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In this episode of Feel Good Alcohol Free, Lindsay explores why we reach for wine at the end of a long day and what we may actually be craving beneath the urge to drink. Drawing on her own experience and her work as an alcohol-free coach, Lindsay shares the difference between temporary relief and genuine restoration, and how understanding your needs can help you build a more fulfilling alcohol-free life. In This Episode Why wine becomes our go-to response to every feeling.The difference between relief and restoration.How to identify the needs beneath your cravings.Why replacing wine with a mocktail isn't always the answer.How to build self-trust through Lindsay's Identity, Practice, and Trust method.Practical ways to create an end-of-day exhale without alcohol. Your Takeaway The next time you think, “I want a glass of wine,” ask yourself: “How do I want to feel?” You might need rest, connection, boundaries, or simply permission to switch off. Learning to recognize and meet those needs is how you begin reclaiming your evenings—and your life. Ready for support? Explore Lindsay's coaching program, Feel Good AF, through the links in the show notes. Follow Feel Good Alcohol Free, leave a rating or review, and share this episode with a friend who needs to hear it. You have better things to think about than drinking. Support the show Here's how you can stay connected:  🗓️ Schedule a 30-minute Discovery Call👩‍💻 Sign-up for Feel Good AF Coaching📱Follow along on Instagram📰 Subscribe to the Feel Good AF newsletterAnd remember, Lindsay is a sober coach, not a health professional. If you are chemically dependent on alcohol (or think you might be), consult your doctor on the steps you need to take to safely detox.  Intro/Outro Music Credit: Cozy Lofi Beat - Split memmories by Idoberg Sober curious women. Quit drinking without AA, How to quit drinking for High Achieving women.

What happens when you go 30, 60, or 90 days—or even several months—without drinking, and then find yourself drinking again? You might think, I thought I was past this. Did all that work mean nothing? Am I starting over? In this episode, Lindsay Hennekey talks about what can happen when you drink again after a long alcohol-free stretch—and why it doesn't mean you've failed or erased your progress. Instead, the experience can give you valuable information about the situations, emotions, and associations with alcohol that you haven't practiced navigating yet. In this episode, you'll hear about: Why drinking again doesn't erase your alcohol-free progressWhy long stretches without alcohol don't automatically erase old associationsHow alcohol can become connected to both coping and celebrationWhy you may discover new drinking triggers months into your journeyWhat happens when you stop preparing because being alcohol-free starts to feel easyWhy shame isn't analysis—and what to ask yourself insteadHow to identify the “missed step” before drinkingWhy you're not starting over after drinking againThe difference between counting alcohol-free days and collecting alcohol-free experiencesHow Lindsay's Identity → Practice → Trust method worksWhy self-trust comes from evidence, not simply telling yourself to trust yourselfHow exhaustion, resentment, and overwhelm can reveal what alcohol has been doing for youHow to turn a drinking episode into information you can use moving forward A powerful reminder from this episode You are not starting over. If you went four months without drinking and then drank on Saturday, you didn't erase those four months. You still have all of the mornings, dinners, conversations, social situations, and experiences you navigated without alcohol. You simply discovered another part of your life that needs practice. Instead of asking, “What's wrong with me?”, ask: What happened? What did I expect alcohol to give me? What did I learn? What do I want to practice next? Identity → Practice → Trust Lindsay's approach isn't about simply reaching 30 or 90 days. It's about becoming the woman who can cope, celebrate, relax, connect, and belong without needing alcohol. Identity gives you the direction. Practice gives you the evidence. Trust is what you build along the way. If you've been wondering, “I went months without drinking, so why did I drink again?”, maybe the answer isn't that none of it worked. Maybe there was simply another situation you hadn't learned how to navigate yet. Now you know. What do you want to practice next? If you're ready for support making alcohol-free living feel like your actual life, you'll find information about working with Lindsay in the show notes. And if this episode resonates with you, share it with a woman who needs to hear: you didn't lose your progress. Support the show Here's how you can stay connected:  🗓️ Schedule a 30-minute Discovery Call👩‍💻 Sign-up for Feel Good AF Coaching📱Follow along on Instagram📰 Subscribe to the Feel Good AF newsletterAnd remember, Lindsay is a sober coach, not a health professional. If you are chemically dependent on alcohol (or think you might be), consult your doctor on the steps you need to take to safely detox.  Intro/Outro Music Credit: Cozy Lofi Beat - Split memmories by Idoberg Sober curious women. Quit drinking without AA, How to quit drinking for High Achieving women.

