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She said she was done. No real explanation. Just "I'm unhappy." And everything Skippy thought was stable... wasn't. In this episode, Tara sits down with Healthy Men-tality member Skippy to talk through what the early stages of separation actually looked like, and how he went from full panic mode to something he hadn't felt in years: clarity. In this episode: Why trying harder often makes things worse The 30-day no-emotional-pressure reset and what it actually did How nervous system regulation stopped the spiral The childhood patterns that quietly wreck adult relationships What it looks like to stop fixing her and start leading yourself Skippy didn't save the marriage. But his kids started noticing a different man walking through the door. That's the shift. If this episode hit close to home: Tara runs a free 2-hour live training called From Relationship Rock Bottom to Rebuilding the Man, built specifically for men who are in the middle of this. Not advice. Not blame. Just clarity on why you react the way you do under pressure, why trying harder keeps backfiring, and what actually needs to change. It's the conversation no one had with you before things got to this point. 👉 Save your spot here: REGISTER HERE   Connect with Tara: Follow @unblockyourbs on Instagram @unblockyourbs on TikTok   Watch the episodes on YouTube Book a 1:1 call with Tara Get the Nervous System Reset Toolkit Submit a question for an upcoming Podcast or LIVE   __________________________________________________________________________________   Disclaimer: The content shared in this podcast is for informational and educational purposes only and should not be considered professional medical, mental health, or legal advice. I am not a licensed mental health professional or medical provider and cannot diagnose, treat, or prescribe medication for any condition. If you or someone you know is struggling, please ask for support from a licensed professional or contact a trusted organization in your area. In cases of crisis or emergency, please contact local authorities or a crisis hotline immediately. The views expressed in this podcast are my personal opinions and those of my guests. They are not intended to replace professional advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Thank you for listening responsibly.

There's a moment when everything you thought was stable… isn't. Not slowly. Not with warning. Just… gone! That's where this conversation starts. Bill was married for 16 years. He thought they had normal problems. Manageable ones. Then one conversation changed everything. His wife asked for a divorce… and he found out she had already moved on. In this episode of Unblock Your BS, I sit down with listener Bill as he navigates the raw, real aftermath of being blindsided. This isn't a polished success story. This is what healing actually looks like in real time.   Inside this episode, we unpack: What happens when your nervous system goes into survival mode Why anxiety, panic, and even physical symptoms show up after emotional shock The hidden patterns most people miss in long-term relationships Why trying to "win them back" often pushes them further away The difference between guilt (growth) vs. shame (identity) What forgiveness actually looks like in practice—not theory How to stop replaying painful thoughts on repeat Why emotional regulation is the foundation for everything   Most people aren't reacting to the event… They're reacting to the meaning they've created around it. And until you learn how to regulate your nervous system and shift those internal patterns…  you'll keep reliving the same emotional experience,  just in different situations. If this episode hit for you: You don't need to have it all figured out. You just need a different way through it. Download the FREE 5-minute Breathwork   Learn more about Healthy Men-tality  Or explore breathwork inside Self Aware Army   Connect with Tara: Follow @unblockyourbs on Instagram @unblockyourbs on TikTok   Watch the episodes on YouTube Book a 1:1 call with Tara Get the Nervous System Reset Toolkit Submit a question for an upcoming Podcast or LIVE   __________________________________________________________________________________   Disclaimer: The content shared in this podcast is for informational and educational purposes only and should not be considered professional medical, mental health, or legal advice. I am not a licensed mental health professional or medical provider and cannot diagnose, treat, or prescribe medication for any condition. If you or someone you know is struggling, please ask for support from a licensed professional or contact a trusted organization in your area. In cases of crisis or emergency, please contact local authorities or a crisis hotline immediately. The views expressed in this podcast are my personal opinions and those of my guests. They are not intended to replace professional advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Thank you for listening responsibly.

