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What if the secret to casting a powerful spell isn't following someone else's instructions perfectly, but learning to trust your own intuition? 🔮 In Part 2 of our exploration of modern witchcraft, practicing witch, rootworker, and spiritual mentor Desiree Diaz returns to Perspective Shifts for Healing with The Hanged Woman to show us how spellcasting actually works. From setting intentions and choosing herbs to cleansing your space, working with candles, and creating your own incantations, Desiree takes us behind the scenes of her magical practice. And y'all, we're getting hands-on! Desiree walks us through creating a money bowl for abundance, explaining the symbolism behind the ingredients and how to keep the ritual meaningful over time. ✨ The perspective shift: Magic isn't about perfectly following someone else's formula. It's about developing a practice rooted in intention, intuition, respect, and personal connection. 🎧 Missed Part 1? Listen to our conversation about modern witchcraft and where the power of magic comes from! 🎧 In This Episode 00:00 – Welcome to Spellcasting 101 04:08 – What Makes a Spell Powerful? 07:10 – Intention, Ethics & Finding Your Magical Path 12:54 – Crafting a Spell: Rituals, Cleansing & Plant Spirits 25:26 – The Power of Words, Psalms & Prayer 33:47 – Spellwork, Action & Trusting the Timing 44:27 – Let's Make a Money Bowl! 53:25 – Protection, Spiritual Safety & Discernment 01:00:04 – The Real Power of Spellwork 01:03:14 – Making Magic Your Own   🤳🏽 Connect with Us 📸 Instagram: @3ofCupsHealing 🌐 Website: https://www.3ofcupshealing.com ✨ Curious about Energy-Based Branding? Learn how we combine intuitive guidance, competitive research, and strategy to help entrepreneurs build brands that feel authentically theirs. 👉🏽 https://www.3ofcupshealing.com 🕊️ Healing After Loss Course If you're navigating the loss of a loved one, a pet, a miscarriage, or another life-changing transition, our self-paced Healing After Loss course offers grounded support, practical tools, and optional live guidance to help you move through grief with compassion. 👉🏽 https://www.3ofcupshealing.com/halcourse 🙌🏽 Connect with Desiree Diaz 🌐 Website: Sacred Wise Magick 📸 Instagram: @sacredwisemagick 💬 Threads: @sacredwisemagick

What does it really mean to practice witchcraft? Where does the power behind magic come from? And what actually happens when someone casts a spell? In Part 1 of this special two-part conversation on Perspective Shifts for Healing with The Hanged Woman, host Julienne Irons welcomes Desiree Diaz, founder of Sacred Wise Magic, practicing witch, rootworker, and spiritual business mentor. With more than 30 years of experience, Desiree takes us behind the scenes of modern witchcraft, exploring how she works with rituals, herbs, candles, ancestors, intention, and spiritual energy. We also explore: 🔮 The difference between witchcraft, manifestation, prayer, and intention 🔮 What happens before, during, and after casting a spell 🔮 Why magic requires action in the physical world 🔮 How doubt, fear, and feelings of unworthiness affect our choices 🔮 The importance of ethics, integrity, and discernment 🔮 What it means to reclaim your personal power Plus, Desiree shares a deeply personal story about surrendering to an unexpected life change that turned out to be exactly what she needed. Whether you're curious about witchcraft, exploring your own spiritual practice, or simply interested in a new perspective on personal power, this conversation invites you to question what you believe is possible. COMING NEXT: Part 2, where Desiree walks us through how to craft and cast spells!   🎧 In This Episode 00:00 – What If Magic Isn't What We Think It Is? 03:00 – Meet Desireé Diaz: A Lifetime of Witchcraft 07:20 – What Does It Really Mean to Practice Magic? 09:50 – Where Does the Power of Magic Come From? 16:00 – Behind the Scenes of Casting a Spell 24:20 – Manifestation, Prayer & Spellwork: What's the Difference? 27:00 – Why Trust and Action Matter After Casting a Spell 35:00 – When an Unexpected Change Becomes a Blessing 40:00 – Overcoming Doubt and Reclaiming Your Power 49:15 – Ethics, Integrity & Responsibility in Witchcraft 🤳🏽 Connect with Us 📸 Instagram: @3ofCupsHealing 🌐 Website: https://www.3ofcupshealing.com   ✨ Curious about Energy-Based Branding? Learn how we combine intuitive guidance, competitive research, and strategy to help entrepreneurs build brands that feel authentically theirs. 👉🏽 https://www.3ofcupshealing.com   🕊️ Healing After Loss Course If you're navigating the loss of a loved one, a pet, a miscarriage, or another life-changing transition, our self-paced Healing After Loss course offers grounded support, practical tools, and optional live guidance to help you move through grief with compassion. 👉🏽 https://www.3ofcupshealing.com/halcourse 🙌🏽 Connect with Desiree Diaz 🌐 Website: Sacred Wise Magick 📸 Instagram: @sacredwisemagick 💬 Threads: @sacredwisemagick

