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This episode is a little more vulnerable than usual, but so many of us are impacted by our mental health. So this week I’m sharing how kink is helping me stay grounded when I'm feeling overwhelmed. I talk about what it’s like when your mind starts spiralling, and how sensation, containment, and surrender can sometimes do what other tools can’t. Gentle reminder: we do touch on mental health, so take care of yourself while listening.  Sponsor Message This episode is sponsored by Nothosaur, makers of stunning, body-safe fantasy toys designed to help you reconnect with your body and your pleasure. Self-pleasure can be a powerful form of self-care, especially when life feels overwhelming — and Nothosaur’s beautifully crafted, customisable toys are made exactly for that kind of intentional, embodied experience. If you’re curious, head to nothosaur.com to explore their range.  Thanks to Nothosaur for supporting the show and helping keep these conversations alive. xx Harley 🐰 Follow me: Fetlife Instagram Visit my website harleyrabbit.com

In this episode, I’m joined by El from Collared Foxy for a deep dive into the world of sensation play. We talk through wax play and impact play in a way that’s practical, creative, and genuinely accessible — whether you’re already experimenting or just starting to get curious. El brings such a rare mix of lived experience, craftsmanship, and clear language to this conversation, and honestly, I could have talked to her for hours. We explore why sensation play is so much more than just pain, how different sensations land in the body, and how to intentionally build a scene from start to finish. El walks us through everything from choosing candles and impact toys, to setting the mood, pacing a scene, and closing it safely and beautifully. If you’ve ever wanted to expand what’s possible with sensation play — or understand why it can feel so powerful — this episode is packed with ideas you can actually use. Mentined in this episode: The Professional (Game Maker Series) by Kresley Cole  The Brie Collection by Red Phoenix Pain Play for Everyone by Luna Carruthers  Claws and Clamps - Australian Kink Markers  Find Collared Foxy  Website: collaredfoxy.com.au Etsy: CollaredFoxy Message from our Sponsor This episode is sponsored by Nothosaur. If you’re into wax play, you might also be into beautiful colours — and Nothosaur lets you fully customise the look of their toys, from solid colours to fades and marble effects. You can choose the size, firmness, and colours that feel right for you. Head to nothosaur.com to explore the options, and check out their colour gallery for inspiration. Huge thanks to Nothosaur for supporting the show and helping make these conversations possible. xx Harley 🐰 Follow me: Fetlife Instagram Visit my website harleyrabbit.com

I’ve always proudly held the value that there is no shame in being a sexual being. I’ve lived that belief — posting spicy photos on FetLife, and speaking openly about kink without apology. But recently, after spending more time on social media, and having to censor myself, I've noticed that certainty start to wobble.  This episode is a reflection on what happens when the pressure creeps in. When social censorship starts shaping how you see yourself, not just what you post.  Mentioned in this episode: Fetlife writing:  "Why I still Share Naked Photos on Fetlife (And Why It's Not Unprofessional)" This episode is sponsored by Nothosaur. Nothosaur creates beautifully crafted fantasy toys designed with intention, customisation, and inclusivity in mind — including their packers, thoughtfully made for trans, non-binary, and gender-exploring folks, or anyone wanting to play with gender expression. Their designs are inspired by werewolf mythology, symbolising strength, transformation, and connection to your primal nature — which honestly feels very on brand for this podcast. You can explore their full range at nothosaur.com. xx Harley 🐰 Follow me: Fetlife Instagram Visit my website harleyrabbit.com