If your partner is constantly sending you relationship content… and your first instinct is to feel annoyed, confused, or defensive… This episode is going to challenge that. Because what looks like a "TikTok problem"… is usually a communication and emotional safety problem. Inside this solo episode, we break down what's actually happening when someone avoids direct communication, and how your response might be reinforcing the very cycle you're frustrated with. In this episode, we cover: Why sending TikToks is often a safer form of communication How social media algorithms reinforce emotional patterns The difference between symptoms vs. root problems in relationships Why defensiveness shuts down emotional safety instantly How to shift from reactivity → curiosity What emotional safety actually looks like in practice The role of childhood wounds in adult relationship dynamics Why labeling your partner (or being labeled) keeps you stuck How to take ownership without taking all the blame This episode will help you stop pointing fingers… and start understanding what's really going on beneath the surface. If you're realizing you don't have the tools to navigate this… you're not broken, you were just never taught. If you want to become the kind of man who: Stays calm instead of reactive Knows how to communicate without shutting down or blowing up Creates emotional safety in your relationship That's exactly what we work on inside Healthy Men-tality. 👉 You can apply here: www.unblockyourbs.com/healthymen Or DM me the word HEAL on Instagram or TikTok No pressure, just a conversation to see what support makes sense for you. Interested in Nervous System Regulation tools? Join my healing community for breathwork + tools: unblockyourbs.com/saa Men on a Healing Journey - Learn More and apply to join me inside of our 12 week group program just for men called Healthy Men-tality: unblockyourbs.com/healthymen  Connect with Tara: Follow @unblockyourbs on Instagram @unblockyourbs on TikTok  Watch the episodes on YouTube Join the Self Aware Army Healing Community Book a 1:1 call with Tara FREE 5-minute Breathwork Download Get the Nervous System Reset Toolkit Apply to the Healthy Men-tality Men's Program Submit a question for an upcoming Podcast or LIVE   __________________________________________________________________________________   Disclaimer: The content shared in this podcast is for informational and educational purposes only and should not be considered professional medical, mental health, or legal advice. I am not a licensed mental health professional or medical provider and cannot diagnose, treat, or prescribe medication for any condition. If you or someone you know is struggling, please ask for support from a licensed professional or contact a trusted organization in your area. In cases of crisis or emergency, please contact local authorities or a crisis hotline immediately. The views expressed in this podcast are my personal opinions and those of my guests. They are not intended to replace professional advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Thank you for listening responsibly.

Most people don't go into marriage expecting it to end. And when it does… they don't have a roadmap. If you're a man facing divorce, you've probably heard the same story on repeat: You'll lose your money. You'll lose your kids. The system is rigged against you. But what if most of that is just noise? In this episode of Unblock Your BS, I sit down with Joe Dillon, co-founder of Equitable Mediation Services, to break down what actually happens in divorce, and how to navigate it without destroying your finances, your relationship with your kids, or yourself. Joe has spent 17+ years helping couples avoid courtroom battles and unnecessary chaos. He also lived through a highly contentious divorce as a child, which shaped the way he approaches this work today. We get into: Why divorce becomes a financial and emotional war zone The biggest myths men believe (and what's actually true) How mediation works—and when it doesn't What you can do right now to protect your time, money, and future And where this conversation really lands… is in how you approach the process. Because most people are making decisions way too early,  based on eмоtion, assumptions, or incomplete information. One of the biggest shifts Joe shares is simple: do the discovery before the deciding. Don't agree to anything until you actually understand what you're working with. We also unpack: Why the "system is rigged" narrative isn't the full story What 50/50 parenting actually looks like in real life (and where most men get it wrong) What child support really is (and why it's often misunderstood) How to build a parenting plan that doesn't fall apart What actually damages kids during divorce… so you don't make it worse.  Key Takeaways Divorce isn't just emotional—it's a negotiation Most conflict is driven by fear, control, and miscommunication Child support is shared responsibility, not punishment Parenting doesn't stop when it's "not your day" Your kids didn't ask for this… protect them from the fallout If this episode hit for you: 👉 Want to stop reacting and start responding? Download my free 5-minute breathwork session 👉 Want support around relationships, emotional regulation, and rebuilding? Join the Self Aware Army 👉 Ready for deeper work? Apply for 1:1 coaching About Our Guest: Joe Dillon is the co-founder of Equitable Mediation Services, where he and his wife Cheryl (a divorce coach) help couples divorce without lawyers. Joe has an MBA in Finance and combines that financial expertise with deep personal experience—he is the child of a litigated divorce that left scars. Over the past 17 years, Joe has helped hundreds of couples avoid the courtroom nightmare and walk away with agreements that actually work. His approach is tactical, financial, and refreshingly honest. He practices in six states: Washington, California, Illinois, New York, New Jersey, and Pennsylvania.   Connect with Joe Dillon: You can find Joe and access free resources, courses, and consultation options at Equitable Mediation Services. He is also active on social media where he shares divorce and co-parenting advice: Instagram:@equitablemediation Facebook:Equitable Mediation YouTube:@Equitablemediation LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/josephfdillon/ Connect with Tara: Follow @unblockyourbs on Instagram @unblockyourbs on TikTok  Watch the episodes on YouTube Join the Self Aware Army Healing Community Book a 1:1 call with Tara FREE 5-minute Breathwork Download Get the Nervous System Reset Toolkit Apply to the Healthy Men-tality Men's Program Submit a question for an upcoming Podcast or LIVE   __________________________________________________________________________________   Disclaimer: The content shared in this podcast is for informational and educational purposes only and should not be considered professional medical, mental health, or legal advice. I am not a licensed mental health professional or medical provider and cannot diagnose, treat, or prescribe medication for any condition. If you or someone you know is struggling, please ask for support from a licensed professional or contact a trusted organization in your area. In cases of crisis or emergency, please contact local authorities or a crisis hotline immediately. The views expressed in this podcast are my personal opinions and those of my guests. They are not intended to replace professional advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Thank you for listening responsibly.