What happens to your relationships when alcohol is no longer part of the equation? In this episode, Lindsay sits down with Joel Monteleone, relationship strategist, dating coach, creator of Hot Takes Hot Dates, and host of the Hotter Together podcast. Joel is also nearly four years alcohol-free, giving him a unique perspective on how sobriety can change not only your relationship with yourself, but also how you date, communicate, connect, and show up in partnership. Together, Lindsay and Joel explore what happens when you stop using alcohol as a way to connect, relax, avoid difficult conversations, or navigate vulnerability. They also talk about the surprising amount of time and energy that can become available when drinking is no longer taking up so much space—and how that newfound capacity can completely change the way you approach your life and relationships. In this episode, you'll hear about: How removing alcohol can create more energy, clarity, capacity, and connectionWhy sobriety can open your eyes to entirely new communities and ways of spending your timeThe connection between alcohol and relationship rituals, including date nights, vacations, celebrations, and weekendsHow alcohol can make vulnerability feel easier while simultaneously preventing deeper, more authentic communicationWhat can happen in a relationship when you stop using alcohol to avoid difficult conversationsWhy becoming comfortable with discomfort is essential for both sobriety and healthy relationshipsHow high-achieving women can struggle with control, trust, and vulnerability in relationshipsThe difference between being committed to a relationship and attached to a specific outcomeWhy your partner can't support you with your drinking if they don't actually understand what's happening for youHow to communicate the seriousness of wanting to change your relationship with alcoholWhy asking for support gives your partner an opportunity to love youWhat happens when one person in a relationship stops drinking while their partner continues to drinkHow worst-case-scenario thinking can affect both dating and sobrietyWhy authenticity can help you eliminate relationships that aren't right for you—and make space for the ones that areHow the beliefs you hold about dating can influence what you notice and pursueWhy getting clear on what you do want, rather than only what you don't want, matters so muchJoel's advice for women who believe there are “no good men” or that dating is impossible where they live A powerful reminder from this conversation One of the biggest themes throughout the episode is trust. Trusting yourself. Trusting your partner. If your partner doesn't understand how much you're struggling with alcohol, they may respond to the surface-level problem rather than the real one. When you're finally honest about what's actually happening—how often you're thinking about drinking, how much you're relying on it, and. Trusting the process. And being willing to tolerate the discomfort that comes with finding out what is actually true. As Joel explains, when you ask someone for support, you give them an opportunity to love you. That idea applies far beyond sobriety. If your partner doesn't understand how much you're struggling with alcohol, they may respond to the surface-level problem rather than the real one. When you're finally honest about what's actually happening—how often you're thinking about drinking, how much you're relying on it, and why you need to change—you give them the information they need to truly support you. Meet Joel Joel Monteleone is a relationship strategist and dating coach based in Austin, Texas. He primarily works with high-achieving women who want to create meaningful romantic relationships without sacrificing who they are. He's also the host of Hotter Together, a podcast featuring couples who explore how their relationships have contributed to their success in business and life, and the creator of Hot Takes Hot Dates, live dating events in Austin. You can find Joel on Instagram at @joel_monteleone. Support the show Here's how you can stay connected:  🗓️ Schedule a 30-minute Discovery Call👩‍💻 Sign-up for Feel Good AF Coaching📱Follow along on Instagram📰 Subscribe to the Feel Good AF newsletterAnd remember, Lindsay is a sober coach, not a health professional. If you are chemically dependent on alcohol (or think you might be), consult your doctor on the steps you need to take to safely detox.  Intro/Outro Music Credit: Cozy Lofi Beat - Split memmories by Idoberg Sober curious women. Quit drinking without AA, How to quit drinking for High Achieving women.

If you’re trying to change your relationship with alcohol while your husband still drinks, you may wonder if quitting would be easier if he stopped too. In this episode of Feel Good Alcohol-Free, Lindsay Hennekey talks about one of the most common challenges women face when they decide to stop drinking: learning how to make an alcohol-free choice when their partner is making a different one. When alcohol has been part of your relationship for years, it can feel like you're giving up more than a drink. Maybe Friday nights have always meant opening a bottle of wine together. Maybe you order cocktails on date nights, drink on vacation, or sit on the porch with a glass in hand. These rituals can become deeply connected to your relationship and your idea of what it means to relax, connect, and have fun. Lindsay explains why your husband's drinking can feel difficult—and why getting specific about what is actually hard is so important. Is it having alcohol in the house? Watching him pour a drink after a long day? Being offered a drink? Feeling left out? Missing a ritual you used to share? Or does seeing him drink make you question your own decision? Lindsay also explores the thought, “Why does he get to drink?” and how comparing your relationship with alcohol to someone else's can keep you focused on their experience instead of your own. The goal isn't to make quitting unnecessarily difficult or to ignore your needs. You're allowed to ask your partner for support and create boundaries that make early sobriety easier. But you also don't have to wait for your husband to change before you can change. In this episode, you'll learn: Why a partner's drinking can make changing your relationship with alcohol feel harderHow shared drinking rituals can affect your relationshipWhy watching someone else drink can trigger your own desire to drinkHow to identify the specific situations that are difficult for youWhy comparing your drinking to your husband's isn't helpfulHow to communicate your needs without requiring your partner to quitWays to create new rituals for date nights, weekends, and vacationsHow practicing uncomfortable situations can build self-trustWhy you don't need perfect conditions to follow through on your decisionHow Lindsay's Identity, Practice, Trust approach applies to navigating alcohol when your partner still drinksThe goal isn't to make your husband's drinking irrelevant. Your relationships, routines, and environment matter. The goal is to understand what you need so you can make decisions based on your own experience rather than waiting for everyone around you to make the same choice. Your husband can make his decision about alcohol. And you can make yours. If you're tired of spending so much time thinking about alcohol and want support changing your relationship with it, learn more about working with Lindsay through the information in the show notes. And if this episode resonates with you, share it with a woman who has ever thought, “It would be so much easier if my husband would just quit too.” Support the show Here's how you can stay connected:  🗓️ Schedule a 30-minute Discovery Call👩‍💻 Sign-up for Feel Good AF Coaching📱Follow along on Instagram📰 Subscribe to the Feel Good AF newsletterAnd remember, Lindsay is a sober coach, not a health professional. If you are chemically dependent on alcohol (or think you might be), consult your doctor on the steps you need to take to safely detox.  Intro/Outro Music Credit: Cozy Lofi Beat - Split memmories by Idoberg Sober curious women. Quit drinking without AA, How to quit drinking for High Achieving women.

