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Mind the Gap with Michael Comyn | Season 6, Episode 1 Have you ever noticed how a favourite aftershave seems to disappear after twenty minutes, even though everyone else can still smell it? It turns out there's a rather interesting explanation. And it has surprisingly little to do with aftershave. In this opening episode of Season 6, Michael Comyn explores habituation, the remarkable ability of our brains to stop paying attention to things that have become familiar. It's an essential part of how we function, but what happens when the things we stop noticing are the very things we ought to be paying attention to? Drawing on Nobel Prize-winning research by neuroscientist Eric Kandel, observations from hospitals and workplaces, and lessons from aviation, Michael considers how familiarity can quietly shape our behaviour, our relationships and the cultures of the organisations we lead. From the expensive bottle on the bathroom shelf to the meeting nobody questions anymore, this is a reflection on what happens when the familiar becomes invisible. And there's a particular challenge for leaders. The culture you've created, the routines you've established, and the behaviours you've come to accept may have become almost imperceptible to you. But everyone else can still see them. Perhaps the answer isn't to try harder to notice. Perhaps it's to become more willing to listen to someone who hasn't yet grown accustomed to the room. In this episode: Why our senses and brains adapt to familiar experiences.What Eric Kandel's research into habituation can teach us.How workplace routines and behaviours become normalised.Why silence shouldn't always be mistaken for agreement.What aviation's challenge-and-response approach offers leaders.How to invite honest observations without becoming defensive. One question to take away: What have you become so accustomed to that you can no longer see it, and who around you might be able to tell you? About Mind the Gap Presented by broadcaster, author and leadership adviser Michael Comyn, Mind the Gap explores the space between what happens to us and how we choose to respond. Through personal observations, psychology, emotional intelligence and everyday experiences, the series offers thoughtful reflections on how we think, communicate and relate to one another. Further reading Michael's books, including Mind the Gap, The Next Station Is… and Between the Lines, are available on Amazon. Visit comyn.ie for more information and programme notes. Enjoyed this episode? Follow Mind the Gap on your favourite podcast platform, share it with someone who might appreciate it, and explore previous episodes in the series. #MindTheGap #MichaelComyn #EmotionalIntelligence #Leadership #Habituation #PsychologicalSafety #SelfAwareness #WorkplaceCulture

Episode 90 of Mind the Gap is a pause rather than a conclusion. Looking back through the archive, Michael listens again to the ideas, questions, certainties and contradictions that have shaped the first ninety episodes. What has changed? What still holds true? And what can we learn from the gap between what we say matters and how we actually behave? This episode is an invitation to revisit the archive, sit with the questions that have stayed with you, and notice what you may hear differently now. Mind the Gap will return later in the year. #MindTheGap #Podcast #PodcastEpisode #SelfReflection #PersonalGrowth #HumanBehaviour #Leadership #Psychology #Mindfulness #Change #Curiosity #ListenBack

You know the Dunning-Kruger effect. "The dumbest people are the most confident." Except that's not what the 1999 study actually found — and the correction most people haven't heard is stranger than the myth itself. Michael Comyn traces the real finding, the statistical critique that's since called the famous graph into question, and — instead of handing you a tidier myth to replace the old one — lands somewhere more honest: we know less about this than either the popular version or its takedown would have you believe. A confession as much as an episode. Keywords/tags: Dunning-Kruger effect, cognitive bias, critical thinking, psychology myths, statistics, epistemic humility, self-assessment

"We're a family here." You've heard it, probably from someone who meant it warmly. This week, Michael Comyn takes the phrase more seriously than it usually gets taken — and asks the question nobody stops to ask first: which kind of family, exactly? Because not every family is the good kind. Every office has its golden child, its black sheep, its uncle nobody sits near at Christmas. And even the good kind offers something no employer legally can, or should try to: love that isn't contingent on output. Drawing on years spent moving between organisations rather than living inside one, Michael asks what's really being borrowed when a workplace reaches for the warmest word in the language — and what it usually means when that word shows up loudest. Gentle, a little mischievous, and not aimed at anyone who's ever said it sincerely. Keywords/tags: workplace culture, organisational psychology, leadership language, company culture, employee relations, corporate cliché

