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STFUAL: The Better Husband Podcast

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2025/03/25
Latest episode
2026/10/30
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27 min.
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10 days

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I’m on a mission to help men become better husbands by recognising and growing out of the boy-like and passive behaviours that destroy their relationships. These are the conversations helping me get there. I want to understand what the f**k is actually going on underneath the arguments, the resentment, the defensiveness, the lack of intimacy and all the other shit that can make two people who love each other wonder how the hell they got here. Look, I’m sometimes crass, sometimes insensitive and I’m definitely not perfect. You’ll probably figure that out within one episode. But I care deeply about men becoming better for their wives, their kids and themselves. That’s what this podcast is about.

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More Communication WON'T Save Your Marriage. THIS Will | EP 60
2026/10/30
Join the Mental Health Challenge for Husbands: November 2026 What if all your "communication" is the exact thing burning her out? Alessandro sits down solo for an episode built around real situations from real men. This one comes straight from his comments. A husband admits he's been asking his partner how to fold the laundry since the start of both of his relationships. Her answer every time? "Just let me do it." So he figures she just won't communicate. Alessandro sees something very different, and it's going to hit a lot of husbands right in the gut. The hard truth is she’s explained it five times to you already. And every time you ask again, she has to stop and think for you, like a manager training an employee in her own home. She's sick and tired of it and the longer it goes on, the more you'll fight about things that were never the real problem. In this episode, you'll learn the one question to ask her instead of "how do you want it?", why your attempts to help might really be about keeping her happy, and why the laundry was never about the laundry. Stay until the end. Alessandro lays out a one-month challenge that could change how she sees you, plus how to join his free November community with men's circles, a free coaching session, and breathwork. Press play and learn why she stopped explaining things to you, before she stops trying altogether. Join Mental Health Challenge for Husbands: November 2026 Disclaimer: This podcast is for educational purposes only and is not a substitute for therapy. Always seek qualified guidance for your personal situation. Views shared by Alessandro Frosali and his guests reflect their lived experiences and opinions. Every listener’s journey is unique, and no therapeutic relationship is created.
Why Men Become Resentful in Marriage | Justin Chandler Peters | EP 59
2026/10/25
Become a Better Husband in Just Two Minutes a Week for FREE: HERE Why does giving everything to your wife still leave you feeling resentful? You work hard, you show up, and you carry the weight without complaining. Then she wants more, and something in you snaps. You might call that unfair, but it might be the most useful thing your marriage will ever give you. Alessandro sits down with Justin, a men’s coach who uses breathwork and embodiment work to help men get out of their heads and into their bodies. They’re both brand new fathers, and this is the first episode Alessandro recorded since his son was born. Neither of them is pretending to have it all figured out. Alessandro tells the story of the urge he couldn’t shake the day after his son arrived, and the phone call to his mother that exposed where it came from. Justin shares the simple practice he and his wife use when one of them feels disrespected, plus the three stages every man moves through when his partner holds up a mirror he doesn’t want to look into. If you keep giving and still feel like it’s never enough, the problem isn’t how much you give. Your marriage is asking you for something else, and every week you ignore it, the resentment grows. Listen now, before the next fight shows up for you.   Chapters: 00:03:09 - Why every man carries both energies 00:07:34 - The riverbank and the river 00:12:03 - What the world would look like if men built it 00:14:31 - When giving everything turns into resentment 00:17:46 - Building a wall for a flood that never came 00:19:51 - Why strong men need to go easy on themselves 00:25:52 - The urge Alessandro felt the day after his son was born 00:31:26 - Why your partner exposes everything you’ve hidden 00:33:13 - The three stages of seeing her as your mirror 00:38:47 - What to do the second you feel the charge 00:40:19 - The practice that works ten times out of ten Stay until the end. Alessandro explains how to give everything to your family without it ever feeling like a sacrifice again. Press play and learn why the moments she pushes you hardest are the ones that make you a man. Connect with Justin: https://www.instagram.com/justnthemoment/?hl=en Justin's Skool Community: https://www.skool.com/thegrowthclub/about Become a Better Husband in Just Two Minutes a Week for Free: HERE Join Mental Health Challenge for Husbands: November 2026 Disclaimer: This podcast is for educational purposes only and is not a substitute for therapy. Always seek qualified guidance for your personal situation. Views shared by Alessandro Frosali and his guests reflect their lived experiences and opinions. Every listener’s journey is unique, and no therapeutic relationship is created.
