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🔥 Episode 65: Opportunity Knocks — When Open Relationship Rules Get Complicated ❤️‍🔥 What happens when one of you is out of town, a stranger sparks a connection, and your carefully crafted relationship rules suddenly get a real-world stress test? 😈 In this episode, Aiden shares a wild, hilarious, and surprisingly heartfelt story from a night in Mexico that leads Anna and Aiden into an honest conversation about attraction, boundaries, consent, jealousy, and what it really means to put your relationship first. 💋 Can you enjoy attention from someone new without needing it to go any further? 🔥 What happens when real-life opportunities don’t fit neatly into your relationship agreements? ❤️ How do you balance individual freedom with the desire to share experiences and never leave your partner feeling left out? From unexpected hotel-room chemistry to the complexities of their relationship constitution, Anna and Aiden unpack the gray areas that every open couple eventually encounters. They explore why enthusiastic consent matters, how assumptions can get you into trouble, and why communicating before you’re caught up in the heat of the moment can make all the difference. Plus, they’re gearing up for some epic lifestyle parties, reflecting on past experiences, and trying to figure out exactly what “go for it” actually means. 💡 The big takeaway? Ethical non-monogamy isn’t about having zero boundaries, never feeling jealous, or getting everything right. It’s about radical honesty, mutual respect, and being willing to work through the messy stuff together. Because at the end of the day, the hottest thing about an open relationship might just be knowing that you and your partner keep choosing each other. ❤️‍🔥 ⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️ If Hacking Love has made you laugh, think, or start a conversation with your partner, please leave us a 5-star review! It helps more people find us--and we LOVE hearing how our crazy experiments are impacting your relationships. ❤️ We want to hear from you and we ALWAYS write back! [email protected] Hacking Love Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/share/g/1YFEEPwYeB/ #EthicalNonMonogamy #OpenRelationships #SwingerLifestyle #LifestyleTravel #RelationshipPodcast #Polyamory #SexPositive #HackingLove

EP 64: Plot Twist: Anna Wants Jasmine Back?! 😳🔥 Our Relationship Constitution Goes to Spain 🇪🇸 We’re BACK after our longest break yet--fresh off our honeymoon in Madrid and Barcelona 🇪🇸 and a very sexy few days with the AYA Society (formerly Naughty Gym) crew. ☀️🍑🔥 This week, our relationship constitution gets tested in real life when Anna finds herself seriously flirting with another man while Aiden sits nearby feeling left out--and wondering, “Is this f*****g lifestyle even for me?” What happens next becomes a surprisingly hot lesson in jealousy, quick repair, and choosing each other without giving up freedom. ❤️‍🔥 Then comes the plot twist longtime listeners will NOT see coming: Anna wants to invite Jasmine back. 😳 Yes. THAT Jasmine. After everything that happened--the secrecy, jealousy, explosive chemistry, therapy, and months of rebuilding--how the hell did we get HERE?! PLUS: 💋 realizing we may not be beginner swingers anymore, ❤️ why we prefer playing together, 😬 Anna’s confession about the condom incident with Bo, ⚖️ sexual scorekeeping, lifestyle tourism, matchmaking a listener 💘, and why Hacking Love Fest might actually happen. 🎉 This one is sexy, messy, funny, and a pretty wild example of just how much our relationship has changed. ⭐️ If Hacking Love has made you laugh, think, or start a conversation with your partner, please leave us a 5-star review! It helps more people find us--and we LOVE hearing how our crazy experiments are impacting your relationships. ❤️ We want to hear from you and we ALWAYS write back! [email protected] Hacking Love Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/share/g/1YFEEPwYeB/ Instagram @HackingLove_Podcast #EthicalNonMonogamy #OpenRelationships #SwingerLifestyle #LifestyleTravel #RelationshipPodcast #Polyamory #SexPositive #HackingLove

What happens when your wildest experiences actually make your relationship stronger? 😈 This week, we're sharing our hottest weekends yet—but the real story isn't about sex. It's about trust. ❤️ We dive into two very different experiences, the surprising lessons they taught us about communication, and how speaking up in the moment prevented jealousy from taking root. We also unpack a realization that changed everything for us: underneath almost every difficult moment was one simple fear—the fear of losing each other. Along the way, we talk about compersion 💞, "sex debt" 😅, learning from other lovers instead of competing with them, and why outside experiences can actually deepen intimacy when your relationship comes first. If you've ever wondered whether opening a relationship can strengthen commitment instead of threatening it, this episode is honest, funny, vulnerable... and definitely a little spicy. 🌶️🔥 We want to hear from you and we ALWAYS write back! [email protected] Hacking Love Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/share/g/1YFEEPwYeB/ Instagram @HackingLove_Podcast #EthicalNonMonogamy #OpenRelationships #SwingerLifestyle #LifestyleTravel #RelationshipPodcast #Polyamory #SexPositive #HackingLove

