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Have you felt distant from God after narcissistic abuse, even though you still love Him? Do you wonder if your faith is weak because you do not feel as close or connected to God as you think you should? Are you trying to trust God while healing, but keep getting stuck in the thought that something must be wrong with you? In this episode, I’m sharing what to do when God feels distant after narcissistic abuse and why that distance does not mean your faith is gone. This conversation will help you understand why distance can feel so painful, how it can lead to shame or performance, and how to return to God’s Word when your feelings are loud. Connect With Tekyia💛 → Join Narcissism Unmasked Community → Become An Insider → Book A Self-Trust Breakthrough Call Email 📩 → [email protected]   Next Steps: Step 1: Join a supportive community of women who healing from narcissistic abuse in the free Narcissism Unmasked Community Step 2: Share this episode with a woman who needs this truth--you never know who’s quietly struggling  Step 3: Follow the podcast and leave a quick review on Apple Podcasts — it helps other survivors find this podcast when they need it most.

Do you feel guilty when you know you need rest? Do you worry that slowing down means you are being selfish, disappointing people, or not pleasing God? In this episode, I’m sharing why guilt feels so loud after narcissistic abuse, especially when your healing requires rest. If you’ve been exhausted mentally, emotionally, spiritually, or physically, this conversation will help you understand why rest is not selfish and why guilt does not get to lead you away from what your healing needs. Related Episodes: Ep.24 Boundaries - Why They Matter For Healing After Narcissistic Abuse Ep. 28 3 Boundaries Every Christian Woman Needs When Healing From Narcissistic Abuse Part 1 Ep. 29 3 Boundaries Every Christian Woman Needs When Healing From Narcissistic Abuse Part 2   Connect With Tekyia💛 → Join Narcissism Unmasked Community → Become An Insider → Book A Self-Trust Breakthrough Call Email 📩 → [email protected]   Next Steps: Step 1: Join a supportive community of women who healing from narcissistic abuse in the free Narcissism Unmasked Community Step 2: Share this episode with a woman who needs this truth--you never know who’s quietly struggling  Step 3: Follow the podcast and leave a quick review on Apple Podcasts — it helps other survivors find this podcast when they need it most.

Have simple decisions started feeling harder to make after narcissistic abuse? Do you second-guess yourself, replay choices or feel ashamed when a choice you made does not go the way you hoped? In this episode, I’m sharing why decision-making can feel so heavy after narcissistic abuse and why it does not mean you are incapable of making good decisions. If you’ve been struggling with self-doubt, overthinking, or trusting yourself again, this conversation will help you begin understanding what’s happening underneath the fear and why imperfect decisions do not define who you are. Related Episodes: Ep.19 3 Keys To Making Confident Decisions After Narcissistic Abuse Without Overthinking Ep. 20 When "Waiting On God" Keeps You Stuck: How To Make Decisions God Trusts You To Make   Connect With Tekyia💛 → Join Narcissism Unmasked Community → Become An Insider → Book A Self-Trust Breakthrough Call Email 📩 → [email protected]   Next Steps: Step 1: Join a supportive community of women who healing from narcissistic abuse in the free Narcissism Unmasked Community Step 2: Share this episode with a woman who needs this truth--you never know who’s quietly struggling  Step 3: Follow the podcast and leave a quick review on Apple Podcasts — it helps other survivors find this podcast when they need it most.

Have you ever looked at your life after covert narcissistic abuse and wondered, “Where did I go?” Do you feel like you’re doing what needs to be done but deep down, you don’t really feel like yourself anymore? Are you trying to rebuild confidence after narcissistic abuse, but it still feels impossible? In this episode, I’m sharing why finding yourself after narcissistic abuse can feel so confusing, especially when gaslighting has trained you to doubt and second-guess everything, including who you are. If you’ve been trying to heal from covert narcissistic abuse and wondering whether the real you is gone, this conversation will help you begin seeing yourself with more compassion. I pray it gives you hope as well. All is not lost. Connect With Tekyia💛 → Join Narcissism Unmasked Community → Become An Insider → Book A Self-Trust Breakthrough Call Email 📩 → [email protected]   Next Steps: Step 1: Join a supportive community of women who healing from narcissistic abuse in the free Narcissism Unmasked Community Step 2: Share this episode with a woman who needs this truth--you never know who’s quietly struggling  Step 3: Follow the podcast and leave a quick review on Apple Podcasts — it helps other survivors find this podcast when they need it most.