At 25, Coleman was cheating on his wife, chronically lying, and living in constant fight-or-flight. He didn't just lose his marriage. He realized he didn't like who he had become. This episode is the raw, unfiltered story of what it actually takes to change,  not through mindset hacks, but through nervous system healing. From rock bottom… to somatic work, subconscious reprogramming, breathwork, and rebuilding emotional integrity. Today, Coleman helps women regulate their nervous systems,  and teaches men how to create emotional safety instead of control. This conversation goes beyond "self-improvement." It's about what happens when your body finally learns safety. In This Episode, We Unpack: Why trauma isn't just the event,  it's the story the body keeps telling Talk therapy ("mind down") vs somatic coaching ("body up") How breathwork completes the emotional processing loop Why peace can feel unsafe after years of chaos Co-regulation vs codependency… and what "fixing" is really about What emotional safety actually means in relationships How anxiety shows up in the body (and why you're not "just an anxious person") Why many men resist emotional work, and what shifts that Coleman shares the moment he looked at his life and thought: "I don't like who I am." That moment led him into: Plant medicine Somatic healing Inner child work Reparenting Intensive breathwork practice And ultimately….  into becoming a nervous system coach. If This Episode Hit… Send it to someone who: Says they're "just anxious" Struggles with control in relationships Feels stuck in fight-or-flight Wants to feel safe in their own body About Coleman Coleman is a holistic health and wellness coach with over 12 years of experience. His work now centers on nervous system regulation, subconscious reprogramming, and lifestyle transformation. He helps clients reconnect with their inner light and build emotional resilience from the body up. 🌐 Website: Coleheartedwellness.com 📱 TikTok: @coleheartedwellness 📷 Instagram: @colehearted_wellness   Interested in Nervous System Regulation tools? Join my healing community for breathwork + tools: unblockyourbs.com/saa Men on a Healing Journey - Learn More and apply to join me inside of our 12 week group program just for men called Healthy Men-tality: unblockyourbs.com/healthymen    Connect with Tara: Follow @unblockyourbs on Instagram @unblockyourbs on TikTok  Watch the episodes on YouTube Join the Self Aware Army Healing Community Book a 1:1 call with Tara FREE 5-minute Breathwork Download Get the Nervous System Reset Toolkit Apply to the Healthy Men-tality Men's Program Submit a question for an upcoming Podcast or LIVE   __________________________________________________________________________________   Disclaimer: The content shared in this podcast is for informational and educational purposes only and should not be considered professional medical, mental health, or legal advice. I am not a licensed mental health professional or medical provider and cannot diagnose, treat, or prescribe medication for any condition. If you or someone you know is struggling, please ask for support from a licensed professional or contact a trusted organization in your area. In cases of crisis or emergency, please contact local authorities or a crisis hotline immediately. The views expressed in this podcast are my personal opinions and those of my guests. They are not intended to replace professional advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Thank you for listening responsibly.

Some moments in life split your story into two chapters: Before. And after. For Charlie, that moment happened the night he discovered his wife was having an affair. After 15 years together, his marriage collapsed overnight. His nervous system spiraled. His identity shattered. And he found himself sitting in his car wondering how his life had fallen apart so quickly. But that breakdown became the beginning of something unexpected. In this episode, Charlie shares the real story behind his healing journey inside the Healthy Men-tality program, from emotional shutdown and codependency to learning how to regulate his nervous system, rebuild his self-worth, and show up as a safer father and partner. What started as survival turned into transformation. Today? He's rebuilding his life, reconnecting with himself, strengthening his relationship with his kids, and discovering what it actually means to feel confident, calm, and emotionally safe. Not because his life became perfect. But because he changed how he shows up inside it. In this episode we explore: Why men often suppress emotions until everything explodes The nervous system spiral that happens after betrayal The codependency patterns that quietly destroy relationships How childhood wounds shape adult relationships The breathwork experience that completely shifted his healing Learning to observe thoughts instead of being controlled by them Setting boundaries with parents for the first time Becoming a safer parent for his kids during divorce Rebuilding identity after a relationship ends What happens when a man learns emotional regulation Charlie didn't just learn how to survive divorce. He learned how to trust himself again. And that changed everything. If you're a man navigating heartbreak, divorce, or feeling stuck in survival mode… You don't have to figure it out alone. The Healthy Men-tality Program teaches men how to: Regulate their nervous system Lead themselves emotionally Build relationships rooted in emotional safety Break patterns that sabotage connection Apply or learn more here: www.unblockyourbs.com/healthymen Interested in Nervous System Regulation tools? Join my healing community for breathwork + tools: unblockyourbs.com/saa Men on a Healing Journey - Learn More and apply to join me inside of our 12 week group program just for men called Healthy Men-tality: unblockyourbs.com/healthymen    Connect with Tara: Follow @unblockyourbs on Instagram @unblockyourbs on TikTok  Watch the episodes on YouTube Join the Self Aware Army Healing Community Book a 1:1 call with Tara FREE 5-minute Breathwork Download Get the Nervous System Reset Toolkit Apply to the Healthy Men-tality Men's Program Submit a question for an upcoming Podcast or LIVE   __________________________________________________________________________________   Disclaimer: The content shared in this podcast is for informational and educational purposes only and should not be considered professional medical, mental health, or legal advice. I am not a licensed mental health professional or medical provider and cannot diagnose, treat, or prescribe medication for any condition. If you or someone you know is struggling, please ask for support from a licensed professional or contact a trusted organization in your area. In cases of crisis or emergency, please contact local authorities or a crisis hotline immediately. The views expressed in this podcast are my personal opinions and those of my guests. They are not intended to replace professional advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Thank you for listening responsibly.

