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Click on Fan Mail link and give me feedback. Thanks Letting Go Without Losing Love: Communication, Boundaries, and Adult Children James Moffitt talks with Rebecca Mullen, a relationship coach, writer, and author of Six Steps to Better Marriage Communication, about how parents can stay close to adult children without slipping into control, guilt, or mixed signals. The conversation centers on healthier communication, especially how to respect grown children as independent adults while still keeping the relationship warm and connected.Rebecca shares practical ways to navigate family dynamics, apologize well, and use praise, agency, and boundaries to build trust instead of conflict. Key topics Rebecca Mullen introduces her work as a relationship coach, podcaster, and author focused on clear communication in families and marriageThe discussion frames adult parenting as a shift from control to mentorship, support, and respect for a grown child’s agencyRebecca explains how family intimacy is built through both repeated routines and exceptional shared experiences like vacations and camping tripsA camping-trip story shows how mixed signals can create conflict when a parent says they want less responsibility but still wants controlThe episode explores how naming grief can help parents understand why letting go feels painful and why they may send inconsistent messagesRebecca describes how praise changes family dynamics by highlighting what is working instead of focusing on what is wrongThe hosts discuss how children learn relationship patterns by watching how parents handle conflict, apology, and appreciationRebecca lays out a four-step apology process that rebuilds trust by saying sorry, naming the behavior, naming the other person’s feelings, and stating a plan to do betterThe conversation distinguishes clean asks from attacks and explains why giving the other person agency increases intimacyBoundaries are defined as what you will and will not tolerate, not as a way to control another person’s behaviorTimestamps 00:00 - Opening and introduction to the episode’s focus on adult children and communication  01:52 - Rebecca shares her background as a coach, author, and podcast host  03:21 - Rebecca’s family story, marriage, medical school years, and long-term resilience  06:49 - Why vacations and shared experiences help create family intimacy  09:37 - Respecting adult children as separate people with their own lives  13:15 - Camping trip story: mixed signals and a parent’s struggle with letting go  15:21 - Naming grief and understanding the emotional side of changing family roles  17:56 - The hidden labor problem in marriage and what gets overlooked  24:48 - Assuming positive intent instead of defaulting to blame  26:30 - Why praise works better than nagging or criticism  30:21 - Why children need a safe place to make mistakes and repair them  31:20 - The four-step apology that rebuilds trust  36:39 - Common communication blunders and why boundaries need clear requests first  39:17 - The clean ask formula: overcome fear, get clear, ask cleanly  42:33 - Why agency matters and how vulnerability strengthens connection  43:57 - What boundaries really are, and why they are not punishments  48:56 - Using affirmation to support boundaries without damaging intimacy  51:31 - Rebecca’s closing encouragement and resources for listeners Notable quotes “We all want to feel seen.”“An attack is not a clean ask.”“Agency in a relationship is the thing we're most scared to give away, but it is the thing that most fully cultivates intimacy.”Action items Ask yourself what you are really afraid of before reacting to your adult childReplace mixed signals with a clear, clean requestUse praise intentionally and look for what is going wellApologize with specificity, not vaguenessDefine boundaries as your own limitsRichard Jones. I am an RN with over 34 years of Nursing Experience, much of that experience working with young adults in the corrections system.  Parenting Adult Children Call To Action  Support the show Social Media Links  https://www.youtube.com/@abcparentingadultchildren https://www.instagram.com/parentingadultchildren125/  https://www.tiktok.com/@chiefpropellerhead ABC's of Parenting Adult Children Facebook Page https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=61581576308055  r/parentingadultchildren Feel free to subscribe to these channels and share the links with your social media portals.

Click on Fan Mail link and give me feedback. Thanks Healing, Boundaries, and Grace in Parenting Adult Children In this episode of ABCs of Parenting Adult Children, host James Moffitt speaks with Dr. Beth Long, a licensed professional counselor, board certified behavior analyst, and therapist who works with children, families, and parents navigating adult children. They discuss how childhood patterns show up in parenting, how to recognize triggers, and how grace and emotional regulation can reshape strained relationships.We discuss why parenting adult children exposes fear, shame, and approval-seeking, how boundaries differ from control, and what repair looks like when trust has been damaged. Dr. Beth Long also shares personal stories from her own family, including her son on the autism spectrum, her daughter’s wedding invitations, and the challenges of letting go while staying connected. Key topics Dr. Beth Long introduces her background in counseling psychology, her work with children and families, and her experience parenting two adult children.SheRichard Jones. I am an RN with over 34 years of Nursing Experience, much of that experience working with young adults in the corrections system.  Parenting Adult Children Call To Action  Support the show Social Media Links  https://www.youtube.com/@abcparentingadultchildren https://www.instagram.com/parentingadultchildren125/  https://www.tiktok.com/@chiefpropellerhead ABC's of Parenting Adult Children Facebook Page https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=61581576308055  r/parentingadultchildren Feel free to subscribe to these channels and share the links with your social media portals.

