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This is Episode One in a brand-new series called Loving Without Losing Your Real Self — a series all about learning how to love the people in your life without disappearing, over-functioning, or drifting into resentment. And today, we’re starting with something almost every woman has felt: when a relationship feels lopsided. Maybe you’re the one who initiates. Maybe you carry the emotional weight. Maybe you’re always the one reaching out, inviting, or trying to keep things going. And somewhere inside you wonder: Is this about me? About them? Are we just wired differently? And how do I love well here without losing myself? In this episode, we’ll talk about: why we long for mutuality in our relationshipshow our hearts react when love feels unbalancedthe difference between honoring someone’s wiring and expecting samenessthe shift from scorekeeping to Spirit-led willingnesshow humility can soften your posture without asking you to do all the workYou’ll also get a handful of gentle reflection questions to help you look honestly at one relationship in your life that feels uneven right now — and if you want support applying what you’re learning each month, I’ll share how Clarity + Courage can help you build a steady rhythm of growth that fits your real life. If you’ve ever wondered how to love deeply without abandoning yourself, this episode will meet you right where you are and help you begin that journey with clarity, compassion, and the steady presence of Jesus. Free Resource: Download the Heart Scan Framework—a simple reference sheet outlining the four movements I use when coaching women through stuck or unclear moments. 👉 myhappyvault.com/heartscan If you want to take this work and apply it, visit myhappyvault.com. That’s where I share free resources and ways to stay connected. Discover ways to work with me at www.thehappiestlives.com or www.myhappyvault.com Questions? Email Jill directly at [email protected]

*Grab your FREE Heart Scan printable at myhappyvault.com/heartscan, and listen in as we close this series with hope. We’re wrapping up our Happiness & Unhappiness- Finding Jesus In The 50/50 series by stepping into the part we tend to avoid—how God uses unhappiness to shape us. If you’ve ever wondered why certain seasons feel so heavy or why your emotions seem “off,” this episode will help you see those moments through a completely different lens. We’re opening Hebrews to see how God formed Jesus through suffering—yes, Jesus—and why that matters for your own formation. I’ll walk you through seven surprising ways God grows you through disappointment, resistance, and grief… and how the Heart Scan can help you meet Him right in the middle of it all. If you’re carrying something hard right now, this conversation will help you breathe again and remember: unhappiness isn’t a failure. It’s often the doorway to deeper intimacy with Christ. Free Resource: Download the Heart Scan Framework—a simple reference sheet outlining the four movements I use when coaching women through stuck or unclear moments. 👉 myhappyvault.com/heartscan If you want to take this work and apply it, visit myhappyvault.com. That’s where I share free resources and ways to stay connected. Discover ways to work with me at www.thehappiestlives.com or www.myhappyvault.com Questions? Email Jill directly at [email protected]

* Make sure you grab your FREE Printable The Heart Scan Framework to tuck in your Bible or journal at www.myhappyvault.com/heartscan. In part three of Happiness & Unhappiness: Finding Jesus in the 50/50, we’re talking about emotional courage—the strength to face what we feel instead of running from it. Most of us aren’t actually afraid of the emotion; we’re afraid of the story our mind attaches to it. In this episode, Jill unpacks why unhappiness feels threatening, why emotions sometimes overwhelm us, and how the Israelites became “discouraged because of the trials of the way.” You’ll hear a personal moment when Jill felt emotionally flooded—and how that reaction became an invitation to pause, uncover the thoughts underneath, and practice emotional courage with Jesus. She also walks through the Heart Scan and FEEL Method so you can process emotions like anxiety with honesty, Scripture, and grace. And you’ll leave with a simple 90-second practice you can use every day. If you’ve been avoiding your feelings or fearing what they’ll do to you, this episode will help you slow down, get honest, and meet Jesus in the middle of it. Free Resource: Download the Heart Scan Framework—a simple reference sheet outlining the four movements I use when coaching women through stuck or unclear moments. 👉 myhappyvault.com/heartscan If you want to take this work and apply it, visit myhappyvault.com. That’s where I share free resources and ways to stay connected. Discover ways to work with me at www.thehappiestlives.com or www.myhappyvault.com Questions? Email Jill directly at [email protected]