Heartbreak has a way of exposing patterns we didn't even realize we were living inside of. In this episode, Tara sits down with heartbreak and relationship coach Erica Wright to unpack the deeper dynamics that show up in relationships, especially after betrayal, divorce, or emotional disconnection. The conversation explores how codependency develops, why people often ignore their intuition in relationships, and what it actually takes to rebuild trust with yourself after a painful breakup. Erica shares how she helps clients heal using parts work and inner child work, explaining how the different "parts" of our psyche, like the people pleaser, the protector, or the abandoned child can drive our behaviors in relationships without us realizing it. Together, Tara and Erica explore the connection between nervous system regulation, emotional safety, and self-awareness, and why many relationship struggles aren't really about the surface-level conflict at all. They also dive into one of the most misunderstood concepts in relationships today: emotional safety… what it actually means, why so many men misunderstand it, and how learning to stay present with emotions (rather than fixing them) can completely change the dynamic between partners. If you've ever struggled with codependency, ignored your gut feeling in a relationship, or wondered how to trust again after betrayal, this conversation offers practical insight into how healing actually happens. In This Episode Why codependency often looks like "being supportive" or "loving deeply" How parts work (Internal Family Systems) helps people understand their emotional patterns The role of inner child work in healing anxious attachment and people-pleasing Why betrayal and cheating can create trauma to your sense of reality How rebuilding trust after heartbreak starts with trusting yourself again Practical ways to understand what your body is communicating through emotions What women mean when they say they want emotional safety in a relationship Why trying to "fix" your partner's emotions often makes things worse How curiosity and presence can transform difficult relationship conversations About Erica Wright Erica Wright is a relationship and heartbreak coach who supports people navigating breakups, divorce, and emotional healing after relationship loss. Her work integrates parts work, subconscious reprogramming, inner child work, and nervous system regulation to help clients rebuild self-trust and create healthier relationships moving forward. You can find Erica on TikTok and Instagram: @thewright_erica Listen + subscribe: If this hit you, subscribe and leave a review — it helps more people find the work. Get the Nervous System Reset Toolkit here: https://unblockyourbs.com/toolkit Use the couple code PODCAST to get 20% discount Interested in Nervous System Regulation tools? Join my healing community for breathwork + tools: unblockyourbs.com/saa Men on a Healing Journey - Learn More and apply to join me inside of our 12 week group program just for men called Healthy Men-tality: unblockyourbs.com/healthymen    Connect with Tara: Follow @unblockyourbs on Instagram @unblockyourbs on TikTok  Watch the episodes on YouTube Join the Self Aware Army Healing Community Book a 1:1 call with Tara FREE 5-minute Breathwork Download Get the Nervous System Reset Toolkit Apply to the Healthy Men-tality Men's Program Submit a question for an upcoming Podcast or LIVE   __________________________________________________________________________________   Disclaimer: The content shared in this podcast is for informational and educational purposes only and should not be considered professional medical, mental health, or legal advice. I am not a licensed mental health professional or medical provider and cannot diagnose, treat, or prescribe medication for any condition. If you or someone you know is struggling, please ask for support from a licensed professional or contact a trusted organization in your area. In cases of crisis or emergency, please contact local authorities or a crisis hotline immediately. The views expressed in this podcast are my personal opinions and those of my guests. They are not intended to replace professional advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Thank you for listening responsibly.