Open Loops: Why Doing More Leaves Your Wife Feeling Unsafe and Overwhelmed | EP 58
2026/09/23
Become a Better Husband in Just Two Minutes a Week for FREE: HERE Ever feel like your brain never gets a break, even when you're not actually doing anything? Alessandro reads one of his Better Husband in Two Minute emails and breaks down a concept that changed the way he understands mental load in marriage. It started on a walk with his dog. One more unfinished task landed, his patience disappeared, and something finally clicked: the problem wasn't simply having too much to do. It was having too many things that never actually get finished. Alessandro explains why unfinished tasks keep draining your mental energy, why mental load often isn't really about the dishes or laundry, and how saying "I'll get to it this weekend" can leave your partner carrying the task long after you've stopped thinking about it. He also turns the idea back on himself. What happens when you're the reason one of your wife's biggest open loops can't close? If you've ever felt like you're doing plenty but your wife still feels overwhelmed, this episode gives you a different way to understand what may actually be happening. Stick around until the end because Alessandro gives you a simple exercise to try together: identify the open loops each of you is carrying, stop keeping score, and start asking how you can reduce them as a team. Press play and find out how many unfinished tasks are still quietly taking up space in your marriage. Become a Better Husband in Just Two Minutes a Week for FREE: HERE Join Mental Health Challenge for Husbands: November 2026 Disclaimer: This podcast is for educational purposes only and is not a substitute for therapy. Always seek qualified guidance for your personal situation. Views shared by Alessandro Frosali and his guests reflect their lived experiences and opinions. Every listener’s journey is unique, and no therapeutic relationship is created.
Sneaky Pete: The Voice In Your Head Sabotaging Your Marriage | EP 57
2026/09/16
Become a Better Husband in Just Two Minutes a Week for FREE: HERE Ever been crushing it as a husband all day, only to watch your wife walk in the room and wreck the whole thing with one tone of voice? That moment is not bad luck. There is a name for what happens next inside your head. Alessandro reads one of his favorite Better Husband emails, part of the series he sends to around 23,000 men every week. This particular idea struck a nerve online, with one version pulling in around a million views. In it, he introduces a character that represents the voice inside your head that shows up the second your wife makes a simple request. It sounds reasonable. It even feels like it is defending you. But before you know it, a five-second conversation has turned into a twenty-minute argument. The dangerous part is that this voice usually feels like it is on your side. Alessandro breaks down what is actually happening in that moment, why your brain reacts the way it does, and how to catch yourself before a small comment becomes another fight. This is not about agreeing with everything your wife says or apologizing just to keep the peace. And it definitely is not about giving up your ground. There is another option. If good moods keep disappearing the moment your wife says the wrong thing, or small requests somehow keep becoming real arguments, this episode may help you finally recognize the pattern before it takes over. Press play before this voice starts your next fight for you. Join Mental Health Challenge for Husbands: November 2026 Disclaimer: This podcast is for educational purposes only and is not a substitute for therapy. Always seek qualified guidance for your personal situation. Views shared by Alessandro Frosali and his guests reflect their lived experiences and opinions. Every listener’s journey is unique, and no therapeutic relationship is created.
