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We slow down and practice simple tools to move from survival to safety, using consent-based exercises, micro-practices, and imagery to regulate the nervous system. We talk about building a 911 card, explore glimmers, and use music and compassion to make calm more reachable. If you need some embodied coaching, we are happy to walk alongside you and help develop that strong toolkit with you. Our contact information is in the show notes and in the description. You can find us at www.thejourneyandheprocess.com. Wanna say hi? Send a text!  This book is for every Christian woman who has been harmed sexually, whether that happened in childhood, adulthood, or even within your coercive controlling marriage, and you're longing to feel safe in your body again. We talk about the hard stuff, shame, desire, faith, and even questions like, is this sin or is this trauma?You don't have to untangle it alone. Body & Soul, Healed & Whole is for you. Get a copy here today - https://a.co/d/8Jo3Z4V 🎧 Subscribe to Hey Tabi for more expert conversations on trauma, faith, and healing. Order Body & Soul, Healed & Whole: An Invitational Guide to Healthy Sexuality After Trauma, Abuse, and Coercive Control Wanna support Hey Tabi? Buy me a coffee here - https://buymeacoffee.com/heytabi 📩 Connect with Tabitha: 💻 Tabitha's Website - www.tabithawestbrook.com 📲 Tabitha's Instagram - www.instagram.com/tabithathecounselor 🎙️ Podcast Homepage - https://heytabi.buzzsprout.com 💻 The Journey & The Process Website - www.thejourneyandtheprocess.com 📲 The Journey & The Process Instagram - www.instagram.com/_tjatp Subscribe to my YouTube Channel & watch podcast episodes there 👍 If this episode resonated with you, please like, subscribe, and share to help others who need this information! 🚨 Disclaimer: This podcast is not therapy and is intended for educational purposes only. If you're in crisis or need therapy, please reach out to a licensed mental health professional. Need to know...

What happens when emotions are ignored, suppressed, or labeled as “wrong”? For many trauma survivors—especially those raised in Christian spaces—emotional suppression doesn’t lead to peace or holiness. It leads to anxiety, shame, disconnection, and relational breakdown. In this episode of Hey Tabi, trauma therapist Tabitha Westbrook sits down with licensed marriage and family therapist Emma Ward to talk honestly about the hidden damage of emotional suppression—and how real healing begins. Together, they explore: Why emotional suppression is so common in Christian cultureHow unprocessed emotions show up as anxiety, anger, shame, or numbnessThe difference between having emotions and being ruled by themHow trauma impacts emotional awareness and the bodyWhat Scripture actually shows us about emotions (including Jesus’ own emotional life)Emma also shares the heart behind her E-motion Monsters emotional literacy cards and why learning the language of emotion is essential for healing, healthy relationships, and embodied faith. Find Emma: E-motion Monster Cards - https://e-motionmonsters.com/ The Ahava Way (therapy & intensives) - https://theahavaway.com/ Wanna say hi? Send a text! At The Journey and The Process we strive to help you heal. Our therapists are trauma specialists who use evidence-based tools like EMDR, Brainspotting, Somatic Experiencing, and Internal Family Systems to help you heal - mind, soul, and body. Reach out today to start your healing journey. https://thejourneyandtheprocess.com/  This book is for every Christian woman who has been harmed sexually, whether that happened in childhood, adulthood, or even within your coercive controlling marriage, and you're longing to feel safe in your body again. We talk about the hard stuff, shame, desire, faith, and even questions like, is this sin or is this trauma?You don't have to untangle it alone. Body & Soul, Healed & Whole is for you. Get a copy here today - https://a.co/d/8Jo3Z4V 🎧 Subscribe to Hey Tabi for more expert conversations on trauma, faith, and healing. Order Body & Soul, Healed & Whole: An Invitational Guide to Healthy Sexuality After Trauma, Abuse, and Coercive Control Wanna support Hey Tabi? Buy me a coffee here - https://buymeacoffee.com/heytabi 📩 Connect with Tabitha: 💻 Tabitha's Website - www.tabithawestbrook.com 📲 Tabitha's Instagram - www.instagram.com/tabithathecounselor 🎙️ Podcast Homepage - https://heytabi.buzzsprout.com 💻 The Journey & The Process Website - www.thejourneyandtheprocess.com 📲 The Journey & The Process Instagram - www.instagram.com/_tjatp Subscribe to my YouTube Channel & watch podcast episodes there 👍 If this episode resonated with you, please like, subscribe, and share to help others who need this information! 🚨 Disclaimer: This podcast is not therapy and is intended for educational purposes only. If you're in crisis or need therapy, please reach out to a licensed mental health professional. Need to know...