Divorce is messy. It's grief. It's a relief. It's rage. It's freedom. Sometimes all in the same week. In this solo episode, I break down what really happens after divorce, especially for the men I work with inside Healthy Men-tality. The bitterness. The bargaining. The shame spiral. The temptation to jump into something new just to avoid being alone. And here's the bold truth: Dating while you're still legally or emotionally tied to someone else often isn't healing… it's avoidance. We talk about: The 5 stages of grief in divorce (even when you initiated it) Why second marriages have higher divorce rates The nervous system rush of "new love" Shame as a childhood motivator…  and how it follows men into adulthood Why being alone isn't proof you're unlovable How your partner reflects your self-worth Standards vs. protection The difference between choosing singleness and hiding in it This episode is about reclaiming yourself,  not rushing to replace what you lost. If you're navigating separation, divorce, or life after a long-term relationship, this one's for you. If you're ready to rebuild as a grounded, regulated, self-aware man, DM me HEAL and let's talk about Healthy Men-tality. Interested in Nervous System Regulation tools? Join my healing community for breathwork + tools: unblockyourbs.com/saa Men on a Healing Journey - Learn More and apply to join me inside of our 12 week group program just for men called Healthy Men-tality: unblockyourbs.com/healthymen    Connect with Tara: Follow @unblockyourbs on Instagram @unblockyourbs on TikTok  Watch the episodes on YouTube Join the Self Aware Army Healing Community Book a 1:1 call with Tara FREE 5-minute Breathwork Download Get the Nervous System Reset Toolkit Apply to the Healthy Men-tality Men's Program Submit a question for an upcoming Podcast or LIVE   __________________________________________________________________________________   Disclaimer: The content shared in this podcast is for informational and educational purposes only and should not be considered professional medical, mental health, or legal advice. I am not a licensed mental health professional or medical provider and cannot diagnose, treat, or prescribe medication for any condition. If you or someone you know is struggling, please ask for support from a licensed professional or contact a trusted organization in your area. In cases of crisis or emergency, please contact local authorities or a crisis hotline immediately. The views expressed in this podcast are my personal opinions and those of my guests. They are not intended to replace professional advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Thank you for listening responsibly.

You're good teammates. Good parents. But behind closed doors? Something's missing. The spark. The fire. The "I can't wait to touch you" energy. Most couples don't talk about sex or nobody knows how to actually talk about it. In this episode, I sit down with sex and intimacy coach Dan Purcell to talk about what's really underneath the roommate marriage phase  and why trying to "get more sex" is often the exact thing killing desire. We unpack: Why desire discrepancy is so common (and what it actually means) The "sweatpants phase" and how polarity shifts over time How covert contracts and duty-based sex quietly destroy intimacy Why trying to control or convince your partner backfires How men can express sexual desire without entitlement or blame The real role nervous system regulation plays in attraction Why emotional safety is the foundation of sexual chemistry Practical, playful ways to bring novelty back into your relationship The truth? You don't improve your sex life by controlling your partner. You improve it by regulating yourself. When emotional safety increases, desire often follows. When nervous systems calm down, intimacy has room to breathe. And when conversations shift from entitlement to vulnerability, connection deepens. If  you've been feeling rejected, frustrated, or confused about why intimacy feels harder than it used to, this episode will give you clarity and next steps. Learn more about Dan Purcell: Website: ⁠www.getyourmarriageon.com⁠ Podcast: Get Your Marriage On App: Intimately Us (Available on Apple & Google Play) Have a story to share on your own healing journey or insights on self-awareness? We'd love to have you as our guest, reach us at ⁠unblockyourbs.com/podcast⁠ ⁠ Men on a Healing Journey - Learn More and apply to join me inside of our 12 week group program just for men called Healthy Men-tality: ⁠unblockyourbs.com/healthymen⁠  Connect with Tara: Follow @unblockyourbs on Instagram @unblockyourbs on TikTok  Watch the episodes on YouTube Join the Self Aware Army Healing Community Book a 1:1 call with Tara FREE 5-minute Breathwork Download Get the Nervous System Reset Toolkit Apply to the Healthy Men-tality Men's Program Submit a question for an upcoming Podcast or LIVE   __________________________________________________________________________________   Disclaimer: The content shared in this podcast is for informational and educational purposes only and should not be considered professional medical, mental health, or legal advice. I am not a licensed mental health professional or medical provider and cannot diagnose, treat, or prescribe medication for any condition. If you or someone you know is struggling, please ask for support from a licensed professional or contact a trusted organization in your area. In cases of crisis or emergency, please contact local authorities or a crisis hotline immediately. The views expressed in this podcast are my personal opinions and those of my guests. They are not intended to replace professional advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Thank you for listening responsibly.