What happens when you take ethical non-monogamy on the road? In this wild and eye-opening episode of Hacking Love, we head to London for a work trip and decide to turn it into a lifestyle adventure. After connecting with local lifestyle couples through the app, we found ourselves getting an insider's look at London's open-minded community, making new friends from around the world, and accepting an invitation to a British house party that was far more eye-opening than we ever expected. 🍸 New friends and unexpected connections 🌍 A behind-the-scenes look at London's lifestyle scene 🏠 A house party that pushed our comfort zones 🔥 Surprising fantasies, shifting perspectives, and plenty of people living their best lives ❤️ Lessons on travel, connection, and why the lifestyle can be an incredible way to experience a new city and expand your LS community. Join us as we share one of the most fascinating weekends we've had yet, and why "lifestyle tourism" might be our new favorite way to travel. ✈️💋😉 💌 Have thoughts or questions? We'd love to hear from you! We want to hear from you and we ALWAYS write back! [email protected] Hacking Love Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/share/g/1YFEEPwYeB/ Instagram @HackingLove_Podcast #EthicalNonMonogamy #OpenRelationships #SwingerLifestyle #LifestyleTravel #SwingerTourism #RelationshipPodcast #Polyamory #SexPositive #HackingLove

🎧 Ep 61: Our Relationship Constitution Finally Gets Tested 🔥📜💦 After months of emotional chaos 😵‍💫, therapy homework 🛋️, health scares 🏥, awkward healing conversations, and questioning whether we even wanted this lifestyle anymore… we accidentally had one of the hottest nights of our marriage. 😳🔥 In this episode, we take you from a hippie festival orgy tent in the woods, all the way to a sexy summer kickoff pool party 🏖️🍸 where everything we’ve been working on finally clicked into place. We talk about: 💌 The “relationship constitution” that completely changed how we approach openness 🔥 Why trust feels so much stronger now (and why trust makes the sex way hotter) 😂 Getting fired from therapy. AGAIN. 🫵🏼 The surprisingly sexiness of having the decision to play made “for you” 👩🏼‍❤️‍👨🏽 🙋‍♂️ And the MFM experience that somehow managed to be erotic, romantic, healing, freeing, and naughty all at once. Also included: 🎧 DJ’ing an orgy 😅 Anxious attachment at swinger parties 🛋️ Giant cuddle puddles 🧺 Dirty cum rag baskets 🥩 “Fresh meat” at the pool party 🔥 And the moment Aiden said, “We’re doing this,” and Anna finally surrendered. This episode is equal parts vulnerable, funny, emotional, and extremely horny 😈 — which honestly feels very on brand for us at this point. We're baaaaaaaack!! 🙌

Episode 60 is here, and it’s a mix of healing, honesty, and a little chaos. What does it take to rebuild trust after things get shaky? Not through rules, but by learning to feel safe again. From therapy breakthroughs to showing up for each other through health scares (and yes, Anna nearly broke Aiden this time 😏), this episode is about how love, and bodies, repair in real time. We also explore a big question: how much honesty is too much? Do you share every thought? or protect your partner from things that don’t really matter? In this episode: what trust repair really looks likebalancing freedom and security in open relationshipsredefining openness in a way that protects your connectionand why our chemistry is still very much alive 🔥Real, raw, and a little ridiculous… just how we like it. Come hang with us 🎧✨

Ep 59: When Real Life Hits 💔🏥 Rebuilding Trust, Therapy Breakthroughs & Our Relationship Reset After one of the hardest seasons we’ve ever faced, we’re finally sitting down to share where we really are now—and what it took to get here. In this episode, we open up about everything that happened behind the scenes after Episode 58—from a 10-day relationship pause and intense therapy work to a scary medical emergency that changed our perspective overnight. This isn’t about drama—it’s about repair. About what happens after the conflict. About how trust actually gets rebuilt… not just through words, but through showing up when it matters most. We talk about: 💔 Why our relationship hit one of its lowest points—and what finally shifted🧠 The reality of taking space vs. staying connected (and how it affects each partner differently)🏥 How a health scare reframed everything—and unexpectedly rebuilt trust📜 Creating a “relationship constitution” to prevent future breakdowns💬 Using nonviolent communication to stop toxic cycles before they spiral🔥 What we’re learning about desire, boundaries, and staying open—without losing each otherWe also reflect on our early episodes and the “honeymoon phase” we thought would last forever… and how what we’re building now might actually be better. If you’ve ever wondered how couples come back from the edge—or how to repair after trust is shaken—this episode is honest, vulnerable, and full of hard-earned clarity. We’re not perfect. But we’re still here. And we’re doing the work. ❤️ Relationship Constitution: https://drive.google.com/file/d/1vj0eyYixSox18XbxRzBf-zG5RgpntyoE/view?usp=share_link 💌🔥 We want to hear from you and we ALWAYS write back! [email protected] Hacking Love Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/share/g/1YFEEPwYeB/ Instagram @HackingLove_Podcast