What if your dreams are inviting you to listen? On Perspective Shifts for Healing with The Hanged Woman, Julienne Irons welcomes back Dream Tending practitioner Julie B. Freed to explore recurring dreams, nightmares, and dreams as portals into the unconscious. Julie shares how building relationships with dream images can reveal unexpected sources of support, with safety and curiosity guiding the process. Julienne also opens up about how tending a recurring ghost ship dream brought surprising insights into grief, anger, and forgiveness. What becomes possible when we start paying attention to our dreams? 🎧 In This Episode 00:00 The magic of dreams 07:00 What is Dream Tending? 11:00 My recurring dream: grief and forgiveness 24:00 Why dreams keep returning 31:00 Nightmares, safety, and finding allies 46:00 Dreams as portals 54:00 How to start connecting with your dreams 01:00:00 Up next: modern witchcraft with Desiree Diaz 🤳🏽 Connect with Us 📸 Instagram: @3ofCupsHealing 🌐 Website: https://www.3ofcupshealing.com ✨ Curious about Energy-Based Branding? Learn how we combine intuitive guidance, competitive research, and strategy to help entrepreneurs build brands that feel authentically theirs. 👉🏽 https://www.3ofcupshealing.com 🕊️ Healing After Loss Course If you're navigating the loss of a loved one, a pet, a miscarriage, or another life-changing transition, our self-paced Healing After Loss course offers grounded support, practical tools, and optional live guidance to help you move through grief with compassion. 👉🏽 https://www.3ofcupshealing.com/halcourse 🙌🏽 Connect with Julie Freed 🌐 Website https://www.juliebfreed.com/ 📸 Instagram https://www.instagram.com/satyajulie/ 📘 Facebook https://www.facebook.com/julie.freed.33

Who gets to decide what's magic? In this episode of Perspective Shifts for Healing with The Hanged Woman, host Julienne Irons sits down with religion and magic scholar, professor, and author Dr. Yvonne Chireau to question the boundaries we've created between magic, religion, science, superstition, and the supernatural. Dr. Chireau explores how history, colonialism, race, religion, and cultural power have influenced which practices are considered legitimate and which are dismissed as magic, witchcraft, superstition, or something dangerous. Together, they explore the historical hierarchy that positioned magic as “primitive,” religion as a step forward, and science as the most evolved way of understanding the world. They also examine the magical and supernatural elements that exist within established religions, the complicated relationship between Christianity and African American spiritual traditions, and why the categories we use aren't always as clear as they seem. Dr. Chireau also breaks down the often-confused distinction between Haitian Vodou, “voodoo,” and African American Hoodoo, including how Hoodoo emerged among enslaved Black Americans through an intersection of African traditions, Christianity, and Indigenous knowledge. The conversation ultimately asks an even bigger question: What happens when we stop treating magic, religion, and science as completely separate ways of understanding reality? Maybe the most interesting perspective shift isn't deciding which category is right. Maybe it's questioning the barriers between them. That final idea is especially true to her actual closing perspective shift: she says magic, religion, and science are ultimately “just words” and encourages moving more freely within or beyond those distinctions. THW Magic Dr Chireau 🎧 In This Episode 00:00 — Who Decided What Gets Called Magic? 02:40 — Meet Dr. Yvonne Chireau 04:30 — Is There Even a Definition of Magic? 06:00 — When Magic Became “Primitive” and Science Became “Advanced” 11:00 — What If Magic, Religion & Science Aren't a Straight Line? 14:00 — Who Gets the Power to Define What’s Sacred? 18:00 — Is There Magic Hiding Inside Religion? 23:00 — Has the World Really Become Disenchanted? 29:00 — When “Magic” Becomes a Tool of Power 33:00 — Christianity, Conjure & the Categories That Don't Quite Work 37:00 — Are Magic, Religion & Science All Creating Something? 43:00 — Different Rules, Similar Human Desires 47:00 — The Conjure Woman and the Scientist 51:00 — Vodou, Voodoo & Hoodoo Are NOT the Same Thing 59:00 — Are Human Beings More Powerful Than We Realize? 1:04:00 — Maybe They're Just Words 🤳🏽 Connect with Us 📸 Instagram: @3ofCupsHealing 🌐 Website: https://www.3ofcupshealing.com ✨ Curious about Energy-Based Branding? Learn how we combine intuitive guidance, competitive research, and strategy to help entrepreneurs build brands that feel authentically theirs. 👉🏽 https://www.3ofcupshealing.com 🕊️ Healing After Loss Course If you're navigating the loss of a loved one, a pet, a miscarriage, or another life-changing transition, our self-paced Healing After Loss course offers grounded support, practical tools, and optional live guidance to help you move through grief with compassion. 👉🏽 https://www.3ofcupshealing.com/halcourse 🤳🏽 Connect with Dr. Yvonne Chireau 🌐 Website: www.academicHoodoo.com 📸 Instagram: @profchireau 📕 Book: Black Magic https://a.co/d/02JG4zjM