This is the second episode in the series Happiness and Unhappiness: Finding Jesus in the 50-50. Life will always hold both joy and sorrow—but happiness doesn’t happen by chance. It’s something we build through habits, perspective, and practices that make room for the Holy Spirit to flow through us. In this episode, Jill shares the three movements of a happy soul—delight in the Lord, contentment in Christ, and purpose in love. You’ll learn how to cultivate joy in the middle of ordinary days, how gratitude rewires your brain for peace, and how to find meaning even when life feels full. Happiness isn’t about escaping the hard parts of life—it’s about finding Jesus in the middle of them. Free Resource: Download the Heart Scan Framework—a simple reference sheet outlining the four movements I use when coaching women through stuck or unclear moments. 👉 myhappyvault.com/heartscan If you want to take this work and apply it, visit myhappyvault.com. That’s where I share free resources and ways to stay connected. Discover ways to work with me at www.thehappiestlives.com or www.myhappyvault.com Questions? Email Jill directly at [email protected]

This is the beginning of a new series—Happiness and Unhappiness- Finding Jesus in the 50/50. Life is both. We often think happiness means the absence of unhappiness, but what if they’re two separate tracks we walk at the same time? In this episode, we’ll talk about how joy and sorrow can coexist, why unhappiness isn’t a sign that something’s gone wrong, and how learning to hold both can lead to a deeper kind of peace. Free Resource: Download the Heart Scan Framework—a simple reference sheet outlining the four movements I use when coaching women through stuck or unclear moments. 👉 myhappyvault.com/heartscan If you want to take this work and apply it, visit myhappyvault.com. That’s where I share free resources and ways to stay connected. Discover ways to work with me at www.thehappiestlives.com or www.myhappyvault.com Questions? Email Jill directly at [email protected]

This is the final episode in the series The Listening Life: How to Hear God’s Voice. Over the last few weeks we’ve learned to slow down, turn on the lights, and make space to hear from God. But how do we carry that into the messy middle of our real lives? In this episode, I’ll share how a couple learned to lay down heavy burdens in prayer, how waiting with longing can actually bind our hearts to God, and why faith always shows up in action. Get your FREE guide 45-Minute Morning Meeting With The Holy Spirit Free Resource: Download the Heart Scan Framework—a simple reference sheet outlining the four movements I use when coaching women through stuck or unclear moments. 👉 myhappyvault.com/heartscan If you want to take this work and apply it, visit myhappyvault.com. That’s where I share free resources and ways to stay connected. Discover ways to work with me at www.thehappiestlives.com or www.myhappyvault.com Questions? Email Jill directly at [email protected]

Have you ever sat down with God feeling heavy, distracted, or unsure where to start—and walked away renewed? In this episode, I share exactly what happened during a 45-minute meeting with the Holy Spirit. I came with aches, longings, and discouragement, but God met me with truth, shifted my perspective, and reminded me that what feels dormant is not dead. We’ll talk about why we resist honesty, how repentance is really about redirection—not guilt—and how His Word brings the light that changes everything. If you’re ready for clarity and renewal, this conversation will show you how to come as you are and leave transformed. 👉 Grab the free printable guide to the 45-minute Morning Meeting with the Holy Spirit at myhappyvault.com/morningmeeting. Free Resource: Download the Heart Scan Framework—a simple reference sheet outlining the four movements I use when coaching women through stuck or unclear moments. 👉 myhappyvault.com/heartscan If you want to take this work and apply it, visit myhappyvault.com. That’s where I share free resources and ways to stay connected. Discover ways to work with me at www.thehappiestlives.com or www.myhappyvault.com Questions? Email Jill directly at [email protected]