Click on Fan Mail link and give me feedback. Thanks The Father, the Son, and the Aha Moment with Steve Barton This episode focuses on the shift from parenting children to relating with adult children as equals, with Steve Barton sharing hard-won lessons from his own family and coaching work. James Moffitt and Steve discuss communication, boundaries, and how to stay connected without overstepping.Steve Barton, owner of Steve Barton Coaching and co-author of The Father, the Son, and the Aha Moment with his son Spencer, explains how the book grew out of real conversations about politics, growth, and accountability. The conversation centers on practical ways parents can support adult children while respecting their independence. Key topics In this episode: Steve Barton introduces his background as a coach in Portland, Maine, and frames parenting as a leadership relationship.Steve shares that the book began after repeated political debates with his son Spencer, which led him to ask, “What are you doing about it then?”He explains that the writing process revealed how similar he and Spencer are, especially around ADHD, procrastination, and direct communication.James and Steve discuss the common mistake parents make of treating adult children like children instead of respecting their adulthood.Steve says the best approach is to ask adult children whether they want advice or simply a listening ear.He describes the difference between a mentor and a helicopter parent, emphasizing that unsolicited advice often creates distance.Steve reflects on a major life change after 19 years of marriage, saying it forced him into a more hands-on, weekly shared parenting arrangement with Spencer.He outlines what healthy parent-adult child relationships look like to him: mutual respect and clear boundaries.Steve explains the “everyone is 10” idea from the book, meaning everyone is doing the best they can with the awareness they have.He connects the book’s message to self-awareness, emotional regulation, and moving from grievance and comparison toward authentic selfhood.Timestamps 00:00 - Welcome to the podcast and topic overview  00:49 - Steve Barton introduces his coaching background  01:18 - How a political disagreement with his son inspired the book  03:32 - What writing together revealed about father and son  05:17 - The biggest communication mistake parents make with adult children  06:50 - Mentors versus helicopter parents  07:49 - The origin of the book’s “aha moment”  10:39 - How a major family change altered Steve’s parenting perspective  12:30 - Supporting adult children who feel distant  13:20 - Respect, boundaries, and what healthy connection looks like  14:36 - The message behind the book and the “everyone is 10” framework  16:26 - Steve’s short pitch for his coaching and the book  18:32 - How to get the book and connect with Steve  19:08 - Closing thoughts and listener send-off Key frameworks Everyone is 10 - everyone is doing the best they can with the awareness they haveAsk before advising - listen first, then offer guidance only if requestedHealthy boundaries - love can include yes, no, stay, and go depending on the situationParenting Adult Children Call To Action  Support the show Social Media Links  https://www.youtube.com/@abcparentingadultchildren https://www.instagram.com/parentingadultchildren125/  https://www.tiktok.com/@chiefpropellerhead ABC's of Parenting Adult Children Facebook Page https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=61581576308055  r/parentingadultchildren Feel free to subscribe to these channels and share the links with your social media portals.

Click on Fan Mail link and give me feedback. Thanks Healing the Past, Parenting with Grace This conversation follows host James Moffitt and Dr. Carla Kataria as they explore how childhood experiences shape our emotional patterns, parenting style, and the way we support young adults. The episode focuses on healing, emotional regulation, autonomy, and the grace parents need as their children move into adulthood.In this episode:   Dr. Carla Kataria introduces her work as an elite mindset coach, helping kids, teens, and families build mental performance, emotional regulation, and stronger relationships.  She shares that her biggest childhood challenge was not a lack of love, but not knowing how to handle big emotions, which showed up later in adulthood through anxiety and overwhelm.  James reflects on his own childhood and how becoming a parent made him determined to do better than what he experienced growing up.  The discussion highlights how some parents overcompensate by giving too much or preventing failure because they want to correct what they lacked.  Dr. Kataria talks about healing through personal development, somatic tools, coaching strategies, and a deeper faith journey that brought her peace.  They discuss the shift parents must make as children become young adults, moving from direct control into a mentoring and support role.  Dr. Kataria emphasizes that autonomy builds confidence, and young adults need room to make choices, mistakes, and sometimes different life decisions than their parents expected.  The conversation distinguishes between healthy independence and choices that are out of alignment, such as unhealthy relationships, chronic conflict, or careers pursued for the wrong reasons.  James and Dr. Kataria revisit the importance of letting children catch their own vision rather than forcing a parent’s dream onto them.  Dr. Kataria closes with three pillars for parents: regulate yourself first, see your child through the lens of who they can become, and allow ownership so confidence can grow.  Timestamps 00:00 - Intro: how childhood shapes the way we parent and support adult children  01:28 - Dr. Carla Kataria introduces herself and her work with families  03:21 - Emotional regulation as a childhood wound that carried into adulthood  05:13 - Seeing parenting patterns more clearly as an adult and educator  07:04 - Overcompensating for a difficult childhood by giving too much  08:20 - Finding peace through personal development, faith, and inner healing  09:50 - What it means to let go as children become adults  11:24 - Dr. Kataria describes the strengths and gaps in her own childhood  13:14 - The specific qualities she appreciated most in her mother  14:46 - How parents can respond when adult children make choices they do not agree with  17:49 - Defining unhealthy decisions as choices out of alignment with the true self  19:16 - Unrealistic parent expectations and the pressure to follow a parent’s career path  20:24 - How to tell the difference between giving up and making an authentic change  22:20 - Preparing emotionally for the transition from parent-child to mentor-support role  24:32 - Reparenting later in life and making small shifts that matter  28:20 - A personal story about a teen choosing a bold hairstyle and staying calm  30:20 - Apologizing later in life and realizing some guilt weighs more on us than others  31:43 - Dr. Kataria explains her House of Rise framework  35:20 - A story about a young man who left medical school, then returned by choice  37:44 - Why young adults need to catch their own vision  39:04 - A college student shifts direction after reflection and support  40:49 - Three takeaways for parents of adult children  43:55 - How to get in touch with Dr. Kataria and where to find her work  44:45 - Closing reflection on healing, grace, and breaking generational patterns Key Frameworks House of Rise - Dr. Kataria’s framework built around resilience, identity, self-confidence, and emotional intelligence.Two millimeter shifts - Small, repeated changes in how parents respond can create long-term transformation.Identity before behavior - Seeing a child through the lens of who they are becoming, not just what they are doing now.Ownership builds confidence - Autonomy helps young adults develop trust in themselves through real responsibility.Notable Quotes Copy “The biggest thing that has made a shift for me through all of that is also my actual journey with my faith.” Copy “The key is really having values and standards as a family.” Copy “Ownership really builds that confidence.” Action Items Regulate yourself before difficult conversations with your adult child.Move from micromanaging to mentoring.Ask whether a decision is truly unhealthy or simply not the path you would have chosen.Let your child own age-appropriate mistakes so confidence can grow.Make small shifts in how you respond instead of trying to overhaul everything at once.Richard Jones. I am an RN with over 34 years of Nursing Experience, much of that experience working with young adults in the corrections system.  Parenting Adult Children Call To Action  Support the show Social Media Links  https://www.youtube.com/@abcparentingadultchildren https://www.instagram.com/parentingadultchildren125/  https://www.tiktok.com/@chiefpropellerhead ABC's of Parenting Adult Children Facebook Page https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=61581576308055  r/parentingadultchildren Feel free to subscribe to these channels and share the links with your social media portals.