Two D' Days.  That's what Clayton calls them. The day he discovered the sexual affair. And the day he found out it wasn't the only one. She cheated. Twice. When he found out about the affairs, his reality shattered. He stopped functioning. Sat on the couch. Scrolled TikTok for answers. Six months later? His marriage is still rocky. But he's calm. Clear. Grounded. And not afraid anymore. In this episode, Clayton shares what happened after joining Healthy Men-tality and how nervous system regulation changed everything,  not by saving his marriage overnight, but by rebuilding him. We unpack: What betrayal actually does to a man's nervous system Why breathwork felt "sketchy" (until it rocked his world) The physical experience of emotional release (yes… including the T-Rex arms) Killing the people pleaser without becoming an a*****e Emotional detachment vs. emotional shutdown Setting boundaries when trust is gone The moment divorce stopped scaring him How showing up for himself made him a better father Clayton shares what it looked like to: Stop performing for love Stop negotiating self-respect Stop trying to control someone else's choices Draw a line in the sand Show up as a father with presence and clarity He says something powerful in this episode: "The old me is dead." And what replaced him? A man who can sit in sadness without collapsing. A man who doesn't fear divorce. A man who doesn't chase breadcrumbs. A man who can say: "I'm not abandoning myself anymore." If you're in a relationship that's falling apart… If you're trying to earn love through performance… If you feel shattered, dysregulated, stuck… This episode will hit. If you resonated with Clayton's story, I'm hosting a free 60-minute live training: From Relationship Rock Bottom to Rebuilding the Man We'll break down: Why you shut down, blow up, or chase How survival mode sabotages connection The 3-step Regulate. Lead. Connect. framework What it actually means to become emotionally safe There are only 3 live class times and I cap attendance so I can answer questions. 👉 Save your seat at: ⁠unblockyourbs.com/rebuild⁠ Interested in Nervous System Regulation tools? Join my healing community for breathwork + tools: ⁠unblockyourbs.com/saa⁠ Men on a Healing Journey - Learn More and apply to join me inside of our 12 week group program just for men called Healthy Men-tality: ⁠unblockyourbs.com/healthymen⁠ Connect with Tara: Follow @unblockyourbs on Instagram @unblockyourbs on TikTok  Watch the episodes on YouTube Join the Self Aware Army Healing Community Book a 1:1 call with Tara FREE 5-minute Breathwork Download Get the Nervous System Reset Toolkit Apply to the Healthy Men-tality Men's Program Submit a question for an upcoming Podcast or LIVE   __________________________________________________________________________________   Disclaimer: The content shared in this podcast is for informational and educational purposes only and should not be considered professional medical, mental health, or legal advice. I am not a licensed mental health professional or medical provider and cannot diagnose, treat, or prescribe medication for any condition. If you or someone you know is struggling, please ask for support from a licensed professional or contact a trusted organization in your area. In cases of crisis or emergency, please contact local authorities or a crisis hotline immediately. The views expressed in this podcast are my personal opinions and those of my guests. They are not intended to replace professional advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Thank you for listening responsibly.

You finally decided to do the work. You're learning about nervous system regulation. You're reflecting on your patterns. You're trying to show up differently. And instead of relief… She says: "Why now?" "I've been asking for this for years." In this episode, Tara breaks down: Why resentment often shows up when growth begins What emotional shutdown in women actually means Why your healing doesn't automatically repair years of micro-betrayals How to develop emotional range instead of emotional volatility What emotional safety actually means (beyond the buzzword) Why empathy isn't weakness — it's leadership If you're navigating a separation, divorce, or relationship breakdown… If she feels emotionally out of reach… If you freeze, shut down, over-explain, or get defensive in conflict… This episode will challenge you — and give you a path forward. Want to go deeper? Register for the free training:  From Relationship Rock Bottom to Rebuilding the Man 👉 ⁠unblockyourbs.com/rebuild⁠ Interested in Nervous System Regulation tools? Join my healing community for breathwork + tools: ⁠unblockyourbs.com/saa⁠ Men on a Healing Journey - Learn More and apply to join me inside of our 12 week group program just for men called Healthy Men-tality: ⁠unblockyourbs.com/healthymen⁠ Connect with Tara: Follow @unblockyourbs on Instagram @unblockyourbs on TikTok  Watch the episodes on YouTube Join the Self Aware Army Healing Community Book a 1:1 call with Tara FREE 5-minute Breathwork Download Get the Nervous System Reset Toolkit Apply to the Healthy Men-tality Men's Program Submit a question for an upcoming Podcast or LIVE   __________________________________________________________________________________   Disclaimer: The content shared in this podcast is for informational and educational purposes only and should not be considered professional medical, mental health, or legal advice. I am not a licensed mental health professional or medical provider and cannot diagnose, treat, or prescribe medication for any condition. If you or someone you know is struggling, please ask for support from a licensed professional or contact a trusted organization in your area. In cases of crisis or emergency, please contact local authorities or a crisis hotline immediately. The views expressed in this podcast are my personal opinions and those of my guests. They are not intended to replace professional advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Thank you for listening responsibly.