Have you ever sat down for quiet time and walked away feeling like you just checked a box — but didn’t really connect with God? You’re not alone. In this episode of The Happiest Lives Podcast, I share a practical, 45-minute structure you can use to turn your quiet time into an intentional meeting with the Holy Spirit. This simple nine-step rhythm will help you worship, process your thoughts, engage with Scripture, and walk away with clarity, peace, and a renewed sense of God’s presence. And to make it even easier, I’ve created a free printable guide you can download and use during your own quiet time. Grab your copy at myhappyvault.com/morningmeeting and try this practice for yourself. Free Resource: Download the Heart Scan Framework—a simple reference sheet outlining the four movements I use when coaching women through stuck or unclear moments. 👉 myhappyvault.com/heartscan If you want to take this work and apply it, visit myhappyvault.com. That’s where I share free resources and ways to stay connected. Discover ways to work with me at www.thehappiestlives.com or www.myhappyvault.com Questions? Email Jill directly at [email protected]

Have you ever wondered if you’re really hearing God’s voice—or just your own thoughts? In this first episode of The Listening Life series, Jill Lillard unpacks what it means to live attuned to God’s presence and guided by His Spirit. Through the “one thing” thread woven across Scripture—David’s desire for God’s presence, Mary’s attentiveness, the rich young ruler’s call to surrender, and Paul’s focus—you’ll see how the listening life is about centering everything on Him. Jill also shares how the Holy Spirit teaches, reminds, gives wisdom, and brings Scripture to life, making God’s voice a living reality in your everyday. If you’ve longed to hear Him more clearly, this episode will encourage you to quiet the many things and return to the One who is always speaking. Get your FREE guide 45-Minute Morning Meeting With The Holy Spirit Free Resource: Download the Heart Scan Framework—a simple reference sheet outlining the four movements I use when coaching women through stuck or unclear moments. 👉 myhappyvault.com/heartscan If you want to take this work and apply it, visit myhappyvault.com. That’s where I share free resources and ways to stay connected. Discover ways to work with me at www.thehappiestlives.com or www.myhappyvault.com Questions? Email Jill directly at [email protected]

This is the final episode in the series Truth in Love: The Courage to Correct and Be Corrected. Over the past five weeks, we’ve looked at what it means to offer correction in a way that reflects the heart of God—truthful, loving, and wise. But today we’re flipping the perspective. What does it look like to receive correction without spiraling into shame, defensiveness, or fear? In this episode, Jill unpacks what Scripture says about feedback, why our bodies and minds react the way they do, and how to stay calm and grounded when correction comes. You’ll discover a simple four-part framework to process feedback with grace, curiosity, and resilience. Correction doesn’t have to crush you—it can shape you. Tune in to learn how to welcome feedback as an invitation to grow in wisdom, maturity, and deeper trust in Christ. Free Resource: Download the Heart Scan Framework—a simple reference sheet outlining the four movements I use when coaching women through stuck or unclear moments. 👉 myhappyvault.com/heartscan If you want to take this work and apply it, visit myhappyvault.com. That’s where I share free resources and ways to stay connected. Discover ways to work with me at www.thehappiestlives.com or www.myhappyvault.com Questions? Email Jill directly at [email protected]

This is part four in the series Truth in Love: The Courage to Correct and Be Corrected. Correction isn’t easy—and when we step into it, it’s tempting to slip into the role of “fixer,” as if it’s our job to make someone else change. But scripture reminds us that’s not our role. We are called to speak the truth in love, with gentleness and humility, while entrusting the outcome to God. In this episode, Jill unpacks: Why posture matters more than having the perfect wordsThe dangers of superiority, anger, shame, and control in correctionHow humility and prayer prepare us to speak safelyPractical ways correction can happen—words, observations, questions, or boundariesWhat it looks like to release the outcome and trust God with the growthCorrection isn’t about playing God—it’s about love that restores, truth that sets free, and trust in the One who changes hearts. Free Resource: Download the Heart Scan Framework—a simple reference sheet outlining the four movements I use when coaching women through stuck or unclear moments. 👉 myhappyvault.com/heartscan If you want to take this work and apply it, visit myhappyvault.com. That’s where I share free resources and ways to stay connected. Discover ways to work with me at www.thehappiestlives.com or www.myhappyvault.com Questions? Email Jill directly at [email protected]

