything that has ever happened to you. And if most of your experiences with love have involved pain, your gut has been calibrated to a setting that does not serve you when you are finally safe. In this episode Margarita breaks down the real difference between anxiety and intuition, why trusting your gut is damaging advice for anxiously attached women, and what to do in the moment when you genuinely cannot tell which one is speaking. In this episode: Why anxiety and intuition feel exactly the same from the inside Why trusting your gut is dangerous advice for anxious women How your nervous system scans for danger even when you are safe Why reassurance is a leaky bucket that will never fill The three question framework to tell anxiety from intuition What real intuition actually feels like vs anxious spiraling What hyper independent women do when they finally feel something real How to regulate before you react and ruin something good When to stay and when the signal is actually real What changes when you finally learn to tell the difference If you can never fully relax no matter how much he shows up, if you need certainty just to feel okay, or if you are exhausted by your own spiral and just want it to stop, this one is for you. Being Her is your no filter space for woman empowerment, relationship advice, confidence, feminine energy, and living life completely on your own terms. Love you lots like jelly tots xx See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

View The Feminine Energy Collection Here Join The Unbothered Woman Here If you have been trying to step into your feminine energy but everything you have followed so far has felt like a performance, doing all the right things, not texting first, being soft, letting him lead, and still feeling the same anxiety underneath because nothing you were taught actually changed how you feel on the inside, this episode is for you. In this episode I break down why the mainstream version of feminine energy is keeping you stuck in a cycle of performing for an outcome instead of actually embodying who you are, the real definition of feminine energy that no one is talking about, and the specific practices that shift you from managing every outcome to being so anchored in yourself that you never lose her again. → FREE: The Unbothered Reset: 30 Days to Become Her. Every day for 30 days, you’ll receive a short email. Start the 30-Day Reset → Unbothered: The art of letting go → The New Rules Book Being Her is your no filter space for woman empowerment, relationship advice, confidence, feminine energy, and living life completely on your own terms. Love you lots like jelly tots xx See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Get your copy of Unbothered, now available in the US Join the waitlist for Unbothered Woman Watch Detach Check out Hinge You are not going to like this one. And if it makes you angry, that is probably a sign you need to hear it. In this episode Margarita breaks down five things women do completely unintentionally, usually with the best intentions, that quietly push men away. Not the obvious stuff every relationship coach has already told you. The things nobody is saying. In this episode: 1. Narrating every internal state the second you feel it 2. Mothering him and collapsing the polarity without realising it 3. Making yourself too agreeable, too easy, too cool girl 4. Manufacturing jealousy instead of actually building a full life 5. Needing his validation vs valuing his opinion Whether you are in the talking stage, a long term relationship that has lost its spark, or a marriage that feels more like flatmates, one of these five is going to hit home. This is not about blame. It is about understanding why the dynamic shifts without either of you realising, until he pulls back and you have absolutely no idea what happened. Being Her is your no filter space for woman empowerment, relationship advice, confidence, feminine energy, and living life completely on your own terms. Love you lots like jelly tots xx See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Join Unbothered Woman Waitlist Watch Detach: My 3 Day Intensive Masterclass You have been warm to everyone. And it has exhausted you. In this episode Margarita brings back an ancient Slavic wisdom she nearly lost to western society and makes the full case for your ice queen era. Not cold for the sake of it. Not emotionally shut down. Just deeply discerning about where your warmth actually goes. Because warmth given to everyone is worth nothing. And warmth given to the right people changes everything. In this episode: 1. Warmth is valuable because it is limited 2. Coldness gives you enough distance to see reality 3. An ice queen does not react on impact 4. Being colder means you stop explaining the verdict 5. Stop mothering people who disappoint you 6. You can love someone without giving them access 7. Colder women are harder to manipulate 8. Protected softness is intimacy, unprotected softness is self abandonment 9. The cool girl and the ice queen are not the same thing 10. The goal is not to be Elsa forever, it is to be discerning If you give your warmth to everyone and get nothing back, if you over explain every boundary until it loses its power, or if you keep performing warmth even when you are genuinely hurt, this one is for you. Welcome to the ice queen era. Being Her is your no filter space for woman empowerment, relationship advice, confidence, feminine energy, and living life completely on your own terms. Love you lots like jelly tots xx Check out Hinge See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Watch Detach: My 3 day intensive masterclass. They called you bossy. They called you demanding. They called you difficult. Good. In this episode Margarita makes the full case for being self led, why women are trained from childhood to outsource their own lives to other people's comfort, and why the burnout, brain fog and confusion so many women are feeling right now is coming from one place. You have stopped leading yourself. In this episode: 1. Self led women know what they want and are not afraid to say it 2. We are taught as little girls that being easy is rewarded 3. Being self led is not controlling others it is running your own life 4. Indecisiveness is one of the most expensive things you can do to yourself 5. Confidence looks bossy when people are not used to it 6. Women apologize before they even finish the thought 7. The fear is not of being bossy it is the fear of rejection 8. Every successful woman has been called bossy at some point 9. Someone is always steering your life if it is not you 10. What would you do if nobody was watching and nobody cared If you say I do not mind so often you have forgotten what you do mind, if you apologize before you even finish the thought, or if you feel like you are living someone else's version of your life, this one is for you bossy girl. Being Her is your no filter space for woman empowerment, relationship advice, confidence, feminine energy, and living life completely on your own terms. Love you lots like jelly tots xx See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Watch Detach, my 3 day intensive masterclass here. Every man's ex is crazy. Have you noticed that? In this episode Margarita reclaims the word crazy and breaks down why emotional sovereignty is one of the most powerful things a woman can develop, why the cool girl performance is slowly killing you, and why feeling your emotions deeply is not your weakness. It is your greatest asset. In this episode: 1. Emotions are information not instructions to act 2. Emotional independence means stopping expecting others to regulate you 3. A regulated woman still cries and still gets angry 4. Stop treating every feeling like an emergency 5. Femininity is not emotional chaos it is leading your own emotions 6. Learn the difference between intuition and activation 7. Peace is not something a man gives you it is something you build 8. Stop outsourcing your self worth 9. Emotional maturity is the most attractive thing you can develop 10. The goal is not crazy amounts of happiness it is stability and joy If you have been called crazy for having a completely valid reaction, if you suppress your emotions just to seem cool, or if you are handing your emotional regulation to everyone around you, this one is for you. Welcome to emotional sovereignty. Being Her is your no filter space for woman empowerment, relationship advice, confidence, feminine energy, and living life completely on your own terms. Love you lots like jelly tots xx See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Watch Unbothered 3 Day Intensive Here You have been trying so hard to be easy. Easy going. Easy to love. No requirements. No fuss. And yet here you are. In this episode Margarita makes the full case for being high maintenance and why the women who know what they want, ask for it unapologetically, and refuse to shrink themselves are the ones who get everything. In this episode: 1. High maintenance is just a person who knows themselves 2. We are taught as little girls that being easy is rewarded 3. Low maintenance often becomes emotional dishonesty 4. How can a man meet the needs he does not know exist 5. Stop confusing standards with entitlement 6. The psychology of self silencing and why it kills relationships 7. Your needs are not problems, they are preferences 8. The fear of being high maintenance comes from a scarcity mindset 9. The healthiest women are actually quite specific 10. Stop trying to be easy to love because it does not exist If you have been making yourself small so people will like you more, pretending to be fine when you are not, or following him around and forgetting to have preferences of your own, this one is for you. Welcome to the high maintenance club. Being Her is your no filter space for woman empowerment, relationship advice, confidence, feminine energy, and living life completely on your own terms. Love you lots like jelly tots xx See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