What can magic teach us about the human mind? Psychological scientist and magician Dr. Alice Pailhès joins me to explore how our brains construct reality, how easily our choices can be influenced without us realizing it, and what magic reveals about perception, belief, and free will. We also explore the surprising power of rituals and lucky charms and ask: If science can explain why something works, does that actually make it any less magical? Maybe understanding the mechanism doesn’t remove the magic. Maybe it just moves the magic somewhere else. 00:00 — What Happens When Science Meets Magic? 01:52 — Meet the Scientist Who Studies Magic 05:54 — When the Impossible Breaks Our Model of Reality 09:15 — Your Brain Is Constructing More Than You Realize 13:57 — Did You Really Choose That? 20:31 — The Invisible Influences Shaping Everyday Decisions 22:14 — If We’re Always Being Influenced, Do We Have Free Will? 26:16 — A Quick Break 28:11 — Why Rituals & Lucky Charms Can Actually Work 30:48 — When Belief Becomes a Tool 34:08 — Does Explaining Magic Make It Less Magical? 39:45 — Maybe the Magic Just Moves Somewhere Else 🤳🏽 Connect with Us 📸 Instagram: @3ofCupsHealing 🌐 Website: https://www.3ofcupshealing.com ✨ Curious about Energy-Based Branding? Learn how we combine intuitive guidance, competitive research, and strategy to help entrepreneurs build brands that feel authentically theirs. 👉🏽 https://www.3ofcupshealing.com 🕊️ Healing After Loss Course If you're navigating the loss of a loved one, a pet, a miscarriage, or another life-changing transition, our self-paced Healing After Loss course offers grounded support, practical tools, and optional live guidance to help you move through grief with compassion. 👉🏽 https://www.3ofcupshealing.com/halcourse 🤳🏽 Connect with Dr. Alice Pailhès 🌐 Website: www.dralicepailhes.com 📸 Instagram: @dralicepailhes 📕 Book: The Art of Being Fooled will be published in 2027 with MIT Press 🗣️ TED Talk: https://www.ted.com/speakers/alice_pailhes

What if Tarot isn’t about predicting your future, but helping you hear what you already know? In this episode, I sit down with my sister, Jeannine Irons, a creative marketing strategist and certified Tarot reader, to explore how trusting her intuition helped her move from a 20+ year career in entertainment marketing into an entirely new chapter. We talk about losing the career she thought she was building toward, discovering Tarot during a major life transition, and eventually combining intuitive insight with traditional brand strategy through 3 of Cups Healing. We also explore how Tarot can be used as a tool for self-trust, creative thinking, and uncovering a brand identity that actually feels like you.  🎧 In This Episode 00:00 — The Magic Is Already Within You 02:00 — Meet Jeannine Irons 06:00 — When a 20-Year Career Comes to an End 08:00 — Learning to Trust Her Intuition 11:00 — How 3 of Cups Was Born 12:00 — Tarot Beyond Predicting the Future 14:00 — Using Tarot Without Giving Away Your Power 16:00 — When Tarot Met Brand Strategy 17:00 — Tarot for Business & Taking the Leap 27:00 — What Tarot Can Reveal About a Brand 31:00 — Strategy, Research & Intuition 33:00 — The Tower: When Everything Falls Apart 35:00 — Trust Your Inner Knowing 37:00 — Next Week: What Happens When Science Meets Magic? 🤳🏽 Connect with Us 📸 Instagram: @3ofCupsHealing 🌐 Website: https://www.3ofcupshealing.com ✨ Curious about Energy-Based Branding? Learn how we combine intuitive guidance, competitive research, and strategy to help entrepreneurs build brands that feel authentically theirs. 👉🏽 https://www.3ofcupshealing.com 🕊️ Healing After Loss Course If you're navigating the loss of a loved one, a pet, a miscarriage, or another life-changing transition, our self-paced Healing After Loss course offers grounded support, practical tools, and optional live guidance to help you move through grief with compassion. 👉🏽 https://www.3ofcupshealing.com/halcourse 🤳🏽 Connect with Jeannine Irons 📸 Instagram: @3ofCupsHealing & @JeannineIrons 🌐 Website: https://www.3ofcupshealing.com 🎤 Speak To Be Seen Summit https://speak.lilachcoaching.com/summit On Zoom Tuesday, October 13th | 10 AM–1 PM PT