Why THIS Question From Your Wife Starts The Worst Fights | EP 56
2026/09/09
Become a Better Husband in Just Two Minutes a Week for FREE: HERE Why does one sentence from your wife turn a calm night into a full blown fight? You know the moment. She says "are you okay" or "why are you upset," and you weren't, but now that she said it, you are. That sting of feeling misunderstood by the woman who's supposed to know you best. It hits deep, and most men have no idea what to do with it. Alessandro Frosali digs into this exact moment, straight from his own marriage and his Better Husband in Two Minute Emails, a series over 22,000 men read every week. He brings up a random Thursday night that tested everything he's learned about being a better husband, and what he did differently this time. This one is about the fights that aren't really about what they seem to be about. The ones where you end up arguing about tone, wording, and who said what, while the real issue gets left behind. Alessandro breaks down why that happens, what it says about you, and the one skill that stops it cold. If you've ever felt labeled, boxed in, or misunderstood by your partner and reacted in a way you later regretted, this hits close to home. You'll walk away with a way to catch yourself mid-fight and actually fix what's happening instead of just winning the argument. Press play and learn how to stop losing fights you didn't even know you were having. Join Mental Health Challenge for Husbands: November 2026 Disclaimer: This podcast is for educational purposes only and is not a substitute for therapy. Always seek qualified guidance for your personal situation. Views shared by Alessandro Frosali and his guests reflect their lived experiences and opinions. Every listener’s journey is unique, and no therapeutic relationship is created.
Mental Load: Why Your Wife Feels Like She Carries Everything | EP 55
2026/09/02
Become a Better Husband in Just Two Minutes a Week for FREE: HERE Is mental load real, or is it just something wives invented so they have one more reason to be annoyed at you? Alessandro reads one of the most replied-to emails he has ever sent to his 22,000 Better Husband subscribers. Then he does something almost nobody does. He explains mental load without putting a single woman in the story. Instead you get a hike, his brother, a parking machine, and four questions that turned one small job into a job Alessandro ended up doing anyway. If you have ever asked your wife something you could have worked out yourself, you already know how this story ends. You just have not said it out loud yet. Then a listener writes back with a defense that sounds completely fair. It is the exact defense you have been running for years, and Alessandro takes it apart on air without staying calm about it. This one is for the man who thinks he helped because he did what he was told, and for the man who keeps quiet so she does not get mad. Every year you spend as a passenger is another year she carries the whole thing alone, and that is where the anger you keep flinching from actually came from. Press play and learn why your wife getting mad is the smallest problem you have. Join Mental Health Challenge for Husbands: November 2026 Disclaimer: This podcast is for educational purposes only and is not a substitute for therapy. Always seek qualified guidance for your personal situation. Views shared by Alessandro Frosali and his guests reflect their lived experiences and opinions. Every listener’s journey is unique, and no therapeutic relationship is created.
Task C Explained: The Hidden Reason She Keeps Criticizing You | EP 54
2026/08/26
Become a Better Husband in Just Two Minutes a Week for FREE: HERE Is your wife criticizing you no matter what you do? You do task A, and she says you should have done task B. You do task B next time, and somehow that was wrong too. So you stop taking initiative altogether and just wait to be told what to do. Then she gets frustrated that you never step up. Sound familiar? Alessandro sits down to read one of his most replied to Better Husband emails, sent out to over twenty two thousand men every Saturday. This one is called Task C, and it comes from a real question inside the Better Husband Academy that hit a nerve fast. The real problem was never task A or task B. It was never even her criticism. There is a third task hiding underneath everything you do, and she can find it in seconds just by asking one simple question. Alessandro breaks down exactly what that question does to you, why you crumble or get defensive when she asks it, and what it reveals about the way you have been operating in your marriage. He also lays out word for word what a better husband says in that exact moment, and why staying calm there is what actually builds stability at home. If you feel like nothing you do is ever enough for her, you need to hear this today. Press play and learn the hidden task quietly running your marriage, and the one shift that finally ends it. Become a Better Husband in Just Two Minutes a Week for Free: HERE Join Mental Health Challenge for Husbands: November 2026 Disclaimer: This podcast is for educational purposes only and is not a substitute for therapy. Always seek qualified guidance for your personal situation. Views shared by Alessandro Frosali and his guests reflect their lived experiences and opinions. Every listener’s journey is unique, and no therapeutic relationship is created.
