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So many instructors tell us to lead our partners, but almost nobody explains how, especially when the person in front of you is heavy, rooted, and not going anywhere. Back in the 1980s, a much bigger training partner made me earn every throw, and switching techniques turned out to be as much a trick for my own mind as for him. In this episode: what a horse and a carrot teach you about leading, why leading isn't pulling, why I separate success from whether your partner falls, connection before contact, pointing your center at their center, and why your shoulders can never be too loose. 🎁 Free resources     📬 Get a new lesson each week     Join my Free Weekly Training Video Newsletter: https://www.lia-suzuki.com/newsletters/2147530761/subscribe      📥 Eliminate inefficient or harmful movement patterns NOW.     Body Alignment Checklist for Martial Artists → https://www.lia-suzuki.com/body-alignment-checklist   📚 Grab my books     📘 The Teacher: https://lia-suzuki.com/book     ⚔️ Mastering the Shoto, A Comprehensive Guide for Aikido Enthusiasts: https://lia-suzuki.com/shoto-book   🔥 AIKIDO TRAINING TOURS     🥋 Train • Travel • Grow     👥 Small-Group Training Experiences     💬 Guidance On & Off the Mat     📅 2027 Schedule          🌸 Cherry Blossom Tour • Kumamoto — March          🇯🇵 Tokyo • Yokohama • Kamakura — May          🇩🇪🇳🇱 Germany + Netherlands — September👉 Join the Tours Interest List: https://www.lia-suzuki.com/aikido-tours

The way you take ukemi tells your partner about your temperament, your trust in them, and whether you're actually present that day. When my back went out in Japan, my sempai told me they'd seen it coming, and when I asked why they hadn't warned me, the answer has stayed with me ever since. In this episode: what experienced partners can read in your ukemi, why falling early robs tori of the last 10% of the technique, why you have to chase down the sempai, and why you can't answer a question that hasn't been asked yet. 🎁 Free resources     📬 Get a new lesson each week     Join my Free Weekly Training Video Newsletter: https://www.lia-suzuki.com/newsletters/2147530761/subscribe      📥 Eliminate inefficient or harmful movement patterns NOW.     Body Alignment Checklist for Martial Artists → https://www.lia-suzuki.com/body-alignment-checklist   📚 Grab my books     📘 The Teacher: https://lia-suzuki.com/book     ⚔️ Mastering the Shoto, A Comprehensive Guide for Aikido Enthusiasts: https://lia-suzuki.com/shoto-book   🔥 AIKIDO TRAINING TOURS     🥋 Train • Travel • Grow     👥 Small-Group Training Experiences     💬 Guidance On & Off the Mat     📅 2027 Schedule          🌸 Cherry Blossom Tour • Kumamoto — March          🇯🇵 Tokyo • Yokohama • Kamakura — May          🇩🇪🇳🇱 Germany + Netherlands — September👉 Join the Tours Interest List: https://www.lia-suzuki.com/aikido-tours

Shodan is the first time Aikido starts to feel possible; nidan is the first time you realize how far there is to go. I got nidan very quickly after shodan, didn't feel I deserved it, and trained so hard trying to catch up that my back went out. In this episode, I talk about what I look for in students between shodan and nidan, why shodan translates to "beginner," and why the next step asks you to stop practicing to perform a technique and start practicing to relate to your partner — which means letting go of your good habits along with your bad ones. 🎁 Free resources     📬 Get a new lesson each week     Join my Free Weekly Training Video Newsletter: https://www.lia-suzuki.com/newsletters/2147530761/subscribe      📥 Eliminate inefficient or harmful movement patterns NOW.     Body Alignment Checklist for Martial Artists → https://www.lia-suzuki.com/body-alignment-checklist   📚 Grab my books     📘 The Teacher: https://lia-suzuki.com/book     ⚔️ Mastering the Shoto, A Comprehensive Guide for Aikido Enthusiasts: https://lia-suzuki.com/shoto-book   🔥 AIKIDO TRAINING TOURS     🥋 Train • Travel • Grow     👥 Small-Group Training Experiences     💬 Guidance On & Off the Mat     📅 2027 Schedule          🌸 Cherry Blossom Tour • Kumamoto — March          🇯🇵 Tokyo • Yokohama • Kamakura — May          🇩🇪🇳🇱 Germany + Netherlands — September👉 Join the Tours Interest List: https://www.lia-suzuki.com/aikido-tours