🎁 Get Lindsay's Free Three Wins in 48 Hours Resource Download “Three Wins in 48 Hours” You’ve told your husband you’re trying to quit drinking. So why does he still offer you wine on Friday night? He may genuinely think he’s helping. The problem is that he may not understand what you’re actually trying to change. There’s a big difference between saying, “I’m not drinking this week,” and explaining, “I’m spending way more time thinking about alcohol than you realize, and I’m trying to change my relationship with it.” In this episode, Lindsay talks about what happens when your partner sees the drinking but doesn’t see the mental negotiation happening behind it. In This Episode, Lindsay Covers: Why your husband may think offering you “just one” is supportiveThe beliefs about alcohol that can unintentionally reinforce drinkingWhat your partner may not see about your daily mental battle with alcoholHow Lindsay's own marriage changed when she became more vulnerableHow to communicate what support actually looks likeWhy your partner isn't responsible for whether you drinkHow practicing new behaviors builds self-trustWhy you don't need a rock bottom to decide you want something differentThe Conversation to Have Instead of simply saying, “I'm not drinking,” try explaining what’s actually happening: “I need you to understand why this is important to me. I keep deciding I don't want to drink, and then I change my mind later. I'm spending much more time thinking about alcohol than you probably realize.” Then tell your partner what would actually help. Maybe that means not offering you wine, not telling you that you've earned a drink, or simply asking what you need when you're struggling. Your partner can't support what they don't understand. Building Self-Trust Changing your relationship with alcohol isn't just about removing wine from your evening. It's about practicing new ways to cope, relax, celebrate, socialize, and respond to stress. Every time you make a decision you actually want to make and follow through, you create evidence that you can trust yourself. You don't have to solve everything today. Start with one decision. I said I was going to do this — and I did it. 💬 Ready for More Support? Learn more about working with Lindsay through coaching If this episode made you think, “Oh my God, my husband does this,” send it to a woman who needs to hear it. You have better things to think about than drinking, my friend. Support the show Here's how you can stay connected:  🗓️ Schedule a 30-minute Discovery Call👩‍💻 Sign-up for Feel Good AF Coaching📱Follow along on Instagram📰 Subscribe to the Feel Good AF newsletterAnd remember, Lindsay is a sober coach, not a health professional. If you are chemically dependent on alcohol (or think you might be), consult your doctor on the steps you need to take to safely detox.  Intro/Outro Music Credit: Cozy Lofi Beat - Split memmories by Idoberg Sober curious women. Quit drinking without AA, How to quit drinking for High Achieving women.

🎟️ Reserve your free seat for Lindsay's How to Become the Woman Who Doesn't Want Alcohol Save your seat for “How to Become the Woman Who Doesn't Want Alcohol” Why You Want a Drink at 5 PM—Even When You Promised Yourself You Wouldn’t You wake up at 8 AM completely certain: “I’m not drinking tonight.” You mean it. And then somehow, by 5 PM, one glass of wine sounds like the perfect idea. If you’ve ever wondered why your morning decision seems to disappear by the end of the workday, this episode is for you. In the Season 4 finale of Feel Good Alcohol Free, Lindsay Hennekey explores why knowing what you want to do about drinking isn't always the same as trusting yourself to follow through—and why the solution isn't simply trying harder. In This Episode Your 8 AM brain and your 5 PM brain are asking different questions. In the morning: “What do I want to do about my relationship with alcohol?” At 5 PM: “What would make me feel better right now?” If alcohol has been your go-to answer for years, your brain has learned that pattern. Instead of only asking “Why do I want a drink?”, Lindsay encourages you to ask: “What do I want the drink to do for me?” Maybe you're looking for: Relief after a stressful day A rewardA transition out of workA way to stop thinkingA mood changeSomething to look forward toTime when nobody needs anything from youOnce you understand the job alcohol has been doing, you can begin practicing another response. What You'll Learn Why your morning decision may not carry you through the eveningWhy 3–5 PM can be the most important part of your day to studyHow alcohol becomes connected to stress, relaxation, celebration, and routinesHow to interrupt your usual drinking pattern before the urge gets loudWhy self-trust comes from practiceHow repeated experiences can change your relationship with alcoholHow identity, practice, and trust work together A Client Story Lindsay shares the story of a coaching client whose drinking thoughts appeared almost every day around 3 PM and 5 PM. For her, wine represented more than a drink. It meant: “I’m done. I’m home. I get to go offline.” Together, they worked on creating a new transition into the evening—changing her environment, getting outside, taking breaks, and creating new alcohol-free rituals with her family. Over time, she began collecting evidence that she could: Come home without drinkingCook and relax without wineHandle stressful days without drinkingNavigate social situations without automatically reaching for alcoholShe didn't find one magical trick. She practiced.And that practice became self-trust. Your 5 PM Practice If this sounds familiar, don't just focus on your morning decision. Study your afternoon. Ask yourself: When does the negotiation actually begin?What happens right before it? Are you hungry, tired, overstimulated, bored, lonely, or irritated? Then ask: What is alcohol promising me right now? And finally: What could I practice instead—just tonight? Maybe it's eating something, going outside, changing your clothes, taking a shower, calling someone, making an alcohol-free drink, or simply taking 20 minutes for yourself. The specific strategy matters less than the practice. Every time you follow through, you're collecting evidence that you can trust yourself. The Takeaway You don't have to wait until you magically stop wanting relief. You're going to have stressful days. You're going to get tired. You're going to want to check out. The work is learning to respond differently when those moments arrive. Self-trust isn't something you need before you begin. It's something you build—one practice, one decision, and one piece of evidence at a time. You have better things to think about than drinking. Support the show Here's how you can stay connected:  🗓️ Schedule a 30-minute Discovery Call👩‍💻 Sign-up for Feel Good AF Coaching📱Follow along on Instagram📰 Subscribe to the Feel Good AF newsletterAnd remember, Lindsay is a sober coach, not a health professional. If you are chemically dependent on alcohol (or think you might be), consult your doctor on the steps you need to take to safely detox.  Intro/Outro Music Credit: Cozy Lofi Beat - Split memmories by Idoberg Sober curious women. Quit drinking without AA, How to quit drinking for High Achieving women.

