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2025/01/21
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2026/09/22
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Twice a month, we take 30 minutes to connect leaders to Admired Leadership® content and our Admired Leadership® coaches. These sessions are specifically tailored for leaders who are craving universal, simple and actionable leadership content. Participants will leave the session with an understanding of Admired Leadership’s behavioral approach as well as valuable insights to implement immediately.
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Know Your Worth
2026/09/22
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Key Highlights
Talents are a subset of strengths — and the distinction matters: A true talent is something you're distinctively good at, get better at faster than most people, don't find exhausting to develop, and that energizes you when you do it. Strengths that drain you are actually weaknesses in disguise.Talk about impact, not traits: Saying "I'm a world-class listener" lands very differently than describing the specific outcomes your listening produces. Shifting from trait to impact is one of the simplest and most effective ways to communicate worth without sounding self-promotional.Your leader always has an appetite for four things: Talented people on your team, honest project and client updates, market intelligence, and organizational shifts they can't see from where they sit. Feeding those four things regularly is one of the most natural ways to demonstrate your worth without ever making it about you.When people brush you aside, check five things: Competence, honesty and candor, reliability, the respect you show others, and your availability to them. Being dismissed is rarely random — it usually traces back to one of these.Help your team see their own worth: Specific, detailed positive feedback — not vague praise — is what actually helps people understand what makes them distinctive. Name their talents explicitly. Many high performers have never heard it said out loud.Notable Quotes
"It took me a lifetime." — Picasso, on the three-minute sketch that cost 40,000 francs."Talents are things where getting better at it doesn't feel like homework at all.""Weaknesses are also things you're really good at — that drain you.""Don't talk about the trait, talk about the impact.""People get burned out not because of the hours. They've ended up in roles where they're not playing to their strengths — not bringing their strongest and highest levels of worth to a role. That's when burnout happens."Featured Speakers
John Schoew is a Managing Director and Executive Coach at CRA | Admired Leadership. Before coaching, John held senior leadership roles at Accenture, Honeywell, and Palantir, including leading Accenture's cybersecurity practice in North America. He brings a rare combination of real-world business experience and deep coaching expertise to his work with leaders across industries.Wes Bender is the host of the Connecting to Admired Leadership webinar series.Resources Mentioned
Field Note: "Know Your Worth"
Drift Demands Redirection
2026/09/11
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Key Highlights
Drift doesn't announce itself: It happens quietly, in the gap between your intentions and your daily calendar. By the time most leaders notice it, the team is already significantly off course.Your calendar is your compass: A fast gut check — are your priorities on your calendar, or just everyone else's? If you can't find protected time for your most important work, drift has already set in.Subscription beats expectation-setting: Telling a complacent team what's expected of them rarely works. Getting them genuinely bought into a shared purpose — and clear on what's in it for them — is what actually moves people.Redirection starts with you: Changing other people's behavior is genuinely hard. Before trying to redirect your team, redirect yourself. Your own consistency and focus will do more to pull others back on course than any directive will.When drift is coming from above, tread carefully: Questioning a leader's direction in a group setting almost always backfires. In a strong one-on-one relationship, seeking clarity is fair — but the risk-reward calculation depends heavily on context.Notable Quotes
"Drift is that idea that you're not paying attention to the massive purpose and that massive big rock you're working towards — and instead are just stuck in the day-to-day monotony.""Are you scheduling time for your priorities, or are other people's priorities filling your calendar? That's the gut check.""It's very difficult to get other people to change their behavior. Hard stop.""When we think about drift demanding redirection, it should always start with you.""Drift is passive. Redirection is futuristic — it's actionable. If I'm not being outwardly actionable, that's a problem."Featured Speakers
Megan Kronen is a Managing Director at CRA | Admired Leadership. She leads the firm's Relationship Short Course and works across multiple industries advising senior leaders on relationships, strategy, and leadership development.Wes Bender is the host of the Connecting to Admired Leadership webinar series at CRA | Admired Leadership.Resources Mentioned
Field Note: "Drift Demands Redirection"
On Having Intellectual Integrity
2026/08/28
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Key Highlights
Intellectual integrity is about seeing reality on its own terms: The most common violation isn't arrogance — it's the subtle habit of conflating the way you want things to be with the way they actually are. Vision is about the future. Strategy and tactics have to be grounded in the present.
