Advertise on podcast: Own Your Pleasure

Show Notes:In this episode of 'Own Your Pleasure', Whitni Miller and Béa discuss the concept of emotional outsourcing, where individuals seek their sense of safety, belonging, and worth from external sources rather than within themselves. They explore the implications of enmeshment and codependency, the importance of somatic practices in fostering self-awareness, and the necessity of authentic communication in relationships. The conversation emphasizes the need for curiosity, consent, and the establishment of safe spaces for meaningful dialogue, ultimately guiding listeners towards building healthier connections and understanding their own needs. Beatriz (Béa) Victoria Albina, NP, MPH, SEP (she/her) is a UCSF-trained Family Nurse Practitioner, Somatic Experiencing Practitioner, Master Certified Somatic Life Coach, author of the bestselling "End Emotional Outsourcing: How to Overcoming Your Codependent, Perfectionist and People Pleasing Habits" (Hachette Balance, 2025) and Breathwork Meditation Guide with a passion for helping humans socialized as women to reconnect with their bodies, regulate their nervous systems and rewire their minds, so they can break free from codependency, perfectionism and people pleasing and reclaim their joy. She is the host of the Feminist Wellness Podcast, holds a Masters degree in Public Health from Boston University School of Public Health and a BA in Latin American Studies from Oberlin College. Born in Mar del Plata, Argentina, Béa grew up in the great state of Rhode Island. She has been working in health & wellness for over 20 years and lives with her wife, Billey Albina and their handsome all-black cat Wade Elizabeth. Learn More about Béa:https://beatrizalbina.com/   Follow Béa:IG- @beatrizvictoriaalbinanp YouTube - https://www.youtube.com/@beavictoriaalbina Podcast - Feminist Wellness https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/feminist-wellness/id1454980022  Learn More From Whitni:https://www.bde-moves.com  Follow Whitni at:IG - @bde.movesFB - groups/bdemovesYouTube - Podcast Channel = @BDE-Moves Old Channel = @BdeTalksTikTok - @bdemoves

Whitni and Erin continue their conversation getting into the complexities of lesbian relationships, while discussing the dynamics of libido and sexual compatibility. They explore societal expectations, personal experiences, and the importance of communication in fostering intimacy and desire. The discussion highlights the challenges faced by individuals in navigating their sexual identities and relationships, emphasizing the need for open dialogue and understanding. Learn More about The Lesbian Peep Show Podcast: https://thelesbianpeepshow.com Follow Erin Brown: ALL Platforms - @iamerinbrown Learn More From Whitni: https://www.bde-moves.com Follow Whitni at: IG - @bde.moves FB - groups/bdemoves YouTube - Podcast Channel = @BDE-Moves Old Channel = @BdeTalks TikTok - @bdemoves

This month Whitni talks with Erin Brown, a public sociologist and host of the Lesbian Peep Show podcast. They delve into the concept of 'lesbian bed death,' exploring its origins, implications, and the societal narratives surrounding sexual desire in lesbian relationships. They discuss the historical context of feminist sex wars, the impact of shame on women's sexual autonomy, and the importance of curiosity in understanding one's desires. The conversation emphasizes the need for open dialogue about sexual expression and the complexities of intimacy in relationships. Learn More about The Lesbian Peep Show Podcast: https://thelesbianpeepshow.com Follow Erin Brown: ALL Platforms - @iamerinbrown Learn More From Whitni: https://www.bde-moves.com Follow Whitni at: IG - @bde.moves FB - groups/bdemoves YouTube - Podcast Channel = @BDE-Moves Old Channel = @BdeTalks TikTok - @bdemoves

Show Notes:In this episode of 'Own Your Pleasure', Whitni Miller discusses with Meagan and Sofia Black the importance of investing in relationships, understanding emotional permeability, and the value of proactive communication. They explore how scheduling intimacy can enhance connection and reduce conflict, while also emphasizing the significance of emotional vulnerability in fostering deeper intimacy. The conversation highlights practical tools like transition rituals and the benefits of prioritizing pleasure in relationships. Meagan and Sofia are a fun-loving couple that recently eloped after being together for 3 years.  They always thought they had something special and wanted to build onto their foundation. After listening to Whitni on social media for several years, they decided to be proactive in their relationship and invest into the BDE program. They are so grateful for making that decision and are excited to come on the podcast to share their experience! Apply for the program here → https://form.jotform.com/260554585738065  Follow Meagan & Sophia at:IG - @trianglehomesalesYouTube - @LivinginDurhamNorthCarolina Learn More From Whitni:https://www.bde-moves.com  Follow Whitni at:IG - @bde.movesFB - groups/bdemovesYouTube - Podcast Channel = @BDE-Moves Old Channel = @BdeTalksTikTok - @bdemoves