The Space Shuttle Challenger disaster wasn't a surprise. Engineers had seen the same O-ring damage on earlier, successful flights — reviewed, discussed, waved through. Nobody hid it. Something quieter had happened first: sociologist Diane Vaughan called it normalisation of deviance — the process by which a rule bent once, safely, quietly resets what "normal" looks like, until the next bend doesn't register as a bend at all. Michael Comyn traces the same mechanism into a hospital corridor — how a routine scan becomes "stat" by drift rather than decision, how a diagnosis narrows without anyone deciding to skip a step — and asks the harder question underneath: how do you tell a bend worth making from one that's quietly rewriting your baseline? Not every shortcut is a countdown to disaster. That's what makes this one hard to see coming. Keywords/tags: normalisation of deviance, Diane Vaughan, Challenger disaster, patient safety, diagnostic error, organisational culture, quality improvement, decision-making

You already know the voice. This week, a different kind of gap — the one between the life you're living and the plot you never actually chose. Michael Comyn draws on psychiatrist Eric Berne's idea of the life script — the unconscious plan for how things are supposed to go, written long before anyone had a vote in it — and lays out six shapes that plot commonly takes. Not a diagnosis. A mirror, held up long enough to notice which shape you flinch at. Five episodes into Season 5, Michael turns from what we say to each other to the older question underneath it: who wrote the story you're currently running, and how far back? For more on the space between intention and impact, Michael's book Mind the Gap is out now on Amazon. https://amzn.eu/d/irNfaHO

The sentence arrives about a second and a half after the remark, and it is always delivered lightly: I'm only joking. Notice where it sits. It doesn't withdraw what was said — it leaves the remark exactly where it is and changes what you're allowed to do about it. Michael Comyn on deniable aggression: why a thirteenth-century West African institution got the rules right, what a linguist in Harlem discovered about the one thing a ritual insult is never allowed to be, and why the person doing the teasing and the person being teased are not in the same joke.

Last week, Michael Comyn made the case for silence. This week, the exception — because there's a second kind of silence, the sentence that was formed, weighed, and then never said. Aviation has a name for the conditions that produce it: the authority gradient, the slope of rank and reputation that information has to climb to reach the person in charge. On a first officer who hinted four times instead of shouting once, on the three words a captain said that saved a hundred and eighty-five people, and on why we, in this country, are world-class at not quite saying the thing.

The voice that tells Ireland to mind the gap spent thirty years being trained never to let silence happen. In radio, they call it dead air — eight seconds of quiet and alarms sound in rooms you'll never see. Then Michael found himself in coaching rooms where the silence after a question turned out to be the only part that mattered. On studio clocks, Irish funerals, the forensic recall of two men avoiding one true sentence, and the answer that only arrives after eleven seconds.

Twenty-six years ago, a voice was recorded in a studio in Manchester. Two takes. The first was used. The second was a safety copy. Nobody thought it would matter. That voice now tells millions of people to mind the gap. Every day. Several thousand times. And still, people fall in the gap. In this Season 5 opener, Michael Comyn returns to the recording studio, to the moment a four-word warning was created almost by accident, and asks the uncomfortable question that the Irish rail network has been wrestling with: why does the most repeated instruction in someone's daily journey arrive when nobody's home? It's a season about the conversation underneath the conversation. About what's said versus what's heard. About the strange truth that the words you weigh the most are almost never the ones that carry the furthest. Welcome back to Mind the Gap.

