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Letting go runs through every stage of unschooling — from releasing control over what children learn, to accepting that family life changes shape without warning. The last run with all your daughters, the last night in a house you raised your children in, the last time a child needs you to put their shoes on. These moments pass without announcement. Cecilie Conrad, Sandra Dodd, and Sue Elvis use this final episode of season three to talk about what they've let go of and what still holds. Sandra describes her adult children's lives after unschooling and the shift from being central to being a resource. Sue reflects on whether to continue her unschooling blog or let it go, and on the difference between lazy letting go and wise letting go. Cecilie talks about her family's current transition as three of her children enter formal study. Together they discuss letting go of fixed ideas about identity, letting go of the need for others to follow the same path, and the value of making decisions from a good place rather than a desperate one. The conversation closes with gratitude, new friendships, and no regrets. 🗓️ Recorded December 7, 2025. 📍 Tarragona, Spain 🔗 Sandra, Sue and Cecilie's websites https://sandradodd.com https://storiesofanunschoolingfamily.com https://cecilieconrad.com Send a message Support the show In season 3 of Ladies Fixing the World, host Cecilie Conrad is joined by longtime unschooling voices Sandra Dodd and Sue Elvis to explore unschooling as a lifestyle.

The two most common practical questions about unschooling are how much it costs and how much time it takes. Neither has a simple answer. One parent usually stops earning a full income. Some expenses disappear — uniforms, rain gear, processed food, school fees — while others appear: music lessons, sports equipment, a computer for a gamer. The budget shifts with the seasons. Cecilie Conrad, Sandra Dodd, and Sue Elvis talk about what it actually looks like to manage money and time as unschooling families. They share stories of tight months, handmade Christmas gifts, charity shop finds, and the creativity that comes when resources are limited. They discuss why withholding from children to "teach the value of money" often backfires, how generosity is learned through experiencing it, and why spending unequally on different children based on their actual needs is fairer than splitting everything evenly. On the question of time, they push back on the idea that unschooling is something parents must endure — and describe it instead as the richest use of the years they have with their children. 🗓️ Recorded November 30, 2025. 📍 Tarragona, Spain 🔗 Sandra, Sue and Cecilie's websites https://sandradodd.com https://storiesofanunschoolingfamily.com https://cecilieconrad.com Send a message Support the show In season 3 of Ladies Fixing the World, host Cecilie Conrad is joined by longtime unschooling voices Sandra Dodd and Sue Elvis to explore unschooling as a lifestyle.

Reading dominates how most people think about learning. Schools treat it as the first skill and the primary method. But children learn language, movement, culture, and complex ideas long before they read a word — and many things can never be learned from a book at all. Sandra Dodd, Cecilie Conrad, and Sue Elvis talk about what children and adults learn without reading: music by ear, cooking by doing, sports by playing, trades by apprenticeship. They discuss how Holly, who didn't read until 11, outperformed her peers in a speech because she had no script to fall back on. They look at how YouTube, audiobooks, and conversation have expanded what's possible without reading — and why pushing children to read before they're ready can limit rather than expand their learning. The conversation also touches on Shakespeare as something better heard than read, the difference between memorizing words and real reading, and why book worship deserves the same questioning unschoolers bring to everything else. 🗓️ Recorded November 11, 2025. 📍  Tarragona, Spain 🔗 Sandra, Sue and Cecilie's websites https://sandradodd.com https://storiesofanunschoolingfamily.com https://cecilieconrad.com Send a message Support the show In season 3 of Ladies Fixing the World, host Cecilie Conrad is joined by longtime unschooling voices Sandra Dodd and Sue Elvis to explore unschooling as a lifestyle.