Host Julienne Irons kicks off a new magic theme by exploring “the magic within” with guest Kristen Crockett, who connects her background in law and leadership to facilitation, strengths work, and intuition. They discuss how identifying strengths through Gallup CliftonStrengths can provide language, confidence, and clarity, and why focusing on weaknesses often stems from cultural conditioning around struggle, humility, and external validation. Kristen explains emotional intelligence as understanding how emotions and energy shape group dynamics, and distinguishes intuition from fear, anxiety, and wishful thinking by emphasizing bodily signals and inner knowing. She shares examples of intuitive dreams and describes human design, including inner authority (with a focus on emotional authority needing time), as a tool for self-trust rather than an external rulebook. Kristen suggests starting by asking five trusted people what you do best and learning to own what makes you feel like you’ve “swallowed sunshine.”   00:00 Welcome and Theme 00:45 Business and Inner Answers 01:45 Meet Kristen Crockett 02:16 From Law to Facilitation 05:54 Power of Words 06:44 Defining Magic Within 08:52 CliftonStrengths Language 10:54 Stop Fixing Weaknesses 14:51 Emotional Intelligence 16:23 Intuition Versus Fear 18:29 Anxiety and Wishful Thinking 20:17 High Achievers and Calm 22:18 Healing Generational Anxiety 23:01 Intuition Hits and Dreams 25:30 Human Design Explained 28:13 Freedom Reimagined 28:55 Midroll Break and Sponsor 30:51 Inner Authority Decisions 36:44 Tools Not External Power 38:44 Unlearning Humility Scripts 43:02 Stop Overanalyzing Yourself 44:48 Find Your Magic Within 46:59 Swallow Sunshine Closing 🤳🏽 Connect with Us 📸 Instagram: @3ofCupsHealing 🌐 Website: https://www.3ofcupshealing.com ✨ Curious about Energy-Based Branding? Learn how we combine intuitive guidance, competitive research, and strategy to help entrepreneurs build brands that feel authentically theirs. 👉🏽 https://www.3ofcupshealing.com 🕊️ Healing After Loss Course If you're navigating the loss of a loved one, a pet, a miscarriage, or another life-changing transition, our self-paced Healing After Loss course offers grounded support, practical tools, and optional live guidance to help you move through grief with compassion. 👉🏽 https://www.3ofcupshealing.com/halcourse 🤳🏽 Connect with Kristen Crockett 💫 Learn more about The Magic Within, a private 1:1 experience for founders, executives, attorneys, and senior leaders. https://www.kristencrockett.com/the-magic-within 🌐 Website: https://www.kristencrockett.com 🎙️ Podcast: The Plastic Couch Podcast https://www.kristencrockett.com/the-plastic-couch-podcast 💼 LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/kristencrockett/

What if comparison isn't something you need to overcome… What if it's simply pointing you toward a version of yourself that was learned rather than who you truly are? In the final episode of the Envy & Jealousy series, host Julienne Irons sits down with Pratiqk Jaani, author of Dhrasti! The Perception and creator of the Dhrasti Method, to explore how childhood conditioning shapes our identity, relationships, ambition, and emotional reactions—and how changing our perception can transform the way we experience life. Together they explore the difference between the conditioned self—the identity formed through learned beliefs, comparison, fear, and lack—and the real self, the quiet observer that exists beneath every experience. They discuss why jealousy often functions as a coping mechanism rather than a character flaw, how suffering is frequently created by the meaning we assign to our experiences, and why true fulfillment comes from operating from wholeness instead of chasing external validation. Pratiqk also introduces practical exercises to help listeners experience the observer state through breath awareness, question conditioned emotional patterns, and begin shifting from reacting automatically to responding consciously. Whether you're struggling with comparison, anxiety, self-doubt, or simply searching for greater peace, this conversation offers an invitation to see yourself—and your life—from an entirely new perspective.  In this episode, we discuss: The difference between the conditioned self and the real self Why jealousy can be a learned coping mechanism How childhood conditioning shapes identity and self-worth The meaning we attach to experiences and how it creates suffering Operating from wholeness instead of lack The observer state and practical awareness exercises Gratitude, abundance, and shifting your nervous system Self-love, relationships, and unconditional love Why comparison loses its power when you change your perception ⏱️ Timestamps 00:00 Welcome and Final Perspective 01:14 Business Comparison Trap 01:28 Three of Cups Healing 02:13 Meet Pratiqk Jaani 04:43 Jealousy to Inspiration 08:33 Conditioning and Identity 10:52 Observer Self Awakening 17:02 Meaning and Mind Layers 21:14 Lack State and Focus 24:41 Gratitude and Abundance Practice 29:56 Public Face vs. Wholeness 31:39 Mid-Episode Break 31:48 Healing After Loss Promo 32:48 Branding as Uncovering 33:28 Wholeness Through Love 35:50 Self-Love, Not Lack 37:33 Unconditional Love Explained 40:04 Drop Expectations, Find Bliss 41:38 Breathwork to Find Self 43:38 Observer State Exercises 44:39 Jealousy as Learned Magic 48:23 Evolution Beyond Conditioning 51:19 Energy, Emotions & Illness 56:53 Closing Reflections and Magic Preview 🤳🏽 Connect with Us 📸 Instagram: @3ofCupsHealing 🌐 Website: https://www.3ofcupshealing.com ✨ Curious about Energy-Based Branding? Learn how we combine intuitive guidance, competitive research, and strategy to help entrepreneurs build brands that feel authentically theirs. 