Have you ever had a sense of what you were supposed to do — a nudge, a knowing — and just kept pushing it down because you did not trust it? Do you have something sitting inside you that you have been too afraid to step into because someone else's voice convinced you it was pointless? Learning to trust yourself again after covert narcissistic abuse does not always feel dramatic. Sometimes it looks like finally doing the thing you sat on for over a year because someone told you it was pointless. In this episode I share my story of writing and publishing my first book — the inner knowing that was always there, being mocked and discouraged, sitting on it for over a year while that person's voice played on repeat in my head, and the moment I started evaluating those thoughts and realised they were not actually mine. This is what reclaiming your self-worth and discernment looks like in real life. Not a big breakthrough moment — just one step, one act of trusting yourself, and watching what God does with it. Resources Mentioned → Unshackled: Breaking Free From Unforgiveness  Connect With Tekyia💛 → Join Narcissism Unmasked Community → Become An Insider → Book A Coaching Call Email 📩 → [email protected]   Next Steps: Step 1: Join a supportive community of women who healing from narcissistic abuse in the free Narcissism Unmasked Community Step 2: Share this episode with a woman who needs this truth--you never know who’s quietly struggling  Step 3: Follow the podcast and leave a quick review on Apple Podcasts — it helps other survivors find this podcast when they need it most.

Have you ever felt like something must be wrong with you for staying in a narcissistic relationship as long as you did? Do you find yourself still feeling something for someone you know was hurting you and not understanding why? Have you ever felt judged or judged yourself for going back to a narcissistic relationship after you knew better? If you have been carrying shame about staying in narcissistic abuse, going back, or still feeling something for someone you know was hurting you — this episode is going to speak directly to that. I share my own honest experience and we get into why leaving covert narcissistic abuse is so much harder than it looks from the outside.  Connect With Tekyia💛 → Join Narcissism Unmasked Community → Become An Insider → Book A Coaching Call Email 📩 → [email protected]   Next Steps: Step 1: Join a supportive community of women who healing from narcissistic abuse in the free Narcissism Unmasked Community Step 2: Share this episode with a woman who needs this truth--you never know who’s quietly struggling  Step 3: Follow the podcast and leave a quick review on Apple Podcasts — it helps other survivors find this podcast when they need it most.

Have you ever looked up and realised you had become someone you did not recognise and could not even pinpoint when it happened? Did you spend years changing yourself, shrinking yourself, trying to be enough and it still was never enough? Covert narcissistic abuse has a way of taking you from yourself so gradually you do not even notice until you look up one day and feel like a stranger to yourself. In this episode I get honest about what that looked like for me — the slow numbing, the shrinking, the keeping quiet, and finally being told I may never change even after years of being willing to become whatever was required. If you are a narcissistic abuse survivor who spent years adjusting yourself trying to fix a relationship and wondering why it was never enough — this episode is for you. Connect With Tekyia💛 → Join Narcissism Unmasked Community → Become An Insider → Book A Coaching Call Email 📩 → [email protected]   Next Steps: Step 1: Join a supportive community of women who healing from narcissistic abuse in the free Narcissism Unmasked Community Step 2: Share this episode with a woman who needs this truth--you never know who’s quietly struggling  Step 3: Follow the podcast and leave a quick review on Apple Podcasts — it helps other survivors find this podcast when they need it most.

Do you constantly question your judgment, your worth and your abilitieseven while you look like you have it all together on the outside? Have you tried to feel confident after narcissistic abuse, or maybe never even known where to start? What if rebuilding your confidence and self-worth after narcissistic abuse doesn't start with confidence at all but with reconnecting to the voice God placed in you? If you have been wanting to feel confident again after narcissistic abuse or whether you have tried everything or have not known where to begin — this episode is your starting point. Confidence is not where healing begins. Narcissistic abuse, especially the gaslighting that comes with it, goes after your internal voice directly — not just your decisions, but your sense of your own worth, your abilities, and who you actually are — until you doubt your grasp on reality and on yourself. But that inner knowing, that God-given instinct, doesn't disappear. It gets buried under everything that was said over it. Learning to recognise it again, with God and not apart from Him, and telling it apart from the voice that moved in, is essential for restoring your self-worth and confidence after narcissistic abuse.  Connect With Tekyia💛 → Join Narcissism Unmasked Community → Become An Insider → Book A Coaching Call Email 📩 → [email protected]   Next Steps: Step 1: Join a supportive community of women who healing from narcissistic abuse in the free Narcissism Unmasked Community Step 2: Share this episode with a woman who needs this truth--you never know who’s quietly struggling  Step 3: Follow the podcast and leave a quick review on Apple Podcasts — it helps other survivors find this podcast when they need it most.