For a long time, I thought kink was all about big, flashy peak experiences — elaborate scenes, intense role play, and wild adventures that take a lot of time and energy. And while those moments can be amazing, most of us don’t live our lives there. In this episode, I talk about what kink looks like when life is real. Busy weeks, tired nights, limited capacity. I explore how focusing only on big scenes can leave you feeling like you’re not doing enough, and how comparison can quietly drain the joy out of your kink life. I share how I’ve started redefining my own kink practice, shifting toward something more sustainable and supportive. We look at how small, simple forms of play can still meet your core desires, and why everyday kink absolutely counts. Because kink isn’t just for people with endless time or energy. It’s for real people with real lives, who still deserve pleasure, play, and connection. This episode is sponsored by Nothosaur. Nothosaur are the creators of beautifully crafted fantasy toys designed to help you explore the wilder corners of your imagination without shame or judgement. Each toy comes with its own rich lore and story, making play feel creative, immersive, and intentional. You can explore their full range at nothosaur.com — and a huge thank you to Nothosaur for supporting the show and keeping these conversations going.  Visit nothosaur.com.  Check out the Kohana here.  xx Harley 🐰 Follow me: Fetlife Instagram Visit my website harleyrabbit.com

Merry Christmas, my lovelies, and welcome to my very first Christmas special! This episode is a little gift from me to you: a cosy, cheeky Christmas story with a very Harley Rabbit twist. I wrote it because I know the holidays can be magical… but they can also be overwhelming, lonely, or complicated. Especially for so many in this community who are queer, kinky, poly, or neurospicy. So think of this as your tiny refuge from the chaos. Something warm, playful, and just for you. Curl up, get comfy (no kids allowed!), imagine a crackling fire, and let Aunty Harley read you “A Very Adult Christmas.” 🔥 If you want more festive kink inspo… Check out Episode #106, where I share 12 different Christmas-themed kinky activities to spice up your holidays. From our sponsor:  This episode is proudly sponsored by Nothosaur, who make some of the most gorgeous fantasy toys on the planet — hand-sculpted, body-safe, customisable, and perfect if you’re planning to treat yourself to something very special this year. Whether you’re into dragons, beasts, tentacles, or something perfectly monstrous… they’ve got a creature ready to join you under the tree. Visit nothosaur.com.  xx Harley 🐰 Follow me: Fetlife Instagram Visit my website harleyrabbit.com

If you’ve ever wondered why so many smart, capable, high-performing women melt into a puddle the moment someone takes control… this episode is going to hit home. Today I’m joined by the incredible Julieta Chiara for a conversation that goes straight to the heart of why ambitious, high-functioning women crave the chance to finally let go. We unpack the deep psychological reasons so many of us who “run the show” in our everyday lives are drawn to dominance and submission. That moment where your brain finally switches off… the delicious relief of not making decisions… the thrill of being overpowered in a way that feels chosen, safe, and wildly sexy. Julieta and I talk about the internal battle between being competent, self-led adults and the part of us that fantasises about surrender. We explore psychological kink, degradation, rope, CNC, subspace — and how all of these can become powerful pathways into rest, intimacy, and embodiment for women who otherwise never stop thinking. If you’re a high-achieving woman who struggles to relax, who secretly wants someone to take the reins, or who feels confused about what “submission” really means… this episode will feel like someone finally translated your inner world into words. Mentioned in this episode: Empowered Submission Academy Nawa Foundations Nawa Flow Heart of Dominance (book) Existential Kink (book) From our sponsor:  This episode is proudly sponsored by Nothosaur, who make some of the most gorgeous fantasy toys on the planet — hand-sculpted, body-safe, customisable, and perfect if you’re planning to treat yourself to something very special this year. Whether you’re into dragons, beasts, tentacles, or something perfectly monstrous… they’ve got a creature ready to join you under the tree. Visit nothosaur.com.  xx Harley 🐰 Follow me: Fetlife Instagram Visit my website harleyrabbit.com

