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Today I'M the one being interviewed by my friend Sabi Dhillon's podcast, "The Proper Madness Podcast". We talk about psychological development, shifting identities as we get into adulthood, and accepting ourselves just as we are in a world of performance . Go check out Sabi's IG page & podcast!: https://www.instagram.com/_sabidhillon/ Resources on Attachment Styles ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠"Attached" by Amir Levine & Rachel Heller⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠"How We Love" By Milan & Kay Yerkovich⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Follow me on IG: https://www.instagram.com/lifewithranela/ About Ranela: Ranela Kaligithi is a therapist, coach, actor, and life enthusiast. Growing up in a pastor's family, she moved from state to state often, navigating the complexities of being an asian child of immigrants, the pressures of church expectations, purity culture, and being a woman in patriarchal society. Ranela went through several iterations of herself after her identity began to shatter in her late 20's, leaving her with the work of reconstructing it all from the ground up. She is passionate about sharing her story of resilience, giving her community permission to fail and learn, in their process of building self-trust and redefining their relationship with themselves. Ranela teaches women how to rebuild self-worth, release relationship anxiety, and confidently pursue their dreams.

We will only stop playing games to gain attention, validation or control in dating, when we accept that we are worthy of love that doesn't have to be "won". Here's where you can start :) After you listen, let me know your thoughts in the comments! Resources on Attachment Styles ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠"Attached" by Amir Levine & Rachel Heller⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠"How We Love" By Milan & Kay Yerkovich⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Follow me on IG: https://www.instagram.com/lifewithranela/ About Ranela: Ranela Kaligithi is a therapist, coach, actor, and life enthusiast. Growing up in a pastor's family, she moved from state to state often, navigating the complexities of being an asian child of immigrants, the pressures of church expectations, purity culture, and being a woman in patriarchal society. Ranela went through several iterations of herself after her identity began to shatter in her late 20's, leaving her with the work of reconstructing it all from the ground up. She is passionate about sharing her story of resilience, giving her community permission to fail and learn, in their process of building self-trust and redefining their relationship with themselves. Ranela teaches women how to rebuild self-worth, release relationship anxiety, and confidently pursue their dreams.

While I was going through my first relationship breakup, I started seeing my first therapist - Dr. Pierre Steenberg. He was the first to introduce to me these 4 pillars of a healthy, long-term partnership. As I studied to become a therapist and started seeing the same kind of research, I realized he was on to something. In my own relationships I saw how the breakdown of these qualities within the relationship, led to the breakdown of trust, intimacy, respect. I also started to see how important it was to do the inner work of healing, so I could give my future relationship a better chance of surviving and thriving. After you listen, let me know your thoughts in the comments! Resources on Attachment Styles ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠"Attached" by Amir Levine & Rachel Heller⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠"How We Love" By Milan & Kay Yerkovich⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Follow me on IG: https://www.instagram.com/lifewithranela/ About Ranela: Ranela Kaligithi is a therapist, coach, actor, and life enthusiast. Growing up in a pastor's family, she moved from state to state often, navigating the complexities of being an asian child of immigrants, the pressures of church expectations, purity culture, and being a woman in patriarchal society. Ranela went through several iterations of herself after her identity began to shatter in her late 20's, leaving her with the work of reconstructing it all from the ground up. She is passionate about sharing her story of resilience, giving her community permission to fail and learn, in their process of building self-trust and redefining their relationship with themselves. Ranela teaches women how to rebuild self-worth, release relationship anxiety, and confidently pursue their dreams.

How do you truly feel "at home" with yourself? How do you wake up in the morning feeling like you're living without fear, in your authenticity, aligned with your most authentic self? That's what we talk about in this episode, as I also share my story of going through the darkest times of confusion to get to the clarity and joy I have today. And I know you can have it too :) Resources on Attachment Styles ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠"Attached" by Amir Levine & Rachel Heller⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠"How We Love" By Milan & Kay Yerkovich⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Follow me on IG: https://www.instagram.com/lifewithranela/ About Ranela: Ranela Kaligithi is a therapist, coach, actor, and life enthusiast. Growing up in a pastor's family, she moved from state to state often, navigating the complexities of being an asian child of immigrants, the pressures of church expectations, purity culture, and being a woman in patriarchal society. Ranela went through several iterations of herself after her identity began to shatter in her late 20's, leaving her with the work of reconstructing it all from the ground up. She is passionate about sharing her story of resilience, giving her community permission to fail and learn, in their process of building self-trust and redefining their relationship with themselves. Ranela teaches women how to rebuild self-worth, release relationship anxiety, and confidently pursue their dreams.