Click on Fan Mail link and give me feedback. Thanks Parenting advice to help you stop feeling guilty. Learn how to be kinder to yourself while navigating the challenges of raising kids. Being a parent is undeniably difficult, and it is common to worry about making mistakes with your children. This video offers perspective on the pressure many parents place on themselves, providing a reminder that learning as you go is a natural part of the journey. If you often feel guilty about your parenting style, this discussion is designed to help you release that weight. We explore the importance of self-compassion when raising children and why you do not need to be perfect to be a great parent. By acknowledging that you are doing your best, you can create a healthier environment for your family. This guidance focuses on practical ways to manage parenting stress and maintain your confidence, even when things feel overwhelming. Subscribe for weekly parenting advice breakdowns, and share in the comments: what is one way you practice self-care during a busy week? Richard Jones. I am an RN with over 34 years of Nursing Experience, much of that experience working with young adults in the corrections system.  Parenting Adult Children Call To Action  Support the show Social Media Links  https://www.youtube.com/@abcparentingadultchildren https://www.instagram.com/parentingadultchildren125/  https://www.tiktok.com/@chiefpropellerhead ABC's of Parenting Adult Children Facebook Page https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=61581576308055  r/parentingadultchildren Feel free to subscribe to these channels and share the links with your social media portals.

Click on Fan Mail link and give me feedback. Thanks Parenting Adult Children, Unconditional Love, and Supporting LGBTQ Families This episode brings together James Moffitt and Ron Platt of the National Association for Single and Divorced Families to talk about parenting adult children, family boundaries, and how support systems can change lives. Ron also shares the story behind NASDF and its divorce support insurance product, plus how fostering and adoption reshaped his understanding of unconditional love.We discuss practical parenting challenges, the emotional realities of adult children making their own choices, and why love still has to include boundaries, accountability, and apology. The conversation also touches on LGBTQ acceptance, foster care, family court reform, and the role of community in helping children and parents navigate hard transitions. Key topics James introduces Ron Platt, co-founder of the National Association for Single and Divorced Families, and Ron explains that NASDF serves people who are divorcing, divorced, or in single-family households.Ron shares the origin of the organization and the Support Insured product, which is designed to cover child support and alimony for up to a year if the payer dies, becomes disabled, is involuntarily unemployed, or has to declare business bankruptcy.Ron tells the long backstory of how the idea came from a conversation with his father decades earlier, how investors initially passed, and how he eventually funded the launch through a mortgage and credit card debt.The conversation shifts to the challenges of launching a niche product with no direct competition and the need to educate both the family law community and the public.Ron explains his current push to build a credit card product specifically for legal fees, mediation, and court costs for people with limited credit and limited access to cash during divorce.James opens up about his own divorce, visitation struggles, and the impact of family conflict on parenting and access to his son.Ron shares the story of adopting his son, Michael, from foster care, including the realities of a child coming from abuse, instability, and the foster system with belongings in a plastic bag.Ron describes setting boundaries with his foster son, including school expectations, work, drugs, and a major moment when he threw him out for breaking house rules, then welcomed him back after a painful but necessary lesson.The discussion turns to LGBTQ identity, acceptance, religion, and family responses, including James discussing his son Jeremy and Ron sharing his own coming out story and his grandmother’s response.Ron and James talk about the difference between loving a child and agreeing with every choice they make, and why parents still need to show up for adult children even when they don’t understand them.The episode closes with Ron reflecting on a key lesson from therapy: apologizing to children when parents get it wrong, and why that kind of honesty builds respect.Timestamps (00:00) Welcome to the show and introduction of guest Ron Platt  (00:28) What NASDF is and who it serves  (00:56) Support Insured and how divorce support coverage works  (01:13) James shares his own divorce and visitation experience  (03:17) How Ron came from insurance product development into this mission  (04:37) Why the market ignored the need