This is the third episode in the series Truth in Love: The Courage to Correct and Be Corrected. In this conversation, Jill explores one of the most important skills for healthy, godly relationships: discernment. How do you know when to speak up and when to let love quietly cover an offense? Both can be acts of love. Both can protect trust. Both can honor God. But knowing which response to choose in the moment takes wisdom. Drawing from Scripture, Jill unpacks examples of Shem and Japheth covering their father Noah’s shame, and Paul confronting the Corinthian church over ongoing sin. These show two very different ways love can operate—sometimes by protecting dignity, other times by bringing sin into the light. You’ll also learn a step-by-step discernment process that includes slowing down, praying, journaling, checking your heart posture, and preparing your words. Jill explains how to keep your response Spirit-led rather than reaction-driven, so you can walk in both truth and love. Free Resource: Download the Heart Scan Framework—a simple reference sheet outlining the four movements I use when coaching women through stuck or unclear moments. 👉 myhappyvault.com/heartscan If you want to take this work and apply it, visit myhappyvault.com. That’s where I share free resources and ways to stay connected. Discover ways to work with me at www.thehappiestlives.com or www.myhappyvault.com Questions? Email Jill directly at [email protected]

This is Part Two of the series Truth in Love: The Courage to Correct and Be Corrected. When you see something that feels wrong, do you speak up—or stay silent? In this episode, we ask: Who am I to say something? We’ll explore why correction matters, what it can look like in everyday life, and the real reasons we often hold back—fear of man, not wanting to seem judgmental, cultural individualism, misguided views of grace, and the discomfort of confrontation. With examples from marriage, friendship, parenting, and church leadership, plus a biblical story of loving correction, you’ll see why discernment—not constant confrontation—is key to keeping relationships real, rooted in truth, and grounded in love. Free Resource: Download the Heart Scan Framework—a simple reference sheet outlining the four movements I use when coaching women through stuck or unclear moments. 👉 myhappyvault.com/heartscan If you want to take this work and apply it, visit myhappyvault.com. That’s where I share free resources and ways to stay connected. Discover ways to work with me at www.thehappiestlives.com or www.myhappyvault.com Questions? Email Jill directly at [email protected]

We’re kicking off a new series called Truth in Love: The Courage to Correct and Be Corrected. In this episode, we take a fresh look at what correction really is—not punishment, but an invitation. Not shame, but love. You’ll learn how God uses correction to shape us, not reject us—and why we so often resist it. I’ll share a personal story about how one letter from my mom became a turning point in my spiritual walk, and we’ll explore why biblical correction is one of the most powerful tools for growth in our relationships and in our walk with God. Free Resource: Download the Heart Scan Framework—a simple reference sheet outlining the four movements I use when coaching women through stuck or unclear moments. 👉 myhappyvault.com/heartscan If you want to take this work and apply it, visit myhappyvault.com. That’s where I share free resources and ways to stay connected. Discover ways to work with me at www.thehappiestlives.com or www.myhappyvault.com Questions? Email Jill directly at [email protected]

If you’ve been feeling anxious, burnt out, emotionally flat, or just off—this episode is for you. In the final installment of our Hormones, Happiness & the Holy Spirit series, I’m joined by certified Christian health practitioner Cristal DuBois to explore the fascinating connection between your nervous system, adrenal health, and spiritual well-being. Cristal brings wisdom and compassion as she explains why so many women feel stuck in survival mode, even when they’re doing “all the right things.” We talk about polyvagal theory, the role of the vagus nerve, what adrenal fatigue really is, and why healing often starts with slowing down. You’ll also hear how simple spiritual rhythms like Sabbath, prayer, and worship aren’t just good for the soul—they’re powerful tools for nervous system regulation. If you’ve ever wondered why you can’t feel joy, connect deeply with God, or shake off the fog—this conversation will give you language, hope, and next steps. 💛 Learn more or work with Cristal at cristaldawnwellness.com And if you missed any episodes in this nine-part series, start back at Episode 114. We’ve covered nutrition, brain health, hormones, mental wellness, and how the Holy Spirit meets us in it all. Free Resource: Download the Heart Scan Framework—a simple reference sheet outlining the four movements I use when coaching women through stuck or unclear moments. 👉 myhappyvault.com/heartscan If you want to take this work and apply it, visit myhappyvault.com. That’s where I share free resources and ways to stay connected. Discover ways to work with me at www.thehappiestlives.com or www.myhappyvault.com Questions? Email Jill directly at [email protected]