If every conversation with your partner feels like an attack… If feedback turns into defensiveness, shutdowns, or arguments… If you keep asking yourself, "Why does this keep happening?" This episode is for you. In today's conversation, I break down why defensiveness isn't confidence or self-advocacy… it's a nervous system response rooted in shame and early childhood wiring. We're unpacking: Why your body reacts before your logic ever shows up How defensiveness protects an identity wound,  not your relationship The difference between guilt ("I did something wrong") and shame ("I am wrong") Why high-achieving men feel regulated at work but unravel at home How childhood beliefs quietly drive adult relationship conflict What actually changes when you heal self-worth instead of chasing validation This isn't about blaming your partner.It's about understanding what's happening inside you, and learning how to interrupt the cycle so you can show up steady, grounded, and emotionally safe. If you're ready to stop surviving your relationship and start rebuilding from the inside out, I'm inviting you to my free training: 👉 From Relationship Rock Bottom to Rebuild A one-hour class on nervous system regulation, emotional safety, and rebuilding connection without shame or self-abandonment. Register here: ⁠unblockyourbs.com/rebuild⁠ Interested in Nervous System Regulation tools? Join my healing community for breathwork + tools: ⁠unblockyourbs.com/saa⁠ Men on a Healing Journey - Learn More and apply to join me inside of our 12 week group program just for men called Healthy Men-tality: ⁠unblockyourbs.com/healthymen⁠ Connect with Tara: Follow @unblockyourbs on Instagram @unblockyourbs on TikTok  Watch the episodes on YouTube Join the Self Aware Army Healing Community Book a 1:1 call with Tara FREE 5-minute Breathwork Download Get the Nervous System Reset Toolkit Apply to the Healthy Men-tality Men's Program Submit a question for an upcoming Podcast or LIVE   __________________________________________________________________________________   Disclaimer: The content shared in this podcast is for informational and educational purposes only and should not be considered professional medical, mental health, or legal advice. I am not a licensed mental health professional or medical provider and cannot diagnose, treat, or prescribe medication for any condition. If you or someone you know is struggling, please ask for support from a licensed professional or contact a trusted organization in your area. In cases of crisis or emergency, please contact local authorities or a crisis hotline immediately. The views expressed in this podcast are my personal opinions and those of my guests. They are not intended to replace professional advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Thank you for listening responsibly.

When life punches you in the throat (flu, ice storm, a branch through your roof at 5am… you know, casual "unprecedented times" stuff), you learn real fast what "emotional safety" actually means. And here's the thing: emotional safety has become a buzzword. A lot of women use it. A lot of men hear it and instantly translate it as physical safety. "I've never hit her." "I don't scream." "I would never hurt her." Cool… but that's not the conversation your partner is trying to have. In this episode, I'm breaking down what an emotionally safe partner is NOT—because most relationships aren't falling apart from one big dramatic event. They're dying from the daily patterns: defensiveness, fixing, shutting down, walking on eggshells, and two nervous systems treating each other like threats. Spoiler alert: You can't create emotional safety with someone if you don't know how to be emotionally safe within yourself. In this episode, we get into: Why "I never get upset" isn't emotional safety - it's usually repression The difference between uncomfortable vs unsafe (and why this wrecks communication) Why walking on eggshells is a relationship death sentence The Fixer/Rescuer trap: how "solving it" is often you avoiding your own discomfort Why the real root problems aren't the dishwasher, the tone, or the text message How trauma (big T and little t) gets stuck in the body and drives your reactions Why therapy-speak doesn't equal healing (and why your partner can feel the difference) The skill that changes everything: curiosity > defensiveness Next week, registration opens for my biggest free training yet: "From Relationship Rock Bottom to Rebuild"  We're going deep on nervous system regulation, relationship patterns, and what it actually takes to become an emotionally safe partner. If you're not on my email list, you might miss the registration link so download this free 5 minute Breathwork gift and it'll get you on my email list and give you a daily reset tool to practice: www.unblockyourbs.com/5minutebreathwork Interested in Nervous System Regulation tools? Join my healing community for breathwork + tools: unblockyourbs.com/saa Men on a Healing Journey - Learn More and apply to join me inside of our 12 week group program just for men called Healthy Men-tality: unblockyourbs.com/healthymen  Connect with Tara: Follow @unblockyourbs on Instagram @unblockyourbs on TikTok  Watch the episodes on YouTube Join the Self Aware Army Healing Community Book a 1:1 call with Tara FREE 5-minute Breathwork Download Get the Nervous System Reset Toolkit Apply to the Healthy Men-tality Men's Program Submit a question for an upcoming Podcast or LIVE   __________________________________________________________________________________   Disclaimer: The content shared in this podcast is for informational and educational purposes only and should not be considered professional medical, mental health, or legal advice. I am not a licensed mental health professional or medical provider and cannot diagnose, treat, or prescribe medication for any condition. If you or someone you know is struggling, please ask for support from a licensed professional or contact a trusted organization in your area. In cases of crisis or emergency, please contact local authorities or a crisis hotline immediately. The views expressed in this podcast are my personal opinions and those of my guests. They are not intended to replace professional advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Thank you for listening responsibly.

