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(00:00:00) Intro and welcome (00:00:57) What somatic experiencing is and how Peter developed it (00:02:08) How trauma gets stuck in the body (00:07:40) Shock trauma, complex trauma, and what didn’t happen (00:12:34) Starting with numbness, pain, and alexithymia (00:15:16) Tim asks Peter to guide Andy through a somatic exercise (00:18:16) The “voo” exercise, grounding, and orienting (00:22:27) Taking in the environment and noticing body sensations (00:29:05) Deserving, relaxation, and the inner judge (00:32:19) Family shame, collapse, and anger in the body (00:40:52) Grounding through the feet and finding solidity (00:42:36) Swaying, movement, and returning to flow (00:44:31) Peter’s closing message on healing trauma (00:46:27) Resources, spiritual dimensions, and final reflections Dr. Peter Levine is the developer of Somatic Experiencing, a body-based approach to healing trauma that has shaped trauma therapy around the world. He is the author of influential books including Waking the Tiger, Healing Trauma, and An Autobiography of Trauma, and is widely known for helping people understand how trauma lives in the body and how healing can happen through the nervous system. ▶ Peter A Levine, PhD, and Ergos Institute are the leaders in somatic workshops and education.Learn more about Peter's work, Somatic Experiencing® (SE™) Trainings, Research, Free programs, Books, and more here: https://www.somaticexperiencing.com/ 📚 Get all of Dr. Levine's books, including his latest, 'An Autobiography of Trauma: A Healing Journey'. Available at: Ergos Institute, Barnes & Noble, Amazon, Amazon UK, Inner Traditions, Books A Million, and Bookshop.org Subscribe to stay tuned! Connect with us: Website: www.timfletcher.ca YouTube: @TimFletcher YouTube (Podcast): @TimeWithTimPodcast Instagram: @timfletcherco Facebook: TimFletcherCo TikTok: @timfletcher_co Have a question for Tim Fletcher? Submit it here! https://bit.ly/TimewithTimQuestionBox Intro/Outro Music: ‘Take Your Pick’ by Aaron Lieberman YouTube Audio Library License - Royalty-Free Disclaimers: The Time with Tim Fletcher Podcast is for informational purposes only to provide understanding, learning, and awareness about complex trauma. No information published here can replace professional evaluation, diagnosis, or treatment. If you are in crisis, please contact your local crisis hotline at

Dr. Ingrid Clayton is a clinical psychologist, therapist, author, and trauma survivor whose work has helped many people find language for the impact of complex trauma. In this conversation, she brings insight into fawning, self-abandonment, and the long process of healing and reconnecting with the self. 🔗 More from Dr. Ingrid Clayton: Website  |  Instagram  |  Substack  |  YouTube  📚 Get Fawning: https://www.ingridclayton.com/books Subscribe to stay tuned! Connect with us: Website: www.timfletcher.ca YouTube: @TimFletcher YouTube (Podcast): @TimeWithTimPodcast Instagram: @timfletcherco Facebook: TimFletcherCo TikTok: @timfletcher_co Have a question for Tim Fletcher? Submit it here! https://bit.ly/TimewithTimQuestionBox Intro/Outro Music: ‘Take Your Pick’ by Aaron Lieberman YouTube Audio Library License - Royalty-Free Disclaimers: The Time with Tim Fletcher Podcast is for informational purposes only to provide understanding, learning, and awareness about complex trauma. No information published here can replace professional evaluation, diagnosis, or treatment. If you are in crisis, please contact your local crisis hotline at