Are you healing from narcissistic abuse but struggling to feel God's love even though you intellectually know He loves you? Have you been going through the motions — praying, reading, saying all the right things — and still feeling empty and unseen? What if the gap between knowing God loves you and actually feeling it is not a failure of faith but something narcissistic abuse quietly took from you? Healing from covert narcissistic abuse touches every area of your life  including your relationship with God. In this episode I get honest about a season where I was repeating scripture about God's love and feeling the complete opposite. Unseen. Unloved. Unable to feel what I knew in my mind. I share how God met me — not through a perfectly crafted prayer, but through two songs on a random walk — and what that moment revealed about how He pursues us even when we are not performing. If you are a narcissistic abuse survivor who loves God but feels far from Him, who knows His love is real but cannot seem to receive it, I pray this episode encourages you. Because you're not experiencing a failure of faith. It is what happens when narcissistic abuse teaches your heart that opening up to love is dangerous.  Resources Mentioned Show Me Where You Were — Laney Rene  Solid Ground — Megan Tibbits Connect With Tekyia💛 → Join Narcissism Unmasked Community → Become An Insider → Book A Coaching Call Email 📩 → [email protected]   Next Steps: Step 1: Join a supportive community of women who healing from narcissistic abuse in the free Narcissism Unmasked Community Step 2: Share this episode with a woman who needs this truth--you never know who’s quietly struggling  Step 3: Follow the podcast and leave a quick review on Apple Podcasts — it helps other survivors find this podcast when they need it most.

Do you find yourself constantly second-guessing your own memory and perception after covert narcissistic abuse even when you know what actually happened? Have you ever talked yourself out of your own reality, even after someone confirmed it was true? What if the voice telling you that you are crazy is not your voice at all — and recovery from gaslighting starts with finally understanding where it actually came from? Feeling crazy is one of the most painful and most common signs of covert narcissistic abuse and one of the hardest things to shake even after you are out of the situation. In this episode I share a specific moment that shows exactly how deep the self-doubt went: an event witnessed and confirmed by someone who was right there, that I still managed to talk myself out of. We talk about why that happens and why feeling crazy after narcissistic abuse is not evidence of a broken mind but evidence of what was deliberately done to it. And we talk about how God has a way of quietly bringing you back to truth and restoring your confidence in what you know. If you are a narcissistic abuse survivor who has been doubting your own perception and memory long after you got out — this episode is going to bring you real clarity and real relief. Recovery from gaslighting and rebuilding your self-worth starts with understanding that the voice saying you are crazy is not your voice. It was put there. And it is not the truth about you. Connect With Tekyia💛 → Join Narcissism Unmasked Community → Become An Insider → Book A Coaching Call Email 📩 → [email protected]   Next Steps: Step 1: Join a supportive community of women who are ready to heal from narcissistic abuse in the free Narcissism Unmasked Community Step 2: Share this episode with a woman who needs this truth--you never know who’s quietly struggling  Step 3: Follow the podcast and leave a quick review on Apple Podcasts — it helps other survivors find this podcast when they need it most.

Do you ever feel like you have to keep it together before God — like the real version of what you feel is too risky to actually say? After narcissistic abuse, do you find yourself bracing for God's disapproval punishment when things go wrong? What if the way you relate to God has been quietly shaped by everything the narcissist taught you about how people with power behave? This is an awareness episode — no to-do list, just a mirror. I share one of the harder seasons of my healing journey: navigating a court situation with the narcissist, depending on God completely, and realising I was secretly performing for His approval, bracing for punishment when things did not go my way, and terrified that He would expose my shortcomings the way the narcissist did. One question brought it all to the surface. If you are healing from covert narcissistic abuse and struggling to trust God again, I pray that this episode will be a blessing to you. The patterns of narcissistic abuse — conditional love, fear of honesty, performing for approval, expecting the worst — do not stay in the relationship. They follow you into your relationship with God too. And awareness is always where healing begins. Connect With Tekyia💛 → Narcissism Unmasked Community → Become An Insider → Book A Coaching Call Email 📩 → [email protected]   Next Steps: Step 1: Join a supportive community of women who are ready to heal from narcissistic abuse in the free Narcissism Unmasked Community Step 2: Share this episode with a woman who needs this truth--you never know who’s quietly struggling  Step 3: Leave a quick review on Apple Podcasts — it helps other survivors find this podcast when they need it most.

