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What does it take to be taken seriously, develop authority, and have credibility at work? These aren't just leadership buzz words (no matter how much they feel like it). These are the byproduct of the impression you make.In this video, I am going through four examples of how you come across to others as a leader, and why the everyday mundane situations matter more for your reputation than the big, stressful ones.If you've ever wondered why you're not being taken as seriously as you think you should be, and what you can do about it, this episode is for you.---👩‍💻 Take the free presence quiz & find out what impression you're already making:www.christinaaidy.com/quiz💼 Get the executive presence workshop so you have a custom 14-day roadmap to start showing up with more confidence & better presence:www.christinaaidy.com/executivepresenceworkshop📝 Get the Executive Presence Audit so you know exactly when your impression starts working against you.https://www.christinaaidy.com/executivepresenceaudit

What does it take to actually have gravitas as a leader? If you're frustrated trying to figure out what commanding a room or showing teeth actually means in practice, this is the video for you. Having gravitas isn't about your personality or overall leadership style. It's about the impression you're making through the consistent behaviors you engage in. In this video, I am covering what each of the six components of gravitas means, using Sylvia Ann Hewlett's framework. Using psychology and social perception, you'll learn what each component means, how it shows up in leadership, and what behaviors you need to start doing to demonstrate that you have gravitas, too. --Get The Gravitas Guide:www.christinaaidy.com/gravitasguide --Take the free presence quiz & find out what impression you're already making:www.christinaaidy.com/quiz --Get the executive presence workshop so you have a custom 14-day roadmap to start showing up with more confidence & better presence:www.christinaaidy.com/executivepresenceworkshop

How you speak is the most visible expression of how you think.If you want to improve your communication skills so you feel and sound confident speaking, regardless of who else is in the room, you're in the right place.In this video, I'm sharing the three techniques I've developed that I've used on myself and my clients that you can start using too, so you see results in as little as 5 minutes a day.Whether you're a leader, director, manager, business owner, or aspiring professional, these techniques will help you improve how you speak, how you articulate your thoughts, and how calm & composed you feel while delivering your message.💥 Curious about how you currently come across to others at work? Take my free 5 minute assessment here and learn what impression you're making right now:https://www.christinaaidy.com/quiz

What does it take to be a good leader?To make the right kind of impression and still feel good at the end of the day?Executive presence & leadership style differs for everyone, but especially for women in leadership. In today's episode, we're talking about why becoming a senior leader can feel so hard, and some of the psychology behind it that you need to hear. If the the advice online has felt hard to implement, in this episode, you'll learn why that's been the case and what you can do about it.I'm Christina, a behavioural researcher who studied social perception. Let's get into it.---Get the executive presence workshop:⁠https://www.christinaaidy.com/executivepresenceworkshop⁠ Take the free presence quiz here:⁠https://www.christinaaidy.com/quiz⁠

If you're working to develop your executive presence but feel stuck and you're unsure of how to actually make all the traits of executive presence (like confidence and gravitas) work for you, then in today's episode you're going to learn what executive presence really means, why the advice online hasn't worked for you so far, and how you can shift your presence to make the right kind of impression in under 30 days. I'm Christina, a behavioural researcher who studied social perception. Let's get into it. --- Get the executive presence workshop: https://www.christinaaidy.com/executivepresenceworkshop  Take the free presence quiz here: https://www.christinaaidy.com/quiz  Read the Substack post: https://drchristinaaidy.substack.com/p/what-is-executive-presence-anyway

Whether you're an executive, a founder, or leading a team, making decisions is part of the job... but making the right decisions, in less time, is what matters. Often, I see smart leaders and founders get caught up in their own thoughts, overthinking every decision, replaying each pro and con, or outsourcing their judgement to other people's opinions. Instead, when you learn to understand your own behavioural patterns and underlying psychology, you start to identify what is stopping you from making a decision and why. In today's episode, I'm sharing the two questions you need to start running every decision through so you can start making decisions you feel more confident about, in less time. --- If you're ready to learn more about the underlying psychological patterns influencing your decisions, get my decision-making workshop here: https://www.christinaaidy.com/decisions If you're working on being seen as a more credible leader and want to understand what the feedback you've received says about your executive presence, get my free Executive Presence Feedback Guide here: ⁠https://www.christinaaidy.com/executivepresencefeedback

Active listening is one of the most important communication skills leaders are expected to have. And yet, the ability to listen deeply is challenging to develop. If you've spent hours consuming advice online, but still feel like you can't listen to others without interrupting, losing focus, or getting caught up in your own thoughts, then this episode will help you understand why. Today, I'm sharing the psychology of active listening you haven't heard before. I'm explaining what it really takes to become a strong active listener so that you can start showing up as a thoughtful, emotionally intelligent leader in every conversation. --- If you're working on being seen as a more credible leader and want to understand what the feedback you've received says about your executive presence, get my free Executive Presence Feedback Guide here: https://www.christinaaidy.com/executivepresencefeedback

Welcome to Part 3, Episode 6 of the Intentional Communication Series. In this episode, we explore one of the most powerful (yet often overlooked) aspects of your communication skills: your body language and non-verbal cues.Research suggests that up to 70–90% of communication is non-verbal. This means that your posture, eye contact, presence, and emotional state often communicate more than your words ever will. But most people aren't taught that their emotional regulation is actually the trick to looking (and sounding) more confident.In this episode, you’ll learn more about why your body communicates before you speak, the connection between your emotions and body language, the difference between fight, flight, freeze & fawn stress responses, and how self-regulation increases influence instantly.True influence isn’t about pretending to be confident - it’s about becoming regulated, present, and intentional. I hope you enjoy today's episode.