Confidence and intellectual integrity aren't opposites: Leaders can be optimistic about where they're going while being realistic about what it takes to get there. That combination builds more credibility than false certainty ever will.
Stay in the problem longer than feels comfortable: The instinct to jump to solutions is strong, but the leader's job is to make sure the problem is defined correctly before the group decides what to do about it. Surfacing and challenging assumptions is one of the most valuable things a leader can do in a meeting.
Withhold your point of view as long as you can: The moment a leader shares their perspective, it constrains the entire conversation. Keeping questions neutral and staying curious preserves the full range of possible solutions.
How you use AI reflects your intellectual integrity: Using AI to pressure-test your thinking is a high-integrity behavior. Using it to outsource your thinking — or to make a weak argument sound stronger — is the opposite. The best leaders use AI to think harder, not less.
Notable Quotes
"Intellectual integrity is about seeing the world as things are, not as you wish them to be."
"Be optimistic about the future, but be realistic about what it's going to take to get there."
"The second you insert your point of view, you've constrained the entire solution set."
"You want AI to increase your cognitive load, not decrease it. If you're not thinking harder, something is probably not good."
"We're not going to hope it into existence. To bring it into existence, we need to reckon with reality."
Featured Speakers
Matt Coyne is a Managing Director at CRA | Admired Leadership based in Chicago. A key driver of the firm's AI thinking and external communications — including the weekly Confluence newsletter and AI short courses — Matt brings sharp analytical thinking and a deep commitment to intellectual honesty to everything he does.
Wes Bender serves as a facilitator and thought leadership coordinator at CRA | Admired Leadership, helping leaders connect great coaching conversations to the everyday moments that define their leadership.
Resources Mentioned
Field Note: "On Having Intellectual Integrity"
What Should I Discuss at my One-on-Ones?
2026/08/18
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Key Highlights
Weekly one-on-ones aren't optional — they're how you keep everyone headed in the same direction: Without regular check-ins, people veer off course without anyone noticing until it's too late to course correct.
The direct report should own the agenda: When leaders drive the meeting, it becomes a task list. When direct reports drive it, it becomes a conversation — and accountability follows naturally from people who helped shape the plan.
The 10-10-10 structure: You go, I go, we go. Ten minutes for the direct report to lead, ten for the leader to share feedback and updates, ten to align on next steps together. It's a starting point, not a rigid formula.
Status updates don't belong in one-on-ones: If the meeting is consumed by project updates, propose a weekly email instead. It frees the conversation for coaching, development, and the things that actually require dialogue.
Large spans of control require more discipline, not less: If you have to reduce frequency, commit to the cadence and make each conversation richer. A monthly one-on-one that gets canceled sends a louder message than no one-on-one at all.
Notable Quotes
"If you're just telling someone what to do next, there's every chance they sit there and go, hmm — and then do whatever they were going to do anyway."
"Imagine making your direct report feel like a task list. That's kind of what happens in a one-on-one that you drive."
"We don't want a secret test. We want truly the encouragement and the attitude of — speak up."
"If you do have to downshift the frequency, you've got to commit to it. And then you've got to commit to making it really rich."
"What do you need from me right now — is it just to listen, or is it to intervene?" — one of the most useful questions a leader can ask.
Featured Speakers
Diana Hong is a Partner and Executive Coach at CRA | Admired Leadership, specializing in strategic communications and leadership advisory. With over 20 years of experience advising senior leaders, she brings sharp insight and practical wisdom to some of the most common — and most mishandled — leadership challenges.
Matt Coyne is an Executive Coach at CRA | Admired Leadership team, hosting in place of Wes Bender for this session.
Resources Mentioned
Field Note: "What Should I Discuss at My One-on-Ones?"