It’s officially December, which means two things: Christmas chaos is upon us, andI am absolutely going to find ways to make it kinky.In this week’s episode, I’m sharing 12 fun, creative, and very naughty ways to sprinkle a little extra spice into your holiday season. Some are playful, some are sensual, some are downright filthy — and most of them work just as well if you’re partnered or solo, and some even work for long-distance. I didn’t expect Christmas and kink to be such a perfect combination… but once you start thinking about it, they pair beautifully. Kink is playful, cosy, connective, and full of imagination — which is exactly what this time of year is supposed to be. Whether you try one or all twelve, these ideas are designed to bring some fun, play, and pleasure back into a season that can be… a lot. Even if you adore Christmas, it’s still busy, emotional, and chaotic — so think of this as your little permission slip to create a moment of joy for yourself. If you end up trying any of these (or inventing your own twist), please tell me! I love hearing what you get up to. Mentioned in this episode: Harley's tentacle toy review on Fetlife From our sponsor: This episode is proudly sponsored by Nothosaur, who make some of the most gorgeous fantasy toys on the planet — hand-sculpted, body-safe, customisable, and perfect if you’re planning to treat yourself to something very special this year. Whether you’re into dragons, beasts, tentacles, or something perfectly monstrous… they’ve got a creature ready to join you under the tree. Visit nothosaur.com.  xx Harley 🐰 Follow me: Fetlife Instagram Visit my website harleyrabbit.com

Hey friends, Harley here! This week we’re diving into one of the most misunderstood and surprisingly historic corners of fetish culture: tentacle erotica. From centuries-old Japanese artwork to modern fantasy toys, this genre has far more depth and erotic imagination than most people realise. In this episode, I explore: The surprising origins of tentacle erotica in Japanese shunga artHow censorship laws helped shape the genreWhy tentacle fantasies feel so erotic for so many peopleThe many forms of tentacle creatures — from ocean beings to aliens and plant tendrilsHow to explore this fantasy safely and shame-freeAnd my first impressions of Nothosaur’s Alla tentacle toyExplore fantasy toys at nothosaur.com. Mentioned in this episode: Article referencing the Dream of the Fishermans Wife by Hokusai - https://blog.alltheanime.com/hokusais-tentacles/Tencicle art by Kitao Shigemasa (1739-1820) https://www.bonhams.com/auction/21861/lot/256/kitao-shigemasa-1739-1820-circa-1782/‘Diver and Octopuses‘ Series ‘Picture Book: Lust of Many Women on One Thousand Nights (Ehon chiyo-dameshi)’, c.1786. https://shungagallery.com/katsukawa-shuncho-shunga-diver-octopuses/Urotsukidoji: Legend of the Overfiend (1989) film (heavy content warning) https://www.imdb.com/title/tt0108461/Harley's tentacle inspired audio fantasy "The Blue Flower" on FetlifeHarley's X-rated Fetlife review of Nothosaur's Alla XL xx Harley 🐰 Follow me: Fetlife Instagram Visit my website harleyrabbit.com

In this episode, I chat with Kingsley from Nothosaur, the fantasy toy company turning imagination into art. From dragons and wolves to tentacles and alien lovers, Nothosaur creates beautifully crafted silicone toys inspired by fantasy creatures — each with its own character, backstory, and personality. Kingsley shares how the brand started in a tiny Hong Kong studio and grew into a 50-person creative team known for their wild designs and inclusive values. We talk about how toys are designed, tested, and refined (yes — real testers around the world give feedback!), how Nothosaur balances creativity with comfort, and what it means to “make toys unique and make sex free.” Mentioned in this episode: Nothosaur.comNothosaur on X@nothosaurtoys on InstagramSponsor: This episode is proudly sponsored by Nothosaur — fantasy art you can feel. Each toy is body-safe silicone and fully customisable in colour, firmness, and size. Explore the collection at nothosaur.com and let your imagination run wild! xx Harley 🐰 Follow me: Fetlife Instagram Visit my website harleyrabbit.com