Sometimes the most intelligent thing in the room is the thing left unsaid. We had a friend called Bob. When someone was being foolish — not malicious, just foolish — Bob wouldn't argue, correct, or sigh. He would go quiet. And in that quiet, the person speaking would hear themselves. Really hear themselves. Be more Bob. In this season finale of Mind the Gap, Michael Comyn explores silence not as an absence but as one of the most powerful tools available to anyone who leads, communicates, or shares a room with others. The silence of restraint — the reply you don't send, the correction you swallow — is the gap between stimulus and response, finally being practised rather than just described. The silence of generosity — stepping back so someone else can step forward — is one of the most demanding things a leader can do. Eighty-one episodes. All of them words. This one is about what the words were always surrounding. Season 4 ends here. Back in June, with a new season and a different set of questions. #MindTheGap #Silence #Leadership #EmotionalIntelligence #Communication #Podcast #PersonalDevelopment #SelfAwareness #IrishPodcast #BeMoreBob

There’s a railway station in Ireland that exists for one purpose only, not to arrive, not to stay, but to move on. In this episode of Mind the Gap, Michael Comyn explores a moment that many of us recognise but rarely name. The point at which learning has done its job. The point at which guidance, coaching, or even a philosophy has taken us as far as it can. Drawing on the teachings of Epictetus and decades of experience in coaching and leadership development, this episode examines the subtle differences between growth and comfort, loyalty and dependency, and staying because it helps… and staying because it feels safe. It’s a reflection for anyone who has ever asked: Am I still growing here, or am I just comfortable? As Season 4 approaches its close, this episode also marks a quiet shift in direction for the podcast, moving beyond its Stoic foundations while keeping the core question at its heart, the gap between intention and action. In this episode: Why the best students eventually leaveThe hidden risk of staying too long in coaching or mentorshipThe difference between support and dependencyWhat Epictetus really expected of his studentsRecognising when the work is complete Closing reflection: Who would you be, and what would you do, if you trusted that you’d already learned what you came to learn? Follow Mind the Gap to stay connected as we move toward the final episode of Season 4 next week.

We’ve all met them. The person who can hold the floor without drawing breath. The one who doesn’t quite notice when someone else is trying to speak. The conversation that somehow becomes… one-sided. In this episode of Mind the Gap, Michael Comyn takes a thoughtful and quietly humorous look at what it really means to be “a bore.” Taking inspiration from a line in Dancing Queen by ABBA, “I’m nothing special… in fact, I’m a bit of a bore,” this episode moves beyond the joke to explore something more revealing. Because being a bore isn’t just about talking too much. It’s about awareness. Or the lack of it. It’s about what happens when conversation stops being a shared experience and becomes something more like a performance, with an audience that never quite agreed to be there. But rather than pointing outward, this episode turns the lens gently back on ourselves. Where do we miss the cues? Where do we hold the floor a little too long? And what does it take to bring a conversation back into balance? This also marks the 80th episode of Mind the Gap since the podcast began. A small milestone, and perhaps a fitting moment to reflect on something so central to the series itself, how we connect, how we listen, and how easily we can miss what’s right in front of us. There’s humour here, certainly. A moment of social theatre you may recognise. But there’s also something more useful underneath it. A reminder that good conversation isn’t about saying more. It’s about noticing more. In this episode: Why being “a bore” has less to do with talking, and more to do with awarenessThe subtle signals we miss in everyday conversationHow one-sided dialogue quietly erodes connectionPractical ways to rebalance conversations without confrontationA simple question to carry into your next interaction If you enjoy Mind the Gap, follow or subscribe and share the episode with someone who values thoughtful conversation. Michael’s books are also available on Amazon.

You walk into a café. The coffee is perfect. The service is efficient. And not once does anyone look at you. This episode starts with that small absence — and follows it somewhere unexpected. Through the emotional labour of public-facing work, the quiet logic of the screen, and the generational shift in what an interaction is even supposed to contain. Eye contact is not a nicety. It never was. And its disappearance says something about all of us — not just the people behind the counter. Mind the Gap with Michael Comyn.

Before offering advice, ask a quieter question “You know what you should do.” Five familiar words, usually offered with kindness, sometimes with genuine care. Yet when we hear them, something small inside us can quietly deflate. In this episode of Mind the Gap, Michael Comyn reflects on the hidden tension inside unsolicited advice. When someone brings us a problem, are they really asking for a solution, or are they asking to be heard? Drawing on his experience as a coach and communicator, Michael explores the difference between fixing and listening, and why the urge to solve someone else’s difficulty may sometimes be about easing our own discomfort. Before the advice arrives, there may be a better question to ask. What does this person actually need from me right now?