In my first Aikido class in Japan back in 1987, I noticed something in the first five minutes that had nothing to do with technique: the senior students were warming up their attention, not just their bodies, and nobody was chatting before bow-in. In this episode, I break down what that quiet actually does, why it changes what you notice once class starts, and the exact routine I still use to prime myself before every class I take or teach — plus what my teacher Takeda Sensei taught me about listening internally before you ever step on the mat. 🎁 Free resources     📬 Get a new lesson each week     Join my Free Weekly Training Video Newsletter: https://www.lia-suzuki.com/newsletters/2147530761/subscribe      📥 Eliminate inefficient or harmful movement patterns NOW.     Body Alignment Checklist for Martial Artists → https://www.lia-suzuki.com/body-alignment-checklist   📚 Grab my books     📘 The Teacher: https://lia-suzuki.com/book     ⚔️ Mastering the Shoto, A Comprehensive Guide for Aikido Enthusiasts: https://lia-suzuki.com/shoto-book   🔥 AIKIDO TRAINING TOURS     🥋 Train • Travel • Grow     👥 Small-Group Training Experiences     💬 Guidance On & Off the Mat     📅 2027 Schedule          🌸 Cherry Blossom Tour • Kumamoto — March          🇯🇵 Tokyo • Yokohama • Kamakura — May          🇩🇪🇳🇱 Germany + Netherlands — September👉 Join the Tours Interest List: https://www.lia-suzuki.com/aikido-tours

I've been doing Aikido for about forty-five years, and I've never trained another martial art, so I'm not going to compare it to anything else. What I can tell you is what Aikido has asked of me, and it turns out to be a specific and demanding list. Two students taught me this clearly: one soaked up everything I offered from day one, the other tested me every single night for a year before I saw him really land. In this episode I get into why there's no scoreboard in Aikido, why you can't measure progress by how many people you defeat, and why your partner's well-being isn't an ethical add-on, it's a technical requirement. I also talk about why the cooperation built into training isn't a limitation, it's the entire point, and why the hardest thing there is isn't overcoming someone, it's moving with them. I also get into the qualities Aikido demands beyond skill: patience, sensitivity, the capacity to fail without shutting down. I talk about why ego is a technical problem in Aikido, not just a personality flaw, why you can't hide it in your hands or your timing, and why this is part of what lets people keep training into their sixties, seventies, and eighties. And I'll tell you what one of my students said when a friend at the pub asked him which technique would take over if he ever got in a fight. Thanks for training with me this week. 🎁 Free resources     📬 Get a new lesson each weekJoin my Free Weekly Training Video Newsletter: https://www.lia-suzuki.com/newsletters/2147530761/subscribe      📥 Eliminate inefficient or harmful movement patterns NOW.Body Alignment Checklist for Martial Artists → https://www.lia-suzuki.com/body-alignment-checklist 📚 Grab my books     📘 The Teacher: https://lia-suzuki.com/book     ⚔️ Mastering the Shoto, A Comprehensive Guide for Aikido Enthusiasts: https://lia-suzuki.com/shoto-book 🔥 AIKIDO TRAINING TOURS     🥋 Train • Travel • Grow     👥 Small-Group Training Experiences     💬 Guidance On & Off the Mat     📅 2027 Schedule          🌸 Cherry Blossom Tour • Kumamoto — March          🇯🇵 Tokyo • Yokohama • Kamakura — May          🇩🇪🇳🇱 Germany + Netherlands — September👉 Join the Interest List: https://www.lia-suzuki.com/aikido-tours