The 5-3-1 Rule and Social Fitness
2026/07/21
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Key Highlights
Social fitness is a discipline, not a personality: Being good at relationships isn't something you're born with — it's something you practice. Treating it like physical fitness, with intention and consistency, is what separates leaders who build lasting influence from those who don't.
The 5-3-1 rule: Five meaningful connections a week for breadth, three close relationships nurtured daily for depth, and one hour of quality conversation a day. The hardest — and most important — is the one.
With prickly people, lead with curiosity: When warmth isn't being reciprocated, shift to genuine curiosity. Learn about the people, places, passions, and defining moments that shaped who they are. That's how connection starts.
Influence breaks down in three places: The message, the style, or the relationship. When influence is off, one of those three is usually the culprit — and a transactional relationship is often the one leaders overlook.
In efficiency-driven cultures, your discipline matters more: When the organization isn't reinforcing relationships, the accountability falls on you. Treat relational touchpoints as non-negotiables on your calendar — because canceling them sends a message too.
Notable Quotes
"The relationship is the conversation, and the conversation is the relationship."
"If the relationship is hard, that means you're probably doing it right."
"We have a strategy for pretty much everything else in business. Why not for relationships?"
"It's not the system that undermines authenticity — it's the execution."
"Your own personal discipline matters more in environments that don't support it — because the accountability is on you."
Featured Speakers
Mallory Stacey is a Managing Director in the Leadership Practice at CRA | Admired Leadership. Known for her rare ability to make people feel genuinely connected, Mallory brings both warmth and rigor to her coaching — and is a living example of what intentional relationship-building looks like in practice.
Wes Bender serves as a facilitator and thought leadership coordinator at CRA | Admired Leadership, helping leaders connect great coaching conversations to the everyday moments that define their leadership.
Resources Mentioned
Field Note: The 5-3-1 Rule and Social Fitness
The Difference Between Motivation and Inspiration and Why It Matters
2026/07/17
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Key Highlights
Motivation pushes, inspiration pulls: Motivation is an external driver — material reward, urgency, even fear. Inspiration is internal. It elevates people toward something they didn't think they could achieve and sustains performance long after external incentives run out.
Inspiration is not a personality — it's a behavior: The most inspirational leaders have no common personality profile. What they share is intentionality. Everything that matters in leadership has to be deliberate.
Trust is the foundation of every relationship: The degree of trust you have with someone is a function of your credibility, reliability, and relational depth — divided by your self-orientation. The more it's about you, the less trust you build.
The best teams are player-led: The most dominant teams in sports history weren't led by the GOAT — they were led by someone in the jersey who held people accountable, inspired from within, and made the leader's role smaller over time.
A leader's job is to make themselves obsolete: The goal is a team that moves toward the objective without waiting for permission. You get there by building people's capacity to decide and act — one conversation at a time.
Notable Quotes
"There are three buttons you should never push as a leader: snooze, panic, and easy."
"The way to do hard things is actually pretty simple — just start doing hard things."
"The only time you swim in somebody else's lane is when you're not swimming in the same direction."
"Inspiration is not a personality. Everything you do as a leader that really matters has to be intentional."
"The way we know we've succeeded as leaders — and as fathers — is when they say 'see ya' and they're gone and they don't need us."
Featured Speakers
Eric Springer is an Executive Coach at CRA | Admired Leadership with five years at the firm and 28 years of prior military service, retiring as a Colonel from the Air Force. A former Division I athlete, Eric brings a rare combination of operational discipline and genuine warmth to his coaching — and has a gift for making leadership principles land in both professional and personal life.
Wes Bender serves as a facilitator and thought leadership coordinator at CRA | Admired Leadership, helping leaders connect great coaching conversations to the everyday moments that define their leadership.
Resources Mentioned
Field Note: The Difference Between Motivation and Inspiration and Why It Matters
At the Intersection of AI, Leadership & Communication
2026/06/26
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Good coaching is advisory, not just reflective: The most effective coaching doesn't just ask questions and hold up a mirror — it tells you what to do. Specific, behavioral recommendations are what actually move people forward.