The 3 Day Rule Breaking Good Husbands | Ep 53
2026/08/19
Become a Better Husband in Just Two Minutes a Week for FREE: HERE Have you ever thought that your wife is just so negative? Day one, you are on it. You catch yourself before you get defensive. Day two gets harder. By day three, you snap, and somehow the conversation ends with her telling you that you are the problem. Alessandro Frosali opens a new solo series reading the most replied to Better Husband in Two Minutes emails he has written, starting with the three day rule. He has written over 75 of these emails, more than 22,000 men read them every week, and this one pulled around 30 replies from husbands who recognized themselves in every line. When your wife asks you to be a better husband, she is asking for something completely different from what you are handing her. You are measuring yourself with the wrong metric, and Alessandro explains exactly where that metric comes from and why it always runs out fast. He also shares the question his wife Julia asked him that shut him up completely, and how it changed the way he judges himself as a husband. If your effort keeps collapsing after a few days, this episode names the real reason. It is not her mood and it is not her tone. Stay until the end. There is one line that both men and women asked for word for word, and it decides whether your change lasts three days or the rest of your marriage. Press play and learn why your good husband streak keeps dying on day three. Become a Better Husband in Just Two Minutes a Week for Free: HERE Join Mental Health Challenge for Husbands: November 2026 Disclaimer: This podcast is for educational purposes only and is not a substitute for therapy. Always seek qualified guidance for your personal situation. Views shared by Alessandro Frosali and his guests reflect their lived experiences and opinions. Every listener’s journey is unique, and no therapeutic relationship is created.
The Plastic Bag Theory: Easygoing Husbands Become Less Safe Over the Years | EP 52
2026/08/12
Become a Better Husband in Just Two Minutes a Week for FREE: HERE What if the same thing that made your wife feel safe when you met is the exact reason she says she does not feel safe now? Being the easygoing, go-with-the-flow husband felt like a gift at the start. You did not argue. You did not make things heavy. You went with the flow. So why does she now say she does not feel safe around you? Alessandro breaks down the Plastic Bag Theory. It is the idea that blew up across the internet and got picked up by news outlets before he ever sat down to explain what he actually meant.  You will hear how easygoing slowly turns into exhausting, and how your wife ends up carrying a mental load you cannot even see. Alessandro walks through a study about two people named John and Jennifer that will change the way you look at a messy room for good.  He names the two kinds of broken men. And what do you do when you finally step up and she is still angry? Alessandro takes that pushback head on and gives you no place to hide. If you have ever been told to be more of a man and had no clue what that meant, this one is for you. Press play and learn why growing a spine might be the kindest thing you ever do for your marriage. Join Mental Health Challenge for Husbands: November 2026 Disclaimer: This podcast is for educational purposes only and is not a substitute for therapy. Always seek qualified guidance for your personal situation. Views shared by Alessandro Frosali and his guests reflect their lived experiences and opinions. Every listener’s journey is unique, and no therapeutic relationship is created.
Why Fatherhood BREAKS Good Husbands ft. Eli Weinstein | EP 51
2026/08/05
Become a Better Husband in Just Two Minutes a Week for FREE: HERE How much longer are you going to pretend you're fine while it quietly eats your marriage alive? When a baby arrives, everything about your life changes overnight, and nobody ever handed you a manual for it. You feel pushed out of your own home, like a third wheel while your wife and the baby have their party without you. So you throw yourself into work, you start keeping score, and the resentment builds until it lands on the one person you swore to have. Host Alessandro sits down with Eli Weinstein, therapist, host of The Dude Therapist, and author of From I Do to We Do. Eli opens up about the panic attack that dropped him to the floor and the trap that swallows good men who think staying quiet makes them strong.  Alessandro also brings up the question his wife fired back that cut clean through his excuses and forced him to grow. Chapters: 00:02:20 - The Feelings He Buried 00:05:24 - Why Fatherhood Hits Men Differently 00:09:02 - The Quiet Postpartum Struggle 00:11:16 - Your New Role After the Baby 00:13:15 - When Dad Finally Takes the Lead 00:14:17 - The Three Questions Couples Need 00:18:13 - Why Good Husbands Become Resentful 00:20:00 - The Expectations Destroying Connection 00:22:11 - When His Pain Gets Dismissed 00:24:01 - How to Speak Without Attacking 00:27:22 - The Scorekeeping Trap 00:29:24 - What Being All In Actually Means 00:31:11 - The Question That Exposed His Love 00:33:36 - Turning Judgment Into Curiosity 00:40:54 - Two Tools That Prevent Recurring Fights 00:50:52 - Find Your Own Way to Be a Father You will hear why you need to throw yourself in the rotation, the three-part check-in that heads off fights before they start, and the one word that lets you air a grievance without torching your night.  This is the stuff no one taught you about being a husband and a father, and every day you dodge it, it costs you more. Press play and learn how to stop bleeding out in silence and start showing up all in for your family. Connect with Eli: https://www.eliweinsteinlcsw.com/ Become a Better Husband in Just Two Minutes a Week for Free: HERE Join Mental Health Challenge for Husbands: November 2026 Disclaimer: This podcast is for educational purposes only and is not a substitute for therapy. Always seek qualified guidance for your personal situation. Views shared by Alessandro Frosali and his guests reflect their lived experiences and opinions. Every listener’s journey is unique, and no therapeutic relationship is created.
