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Send us Fan Mail If the roles were reversed... would I stay? In this deeply personal episode, Sean explores one of the most uncomfortable questions he's ever asked himself—not to shame himself or anyone else in recovery, but to better understand the true cost of sexual addiction from a betrayed partner's perspective. Whether you agree or disagree, this conversation is an invitation to sit with a difficult question, develop greater empathy, and reflect on what lasting recovery really means. Warning: This episode contains honest discussion about pornography addiction, betrayal, and relationships that some listeners may find emotionally challenging. Support the show Twitter: @beyondbrokeness Email: [email protected]

Send us Fan Mail Why do so many of us struggle to stay present? In recovery, we often discover that pornography was not the problem itself but an attempted solution to loneliness, fear, shame, or uncertainty. In this conversation, Sean, Dayne, and Charlie discuss grounding as more than a technique—it is a practice of returning to reality with clarity, courage, and connection. Because freedom may not come from avoiding difficult feelings, but from learning that we can survive them.  Support the show Twitter: @beyondbrokeness Email: [email protected]

Send us Fan Mail In this solo episode of Beyond Sexual Brokenness, Sean reflects on Jordan Peterson’s Rule #2: “Treat yourself like someone you are responsible for helping.” Why is it that many of us naturally know how to care for the people we love — slowing down for them, supporting them, protecting them, encouraging rest, accountability, healing, and growth — yet often fail to offer even basic care to ourselves? This episode explores the difference between self care and self indulgence, the hidden self abandonment many addicts live with, and the painful realization that addiction can enslave us to far more than compulsive sexual behavior alone. A direct and honest reflection on recovery, boundaries, self respect, and learning to stop becoming our own bully. Support the show Twitter: @beyondbrokeness Email: [email protected]

Send us Fan Mail  Everyone says “drop the shame.” But what if that’s not how it works?  In this episode, we break down what shame actually looks like in real life—low energy, avoidance, distraction, depression—and why you can’t just get rid of it. We talk about what actually reduces shame, who you should (and shouldn’t) open up to, and how honesty is what starts to change things.  Support the show Twitter: @beyondbrokeness Email: [email protected]

Send us Fan Mail Recovery isn’t just about quitting—it’s about becoming. In this group conversation, we talk honestly about identity: who we say we want to be, where our actions don’t line up, and what’s actually working (and not working) in real life.  Support the show Twitter: @beyondbrokeness Email: [email protected]

Send us Fan Mail Loneliness sucks, whether you’re in addiction or in recovery. In this episode, we talk about how loneliness shows up in both, why it often gets worse before it gets better, and how isolation can quietly pull us back into old patterns. We also get real about what actually helps - connection, honesty, and learning to sit with ourselves without running.  Support the show Twitter: @beyondbrokeness Email: [email protected]

Send us Fan Mail In this episode, we open up an honest and difficult conversation about how addiction can impact relationships, sometimes leading to separation or divorce. We don’t take sides or offer simple answers, because every situation is different. Instead, we focus on raising awareness about the real emotional weight addiction can carry, for individuals, partners, and families. We talk about the fear of losing a relationship, the mental and emotional toll it creates, and the ripple effects it can have on trust, identity, and even children. Whether you’re fighting to rebuild, questioning what to do, or simply trying to understand the stakes, this conversation is about facing the reality of addiction with honesty and compassion. Support the show Twitter: @beyondbrokeness Email: [email protected]

Send us Fan Mail Recovery is not about eliminating risk. It is about choosing the right ones. In this episode, we explore redemptive risks, the intentional decisions that move us toward honesty, freedom, and growth. Some of these risks look like saying yes, to connection, vulnerability, rest, or help. Others look like saying a difficult no, to people, patterns, or opportunities that quietly threaten our integrity. Both come with discomfort. Both require courage. And both, when chosen wisely, have the power to redeem what addiction once distorted.  Support the show Twitter: @beyondbrokeness Email: [email protected]