👉🏽 https://www.3ofcupshealing.com 🕊️ Healing After Loss Course If you're navigating the loss of a loved one, a pet, a miscarriage, or another life-changing transition, our self-paced Healing After Loss course offers grounded support, practical tools, and optional live guidance to help you move through grief with compassion. 👉🏽 https://www.3ofcupshealing.com/halcourse   🤳🏽 Connect with Pratiqk Jaani 🌐 Website: https://www.dhrastimethod.com/ 📖 Explore Dhrasti! The Perception Discover Pratiqk's book exploring how perception, conditioning, and the observer self shape our experience of life. ✨ Dhrasti 3-Day Immersive Experience A transformational experience designed to help participants explore perception, conditioning, the observer state, and inner transformation through the Dhrasti Method. 🎙️ Dhrasti Talks Thought-provoking conversations exploring how perception shapes our emotions, relationships, purpose, and our experience of life. 📸 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/dhrastipratiqkjaani/ ▶️ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@PratiqkJaani 💼 LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/pratiqkjaani/ 🎧 Dhrasti Talks Podcast: https://open.spotify.com/show/033x33IzaHkHGBm0VSirD9 📘 Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/janipratikk/

What if comparison isn't only about what's happening in your life today? What if the longing beneath comparison is really a longing to belong? In this episode of Perspective Shifts for Healing with The Hanged Woman, host Julienne Irons continues the Envy & Jealousy series through an energetic lens with Family Constellations facilitator, grief guide, and ancestral healing practitioner Julie Freed. Together they explore how unconscious family loyalties, inherited stories, and unresolved grief may quietly shape our sense of belonging—and, in turn, the way we compare ourselves to others. Julie introduces Family Constellation work as an experiential process for uncovering hidden family dynamics and offers a perspective on healing that includes both releasing what isn't ours to carry and reclaiming the strengths passed down through our lineage. In this episode: 00:00 Energetic Lens Intro 01:09 Branding Breakthrough Ad 02:08 Meet Julie Freed 02:55 Her Healing Origin Story 05:54 What Are Constellations 09:34 Comparison And Belonging 14:16 Unconscious Loyalties Explained 15:21 Quotes On Inherited Trauma 18:36 Constellation Session Walkthrough 23:49 Secrets, Trauma And Strength 26:51 Midroll Break And Course Ad 28:00 Branding Ad And Return 28:47 Bank Robbery Pattern 30:44 Awareness Over Fixing 32:23 Trauma And Belonging 35:18 Practices For Connection 37:47 Inherited Vs. Yours 39:03 Giving It Back 42:53 Ancestor Strengths 46:24 Comparison As Longing 48:50 Curiosity And Destiny 51:04 Where To Find Julie 51:59 Closing Reflections   Whether Family Constellations is completely new to you or you've explored ancestral healing before, this conversation offers a compassionate invitation to consider that healing isn't only about understanding yourself—it's also about understanding the stories you may have inherited.   🤳🏽 Connect with Us 📸 Instagram: @3ofCupsHealing 🌐 Website: https://www.3ofcupshealing.com ✨ Curious about Energy-Based Branding? Learn how we combine intuitive guidance, competitive research, and strategy to help entrepreneurs build brands that feel authentically theirs. 👉🏽 https://www.3ofcupshealing.com 🕊️ Healing After Loss Course If you're navigating the loss of a loved one, a pet, a miscarriage, or another life-changing transition, our self-paced Healing After Loss course offers grounded support, practical tools, and optional live guidance to help you move through grief with compassion. 👉🏽 https://www.3ofcupshealing.com/halcourse 🙌🏽 Connect with Julie Freed 🌐 Website https://www.juliebfreed.com/ 📸 Instagram https://www.instagram.com/satyajulie/ 📘 Facebook https://www.facebook.com/julie.freed.33