(00:00:00) Intro and welcome (00:00:18) Jen on EFT tapping and nervous system regulation (00:00:56) What’s bringing comfort right now (00:01:45) Vulnerability, sensitivity, and staying grounded (00:07:15) A few cautions before you try tapping (00:10:06) What EFT tapping is (00:16:30) Common misunderstandings about tapping (00:22:01) How to use tapping in a real moment (00:29:03) The tapping points and how to adapt them (00:50:43) Guided tapping practice (00:59:53) What happens after a round of tapping (01:22:03) Final thoughts on allowing and self-compassion Jen is a coach and facilitator with Tim Fletcher Co who first discovered Tim’s work on YouTube during a long search for healing, and found that his way of describing trauma helped things finally start to make sense. Going through the LIFT program became a turning point in her own journey, and now she brings that personal insight into her work with deep compassion. She leads EFT tapping workshops for the LIFT community and is especially interested in somatic regulation, including tapping and other body-based tools. See a diagram of EFT Tapping points here. Subscribe to stay tuned! Connect with us: Website: www.timfletcher.ca YouTube: @TimFletcher YouTube (Podcast): @TimeWithTimPodcast Instagram: @timfletcherco Facebook: TimFletcherCo TikTok: @timfletcher_co Have a question for Tim Fletcher? Submit it here! https://bit.ly/TimewithTimQuestionBox Intro/Outro Music: ‘Take Your Pick’ by Aaron Lieberman YouTube Audio Library License - Royalty-Free Disclaimers: The Time with Tim Fletcher Podcast is for informational purposes only to provide understanding, learning, and awareness about complex trauma. No information published here can replace professional evaluation, diagnosis, or treatment. If you are in crisis, please contact your local crisis hotline at

Jenna Miscavige is an ex-Scientologist, author, speaker, and advocate who uses her platform to talk honestly about her background in Scientology and the trauma it inflicts. A year ago, we spent 4 episodes speaking with Jenna about her upbringing and how growing up in Scientology has impacted her life now. One year later, she joins us for a candid check-in on relationships, dissociation, conflict, and the ongoing work of repair. Follow Jenna: YouTube | Instagram | TikTok Buy 'Beyond Belief: My Secret Life Inside Scientology and My Harrowing Escape': https://a.co/d/i8see05 Subscribe to stay tuned! Connect with us: Website: www.timfletcher.ca YouTube: @TimFletcher YouTube (Podcast): @TimeWithTimPodcast Instagram: @timfletcherco Facebook: TimFletcherCo TikTok: @timfletcher_co Have a question for Tim Fletcher? Submit it here! https://bit.ly/TimewithTimQuestionBox Intro/Outro Music: ‘Take Your Pick’ by Aaron Lieberman YouTube Audio Library License - Royalty-Free Disclaimers: The Time with Tim Fletcher Podcast is for informational purposes only to provide understanding, learning, and awareness about complex trauma. No information published here can replace professional evaluation, diagnosis, or treatment. If you are in crisis, please contact your local crisis hotline at

Morag Clark is a Coach and Facilitator with Tim Fletcher Co's LIFT Live Program who is deeply passionate about helping people understand and work with the 12 Basic Needs. She also facilitates the ALIGN With Your Needs course and leads its bi-weekly webinars, supporting people as they explore how unmet needs shape their lives and how healing can begin in practical, meaningful ways. Drawing from her own long-term recovery journey, Morag brings a compassionate, grounded perspective to the LIFT program and her own work. Her heart is to help people move from a dark and heavy view of life toward greater freedom, joy, and wholeness. Join the ALIGN With Your Needs course and communityJoin the LIFT Live Online Learning ProgramFind Morag at Grow from Within Subscribe to stay tuned! Connect with us: Website: www.timfletcher.ca YouTube: @TimFletcher YouTube (Podcast): @TimeWithTimPodcast Instagram: @timfletcherco Facebook: TimFletcherCo TikTok: @timfletcher_co Have a question for Tim Fletcher? Submit it here! https://bit.ly/TimewithTimQuestionBox Intro/Outro Music: ‘Take Your Pick’ by Aaron Lieberman YouTube Audio Library License - Royalty-Free Disclaimers: The Time with Tim Fletcher Podcast is for informational purposes only to provide understanding, learning, and awareness about complex trauma. No information published here can replace professional evaluation, diagnosis, or treatment. If you are in crisis, please contact your local crisis hotline at