for divorce support insurance  (05:50) Mortgaging the house to launch the business  (06:47) The first underwriter says yes to Support Insured  (07:17) Why a brand-new category has to be built from scratch  (08:16) The original idea began 30 years earlier  (09:12) The Miami real estate story and the $5 million funding pitch  (10:36) A new credit card idea for legal fees, mediation, and court costs  (12:31) Ron’s toxic relationship and why fostering became personal  (13:24) Seeing the foster system through a child’s history binder  (15:20) Meeting Michael and giving him stability for the first time  (16:41) The hard history behind his foster placement  (17:09) Why Ron refused to let the child keep breaking the rules  (20:32) The arrest that became a turning point in their relationship  (22:01) James reflects on support for LGBTQ children and family acceptance  (23:17) James shares his son Jeremy’s coming out and their strained relationship  (29:11) James recounts Jeremy’s final illness and his death  (31:20) Ron shares coming out to his grandmother and her response  (32:45) Ron explains how his family and in-laws evolved over time  (34:08) Why adults need to stop expecting children to fit a box  (37:26) Helping LGBTQ youth find a safe, normal support network  (39:32) James reflects on the stigma around being gay across generations  (42:27) A church conversation about gay relationships and acceptance  (44:26) Ron describes joining a more accepting Jewish community  (46:21) Why discomfort keeps people from growing  (47:13) Parenting does not stop when a child becomes an adult  (49:30) Why parents should not enable adult children  (51:31) Money lessons, budgeting, and the reality of financial independence  (53:38) A cautionary car purchase and letting adults learn the hard way  (54:44) Maintaining influence without control in adult children’s lives  (56:17) James on accepting self-expression in teenagers  (58:13) Why brain development matters when judging teen behavior  (59:29) James reflects on his own strict upbringing  (61:14) Why parents’ expectations can clash with who children actually are  (64:25) Ron shares how his husband left policing and became a fashion designer  (67:12) Another family story about a son thriving in the arts  (68:48) A major parenting lesson from adopting Michael  (70:05) Why parents should apologize when they get it wrong  (71:55) Closing thoughts and ways to contact NASDF Notable quotes Copy “You don't ever stop being a parent.” Copy “The good news is I have no competition. The bad news is I have no competition.” Copy “Your kids will have a great deal more respect for you when they realize that you're not perfect.” Action items If you are navigating divorce, single parenting, or family court challenges, explore NASDF’s support and educational offerings.If you work in credit, lending, or legal finance, Ron is actively looking for partners to help build a card for legal fees, mediation, and court costs.Parents of adult children should focus on boundaries, not control, and be willing to apologize when needed.Families supporting LGBTQ children should prioritize safety, belonging, and consistency over rigid expectations.Richard Jones. I am an RN with over 34 years of Nursing Experience, much of that experience working with young adults in the corrections system.  Parenting Adult Children Call To Action  Support the show Social Media Links  https://www.youtube.com/@abcparentingadultchildren https://www.instagram.com/parentingadultchildren125/  https://www.tiktok.com/@chiefpropellerhead ABC's of Parenting Adult Children Facebook Page https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=61581576308055  r/parentingadultchildren Feel free to subscribe to these channels and share the links with your social media portals.

Click on Fan Mail link and give me feedback. Thanks  In this episode, Jody Hill, mom of four, speaker, and best-selling author of The Parent's Secret Superpower: Raising Confident and Capable Kids, shares one of her Superpower Strategies from the POWer Parent Method, the framework at the heart of her course, that helps parents raise confident, capable kids. Drawing on her own experience, Jody walks through how she's lived out this strategy with her own kids, past and present, and shows you how you can start doing the same in your own home. Enjoy the episode as you pick up new ways to help raise confident, capable kids of your own. Learn more about Jody's course, The Confident Kid Audio Course: Unlocking Your Parenting Superpower, here:  Jodi Hill Course offering Parenting Adult Children Call To Action  Support the show Social Media Links  https://www.youtube.com/@abcparentingadultchildren https://www.instagram.com/parentingadultchildren125/  https://www.tiktok.com/@chiefpropellerhead ABC's of Parenting Adult Children Facebook Page https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=61581576308055  r/parentingadultchildren Feel free to subscribe to these channels and share the links with your social media portals.