In this episode, I speak with Kazami Sensei, one of Japan’s most respected figures in shibari and the founder of Kazami-ryu. Over a career spanning more than thirty years, he has performed and taught extensively throughout Japan and internationally, with certified schools now operating in Australia, Canada, and Hong Kong. In our conversation, Kazami Sensei reflects on his early years of self-teaching, drawing inspiration from the late master Randa Mai, and how his own style gradually developed into what is now known as Kazami-ryu. He shares how shibari has evolved over the decades, what continues to drive his innovation, and the philosophy that keeps his practice alive after thousands of performances. We talked about: How he creates such emotionally alive performances without rehearsingWhat he’s really focused on while performing (it’s not just technique)The evolution of shibari across three decades — from VHS tapes to global schoolsThe story behind his signature L-locks and how Kazami-ryu developedWhy his ties are always changing and improvingHow riggers can bring out their model’s beauty through awareness and intentionAnd yes, the unforgettable story of the time a rope actually caught fire mid-performance 🔥Mentioned in this episode: Photos of his performance at the Cabaret can be found on instagram. Follow @evilgirls.hq, @miss_gen_does_rope or @das_puppy.  Follow: You can also follow Kazami Sensei @kazamiranki_shibari Learn more: If you’re interested in learning Kazami-ryu, visit kazami-ryu.com for links to schools across the world.  If you're based in Australia or New Zealand, you can study Kazami-ryu through Miss Gen. Visit evilgirlshq.com.au xx Harley 🐰 Follow me: Fetlife Instagram Visit my website harleyrabbit.com

Why does pain sometimes feel so damn good? And what actually makes a scene hot instead of just… well, hurt? In this episode, I’m diving deep into the delicious world of sadism and masochism — and the three ingredients that make it work: power, attention, and surrender. I just got back from Brisbane, where I got to do another rope scene with Deadmaxis (and yes, I asked him to show me a bit more of his mean side 😈). I also went to Miss Gen’s 10-year shibari anniversary cabaret, which was honestly breathtaking. Seeing those performances — including one by Kazami Ranki himself — gave me so much to think (and feel!) about when it comes to the psychology of pain and kink. In this episode, I share what I discovered about: Why power and vulnerability create such intense erotic charge.How attention — not just pain — is the secret sauce behind hot S&M.What surrender really feels like and what makes it possible.Why teasing, torment, and fear can actually feel incredible.If you’ve ever wondered how S&M can feel loving, connected, and insanely sexy all at once — this one’s for you. Mentioned in this Episode Deadmaxis - follow on Intragram @_deadmaxis xx Harley 🐰 Follow me: Fetlife Instagram Visit my website harleyrabbit.com

This week I’m joined once again by my partner, rigger, and Dom — Slade — as we unpack our recent experience completing Kazami-Ryu Level 1, a three-day Shibari intensive right here in Townsville. Together we share what it was really like to dive into formal rope training — the challenges, the breakthroughs, and the lessons learned from both sides of the rope. We explore: Slade's lessons in persistence as an aspiring rigger Harley's insights on how mindset can have a major effect on pain toleranceThe difference between playful rope and “lab-mode” learningHow rope journaling can be a creative way to integrate learningWhen to upgrade your ropeNavigating comparison and confidence in group learningThe importance of having fun and being a supportive partnerThis one feels like you’re sitting down with us for a casual chat about rope over a few drinks. Neither of us are experts — but sometimes that makes the experience even more relatable for those who are also new to this world. From bleeding fingers and proud time-trials to unexpected moments of calm and connection, this episode is both an inside look at structured rope education and a love letter to the art of learning together. Special thanks to Basanos and Angel for bringing their amazing skills and tuition to our little town! xx Harley 🐰 Follow me: Fetlife Instagram Visit my website harleyrabbit.com