What if the tool you need to manage stress, uncomfortable emotions, and the urge to reach for a drink has been with you all along? In this episode, Lindsay sits down with Megan Ashton, founder of Unity Breathwork, to explore the power of breathwork as a tool for nervous system regulation, emotional processing, and healthier coping. Megan shares her own powerful healing journey through bulimia, alcohol dependence, and years of using travel and other distractions to avoid uncomfortable emotions. After discovering conscious connected breathwork, she experienced a profound emotional release and eventually found that her reliance on binge drinking and binge eating began to fall away. Together, Lindsay and Megan talk about why we often turn to alcohol, food, shopping, scrolling, or other quick dopamine hits when we're overwhelmed, and how building a stronger relationship with our nervous system can create more space between a difficult emotion and an automatic reaction. In this episode, you'll learn: Why stress and unprocessed emotions can make us more likely to reach for alcohol or other coping mechanisms.The difference between everyday regulating breathwork and conscious connected breathwork.How breath awareness throughout the day can help interrupt the cycle of overwhelm.Why practicing breathwork regularly may make it easier to use when you're actually stressed.A simple five-count coherence breathing exercise you can try in just a few minutes.How conscious connected breathwork is used to explore deeper emotional experiences.Why Megan believes we don't need to keep looking outside ourselves for every answer—we already have access to our breath.How creating space to feel emotions can change the way we respond to life's inevitable curveballs.Why developing healthy coping tools is a practice rather than a one-time fix. Try a Free Conscious Connected Breathwork Journey Want to experience breathwork for yourself? Megan offers a Free Conscious Connected Breathwork Journey online. This is a great opportunity to experience the practice and explore what breathwork may offer you. → Free Conscious Connected Breathwork Journey A simple breathing practice from this episode Megan guides Lindsay and listeners through coherence breathing: Inhale through your nose for 5 counts. Exhale through your nose for 5 counts. Repeat for several minutes. The goal is to slow the breath, eliminate the pause between the inhale and exhale, and create a calming rhythm. Start gently and stop if you feel uncomfortable, dizzy, or unwell. For deeper or activating breathwork practices, Megan emphasizes the importance of working with an appropriately trained facilitator and considering individual safety and contraindications. About Megan Ashton Megan Ashton is the founder of Unity Breathwork and a breathwork educator and trainer. Her personal healing journey led her to conscious connected breathwork, and she now focuses on trauma-informed practice, facilitator competency, and education around breathwork and altered states of consciousness. She leads breathwork retreats in Mexico and directs Unity Breathwork's professional training program. Connect with Megan Learn more about Megan’s work, upcoming breathwork sessions, retreats, training, and resources at unitybreathwork.com. You can also follow Megan and Unity Breathwork on Instagram at @unitybreathwork. A note for listeners Breathwork can affect people differently, and some forms of breathwork can be physically and emotionally intense. The breathing exercise discussed in this episode is presented as a simple relaxation practice, not as a substitute for medical or mental-health care. If you have a medical or mental-health condition, are pregnant, or have concerns about whether breathwork is appropriate for you, consult an appropriately qualified healthcare professional before participating in intensive breathwork. If you're working on changing your relationship with alcohol, remember that you don't have to rely on willpower alone. Building a toolkit of healthy ways to respond to stress, emotions, and cravings can be an important part of the process. Support the show Here's how you can stay connected:  🗓️ Schedule a 30-minute Discovery Call👩‍💻 Sign-up for Feel Good AF Coaching📱Follow along on Instagram📰 Subscribe to the Feel Good AF newsletterAnd remember, Lindsay is a sober coach, not a health professional. If you are chemically dependent on alcohol (or think you might be), consult your doctor on the steps you need to take to safely detox.  Intro/Outro Music Credit: Cozy Lofi Beat - Split memmories by Idoberg Sober curious women. Quit drinking without AA, How to quit drinking for High Achieving women.