Click on Fan Mail link and give me feedback. Thanks Parenting Adult Children with Grace, Humility, and Connection Pastor and author Scott LaPierre joins James Moffitt to talk about the shift parents must make when their children become adults. The conversation focuses on moving from control to guidance, keeping your child’s heart, and staying connected without slipping into criticism or frustration. Scott also shares how marriage, fatherhood, and biblical teaching have shaped the way he thinks about parenting older children. Key topics In this episode, Scott LaPierre introduces himself as a teaching pastor at Woodland Christian Church, a husband, and a father of 11 children.Scott explains how he and his wife, Katie, approached marriage with a desire to honor God in family size, homeschooling, and pastoral ministry.He shares that his passion for teaching began long before pastoring, through military service, elementary teaching, and then preaching the Bible.Scott connects strong marriages to strong families, strong churches, and ultimately a stronger society.He describes how parenting adult children requires a real shift from direct control to relational influence and wise guidance.Scott emphasizes that parents need to keep their children’s hearts, not just enforce rules.He explains the importance of humility in family leadership, including saying “I don’t know” and learning alongside your children.Scott and James discuss the pressure many men feel when asked to lead family Bible reading or prayer, and why wives should encourage rather than compare them to pastors.Scott talks about the reality that some adult children rebel despite good parenting, and he points to free will and the prodigal son as a biblical picture of that tension.The conversation closes with practical advice for repairing strained relationships through confession, asking forgiveness, and learning to listen well.Timestamps 00:00 - Introducing Scott LaPierre and the focus on parenting adult children 00:48 - Scott’s background as a pastor, author, husband, and father of 11 01:52 - Meeting Katie, marriage, and surrendering family size to God 04:35 - From teaching and military service to pastoral ministry 05:31 - Why strong marriages strengthen families, churches, and society 07:20 - How fatherhood shapes prayer for children’s future spouses 08:53 - Why many husbands are spiritually passive and what that means 10:21 - Modeling spiritual leadership at home more than just talking about it 11:18 - Why many husbands feel nervous leading Bible reading and prayer 12:15 - Projection, insecurity, and the fear of leading family devotion 13:41 - Encouraging husbands instead of expecting pastor-level performance 15:37 - Wives, husbands, and the importance of realistic expectations 17:15 - Using study Bibles, commentaries, and humility when answering questions 18:45 - The biggest shift when children become adults: releasing control 24:48 - Balance, encouragement, and the warning that rules without relationship can lead to rebellion 26:54 - What it means to have your child’s heart 27:50 - Different children may connect better with different parents 30:15 - Helicopter parenting and the challenge of moving into a mentor role 34:36 - Why even good parents can still have rebellious adult children 36:49 - Responding to regret, confession, and asking adult children for forgiveness 41:37 - One practical step this week: take responsibility and listen well 42:59 - Scott’s books, speaking, and free ministry resource Notable quotes Copy “Rules without relationship equals rebellion.” Copy “There’s a Richard Jones. I am an RN with over 34 years of Nursing Experience, much of that experience working with young adults in the corrections system.  Parenting Adult Children Call To Action  Support the show Social Media Links  https://www.youtube.com/@abcparentingadultchildren https://www.instagram.com/parentingadultchildren125/  https://www.tiktok.com/@chiefpropellerhead ABC's of Parenting Adult Children Facebook Page https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=61581576308055  r/parentingadultchildren Feel free to subscribe to these channels and share the links with your social media portals.

Click on Fan Mail link and give me feedback. Thanks Discover practical insights and compassionate strategies to navigate the generational patterns, emotional reactions, and relationship dynamics that shape your parenting journey. In this episode, trauma-informed coach Lattie Ghanem shares how moms can identify triggers, release guilt, and foster a healthy, connected family environment—no matter where you are in your parenting path. Main topics:   The neurobiological basis of parental reactions and how to rewire them  Breaking cycles of guilt, overcompensation, and burnout  The role of dads in building emotional safety and modeling healthy behavior  Navigating family dynamics such as children’s identity explorations and cultural differences  Practical tools for self-awareness, boundary-setting, and intentional parenting  In this episode:   0:01 - Introduction to trauma-informed conscious parenting and Lattie’s approach  0:35 - Understanding the patterns behind the chaos in parenting  1:23 - How childhood roles influence parenting reactions  2:40 - The impact of family upbringing on current parent-child dynamics  4:44 - Recognizing the moment when parents feel overwhelmed and how to respond  6:31 - What subconscious beliefs are mothers really carrying beneath the surface  9:07 - The cycle of guilt, overachievement, and emotional exhaustion in moms  11:19 - First steps to break free from burnout and perfectionism  13:24 - Early warning signs and how fathers can support mothers proactively  15:15 - The importance of intentional, balanced relationships with children  17:27 - How dads influence daughters’ and sons’ understanding of love and success  22:36 - The neurobiological fight or flight response and managing emotional overload  25:27 - The differences between therapy and coaching for emotional growth  28:40 - Navigating the gap between how we were raised and how we want to parent  39:23 - The importance of vulnerability and authenticity in family relationships  43:23 - Preparing children for adult life and the significance of modeling resilience  46:19 - Embracing blended families and diverse life choices without shame  52:31 - Accepting children’s authentic identities and maintaining strong connections  Resources & Links:   Living Progress – Connect with Lattie for coaching support  Parenting Adult Children – Official website for ongoing resources  Connect with Lattie Ghanem:   LinkedIn  InstagramRichard Jones. I am an RN with over 34 years of Nursing Experience, much of that experience working with young adults in the corrections system.  Parenting Adult Children Call To Action  Support the show Social Media Links  https://www.youtube.com/@abcparentingadultchildren https://www.instagram.com/parentingadultchildren125/  https://www.tiktok.com/@chiefpropellerhead ABC's of Parenting Adult Children Facebook Page https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=61581576308055  r/parentingadultchildren Feel free to subscribe to these channels and share the links with your social media portals.

