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What does “being strong” mean when you never felt like you had a choice? Elise was diagnosed with breast cancer at 27. Her mom, Edie, went to every appointment, tracked every detail, and cried when her daughter couldn’t see. They join the primas for an honest conversation about fear, losing the hair that felt like part of your identity, unexpected body changes, and finding women who understand. There’s also a TJ Maxx wig incident, because even in the hardest chapters, these two still find room to laugh. A mother-daughter conversation about showing up, needing support, and everything people miss when they say, “You’re so strong.” This episode shares personal experiences, not medical advice. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

The kids moved out. The “Mom, help!” calls didn’t stop. 😂 From laundry emergencies to cooking way too much food, the Primas catch up on what life feels like after sending their kids off to college. They’re learning to live on their own—and we’re getting used to a different routine back home. Then the conversation gets personal: a breakup, a layoff, and the decision to finally take a chance on a business idea that’s been on hold for years. An honest, funny conversation about the changes we expect, the ones we don’t, and figuring out what comes next. #PrimasPeroNotReally #Motherhood #LifeChanges Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

How do you know when it’s time to leave the path you were expected to follow and take a chance on yourself? Illiett Ojeda, founder of Chasing Balance, joins the primas for an honest conversation about shifting careers, pursuing a nontraditional path, and trying to create balance while managing work, family, and personal ambition. Illiett shares how her experiences in education, corporate life, and entrepreneurship changed her definition of success and taught her that work-life balance is not something we achieve once and keep forever. It requires constant adjustment as our lives, responsibilities, and priorities evolve. The conversation also explores why women often postpone their passions, the fear that comes with choosing an unfamiliar path, and how starting small can be the first real step toward building a life that feels more fulfilling. Because betting on yourself does not always mean changing everything overnight. Sometimes it begins with giving one idea a genuine chance. Subscribe for honest conversations about motherhood, relationships, identity, healing, and starting over. #PrimasPeroNotReally #CareerChange #WorkLifeBalance Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

After 24 years together and 16 years of marriage, Jay and Janelle Montalvo still don’t agree about everything—and maybe that’s part of why their relationship works. The hosts of In the Middle join Ayeisha and Yvette for an honest conversation about evolving together, working with your spouse, men’s mental health, emotional support, and opposing parenting styles. They also explore raising boys without teaching machismo, setting boundaries around screen time, and preparing children to handle independence, rejection, and failure. Because a strong marriage isn’t built by staying the same. It’s built by continuing to communicate as both people change. 🎧 Listen now and join the conversation. What is harder for a marriage to navigate: different communication styles, different emotional needs, or different approaches to parenting? *Guests*: Jay & Janelle 🎙️In the Middle Podcast https://open.spotify.com/show/4JFjrfV6T3iNTS9IKxvVNp Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Are you compromising in your relationship or are you settling? And how do you know where to draw the line? In this episode of Primas Pero Not Really, Ayeisha and Yvette sit down with clinical psychologist Dr. Luz Maria Berrio for an honest conversation about the relationship patterns we accept, the boundaries we struggle to set, and the lessons we sometimes learn the hard way. They get into red flags vs. “pink flags,” sharing locations with your partner, trust vs. control, and the difference between accepting someone for who they are and ignoring something that may eventually become a dealbreaker. But relationships are only the beginning. The conversation turns to parenting and the patterns we pass down to our children: what they learn from watching our relationships, when parents need to acknowledge their own mistakes, and one of the hardest parenting decisions of all—when to step in and when to let your kids fall, learn, and figure things out for themselves. Then comes another reality many women eventually face: raising children while watching their own parents get older. From caregiving and aging parents to perimenopause, relationships, Hispanic family expectations, and the pressure of being the person everyone depends on, the Primas explore what it really means to become part of the sandwich generation. Where's the line between what we should accept, what we can change, and what we finally need to let go of? Funny, vulnerable, and very real, because sometimes saying “I'm fine” is a lot easier than admitting we need help. 🎧 Listen now and join the conversation. What’s something you once considered a “pink flag” that eventually became a red flag? Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Your child going off to college is exciting. But it also involves a much bigger emotional shift than people admit. In this episode of Primas, Pero Not Really, we react to some of the wildest responses we received on social media, including the assumptions people make about women, single moms, dating, and the things they somehow hear in a 30-second clip that were never actually said. Then we get into a much bigger life transition: sending our kids off to college. College looks completely different for this generation. From meeting roommates online before move-in day to navigating dorm life, meal plans, money, and the phone calls parents know are coming, we talk about the funny and emotional reality of letting your child start their next chapter. Because while they are figuring out independence, parents are adjusting too. After years of being the dance mom, baseball mom, chauffeur, planner, and emergency contact, there comes a moment when you have to ask yourself: what do I like to do now? Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Dating After 40: Men, Midlife Dating & Modern Relationships Is a man in his 40s who's never been married a red flag, or is that one of the biggest misconceptions in modern dating? In this episode of Primas Pero Not Really, they sat down with Charles Timoneda to get an honest male perspective on dating after 40, relationships, and navigating today's dating world. They discuss what it's really like dating single moms, whether men should always pay on the first date, how dating apps like Hinge and Facebook Dating have changed relationships, why ghosting has become so common, and whether first-date intimacy changes the way men view a relationship. They also explore the realities of midlife dating, dating with children, finding love later in life, and the challenges of building meaningful relationships when everyone comes with a past. If you're navigating modern dating, dating after divorce, or simply wondering how men really think about relationships in their 40s, this episode delivers an honest, funny, and relatable conversation. Topics discussed: • Dating after 40 • Men and midlife dating • Dating single moms • Dating apps (Hinge & Facebook Dating) • First date etiquette • Who pays on the first date? • Ghosting and modern dating • Dating with kids • Dating red flags • Finding love later in life Follow Primas Pero Not Really for unfiltered conversations about relationships, motherhood, healing, identity, and the moments that shape our lives—with plenty of laughs along the way. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

