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Men are often taught that being good in bed means being ready for sex, knowing how to perform, and making sure their partner is satisfied. But how often are men actually encouraged to think about what they want?  In this episode, I’m exploring the different flavours of male desire, why your pleasure matters too, and how knowing what genuinely turns you on can help you get out of your head and have more immersive, authentic sex. I’m also introducing a different way to think about your desires: as your sexual specialisations. From Daddy energy and sadism to praise, surrender, naughtiness and primal play, the things that naturally light you up can tell you a lot about what you uniquely bring to sex and kink.  And if you’re not sure what your F**k Yeses are yet, I’ll show you where to start. Grab my Find Your F*ck Yes mini training for just $27. 🔥 xx Harley 🐰 Follow me: FetlifeInstagramVisit my website harleyrabbit.com

I’m back! After a couple of months away from the podcast, I’m finally behind the mic again. In this episode, I’m sharing where I’ve been, what I’ve been working on, and the story of why, even when I was dating a hot, well-hung doctor, I almost gave up on sex entirely... We talk about why “doing sex right” doesn’t necessarily mean you’re having sex that actually works for you, the shame I used to carry around my fantasies, and the moments that helped me finally understand what made my whole body go: F**k yes. THIS. And if this episode has you wondering, Okay, but what actually is my F**k Yes?, I’ve just released a new 90-minute training called Find Your F*ck Yes. It’s designed to help you get curious about what genuinely lights you up, understand the erotic experiences you’re craving, and start exploring them in simple, realistic ways. You can find Find Your F*ck Yes here for $27. xx Harley 🐰 Follow me: FetlifeInstagramVisit my website harleyrabbit.com

What’s the difference between degradation and humiliation? While these kinks often get grouped together, they actually tap into very different emotional experiences. In this episode, Harley Rabbit explores: the difference between degradation and humiliation playwhy these dynamics can feel so intensely erotichow old emotional experiences can sometimes shape our fantasieswhy consensual kink can feel healing, freeing, and empoweringHarley also shares personal experiences with degradation play, discusses humiliation kinks like sissification and exposure, and unpacks the psychology behind why taboo emotions can become such powerful turn-ons. If you’ve ever wondered why these dynamics feel so hot, or whether there’s something wrong with you for being into them, this episode is for you. Explore coaching with Harley: https://harleyrabbit.com/privatecoaching/  xx Harley 🐰 Follow me: FetlifeInstagramVisit my website harleyrabbit.com

Welcome friends! This one's for the sex nerds. 🤓 In this episode I'm nerding out on sexology and taking you behind the scenes on the Erototypes framework I've been developing. If you're curious about the thinking behind the system, what's changed, and why, you're going to enjoy this one.  Thanks to the incredible feedback from this community, version two is here, and it's so much better. I've added four brand new erototypes (hello Monkey, Horse, Octopus and Stag 👀), made some tweaks based on your suggestions, and built something new that I think you're going to love.  Download the free updated guide at harleyrabbit.com. And once you've picked your cards, head to harleyrabbit.com/my-erototypes to generate your shareable hand. 🃏 xx Harley 🐰 xx Harley 🐰 Follow me: FetlifeInstagramVisit my website harleyrabbit.com

This week I'm diving into the fascinating world of fetishes: what they are, how they differ from core desires, and why some very specific things can become incredibly erotic. I share a very personal (and very cosy) story about my partner Slade's pyjama fetish, explore the psychology behind how fetishes form during our formative years, and reflect on my own unexpected turn-ons — including steel, and possibly Formula One cars. Whether you've got a fetish you've never quite understood, or you're just kink-curious, this one's for you. Grab your comfiest PJs and tune in. 🐰 Don't forget to grab my free Erototypes guide here, or visit harleyrabbit.com — a new updated version is coming soon! xx Harley 🐰 Follow me: FetlifeInstagramVisit my website harleyrabbit.com

Kink has a bit of a PR problem. Most people assume it’s all pain, whips and chains… but that’s actually a tiny slice of what’s possible. In this episode, I’m breaking down the 4 core ways desire shows up: Primal, Nurture, Obedience and Shadow. These aren’t rigid roles to fit into, but different flavours of turn-on that can help you start to recognise what actually feels good for you. As you listen, notice what stands out. You might see yourself clearly in one, or realise you’re a mix of several. That’s the point. Desire isn’t one thing — and the more you understand your own, the more fun this whole world becomes. 👉 Download your free Guide to Erototypes 👉 Ready to go deeper? Try the Discover Your Erototypes workshop xx Harley 🐰 Follow me: FetlifeInstagramVisit my website harleyrabbit.com