What does it actually look like when the Church gets it right for survivors of abuse? In this powerful episode of Hey Tabi, licensed trauma therapist and coercive control expert Tabitha Westbrook sits down with Dawn Jones, founder of Restored to Thrive, a church-based ministry supporting women healing from domestic abuse/coercive control, and relational trauma. So often, abuse survivors experience silence, minimization, or spiritual bypassing in church spaces. But this conversation offers something different: a real-life example of a church that chose survivors over systems—and the healing that followed. Together, Tabitha and Dawn talk openly about: How coercive control and emotional abuse show up in Christian marriagesWhy traditional marriage counseling can be dangerous in abusive relationshipsWhat abuse survivors actually need from pastors and church leadersHow safe, trauma-informed church communities foster real healingThe life-saving impact of being believed, supported, and protected🔗 Resources Mentioned: Leslie Vernick – The Emotionally Destructive Marriage, https://leslievernick.com/Called to Peace Ministries, https://calledtopeace.org/National Domestic Violence Hotline (U.S.): 1-800-799-7233Wanna say hi? Send a text! At The Journey and The Process we strive to help you heal. Our therapists are trauma specialists who use evidence-based tools like EMDR, Brainspotting, Somatic Experiencing, and Internal Family Systems to help you heal - mind, soul, and body. Reach out today to start your healing journey. https://thejourneyandtheprocess.com/  This book is for every Christian woman who has been harmed sexually, whether that happened in childhood, adulthood, or even within your coercive controlling marriage, and you're longing to feel safe in your body again. We talk about the hard stuff, shame, desire, faith, and even questions like, is this sin or is this trauma?You don't have to untangle it alone. Body & Soul, Healed & Whole is for you. Get a copy here today - https://a.co/d/8Jo3Z4V 🎧 Subscribe to Hey Tabi for more expert conversations on trauma, faith, and healing. Order Body & Soul, Healed & Whole: An Invitational Guide to Healthy Sexuality After Trauma, Abuse, and Coercive Control Wanna support Hey Tabi? Buy me a coffee here - https://buymeacoffee.com/heytabi 📩 Connect with Tabitha: 💻 Tabitha's Website - www.tabithawestbrook.com 📲 Tabitha's Instagram - www.instagram.com/tabithathecounselor 🎙️ Podcast Homepage - https://heytabi.buzzsprout.com 💻 The Journey & The Process Website - www.thejourneyandtheprocess.com 📲 The Journey & The Process Instagram - www.instagram.com/_tjatp Subscribe to my YouTube Channel & watch podcast episodes there 👍 If this episode resonated with you, please like, subscribe, and share to help others who need this information! 🚨 Disclaimer: This podcast is not therapy and is intended for educational purposes only. If you're in crisis or need therapy, please reach out to a licensed mental health professional. Need to know...

All abuse is physical abuse—even when there are no visible bruises. In this episode of Hey Tabi, licensed trauma therapist and domestic abuse expert Tabitha Westbrook explains the neuroscience behind coercive control and why survivors often experience brain fog, memory problems, anxiety, emotional numbness, and difficulty concentrating long after the abuse has ended. Drawing from current neuroscience research and clinical experience, Tabitha walks through how coercive control and chronic emotional abuse can cause real brain injuries, including emotional concussions and mild traumatic brain injuries (mTBI)—and why this is so often missed, minimized, or misdiagnosed. If you’ve ever thought: “I should be better by now”“I know I’m safe, but my body doesn’t believe it”“My brain just doesn’t work like it used to”“Why am I still struggling?”This episode may finally help things make sense. In this episode, we cover: Why all abuse is physical abuse from a neuroscience perspectiveHow coercive control changes brain function and blood flowEmotional concussions and trauma-related brain injuries explained simplyWhy survivors are frequently misdiagnosed with anxiety, depression, or ADHDCommon brain-based symptoms survivors blame on themselvesHow healing is possible through whole-person, trauma-informed careWhy rest, nervous system regulation,Wanna say hi? Send a text! At The Journey and The Process we strive to help you heal. Our therapists are trauma specialists who use evidence-based tools like EMDR, Brainspotting, Somatic Experiencing, and Internal Family Systems to help you heal - mind, soul, and body. Reach out today to start your healing journey. https://thejourneyandtheprocess.com/  This book is for every Christian woman who has been harmed sexually, whether that happened in childhood, adulthood, or even within your coercive controlling marriage, and you're longing to feel safe in your body again. We talk about the hard stuff, shame, desire, faith, and even questions like, is this sin or is this trauma?You don't have to untangle it alone. Body & Soul, Healed & Whole is for you. Get a copy here today - https://a.co/d/8Jo3Z4V 🎧 Subscribe to Hey Tabi for more expert conversations on trauma, faith, and healing. Order Body & Soul, Healed & Whole: An Invitational Guide to Healthy Sexuality After Trauma, Abuse, and Coercive Control Wanna support Hey Tabi? Buy me a coffee here - https://buymeacoffee.com/heytabi 📩 Connect with Tabitha: 💻 Tabitha's Website - www.tabithawestbrook.com 📲 Tabitha's Instagram - www.instagram.com/tabithathecounselor 🎙️ Podcast Homepage - https://heytabi.buzzsprout.com 💻 The Journey & The Process Website - www.thejourneyandtheprocess.com 📲 The Journey & The Process Instagram - www.instagram.com/_tjatp Subscribe to my YouTube Channel & watch podcast episodes there 👍 If this episode resonated with you, please like, subscribe, and share to help others who need this information! 🚨 Disclaimer: This podcast is not therapy and is intended for educational purposes only. If you're in crisis or need therapy, please reach out to a licensed mental health professional. Need to know...