Have you ever wondered whether alcohol is making your perimenopause symptoms worse—or if what you're experiencing is simply part of getting older? In this episode, Lindsay Hennekey gets honest about the confusing overlap between alcohol and perimenopause, from 3 a.m. wakeups and night sweats to anxiety, irritability, low energy, brain fog, and the feeling that wine just doesn't affect you the way it used to. Lindsay explores why alcohol deserves to be part of the conversation when you're trying to understand what's happening in your body. She also talks about the temptation to change everything—your workouts, supplements, diet, sleep routine, skincare, and hormone strategy—while giving alcohol a free pass. But what if removing alcohol could give you some of the information you've been looking for? In this episode: Why alcohol deserves a place in the perimenopause conversationHow alcohol can affect your sleep and contribute to those 3 a.m. wakeupsWhy wine may suddenly affect you differently than it did in your 20s and 30sThe difference between getting temporary relief from alcohol and getting the results you actually wantHow alcohol can contribute to the cycle of exhaustion, anxiety, and reaching for another drinkWhy high-achieving women are often willing to change everything except their drinkingThe connection between alcohol, calories, and weight management during perimenopauseWhy taking a meaningful break from alcohol can be a powerful experimentWhat you can learn by paying attention to your sleep, energy, anxiety, mood, and other symptoms without alcoholWhy stopping drinking doesn't magically cure perimenopause—and why that's not the pointWhat to do when you already know you'd feel better without alcohol but still want the drink at 5:30 p.m.Why knowing alcohol isn't helping isn't always enough to change your behaviorThe importance of having new ways to cope with stress, discomfort, boredom, celebration, and connectionHow identity, practice, and self-trust help you build an alcohol-free lifeWhy every alcohol-free decision creates evidence that you can trust yourselfIf you're in perimenopause and feel like your body suddenly changed all the rules, this conversation is for you. You don't have to blame alcohol for every symptom. And you don't have to assume every symptom is caused by perimenopause, either. Instead, get curious. Remove one variable. Pay attention to what changes—and just as importantly, what doesn't. And if you already know alcohol isn't helping but you're still struggling to stop going back to it, the work may not be about learning more about alcohol. It may be about learning what to do at 5:30 p.m., on the stressful Wednesday, after a terrible night's sleep, at dinner with friends, or when you simply want to escape how you're feeling. You don't have to decide today that you'll never drink again. You can start by practicing becoming the woman you want to be—and building the evidence that you can trust yourself. If you found this episode was helpful, here is another you might enjoy: Episode 64: Alcohol, Perimenopause, and Feeling Good Again Join Lindsay for Feel Good AF Friday: Lindsay is hosting a free live workshop on September 25 at 12 p.m. Eastern focused on why you can know exactly what you want to do about your drinking and still struggle to trust yourself to follow through. Register using the link in the show notes. And remember: You have better things to think about than drinking. Support the show Here's how you can stay connected:  🗓️ Schedule a 30-minute Discovery Call👩‍💻 Sign-up for Feel Good AF Coaching📱Follow along on Instagram📰 Subscribe to the Feel Good AF newsletterAnd remember, Lindsay is a sober coach, not a health professional. If you are chemically dependent on alcohol (or think you might be), consult your doctor on the steps you need to take to safely detox.  Intro/Outro Music Credit: Cozy Lofi Beat - Split memmories by Idoberg Sober curious women. Quit drinking without AA, How to quit drinking for High Achieving women.

Have you ever completed 30 days without alcohol, felt amazing, and then found yourself right back in the same drinking pattern a few weeks later? In this episode, Lindsay breaks down why taking a 30-day break from alcohol can be incredibly valuable but why completing Sober September, Dry January, or another alcohol-free challenge doesn't necessarily mean you've changed your relationship with alcohol. After years of using 30-day breaks as proof that she could control her drinking, Lindsay knows firsthand what it feels like to make it through the month only to return to the same daily negotiation: Am I drinking tonight? How much? When can I start? Maybe I'll just wait until Monday. In this episode, she explores what happens when you stop focusing only on the number of alcohol-free days and start looking at the patterns, situations, relationships, and emotions that make drinking feel like the answer. In this episode: Why 30 alcohol-free days and lasting change aren't necessarily the same thingHow alcohol can become part of your workday transitions, celebrations, relationships, and coping strategiesWhy generic advice like "practice self-care" isn't always enoughHow to identify what happens right before the thought of drinking beginsWhy your hardest drinking moments can reveal exactly where your plan needs workHow to prepare for the end of the workday, Friday nights, social events, and other high-risk situationsWhat to say when friends, coworkers, or your partner ask about your decision not to drinkHow to ask your partner for the kind of support you actually needWhy drinking during an alcohol-free challenge doesn't mean you've failedHow to use difficult moments as information instead of turning them into shameThe difference between enduring the absence of alcohol and learning how to live without making alcohol the answerWhy self-trust comes from collecting evidence that you can rely on yourselfLindsay's Identity, Practice, and Trust approach to lasting changeWhen another 30-day challenge may not be what you actually needIf you've done Sober September, Dry January, or multiple alcohol-free challenges and keep finding yourself back in the same drinking loop, this episode is for you. You don't need another perfect streak. You may need to understand what happens in the moments when your old plan falls apart—and build a new plan around your actual life. And if this is your first alcohol-free break, let September give you information. Pay attention to when you want to drink, what happens beforehand, what you're expecting alcohol to do for you, and what becomes easier or harder without it. You don't need to wait for a new month, a Monday, or perfect conditions to make a change. The goal isn't simply to prove that you can go 30 days without drinking. It's to start building a life where you can trust yourself around alcohol. Support the show Here's how you can stay connected:  🗓️ Schedule a 30-minute Discovery Call👩‍💻 Sign-up for Feel Good AF Coaching📱Follow along on Instagram📰 Subscribe to the Feel Good AF newsletterAnd remember, Lindsay is a sober coach, not a health professional. If you are chemically dependent on alcohol (or think you might be), consult your doctor on the steps you need to take to safely detox.  Intro/Outro Music Credit: Cozy Lofi Beat - Split memmories by Idoberg Sober curious women. Quit drinking without AA, How to quit drinking for High Achieving women.