What if envy and jealousy aren't flaws to overcome... What if they're actually some of your wisest emotions? In this episode of Perspective Shifts for Healing with The Hanged Woman, Julienne Irons sits down with emotion researcher and author Karla McLaren to explore a radically different way of understanding comparison, envy, and jealousy. Rather than viewing these emotions as toxic or shameful, Karla explains how they function as forms of social intelligence—helping us recognize inequality, identify our desires, protect our relationships, and create healthier boundaries. Throughout the conversation, she reframes envy as a guide toward fairness and unmet needs, while jealousy becomes a signal pointing toward love, loyalty, and connection.  In this episode: 00:00 Welcome & Why This Episode Shifted the Theme 01:29 Sponsor: 3 of Cups Branding 02:28 Meet Karla McLaren 05:01 Why Emotions Are Forms of Intelligence 05:51 The Difference Between Envy & Jealousy 07:30 Hierarchy, Fairness & Why Some Voices Are Silenced 09:17 Why Children Naturally Understand Fairness 12:16 The Seven Deadly Sins & How Culture Misunderstands Envy 15:33 The Questions Envy Wants You to Ask 17:00 Desire, Boundaries & Learning What You Truly Want 22:11 Midroll 24:06 Ethical Gossip & The Social Genius of Emotions 29:50 Shame, Toxic Agreements & Self-Betrayal 33:20 Jealousy, Betrayal & Emotional Survival 35:40 The Biggest Misconception About Envy & Jealousy 38:49 Julienne's Perspective Shift & Next Week's Episode Whether you've struggled with comparison your whole life or simply want a healthier relationship with difficult emotions, this episode offers a perspective shift that may completely change the way you see yourself. 🤳🏽 Connect with Us 📸 Instagram: @3ofCupsHealing 🌐 Website: https://www.3ofcupshealing.com ✨ Curious about Energy-Based Branding? Learn how we combine intuitive guidance, competitive research, and strategy to help entrepreneurs build brands that feel authentically theirs. 👉🏽 https://www.3ofcupshealing.com 🕊️ Healing After Loss Course If you're navigating the loss of a loved one, a pet, a miscarriage, or another life-changing transition, our self-paced Healing After Loss course offers grounded support, practical tools, and optional live guidance to help you move through grief with compassion. 👉🏽 https://www.3ofcupshealing.com/halcourse 🙌🏽 Connect with Karla McLaren 🌐 Website https://karlamclaren.com 💙 Empathy Academy https://empathyacademy.org 📸 Instagram https://www.instagram.com/karlamclaren.m.ed/ 📘 Facebook https://www.facebook.com/KarlaMcLarenAuthor/ 🎙️ The Off-Ramp Project Podcast https://pod.link/1832833510

Why does someone else's success sometimes feel painful? Why do envy and jealousy seem to appear before we even have time to think? And what if these emotions aren't signs that something is wrong with us—but ancient survival mechanisms designed to keep us connected? In this episode of Perspective Shifts for Healing with The Hanged Woman, host Julienne Irons sits down with physician and neuroscience expert Dr. D'Marti Burgos to explore the fascinating science behind comparison, envy, jealousy, belonging, and self-compassion. Together, they unpack why social rejection activates the same brain regions as physical pain, how comparison shaped human evolution, why social media amplifies our stress response, and how understanding what's happening in the brain can help us respond with curiosity instead of shame. If you've ever wondered why comparison feels so automatic—or how to stop getting stuck in it—this episode offers one of the most practical scientific explanations you'll hear. In this episode, we discuss: Why envy and jealousy evolved to help us survive The surprising purpose behind comparison Upward vs. downward comparison How social media changes the way our brains compare Why social rejection literally hurts The neuroscience behind schadenfreude Benign envy vs. malicious envy Why chronic comparison rewires the brain Practical ways to interrupt comparison loops How gratitude, mindfulness, self-compassion, and community reshape our nervous systems Timestamps 00:00 Welcome and Setup 01:14 Branding Agency Break 02:13 Why Envy and Jealousy Exist 03:53 Jealousy as a Survival Mechanism 06:07 Envy and Self-Improvement 06:41 What Happens in the Brain During Comparison 07:08 The Hidden Danger of Downward Comparison 10:07 Humanizing the "Out Group" 12:42 Why Upward Comparison Hurts 15:20 How Authenticity Closes the Comparison Gap 16:18 Why Humans Naturally Compare 17:19 Comparison, Evolution & Belonging 20:01 Why We Compare Ourselves to Similar People 22:20 The iPhone Example: Social Belonging in Action 24:10 The Three-Step Brain Response to Envy 25:42 Why Envy Feels Like Physical Pain 26:48 Healing After Loss Sponsor Break 27:48 Branding Perspective Shift 28:27 The Neuroscience of Schadenfreude 30:52 Guilt, Shame & Automatic Reactions 32:43 Benign vs. Malicious Envy 37:40 How Chronic Comparison Rewires the Brain 40:21 Evidence-Based Ways to Interrupt Comparison 42:53 Gratitude, Meditation & Self-Compassion 46:23 Why Social Connection Is the Antidote 47:56 Final Perspective Shift & Closing Thoughts 🤳🏽 Connect with us Instagram: @3ofCupsHealing Website: 3ofcupshealing.com ✨ Learn more about 3 of Cups Heart-Centered Marketing 👉🏽 https://www.3ofcupshealing.com/ ✨ Learn more about our Healing After Loss course 👉🏽 https://www.3ofcupshealing.com/halcourse 🙌🏽 Connect with Dr. D’Marti Burgos here  Website: www.Dmartiburgos.com Instagram: @dr.curlz Email: [email protected] https://www.youtube.com/@dmartiburgos