Click on Fan Mail link and give me feedback. Thanks In this episode, James Moffitt welcomes Emily Jacobson, a somatic coach, to discuss navigating the evolving relationship with adult children. They explore communication, boundaries, emotional regulation, and the importance of understanding developmental stages to foster stronger connections.   The transition from parent to mentor/support role as children become adults and brain development timelines  Mindset shifts for parents: recognizing their prior hard work and trust in their child's independence  The emotional grief that can accompany letting go of the parent-child dynamic  The role of emotional intelligence and nervous system regulation in managing reactions and conflict  Practical tools for emotional regulation: deep exhalations, breathing patterns, and nervous system exercises  Strategies for handling disagreements with adult children, including setting expectations and consequences  The importance of co-regulation and maintaining boundaries to prevent downward spirals of escalation  Navigating self-expression choices in teens and young adults, and understanding their need for individuation  Challenges around appearance choices, tattoos, and societal perceptions  The significance of safety and trust in parent-child relationships for healthy merging into adult independence  How parental permissiveness and authoritarian tendencies can create dynamic tension  Handling family changes, such as divorce or blended families, with acknowledgment of grief and emotional validation  The value of open conversations, setting clear expectations, and the power of consistency in boundaries  The role of external environments, like community or church, in observing healthy relationship boundaries  Resources for nervous system health: Emily’s free tools, her website Emily Jacobson, and social media Instagram  The importance for parents and grandparents to foster safety, vulnerability, and trust to build resilient relationships  00:00 - Navigating relationships with adult children and why boundaries matter  02:20 - The brain development timeline and implications for parenting  05:00 - Mindset shift: trusting the work you've done as a parent  07:03 - Recognizing grief in letting go of parental roles  08:20 - Emotional regulation and nervous system insights for parents  11:11 - Compassion and understanding emotional responses  12:23 - Repairing ruptures and maintaining relationship health  12:51 - The significance of presence and observation in adolescent self-expression  15:27 - How the brain predicts outcomes based on past experience  17:51 - Differentiation and individuation in teens and young adults  19:17 - The impact of appearance choices on societal acceptance and career prospects  22:32 - Balancing freedom and safety in youth self-expression  25:52 - Teaching inhibition and self-control through nervous system tools  28:04 - Inhibitory exercises with kids for impulse control  31:18 - Breathing techniques to regulate emotions in parenting moments  36:02 - Handling disagreements and setting expectations productively  39:42 - Preventing downward spirals in conflicts through boundaries  41:50 - Overcoming parental fears about boundaries and authority  44:12 - Parenting styles: permissive, authoritarian, and authoritative  45:38 - Lessons learned from separation, divorce, and co-parenting  52:10 - Supporting children through family transitions and grief  54:06 - Advice for engaging with adult children in a balanced way  57:36 - Resources available: Emily’s free tools and coaching offerings  58:46 - Closing thoughts: fostering trust, safety, and open communication   Emily Jacobson's Website  Emily Jacobson Coaching on Instagram  Free Nervous System Tools - available via Emily’s website  Connect with Emily Jacobson:   Instagram  Richard Jones. I am an RN with over 34 years of Nursing Experience, much of that experience working with young adults in the corrections system.  Parenting Adult Children Call To Action  Support the show Social Media Links  https://www.youtube.com/@abcparentingadultchildren https://www.instagram.com/parentingadultchildren125/  https://www.tiktok.com/@chiefpropellerhead ABC's of Parenting Adult Children Facebook Page https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=61581576308055  r/parentingadultchildren Feel free to subscribe to these channels and share the links with your social media portals.

Click on Fan Mail link and give me feedback. Thanks Unlocking Your Parenting Superpower: The Power of Words with Jody Hill Discover how your everyday words can shape your child's confidence, identity, and future. In this episode, parenting expert Jody Hill shares practical strategies rooted in science and faith to help parents influence their children positively through intentional communication. Key Topics How words impact a child's self-belief and confidenceThe importance of modeling respect and responsibilityPractical ways to establish healthy boundaries with childrenUsing affirmations and micro-moments to reinforce good behaviorNavigating the challenges of parenting preteens, teens, and young adultsThe significance of vulnerability and authenticity in parent-child relationshipsAddressing parental guilt and the never-too-late mentalityHow to foster resilience and responsibility in older children and adult childrenTimestamps 00:00 - Introduction to the episode and guest, Jody Hill  00:12 - Jody’s background and her work on parental influence  00:34 - The impact of words on children's confidence and identity  01:56 - How parents’ words create beliefs and influence actions  03:26 - The power of affirmation and micro-moments in child development  04:37 - Handling bullying and building self-confidence  05:07 - The importance of standing up for oneself and others  06:27 - Real-life story: Overcoming a bully through confidence  07:35 - The “Parent’s Secret Superpower”: Words for life or death  08:50 - The dangers of neglecting emotional safety in schools and buses  09:44 - Addressing school bus safety and bullying prevention  10:23 - Raising kids who stand up against bullying and injustice  11:18 - Teaching children the importance of justice and morality  12:25 - Challenging negative beliefs about adolescence ("terrible twos" and "terrible teens")  13:35 - How parental expectations shape children’s behaviors and responses  14:23 - Responding calmly to children’s mistakes to promote learning  15:54 - The importance of a safe environment for failure and growth  16:16 - How kindness and affirmation build self-esteem in children  17:46 - The impact of parenting styles from childhood to adulthood  18:45 - Giving kids space to make mistakes and learn independence  19:32 - Teaching boundaries and responsibility without shame  20:45 - Reinforcing that it's never too late to influence your adult children  21:16 - Practical strategies for healthy boundary-setting with preteens and teenagers  22:26 - The significance of honoring commitments and building trust  23:49 - Encouraging responsibility through respectful conversation  25:07 - Creating a safe place for children to grow and fail  26:12 - Building confidence in children through micro-moments and affirmations  27:12 - The importance of recognizing and affirming goodness in children  28:01 - Affirming kindness and protective behaviors in kids  29:00 - Celebrating children’s uniqueness and individuality  29:57 - Shifting from outcome-based praise to behavior-based affirmation  30:28 - Healthy ways to reinforce positive actions and character  31:42 - Parenting adult children: respecting independence and offering support  32:40 - Reflections on mirroring and guiding older children  33:10 - Accepting imperfections and learning from mistakes  33:36 - The timeless nature of parenting; continual growth  34:23 - The enduring relationship as kids age into adulthood  36:01 - The importance of love, encouragement, and respect for adult children  37:24 - Owning up to parenting mistakes and fostering reconciliation  38:03 - Vulnerability and authenticity in mending parent-child relationships  39:38 - Managing reactions to children's choices and individuality  40:44 - Embracing children’s authenticity and self-expression  41:50 - The importance of parents managing their own emotions  42:52 - Modeling emotional regulation for children  43:41 - Final thoughts on parenting with authenticity and love  44:12 - Introduction to Jody Hill’s work and her book, Parents’ Secret Superpower  44:39 - Practical tips for parents to start using their words intentionally  45:11 - Resources and ways to connect with Jody Hill  45:40 - Closing remarks on the power of words and encouragement for parents Resources & Links: Parents’ Secret Superpower by Jody HillPodcast: The Power of Words in Parenting[Jody Hill - Instagram] | [Facebook]Science of Parenting & FaithConnect with Jody Hill: InstagramWebsiteRichard Jones. I am an RN with over 34 years of Nursing Experience, much of that experience working with young adults in the corrections system.  Parenting Adult Children Call To Action  Support the show Social Media Links  https://www.youtube.com/@abcparentingadultchildren https://www.instagram.com/parentingadultchildren125/  https://www.tiktok.com/@chiefpropellerhead ABC's of Parenting Adult Children Facebook Page https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=61581576308055  r/parentingadultchildren Feel free to subscribe to these channels and share the links with your social media portals.