When I survey new students about why they came to Aikido, the most common answers are self-development, discipline, focus, managing anxiety, self-defense, and fitness. After thirty years of teaching, I'd say they're right about what they're looking for. They just don't yet know what it's actually going to require from them. In this episode I get into why self-development isn't a skill you complete, it's a quality that develops gradually, the way a child grows taller without anyone noticing day to day. I tell you about a student who nearly went home one night because he felt like a dork training with people younger and more athletic than him, and what happened when he gave himself permission to be a dork for the night. I also talk about the uncomfortable pattern I've noticed with the students who say they came for discipline, why discipline is the practice of returning to what you know when what you're doing isn't working, and why focus is the absence of unnecessary interference, not more concentration. I get into how Aikido helps you manage anxiety by moving you out of a black-and-white world where a technique is either right or wrong, and why freezing, not doing the "wrong" technique, is the actual mistake I'm watching for. Thanks for training with me this week. 🔥 NEW! Germany Tour This September — small-group, in-depth training with off-the-mat discussions and personal mentorship. Heidelberg • Bonn • Düsseldorf • Sehnde. Join the waitlist: https://www.lia-suzuki.com/aikido-tours 🎁 Get a new lesson each week — join my Free Weekly Training Video Newsletter: https://www.lia-suzuki.com/newsletters/2147530761/subscribe 📥 Eliminate inefficient or harmful movement patterns now — grab my free Body Alignment Checklist for Martial Artists: https://www.lia-suzuki.com/body-alignment-checklist 📚 Grab my books — The Teacher: https://lia-suzuki.com/book and Mastering the Shoto, A Comprehensive Guide for Aikido Enthusiasts: https://lia-suzuki.com/shoto-book

In forty-five years of Aikido, I've walked into hundreds of dojos around the world, and you can tell a great deal about how people train before anyone sets foot on the mat. I remember being invited to teach at one dojo where a beautiful photo of sensei was leaned against a crash mat, half hidden, and the mat itself was dirty. At another, the host running late meant nobody was surprised, because apparently that wasn't unusual. In this episode I get into what I actually watch for before class even starts: whether the mat is clean, who arrives early and what they're doing when they get there, and whether people change and clean the mat without being asked. I also talk about a test one of my sempai in Japan taught me, for telling whether something a host does to impress a visitor is normal or staged. I also get into what I watch for once training starts, including how people attack and receive an attack, and the difference between someone showing off and someone chasing quality. I talk about how students become the culture of a dojo and the culture shapes the students who join it, and I tell you about the bucket of rags test: what happens in a Japanese dojo when it's time to clean the mat, versus what I've seen happen here. Thanks for training with me this week. 🔥 NEW! Germany Tour This September — small-group, in-depth training with off-the-mat discussions and personal mentorship. Heidelberg • Bonn • Düsseldorf • Sehnde. Join the waitlist: https://www.lia-suzuki.com/aikido-tours 🎁 Get a new lesson each week — join my Free Weekly Training Video Newsletter: https://www.lia-suzuki.com/newsletters/2147530761/subscribe 📥 Eliminate inefficient or harmful movement patterns now — grab my free Body Alignment Checklist for Martial Artists: https://www.lia-suzuki.com/body-alignment-checklist 📚 Grab my books — The Teacher: https://lia-suzuki.com/book and Mastering the Shoto, A Comprehensive Guide for Aikido Enthusiasts: https://lia-suzuki.com/shoto-book