What happens when trauma silences your story, and what does it take to speak it aloud again? In this episode of Hey Tabi, trauma therapist Tabitha Westbrook sits down with biblical counselor that does not suck Melissa Affolter to explore the healing power of story for survivors of trauma. Together, they talk about why trauma often leaves people wordless, how shame gets stored in the body, and why healing requires more than insight or “right thinking.” This conversation centers on the sacred role of presence, safe community, and being witnessed without being rushed or fixed. You’ll hear about: How telling your story helps integrate body, brain, and soulThe cost of carrying an untold story aloneWhy growth after trauma is not linearHow spiritual harm complicates healing & gently rebuilding faithRestoried, a trauma-informed support group for women (and how you can participate)This episode is for survivors who feel stuck, exhausted, or unsure how to make sense of their story - and it's for helpers who want to understand trauma with more compassion and depth. 🔗 Resources & Links Learn more about Restoried and Melissa Affolter’s work: 👉Restoried: https://www.melissaaffolter.com/restoried-support-groups 👉Melissa's site: https://www.melissaaffolter.com/ Wanna say hi? Send a text! At The Journey and The Process we strive to help you heal. Our therapists are trauma specialists who use evidence-based tools like EMDR, Brainspotting, Somatic Experiencing, and Internal Family Systems to help you heal - mind, soul, and body. Reach out today to start your healing journey. https://thejourneyandtheprocess.com/  This book is for every Christian woman who has been harmed sexually, whether that happened in childhood, adulthood, or even within your coercive controlling marriage, and you're longing to feel safe in your body again. We talk about the hard stuff, shame, desire, faith, and even questions like, is this sin or is this trauma?You don't have to untangle it alone. Body & Soul, Healed & Whole is for you. Get a copy here today - https://a.co/d/8Jo3Z4V 🎧 Subscribe to Hey Tabi for more expert conversations on trauma, faith, and healing. Order Body & Soul, Healed & Whole: An Invitational Guide to Healthy Sexuality After Trauma, Abuse, and Coercive Control Wanna support Hey Tabi? Buy me a coffee here - https://buymeacoffee.com/heytabi 📩 Connect with Tabitha: 💻 Tabitha's Website - www.tabithawestbrook.com 📲 Tabitha's Instagram - www.instagram.com/tabithathecounselor 🎙️ Podcast Homepage - https://heytabi.buzzsprout.com 💻 The Journey & The Process Website - www.thejourneyandtheprocess.com 📲 The Journey & The Process Instagram - www.instagram.com/_tjatp Subscribe to my YouTube Channel & watch podcast episodes there 👍 If this episode resonated with you, please like, subscribe, and share to help others who need this information! 🚨 Disclaimer: This podcast is not therapy and is intended for educational purposes only. If you're in crisis or need therapy, please reach out to a licensed mental health professional. Need to know...

What happens when a pastor admits, “We made it worse”? In this episode of Hey Tabi, licensed trauma therapist Tabitha Westbrook sits down with pastor Matt Chandler for an honest conversation about how uninformed church systems have harmed abuse survivors - often unintentionally, but deeply. Tabi didn't provide any questions in advance and Matt didn't shy away from anything asked. Together, they explore what happens when churches lack training in domestic abuse, coercive control, & trauma dynamics, & how good intentions can still cause devastating harm. Matt speaks candidly about past failures, institutional blind spots, & what true repentance & reform actually requires. Inside this conversation: ⛪️ Why abuse is often missed in Christian marriages and churches ⛪️ How church systems can unintentionally side with abusers ⛪️ Why trauma-informed training is essential for pastors and elders ⛪️ What accountability and repentance should look like in the Church Where to find Matt: https://www.pastormattchandler.com/ Matt's latest book - Awake and Alive: A 30-Day Challenge to Revive Your Faith - https://a.co/d/gLywHJp Where to get trained: Pastors that would like to get educated on abuse or schedule a Protect the Flock training for your church, reach out to Called to Peace Ministries - https://calledtopeace.org/. Wanna say hi? Send a text! At The Journey and The Process we strive to help you heal. Our therapists are trauma specialists who use evidence-based tools like EMDR, Brainspotting, Somatic Experiencing, and Internal Family Systems to help you heal - mind, soul, and body. Reach out today to start your healing journey. https://thejourneyandtheprocess.com/  This book is for every Christian woman who has been harmed sexually, whether that happened in childhood, adulthood, or even within your coercive controlling marriage, and you're longing to feel safe in your body again. We talk about the hard stuff, shame, desire, faith, and even questions like, is this sin or is this trauma?You don't have to untangle it alone. Body & Soul, Healed & Whole is for you. Get a copy here today - https://a.co/d/8Jo3Z4V 🎧 Subscribe to Hey Tabi for more expert conversations on trauma, faith, and healing. Order Body & Soul, Healed & Whole: An Invitational Guide to Healthy Sexuality After Trauma, Abuse, and Coercive Control Wanna support Hey Tabi? Buy me a coffee here - https://buymeacoffee.com/heytabi 📩 Connect with Tabitha: 💻 Tabitha's Website - www.tabithawestbrook.com 📲 Tabitha's Instagram - www.instagram.com/tabithathecounselor 🎙️ Podcast Homepage - https://heytabi.buzzsprout.com 💻 The Journey & The Process Website - www.thejourneyandtheprocess.com 📲 The Journey & The Process Instagram - www.instagram.com/_tjatp Subscribe to my YouTube Channel & watch podcast episodes there 👍 If this episode resonated with you, please like, subscribe, and share to help others who need this information! 🚨 Disclaimer: This podcast is not therapy and is intended for educational purposes only. If you're in crisis or need therapy, please reach out to a licensed mental health professional. Need to know...