Schools spend enormous amounts of time on repetition, testing, classroom management, and re-teaching material year after year. Unschooling skips all of that. When a child learns something because they wanted to know it, it stays. There is no surface learning, no forgotten curriculum — just real knowledge built from curiosity and experience. Cecilie Conrad, Sandra Dodd, and Sue Elvis look at why unschooling turns out to be remarkably efficient, even though no one chooses it for that reason. They discuss how children build their own scaffolding of knowledge, why school textbooks often teach in ways that confuse rather than clarify, and how unschooled teenagers arrive at formal education — when they choose it — already understanding the concepts and only needing the notation. The conversation also touches on the differences in homeschooling laws across countries and how to work within those systems without abandoning unschooling principles. 🗓️ Recorded September 23, 2025. 📍  Åmarksgård, Lille Skensved, Denmark 🔗 Sandra, Sue and Cecilie's websites https://sandradodd.com https://storiesofanunschoolingfamily.com https://cecilieconrad.com Send a message Support the show In season 3 of Ladies Fixing the World, host Cecilie Conrad is joined by longtime unschooling voices Sandra Dodd and Sue Elvis to explore unschooling as a lifestyle.

Unschooling is often framed as a choice made for the children, but the changes run deeper than that. Over time, parents find themselves questioning inherited habits, rethinking authority, and arriving at a different relationship with their own values and daily choices. Cecilie Conrad, Sandra Dodd, and Sue Elvis talk about what it actually looks like when parents let go of the management mindset — the chore lists, the tick-box parenting, the idea that control equals care. They discuss how unschooling reshapes the couple's relationship, how personality traits show up across generations, and how following a child's interests opens doors parents would never have walked through on their own. The conversation covers the fear at the beginning, the patience required, and the slow process of becoming a different kind of parent — not by studying, but by doing it. 🔗 Sandra, Sue and Cecilie's websites https://sandradodd.com https://storiesofanunschoolingfamily.com https://cecilieconrad.com 🗓️ Recorded September 18, 2025. 📍  Åmarksgård, Lille Skendsved, Denmark Send a message Support the show In season 3 of Ladies Fixing the World, host Cecilie Conrad is joined by longtime unschooling voices Sandra Dodd and Sue Elvis to explore unschooling as a lifestyle.

Intensity, repetition, and long stretches of focus are common in unschooling families. Interests may look narrow, obsessive, or unbalanced when viewed through school-based expectations—patterns that can trigger parental fear. Worries about outcomes, careers, balance, and future security shape how adults interpret a child’s focus, sometimes turning support into pressure or ownership. Cecilie Conrad, Sandra Dodd, and Sue Elvis describe a picture of unschooling where interests are allowed to exist without being justified or managed. Obsessions are treated as part of living rather than signals of success or failure, and parental work centers less on directing paths and more on trust, time, and relationship. 🔗 Sandra, Sue and Cecilie's websites https://sandradodd.com  https://storiesofanunschoolingfamily.com  https://cecilieconrad.com 🗓️ Recorded September 4, 2025. 📍  Åmarksgård, Lille Skensved, Denmark Send a message Support the show In season 3 of Ladies Fixing the World, host Cecilie Conrad is joined by longtime unschooling voices Sandra Dodd and Sue Elvis to explore unschooling as a lifestyle.

How does a typical day look in an unschooling family’s life? - This is one of the first questions people ask about unschooling. It often carries an unspoken hope for reassurance, structure, or a picture that makes the choice feel understandable. Cecilie Conrad, Sandra Dodd, and Sue Elvis approach the question from different lives and contexts, letting it stay open rather than pinning it down. Their perspectives point toward patterns, values, and rhythms instead of schedules. What emerges is a sense of how unschooling days are shaped less by plans and appearances and more by time, attention, and relationships lived over many changing seasons. 🔗 Links from Sue Elvis to this episode The Changing Seasons of the Unschooling YearWhy Unschoolers Do What They DoWhat Do Unschoolers Do Each Day?Typical Unschooling Days🔗 Sandra, Sue and Cecilie's websites https://sandradodd.com https://storiesofanunschoolingfamily.com https://cecilieconrad.com🗓️ Recorded September 2, 2025. 📍  Åmarksgård, Lille Skensved, Denmark Send a message Support the show In season 3 of Ladies Fixing the World, host Cecilie Conrad is joined by longtime unschooling voices Sandra Dodd and Sue Elvis to explore unschooling as a lifestyle.