I've been teaching Aikido for over thirty years, and I've watched hundreds of students hit the same wall at roughly the same point in their training. I had one student, second kyu or first kyu at the time, who suddenly stopped wanting my suggestions and made excuses whenever I offered a fix. It turned out something personal was going on. He was stuck on that plateau for about six months, and then he came back. In this episode I get into why a plateau isn't a lack of progress, it's progress that isn't visible yet, and why it can feel like moving into a nicer apartment: chaotic at first, boxes everywhere, until it finally settles. I also talk about the real danger on a plateau, which is retreating to what's comfortable, and why that uncomfortable space will still be waiting for you next time if you do. I also get into what actually separates the students who get through a plateau from the ones who don't: training what's broken instead of just what already works, measuring the quality of contact instead of whether your partner fell down, and seeking out the training partner you'd rather avoid. I give you specific things to do in class this week, including why I want you to do ten reps without stopping to analyze after every throw, and how to find the sempai whose Aikido you should be studying based on body type. Thanks for training with me this week. 🔥 NEW! Germany Tour This September — small-group, in-depth training with off-the-mat discussions and personal mentorship. Heidelberg • Bonn • Düsseldorf • Sehnde. Join the waitlist: https://www.lia-suzuki.com/aikido-tours 🎁 Get a new lesson each week — join my Free Weekly Training Video Newsletter: https://www.lia-suzuki.com/newsletters/2147530761/subscribe 📥 Eliminate inefficient or harmful movement patterns now — grab my free Body Alignment Checklist for Martial Artists: https://www.lia-suzuki.com/body-alignment-checklist 📚 Grab my books — The Teacher: https://lia-suzuki.com/book and Mastering the Shoto, A Comprehensive Guide for Aikido Enthusiasts: https://lia-suzuki.com/shoto-book

I was sitting in a coffee shop in Japan with Yamaguchi Sensei and a small group of his students, right after training. I was maybe shodan or nidan at most, and this wasn't even my main teacher, but I was blown away by how he ran that conversation, and by how much it mirrored the way he moved on the mat. In this episode I get into what I noticed about the way he led without dominating, the Zanshin I felt in that conversation itself, and why Zanshin isn't stillness or a pose, it's active, sustained attention that stays with what's in front of you. I also talk about why the quality of his attention was identical whether we were on the mat or around a table, and why that told me something important about what Aikido is actually training in us. I also get into why sensitivity and accurate perception, not just technique, are the most advanced things any practice can develop, and what that has to do with why most of us will thankfully never be in a street fight. I talk about the difference between reacting to a grab after it happens and organizing your body before contact, and I give you one thing to try this week: moving just a moment earlier than you usually would. Thanks for training with me this week. 🔥 NEW! Germany Tour This September — small-group, in-depth training with off-the-mat discussions and personal mentorship. Heidelberg • Bonn • Düsseldorf • Sehnde. Join the waitlist: https://www.lia-suzuki.com/aikido-tours 🎁 Get a new lesson each week — join my Free Weekly Training Video Newsletter: https://www.lia-suzuki.com/newsletters/2147530761/subscribe 📥 Eliminate inefficient or harmful movement patterns now — grab my free Body Alignment Checklist for Martial Artists: https://www.lia-suzuki.com/body-alignment-checklist 📚 Grab my books — The Teacher: https://lia-suzuki.com/book and Mastering the Shoto, A Comprehensive Guide for Aikido Enthusiasts: https://lia-suzuki.com/shoto-book

Every serious practitioner has had this experience: you come home from a seminar confused, your technique feels worse than when you left, and you can't fully explain what you spent three days doing. I had a student come back and tell me, half joking, that he knew nothing anymore. I told him that was great, now he could relearn and rebuild. In this episode I get into what a seminar actually does to your nervous system, why feeling confused afterward usually means something actually got in, and why what you're able to verbalize the week after a seminar is almost never what you actually absorbed. I also explain why an Aikido technique is a lot like trying on a shirt, and why body size and three days of exposure aren't enough to fairly judge whether a technique "works." I also talk about the three mistakes people make after a seminar: trying to apply everything before your body has integrated it, judging too fast, and talking about the material instead of training it. I get into what to actually do instead, why I don't recommend taking a week off to recover, and why the full effect of a good seminar is often invisible for three to six months before it shows up all at once. Thanks for training with me this week. 🔥 NEW! Germany Tour This September — small-group, in-depth training with off-the-mat discussions and personal mentorship. Heidelberg • Bonn • Düsseldorf • Sehnde. Join the waitlist: https://www.lia-suzuki.com/aikido-tours 🎁 Get a new lesson each week — join my Free Weekly Training Video Newsletter: https://www.lia-suzuki.com/newsletters/2147530761/subscribe 📥 Eliminate inefficient or harmful movement patterns now — grab my free Body Alignment Checklist for Martial Artists: https://www.lia-suzuki.com/body-alignment-checklist 📚 Grab my books — The Teacher: https://lia-suzuki.com/book and Mastering the Shoto, A Comprehensive Guide for Aikido Enthusiasts: https://lia-suzuki.com/shoto-book