ALEX knows things other AI tools don't: Built on 2 million words of proprietary CRA | Admired Leadership content, ALEX surfaces specialized knowledge on topics like communicating change, conflict management, message design, board dynamics, and motivation — knowledge that generic AI simply doesn't have.
Deployment strategy determines adoption: Organizations that hand ALEX to everyone at once see the same low uptake as any unsolicited software rollout. The ones seeing 80% engagement start with their most enthusiastic users and let adoption spread laterally from there.
AI is creating a skills erosion problem nobody is talking about: When AI handles the hard work, people stop developing the judgment and pattern recognition that comes from doing it themselves. Leaders need to be deliberate about which skills require ongoing reps — and protect those.
The future of talent development is apprenticeship: As AI takes on more of the work, on-the-job learning through doing is no longer enough. Leaders will need to think of themselves as mentors to apprentices — and most organizations aren't built for that yet.
Notable Quotes
"AI won't replace you. The person using AI better than you will replace you."
"Alex doesn't have true conviction. It does not truly care about you. It may act like it cares about you — but it is not laying awake at night thinking about you."
"Engage Alex on your hardest problems. It will quickly tell you when it's out of its depth."
"If AI is making the decisions you otherwise would make, those are decisions you have never made — and it slows down how much you develop expertise."
"You can't scale me to 7,000 people. That's where there's power in a solution like this."
Featured Speakers
Alan Nelson is Co-Managing Partner at CRA | Admired Leadership, with over 30 years advising some of the most consequential leaders and organizations in the world — from Fortune 500 companies to multilateral institutions like the World Bank and IMF. A key architect of ALEX and a licensed pilot, Alan brings the same precision to leadership development that he brings to everything else: specific, behavioral, and grounded in 40 years of what actually works.
Wes Bender serves as a facilitator and thought leadership coordinator at CRA | Admired Leadership, helping leaders connect great coaching conversations to the everyday moments that define their leadership.
Delivering a Tough Message in the First Two Sentences
2026/06/16
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Key Highlights
Not all tough messages are the same: Performance conversations, unwanted decisions, and feedback delivered upward each carry different dynamics and require different preparation — knowing which type you're in shapes how you approach it
Avoidance is a leadership problem first: When leaders delay or soften tough messages, they're not protecting the relationship — they're eroding it, and everyone around them notices
The breadcrumb drop: The best leaders prime the conversation before it happens — a simple heads-up that you want to discuss something gives the other person time to prepare emotionally, so they don't feel blindsided or ambushed
Don't bury the lead: Loading a tough message with context and excuses before delivering it actually undermines the feedback — by the time it lands, the other person has already been handed a justification for their behavior
Reframe confrontation as care: The leaders who are best at this have stopped thinking of feedback as something they do to someone and started thinking of it as something they do for someone — clarity is an act of respect
Notable Quotes
"Clarity is really an act of care — being able to deliver a message cleanly, directly, with genuine compassion is more respectful to the other person."
"People can smell intent from a mile away — if I'm smelling intent that's like, this person just wants me to feel bad, I'm gonna show up in that conversation differently."
"The first time they give the feedback is the first time they've heard it out loud themselves."
"You're hurting their feelings if you're not giving them feedback."
"The only way you get better at this sort of thing is by actually doing it — it may not always feel good, but that's how you become a master at it."
Featured Speakers
Katie Angstadt is a Partner at CRA | Admired Leadership, specializing in executive coaching and strategic communications. With 18 years at the firm, she brings deep experience advising senior leaders across industries on some of their most consequential conversations — including the ones they've been putting off. Katie used Alex to prepare for this very session, pressure-testing her thinking and making sure she wasn't leaving anything on the table.
Wes Bender serves as a facilitator and thought leadership coordinator at CRA | Admired Leadership, helping leaders connect the dots between great coaching conversations and the everyday moments that define their leadership.