Wayne is separated from his wife of 30 years and after starting therapy, he's realizing something that hits a lot of men like a truck: He spent decades hiding emotions to keep the peace… until his body couldn't do it anymore. In this coaching episode, we talk about emotional shutdown, suppressed rage, and why Wayne mostly feels anger and barely joy with almost nothing in between. We break down what "freeze + fight" looks like in real life, why emotions feel scary when you've been trained to suppress them, and the practical tools that help you find the gap between trigger and reaction (so you don't explode… or disappear). In this episode, we cover: Why emotional numbness isn't "cold"...it's survival The difference between fight vs freeze (and how men get stuck in both) A simple body-scan + breathing tool that takes 10 seconds How to widen the "gap" in the heat of conflict Why your self-image can't be built on achievements The "boiling pot with the lid on" metaphor (and why breathwork works to turn off the heat) How to stop outsourcing validation and start meeting your own needs Want support? If you're a man navigating separation/divorce, emotional shutdown, rage, or relationship patterns you're ready to change, you can learn more about Healthy Men-tality and even apply for the program here: www.unblockyourbs.com/healthymen And if you ever want to be coached on the podcast, you can apply at unblockyourbs.com/podcast Connect with Tara: Follow @unblockyourbs on Instagram @unblockyourbs on TikTok  Watch the episodes on YouTube Join the Self Aware Army Healing Community Book a 1:1 call with Tara FREE 5-minute Breathwork Download Get the Nervous System Reset Toolkit Apply to the Healthy Men-tality Men's Program Submit a question for an upcoming Podcast or LIVE   __________________________________________________________________________________   Disclaimer: The content shared in this podcast is for informational and educational purposes only and should not be considered professional medical, mental health, or legal advice. I am not a licensed mental health professional or medical provider and cannot diagnose, treat, or prescribe medication for any condition. If you or someone you know is struggling, please ask for support from a licensed professional or contact a trusted organization in your area. In cases of crisis or emergency, please contact local authorities or a crisis hotline immediately. The views expressed in this podcast are my personal opinions and those of my guests. They are not intended to replace professional advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Thank you for listening responsibly.

He came home from an AA meeting. The kids were gone. His wife was gone. Divorce papers were sitting on the counter. And that was just the beginning. In today's coaching episode, I'm talking with Onus bout what happens when: your nervous system lives on high alert, being misunderstood feels like a threat, anger shows up before vulnerability, and your relationships become a constant attempt to "earn" love… instead of receive it. We get into disorganized / fearful-avoidant attachment, ADHD rage, the difference between uncomfortable vs unsafe, and why co-parenting trust can't be rebuilt on vague mind-reading rules. If you've ever thought: "Why do I get so defensive?" "Why don't I trust good things?" "Why does being alone feel unbearable?" …this one is for you. In this episode, we cover: Why "ethical non-monogamy" often becomes outsourced connection when there aren't real boundaries The real fear under defensiveness: "If I'm alone, I don't matter" Why yelling can feel normal to one person and unsafe to another (and what to do with that) A simple co-regulation tool to use mid-conflict The question that changes co-parenting dynamics: "What's the roadmap back to trust?" Why shame keeps you stuck and what accountability actually looks like Your next step (if you want support): If you're a man trying to rebuild your emotional stability, relationships, and self-respect after divorce or heartbreak, my program Healthy Men-tality was built for this. Learn more + apply: www.unblockyourbs.com/healthymen And if you're not ready for that yet, start with one small thing today like downloading my free 5minute daily breathwork practice to take the edge off the intensity of your stress, anxiety, anger or fear… www.unblockyourbs.com/5minbreathwork Connect with Tara: Follow @unblockyourbs on Instagram @unblockyourbs on TikTok  Watch the episodes on YouTube Join the Self Aware Army Healing Community Book a 1:1 call with Tara FREE 5-minute Breathwork Download Get the Nervous System Reset Toolkit Apply to the Healthy Men-tality Men's Program Submit a question for an upcoming Podcast or LIVE   __________________________________________________________________________________   Disclaimer: The content shared in this podcast is for informational and educational purposes only and should not be considered professional medical, mental health, or legal advice. I am not a licensed mental health professional or medical provider and cannot diagnose, treat, or prescribe medication for any condition. If you or someone you know is struggling, please ask for support from a licensed professional or contact a trusted organization in your area. In cases of crisis or emergency, please contact local authorities or a crisis hotline immediately. The views expressed in this podcast are my personal opinions and those of my guests. They are not intended to replace professional advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Thank you for listening responsibly.