Alright friends, it’s been a long time coming, but I’m finally ready to share something I’ve been quietly building behind the scenes. 🥁🥁🥁 In this episode, I’m introducing Erototypes — a playful way to understand your desires. Instead of trying to fit yourself into a kink role or be a “good” sub or dom, we’re turning that question on its head and looking at desire from the inside out — exploring how you actually want to feel, and the different flavours of turn-on that make up your unique eroticism. Because the truth is, most of us aren’t just one thing. Our desires are layered, complex, and often a little contradictory… and that’s exactly what makes them so interesting! If you’re curious to discover your own erototypes, you can download the free PDF guide or visit harleyrabbit.com and start meeting your own naughty little spirit animals. 🐰🐶🦁 xx Harley 🐰 Follow me: FetlifeInstagramVisit my website harleyrabbit.com

Kink can ask a lot from a relationship. When we’re exploring things that feel vulnerable, taboo, or a little scary, the sense of safety between partners becomes really important. In this episode, I’m talking about one of the foundations of strong kinky relationships: secure attachment — and why feeling emotionally secure makes it much easier to explore desire, power, and fantasy together. The surprising part is that security is rarely built through big gestures or complicated relationship rules. More often, it grows through the small rituals and routines we share every day — the little ways we show up for each other that quietly build trust over time. I share a few examples from my own relationship and invite you to notice the tiny moments that might already be strengthening yours. Mentioned in this Episode: Polysecure - by Jessica Fern xx Harley 🐰 Follow me: FetlifeInstagramVisit my website harleyrabbit.com

Claws are much more than a costume piece. They can completely change how your hands feel in play — and how you feel wearing them. In this episode, I’m joined by J from Claws & Clamps to talk about wearable claws for sensation play. We explore how they’re designed, the difference between sharp and scratchy (yes, that’s a real thing), how to choose the right material and fit, and how to actually use them well. We also dive into calibration, power shifts, primal energy, and why slowing down might be the sexiest move you can make. If you’re curious about trying claws yourself, you can check out J's work at clawsandclamps.com.au and use the code HARLEY for 10% off. Mentioned in this episode: Viroclean - hospital grade disinfectant Are Nylon Claws Safe? - article  Mindfulness Exercise  Book recommendation: Hitchhiker's Guide to the Galaxy by Douglas Adams Follow Claws & Clamps: Instagram @claws_and_clamps Fetlife Claws_and_Clamps Facebook ClawsAndClamps xx Harley 🐰 Follow me: FetlifeInstagramVisit my website harleyrabbit.com

Kink is supposed to be this underground, secret-club thing… Except it’s actually everywhere. In this episode, I’m diving into the surprisingly kinky places I’ve spotted power dynamics hiding in plain sight — from Phantom of the Opera to Beauty and the Beast, from Harley and Joker to Game of Thrones. Looking back, I can see how certain characters and storylines hooked me long before I had language for why. Turns out, maybe our “taboo” desires aren’t as rare as we think. Maybe they’ve been woven into our culture all along. Keep your eyes open. Once you see it, you can’t unsee it. Vote for Harley: It’s an honour to be shortlisted for Black Noise Magazine’s Kink Educator of the Year award. Huge thank you to Black Noise for supporting kink educators and helping our voices be heard. If you’d like to vote for me — or any of the other incredible nominees — click here. From our Sponsor: This episode of Turns Out I’m Into It is sponsored by Nothosaur, a fantasy toy brand bringing erotic imagination to life. If you’ve ever been turned on by mythical creatures, powerful beasts, or otherworldly encounters, Nothosaur creates beautifully handcrafted fantasy toys designed to match those desires. With a wide range of designs — and customisable options for size, firmness, and colour — you can create something as unique as your own imagination.  Visit nothosaur.com  xx Harley 🐰 Follow me: FetlifeInstagramVisit my website harleyrabbit.com

This episode is a little more vulnerable than usual, but so many of us are impacted by our mental health. So this week I’m sharing how kink is helping me stay grounded when I'm feeling overwhelmed. I talk about what it’s like when your mind starts spiralling, and how sensation, containment, and surrender can sometimes do what other tools can’t. Gentle reminder: we do touch on mental health, so take care of yourself while listening.  Sponsor Message This episode is sponsored by Nothosaur, makers of stunning, body-safe fantasy toys designed to help you reconnect with your body and your pleasure. Self-pleasure can be a powerful form of self-care, especially when life feels overwhelming — and Nothosaur’s beautifully crafted, customisable toys are made exactly for that kind of intentional, embodied experience. If you’re curious, head to nothosaur.com to explore their range.  Thanks to Nothosaur for supporting the show and helping keep these conversations alive. xx Harley 🐰 Follow me: FetlifeInstagramVisit my website harleyrabbit.com