UNBOTHERED 3 Day Intensive The more you do for him the more he will love you. That is what they told you. That is wrong. In this episode Margarita breaks down the psychology of why making yourself useful is actually costing you the love, respect and value you are trying to earn.T his one is going to change how you show up in every relationship in your life. In this episode: 1. Women are taught that love is earned through usefulness 2. The IKEA effect and why effort creates value 3. Stop robbing men of the chance to contribute 4. Useful is not memorable, it just fades into the background 5. Being needed and being loved are not the same thing 6. Every yes teaches people what to expect from you 7. Difficulty creates investment, not manipulation 8. Being low maintenance becomes self abandonment 9. Make people earn access to you through standards not games 10. Become unforgettable, not indispensable If you do everything and still do not feel valued, if you have made yourself so convenient you have disappeared, or if you are needed but not truly chosen, this one is for you. Get your copy of Unbothered Book Being Her is your no filter space for woman empowerment, relationship advice, confidence, feminine energy, and living life completely on your own terms. Love you lots like jelly tots xx See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Busy is not a badge of honour. It is a trap. And if you are reading this while doing three other things, this episode is specifically for you. In this episode, Margarita makes a full unapologetic case for laziness. Why the pressure on women to be endlessly productive is not ambition. It is performance. And it is running you into the ground. We talk about why your body is not a machine, why the 9 to 5 was literally built around male hormones and not yours, why productivity can become a sneaky way of avoiding yourself, and why the women who are actually winning are the ones who know when to stop. In this episode: Why a busy woman is not always a good woman Why laziness and efficiency are a lot closer than you think Why productivity can become a way of avoiding yourself Why your 28 day cycle means the 9 to 5 was never built for you Why nature does not rush and neither should you Why women carry two shifts and still get called lazy The difference between performative busyness and productive ambition Why slower is not smaller and your ambition is yours to define If you have ever felt guilty for resting, constantly busy but not actually going anywhere, or like you are performing productivity rather than actually creating, this one is for you. Lazy cow. Being Her is your no filter space for woman empowerment, relationship advice, confidence, feminine energy, and living life completely on your own terms. Love you lots like jelly tots xx See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

THE SELFISH RESET — Live Call with Margarita Aug 13 Join The Unbothered Woman. UNBOTHERED 3 Day Masterclass They taught you that being mean would get you ostracised. They taught you that having boundaries made you difficult. They taught you that disappointing people made you a bad person. They were wrong. In this episode, Margarita breaks down why the fear of being called mean is keeping you stuck, small, and silently resentful and why direct, honest, boundaried women aren't mean at all. They're just no longer convenient. In this episode: 1. Causing discomfort is not the same as causing harm 2. Mean usually just means you're no longer convenient 3. Niceness without limits becomes unpaid labour 4. Nice girls use niceness to control how people see them 5. Over explaining is fear dressed as communication 6. Women who avoid being mean often become it anyway, through resentment 7. Anger is not a flaw it's a service announcement 8. Kindness without limits becomes slavery 9. The difference between power and cruelty 10. Freedom means you will eventually disappoint someone, choose whose If you've ever said yes when you meant no and then resented it, over explained yourself just to be liked, or become passive aggressive without meaning to.. this episode is for you. Being Her is your no-filter space for woman empowerment, relationship advice, confidence, feminine energy, and living life completely on your own terms. Love you lots like jelly tots xx See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.