After years of marriage, divorce, co-parenting, and building lives of their own, the primas find themselves asking a question they never thought they'd revisit: Would you ever get married again? In this catch-up episode, Aisha, Genise, and Yvette share where life has taken them since their last dating conversation. Two of the primas are now in new relationships, which sparks an honest discussion about dating in your 40s, remarriage, blended families, independence, and what healthy love looks like after heartbreak. The conversation explores everything from introducing partners to your children and navigating co-parenting dynamics, to protecting your peace, maintaining your independence, and learning how to trust again. They also reflect on the realities of empty nesting, creating new chapters after divorce, and how their perspectives on marriage have evolved. For anyone who has ever wondered whether love is worth the risk after a difficult relationship, this episode is a reminder that healing changes what you look for, and what you're willing to accept. 💬 Would you get married again after a divorce? 🎙️ Primas Pero Not Really is a Miami-born podcast where three Latina women share honest conversations about motherhood, relationships, healing, identity, co-parenting, and the beautifully messy moments that shape our lives. Follow, rate, and share if you've ever had to start over, rebuild, or rediscover yourself after a major life change. #PrimasPeroNotReally #DatingAfterDivorce #Relationships #CoParenting #SecondChances #LatinaPodcast #WomenOver40 #SingleMoms #HealingJourney #MarriageAndDivorce Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

This one is for the parents… and honestly, for all of us. How do you know when attention becomes control? This week on Primas Pero Not Really, we sat down with clinical psychologist Luz Maria Berrio to talk about the relationship conversations more families should be having earlier. We get into: 🚩 Red flags vs pink flags ❤️ Love bombing vs genuine interest 📍 Why teens share locations 🧠 Narcissistic traits vs actual narcissism 🚧 Boundaries vs control 👩‍👧 Signs parents should pay attention to in teen relationships 📱 How social media is changing relationships for teens—and adults One moment that really stayed with us: Just because something feels like love… doesn’t always mean it’s healthy. We talk about what’s normal, what’s not, and how parents can create space for these conversations without judgment. And somehow… we also ended up talking about identity, growing up, and why adults may not be as different from teenagers as we think. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Rebecca aka “The Dude” joins Las Primas for one of the most honest conversations we’ve had yet. From raising a nonverbal autistic son to navigating dating as a single mom, this episode dives into the realities people rarely talk about out loud. We talk about parenting, co-parenting, relationships, emotional safety, friendship, identity, and what it really means to show up for the people you love. The conversation also takes some unexpected turns: ✨ Dating as a single lesbian mom ✨ The reality of modern dating ✨ Co-parenting after divorce ✨ Raising a child with special needs ✨ Friendship, loyalty, and support ✨ Why relationships fail ✨ Healing generational patterns ✨ and why Rebecca might actually be “the worst lesbian ever” 😂 This episode is funny, emotional, chaotic, and deeply human, exactly how Primas conversations should feel. 👇 Tell us in the comments: What’s something nobody warns you about when it comes to relationships or parenting? #PrimasPeroNotReally #SingleMomLife #Podcast #Dating #CoParenting Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