Have you ever wondered if you can change your relationship with alcohol without having to identify as an “alcoholic,” follow a specific recovery program, or hit rock bottom first? In this episode, Lindsay sits down with Ryan Kennedy, host of Rock Bottom With Ryan, to talk honestly about addiction, recovery, vulnerability, AA, and finding your own path to sobriety. After years of heavy drinking, repeated attempts to control his alcohol use, hospitalizations, injuries, seizures, and relapse, Ryan finally reached a point where he knew he needed help. Now, nearly two years sober, he’s using his experience to help others through honest conversations about recovery, mental health, trauma, and second chances. Ryan and Lindsay also discuss his unique approach to AA — embracing the community and connection while taking what resonates and leaving what doesn’t. In this episode:  Ryan’s journey through addiction, relapse, and recovery  Why you don’t have to hit rock bottom to change your drinking  How comparing your drinking to others can keep you stuck  Finding your own approach to AA and recovery  The power of community, friendship, and connection  Why vulnerability can be a turning point in recovery  How shame and emotional avoidance can fuel drinking  Why you don’t need a label to change your relationship with alcohol  The “normal drinker” mindset and why it can keep you stuck  How sobriety can unlock your potential  Ryan’s plans to become a sober coach If you've been questioning your drinking but don't relate to traditional recovery language, this conversation is for you. You don't have to call yourself an alcoholic, hit rock bottom, or follow someone else's path. Sometimes the first step is simply being honest about what alcohol is actually adding to or taking away from your life. Take what resonates, leave what doesn’t, and remember that you get to build a path that works for you. About Ryan Kennedy Ryan Kennedy is the creator and host of the Rock Bottom with Ryan podcast. After overcoming years of addiction, Ryan now shares honest conversations about recovery, mental health, and second chances. As he prepares to become a sober coach, he’s also building a business dedicated to promoting individuals, organizations, and businesses making a positive impact in the recovery and mental health community. Ryan is a passionate advocate for people recovering from alcohol and drug addiction, while also raising awareness about trauma, abuse, grief, and the challenges that can contribute to addiction and mental health struggles. Through his work, he’s helping break the stigma and show that healing, hope, and long-term recovery are possible. Connect with Ryan Instagram: @rockbottomwithryan Podcast: Rock Bottom with Ryan on Spotify YouTube: Rock Bottom With Ryan  TikTok: Rock Bottom With Ryan  Email: [email protected] Support the show Here's how you can stay connected:  🗓️ Schedule a 30-minute Discovery Call👩‍💻 Sign-up for Feel Good AF Coaching📱Follow along on Instagram📰 Subscribe to the Feel Good AF newsletterAnd remember, Lindsay is a sober coach, not a health professional. If you are chemically dependent on alcohol (or think you might be), consult your doctor on the steps you need to take to safely detox.  Intro/Outro Music Credit: Cozy Lofi Beat - Split memmories by Idoberg Sober curious women. Quit drinking without AA, How to quit drinking for High Achieving women.

🎟️ Reserve your free seat for Lindsay's live summer workshop series: Free Feel Good AF Summer Workshops Are you tired of making rules around drinking, taking breaks, starting over on Mondays, and still finding yourself back in the same cycle? In this episode of the Feel Good Alcohol-Free Podcast, Lindsay reflects on the many strategies she used to try to control her drinking before realizing that moderation was actually keeping her stuck. From endless drinking rules and fresh starts to quit-lit books, sober retreats, and 30-day breaks, she shares what she learned from each attempt and why information alone wasn't enough to create lasting change. Lindsay explains why moderation can keep alcohol at the center of your life, how the constant mental negotiation becomes exhausting, and why you don't have to wait until your drinking is "bad enough" to decide that it's no longer working for you. You'll discover: Why constantly creating new drinking rules can keep you trapped in the moderation cycleHow "I'll start again Monday" can turn one drinking decision into days of abandoning your goalsWhy consuming more information about alcohol isn't always the same as taking actionThe difference between knowing what to do and actually practicing new behaviors in real lifeHow 30-day breaks like Sober September or Dry January can provide valuable information without becoming another way to earn permission to drinkWhy your intention for an alcohol-free break matters more than simply making it through the monthHow to communicate your decision not to drink without overexplaining or making excusesWhy you don't need to prove that your drinking is "bad enough" to make a changeThe question Lindsay believes is more useful than comparing your drinking to someone else'sHow alcohol can become the automatic answer to stress, boredom, celebration, connection, and the end of a difficult workdayWhy treating a slip as information rather than failure can help you keep moving forwardHow identity, practice, and self-trust work together to create lasting changeWhy self-trust is built through the evidence you collect every time you follow through on a decisionPractical ways to create three alcohol-free wins in the next 48 hoursWhy eating before your usual drinking window can make a bigger difference than you might expectHow to identify the situations where you're most likely to negotiate with yourself about drinkingWhy you are allowed to change your relationship with alcohol simply because your current experience is no longer acceptable to youIf you've spent years trying to moderate, making promises to yourself, taking breaks, reading the books, or waiting for the perfect Monday to begin again, this episode is a reminder that none of those attempts were wasted. They gave you information. The goal isn't to find a better rule that allows you to keep drinking without the consequences. It's to discover what your life can look and feel like when alcohol no longer needs to be the answer and to build the skills and self-trust that make that life possible. LISTEN NEXT: If this episode resonated, listen to: Episode 6: Why Drinking in Moderation Doesn't Work: The Science of "Just One Glass" Episode 29: The Moderation Myth: "Just One Glass" Episode 56: What Your "Just One Glass" Mindset Actually Leads To Support the show Here's how you can stay connected:  🗓️ Schedule a 30-minute Discovery Call👩‍💻 Sign-up for Feel Good AF Coaching📱Follow along on Instagram📰 Subscribe to the Feel Good AF newsletterAnd remember, Lindsay is a sober coach, not a health professional. If you are chemically dependent on alcohol (or think you might be), consult your doctor on the steps you need to take to safely detox.  Intro/Outro Music Credit: Cozy Lofi Beat - Split memmories by Idoberg Sober curious women. Quit drinking without AA, How to quit drinking for High Achieving women.