In this episode, I’m joined by El from Collared Foxy for a deep dive into the world of sensation play. We talk through wax play and impact play in a way that’s practical, creative, and genuinely accessible — whether you’re already experimenting or just starting to get curious. El brings such a rare mix of lived experience, craftsmanship, and clear language to this conversation, and honestly, I could have talked to her for hours. We explore why sensation play is so much more than just pain, how different sensations land in the body, and how to intentionally build a scene from start to finish. El walks us through everything from choosing candles and impact toys, to setting the mood, pacing a scene, and closing it safely and beautifully. If you’ve ever wanted to expand what’s possible with sensation play — or understand why it can feel so powerful — this episode is packed with ideas you can actually use. Mentined in this episode: The Professional (Game Maker Series) by Kresley Cole  The Brie Collection by Red Phoenix Pain Play for Everyone by Luna Carruthers  Claws and Clamps - Australian Kink Markers  Find Collared Foxy  Website: collaredfoxy.com.au Etsy: CollaredFoxy Message from our Sponsor This episode is sponsored by Nothosaur. If you’re into wax play, you might also be into beautiful colours — and Nothosaur lets you fully customise the look of their toys, from solid colours to fades and marble effects. You can choose the size, firmness, and colours that feel right for you. Head to nothosaur.com to explore the options, and check out their colour gallery for inspiration. Huge thanks to Nothosaur for supporting the show and helping make these conversations possible. xx Harley 🐰 Follow me: FetlifeInstagramVisit my website harleyrabbit.com

I’ve always proudly held the value that there is no shame in being a sexual being. I’ve lived that belief — posting spicy photos on FetLife, and speaking openly about kink without apology. But recently, after spending more time on social media, and having to censor myself, I've noticed that certainty start to wobble.  This episode is a reflection on what happens when the pressure creeps in. When social censorship starts shaping how you see yourself, not just what you post.  Mentioned in this episode: Fetlife writing:  "Why I still Share Naked Photos on Fetlife (And Why It's Not Unprofessional)" This episode is sponsored by Nothosaur. Nothosaur creates beautifully crafted fantasy toys designed with intention, customisation, and inclusivity in mind — including their packers, thoughtfully made for trans, non-binary, and gender-exploring folks, or anyone wanting to play with gender expression. Their designs are inspired by werewolf mythology, symbolising strength, transformation, and connection to your primal nature — which honestly feels very on brand for this podcast. You can explore their full range at nothosaur.com. xx Harley 🐰 Follow me: FetlifeInstagramVisit my website harleyrabbit.com

For a long time, I thought kink was all about big, flashy peak experiences — elaborate scenes, intense role play, and wild adventures that take a lot of time and energy. And while those moments can be amazing, most of us don’t live our lives there. In this episode, I talk about what kink looks like when life is real. Busy weeks, tired nights, limited capacity. I explore how focusing only on big scenes can leave you feeling like you’re not doing enough, and how comparison can quietly drain the joy out of your kink life. I share how I’ve started redefining my own kink practice, shifting toward something more sustainable and supportive. We look at how small, simple forms of play can still meet your core desires, and why everyday kink absolutely counts. Because kink isn’t just for people with endless time or energy. It’s for real people with real lives, who still deserve pleasure, play, and connection. This episode is sponsored by Nothosaur. Nothosaur are the creators of beautifully crafted fantasy toys designed to help you explore the wilder corners of your imagination without shame or judgement. Each toy comes with its own rich lore and story, making play feel creative, immersive, and intentional. You can explore their full range at nothosaur.com — and a huge thank you to Nothosaur for supporting the show and keeping these conversations going.  Visit nothosaur.com.  Check out the Kohana here.  xx Harley 🐰 Follow me: FetlifeInstagramVisit my website harleyrabbit.com

Merry Christmas, my lovelies, and welcome to my very first Christmas special! This episode is a little gift from me to you: a cosy, cheeky Christmas story with a very Harley Rabbit twist. I wrote it because I know the holidays can be magical… but they can also be overwhelming, lonely, or complicated. Especially for so many in this community who are queer, kinky, poly, or neurospicy. So think of this as your tiny refuge from the chaos. Something warm, playful, and just for you. Curl up, get comfy (no kids allowed!), imagine a crackling fire, and let Aunty Harley read you “A Very Adult Christmas.” 🔥 If you want more festive kink inspo… Check out Episode #106, where I share 12 different Christmas-themed kinky activities to spice up your holidays. From our sponsor:  This episode is proudly sponsored by Nothosaur, who make some of the most gorgeous fantasy toys on the planet — hand-sculpted, body-safe, customisable, and perfect if you’re planning to treat yourself to something very special this year. Whether you’re into dragons, beasts, tentacles, or something perfectly monstrous… they’ve got a creature ready to join you under the tree. Visit nothosaur.com.  xx Harley 🐰 Follow me: FetlifeInstagramVisit my website harleyrabbit.com