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Send us a text Recovery is not about eliminating risk. It is about choosing the right ones. In this episode, we explore redemptive risks, the intentional decisions that move us toward honesty, freedom, and growth. Some of these risks look like saying yes, to connection, vulnerability, rest, or help. Others look like saying a difficult no, to people, patterns, or opportunities that quietly threaten our integrity. Both come with discomfort. Both require courage. And both, when chosen wisely, have the power to redeem what addiction once distorted.  Support the show Twitter: @beyondbrokeness Email: [email protected]

Send us a text New Year's resolutions promise change, but for many in addiction recovery, they often reinforce fear and a sense of failure. In this episode, we talk about why starting over every January doesn't work, and what does. Instead of chasing big resolutions, we focus on strengthening the routines that already support recovery. This is a practical, hopeful conversation about building forward, not resetting, and creating a New Year plan that protects sobriety and peace rather than undermining it.  Support the show Twitter: @beyondbrokeness Email: [email protected]

Send us a text  The holidays can be a difficult time for many people in recovery. In this solo episode, Sean speaks openly about the emotional weight, sadness, and mental health challenges that can surface during the holiday season—especially for those recovering from sexual compulsive behaviors. Drawing from my own experience, I explore why relapse risk and depression often increase this time of year, how family dynamics and unmet expectations can re-activate old wounds, and what it looks like to stay grounded in recovery when routines are disrupted. I also walk through key questions from a holiday relapse-prevention framework, sharing practical, honest reflections in hopes of creating space for others to reflect, prepare, and feel less alone during a season that can be quietly painful for many.  Support the show Twitter: @beyondbrokeness Email: [email protected]

Send us a text Over a simple cup of coffee, Sean sits down with Dayne, Greg, and John for an honest, unfiltered conversation about courage, sacrifice, and the stories men tell themselves. Most men will say—without hesitation—that they would die for their family or take a bullet for the people they love. But when the question shifts to something quieter and far less dramatic—giving up porn or compulsive sexual behavior—that confidence often fades. Why is it easier to imagine a heroic moment than to commit to daily self-denial? Where does the hesitation come from—and what does it reveal about our beliefs, fear, and sense of identity as men? This episode challenges listeners to examine what real strength looks like, and whether true sacrifice happens in a single moment… or in the choices we make every day. Support the show Twitter: @beyondbrokeness Email: [email protected]

Send us a text In this episode, Dayne and Sean sit down with Josh, whose journey through questions of identity, childhood trauma, and emotional struggle reflects the deep complexity many of us carry. Josh shares how he navigated pain, confusion, and shame while growing into a devoted husband and father, and what resilience has looked like at every stage of his healing. This conversation is an honest look at the weight we sometimes carry—and a reminder that transformation is possible, even in the most complicated stories.  Support the show Twitter: @beyondbrokeness Email: [email protected]

Send us a text In this episode, Sean and Dayne open with a few new recovery resources for listeners, then dive into one of the most gut-punching questions we’ve ever asked ourselves: Would we be okay with our daughters dating a porn addict? What starts as a hypothetical quickly becomes a raw conversation about fear, responsibility, empathy, and the standards we hold for ourselves as men in recovery. This episode isn’t about judgment—it’s about reflection, honesty, and confronting the parts of our story we still need to grow through. Support the show Twitter: @beyondbrokeness Email: [email protected]

Send us a text  In this episode of Beyond Sexual Brokenness, Sean and Dayne sit down with Connor to talk openly about pain—how it shapes addiction, how addiction fuels pain, and the vicious cycle between the two. Together, they explore why so many men struggle to acknowledge emotional pain, how cultural expectations play a role, and why unspoken wounds often lead to deeper struggles with addiction. Through raw personal stories and honest conversation, they offer new perspectives on facing and managing pain in recovery.  Support the show Twitter: @beyondbrokeness Email: [email protected]

Send us a text In this Beyond Sexual Brokenness episode, we sit down with Matthew and Joanna Raabsmith to talk about healing relationships at home after addiction and betrayal. Drawing from their own recovery and years of research and clinical work, they walk us through The Intimacy Pyramid—honesty, safety, trust, vulnerability, intimacy—and share simple, practical steps couples can start today.  Explore more of their work at raabsmithteam.com and in their book Building True Intimacy.  Support the show Twitter: @beyondbrokeness Email: [email protected]