As I complete another circuit around our fiery sun, I wanted to share some of the most high impact lessons I've learned in the past 35 years of my life. These are lessons that have literally re-shaped my nervous system, brain chemistry and values, to make me into the woman I am today. Happy birthday to me and THANK YOU for being part of this epic journey of life! :) Resources on Attachment Styles ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠"Attached" by Amir Levine & Rachel Heller⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠"How We Love" By Milan & Kay Yerkovich⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Follow me on IG: https://www.instagram.com/lifewithranela/ About Ranela: Ranela Kaligithi is a therapist, coach, actor, and life enthusiast. Growing up in a pastor's family, she moved from state to state often, navigating the complexities of being an asian child of immigrants, the pressures of church expectations, purity culture, and being a woman in patriarchal society. Ranela went through several iterations of herself after her identity began to shatter in her late 20's, leaving her with the work of reconstructing it all from the ground up. She is passionate about sharing her story of resilience, giving her community permission to fail and learn, in their process of building self-trust and redefining their relationship with themselves. Ranela teaches women how to rebuild self-worth, release relationship anxiety, and confidently pursue their dreams.

Sometimes we attach to people or expectations easily because subconsciously we don't actually *like* or love our lives. We depend on the people in our lives or our romantic relationships to give us a feeling of excitement, because nothing we're doing on our own in life feels interesting. But this is your soul's call to *deepen your relationship with yourself*, meet yourself a little more, and fall in love with everything that makes you YOU :) We'll explore that in this episode. Resources on Attachment Styles ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠"Attached" by Amir Levine & Rachel Heller⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠"How We Love" By Milan & Kay Yerkovich⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Follow me on IG: https://www.instagram.com/lifewithranela/ About Ranela: Ranela Kaligithi is a therapist, coach, actor, and life enthusiast. Growing up in a pastor's family, she moved from state to state often, navigating the complexities of being an asian child of immigrants, the pressures of church expectations, purity culture, and being a woman in patriarchal society. Ranela went through several iterations of herself after her identity began to shatter in her late 20's, leaving her with the work of reconstructing it all from the ground up. She is passionate about sharing her story of resilience, giving her community permission to fail and learn, in their process of building self-trust and redefining their relationship with themselves. Ranela teaches women how to rebuild self-worth, release relationship anxiety, and confidently pursue their dreams.

Welcome to Women's Empowerment month! We're talking about the #1 skill that every human being should've been taught by the time they were 8 years old... but literally none of us were ;) that's Nervous System Regulation. Big terms, but the most simple ideas and practices. If you're going to work on anything in life, let it be regulating the flood of chemicals that seem to wash over us as women daily, due to our fluctuating hormones and cycles. We have so much power and potential, but if we continuously outsource our nervous system regulation, we will never fully feel in control, proud of ourselves, or confident in our decisions. It's a short episode, but one that will let you start practicing being the Manager of your mind and emotions right away. Resources on Attachment Styles ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠"Attached" by Amir Levine & Rachel Heller⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠"How We Love" By Milan & Kay Yerkovich⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Follow me on IG: https://www.instagram.com/lifewithranela/ About Ranela: Ranela Kaligithi is a therapist, coach, actor, and life enthusiast. Growing up in a pastor's family, she moved from state to state often, navigating the complexities of being an asian child of immigrants, the pressures of church expectations, purity culture, and being a woman in patriarchal society. Ranela went through several iterations of herself after her identity began to shatter in her late 20's, leaving her with the work of reconstructing it all from the ground up. She is passionate about sharing her story of resilience, giving her community permission to fail and learn, in their process of building self-trust and redefining their relationship with themselves. Ranela teaches women how to rebuild self-worth, release relationship anxiety, and confidently pursue their dreams.