Dr. Todd Berntson is a therapist, author, and speaker specializing in emotional trauma, attachment, and relationships. Drawing from both personal experience and decades of clinical work, he helps people understand how early wounds shape identity, connection, and behavior, and how healing happens through safe relationships and practical, step-by-step change. More from Dr. Todd: drtodd.com Check out Dr. Todd's podcast: ⁨@drtoddberntson⁩ Subscribe to stay tuned! Connect with us: Website: www.timfletcher.ca YouTube: @TimFletcher YouTube (Podcast): @TimeWithTimPodcast Instagram: @timfletcherco Facebook: TimFletcherCo TikTok: @timfletcher_co Have a question for Tim Fletcher? Submit it here! https://bit.ly/TimewithTimQuestionBox Intro/Outro Music: ‘Take Your Pick’ by Aaron Lieberman YouTube Audio Library License - Royalty-Free Disclaimers: The Time with Tim Fletcher Podcast is for informational purposes only to provide understanding, learning, and awareness about complex trauma. No information published here can replace professional evaluation, diagnosis, or treatment. If you are in crisis, please contact your local crisis hotline at

In this episode of Time with Tim, we're joined again by Breanne Fletcher. Breanne is Tim Fletcher Co.'s LIFT Program Director, a Registered Psychotherapist, and yes, she's also Tim's daughter! Tim and Breanne answer some of Andy's questions around boundaries, codependency, healing trauma, and more. Learn about the LIFT program: https://bit.ly/LIFTProgram Subscribe to stay tuned! Connect with us: Website: www.timfletcher.ca YouTube: @TimFletcher YouTube (Podcast): @TimeWithTimPodcast Instagram: @timfletcherco Facebook: TimFletcherCo TikTok: @timfletcher_co Have a question for Tim Fletcher? Submit it here! https://bit.ly/TimewithTimQuestionBox Intro/Outro Music: ‘Take Your Pick’ by Aaron Lieberman YouTube Audio Library License - Royalty-Free Disclaimers: The Time with Tim Fletcher Podcast is for informational purposes only to provide understanding, learning, and awareness about complex trauma. No information published here can replace professional evaluation, diagnosis, or treatment. If you are in crisis, please contact your local crisis hotline at

Dr. Luke Beardon is a senior lecturer in autism at Sheffield Hallam University and a multi-award-winning educator with more than 30 years of experience working alongside autistic individuals and families. He began engaging with autism in his early teens through hands-on work and has since built his understanding primarily through lived experience rather than purely academic models. Dr. Beardon is known for challenging deficit-based and pathologizing views of autism, openly critiquing terms like “disorder” and questioning traditional uses of the spectrum. He argues that autism itself does not cause dysfunction and that many difficulties arise from environments that are unsafe or ill-suited to autistic needs. His work emphasizes authenticity, safety, empathy, and the importance of adapting environments rather than trying to fix autistic people, with a strong focus on reducing trauma and honoring individual experience. He has published eight books on autism and has multiple academic journal publications. Read Dr. Beardon's blog: Perspectives on Autism Explore Dr. Luke Beardon's books Subscribe to stay tuned! Connect with us: Website: www.timfletcher.ca YouTube: @TimFletcher YouTube (Podcast): @TimeWithTimPodcast Instagram: @timfletcherco Facebook: TimFletcherCo TikTok: @timfletcher_co Have a question for Tim Fletcher? Submit it here! https://bit.ly/TimewithTimQuestionBox Intro/Outro Music: ‘Take Your Pick’ by Aaron Lieberman YouTube Audio Library License - Royalty-Free Disclaimers: The Time with Tim Fletcher Podcast is for informational purposes only to provide understanding, learning, and awareness about complex trauma. No information published here can replace professional evaluation, diagnosis, or treatment. If you are in crisis, please contact your local crisis hotline at