Why Your Wife STOPPED Wanting Sex ft. Stephanie Ganowski, Sexologist | EP 50
2026/07/29
Become a Better Husband in Just Two Minutes a Week for FREE: HERE What if the reason your wife keeps turning you down has nothing to do with sex at all? Host Alessandro sits down with Stephanie Ganowski, a sexologist and the creator of the Ronin app, for a conversation most men are too scared to have out loud. Stephanie works with men on the stuff nobody talks about, like performance pressure, feeling rejected, and the resentment that builds when sex turns into a scoreboard. She drops one line that flips the whole thing on its head, and once you hear it you cannot unhear it. You will learn why chasing release is quietly draining your marriage, and why the man who stops needing sex becomes the man his wife actually wants. Alessandro and Stephanie break down the trap of treating sex like a performance and the one blunt question that opens a door most men keep bolted shut. Stop reaching for her only when you want something, and watch how it changes the way she reads every touch. Forget lasting longer or trying harder. The real work is waking up before your house is on fire and you cannot remember how it started. Chapters: 00:06:42 - When Your Wife Stops Wanting Sex 00:08:30 - The Conversation Most Husbands Avoid 00:12:18 - Why Your Wife Feels Used 00:14:35 - Sex Does Not Create Connection 00:16:25 - What If You Did Not Need Sex? 00:19:22 - The Meaning You Attach to Rejection 00:22:16 - When Her Desire Controls Your Worth 00:23:32 - The Question That Requires Real Courage 00:26:26 - When Her No Has Nothing to Do With You 00:28:09 - Your Wife’s Desire Will Change 00:32:00 - Relearning Sex Without Porn 00:40:52 - Can Men Actually Train Arousal? 00:42:00 - Why Overthinking Kills Intimacy 00:44:10 - Why Men Wait Until the Marriage Is Burning Stay to the end, because Stephanie hands you the exact first step for men who tense up just hearing this topic, and it is far simpler than the shame in your head is telling you. Press play and learn why the strongest man in the room is the one who stopped needing it. Connect with Stephanie: https://www.stephanieganowski.com/ Become a Better Husband in Just Two Minutes a Week for Free: HERE Join Mental Health Challenge for Husbands: November 2026 Disclaimer: This podcast is for educational purposes only and is not a substitute for therapy. Always seek qualified guidance for your personal situation. Views shared by Alessandro Frosali and his guests reflect their lived experiences and opinions. Every listener’s journey is unique, and no therapeutic relationship is created.