Is emotional abuse being hidden behind Christian language like submission and forgiveness? In this episode of Hey Tabi, trauma therapist Tabitha Westbrook sits down with bestselling author Leslie Vernick to expose the truth about emotional abuse in Christian marriage, and why so many survivors are told to stay silent and endure harm. If you’ve ever wondered: Is my marriage emotionally abusive?Does God want me to stay in an abusive marriage?Am I being abused or just “too sensitive”?This conversation offers clarity, validation, and biblical truth without shame. You’ll learn how to recognize emotionally destructive patterns, understand why submission without choice becomes oppression, and begin trusting your instincts again. Resources: Leslie Vernick - https://leslievernick.com/ The Emotionally Destructive Relationship - https://amzn.to/3Kz7c6J The Emotionally Destructive Marriage - https://amzn.to/4919P9E Wanna say hi? Send a text! At The Journey and The Process we strive to help you heal. Our therapists are trauma specialists who use evidence-based tools like EMDR, Brainspotting, Somatic Experiencing, and Internal Family Systems to help you heal - mind, soul, and body. Reach out today to start your healing journey. https://thejourneyandtheprocess.com/  This book is for every Christian woman who has been harmed sexually, whether that happened in childhood, adulthood, or even within your coercive controlling marriage, and you're longing to feel safe in your body again. We talk about the hard stuff, shame, desire, faith, and even questions like, is this sin or is this trauma?You don't have to untangle it alone. Body & Soul, Healed & Whole is for you. Get a copy here today - https://a.co/d/8Jo3Z4V 🎧 Subscribe to Hey Tabi for more expert conversations on trauma, faith, and healing. Order Body & Soul, Healed & Whole: An Invitational Guide to Healthy Sexuality After Trauma, Abuse, and Coercive Control Wanna support Hey Tabi? Buy me a coffee here - https://buymeacoffee.com/heytabi 📩 Connect with Tabitha: 💻 Tabitha's Website - www.tabithawestbrook.com 📲 Tabitha's Instagram - www.instagram.com/tabithathecounselor 🎙️ Podcast Homepage - https://heytabi.buzzsprout.com 💻 The Journey & The Process Website - www.thejourneyandtheprocess.com 📲 The Journey & The Process Instagram - www.instagram.com/_tjatp Subscribe to my YouTube Channel & watch podcast episodes there 👍 If this episode resonated with you, please like, subscribe, and share to help others who need this information! 🚨 Disclaimer: This podcast is not therapy and is intended for educational purposes only. If you're in crisis or need therapy, please reach out to a licensed mental health professional. Need to know...

When we’ve lived through abuse, or we spend our lives helping others heal from it, it’s shockingly easy to accidentally pick up the same tools, patterns, and power dynamics we’re trying to dismantle. In this deeply honest conversation, trauma therapist, Tabitha Westbrook, and biblical counselor that does not suck, Chelsey Gordon explore how survivors, advocates, and church leaders can resist becoming the very systems of oppression they’re fighting against. Whether you’re a survivor learning to trust again, a ministry leader navigating influence, or someone passionate about justice and healing, this episode offers compassionate insight, spiritual grounding, and real-world practical guidance. 🔍 In This Episode, We Talk About: • The hidden ways survivors may replicate abusive patterns without realizing it • Why community, humility, and honest feedback are essential for healing • What Scripture actually calls us to when we feel defensive, afraid, or justified • How to hold truth, justice, compassion, and discernment together • The “Voldemort effect”: why the pursuit of power will cost us our souls • How to create relationships where accountability doesn’t feel like attack • Practical wisdom for breaking cycles, in ourselves and in our churches This is a tender conversation, grounded in compassion for survivors and clarity for leaders who want to do better. If you’ve ever wondered, “Am I responding from my wounds or my wisdom?” Wanna say hi? Send a text! At The Journey and The Process we strive to help you heal. Our therapists are trauma specialists who use evidence-based tools like EMDR, Brainspotting, Somatic Experiencing, and Internal Family Systems to help you heal - mind, soul, and body. Reach out today to start your healing journey. https://thejourneyandtheprocess.com/  This book is for every Christian woman who has been harmed sexually, whether that happened in childhood, adulthood, or even within your coercive controlling marriage, and you're longing to feel safe in your body again. We talk about the hard stuff, shame, desire, faith, and even questions like, is this sin or is this trauma?You don't have to untangle it alone. Body & Soul, Healed & Whole is for you. Get a copy here today - https://a.co/d/8Jo3Z4V 🎧 Subscribe to Hey Tabi for more expert conversations on trauma, faith, and healing. Order Body & Soul, Healed & Whole: An Invitational Guide to Healthy Sexuality After Trauma, Abuse, and Coercive Control Wanna support Hey Tabi? Buy me a coffee here - https://buymeacoffee.com/heytabi 📩 Connect with Tabitha: 💻 Tabitha's Website - www.tabithawestbrook.com 📲 Tabitha's Instagram - www.instagram.com/tabithathecounselor 🎙️ Podcast Homepage - https://heytabi.buzzsprout.com 💻 The Journey & The Process Website - www.thejourneyandtheprocess.com 📲 The Journey & The Process Instagram - www.instagram.com/_tjatp Subscribe to my YouTube Channel & watch podcast episodes there 👍 If this episode resonated with you, please like, subscribe, and share to help others who need this information! 🚨 Disclaimer: This podcast is not therapy and is intended for educational purposes only. If you're in crisis or need therapy, please reach out to a licensed mental health professional. Need to know...