Welcome to Women's Empowerment month! In this episode, I share my story of going from being suppressed as a woman surrounded by a patriarchal, religious environment, to the questions and fears I faced as I learned how to become empowered in my womanhood. This is for those who are ready to take the courageous step to turn down the external voices, and start aligning with their multi-faceted identity and power as a female. I'm here for it! Resources on Attachment Styles ⁠⁠⁠⁠"Attached" by Amir Levine & Rachel Heller⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠"How We Love" By Milan & Kay Yerkovich⁠⁠⁠⁠ Follow me on IG: https://www.instagram.com/lifewithranela/ About Ranela: Ranela Kaligithi is a therapist, coach, actor, and life enthusiast. Growing up in a pastor's family, she moved from state to state often, navigating the complexities of being an asian child of immigrants, the pressures of church expectations, purity culture, and being a woman in patriarchal society. Ranela went through several iterations of herself after her identity began to shatter in her late 20's, leaving her with the work of reconstructing it all from the ground up. She is passionate about sharing her story of resilience, giving her community permission to fail and learn, in their process of building self-trust and redefining their relationship with themselves. Ranela teaches women how to rebuild self-worth, release relationship anxiety, and confidently pursue their dreams.

If you fall in love too quickly, this episode is going to be the enlightenment you need to see a better path. It's fun to be a lover girl or boy until you realize you're the one being left exhausted, jaded, and heartbroken (almost every time!). There's a smarter, less exhausting way to date. And in the meantime, you'll be finding a love within YOURSELF, that will carry you through for lifetimes of love to come. Resources on Attachment Styles ⁠⁠⁠"Attached" by Amir Levine & Rachel Heller⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠"How We Love" By Milan & Kay Yerkovich⁠⁠⁠ Follow me on IG: https://www.instagram.com/lifewithranela/ About Ranela: Ranela Kaligithi is a therapist, coach, actor, and life enthusiast. Growing up in a pastor's family, she moved from state to state often, navigating the complexities of being an asian child of immigrants, the pressures of church expectations, purity culture, and being a woman in patriarchal society. Ranela went through several iterations of herself after her identity began to shatter in her late 20's, leaving her with the work of reconstructing it all from the ground up. She is passionate about sharing her story of resilience, giving her community permission to fail and learn, in their process of building self-trust and redefining their relationship with themselves. Ranela teaches women how to rebuild self-worth, release relationship anxiety, and confidently pursue their dreams.

We are in the double digits!!! EPISODE 10!! In this episode I break down 3 main reasons why you might be getting attached way too quickly in early stage dating - and don't worry, I end with 3 practical steps to take today to start rewiring for healthy detachment. Honestly, this might be my favorite episode so far :) It's a topic that's near and dear because I had to go through it. Please take a moment to DM me your thoughts and/or leave a comment! Muah. xo Resources on Attachment Styles ⁠⁠"Attached" by Amir Levine & Rachel Heller⁠⁠ ⁠⁠"How We Love" By Milan & Kay Yerkovich⁠⁠ Follow me on IG: https://www.instagram.com/lifewithranela/ About Ranela: Ranela Kaligithi is a therapist, coach, actor, and life enthusiast. Growing up in a pastor's family, she moved from state to state often, navigating the complexities of being an asian child of immigrants, the pressures of church expectations, purity culture, and being a woman in patriarchal society. Ranela went through several iterations of herself after her identity began to shatter in her late 20's, leaving her with the work of reconstructing it all from the ground up. She is passionate about sharing her story of resilience, giving her community permission to fail and learn, in their process of building self-trust and redefining their relationship with themselves. Ranela teaches women how to rebuild self-worth, release relationship anxiety, and confidently pursue their dreams.

In this episode, Ranela shares her experiences with online dating and lessons shes' learned. Don't be fooled by the title, dating apps are definitely exhausting! But they can be 80% less exhausting by adopting better strategies & mindsets that allow you to create your dating life on your terms... and maybe even enjoying the process along the way :) Resources on Attachment Styles ⁠"Attached" by Amir Levine & Rachel Heller⁠ ⁠"How We Love" By Milan & Kay Yerkovich⁠ Follow me on IG: https://www.instagram.com/lifewithranela/ About Ranela: Ranela Kaligithi is a therapist, coach, actor, and life enthusiast. Growing up in a pastor's family, she moved from state to state often, navigating the complexities of being an asian child of immigrants, the pressures of church expectations, purity culture, and being a woman in patriarchal society. Ranela went through several iterations of herself after her identity began to shatter in her late 20's, leaving her with the work of reconstructing it all from the ground up. She is passionate about sharing her story of resilience, giving her community permission to fail and learn, in their process of building self-trust and redefining their relationship with themselves. Ranela teaches women how to rebuild self-worth, release relationship anxiety, and confidently pursue their dreams.