The Approval Trap Quietly Killing Good Husbands | EP 49
2026/07/22
Become a Better Husband in Just Two Minutes a Week for FREE: HERE What happens when the people you love the most tell you that you are still not good enough? Every man walking the path to becoming a better husband hits this wall. You put in the work. You take the initiative. You carry more of the load. And then your wife, or the world, tells you it is not enough. So what do you do with that? Host Alessandro goes solo, and it might turn into a bit of a rant. He gets honest about something he is wrestling with right now in his own life. The fear of being misunderstood. The pull to jump off your own path just to defend yourself. The wound underneath it all that quietly runs the show. You will learn why chasing other people's approval, even your wife's, slowly strips away the one thing a man cannot afford to lose. You will hear what real consciousness looks like, and why knowing yourself is the door to knowing her, your kids, and everyone around you. This one is short, raw, and closer to the bone than usual. Alessandro does not hand you an escape from responsibility. He hands you something harder, and better. Press play and learn why the only way through is you. Join Mental Health Challenge for Husbands: November 2026 Disclaimer: This podcast is for educational purposes only and is not a substitute for therapy. Always seek qualified guidance for your personal situation. Views shared by Alessandro Frosali and his guests reflect their lived experiences and opinions. Every listener’s journey is unique, and no therapeutic relationship is created.
The Fatherhood Blind Spot DESTROYING Your Marriage ft. Alex Trippier | EP 48
2026/07/15
Become a Better Husband in Just Two Minutes a Week for FREE: HERE Why does your house keep running without you ever noticing who is making it run? Alessandro is joined by Alex Trippier, parenting and relationship coach and host of the Be a Happier Parent podcast, for a conversation that begins in one of the hardest places a man can go: the part he got wrong and cannot take back. Alex opens up about the night his daughter was born. After watching his wife hemorrhage, the nurses told him to leave the ward. He did not push back. Deep down, part of him believed the baby was now her responsibility. So he went to the pub. Alessandro puts his own failure on the table too. From there, the conversation gets practical fast. There is a crucial difference between being bad at something and using incompetence as an escape. The difference is whether you are genuinely taking ownership, listening, and getting better. And there is one question every husband should answer honestly: When pressure hits, can your wife actually rely on you? Chapters: 00:07:31 - What Men Miss About Motherhood 00:11:58 - The Night He Failed His Wife 00:15:12 - The Apology That Tore Down the Wall 00:16:33 - Why Defensiveness Feels Like Safety 00:20:44 - Turning Shame Into Responsibility 00:22:53 - Why Good Dads Still Get It Wrong 00:25:57 - What Your Wife Needs You to Notice 00:27:45 - The Invisible Work Running Your Life 00:32:11 - Why Women Carry the Judgment 00:37:10 - Breaking a Pattern Bigger Than You 00:39:29 - The Hidden Reward of Mental Load 00:43:39 - Male Loneliness Is a Care Problem 00:44:29 - How Daily Pressure Becomes Stress 00:46:27 - Becoming the Father Your Kids Trust 00:49:02 - Incompetence or an Easy Escape  This episode is for the man who keeps being told he is doing fine while the woman beside him looks exhausted. And has the desire to become someone your family can trust, lean on, and come to when life gets heavy. Press play and find out whether you are truly in the arena of your own home or still standing outside it, telling yourself you are doing your bit. Alex' Instagram: @BeAHappierParent  Alex's Podcast: Be a Happier Parent Become a Better Husband in Just Two Minutes a Week for Free: HERE Join Mental Health Challenge for Husbands: November 2026 Disclaimer: This podcast is for educational purposes only and is not a substitute for therapy. Always seek qualified guidance for your personal situation. Views shared by Alessandro Frosali and his guests reflect their lived experiences and opinions. Every listener’s journey is unique, and no therapeutic relationship is created.