Deb Dana, LCSW, is a clinician, consultant, and author recognized internationally for her work translating Polyvagal Theory into practical, accessible tools. In close collaboration with Dr. Stephen Porges, she has helped clinicians, therapists, and individuals understand how the nervous system shapes safety, stress responses, and connection. Through her books, trainings, and teachings, Deb is known for making complex neuroscience relatable and usable in everyday life, with a focus on regulation, relationship, and embodied healing. More from Deb Dana Polyvagal Ladder / Personal Profile Map Subscribe to stay tuned! Connect with us: Website: www.timfletcher.ca YouTube: @TimFletcher YouTube (Podcast): @TimeWithTimPodcast Instagram: @timfletcherco Facebook: TimFletcherCo TikTok: @timfletcher_co Have a question for Tim Fletcher? Submit it here! https://bit.ly/TimewithTimQuestionBox Intro/Outro Music: ‘Take Your Pick’ by Aaron Lieberman YouTube Audio Library License - Royalty-Free Disclaimers: The Time with Tim Fletcher Podcast is for informational purposes only to provide understanding, learning, and awareness about complex trauma. No information published here can replace professional evaluation, diagnosis, or treatment. If you are in crisis, please contact your local crisis hotline at

Hal Hughes appeared to have everything in place. A wife, four children, a respected career as a police officer, and a reputation built on strength and service. Then a violent on-the-job assault changed the trajectory of his life, leaving him with a traumatic brain injury and setting off a gradual, unseen unraveling. In this deeply honest episode, Hal shares what followed. PTSD, chronic pain, identity loss, and an addiction to prescribed painkillers that slowly took control. He speaks openly about how close he came to losing his family, his career, and himself, and about the moment that finally forced him to confront the cost of survival without boundaries. Now sober for many years, Hal has rebuilt his life as a registered psychotherapist, speaker, and advocate for trauma-informed healing. This episode is for anyone navigating trauma, addiction, burnout, or the question of who they are after everything falls apart. 🫂 If this conversation resonates with you, share it with someone in your life. They may truly need it. Subscribe to stay tuned! Connect with us: Website: www.timfletcher.ca YouTube: @TimFletcher YouTube (Podcast): @TimeWithTimPodcast Instagram: @timfletcherco Facebook: TimFletcherCo TikTok: @timfletcher_co Have a question for Tim Fletcher? Submit it here! https://bit.ly/TimewithTimQuestionBox Intro/Outro Music: ‘Take Your Pick’ by Aaron Lieberman YouTube Audio Library License - Royalty-Free Disclaimers: The Time with Tim Fletcher Podcast is for informational purposes only to provide understanding, learning, and awareness about complex trauma. No information published here can replace professional evaluation, diagnosis, or treatment. If you are in crisis, please contact your local crisis hotline at

00:00 How Narcissists Win Your Trust 19:23 The Devaluation Stage 42:59 The Temporary Discard and Hooks 59:15 The Discard Phase Subscribe to stay tuned! Connect with us: Website: www.timfletcher.ca YouTube: @TimFletcher YouTube (Podcast): @TimeWithTimPodcast Instagram: @timfletcherco Facebook: TimFletcherCo TikTok: @timfletcher_co Have a question for Tim Fletcher? Submit it here! https://bit.ly/TimewithTimQuestionBox Intro/Outro Music: ‘Take Your Pick’ by Aaron Lieberman YouTube Audio Library License - Royalty-Free Disclaimers: The Time with Tim Fletcher Podcast is for informational purposes only to provide understanding, learning, and awareness about complex trauma. No information published here can replace professional evaluation, diagnosis, or treatment. If you are in crisis, please contact your local crisis hotline at

Joining Andy and Tim, our guest Jen shares how complex trauma shaped her identity long before she had words for it. Growing up with ADHD, emotional gaps, and a persistent sense of “badness,” she learned to survive by adapting to others, carrying emotions that weren’t hers, and losing connection to herself. Together with Tim Fletcher, the conversation explores pre-verbal trauma, shame, attachment patterns, marriage strain, nervous system healing, and why menopause can intensify trauma symptoms for women. This episode offers clarity, validation, and hope for anyone who feels like healing hasn’t worked or wonders why things suddenly got harder later in life. Subscribe to stay tuned! Connect with us: Website: www.timfletcher.ca YouTube: @TimFletcher YouTube (Podcast): @TimeWithTimPodcast Instagram: @timfletcherco Facebook: TimFletcherCo TikTok: @timfletcher_co Have a question for Tim Fletcher? Submit it here! https://bit.ly/TimewithTimQuestionBox Intro/Outro Music: ‘Take Your Pick’ by Aaron Lieberman YouTube Audio Library License - Royalty-Free Disclaimers: The Time with Tim Fletcher Podcast is for informational purposes only to provide understanding, learning, and awareness about complex trauma. No information published here can replace professional evaluation, diagnosis, or treatment. If you are in crisis, please contact your local crisis hotline at