There's a specific moment in Aikido training that doesn't happen on schedule and can't be forced: you stop trying to make the technique work, and it works. I still remember one throw from when I was maybe fourth kyu, getting so frustrated with a partner who kept telling me to move bigger, that I finally got angry, moved huge, and he flew. I'd been trying and trying with my arms against a strong guy, and the moment I gave up on that and just moved big, it happened without effort. In this episode I get into what "fighting" your partner actually means, why it has nothing to do with being aggressive, and why resistance and connection can feel identical to a beginner. I also break down why fighting shows up the same way a handshake transmits something you notice instantly, whether or not you can name it, and why your partner's nervous system recognizes the difference even when their thinking mind doesn't. I also talk about where a technique actually starts, why the shift happens when you stop leading with your own intention and start reading uke's, and how training slower, without getting lazy, is one of the fastest ways to find that shift. I get into why you have to be willing to let the technique fail completely, what my sensei meant by "you get good at what you do," and why training with a wide variety of partners, including at seminars outside your own organization, is what finally shows you what's real and what's just familiar. Thanks for training with me this week. 🔥 NEW! Germany Tour This September — small-group, in-depth training with off-the-mat discussions and personal mentorship. Heidelberg • Bonn • Düsseldorf • Sehnde. Join the waitlist: https://www.lia-suzuki.com/aikido-tours 🎁 Get a new lesson each week — join my Free Weekly Training Video Newsletter: https://www.lia-suzuki.com/newsletters/2147530761/subscribe 📥 Eliminate inefficient or harmful movement patterns now — grab my free Body Alignment Checklist for Martial Artists: https://www.lia-suzuki.com/body-alignment-checklist 📚 Grab my books — The Teacher: https://lia-suzuki.com/book and Mastering the Shoto, A Comprehensive Guide for Aikido Enthusiasts: https://lia-suzuki.com/shoto-book

Ikkyo is usually the first technique students learn, which is exactly why almost everyone assumes it's the simplest. After 45 years of practicing, teaching, and taking ukemi for it from partners at every level, I can tell you it's the opposite. In this episode I get into what separates a jammed, cranked version of ikkyo from the version that feels like the floor disappearing under your feet, including a couple of stories from taking ukemi at a very high level, the mindset shift that happens when you stop thinking about doing a technique "on" someone, and the almost-invisible pause that separates advanced ukemi from everything else. I also talk about what I actually look for when I'm watching students train ikkyo, and why getting off your own mat and training with people well above your rank is one of the fastest ways to feel the difference for yourself. Thanks for training with me this week. 🔥 NEW! Germany Tour This September — small-group, in-depth training with off-the-mat discussions and personal mentorship. Heidelberg • Bonn • Düsseldorf • Sehnde. Join the waitlist: https://www.lia-suzuki.com/aikido-tours 🎁 Get a new lesson each week — join my Free Weekly Training Video Newsletter: https://www.lia-suzuki.com/newsletters/2147530761/subscribe 📥 Eliminate inefficient or harmful movement patterns now — grab my free Body Alignment Checklist for Martial Artists: https://www.lia-suzuki.com/body-alignment-checklist 📚 Grab my books — The Teacher: https://lia-suzuki.com/book and Mastering the Shoto, A Comprehensive Guide for Aikido Enthusiasts: https://lia-suzuki.com/shoto-book