Why Your Marriage Feels STUCK (The Spaghetti Method) EP 47
2026/07/01
Become a Better Husband in Just Two Minutes a Week for FREE: HERE What if the problem isn't your wife? It's your pattern. Host Alessandro Frosali breaks down what he calls the spaghetti method. It's a brutal, practical mindset shift that exposes why you feel trapped in the same loop with your wife, the same arguments, the same walls, no matter how hard you swear you're trying.  He gets real about a moment in his own marriage where his pattern of avoidance almost ended everything, including the night he had to admit he'd quietly drained thousands of euros from their wedding fund. You will hear why your brain might be choosing to keep you stuck. You will learn why staying in a dysfunctional pattern can feel safer than facing what scares you. And you will hear the two specific shifts that pulled Alessandro and his wife back from their worst moment as a couple. Chapters: 00:01:03 - The Marriage Loop You’re Stuck In 00:03:06 - The 30-Minute Money Challenge 00:04:11 - Your Brain Goes to Roadblocks First 00:05:51 - What the Spaghetti Method Actually Means 00:06:42 - When the Old Pattern Stops Working 00:07:30 - The Mistake That Broke Trust 00:08:17 - Avoidance Became the Real Problem 00:09:56 - What Finally Broke the Loop 00:11:48 - Your Behaviors Are Trapping You 00:12:09 - Why Change Feels More Dangerous 00:14:23 - Why Men Avoid the Hard Truth 00:15:30 - The Thing You Don’t Want to Face 00:17:14 - Change the Frame of Your Life 00:20:24 - Stop Repeating What Doesn’t Work 00:21:00 - There Are Infinite Ways to Get to 10 00:23:08 - The Rat Experiment About Hope If you've convinced yourself you've tried everything and nothing works, this episode is going to challenge that belief hard. Alessandro lays out exactly why repeating the same move guarantees the same outcome, and what it actually takes to throw something new at the wall. Stay for the rat experiment near the end. It sounds insane, but it might be the single most important reframe you hear all year. Press play and learn why trying harder isn't the answer. Trying differently is. Become a Better Husband in Just Two Minutes a Week for Free: HERE Join Mental Health Challenge for Husbands: November 2026 Disclaimer: This podcast is for educational purposes only and is not a substitute for therapy. Always seek qualified guidance for your personal situation. Views shared by Alessandro Frosali and his guests reflect their lived experiences and opinions. Every listener’s journey is unique, and no therapeutic relationship is created.
Porn RECOVERY For Husbands Without Shame ft. Jeremy Lipkowitz | EP 45
2026/06/24
Become a Better Husband in Just Two Minutes a Week for FREE: HERE What if your porn habit has nothing to do with sex? Alessandro sits down with Jeremy Lipkowitz, a porn addiction recovery coach who has helped hundreds of men break free from compulsive porn use without shame, without moral panic, and without white-knuckling it for the rest of their lives. Porn is rarely just about sex. For most men, it becomes a way to cope with loneliness, stress, boredom, anxiety, and emotions they were never taught how to process. Jeremy has lived this himself. And in this episode, he brings a rare mix of brutal honesty, neuroscience, Buddhist psychology, and practical recovery tools that actually meet men where they are. Alessandro also shares his own rock bottom in detail, the triggers he still carries today, and the moment he finally told his wife the truth. That moment changed his marriage. Chapters: 02:13 - The Real Reason Men Use Porn 04:12 - Why Just Stopping Usually Fails 06:45 - Don’t Ask Why the Addiction 08:40 - Is Porn Evil? 13:52 - Your Phone Is the Slippery Slope 16:30 - Build the Man You Actually Want to Become 20:20 - What Men Fear Losing When They Quit 22:46 - Ending the Relationship With Porn 24:37 - Post-Nut Clarity Is Real 27:02 - The Trigger Hiding Under the Habit 29:47 - What You’re Really Running From 33:15 - How Buddhism Changed His Recovery 37:36 - The Hungry Ghost Inside Addiction 42:30 - The Life That Makes Porn Lose Its Pull You’ll learn why the shame spiral after porn is not proof that you are weak. It’s your brain coming back online after being hijacked. You’ll understand why simply deciding to stop usually fails when you never deal with what you’re trying to escape.  Press play and learn the experiment that reframes everything most men think they know about addiction, recovery, and what actually sets men free. Connect with Jeremy: https://www.instagram.com/jeremylipkowitz/?hl=enBreak Free From Porn: https://www.unhookedacademy.com/ Become a Better Husband in Just Two Minutes a Week for Free: HERE Join Mental Health Challenge for Husbands: November 2026 Disclaimer: This podcast is for educational purposes only and is not a substitute for therapy. Always seek qualified guidance for your personal situation. Views shared by Alessandro Frosali and his guests reflect their lived experiences and opinions. Every listener’s journey is unique, and no therapeutic relationship is created.

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You are always spot on wirh your points. I just listened to latest episode and was eye opening how many of those lies I have used as an excuse to not...
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