On this special Christmas Day episode of Time With Tim, Andy brings together members of Tim’s team to talk about why this season can feel tender for so many people. Christmas is often portrayed as magical, yet for many it brings reminders of loss, loneliness, and change. In this episode, you’ll hear honest reflections on grief, chosen family, new traditions, and the quiet hope that grows through connection. The Fletcher family also shares a heartfelt message to close the episode. Wherever you are today, may you feel a sense of belonging. You are not alone. Subscribe to stay tuned! Connect with us: Website: www.timfletcher.ca YouTube: @TimFletcher YouTube (Podcast): @TimeWithTimPodcast Instagram: @timfletcherco Facebook: TimFletcherCo TikTok: @timfletcher_co Have a question for Tim Fletcher? Submit it here! https://bit.ly/TimewithTimQuestionBox Intro/Outro Music: ‘Take Your Pick’ by Aaron Lieberman YouTube Audio Library License - Royalty-Free Disclaimers: The Time with Tim Fletcher Podcast is for informational purposes only to provide understanding, learning, and awareness about complex trauma. No information published here can replace professional evaluation, diagnosis, or treatment. If you are in crisis, please contact your local crisis hotline at

In this episode, Tim and Andy dive into one of the most challenging parts of healing from complex trauma: boundaries. Together they explore why boundaries often feel confusing, scary, or “selfish,” and how unhealthy family systems shape the rules we grow up with. Tim explains the difference between internal and external boundaries, why willpower alone isn’t enough, how shame and fawning affect our ability to hold limits, and what loving, sustainable boundary-setting actually looks like in real relationships. If you’ve ever struggled to stand up for yourself, collapsed around other people’s emotions, or felt guilty for having needs, this conversation offers clarity, compassion, and practical tools for change. Subscribe to stay tuned! Connect with us: Website: www.timfletcher.ca YouTube: @TimFletcher YouTube (Podcast): @TimeWithTimPodcast Instagram: @timfletcherco Facebook: TimFletcherCo TikTok: @timfletcher_co Have a question for Tim Fletcher? Submit it here! https://bit.ly/TimewithTimQuestionBox Intro/Outro Music: ‘Take Your Pick’ by Aaron Lieberman YouTube Audio Library License - Royalty-Free Disclaimers: The Time with Tim Fletcher Podcast is for informational purposes only to provide understanding, learning, and awareness about complex trauma. No information published here can replace professional evaluation, diagnosis, or treatment. If you are in crisis, please contact your local crisis hotline at

NARM® (The NeuroAffective Relational Model®) is a therapeutic approach developed by Dr. Laurence Heller that helps people heal developmental and complex trauma by restoring connection with their authentic self in the present moment. It focuses on shame, survival patterns, and disrupted attachment, offering a compassionate path toward agency, self-trust, and inner coherence. Andy sits down with fellow LIFT coach and facilitator, Gabriel Schüßler, to cover this fascinating modality. Learn more about NARM: https://narmtraining.com/ Subscribe to stay tuned! Connect with us: Website: www.timfletcher.ca YouTube: @TimFletcher YouTube (Podcast): @TimeWithTimPodcast Instagram: @timfletcherco Facebook: TimFletcherCo TikTok: @timfletcher_co Have a question for Tim Fletcher? Submit it here! https://bit.ly/TimewithTimQuestionBox Intro/Outro Music: ‘Take Your Pick’ by Aaron Lieberman YouTube Audio Library License - Royalty-Free Disclaimers: The Time with Tim Fletcher Podcast is for informational purposes only to provide understanding, learning, and awareness about complex trauma. No information published here can replace professional evaluation, diagnosis, or treatment. If you are in crisis, please contact your local crisis hotline at