Welcome to Episode 7 of the Intentional Communication Series. In this episode, we're talking about a powerful truth most people overlook: influence is not just about what you say, but how you show up while saying it.The truth is, your body language, emotional state, level of self-trust, and internal mindset all shape how confident and credible others perceive you to be. In this episode, you’ll learn why your presence matters more than using the perfect words, the connection between self-trust and influence, the role of emotional congruence in your delivery, and the power of developing grounded confidence.If you’ve ever wondered why some people naturally command respect without trying, this episode will change how you view influence and influential communication.

Welcome to the final episode of the Intentional Communication Series! In this episode, we are bringing together everything you've learned about your mindset, communication skills, body language, self-trust, and authentic confidence.You'll discover why confident communication isn't about copying someone else's style, using scripts, or pretending to be more charismatic, but rather is about understanding yourself, building self-trust, and creating a communication style that feels natural, authentic, and effective.If you've followed this series from the beginning, this episode will help you connect all the pieces and build a communication style that truly reflects who you are.

You're a technical expert and you know what you should say, yet it doesn't come out the right way when you actually speak. You've earned a seat at the table, but you question if you have what it takes to sit there. Then you call it a confidence problem and wonder if you have what it takes to change. If that sounds familiar, this episode is for you. Here's the thing: long before you ever walked into that room, you learned a set of rules about how you're supposed to act. Those rules got you here. And now they're capping what you'll let yourself do... before you've consciously decided anything. In this episode, I'm breaking down where that permission ceiling comes from, why your subconscious version of it wins, and why the same conditioning that made you successful is the thing undercutting your presence now. --- If you want to go deeper into how your psychology shapes the way you come across (and how to build executive presence while working through the self-doubt underneath it), learn more here: https://www.christinaaidy.com/call-free-coaching

Welcome to Ep. 3 of The Psychology of... series! In this episode, I'm explaining the psychology of being motivated and why the advice you've already heard just doesn't seem to keep you consistently motivated on your own goals. The way motivation is talked about online, it can start to feel like a personality trait... or a productivity hack, and if your motivation feels inconsistent (or non-existent) then you can start to feel like the problem is you. But what if the reason none of that advice made you feel consistently motivated has nothing to do with your confidence or productivity, but rather is because of your underlying psychology? In today's episode, I'm describing the basis of your motivation so you can finally recognize what's actually driving you - and work with it intentionally. If you've ever felt like you couldn't get yourself motivated for more than one day at a time, questioning your own skills and expertise in the process... then this episode is for you. --- Join the Executive Signals Community: ⁠https://www.skool.com/executive-signals-4508

Welcome to Ep. 2 of The Psychology of... series! In this episode, I'm explaining the psychology behind imposter syndrome, and why the advice you've already heard online just doesn't seem to work for you. So many tips for overcoming imposter syndrome focus on building more confidence or just faking it until you finally feel like you have the skills to back it up. Fake it till you make it, corporate edition. But what if the reason none of that has worked has nothing to do with your confidence but rather is because of your underlying psychology? In today's episode, we're covering how your perspective is unintentionally fuelling your self-doubt, so you can finally recognize what's actually happening internally for you. If you've ever felt like you couldn't get out of your head, questioning your own skills and expertise, despite having the credentials on paper (the proof that you discount)... then this episode is for you. --- Get the Doubt Workshop Here: https://stan.store/doctorchristinaaidy/p/overcome-doubt--start-making-better-decisions Join the Executive Signals Community: https://www.skool.com/executive-signals-4508

Welcome to The Psychology of... series! In this episode, I'm explaining the psychology behind why you don't feel like an authority yet, and why the tips, courses, and frameworks you've already tried keep failing you. Most advice on sounding like an authority will tell you to fix your posture, use a structured communication formula, or project more confidence. Do the thing, get the result. But what if the reason none of that has worked has nothing to do with your communication skills but rather is because of your underlying psychology? In today's episode, we're covering how your personal definition of authority is shaping how you show (and why it's working against you), the hidden mismatch between you and becoming an authority with your presence, and how to develop a sense of authority that feels authentic and lasts. If you've ever walked out of a meeting knowing you didn't show up the way you wanted to, taken a course and still found yourself rambling, or felt like you were performing confidence rather than actually owning it... this episode will finally give you the psychological reason why, and where to start instead.

Most high achievers believe that if they just want it badly enough, they'll find a way to make it happen. That motivation, discipline, and a clear goal are all you need to perform at your best. But what if the thing that's dismantling your drive has nothing to do with how hard you're working, and instead, everything to do with what you're being exposed to every single day? In this episode, we're getting into the psychology of social influence and why your environment is one of the most underestimated factors in your performance. We're covering the three types of social influence shaping your beliefs about what's possible for you, why the people who love you most can become the biggest obstacle to your ambition (without even realizing it), what resilience actually means for high achievers and why it's the real differentiator between those who keep going and those who don't. If you've ever felt your motivation suddenly disappear after a conversation, a scroll session, or someone else's success story, this episode will give you the psychological framework to understand exactly what's happening and what to do about it. --- 👩‍💻 Join The Coherence Edit: ⁠https://www.skool.com/the-coherence-edit-4804⁠ 📩 Get in touch: ⁠www.christinaaidy.com