Resources Mentioned
Field Note: "Deliver a Tough Message in the First Two Sentences"
False Harmony in Teams
2026/05/19
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Key Highlights
The truth-harmony spectrum: Teams and cultures exist on a spectrum from "truth over harmony" (direct, sometimes blunt) to "harmony over truth" (smooth on the surface, but real concerns get pushed underground and into back channels) - the goal is neither extreme, but leaders need to know where their team sits
False harmony is a leadership problem first: Passive aggressiveness and false harmony exist because people have calculated that the cost of honest challenge is too high - leaders who react hard to pushback are often the ones creating the conditions for silence
The parking lot test: After a meeting, watch how many side conversations start in the hallway or parking lot - those conversations are the real meeting, and they're a reliable barometer of how much false harmony exists in the room
Relationships die in the silence: False harmony at its extreme is polite nodding followed by silence - and that silence is where trust erodes, because there's nothing being worked on together, committed to, or followed through on
Depersonalize conflict to make honesty safer: Structured exercises like risk assessments and "fast forward to failure" reframes give people permission to raise concerns without it feeling like a personal attack on the leader or the idea
Notable Quotes
"Passive aggressiveness happens when people say the cost of a direct challenge is too high. So it just leaks in these very unproductive ways."
"Relationships die in the silence. False harmony at its extreme is a lot of polite yes, and then silence - and that's where trust and relationship die off."
"False harmony is short-term easy, but long-term headache. Someone nods, agrees, fine - but inevitably that always bites us afterwards."
"I think about the first thing I want to say, and I don't say it. I think about the second thing, and I don't say it. I think about the third thing - and maybe I say that." (comedian's secret to a 50-year marriage)
"Weak leaders prefer the silence." - Admired Leadership Field Note
Featured Speakers
Diana Hong is a Partner at CRA | Admired Leadership, specializing in strategic communications and leadership advisory. With over 20 years of experience advising senior leaders through major organizational changes, she brings equal parts warmth, humor, and sharp analytical thinking to every engagement. Known for her ability to turn a room from tense to laughing and back again, she uses Alex daily to pressure-test her coaching by asking it to play her worst critic, her toughest team member, or an outside observer with no context.
Wes Bender serves as a facilitator and thought leadership coordinator at CRA | Admired Leadership, joining from the road between his nephew's graduation in Chattanooga and an on-location event in Miami - navigating graduation season with five family graduates across high school, college, and a master's degree.
Resources Mentioned
Field Note: "False Harmony in Teams"
The Three Signals Every Message Sends
2026/05/08
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Key Highlights
The three signals framework: Every message - every email, meeting, hallway conversation - is simultaneously advancing a task, projecting an identity (how do I want to be seen?), and signaling something about the relationship (how do I see this person?) whether you intend it to or not
Three types of communicators: Expressive communicators react and say what they feel (authentic but full of accidental signals); conventional communicators follow scripts and norms; strategic communicators design - they ask "what am I actually trying to accomplish here?" and think about all three signals
The 2008 auto CEO bailout: A masterclass in what happens when leaders nail the task signal but ignore identity and relationship - flying private jets to ask for a government bailout sent signals of disconnection and entitlement that nearly derailed the entire effort, regardless of intent
Channel matters as much as message: Different channels suppress different signals - email is efficient for task but strips out relationship entirely, leaving people to fill in tone with the worst possible interpretation; strategic communicators ask which medium will actually carry the signals they intend
The accidental vs. intentional leader: The accidental leader asks "what do I need them to do?" The intentional leader also asks "how do I want to be seen?" and "what do I want this message to say about how I see this person?" - going beyond task to design identity and relationship signals deliberately
Notable Quotes
"Communication is never just information transfer. Every message is doing three things at once - advancing a task, projecting an identity, and signaling something about the relationship - whether you're aware of it or not."
"A strategic communicator can turn a birthday party into a funeral, and a funeral into a birthday party - because they're aware of the situation and know how to use communication to drive outcomes."
"The intention is beside the point. The signals landed anyway, and it nearly derailed the entire effort." (on the auto CEO bailout)
"Email strips out the relationship signal entirely. Because they can't see your tone, they're often filling it with the worst possible interpretation of what you truly mean."