Language keeps showing up in unschooling conversations: Parents ask about reading, writing, spelling, confidence, exposure, and whether children will “miss something” without lessons or requirements. Language can become the place where worries about competence, comparison, and readiness collect, especially for parents who did not enjoy language themselves. Underlying the whole conversation is a familiar unschooling question: What happens when language is learned through living, culture, play, and shared meaning instead of study and control? 🔗 Sandra, Sue and Cecilie's websites https://sandradodd.com https://storiesofanunschoolingfamily.com https://cecilieconrad.com🗓️ Recorded August 26, 2025. 📍  Åmarksgård, Lille Skensved, Denmark Send a message Support the show In season 3 of Ladies Fixing the World, host Cecilie Conrad is joined by longtime unschooling voices Sandra Dodd and Sue Elvis to explore unschooling as a lifestyle.

Food keeps showing up in parenting and unschooling conversations: Parents ask about sugar, rules, nutrition, fairness, parties, allergies, ethics, and what happens when children want something different from what the family values. Food can become the place where worries about health, control, and “doing it right” concentrate. Underlying the whole conversation is a familiar unschooling question: What happens when we replace control with trust? 🔗 Sandra, Sue and Cecilie's websites https://sandradodd.com https://storiesofanunschoolingfamily.com https://cecilieconrad.com🗓️ Recorded August 26, 2025. 📍  Åmarksgård, Lille Skensved, Denmark Send a message Support the show In season 3 of Ladies Fixing the World, host Cecilie Conrad is joined by longtime unschooling voices Sandra Dodd and Sue Elvis to explore unschooling as a lifestyle.

How do you handle skeptical questions about unschooling without freezing, defending, or preaching? Cecilie, Sandra, and Sue share real-life stories and gentle scripts for staying kind, grounded, and clear when people don’t understand unschooling. 🗓️ Recorded July 1, 2025. 📍  Åmarksgård, Lille Skensved, Denmark  🔗 Links & Resources https://sandradodd.com/strewing https://storiesofanunschoolingfamily.com  https://cecilieconrad.com Send a message Support the show In season 3 of Ladies Fixing the World, host Cecilie Conrad is joined by longtime unschooling voices Sandra Dodd and Sue Elvis to explore unschooling as a lifestyle.

How do unschooling families handle life when plans fall apart? Sandra Dodd, Cecilie Conrad, and Sue Elvis share real experiences—from illness, grief, and moving house to everyday disruptions like broken toilets and power cuts. They demonstrate how flexibility, trust, and connection transform uncertainty into learning, and how children raised without rigid schedules develop resilience, adaptability, and emotional strength through real-life experiences. 🔗 Sandra, Sue and Cecilie's websites https://sandradodd.com https://storiesofanunschoolingfamily.com https://cecilieconrad.com🗓️ Recorded June 26, 2025. 📍  Åmarksgård, Lille Skensved, Denmark Send a message Support the show In season 3 of Ladies Fixing the World, host Cecilie Conrad is joined by longtime unschooling voices Sandra Dodd and Sue Elvis to explore unschooling as a lifestyle.

What counts as a resource when you don’t follow a school curriculum? Cecilie Conrad, Sandra Dodd, and Sue Elvis discuss how unschooling families use communities, libraries, museums, clubs, work, online connections, and family gatherings as resources, showing that learning extends far beyond books and classes. 🗓️ Recorded June 17, 2025. 📍 Åmarksgård, Denmark  🔗 Links & Resources https://sandradodd.com https://storiesofanunschoolingfamily.com https://cecilieconrad.comSend a message Support the show In season 3 of Ladies Fixing the World, host Cecilie Conrad is joined by longtime unschooling voices Sandra Dodd and Sue Elvis to explore unschooling as a lifestyle.