Show Notes:In this episode of 'Own Your Pleasure', Whitni Miller engages with Meagan and Sofia Black, two graduates of her intimacy coaching program. They discuss their journey of self-discovery, communication, and the importance of pleasure in their relationship. The conversation explores how they navigated their intimacy challenges, broke down shame, and learned to prioritize their own pleasure, ultimately leading to a deeper connection with each other. Meagan and Sofia are a fun-loving couple that recently eloped after being together for 3 years. They always thought they had something special and wanted to build onto their foundation. After listening to Whitni on social media for several years, they decided to be proactive in their relationship and invest into the BDE program. They are so grateful for making that decision and are excited to come on the podcast to share their experience! Apply for the program here → https://form.jotform.com/260554585738065  Follow Meagan & Sophia at:IG - @trianglehomesalesYouTube - @LivinginDurhamNorthCarolina Learn More From Whitni:https://www.bde-moves.com  Follow Whitni at:IG - @bde.movesFB - groups/bdemovesYouTube - Podcast Channel = @BDE-Moves Old Channel = @BdeTalksTikTok - @bdemoves

In this episode of 'Own Your Pleasure', Whitni Miller and her wife Janelle continue to delve into the intricacies of their Dominant-Submissive (DS) dynamic, addressing more questions from YOU, their community. They explore the importance of setting boundaries, the nuances of establishing a DS relationship, and the significance of communication and presence in kink. The conversation emphasizes the need for self-awareness, confidence, and the playful aspects of maintaining a healthy dynamic. They share personal anecdotes and practical tips for navigating the complexities of pleasure and intimacy within queer relationships. Resources Referenced in this episode are: The New Topping Book by Dossie Easton and Janet Hardy The New Bottoming Book by Dossie Easton and Janet Hardy Conquer Me: Girl-to-Girl Wisdom About Fulfilling Your Submissive Desires by Kacie Cunningham The Loving Dominant by John Warren The Body is Not an Apology by Sonia Renee Taylor FetLife BDSM Community Kink Workshops and Dungeons Learn More From Whitni: https://www.bde-moves.com Follow Whitni at: IG - @bde.moves FB - groups/bdemoves YouTube - Podcast Channel = @BDE-Moves Old Channel = @BdeTalks TikTok - @bdemoves

In this episode of 'Own Your Pleasure', Whitni Miller and her wife Janelle delve into their dominant-submissive (D/s) dynamic, discussing how it enhances their relationship. While answering YOUR questions they explore the importance of consent, communication, and vulnerability in navigating their unique connection. The conversation highlights the empowering aspects of their dynamic, the significance of aftercare, and how their relationship fosters intimacy and trust. Resources Referenced in this episode are: The New Topping Book by Dossie Easton and Janet Hardy The New Bottoming Book by Dossie Easton and Janet Hardy Conquer Me: Girl-to-Girl Wisdom About Fulfilling Your Submissive Desires by Kacie Cunningham The Loving Dominant by John Warren The Body is Not an Apology by Sonia Renee Taylor FetLife BDSM Community Kink Workshops and Dungeons Learn More From Whitni: https://www.bde-moves.com Follow Whitni at: IG - @bde.moves FB - groups/bdemoves YouTube - Podcast Channel = @BDE-Moves Old Channel = @BdeTalks TikTok - @bdemoves

In this episode of 'Own Your Pleasure', sex and relationship coach Craig Cassey and host Whitni Miller discuss building satisfaction in relationships through psychological interventions, focusing on mindset crafting, understanding different couple archetypes, and practical strategies for enhancing intimacy and desire. Craig Cassey is a relationship & sex coach and researcher who helps couples reignite their desire and co-create mutually fulfilling relationships in the bedroom and beyond. Learn More From Craig Cassey Jr.:https://www.coaching-naked.com Follow Craig Cassey Jr:TikTok - @akacoachcraigIG - @craigcasseyjr Learn More From Whitni:https://www.bde-moves.com  Follow Whitni at:IG - @bde.movesFB - groups/bdemovesYouTube - Podcast Channel = @BDE-Moves Old Channel = @BdeTalksTikTok - @bdemoves