We did it! Turns Out I’m Into It has officially hit 100 episodes.  This week isn’t just about celebrating the podcast milestone, it’s about celebrating you and everything you’ve achieved in your kinky journey so far. From building the courage to reach out to new partners, to finding your voice around desires and boundaries, to embracing your kinks without shame—these are massive wins, and today we’re raising a glass (or a cup of tea, in my case) to every step you’ve taken. In this episode, I share: Highlights and behind-the-scenes moments from 100 episode.The hardest episode I ever recorded (and why it mattered so much)The most popular episodes to date—including the one about blowjobs that has now had 4,000+ plays 😉My reflections on how the show has grown, how I’ve grown, and where we’re heading nextAnd of course, I’ll invite you to take a moment to celebrate yourself—whether that means a fancy coffee, a cheeky night out, or yes, maybe even some dirty fun! Thank you for being here, for listening, and for being part of this community. Here’s to the next 100! Mentioned in this epsiode: #32: Extreme Scenes - Understanding Abduction Play with Cruciator #49: How to Give INSANE Blowjobs - Even if you Can't D********t #54: I Had a Bad Experience - This is What Happened #67: My Schoolgirl Fantasy - Exploring Middlespace #80  Rope Mastery & Mind Games: A Shibari Masterclass - with Miss Gen #87: The Love Language of Rope - with Deadmaxis and Aura Grey #93: Harley Gets Schooled in Dirty Talk - A Masterclass with Sam Charles xx Harley 🐰 Follow me: Fetlife Instagram Visit my website harleyrabbit.com

When most people hear roleplay, they instantly cringe. They think of awkward classroom exercises, bad accents, or being forced to improvise lines in front of other people. No wonder it feels intimidating in the bedroom! But roleplay doesn’t have to be awkward or over the top. In this episode, I share how to make roleplay simple, sexy, and fun—without needing costumes, scripts, or a Broadway-level performance. I’ll walk you through: Why roleplay isn’t about “faking it”—it’s about giving your hidden selves permission to take the leadEasy components (like collars, boots, glasses, or positions) that can spark whole fantasiesHow to use mini-scenes (short, playful roleplays that last just a few minutes) to take the pressure offWhy solo roleplay can be an amazing way to explore on your own, no judgment requiredBy the end of this episode, you’ll have plenty of ideas to bring a little fantasy into your sex life in ways that feel authentic and playful—without all the cringe. Prompts to Explore How do you feel about roleplay right now—excited, nervous, silly, curious?What hidden selves could you lean into?What’s one simple component (a prop, a position, or a mood shift) that you’d like to try?Can you imagine a short mini-scene, either with a partner or solo, that feels fun or intriguing?If you enjoy the episode, a 5-star rating really helps more people discover the show. And if you’d like to see a more personal side of me, DM me (@harley_rabbit) the word “playful” on Instagram and I’ll add you to my Close Friends group. Further Listening: #28: Sleep Play - The Gateway Kink to CNC?  #90: Behind the Mask - A Deep Dive into Pony Play with Rapidash  xx Harley 🐰 Follow me: Fetlife Instagram Visit my website harleyrabbit.com

In last week’s episode, I talked about the “kink police” — the people who project their authority onto others and try to dictate how kink “should” be done. This week, I want to explore a different kind of projection: when people put their fears onto your choices. Agency in kink is usually talked about in terms of safety — boundaries, consent, protecting ourselves. And that’s vital. But agency is more than just the right to say no. It’s also the right to say yes to risks that matter to you. Here’s what I cover in this episode: Why agency isn’t just about safety, but also about the right to risk.How society celebrates risk in sports and travel, but shames it in sex.My personal story of doing a rope-in-water scene despite warnings.What I learned from Cruciator about scenes without safe words.Why safe words are tools, not substitutes for attunement and connection.I’d love for you to reflect: What does agency mean to you? Where’s your line between whats ok and not ok in kink? And do you think we sometimes rely too much on safe words? 🔗 Don’t forget to take part in my listener survey (link in the show notes). Your feedback helps me keep shaping this podcast for your journey. Further Listening #94: Seduced by Fear: Cruciator on the Dark Side of Desire#91: The Single Most Important Skill in Kink (episode about attunement)#33: Tied up in a Pool - Not What I Expected!#32: Extreme Scenes - Understanding Abduction Play with Cruciatorxx Harley 🐰 Follow me: Fetlife Instagram Visit my website harleyrabbit.com