When you become one of the senior students on the mat, training doesn't get easier, it gets harder to improve, and most people don't notice until they're already coasting.  In this episode, I talk about what actually changes once you're the most advanced person in the room. Your training partners are, in a way, your students now, they're watching what you do whether you mean them to or not. And once nobody can challenge you from the outside anymore, you have to learn to generate that challenge yourself.  I share a story about a student who had every skill he needed but had quietly stopped reaching for anything new, and what I noticed in a sempai of mine who refused to slow down even as the years caught up with him. He trained an entire class with his own students and still found a way to make it hard on himself. I also get into specific ways to keep training honest at this level: taking more falls than you give, treating your ukemi as something to perfect rather than coast through, and working sensitivity instead of dominance once you're already good at throwing everyone in the room.  Then I talk about something I think is genuinely underused: going somewhere nobody knows you. Walk into a dojo or a seminar where nobody knows your rank, and suddenly your reputation can't carry you. That's uncomfortable, and it's exactly the point. I also talk about what to do when a seminar teaches you something that contradicts what your own teacher does at home, and why that confusion is worth leaning into rather than avoiding.  Being the most advanced person in the room is a privilege. It's also a responsibility, to keep becoming a better observer and a more demanding student of yourself, not a more comfortable one.  Practice Prompt: At your next class, pick one thing, extra falls, sharper ukemi, or working sensitivity instead of dominance, and use it deliberately, even if nobody else on the mat notices the difference.  You can watch the full video version of this episode here: https://youtu.be/XKyVY2FPt8E  Thanks for training with me.

In this episode, Lia Suzuki breaks down what actually separates the dan grades in Aikido — and it isn't more complicated technique. Prompted by watching a student's presence shift almost overnight, Lia unpacks the real markers she looks for when deciding someone is ready to test, and shares four things any practitioner can start practicing today, regardless of rank. In this episode: Why presence — not confidence — is what Lia actually looks for before testing a student What changes between 3rd dan and 4th dan (hint: it's not more techniques) Why connection replaces control as your primary organizing principle Four practical tips: slow down and don't cut corners, train what you already have, be first on/last off the mat, and chase down your sempai An announcement about Lia's September Germany tour Resources mentioned: Free Weekly Training Video Newsletter: https://www.lia-suzuki.com/newsletters/2147530761/subscribe Body Alignment Checklist for Martial Artists: https://www.lia-suzuki.com/body-alignment-checklist The Teacher (book): https://lia-suzuki.com/book Mastering the Shoto, A Comprehensive Guide for Aikido Enthusiasts: https://lia-suzuki.com/shoto-book Germany Tour waitlist (Sept 14–27): https://lia-suzuki.com/seminars Remote training options: https://www.lia-suzuki.com/remote-membership-options In-person LA classes: https://www.aki-usa.org/intro-options-adults Watch the full video: https://youtu.be/a1nj9qq8a7A CTA: If this episode resonated with you, share it with a training partner working toward their next rank. And if you'd like a free training video like this delivered every week, join the newsletter using the link above.

If you've ever watched a senior student train and thought, "That doesn't look anything like what I'm doing," you're right.  In this episode, I explore why beginners learn techniques while advanced students study principles, why over-explaining can actually slow learning, and why beginner's mind is a technical requirement—not just a philosophy—for lifelong improvement. You'll also hear a memorable story about Yamaguchi Sensei telling a room full of advanced practitioners: "None of you know shihonage." 🎁 Free Resources 📬 Free Weekly Training Video Newsletter https://www.lia-suzuki.com/newsletters/2147530761/subscribe 📥 Body Alignment Checklist for Martial Artists https://www.lia-suzuki.com/body-alignment-checklist 📚 Books 📘 The Teacher https://lia-suzuki.com/book 📗 Mastering the Shoto https://lia-suzuki.com/shoto-book 🥋 Train With Me Germany Aikido Tour (Waitlist) https://lia-suzuki.com/seminars Remote Training Options https://www.lia-suzuki.com/remote-membership-options Los Angeles Classes https://www.aki-usa.org/intro-options-adults ▶️ Watch this episode on YouTube https://youtu.be/WWf7io3s0So