In this episode of 'Own Your Pleasure', sex and relationship coach Craig Cassey and host Whitni Miller discuss the complexities of desire, intimacy, and vulnerability in relationships. Topics include managing differing libidos, building safety and trust, and redefining what pleasure means in modern relationships. Craig Cassey is a relationship & sex coach and researcher who helps couples reignite their desire and co-create mutually fulfilling relationships in the bedroom and beyond. Learn More From Craig Cassey: https://www.coaching-naked.com Follow Craig Cassey Jr: TikTok - @akacoachcraig IG - @craigcasseyjr Learn More From Whitni: https://www.bde-moves.com Follow Whitni at: IG - @bde.moves FB - groups/bdemoves YouTube - Podcast Channel = @BDE-Moves Old Channel = @BdeTalks TikTok - @bdemoves

In this episode of 'Own Your Pleasure', host Whitni Miller connects with Christabel Mintah-Galloway. Christabel is a writer, nurse and a relational skills teacher. In this episode they explore the importance of embracing diverse relationships, the power of vulnerability and accountability, and the significance of authenticity in both personal and professional spaces. They discuss how healing can be a political act and the necessity of creating safe spaces for healing and growth. The dialogue emphasizes the need for radical honesty and the value of prioritizing pleasure and personal growth in life. Follow Christabel Mintah-Galloway:TikTok - @richqueerauntiesIG @christabelmintahgalloway Learn More From Whitni:https://www.bde-moves.com  Follow Whitni at:IG - @bde.movesFB - groups/bdemovesYouTube - Podcast Channel = @BDE-Moves Old Channel = @BdeTalksTikTok - @bdemoves

In this episode of 'Own Your Pleasure', host Whitni Miller connects with Christabel Mintah-Galloway. Christabel is a writer, nurse and a relational skills teacher. In this episode Christabel shares her journey of navigating relational skills, community building, and the importance of being in touch with one's body. She discusses the impact of trauma on intuition and the significance of authenticity in relationships. The dialogue emphasizes the need for interdependence and reciprocity within communities, as well as the importance of self-discovery and patience in personal growth. Christabel encourages listeners to embrace their pleasure and connect with their bodies as a means of empowerment. Follow Christabel Mintah-Galloway:TikTok - @richqueerauntiesIG @christabelmintahgalloway Learn More From Whitni:https://www.bde-moves.com  Follow Whitni at:IG - @bde.movesFB - groups/bdemovesYouTube - Podcast Channel = @BDE-Moves Old Channel = @BdeTalksTikTok - @bdemoves

Show Notes:In this episode of 'Own Your Pleasure', host Whitni Miller engages with Vicki and Nicole, a couple who recently married after completing Whitni's signature BDE coaching program. They discuss their journey of discovering intimacy, communication, and the tools that helped them navigate their relationship. The conversation highlights the importance of prioritizing oneself, the evolution of their understanding of intimacy, and the joy of making significant life decisions together. The couple shares their experiences with emotional tools that have enhanced their connection and how they are preparing for a new chapter in their lives. More about Vicky and Nicole that they wanted to share. They met almost 5 years ago in the most unlikely of places. Hinge. Just as they were both set to delete the app, Vicky sent a message to Nicole, and they haven’t stopped chatting since. Shortly after moving in together, life began to life. Job changes, health issues, and more left little time for intimacy. After attempting to self diagnose for too long, they sought out help from Whitni via her signature coaching program. Now, they are stronger than ever, recently eloped, and are using the tools from the program to help keep intimacy present in their relationship in all forms.  Follow Vicky and Nichole:@vowvixens Learn More From Whitni or apply to the program:https://www.bde-moves.com  Follow Whitni at:IG - @bde.movesFB - groups/bdemovesYouTube - Podcast Channel = @BDE-Moves Old Channel = @BdeTalksTikTok - @bdemoves

Show Notes:In this heartfelt episode of 'Own Your Pleasure', Whitni Miller and her guests Vicky and Nicole explore the journey of intimacy and connection in relationships, particularly within the queer community. They discuss the challenges faced in their relationship, the importance of seeking help through therapy and coaching, and the significance of communication and understanding intimacy. They share their experiences of navigating pressures around intimacy, the turning points in their relationship, and the ongoing practices that help them maintain a strong connection. The conversation emphasizes the importance of self-care and personal growth in fostering healthy relationships. Vicky and Nicole's story serves as an inspiring testament to the power of love and the journey of self-discovery within a relationship while embracing support that strengthens the relationship at its core by working through Whitni’s signature coaching program. More about Vicky and Nicole that they wanted to share. They met almost 5 years ago in the most unlikely of places. Hinge. Just as they were both set to delete the app, Vicky sent a message to Nicole, and they haven’t stopped chatting since. Shortly after moving in together, life began to life. Job changes, health issues, and more left little time for intimacy. After attempting to self diagnose for too long, they sought out help from Whitni via her signature coaching program. Now, they are stronger than ever, recently eloped, and are using the tools from the program to help keep intimacy present in their relationship in all forms.  Follow Vicky and Nichole:@vowvixens Learn More From Whitni or apply to the program:https://www.bde-moves.com  Follow Whitni at:IG - @bde.movesFB - groups/bdemovesYouTube - Podcast Channel = @BDE-Moves Old Channel = @BdeTalksTikTok - @bdemoves