We all try to be gentle parents… until we’re not. In this episode of Primas Pero Not Really, Las Primas get real about parenting in today’s world, what works, what doesn’t, and the moments no one talks about. From trying to help kids regulate their emotions, to losing patience, to realizing every child needs a different approach, this is real mom talk, unfiltered. We get into: Gentle parenting vs real-life reactionsTeaching kids emotional regulationWhy can’t you parent every child the sameDiscipline, consequences, and respectMom guilt, overstimulation, and losing your coolPreparing kids for the real worldWhy college isn’t the only path to success This episode is for moms in the trenches—figuring it out day by day, making mistakes, learning, and showing up anyway. Because parenting is real and isn’t perfect. 💬 If you’ve ever gone from calm to “don’t test me” in 0.5 seconds… this one’s for you. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Going from two incomes to one changes everything. In this episode of Primas Pero Not Really, Las Primas talk about what it really looks like to adjust financially after separation and major life changes. From learning how to live large on a smaller budget, to rethinking everyday spending, to figuring out what’s actually necessary… this conversation is honest, relatable, and very real. They get into: Life after separation and financial adjustmentsLiving on one income (and sometimes none)Budgeting without losing your lifestyle completelyCutting back on events, birthdays, and daily habitsPride, independence, and learning as you go This isn’t about perfect budgeting. It’s about real life, real decisions, and figuring it out in the moment. If you’ve ever had to adjust your lifestyle or rethink your finances… this episode will hit. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

What men carry isn’t always visible—and most of the time, they don’t talk about it. In this episode of Primas Pero Not Really, we sit down with JC Perez—husband, father, and co-founder of Cultura Media House—to talk about men’s mental health, fatherhood, and the pressure of being “the man” in today’s world. From marriage and communication, to raising boys in a different social landscape, to why men often stay silent even when they’re struggling… this conversation gets real. We get into: Men’s mental health and emotional pressure. Fatherhood and raising boys today. Masculinity and modern expectations. The communication on marriage and relationships.Why men don’t open up—and what that leads to. This is an honest one. If you’ve ever wondered what men are actually dealing with behind the scenes… this episode is for you. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Is it just us, or did everyone forget to mention the massive identity crisis that comes with parenthood? In this episode, the Primas are getting raw and real about the "Parenting Transition"—that jarring shift from being a spontaneous individual to a 24/7 manager of a tiny human. We aren't talking about diapers or sleep schedules; we’re diving into the psychological toll of mourning your "pre-kid" self, the invisible mental load that keeps you up at night, and the awkward "friendship gap" that happens when your social circle isn't on the same page. In this conversation, the Primas open up about: Losing your sense of self after becoming a momKids growing up and becoming more independentFinding purpose again in a new chapter of lifeThe chaos of parenting, schedules, and daily responsibilitiesGenerational differences in parenting and communication This episode is honest, emotional, and relatable for anyone navigating change — whether it’s motherhood, co-parenting, or simply entering a new season of life. 🎙️ Follow the show and share it with someone going through the same transition. -============================= This episode BROUGHT TO YOU BY: 🎪*THE FAIR* : https://www.fairexpo.com/ ============================= 🕒 TIMESTAMPS 0:00 — Introduction: Life updates and the "Primas" catch-up 4:15 — The Identity Crisis: Transitioning from "Individual" to "Parent" 11:30 — The Grief of Your Former Self: Why it’s okay to miss your old life 18:45 — Navigating the "Friendship Gap": When your social circle changes 27:10 — The Invisible Mental Load: Understanding the 24/7 "Manager" role 35:50 — Social Media vs. Reality: Debunking "Aesthetic Parenting" 44:20 — Relationship Strains: Keeping the spark alive amidst the chaos 52:15 — Reclaiming Your Personal Identity: Finding "You" again Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Real life doesn’t follow a script…and neither do these conversations. In this special compilation of Primas Pero Not Really, we bring together the most powerful, funny, and honest moments from Episodes 5 to 8. From co-parenting challenges and putting ego aside for your kids, to dating, relationships, and the everyday chaos of motherhood, this episode captures what real life actually looks like. We talk about: ▪︎ Co-parenting dynamics and finding balance ▪︎ Fun dad vs strict mom struggles ▪︎ Blended families, forgiveness, and growth ▪︎ Dating, relationships, and modern expectations ▪︎ Humor, culture, and unfiltered life moments 🎥 Watch now and catch the best moments from Season 1. 💬 Comment your favorite clip or moment. 📌 Subscribe for more real conversations, culture, and chaos. -============================= This episode BROUGHT TO YOU BY: 🎪*THE FAIR* : https://www.fairexpo.com/ ============================= Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.