Have you ever looked around and felt like everyone else was somehow ahead of you? Whether it's buying a home, building wealth, growing a business, or reaching a career milestone, comparison around money can quietly convince us we're falling behind. In Part 2 of our Envy & Jealousy series, host Julienne Irons sits down with financial therapist and wealth advisor Leah Hadley to explore why money becomes such a powerful measuring stick for our self-worth—and why it doesn't have to. Together they unpack how life transitions can shake our confidence, why wealth often looks very different than we assume, and how defining success through your own values can free you from chasing someone else's timeline. In this episode, you'll learn: Why feeling "behind" is often based on comparison—not reality The difference between the appearance of wealth and actual financial freedom Why money is neutral—and how we assign meaning to it How major life transitions impact confidence and financial decisions How to identify when you're climbing someone else's ladder A practical exercise to align your spending with your values Why your definition of success may deserve a second look Timestamps 00:00 Why We Feel Behind Around Money 01:22 3 of Cups Healing Sponsor 02:16 Meet Financial Therapist Leah Hadley 04:16 Rebuilding Confidence After Life Transitions 06:52 The Hidden Meaning Behind Feeling "Behind" 08:47 Homeownership, Timelines & Social Pressure 11:38 The Difference Between Looking Wealthy and Being Wealthy 14:09 Are You Climbing Someone Else's Ladder? 17:22 Money, Identity & Major Life Changes 20:35 Midroll Break 22:30 Grieving the Life You Thought You'd Have 24:12 Rebuilding Trust After Financial Setbacks 26:53 Values-Based Money Decisions 29:05 Reducing Comparison Triggers 30:24 Redefining Success on Your Own Terms 35:31 Leah's Empowered Sisterhood 38:02 Julienne's Takeaway & Next Week's Science Episode 🤳🏽 Connect with us Instagram: @3ofCupsHealing Website: 3ofcupshealing.com ✨ Learn more about 3 of Cups Heart-Centered Marketing 👉🏽 https://www.3ofcupshealing.com/ ✨ Learn more about our Healing After Loss course 👉🏽 https://www.3ofcupshealing.com/halcourse 🙌🏽 Connect with Leah Hadley here 👉🏽 🌐 Website: https://intentionalwealthpartners.com/ 📚 Substack: Intentional Money 📺 YouTube: Intentional Money Moves

Why do we compare ourselves to other people? And why can someone else's success sometimes make us question our own worth? In the first episode of our Envy & Jealousy series, host Julienne Irons sits down with licensed marriage and family therapist Jillian Blank to explore the psychology of comparison, the role of shame, and how our nervous system influences the stories we tell ourselves. Jillian explains why comparison isn't simply a social media problem. Instead, it's deeply connected to our need for safety, belonging, and the early experiences that shaped our identity. She introduces the concept of the Window of Tolerance, discusses how trauma and nervous system dysregulation fuel unhealthy comparison, and shares practical tools for recognizing when we're acting from fear instead of our authentic values. Throughout the conversation, Julienne reflects on her own experiences with comparison in the entertainment industry, leading to a powerful realization about pursuing someone else's version of success versus honoring her own. In this episode you'll learn: Why comparison is a normal human survival response How childhood conditioning and ancestral patterns influence self-worth What the Window of Tolerance is and why it matters The difference between comparison driven by shame and comparison inspired by values How to identify your own "inner critic" and interrupt anxious thought loops Practical nervous system tools for responding to comparison with compassion Why curiosity is more healing than self-criticism 00:00 Welcome Back Seekers 00:36 Comparison as a Signal 01:33 Business and Branding Break 02:32 Meet Therapist Jillian 04:02 Reading Not Enough 05:46 Why We Compare 07:02 Roots Before Social Media 08:26 Childhood Conditioning 09:34 Values Change the Lens 13:54 Window of Tolerance 16:35 Nervous System and Fear 18:20 Inspired or Afraid 23:32 Midroll Break 25:26 Compassionate Starting Point 30:10 Interrupting the Cycle 32:46 What Comparison Says 35:19 Key Perspective Shift 36:35 Where to Find Jillian 37:18 Closing Reflections and Next Week 🤳🏽 Connect with us Instagram: @3ofCupsHealing Website: 3ofcupshealing.com ✨ Learn more about 3 of Cups Heart-Centered Marketing 👉🏽 https://www.3ofcupshealing.com/ ✨ Learn more about our Healing After Loss course 👉🏽 https://www.3ofcupshealing.com/halcourse 🙌🏽 Connect with Jillian Blank here 👉🏽 🌐 https://jillianblank.com Zen Care: https://zencare.co/provider/therapist/jillian-blank?state=california