If you’ve ever wondered whether a relationship can truly heal after sexual addiction, betrayal trauma, or years of secrecy, this episode is for you. In this deeply honest conversation, Tabitha sits down with Matthew and Joanna Raabsmith, trained relationship specialists, authors of Building True Intimacy, and survivors of their own story of betrayal, addiction, and the long road of rebuilding trust. Together, they unpack: The process of everything shattering and the slow work of rebuildingWhy honesty and safety must come before trust and vulnerabilityWhat betrayed partners actually need for healing (and what harms them)How grief, accountability, empathy, and self-work make true connection possible againMatthew and Joanna share what most couples never hear: healing is possible, but only when both people do the work. Their story is honest, raw, redemptive, and filled with compassion for both the betrayer and the betrayed. Resources Mentioned: Free HONEST Connection worksheet: raabsmithteam.com/free Matthew & Joanna's book - Building True Intimacy: Creating a Connection That Stands the Test of Time - https://a.co/d/ihkKmFx Connect with The Raabsmiths: Instagram: @theraabsmithtea Wanna say hi? Send a text! At The Journey and The Process we strive to help you heal. Our therapists are trauma specialists who use evidence-based tools like EMDR, Brainspotting, Somatic Experiencing, and Internal Family Systems to help you heal - mind, soul, and body. Reach out today to start your healing journey. https://thejourneyandtheprocess.com/  This book is for every Christian woman who has been harmed sexually, whether that happened in childhood, adulthood, or even within your coercive controlling marriage, and you're longing to feel safe in your body again. We talk about the hard stuff, shame, desire, faith, and even questions like, is this sin or is this trauma?You don't have to untangle it alone. Body & Soul, Healed & Whole is for you. Get a copy here today - https://a.co/d/8Jo3Z4V 🎧 Subscribe to Hey Tabi for more expert conversations on trauma, faith, and healing. Order Body & Soul, Healed & Whole: An Invitational Guide to Healthy Sexuality After Trauma, Abuse, and Coercive Control Wanna support Hey Tabi? Buy me a coffee here - https://buymeacoffee.com/heytabi 📩 Connect with Tabitha: 💻 Tabitha's Website - www.tabithawestbrook.com 📲 Tabitha's Instagram - www.instagram.com/tabithathecounselor 🎙️ Podcast Homepage - https://heytabi.buzzsprout.com 💻 The Journey & The Process Website - www.thejourneyandtheprocess.com 📲 The Journey & The Process Instagram - www.instagram.com/_tjatp Subscribe to my YouTube Channel & watch podcast episodes there 👍 If this episode resonated with you, please like, subscribe, and share to help others who need this information! 🚨 Disclaimer: This podcast is not therapy and is intended for educational purposes only. If you're in crisis or need therapy, please reach out to a licensed mental health professional. Need to know...

What is good biblical counseling, really? And why is it so hard to find, especially if you’re a trauma survivor who's already been harmed by “just pray more” advice, sin-sniffing, or spiritual bypassing? In this week’s episode of Hey Tabi, Tabitha Westbrook (licensed trauma therapist, abuse expert, author of Body & Soul, Healed & Whole) sits down with Jacque Escue, a Certified Biblical Counselor and trauma-informed practitioner—who does not suck—to talk honestly about what healthy, safe, compassionate biblical counseling is… and what it is NOT. If you’ve ever wondered whether biblical counseling can be:  ✔ trauma-informed  ✔ safe for abuse survivors  ✔ actually helpful and not minimizing  ✔ aligned with Scripture and real mental health science you’ll for sure want to listen. We dive into:  How biblical counseling goes wrong and harms survivors Why “take two verses and call me in the morning” isn’t biblical or helpful How to spot red flags in a biblical counselor What whole-person, clinically informed, faith-honoring care looks like Why trauma lives in the body and why good biblical counselors must understand that How Jesus models embodied, compassionate care—not legalistic lectures What it looks like when licensed therapists and biblical counselors work together for healing How survivors can reclaim faith after spiritual abusWanna say hi? Send a text! At The Journey and The Process we strive to help you heal. Our therapists are trauma specialists who use evidence-based tools like EMDR, Brainspotting, Somatic Experiencing, and Internal Family Systems to help you heal - mind, soul, and body. Reach out today to start your healing journey. https://thejourneyandtheprocess.com/  This book is for every Christian woman who has been harmed sexually, whether that happened in childhood, adulthood, or even within your coercive controlling marriage, and you're longing to feel safe in your body again. We talk about the hard stuff, shame, desire, faith, and even questions like, is this sin or is this trauma?You don't have to untangle it alone. Body & Soul, Healed & Whole is for you. Get a copy here today - https://a.co/d/8Jo3Z4V 🎧 Subscribe to Hey Tabi for more expert conversations on trauma, faith, and healing. Order Body & Soul, Healed & Whole: An Invitational Guide to Healthy Sexuality After Trauma, Abuse, and Coercive Control Wanna support Hey Tabi? Buy me a coffee here - https://buymeacoffee.com/heytabi 📩 Connect with Tabitha: 💻 Tabitha's Website - www.tabithawestbrook.com 📲 Tabitha's Instagram - www.instagram.com/tabithathecounselor 🎙️ Podcast Homepage - https://heytabi.buzzsprout.com 💻 The Journey & The Process Website - www.thejourneyandtheprocess.com 📲 The Journey & The Process Instagram - www.instagram.com/_tjatp Subscribe to my YouTube Channel & watch podcast episodes there 👍 If this episode resonated with you, please like, subscribe, and share to help others who need this information! 🚨 Disclaimer: This podcast is not therapy and is intended for educational purposes only. If you're in crisis or need therapy, please reach out to a licensed mental health professional. Need to know...