Click on Fan Mail link and give me feedback. Thanks Navigating Parenthood and Adult Relationships: Insights on Connection, Needs, and Digital Influence In this episode, James Moffitt and guest Nathan Graham explore the complex journey of staying connected with adult children, the underlying needs driving behaviors like gaming and social media use, and practical strategies for healthy boundaries. Main Topics: The core human needs: certainty, adventure, significance, and love connectionHow modern society and technology affect the fulfillment of these needs in young adultsThe impact of social media and gaming on emotional health and behaviorTechniques for parents to foster understanding and set effective boundariesThe importance of curiosity, grace, and relationship-building in parentingIn this episode: Nathan explains how unmet needs can lead to addictive and withdrawn behaviorsThe challenges of participation trophies and changing educational dynamicsThe role of dopamine and social media algorithms in addiction cyclesPractical tips for establishing device boundaries with children and teensThe "three deep questions" approach to understand root causes behind behaviorsThe importance of emotional safety, validation, and shared purpose in parent-child relationshipsTimestamps: Richard Jones. I am an RN with over 34 years of Nursing Experience, much of that experience working with young adults in the corrections system.  Parenting Adult Children Call To Action  Support the show Social Media Links  https://www.youtube.com/@abcparentingadultchildren https://www.instagram.com/parentingadultchildren125/  https://www.tiktok.com/@chiefpropellerhead ABC's of Parenting Adult Children Facebook Page https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=61581576308055  r/parentingadultchildren Feel free to subscribe to these channels and share the links with your social media portals.

Click on Fan Mail link and give me feedback. Thanks Parenting Through Crisis, Grief, and Resilience: An In-Depth ConversationThis episode explores the raw reality of parenting children with complex needs, navigating grief from personal loss, and finding resilience amidst life's unpredictable challenges. Join us as we share heartfelt stories, personal growth, and actionable insights for families facing difficult journeys.Main Topics Covered: Jessica’s journey managing parenting children with autism, ADHD, chromosomal disorders, and heart conditions.The impact of loss and grief, including Jessica’s story about her daughter’s cancer battle and her own grieving process.Practical tools for grief healing, including energy healing, emotional release, and honoring memories.The role of faith, legacy, and purpose in navigating trauma and loss.The importance of community, self-care, and authentic storytelling in healing and resilience.Richard Jones. I am an RN with over 34 years of Nursing Experience, much of that experience working with young adults in the corrections system.  Parenting Adult Children Call To Action  Support the show Social Media Links  https://www.youtube.com/@abcparentingadultchildren https://www.instagram.com/parentingadultchildren125/  https://www.tiktok.com/@chiefpropellerhead ABC's of Parenting Adult Children Facebook Page https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=61581576308055  r/parentingadultchildren Feel free to subscribe to these channels and share the links with your social media portals.