"The other two signals aren't disappearing - they're just going unmanaged. That's what we want leaders to focus on: how are you being intentional about all three?"
Featured Speakers
Jordyn Kreshover is a Managing Director at CRA | Admired Leadership, specializing in strategic communication, organizational change, and leadership visibility. With nearly a decade advising senior leaders at some of the world's most recognizable companies, she helps leaders use communication as a lever to drive outcomes - whether launching a new strategy, leading through change, or building deeper connection with their teams.
Wes Bender serves as a facilitator and thought leadership coordinator at CRA | Admired Leadership, helping to connect practical leadership insights with real-world application through webinars and educational content.
Resources Mentioned
Field Note: "How Others Are Interpreting What You Say and Do"
Allocate Time in Each Day for Both Strategic & Tactical Work
2026/04/24
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Key Highlights
Tactical vs. strategic defined simply: Tactical is "do and delegate" - executing and getting things done; strategic is "design and discern" - designing how the organization works and looking farther down the field to determine how to win
Why tactical wins every time: Tactical work is urgent, visible, and on fire - inboxes, texts, and project management systems are "fancy ways for people to put things on your to-do list without your permission," creating a constant magnetic pull away from strategic thinking
Four disciplines for protecting strategic time: Use forcing mechanisms (like Reclaim.ai), build strategic thinking into recurring meetings as a consistent agenda item, leverage relationships and ongoing conversations to keep strategy alive, and find your personal best environment for strategic thinking
Delegation as a strategic tool: Assign strategic thinking work to team members as a development opportunity - it creates a forcing mechanism for you while growing their capability, and prevents the stagnation that happens when leaders hold onto everything
The compounding effect: Just as financial discipline of saving first pays off exponentially, 30 minutes of daily strategic thinking compounds dramatically - the leaders who do this consistently are the ones who orient to shore while others swim hard in the wrong direction
Notable Quotes
"Management is doing things right. Leadership is doing the right things." - Peter Drucker (quoted in Field Note)
"Inboxes, texts, chats, project management systems are fancy ways for people to put things on your to-do list without your permission."
"What got you here won't get you there as a leader. You have to recognize a massive context shift from mainly tactical work to the design and discerning work of strategy."
"If you're excellent at something but it drains the living daylights out of you, delegate it - so you can focus on the things you're excellent at that actually energize you. That's where you have real impact."
"Think about a swimmer out at sea. Every now and then you've got to pick yourself up and orient to shore - am I heading the right direction? If you don't do that, you may have the greatest tactical work in the world and be miles off course."
Featured Speakers
John Schoew (pronounced "Shay") is a Managing Director and Senior Executive Coach at CRA | Admired Leadership, bringing a unique combination of corporate strategy expertise and executive coaching to his work with leaders. A former partner at Accenture with experience spanning Fortune 500 companies, government, and the Middle East, he specializes in helping leaders make the critical shift from tactical excellence to strategic leadership. A self-described ADHD thinker who does his best strategic work while driving, he uses Alex daily as a thought partner and voice-records insights to process later with AI.
Wes Bender serves as a facilitator and thought leadership coordinator at CRA | Admired Leadership, helping to connect practical leadership insights with real-world application through webinars and educational content.
Resources Mentioned
Field Note: "Strategic vs. Tactical Thinking" (featuring Peter Drucker quote)
The Humility Myth
2026/04/07
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Key Highlights
The humility myth debunked: Humility is not about retreating, withdrawing, or diminishing yourself - it's an active behavior of putting others higher, not putting yourself lower
Selfless self-promotion: You can still be proud and confident while expressing humility - shift from singular to inclusive pronouns, frame success around organizational impact, and highlight what you learned in the process
Extend credit in the widest sphere possible: Don't just credit the most visible contributors - look for ways to shine a light on those with first, second, and tertiary connections to the work
The compounding effect: What feels like a short-term cost of humility becomes a long-term reputation as someone who scales impact and cultivates excellence in others - it bounces back and reflects on you
AI amplifies the need for humility: As AI democratizes capability and knowledge, what differentiates leaders will increasingly be uniquely human qualities - those who acknowledge AI's capabilities while shining a light on others' unique human contributions will stand out
Notable Quotes
"Humility is not thinking less of yourself - it's thinking of yourself less." - Rick Warren
"Being humble means recognizing that we are not on earth to see how important we can become, but to see how much difference we can make in the lives of others." - Theologian quoted in Field Note
"You don't have to put yourself back in order to push someone forward. Both of those things can be true at the same time."