Show Notes:In this episode of 'Own Your Pleasure', Whitni Miller and her guest, Dr. Michelle Gordon, discuss the complexities of hormonal changes in women, particularly during perimenopause and menopause. Dr. Gordon emphasizes the importance of understanding how weight impacts hormonal health and the misconceptions surrounding weight loss. The discussion also covers sexual health, the role of various hormones, and the significance of finding a supportive healthcare provider who listens to women's concerns. Dr. Michelle Gordon is Board Certified in Obesity Medicine, Lifestyle Medicine, and General Surgery and is a Telehealth Innovator. After building and running a multi-million dollar surgical practice, she shifted her focus from surgery to weight management, hormone health, and longevity through high-impact telehealth for lesbian midlife women. She brings advanced, personalized care straight to you —without gatekeeping, delay, or the one-size-fits-all approach of traditional systems. Her background in surgery gives her a sharp clinical lens in obesity and lifestyle medicine. She’s seen how strategic, non-surgical interventions can reverse complex metabolic disease. Her experience drives the results she delivers today, through evidence-based care that respects your time, autonomy, and goals. She uses telehealth to deliver high-quality, personalized care. This isn't a quick prescription model. She takes the time to understand each patient’s goals, history, and challenges to create treatment plans that are safe, effective, and built for long-term success. Her mission is simple. She gives you clear, evidence-based guidance and real support throughout your health journey. You deserve more than a rushed visit or generic advice. She takes the time to understand what’s actually going on so you can make lasting, meaningful changes together. You are never just a number. She works closely with you so you feel seen, heard, and respected from start to finish. With a foundation in clinical experience and systems thinking, she focuses on what works. She uses tools that make personalized medicine more accessible without compromising quality. This isn’t about hype or trends. It’s about real care, delivered with intention, one patient at a time. Follow Dr. Michelle Gordon at:TikTok: @drmichellegordon IG: @doctormichellegordon FB: @michelleEgordon Learn More From Whitni:https://www.bde-moves.com  Follow Whitni at:IG - @bde.movesFB - groups/bdemovesYouTube - Podcast Channel = @BDE-Moves Old Channel = @BdeTalksTikTok - @bdemoves

In this episode of 'Own Your Pleasure', Whitni Miller and Dr. Lex Brown James continue their conversation and explore the intricate dynamics of relationships, trauma, and pleasure. They discuss the importance of understanding personal values in relationships, navigating trauma, and expanding the concept of sexual pleasure. The conversation emphasizes the need for community, curiosity, and joy in the face of societal challenges, while also addressing the significance of self-care and training one's social media algorithms to foster positive connections.  Dr. Lexx Brown-James, LMFT, CSE, CSES is a premiere sexologist centering pleasure as a connective tool for shame free sexuality education and building intimate partner connection. As an AASECT certified sexuality educator and supervisor, Dr. Lexx lectures, trains, and does therapy for academic, professional and general audiences. As a multiple time best seller, Dr. Lexx is an international sexologist. Featured in prominent media like CNN, Essence, It Gets Better,  Scary Mommy, and Therapy for Black Girls, Dr. Lexx’s goal is to educate others about sexuality from womb to tomb. Through her practice, The Institute for Sexuality & Intimacy, LLC, Dr. Lexx has:  developed a curriculum that creates interventions to interrupt racism in sexuality created a therapeutic framework to decrease sexual shame, provides professional training,  and has resources for Sex Positive Parenting.   Dr. Lexx breaks down the most complicated and taboo topics to create easily digestible information and actionable change. Learn More From Dr. Lexx:https://lexxsexdoc.com/  Follow Dr. Lexx at:@lexxsexdoc across all platforms no youtube or X Dr. Lexx’s Gifts to you:Free Resources Gifted by Dr. Lexx → https://lexxsexdoc.com/shop  Learn More From Whitni:https://www.bde-moves.com  Follow Whitni at:IG - @bde.movesFB - groups/bdemovesYouTube - Podcast Channel = @BDE-Moves Old Channel = @BdeTalksTikTok - @bdemoves