Click on Fan Mail link and give me feedback. Thanks  In this episode of ABC's The Parenting Adult Children Podcast, host James Moffitt shares valuable resources, survey insights, and compassionate advice for parents navigating the complex emotions and challenges of adult children. Whether you're facing communication struggles, boundary setting, or emotional hurdles, this episode provides practical tools and encouragement to help you find hope and support. Main Topics:   Overview of the Parenting Adult Children resources and community support options  Key survey findings on communication, boundaries, finances, and emotional well-being of parents  How faith, love, and understanding shape parent-child relationships in adulthood  Practical advice on finances, boundaries, and supporting grandchildren  The importance of self-care, retirement planning, and emotional resilience for parents  How to access and utilize podcasts, reference sheets, and social media for ongoing support  Timestamps: 00:00 - Welcome and episode overview of resources for parents of adult children 01:12 - Introduction to the challenges and emotions involved in parenting adult children 02:05 - Sharing survey insights on communication struggles and boundary battles 02:33 - The importance of the website and resources at parentingadultchildren.org 03:40 - How the Facebook support group has grown from 10 to over 1,500 members 04:10 - The value of the survey for understanding parents' needs and topics of interest 05:08 - Using the episode reference sheet created with AI to navigate topics like boundaries, mental health, and more 06:33 - Accessing the detailed reference sheet and podcast episode index 07:41 - Supporting ongoing education through workshops, YouTube, and email updates 08:57 - Navigating episode guest profiles and additional content on the website 09:37 - How to find specific episodes and guest information for deeper learning 11:41 - Common themes from parents: communication, boundaries, finances, and emotional tolls 12:04 - Practical communication tips: listening, asking permission, and respecting boundaries 13:16 - Boundary setting around finances, support, and lifestyle choices 14:06 - Supporting grandchildren responsibly and with love 15:04 - Retirement planning advice for parents and the importance of long-term financial health 16:06 - Parents' emotional landscape, including gratitude, worry, and frustration 18:07 - Faith as a stabilizing force and beliefs about spirituality's role in parenting 21:06 - What parents wish their adult children knew: love unconditionally, patience, and experience 22:21 - Personal stories of growth, estrangement, and understanding between parents and children 24:05 - The special bond and challenges of grandparenting and family relationships 25:36 - Accepting adult children's choices and continuing love regardless of differences 26:14 - Supporting LGBTQ+ children and respecting their identity 27:09 - The support parents seek: practical tools, community, workshops, and faith-based encouragement 28:45 - Promoting resources: YouTube, social media, and online content for ongoing connection 30:52 - How to access the detailed topics reference sheet and social media links 32:17 - Encouragement: You're not alone, and hope is available through community and resources 32:47 - Closing notes and gratitude for listeners, emphasizing that parenting requires strength but also offers hopeResources & Links:   Parenting Support Website  Episode Reference Sheet  Facebook Group - ABC Parenting Adult Children  YouTube Channel  Instagram - Parenting Adult Children  Reddit Group  Podcast on Spotify  Podcast on Apple Podcasts  Connect with James Moffitt:   LinkedIn  Twitter  Optional:   Consider exploring upcoming workshops and classes (to be announced).  Subscribe to the email list for updates on new episodes and resources.  Follow on TikTok for short-form support tips.  Richard Jones. I am an RN with over 34 years of Nursing Experience, much of that experience working with young adults in the corrections system.  Parenting Adult Children Call To Action  Support the show Social Media Links  https://www.youtube.com/@abcparentingadultchildren https://www.instagram.com/parentingadultchildren125/  https://www.tiktok.com/@chiefpropellerhead ABC's of Parenting Adult Children Facebook Page https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=61581576308055  r/parentingadultchildren Feel free to subscribe to these channels and share the links with your social media portals.

Click on Fan Mail link and give me feedback. Thanks Parenting a Child with Autism: Insights from Paul VossIn this episode, Paul Voss shares his journey as a father of eight, including a daughter diagnosed with autism, and how his experiences have shaped his approach to parenting, systematizing family routines, and advocating for his children. His story offers practical advice and hope for parents navigating similar challenges. Key Topics Covered: Paul’s personal background and motivation for writing "Autism Sucks, Finding Hope in the Chaos"How autism diagnosis shifted Paul’s family dynamics and parenting approachThe importance of systems and planning with a large family, including tools like big wall calendarsThe impact of dietary changes, grounding (earthing), and natural therapies on managing autism symptomsChallenges of sleep, public outings, and managing emotional responsesAdvocacy with medical professionals and questioning mainstream treatmentsThe role of support groups and connecting with trusted specialistsSmall wins in progress: communication, potty training, and daily routinesPractical tips for new parents receiving an autism diagnosis with encouragement and reassuranceTimestamps:  00:00 - Introduction to Paul Voss and his family journey  02:26 - How growing up with multiple children influenced Paul’s parenting style  03:52 - Using systems and structured planning to manage a large family  06:00 - Managing sports and activities with eight kids and prioritizing commitments  07:03 - Impact of autism on family life and changes in diet and lifestyle  09:13 - How autism diagnosis deepened Paul’s patience and appreciation for small wins  10:42 - The significance of positive communication from a non-speaking child  11:57 - Addressing complex medical decisions, vaccines, and natural treatments  12:16 - Recognizing early symptoms and navigating diagnosis procedures  14:14 - Challenges faced, including sleep deprivation and public environments  16:29 - Medical establishment’s role and questioning over-medication  17:54 - The importance of self-education and asking questions for better care  18:45 - The role of diet, grounding, and natural therapies in managing autism  22:43 - The importance of advocating for your child's unique needs  27:22 - The emotional and financial realities of raising a child with autism  29:50 - Grounding (earthing) and its surprising benefits for sleep and behavior  33:20 - The importance of parental advocacy and trusting your instincts  35:05 - Celebrating small wins and the journey of progress  38:25 - The role of support groups and community connection for parents Resources & Links: Autism Sucks, Finding Hope in the Chaos (Amazon link for Paul's book)Grounding/Earthing Products (Earthing mats on Amazon)Paul Voss on InstagramSupport groups for autism parentsConnect with Paul Voss: InstagramBook on Amazon Remember, as Paul emphasizes, trusting your instincts and being your child's fiercest advocate are key. Every family's journey is unique, and small wins are meaningful milestones. Social Media posts Richard Jones. I am an RN with over 34 years of Nursing Experience, much of that experience working with young adults in the corrections system.  Parenting Adult Children Call To Action  Support the show Social Media Links  https://www.youtube.com/@abcparentingadultchildren https://www.instagram.com/parentingadultchildren125/  https://www.tiktok.com/@chiefpropellerhead ABC's of Parenting Adult Children Facebook Page https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=61581576308055  r/parentingadultchildren Feel free to subscribe to these channels and share the links with your social media portals.