Are you a narcissistic abuse survivor who knows you need to grieve but you have no idea where to actually start? Have you been keeping it together before God — bringing the cleaned-up version of your pain — because the real version has felt like too much? What if emotional healing after narcissistic abuse started with the most honest prayer you have ever prayed? Today I am introducing you to lament — sacred sorrow — a grief practice that has been sitting in Scripture this whole time that most of us were never taught. I share the moment I found it, why Psalm 109 almost made me close the Bible, and what happened when I finally wrote my own lament — the anger, the tears, writing so hard I almost tore the page, and what came through on the other side. If you are a narcissistic abuse survivor on a healing journey and you have been stuffing your pain because bringing the real version to God felt like a lack of faith — this episode is going to give you some clarity. Emotional healing after narcissistic abuse and restoring your self-worth requires more than managing your pain. It requires being honest about it.  Connect With Tekyia💛 → Narcissism Unmasked Community → Become An Insider → Book A Coaching Call Email 📩 → [email protected]   Next Steps: Step 1: Join a supportive community of women who are ready to heal from narcissistic abuse in the free Narcissism Unmasked Community Step 2: Share this episode with a woman who needs this truth--you never know who’s quietly struggling  Step 3: Leave a quick review on Apple Podcasts — it helps other survivors find this podcast when they need it most.

Are you healing from narcissistic abuse but still carrying a heaviness you cannot explain? Have you been stuffing the pain and pushing through, only to find it keeps surfacing anyway? Healing from narcissistic abuse takes more than awareness and setting boundaries; it requires grieving what was actually lost. In this episode, I get honest about something I am personally still sitting with: the grief of unmet expectation and repeated disappointment. Grief is not just for death. It is the natural response to any significant loss and after covert narcissistic abuse, there is so much that deserves to be mourned.  Connect With Tekyia💛 → Narcissism Unmasked Community → Become An Insider → Book A Coaching Call Email 📩 → [email protected]   Next Steps: Step 1: Join a supportive community of women who are ready to heal from narcissistic abuse in the free Narcissism Unmasked Community Step 2: Share this episode with a woman who needs this truth--you never know who’s quietly struggling  Step 3: Leave a quick review on Apple Podcasts — it helps other survivors find this podcast when they need it most.

Are you healing from narcissistic abuse but your body still does not feel like it got the message? Still braced, still hypervigilant, still exhausted in a way that rest does not seem to touch? Still waiting for something to go wrong even when everything is actually okay?   Healing the nervous system after narcissistic abuse is not about deciding to calm down or pushing through the anxiety. It requires something far more specific and in this episode I am talking about what that actually is. If you are a narcissistic abuse survivor or healing from a toxic relationship and you are ready to understand what your body actually needs to heal from trauma and chronic stress, this one is going to bring you real clarity and some much needed compassion for yourself. Connect With Tekyia💛 → Narcissism Unmasked Community → Become An Insider → Book A Coaching Call Email 📩 → [email protected]   Next Steps: Step 1: Join a supportive community of women who are ready to heal from narcissistic abuse in the free Narcissism Unmasked Community Step 2: Share this episode with a woman who needs this truth--you never know who’s quietly struggling  Step 3: Leave a quick review on Apple Podcasts — it helps other survivors find this podcast when they need it most.

Have you ever felt like you were going backwards in your healing even after everything you have been through to get out? Have you ever been in a season so hard that you genuinely wondered if the healing was even working? Have you ever looked around at your life and not been able to see any evidence of how far you have actually come?   In this episode I get really personal about one of the hardest seasons of my healing journey — navigating legal abuse after narcissistic abuse, carrying what I knew alone while people around me could only see the surface and wondering in the middle of all of it whether I was regressing. This one is for the woman who is in the deep layers of her healing and needs to be reminded that what feels like going backwards might actually be the healing going deeper. And that God knows exactly what He is doing — even when you cannot see it yet.  Save your seat for Restore Your Confidence After Narcissistic Abuse Workshop Happening on Tuesday, May 26 at 7 PM ET → www.growingthroughpains.com/workshop   Connect With Me💛 → Narcissism Unmasked Community → Become An Insider → Book A Coaching Call Email 📩 → [email protected]   Next Steps: Step 1: Join a supportive community of women who are ready to heal from narcissistic abuse in the free Narcissism Unmasked Community Step 2: Share this episode with a woman who needs this truth--you never know who’s quietly struggling  Step 3: Leave a quick review on Apple Podcasts — it helps other survivors find this podcast when they need it most.