Send us Fan Mail New Year's resolutions promise change, but for many in addiction recovery, they often reinforce fear and a sense of failure. In this episode, we talk about why starting over every January doesn't work, and what does. Instead of chasing big resolutions, we focus on strengthening the routines that already support recovery. This is a practical, hopeful conversation about building forward, not resetting, and creating a New Year plan that protects sobriety and peace rather than undermining it.  Support the show Twitter: @beyondbrokeness Email: [email protected]

Send us Fan Mail  The holidays can be a difficult time for many people in recovery. In this solo episode, Sean speaks openly about the emotional weight, sadness, and mental health challenges that can surface during the holiday season—especially for those recovering from sexual compulsive behaviors. Drawing from my own experience, I explore why relapse risk and depression often increase this time of year, how family dynamics and unmet expectations can re-activate old wounds, and what it looks like to stay grounded in recovery when routines are disrupted. I also walk through key questions from a holiday relapse-prevention framework, sharing practical, honest reflections in hopes of creating space for others to reflect, prepare, and feel less alone during a season that can be quietly painful for many.  Support the show Twitter: @beyondbrokeness Email: [email protected]

Send us Fan Mail Over a simple cup of coffee, Sean sits down with Dayne, Greg, and John for an honest, unfiltered conversation about courage, sacrifice, and the stories men tell themselves. Most men will say—without hesitation—that they would die for their family or take a bullet for the people they love. But when the question shifts to something quieter and far less dramatic—giving up porn or compulsive sexual behavior—that confidence often fades. Why is it easier to imagine a heroic moment than to commit to daily self-denial? Where does the hesitation come from—and what does it reveal about our beliefs, fear, and sense of identity as men? This episode challenges listeners to examine what real strength looks like, and whether true sacrifice happens in a single moment… or in the choices we make every day. Support the show Twitter: @beyondbrokeness Email: [email protected]

Send us Fan Mail In this episode, Dayne and Sean sit down with Josh, whose journey through questions of identity, childhood trauma, and emotional struggle reflects the deep complexity many of us carry. Josh shares how he navigated pain, confusion, and shame while growing into a devoted husband and father, and what resilience has looked like at every stage of his healing. This conversation is an honest look at the weight we sometimes carry—and a reminder that transformation is possible, even in the most complicated stories.  Support the show Twitter: @beyondbrokeness Email: [email protected]

Send us Fan Mail In this episode, Sean and Dayne open with a few new recovery resources for listeners, then dive into one of the most gut-punching questions we’ve ever asked ourselves: Would we be okay with our daughters dating a porn addict? What starts as a hypothetical quickly becomes a raw conversation about fear, responsibility, empathy, and the standards we hold for ourselves as men in recovery. This episode isn’t about judgment—it’s about reflection, honesty, and confronting the parts of our story we still need to grow through. Support the show Twitter: @beyondbrokeness Email: [email protected]

Send us Fan Mail  In this episode of Beyond Sexual Brokenness, Sean and Dayne sit down with Connor to talk openly about pain—how it shapes addiction, how addiction fuels pain, and the vicious cycle between the two. Together, they explore why so many men struggle to acknowledge emotional pain, how cultural expectations play a role, and why unspoken wounds often lead to deeper struggles with addiction. Through raw personal stories and honest conversation, they offer new perspectives on facing and managing pain in recovery.  Support the show Twitter: @beyondbrokeness Email: [email protected]

Send us Fan Mail In this Beyond Sexual Brokenness episode, we sit down with Matthew and Joanna Raabsmith to talk about healing relationships at home after addiction and betrayal. Drawing from their own recovery and years of research and clinical work, they walk us through The Intimacy Pyramid—honesty, safety, trust, vulnerability, intimacy—and share simple, practical steps couples can start today.  Explore more of their work at raabsmithteam.com and in their book Building True Intimacy.  Support the show Twitter: @beyondbrokeness Email: [email protected]