What happens when you say you’re okay… but your nervous system says otherwise? In this deeply raw episode, Anna and Aiden pull back the curtain on what it really looks like in the aftermath of pushing boundaries in an open relationship. Recorded just days after Aiden’s MFM experience—and in the thick of emotional fallout—they unpack the disconnect between “we’re fine” and what’s actually happening beneath the surface. From feeling dismissed or unheard to navigating ghosting, jealousy, and mismatched emotional timelines, this episode captures the messy middle that most couples don’t talk about. You’ll hear the tension, the miscommunication, and the real-time struggle to balance individual needs with the relationship as a whole. They also explore: Why timing matters more than we think when processing emotional experiencesHow ghosting and unresolved connections can amplify insecurityThe difference between enduring something vs. actually wanting itWhy “being the cool partner” can backfire—and what it costsThe moment they realize they’ve pushed past their limits…and need to resetThis isn’t the polished version of open relationships—it’s the honest, uncomfortable, human version. And if you’ve ever felt like you should be okay with something you’re not, this one will hit close to home. If you’re navigating non-monogamy—or just trying to communicate better in your relationship—this episode is a powerful reminder that growth doesn’t always look graceful…but it can still bring you closer. 💌🔥 We want to hear from you and we ALWAYS write back! [email protected] Hacking Love Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/share/g/1YFEEPwYeB/ Instagram @HackingLove_Podcast

In this episode, we face our biggest test yet: what happens when chemistry with someone new starts to shake the foundation of everything we’ve built? ⚡💔 In this brutally honest episode (edit: don't worry guys, we're fine!), Anna opens up about her fears around a woman who may be crossing boundaries, while Aiden finds himself fumbling through coffee dates, phone calls, and the emotional tightrope of trying to stay connected to everyone involved in this unfolding dynamic. What starts as an opportunity for Aiden (at last!) quickly turns into something much more complicated. ☕📱🫦 We dive into the hard questions: Are we accidentally drifting toward polyamory? 🤯How do you handle jealousy without turning into the relationship police? 🚨When does attraction stop being exciting and start feeling like a threat? 🔥➡️😬In attempt to understand, we dive in to the poly books (spoiler: we’re still not poly), talk about why rigid rules often lead to secrecy, and get painfully real about what comes up when freedom and fear collide. 📚💭 Topics include: radical honesty vs. emotional protection, swinging vs. polyamory, codependence vs. healthy interdependence, and how to voice insecurity without controlling your partner. 🧠❤️‍🩹 This episode is messy, vulnerable, and deeply human… a front-row seat to what happens when someone new becomes a potential game changer. 🎙️💥 We want to hear from you and we ALWAYS write back! [email protected] Hacking Love Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/share/g/1YFEEPwYeB/ Instagram @HackingLove_Podcast

This one’s all about the little details that really matter—like where your partner has sex with someone else. 😂 In this episode, we dive deep into the surprisingly emotional conversation about location preferences for separate play (yes, we’re debating Motel 6 vs. a romantic yurt vs our own homes), and how these seemingly small choices can stir up big feelings around fairness, privacy, control, and intimacy. We also give a sweet update on our Hacking Nicaragua retreat crew—and how the three amazing couples are thriving months later with more connection, better sex, and healthier habits. And finally, we read through all your recent reviews—including the ones that made us laugh, cringe, and cheer—and share our honest (and sometimes sassy) reactions. Whether you’re new to the lifestyle or just figuring out your own rules, this one is full of real talk, inside jokes, and the kind of conversations that keep a relationship evolving. ❤️🔥 We want to hear from you and we ALWAYS write back! [email protected] Hacking Love Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/share/g/1YFEEPwYeB/ Instagram @HackingLove_Podcast