🎟️ Reserve your free seat for Lindsay's live summer workshop series: Free Feel Good AF Summer Workshops Have you ever wondered whether your drinking today could affect your brain decades from now? Many women worry about memory changes as they get older but don't realize how closely brain health, alcohol, and everyday lifestyle habits are connected. In this episode, Lindsay sits down with occupational therapist and dementia care specialist Rachel Wiley to explore the relationship between alcohol, cognition, dementia, and healthy aging. Rachel shares her expertise on how the brain changes over time, the lifestyle factors that support long-term cognitive health, and why early awareness matters. Together, they also discuss the often-overlooked impact of caregiving, why caregivers are at higher risk for burnout, and how alcohol can become a coping mechanism during one of life's most stressful seasons. You'll discover: The difference between cognition, cognitive impairment, dementia, and Alzheimer's diseaseThe six pillars of brain health and how they support healthy agingWhy social connection, sleep, movement, and meaningful activities are essential for cognitive functionHow alcohol affects sleep, nutrition, exercise, and overall brain healthThe connection between long-term alcohol use and alcohol-related brain damageWhat Wernicke-Korsakoff syndrome is and how it's linked to chronic alcohol useHow vascular health, alcohol, and dementia risk are connectedThe difference between normal age-related memory changes and signs that warrant medical attentionWhy early cognitive screening and self-advocacy with your healthcare provider are so importantHow dementia affects not only memory but also communication, balance, behavior, and daily functioningWhy caregiver stress is a major health concern and how alcohol can become an unhealthy coping strategyPractical ways caregivers can access support, respite, and resources before reaching burnoutWhy taking care of the caregiver is one of the most important parts of dementia careSimple lifestyle habits you can start today to support your brain health for years to comeIf you've ever wondered how alcohol impacts your brain, want to reduce your future dementia risk, or you're currently supporting an aging parent or loved one, this conversation offers practical guidance, hope, and evidence-based insights to help you care for both your brain and the people you love. Resources mentioned in this episode: The Dementia Collaborative – https://DementiaCollaborative.com Explore evidence-based resources, online courses, caregiver education, professional training, consultations, and a directory of occupational therapists specializing in dementia care. Rachel Wiley, OTR/L – https://RachelWileyOT.com Learn more about Rachel's work as an occupational therapist, dementia care educator, speaker, and consultant, and access additional educational resources and professional services. Support the show Here's how you can stay connected:  🗓️ Schedule a 30-minute Discovery Call👩‍💻 Sign-up for Feel Good AF Coaching📱Follow along on Instagram📰 Subscribe to the Feel Good AF newsletterAnd remember, Lindsay is a sober coach, not a health professional. If you are chemically dependent on alcohol (or think you might be), consult your doctor on the steps you need to take to safely detox.  Intro/Outro Music Credit: Cozy Lofi Beat - Split memmories by Idoberg Sober curious women. Quit drinking without AA, How to quit drinking for High Achieving women.

🎟️ Reserve your free seat for Lindsay's live summer workshop series: Free Feel Good AF Summer Workshops Have you ever found yourself saying, "I deserve this glass of wine" after a long day? If wine has become the highlight of your evening, not because you love the taste, but because it feels like the only way to finally switch off, you're not alone. In this episode, Lindsay explores why so many high-achieving women mistake alcohol for self-care when it's actually keeping them stuck in a cycle of exhaustion, poor sleep, and broken promises to themselves. Drawing from her own experience as a former high-functioning drinker, Lindsay explains why the nightly glass of wine can feel like a reward while quietly taking away your energy, clarity, confidence, and self-trust. She shares how to break free from the "I deserve it" mindset, rebuild healthier reward systems, and create evening routines that truly support the woman you want to become. You'll discover: Why wine feels rewarding even when it's making your life harderThe difference between relief and a true rewardHow alcohol trains your brain to associate drinking with relaxationWhy your evening routine shapes how you feel the next dayThe hidden cycle of drinking for relief, waking up depleted, and craving relief againHow alcohol affects your sleep, recovery, mood, and emotional resilienceWhy willpower isn't enough to change your drinking habitsHow to separate your real needs rest, comfort, connection, pleasure from the habit of drinkingWhy alcohol-free alternatives often feel "boring" at first and what that actually meansHow practicing new evening routines helps rebuild self-trust and lasting changeA simple "Reward Reality Check" with five questions to help you rethink your nightly drinkHow creating rewards that truly give back can help you feel more energized, present, and aligned with the life you wantIf you're tired of believing that wine is the only thing helping you unwind and you're ready to create evenings that leave you feeling genuinely restored, not just temporarily relieved. This episode will help you redefine what a real reward looks like and show you how to build a life you no longer need to escape from. Support the show Here's how you can stay connected:  🗓️ Schedule a 30-minute Discovery Call👩‍💻 Sign-up for Feel Good AF Coaching📱Follow along on Instagram📰 Subscribe to the Feel Good AF newsletterAnd remember, Lindsay is a sober coach, not a health professional. If you are chemically dependent on alcohol (or think you might be), consult your doctor on the steps you need to take to safely detox.  Intro/Outro Music Credit: Cozy Lofi Beat - Split memmories by Idoberg Sober curious women. Quit drinking without AA, How to quit drinking for High Achieving women.