Send us a text  In this episode of Beyond Sexual Brokenness, Sean and Dayne sit down with Gaines for an honest update on his recovery journey. Together they explore one of the most overlooked drivers of porn and masturbation addiction—the objectification of women. This isn’t just a conversation about why objectifying women is wrong; it’s a candid debate about why changing how we view women is essential if we want true recovery and to become the men we’re called to be.  Support the show Twitter: @beyondbrokeness Email: [email protected]

Send us a text In this foundational episode of our Fundamental Series, we explore what it really means to live in the Recovery Zone—a space defined not just by abstinence, but by the integration of three essential pillars: boundaries, self-care, and sobriety. These aren’t standalone ideas—they’re interconnected forces that support and reinforce one another. When one is missing, the whole system can collapse. Sean and Dayne break down each of these pillars, reflecting on their personal journeys and sharing insights from the broader recovery community. What does an effective boundary list actually look like? Why is self-care often the hardest to build, especially after years of self-neglect? And how can all of this help make abstinence something sustainable, not just survivable? Whether you're early in recovery or reevaluating your routine, this episode offers practical tools, honest reflection, and a framework for building a life that heals—not just one that avoids relapse. Support the show Twitter: @beyondbrokeness Email: [email protected]

Send us a text In this episode, Sean and Dayne sit down with their friend Tyler, a fellow brother in recovery, to unpack a familiar but powerful story—one that began in early adolescence with porn and masturbation, and followed him into adulthood, deeply affecting his relationships. Tyler opens up about a season of long-term sobriety, the devastating fall that followed, and the pain and disorientation that relapse brought. Together, we reflect on the deeper questions of what it means to be a good man, how addiction distorts that pursuit, and the specific battles Tyler continues to face in his journey toward lasting freedom. This honest conversation reminds us that the road to recovery is rarely linear—but it’s always worth it.  Support the show Twitter: @beyondbrokeness Email: [email protected]

Send us a text  In this episode, Sean and Dayne unpack a hard but honest question: Are we actually progressing in recovery—or have we just upgraded our relapse cycle? We take a raw look at the pattern we often see in recovery communities: relapse, confession, repeat. The timeline may stretch, the guilt may lessen, and we may get better at sharing—but is that real healing? Or have we simply learned to manage our shame instead of breaking free from it? This episode invites deep self-examination about how we use community—are we leaning in for transformation, or just to feel better for a moment?  Support the show Twitter: @beyondbrokeness Email: [email protected]

Send us a text In moments of stress, temptation, or emotional overwhelm, grounding your body is one of the simplest ways to return to clarity and calm. This short, guided 4-7-8 breathing exercise is designed to help you pause, reset, and reconnect — wherever you are in your recovery journey. Just five minutes. No pressure. Just presence. Breathe in for 4 seconds, hold for 7, exhale for 8… and give your nervous system the peace it’s craving. Use this anytime you feel unsteady, triggered, or just need a reset. Your body is not your enemy — it can be your anchor. Support the show Twitter: @beyondbrokeness Email: [email protected]

Send us a text In this episode, we unpack the difference between sex and true intimacy — a line that's been increasingly blurred, especially in the age of pornography and compulsive masturbation. These habits create a counterfeit version of intimacy: one that offers physical release without emotional connection, control without vulnerability. We ask the tough questions: Is sex the same as intimacy? Is being overly nice at home — always agreeable, always “on” — truly intimate, or just a performance to avoid discomfort? We explore the role of heart, intent, and integrity in cultivating real connection. Because real intimacy doesn’t come from avoiding conflict or chasing pleasure — it comes from being known, seen, and loved without the mask. And that starts with showing up authentically, not just physically. Support the show Twitter: @beyondbrokeness Email: [email protected]

Send us a text  In this episode, John and I explore the idea of rescuing beauty inspired by John Eldredge’s Wild at Heart—but we take it further. We talk about how beauty isn’t just found in a woman or romance but in the simple moments of life we often overlook. As we walk the road of recovery from sexual addiction, and our dopamine levels begin to reset, we start to see the world with fresh eyes: the quiet of an early morning, the color of a summer sky, the feeling of contentment without chasing constant stimulation. Join us as we reflect on how learning to pause, to notice, and to appreciate the ordinary can heal our hearts and rewire our desires for something truer and deeper.  Support the show Twitter: @beyondbrokeness Email: [email protected]