"If I only extend credit in those instances where I'm expecting a really high return, that feels transactional. In order for humility to be credible, it needs to be demonstrated consistently."
"We can drive way more impact when we're moving others and amplifying others to be their most successful - we only get a one-to-one return when we do that on ourselves."
Featured Speakers
Ben Stringfellow is an Executive Coach and Partner at CRA | Admired Leadership, known for his ability to turn either-or conversations into both-and conversations and his talent for making complex leadership concepts immediately actionable. A passionate advocate for the behavioral view of leadership development, he uses Alex daily as an "intentional contrarian" - asking it to prove him wrong and push his thinking in new directions. His coaching approach is grounded in the belief that leadership is simply making people and situations better.
Wes Bender serves as a facilitator and thought leadership coordinator at CRA | Admired Leadership, helping to connect practical leadership insights with real-world application through webinars and educational content.
Resources Mentioned
Field Note: "The Humility Myth"
Pressure is a Privilege
2026/03/27
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Key Highlights
The origin of "pressure is a privilege": Billie Jean King coined the phrase spontaneously in 2000 when Lindsay Davenport was "freaking out" before facing a nemesis - but the full quote is critical: "Pressure is a privilege, and champions adjust"
Your body isn't betraying you: Clammy hands, racing heart, breathlessness - these physiological signals mean your body is preparing you for high performance, not warning you to retreat
The 30-second pre-routine: Recognize your personal pressure signal, label it ("I feel this because it matters and I'm ready"), then control your pace of breath, voice, and movement to project composure
Specificity over intensity: When communicating pressure to teams, don't rise with rousing speeches - be very specific: "We need to focus on these 3 things for the next 3 weeks" moves people to action rather than panic
Protect your bandwidth: Build a "to don't do" list before high-pressure days - pre-decide what to wear, eat, and your one non-negotiable outcome to preserve cognitive capacity for consequential decisions
Notable Quotes
"Pressure is a privilege, and champions adjust." - Billie Jean King, 2000 Fed Cup locker room
"The physiological response is actually a signal. Our body is not betraying us - it's preparing us for high performance, preparing us to meet the moment we're uniquely equipped for."
"Great leaders don't feel pressure less. They just meet it slightly differently, from a place of resourcefulness because they're uniquely equipped to tackle that moment."
"When pressure hits, label it: I'm feeling this because it matters, because I care, and I'm ready. That creates distance from the idea of a threat to considering it as a challenge."
"I'm here because my experience, my relationships, the hard moments I've passed have equipped me to meet this moment. That's the piece that allows you to meet pressure as a privilege."
Featured Speakers
Emma Mufraggi is an Executive Coach at CRA | Admired Leadership who has led executives across Europe, Latin America, and North America through their most challenging moments. Joining from France, she brings deep expertise in sports psychology, high-performance coaching, and the practical disciplines that separate leaders who thrive under pressure from those who are overwhelmed by it. A practitioner of everything she teaches, she bookends every day with time outside as her non-negotiable recovery routine - a habit born during COVID that has become a cornerstone of her own high performance.
Wes Bender serves as a facilitator and thought leadership coordinator at CRA | Admired Leadership, helping to connect practical leadership insights with real-world application through webinars and educational content. A father of an 18-year-old heading to college who experienced his first genuine "pressure as privilege" moment the morning of this very webinar - his 50th - thanks to coaching from Emma the day before.