What if everything you’ve been taught about hope is backwards? In this powerful episode of Hey Tabi, trauma therapist Tabitha Westbrook sits down with Dr. Jenny Bayless of Fuller Seminary to talk about why hope isn’t an outcome you chase, but an anchor you hold onto when life feels unbearably heavy. If you’ve ever felt betrayed by hope, overwhelmed by suffering, or exhausted by Christian clichés that make your pain feel minimized, this conversation is for you. We dive deep into:  ✨ Why survivors often shudder at the word “hope” ✨ The difference between wishful thinking and true, grounded hope ✨ How trauma, abuse, and betrayal shape your ability to hope ✨ Why hope requires touching pain—not ignoring it ✨ What the Bible actually means by hope ✨ How to rebuild your internal sense of safety, agency, and intuition ✨ Hope that doesn’t depend on outcomes, miracles, or circumstances ✨ How to walk with God when your world has fallen apart ✨ How clinicians can hold hope well for clients who cannot hold it yet Dr. Bayless brings her expertise in trauma, spiritual integration, EMDR, and addiction recovery into a compassionate, soul-level conversation that survivors desperately need but rarely hear. If you’ve been hurt by the church… If you’ve prayed and fasted and still didn’t get the outcome you begged for… If hope feels dangerous or even cruel… You are not alone. Wanna say hi? Send a text! At The Journey and The Process we strive to help you heal. Our therapists are trauma specialists who use evidence-based tools like EMDR, Brainspotting, Somatic Experiencing, and Internal Family Systems to help you heal - mind, soul, and body. Reach out today to start your healing journey. https://thejourneyandtheprocess.com/  This book is for every Christian woman who has been harmed sexually, whether that happened in childhood, adulthood, or even within your coercive controlling marriage, and you're longing to feel safe in your body again. We talk about the hard stuff, shame, desire, faith, and even questions like, is this sin or is this trauma?You don't have to untangle it alone. Body & Soul, Healed & Whole is for you. Get a copy here today - https://a.co/d/8Jo3Z4V 🎧 Subscribe to Hey Tabi for more expert conversations on trauma, faith, and healing. Order Body & Soul, Healed & Whole: An Invitational Guide to Healthy Sexuality After Trauma, Abuse, and Coercive Control Wanna support Hey Tabi? Buy me a coffee here - https://buymeacoffee.com/heytabi 📩 Connect with Tabitha: 💻 Tabitha's Website - www.tabithawestbrook.com 📲 Tabitha's Instagram - www.instagram.com/tabithathecounselor 🎙️ Podcast Homepage - https://heytabi.buzzsprout.com 💻 The Journey & The Process Website - www.thejourneyandtheprocess.com 📲 The Journey & The Process Instagram - www.instagram.com/_tjatp Subscribe to my YouTube Channel & watch podcast episodes there 👍 If this episode resonated with you, please like, subscribe, and share to help others who need this information! 🚨 Disclaimer: This podcast is not therapy and is intended for educational purposes only. If you're in crisis or need therapy, please reach out to a licensed mental health professional. Need to know...