In this episode, Cecilie, Sandra, and Sue unpack the popular—but often misleading—idea of freedom in unschooling. What does it really mean to live freely, and what’s the cost when freedom becomes the goal instead of a tool? They discuss how some families rush into radical unschooling, letting go of all structure without understanding the role of guidance, responsibility, and deschooling. Sandra shares stories of families who confused “freedom” with letting go too fast—leaving children overwhelmed and relationships strained. The conversation explores the difference between being free and making good choices. True unschooling isn’t about abandoning rules—it’s about creating rich lives where children learn through real decisions, not in the absence of boundaries but within thoughtful, responsive relationships. They also address the legal and social realities unschoolers face, the dangers of turning unschooling into a competitive performance, and the importance of peaceful family dynamics. Unschooling can work—but only when parents are engaged, informed, and honest with themselves and their children. 🔗 Sandra, Sue and Cecilie's websites https://sandradodd.com https://storiesofanunschoolingfamily.com https://cecilieconrad.com🗓️ Recorded June 11, 2025. 📍  Åmarksgård, Lille Skendsved, Denmark Send a message Support the show In season 3 of Ladies Fixing the World, host Cecilie Conrad is joined by longtime unschooling voices Sandra Dodd and Sue Elvis to explore unschooling as a lifestyle.

What happens when unschooling parents trade control for genuine connection? In this deep and honest conversation, Cecilie Conrad (Denmark), Sandra Dodd (USA), and Sue Elvis (Australia) tackle the big questions of attachment, freedom, and how trust transforms the parent-child relationship. Many parents fear that giving their children more freedom will mean losing influence over values and choices—or that it will lead to chaos. But as these three unschooling pioneers explore, true freedom isn't something we “give” our kids—it's something they already have. The real question: How do we nurture healthy attachment and remain an anchor, even as our children make their own decisions? The episode weaves together practical wisdom and lived experience: Why attachment and trust—not rules—build resilient, independent humansNavigating teen risk-taking, boundaries, and “mistakes”How to be your child’s partner, not their adversaryDealing with fears about religion, lifestyle choices, and social influenceWhy trying to control values and behaviors can backfireThe difference between “not influencing” and being a true guideHow parent-child partnership grows empathy, patience, and wisdom for both generationsCecilie, Sandra, and Sue also reflect on how unschooling changes the whole family, and why letting go of control doesn’t mean stepping back from guidance or care. They share stories about “swallowing camels,” cultural idioms, social skills, and the humbling lessons learned from listening to (and learning with) their own kids. 🔗 Sandra, Sue and Cecilie's websites https://sandradodd.com https://storiesofanunschoolingfamily.com https://cecilieconrad.com🗓️ Recorded May 1, 2025. 📍  Budapest, Hungary Send a message Support the show In season 3 of Ladies Fixing the World, host Cecilie Conrad is joined by longtime unschooling voices Sandra Dodd and Sue Elvis to explore unschooling as a lifestyle.

Cecilie Conrad, Sandra Dodd, and Sue Elvis discuss doubt and fear in unschooling—where they come from, how they spread, and how to move through them without defaulting to school-based thinking. They explore the pressure of responsibility, the impact of lingering fears, and why letting go of outcomes helps build trust in both learning and relationships. They talk about how fear can be reinforced through casual conversation, especially when parents share worst-case scenarios or compare their children to school-based standards. The discussion includes the idea that much of what parents worry about is based on assumptions that haven’t been questioned, and how simply asking “Is it true?” can shift how we see our role. There’s also a focus on how unschooling parents can become more confident, not by forcing results, but by staying present, observing real growth over time, and letting go of the need to control outcomes. The conversation points to a broader definition of success—one that includes emotional well-being, agency, and the ability to build a life that fits, rather than one that follows external benchmarks.´ 🔗 Sandra, Sue and Cecilie's websites https://sandradodd.com https://storiesofanunschoolingfamily.com https://cecilieconrad.com🗓️ Recorded April 28, 2025. 📍  Budapest, Hungary Send a message Support the show In season 3 of Ladies Fixing the World, host Cecilie Conrad is joined by longtime unschooling voices Sandra Dodd and Sue Elvis to explore unschooling as a lifestyle.