After weeks of messy feelings, deep dives, and sexting slip-ups, we finally sat down to co-create our Relationship Constitution—or at least, what we think we want it to be (for now!). From rules around emotional support and separate play to a surprising agreement about one last solo date with Jasmine for Aiden, we get real about what safety, fairness, and connection look like in an open marriage. We also spill the juicy details from our wild New Year’s Eve party—including a successful Trimix comeback (no ER visits this time!).✨ Whether you're figuring out your own boundaries or just here for the voyeurism, this episode is packed with big feels, honest renegotiations, and a whole lot of sexy fun. We want to hear from you and we ALWAYS write back! [email protected] Hacking Love Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/share/g/1YFEEPwYeB/ Instagram @HackingLove_Podcast

Ep 54: Taking the Governor Off 🚦💬 Sexy Texts, Separate Play, and Surrendering Control What happens when Anna’s working through her own insecurities and growing pains--but still wants to give Aiden the green light to connect and date separately? In this episode, we open up about our processing after Aiden’s solo coffee meetup with Jasmine—and the unexpected emotional fallout it triggered. From guilt and arousal to fear and freedom, we walk through the intimate conversations that led us to a big new step: taking the governor off our texts with others. That’s right—flirty, sexy, transparent one-on-one texting is officially on the table (for both of us), and we’re seeing what it stirs up. We explore what it means to support your partner’s desires even when they scare you, why transparency matters more than ever, and how arousal and anxiety can surprisingly coexist in open relationships. If you’ve ever wondered how to balance eroticism with emotional safety—or just want a peek into how couples actually navigate these moments—you’re gonna want to hear this one. 💌🔥 We want to hear from you and we ALWAYS write back! [email protected] Hacking Love Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/share/g/1YFEEPwYeB/ Instagram @HackingLove_Podcast

**NOTE We recommend listening to Ep 52 first! This is the second part of that episode.** This one’s raw, real, and healing. 💔💬 In Part 2 of our session with relationship coach Chloe, we go deep into the emotional fallout from a separate play experience gone wrong: a broken condom agreement, a breach of trust, and the lingering ache of unspoken fears. Anna confronts her body’s visceral “no” while Aiden fights to be believed. We share the tools Chloe gave us to move forward—from how to feel the ick without letting it run the show to how to rebuild trust when our gut screams otherwise. If you've ever struggled with trust, jealousy, or feeling safe after something goes sideways, this episode is for you. We’re not sugarcoating anything—there are apologies, hard truths, and even a little laughter. We also dive into how we’re rewriting our “relationship constitution” to define what privacy, honesty, and emotional safety mean for us now. ❤️‍🔥 You’ll walk away with tools and insights to navigate your own love, open or not. Contact Relationship Coach Chloe Prentoulis at www.swoon.coach Email: [email protected] Phone 949-482-2464 We want to hear from you and we ALWAYS write back! [email protected] Hacking Love Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/share/g/1YFEEPwYeB/ Instagram @HackingLove_Podcast

In this candid and emotionally charged episode, we welcome back relationship coach Chloe Prentoulis for an on-air coaching session after a challenging event in our open relationship. Together, we navigate the aftermath of jealousy, trust breaches, and the struggle to balance what we know intellectually with what we feel emotionally. This one was tough, y’all. With Chloe’s guidance, we unpack our fears, communicate our needs, and work to rebuild trust using practical tools and “nonviolent communication” protocols. This conversation offers a rare, unfiltered look at the complexities of non-monogamy and the ongoing work it takes for us to stay connected and resilient. If you’re seeking honest insight into the realities of open relationships and the courage it takes to grow together, this episode is for you. Contact Relationship Coach Chloe Prentoulis at www.swoon.coach Email: [email protected] Phone 949-482-2464 We want to hear from you and we ALWAYS write back! [email protected] Hacking Love Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/share/g/1YFEEPwYeB/ Instagram @HackingLove_Podcast

This one’s raw, y’all. After our separate play experiences at the Christmas party (Aiden with Jasmine, Anna with Tony), we thought we’d processed everything. But it turns out...not even close. In this episode, we invite you into a super intimate, real-time recording where Anna finally drops the mask and shares all the big, messy, insecure thoughts she was too embarrassed to say the day before. Intrusive thoughts, catastrophizing, jealousy spirals, and worst-case-scenario fear — all laid bare. You’ll hear us reading our personal, raw notes to each other, sorting through trust, safety, and what it means to really support your partner when they’re hurting—even if it means hearing things you don’t want to hear. If you’ve ever told yourself “I’m fine” when you weren’t, or struggled with the aftermath of separate play, we hope this gives you permission to be human too. ❤️ Plus: two emotional voice memos, a lot of reassurance, and the moment we realized we’re way more aligned than we thought. Tune in, feel seen, and remember–the only way through is through. 🌀 We want to hear from you and we ALWAYS write back! [email protected] Hacking Love Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/share/g/1YFEEPwYeB/ Instagram @HackingLove_Podcast