What if biblical counseling actually led to healing instead of shame? 👀 In this candid convo, worship leader–turned–biblical counselor Adam Westlake (The Worship Initiative, Shane & Shane) joins Tabitha to unpack why much “sin-detective” counseling harms survivors—and what compassionate, trauma-informed, theologically rooted care really looks like. We get into: Why story work > quick fixes (Colossians 3/Ephesians 5 vibes)Guilt vs. shame and how spiritual bypassing wounds survivorsPorn/affair recovery through curiosity (shoutout Jay Stringer)Contemplative prayer and embodied healing for anxious, high-achieversHow survivors of domestic abuse & coercive control can find faith-safe help“Participation in the life of the Trinity” vs. white-knuckle sanctificationIf you’ve ever been told to “just stop sinning,” this one’s for you. Resources: Adam Westlake - https://www.adamwestlakecounseling.com/ Wanna say hi? Send a text! At The Journey and The Process we strive to help you heal. Our therapists are trauma specialists who use evidence-based tools like EMDR, Brainspotting, Somatic Experiencing, and Internal Family Systems to help you heal - mind, soul, and body. Reach out today to start your healing journey. https://thejourneyandtheprocess.com/  This book is for every Christian woman who has been harmed sexually, whether that happened in childhood, adulthood, or even within your coercive controlling marriage, and you're longing to feel safe in your body again. We talk about the hard stuff, shame, desire, faith, and even questions like, is this sin or is this trauma?You don't have to untangle it alone. Body & Soul, Healed & Whole is for you. Get a copy here today - https://a.co/d/8Jo3Z4V 🎧 Subscribe to Hey Tabi for more expert conversations on trauma, faith, and healing. Order Body & Soul, Healed & Whole: An Invitational Guide to Healthy Sexuality After Trauma, Abuse, and Coercive Control Wanna support Hey Tabi? Buy me a coffee here - https://buymeacoffee.com/heytabi 📩 Connect with Tabitha: 💻 Tabitha's Website - www.tabithawestbrook.com 📲 Tabitha's Instagram - www.instagram.com/tabithathecounselor 🎙️ Podcast Homepage - https://heytabi.buzzsprout.com 💻 The Journey & The Process Website - www.thejourneyandtheprocess.com 📲 The Journey & The Process Instagram - www.instagram.com/_tjatp Subscribe to my YouTube Channel & watch podcast episodes there 👍 If this episode resonated with you, please like, subscribe, and share to help others who need this information! 🚨 Disclaimer: This podcast is not therapy and is intended for educational purposes only. If you're in crisis or need therapy, please reach out to a licensed mental health professional. Need to know...

Parenting a “spicy” teen? You’re not alone. In this powerful episode of Hey Tabi, licensed trauma therapist Tabitha Westbrook sits down with Dr. Greg Wilson, LPC-S and author of When Home Hurts, to talk about raising adolescents through trauma, grief, and chaos, without losing your mind (or your compassion). Together they unpack: 💥 Why your “ghost pepper” teen’s outbursts might actually be pain in disguise 💥 How trauma, from loss, abuse, or today’s chaotic world, shapes behavior 💥 Practical tools for parents to stay calm, connected, and regulated when kids explode 💥 How to hold firm boundaries and lead with empathy 💥 What to do when you’ve “done everything right” and your child is still struggling 💥 Why curiosity, community, and faith matter more than control Whether you’re navigating grief, abuse recovery, or the rollercoaster of adolescence, this conversation offers hope, humor, and hard-earned wisdom. Timestamps: 00:00 – Intro & Greg’s story of loss and calling 04:00 – Why kids today are more anxious and traumatized 07:00 – Balancing compassion with healthy boundaries 12:00 – Parenting ghost pepper-level teens 18:00 – How to stay regulated when your child isn’t 24:00 – Grieving the “what should have been” as a parent 36:00 – Repairing when you’ve messed up 45:00 – When faith feels shaken in parenting 54:00 – Finding safe community & not parenting alone Resources Mentioned: Greg's Practice - https://w Wanna say hi? Send a text! At The Journey and The Process we strive to help you heal. Our therapists are trauma specialists who use evidence-based tools like EMDR, Brainspotting, Somatic Experiencing, and Internal Family Systems to help you heal - mind, soul, and body. Reach out today to start your healing journey. https://thejourneyandtheprocess.com/  This book is for every Christian woman who has been harmed sexually, whether that happened in childhood, adulthood, or even within your coercive controlling marriage, and you're longing to feel safe in your body again. We talk about the hard stuff, shame, desire, faith, and even questions like, is this sin or is this trauma?You don't have to untangle it alone. Body & Soul, Healed & Whole is for you. Get a copy here today - https://a.co/d/8Jo3Z4V 🎧 Subscribe to Hey Tabi for more expert conversations on trauma, faith, and healing. Order Body & Soul, Healed & Whole: An Invitational Guide to Healthy Sexuality After Trauma, Abuse, and Coercive Control Wanna support Hey Tabi? Buy me a coffee here - https://buymeacoffee.com/heytabi 📩 Connect with Tabitha: 💻 Tabitha's Website - www.tabithawestbrook.com 📲 Tabitha's Instagram - www.instagram.com/tabithathecounselor 🎙️ Podcast Homepage - https://heytabi.buzzsprout.com 💻 The Journey & The Process Website - www.thejourneyandtheprocess.com 📲 The Journey & The Process Instagram - www.instagram.com/_tjatp Subscribe to my YouTube Channel & watch podcast episodes there 👍 If this episode resonated with you, please like, subscribe, and share to help others who need this information! 🚨 Disclaimer: This podcast is not therapy and is intended for educational purposes only. If you're in crisis or need therapy, please reach out to a licensed mental health professional. Need to know...