As part of the summer relaunch of Perspective Shifts for Healing with The Hanged Woman (formerly The Hanged Woman Podcast), host Julienne Irons re-releases this uplifting conversation with happiness coach Aissa Thalia. Can happiness help us manifest the life we want? Aissa believes it can, but not because we should pretend everything is perfect or ignore what we are truly feeling. Instead, she explains how happiness can be cultivated from within through gratitude, presence, emotional awareness, and consistent practice. Together, Julienne and Aissa explore the difference between vibration and frequency, why joy can be magnetic, how gratitude helps us recognize abundance, and why honoring anger, sadness, and other difficult emotions is essential to experiencing authentic happiness. Aissa also shares practical tools for shifting our emotional state, including meditation, breathwork, journaling, affirmations, movement, self-compassion, and the grounding reminder, “I am here.” If you have ever found yourself waiting for the perfect relationship, career, achievement, or circumstance before allowing yourself to feel happy, this conversation offers a powerful invitation to stop outsourcing your joy and begin reclaiming it from within. Chapters 00:00 Welcome and Guest Introduction 01:20 Three of Cups Healing 02:13 Meet Aissa Thalia 02:55 Becoming a Happiness Coach 06:09 Happiness Is an Inside Job 08:09 Why We Seek External Validation 11:34 Gratitude and Manifestation 14:15 Vibration vs. Frequency 16:39 Why Joy Is Magnetic 19:11 The Work Required to Feel Good 20:57 Shifting Your Emotions at Home 24:34 Staying Grounded in Public 27:18 Honoring Difficult Emotions 29:29 Moving Through Anger and Sadness 30:59 Recognizing Performative Joy 32:11 Midroll Break 34:04 How Awareness Shapes Reality 35:55 Signs You Are in Alignment 38:17 How to Shift Your Vibration 41:57 Happiness Requires Practice 45:54 Finding Happiness During Struggle 49:49 The Many Forms of Happiness 53:30 Moving Out of a Lack Mindset 55:14 Peace as Happiness 57:01 Closing Reflection and Resources 🤳🏽 Connect with us Instagram: @3ofCupsHealing Website: 3ofcupshealing.com ✨ Learn more about 3 of Cups Heart-Centered Marketing 👉🏽 https://www.3ofcupshealing.com/ ✨ Learn more about our Healing After Loss course 👉🏽 https://www.3ofcupshealing.com/halcourse 🙌🏽 Connect with Dr. Aissa Thalia here  Happiness Cheat Sheet: https://www.happymindsetter.com/happinesscheatsheet/ Instagram: @happymindsetter

As part of the summer relaunch of Perspective Shifts for Healing with The Hanged Woman (formerly The Hanged Woman Podcast), host Julienne Irons re-releases this inspiring conversation with transformational coach Raquel Veisaga. What if happiness isn't something you chase... What if it's something that's been there all along, hidden beneath the noise? Raquel introduces the idea of "static"—the fears, stories, survival patterns, and meanings we assign to life's challenges that pull us away from our natural state of joy. Together, she and Julienne explore heart-brain coherence, nervous system regulation, breathwork, meditation, journaling, and the power of redefining the blueprint we've inherited for what happiness is supposed to look like. If you've ever felt like life keeps getting in the way of your happiness, this conversation offers a powerful reminder that sometimes the greatest shift isn't changing your circumstances—it's changing the meaning you give them. Whether you're listening for the first time or revisiting this episode with fresh ears, you'll walk away with practical tools for quieting the static and reconnecting with your own inner frequency. ⏱️ TIMESTAMPS 00:00 Welcome & Happiness Series 01:13 Three of Cups Healing 02:13 Meet Raquel Veisaga 04:47 What Is "Static"? 07:19 Happiness as a Frequency 09:10 Healing Through Reframing 12:09 Heart-Brain Coherence 18:30 Your Happiness Blueprint 22:39 Purpose vs. Presence 27:09 Where Science Meets Spirit 33:02 Redefining Happiness 36:13 Midroll 38:07 Recognizing Life's Static 38:49 Scarcity vs. Abundance 40:03 Embodying Presence 42:35 Why Breath Changes Everything 46:23 Using Breath During Crisis 50:04 Releasing Fear 54:20 Staying Happy During Chaos 59:05 Heart-Mind Coherence 01:02:08 The ARCHIE Framework 01:08:03 Human • Superhuman • Divinity 01:10:38 Defining Happiness 01:13:22 Closing Reflection 🤳🏽 Connect with us Instagram: @3ofCupsHealing Website: 3ofcupshealing.com ✨ Learn more about 3 of Cups Heart-Centered Marketing 👉🏽 https://www.3ofcupshealing.com/ ✨ Learn more about our Healing After Loss course 👉🏽 https://www.3ofcupshealing.com/halcourse 🙌🏽 Connect with Raquel Veisaga here:  https://www.v-saga.com/ Insta: @_vsaga, @bodyrituals, @vsaga.peaceandhappiness YouTube: V-Saga (323)307-7529 [email protected]