🎟️ Reserve your free seat for Lindsay's live summer workshop series: Free Feel Good AF Summer Workshops Have you ever wondered where your ambition went? If you used to love taking on new challenges but now even the thought of more responsibility feels exhausting, you're not alone. In this episode, Lindsay explores why so many high-achieving women mistake burnout or a lack of motivation for losing their ambition—when alcohol may actually be draining the energy, clarity, and self-trust they need to feel like themselves again. She shares her own experience of feeling successful on the outside while privately feeling flat, depleted, and disconnected from the driven woman she once was. You'll learn why simply "functioning" can keep you stuck, how your evening routine shapes your mornings, and why rebuilding your capacity, not forcing yourself to be more disciplined is the key to getting your spark back. You'll discover: Why functioning isn't the same as thrivingHow alcohol quietly drains your energy, motivation, and emotional capacityThe difference between being burned out and being under-recoveredWhy ambition requires physical, mental, and emotional capacityHow the nightly wine routine can keep you stuck in a cycle of exhaustionWhy your actions must align with how you want to feel and liveHow alcohol affects sleep, recovery, and your brain's reward systemWhy replacing alcohol with meaningful rewards is essential for lasting changeA simple three-day "Ambition Audit" to help you uncover what's really affecting your motivationHow rebuilding self-trust can reconnect you with the version of yourself who feels energized, capable, and excited about lifeIf you're tired of merely getting through your days and you're ready to feel clear, energized, and connected to yourself again, this episode will help you understand why your ambition isn't gone, it may simply be waiting for the space to come back. LISTEN NEXT If this episode resonated, listen to: Episode 4: Kristin's Transformation: Sobriety for High-Achieving Women Episode 21: When High-Functioning Means Hight Tolerance for Feeling Like Crap Episode 48: High-Functioning But Drinking Too Much? Why Success Can Keep Women Stuck Episode 58: The High-Functioning Trap (Why Stress Drinking is a Leadership Failure) Support the show Here's how you can stay connected:  🗓️ Schedule a 30-minute Discovery Call👩‍💻 Sign-up for Feel Good AF Coaching📱Follow along on Instagram📰 Subscribe to the Feel Good AF newsletterAnd remember, Lindsay is a sober coach, not a health professional. If you are chemically dependent on alcohol (or think you might be), consult your doctor on the steps you need to take to safely detox.  Intro/Outro Music Credit: Cozy Lofi Beat - Split memmories by Idoberg Sober curious women. Quit drinking without AA, How to quit drinking for High Achieving women.

🎟️ Reserve your free seat for Lindsay's live summer workshop series: Free Feel Good AF Summer Workshops You know alcohol isn't helping anymore. You've read the books, listened to the podcasts, and promised yourself you'll stop... but somehow you keep ending up in the same cycle. In this episode, Lindsay explains why information alone isn't enough to create lasting change and why knowing what to do is completely different from being able to follow through when the moment arrives. She shares her own story of early failed attempts to quit drinking, the lessons she learned from her first alcohol-free experiences, and why practicing new responses—not collecting more knowledge—is what finally changed everything. If you're tired of making promises to yourself in the morning only to negotiate them away by the afternoon, this conversation will help you understand what's really keeping you stuck and how to start building lasting self-trust. You'll discover:  Why knowing alcohol is harming you doesn't automatically change your behavior  The difference between information, motivation, and true transformation  Lindsay's story of her first 30-day alcohol break—and why "failing" became part of her success  Why the morning promise turns into the afternoon negotiation  How repeated practice—not willpower—creates lasting change  The hidden reason high-achieving women often struggle to quit on their own  Why self-trust is built through small, repeatable decisions—not bigger promises  How coaching and support interrupt the stop-start drinking cycle  Why one difficult night doesn't have to turn into another six months of starting over If you're ready to stop negotiating with yourself and finally build a calm, confident, alcohol-free life, this episode will show you where lasting change really begins. LISTEN NEXT: If this episode resonated, listen to: Episode 1: How To Feel Good Alcohol-Free: The First Steps to Sobriety Episode 33: Why You Keep Waiting to Quit Drinking (and How to Start Before You Feel Ready) Episode 53: How To Quit Drinking Without AA Episode 61: How To Quit Drinking When You Don't Feel Ready Support the show Here's how you can stay connected:  🗓️ Schedule a 30-minute Discovery Call👩‍💻 Sign-up for Feel Good AF Coaching📱Follow along on Instagram📰 Subscribe to the Feel Good AF newsletterAnd remember, Lindsay is a sober coach, not a health professional. If you are chemically dependent on alcohol (or think you might be), consult your doctor on the steps you need to take to safely detox.  Intro/Outro Music Credit: Cozy Lofi Beat - Split memmories by Idoberg Sober curious women. Quit drinking without AA, How to quit drinking for High Achieving women.