Have you ever tried mindfulness and thought, “This just isn’t working—I can’t calm down”? You’re not broken. Your body is simply doing what it was designed to do: keep you safe. In this episode of Hey Tabi, licensed trauma therapist Tabitha Westbrook explores why mindfulness practice truly matters, especially for trauma survivors, people of faith, and anyone learning to live in the present after a history of overwhelm or abuse. You’ll discover how mindfulness helps regulate the nervous system, reconnects body and soul, and creates space for spiritual peace and safety. We’ll unpack common myths (“mindfulness is just sitting still”), share trauma-informed ways to begin, and offer practical grounding tools you can use right now—no incense or perfection required. Whether you’re healing from complex trauma, navigating anxiety, or simply craving calm, this episode will help you learn to notice without judgment and live with compassion. Resources Mentioned: TIP Skill - https://taking-every-thought-captive.teachable.com/p/bonus-skill Sign up to learn more about the updated Mindful Connection online course - https://link.therasaas.com/widget/form/MyzTv00PzvenmNzassWC 🎧  If this episode resonated with you, please like, subscribe, and share to help others who need this information! Wanna say hi? Send a text!  This book is for every Christian woman who has been harmed sexually, whether that happened in childhood, adulthood, or even within your coercive controlling marriage, and you're longing to feel safe in your body again. We talk about the hard stuff, shame, desire, faith, and even questions like, is this sin or is this trauma?You don't have to untangle it alone. Body & Soul, Healed & Whole is for you. Get a copy here today - https://a.co/d/8Jo3Z4V 🎧 Subscribe to Hey Tabi for more expert conversations on trauma, faith, and healing. Order Body & Soul, Healed & Whole: An Invitational Guide to Healthy Sexuality After Trauma, Abuse, and Coercive Control Wanna support Hey Tabi? Buy me a coffee here - https://buymeacoffee.com/heytabi 📩 Connect with Tabitha: 💻 Tabitha's Website - www.tabithawestbrook.com 📲 Tabitha's Instagram - www.instagram.com/tabithathecounselor 🎙️ Podcast Homepage - https://heytabi.buzzsprout.com 💻 The Journey & The Process Website - www.thejourneyandtheprocess.com 📲 The Journey & The Process Instagram - www.instagram.com/_tjatp Subscribe to my YouTube Channel & watch podcast episodes there 👍 If this episode resonated with you, please like, subscribe, and share to help others who need this information! 🚨 Disclaimer: This podcast is not therapy and is intended for educational purposes only. If you're in crisis or need therapy, please reach out to a licensed mental health professional. Need to know...

Online trauma help online can be powerful, but it can also be dangerous if you don’t know what to look for. In this episode of Hey Tabi, licensed trauma therapist Tabitha Westbrook, unpacks how to find good, trauma-informed help online that’s actually safe & how to spot red flags that could cause further harm. Many survivors of abuse or trauma seek online counseling, coaching, or groups for support, but not all helpers are trained or trauma-informed. Tabitha shares what genuine, safe, healing spaces look like (rooted in evidence-based trauma care), and what kinds of online “help” can actually replicate coercive control or even spiritual abuse. You’ll learn: ✅ What trauma-informed actually means 🙏 How real faith integration differs from spiritual bypassing 🚩 Red flags to watch out for in online Christian therapy or coaching spaces 💡 Questions to consider before trusting an online helper 🌿 What true safety and compassion look like in online spaces If you’ve ever wondered how to tell the difference between helpful and harmful “healing” online, this episode will give you clarity, confidence, & peace. Resources Mentioned: Coaching/Therapy from Tabitha's Team - www.thejourneyandtheprocess.comGrab the Body & Soul, Healed & Whole Digitial Guide - https://link.therasaas.com/widget/form/ah0hh6YLomd7JSjccWanna say hi? Send a text! At The Journey and The Process we strive to help you heal. Our therapists are trauma specialists who use evidence-based tools like EMDR, Brainspotting, Somatic Experiencing, and Internal Family Systems to help you heal - mind, soul, and body. Reach out today to start your healing journey. https://thejourneyandtheprocess.com/  This book is for every Christian woman who has been harmed sexually, whether that happened in childhood, adulthood, or even within your coercive controlling marriage, and you're longing to feel safe in your body again. We talk about the hard stuff, shame, desire, faith, and even questions like, is this sin or is this trauma?You don't have to untangle it alone. Body & Soul, Healed & Whole is for you. Get a copy here today - https://a.co/d/8Jo3Z4V 🎧 Subscribe to Hey Tabi for more expert conversations on trauma, faith, and healing. Order Body & Soul, Healed & Whole: An Invitational Guide to Healthy Sexuality After Trauma, Abuse, and Coercive Control Wanna support Hey Tabi? Buy me a coffee here - https://buymeacoffee.com/heytabi 📩 Connect with Tabitha: 💻 Tabitha's Website - www.tabithawestbrook.com 📲 Tabitha's Instagram - www.instagram.com/tabithathecounselor 🎙️ Podcast Homepage - https://heytabi.buzzsprout.com 💻 The Journey & The Process Website - www.thejourneyandtheprocess.com 📲 The Journey & The Process Instagram - www.instagram.com/_tjatp Subscribe to my YouTube Channel & watch podcast episodes there 👍 If this episode resonated with you, please like, subscribe, and share to help others who need this information! 🚨 Disclaimer: This podcast is not therapy and is intended for educational purposes only. If you're in crisis or need therapy, please reach out to a licensed mental health professional. Need to know...