Resources Mentioned
Field Note: "Pressure is a Privilege"
Learn to Speak in Headlines
2026/03/17
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Key Highlights
Excellence vs. expertise: Leaders don't struggle with what to say, they struggle with how to say it concisely - leading with all your expertise actually works against you by muddying the water
The three-question framework: Every headline should answer - What is this really about? Why does it matter? What do I need from you? - in just a few sentences without data or slides
Headlines as frames, not reveals: Don't save your recommendation for the end of a presentation - start with the headline to frame what's inside the box you want to discuss, then invite questions
Brief, brilliant, be gone: When 30 minutes gets squashed to 5, leaders who start with headlines can adapt instantly while those who planned to build to a reveal get flustered and lose credibility
Daily practice builds the muscle: Watch a show and summarize the headline, read articles and improve their headlines, or prepare morning coffee headlines about your work - ritual repetition makes headline thinking automatic
Notable Quotes
"People follow leaders who create clarity, and headlines create that clarity. We're going to help you tell people what matters, why it matters to them, and how they should understand the conversation."
"If you can't get to the headline within just a few sentences, then you probably aren't prepared as you need to be."
"The ability to be concise and clear and focused is really a credibility marker and allows us to be heard more effectively, particularly with senior audiences."
"We want to make sure that when we're talking to people, we're really crystallizing what those headlines are. The interesting information will muddy the water for us."
"Communication is about an interaction, not just a one-way message. Message sent is not message received."
Featured Speakers
Kristen Fenty is a Managing Director at CRA | Admired Leadership, specializing in coaching and advising leaders on strategic communication, particularly during high-stakes organizational change including new strategies, technologies, mergers, acquisitions, and layoffs. With extensive global experience recently spanning Mexico and India, she helps leaders cut through complexity to create clarity in moments of maximum anxiety and ambiguity.
Wes Bender serves as a facilitator and thought leadership coordinator at CRA | Admired Leadership, helping to connect practical leadership insights with real-world application through webinars and educational content.
In Search of Excellence
2026/02/20
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Key Highlights
Excellence vs. perfection: Perfection is an unattainable ideal; excellence is the highest quality you can achieve given your constraints - time, people, resources, and context
The foundation of excellent teams: Three pillars - permission to hold each other accountable to shared standards, constant environment of feedback, and low personal ego where success is collective not individual
The 2-3 rule: You can't be excellent at everything - choose what you're uniquely equipped to do better than others, focus there intensely, and be content with good enough elsewhere
Values hierarchy matters: When excellence conflicts with speed (or other values), leaders must explicitly clarify which supersedes - if excellence wins, you do fewer things at higher quality rather than more things faster
Excellence is both achievement and pursuit: You can achieve excellent work (Olympic medals, perfect dishes), but the best performers are always hungry for more - it's simultaneously a destination and a journey
Notable Quotes
"Excellence is the consistent pursuit of the highest quality you can achieve within a given set of constraints. Perfection is an ideal abstraction - it's not truly attainable in any pursuit."
"Excellence is real. We can see it. The question is how do we get there ourselves and build that pursuit among our teams?"
"The baseline table stakes is: excellence is what we are about. There's a stated agreement amongst the team that we want to be excellent."
"Excellence itself, for most people, is motivating. When I'm on an excellent team surrounded by excellent people, I want to show up for them in a way that I'm carrying my own weight."
"Were the Chicago Bulls perfect? No. It's very obvious they weren't. But excellence is not perfection - it's the pursuit of the highest level of quality given the constraints."
Featured Speakers
Matt Coyne is a Managing Director at CRA | Admired Leadership based in Chicago, specializing in strategic communication, leadership, and increasingly AI integration for organizational excellence. With nearly a decade of experience helping senior leaders define and achieve excellence in practice (not just theory), he brings a unique perspective shaped by studying excellence across domains from Michelin-starred kitchens to Olympic athletes.
Mallory Stacey is a Managing Director at CRA | Admired Leadership, an executive coach and leadership advisor who specializes in helping leaders and teams navigate the tension between high standards and sustainability. A parent of young children who understands firsthand the challenge of pursuing excellence across competing priorities and domains. Guest host filling in for regular host Wes Bender.
Resources Mentioned
Field Note: "In Search of Excellence" (embodied excellence concept)