Happy love month! In today's episode, I reflect on how my mentality in relationships and dating has shifted after 4 serious relationships and lessons I've learned as I've grown out of anxious attachment. If you still struggle with feeling that relationships are unsafe and dangerous, this one's for you :) Resources on Attachment Styles "Attached" by Amir Levine & Rachel Heller "How We Love" By Milan & Kay Yerkovich Follow me on IG: https://www.instagram.com/lifewithranela/ About Ranela: Ranela Kaligithi is a therapist, coach, actor, and life enthusiast. Growing up in a pastor's family, she moved from state to state often, navigating the complexities of being an asian child of immigrants, the pressures of church expectations, purity culture, and being a woman in patriarchal society. Ranela went through several iterations of herself after her identity began to shatter in her late 20's, leaving her with the work of reconstructing it all from the ground up. She is passionate about sharing her story of resilience, giving her community permission to fail and learn, in their process of building self-trust and redefining their relationship with themselves. Ranela teaches women how to rebuild self-worth, release relationship anxiety, and confidently pursue their dreams.

We call it "individuation" in the therapy world. It's a state of mind that allows you to see yourself as an autonomous individual separate from others. But for those who developed a fear of criticism, rejection or shame of being seen, it can be hard to let go of what people think and choose yourself. In this episode, we'll dive into the mindset shifts and rewiring toxic beliefs that lead us to be in our head instead of our body. Sign up for coaching here: https://calendly.com/ranela/50-min-breakthrough-session Follow me on IG: https://www.instagram.com/lifewithranela/ About Ranela: Ranela Kaligithi is a therapist, coach, actor, and life enthusiast. Growing up in a pastor's family, she moved from state to state often, navigating the complexities of being an asian child of immigrants, the pressures of church expectations, purity culture, and being a woman in patriarchal society. Ranela went through several iterations of herself after her identity began to shatter in her late 20's, leaving her with the work of reconstructing it all from the ground up. She is passionate about sharing her story of resilience, giving her community permission to fail and learn, in their process of building self-trust and redefining their relationship with themselves. Ranela teaches women how to rebuild self-worth, release relationship anxiety, and confidently pursue their dreams.

In order to choose yourself, you must know how to hear that wise voice of intuition. But that voice gets drowned out by societal, religious, cultural, and family expectations, fears of judgment/criticism/failure, and so much more. I show you how to turn down the voices of the external noise and start tuning into your own inner wisdom so you can find your True North and start honoring yourself. *Limited 60min January Coaching spots are now open and available! Get Whatsapp access to me for voice memo and text coaching throughout the month of January. Go to this link to sign up: Sign up for coaching here: https://calendly.com/ranela/50-min-breakthrough-session Follow me on IG: https://www.instagram.com/lifewithranela/ About Ranela: Ranela Kaligithi is a therapist, coach, actor, and life enthusiast. Growing up in a pastor's family, she moved from state to state often, navigating the complexities of being an asian child of immigrants, the pressures of church expectations, purity culture, and being a woman in patriarchal society. Ranela went through several iterations of herself after her identity began to shatter in her late 20's, leaving her with the work of reconstructing it all from the ground up. She is passionate about sharing her story of resilience, giving her community permission to fail and learn, in their process of building self-trust and redefining their relationship with themselves. Ranela teaches women how to rebuild self-worth, release relationship anxiety, and confidently pursue their dreams.

In this episode, I share some of my own past dating patterns that kept me in codependency, enmeshment and nervous system dysregulation during early dating. You'll uncover valuable tools for staying calm and grounded, choosing yourself and not putting people on a pedestal too soon. Stick around if you're the type to double-text or constantly check your phone for the next text ;) *Limited 60min January Coaching spots are now open and available! Get Whatsapp access to me for voice memo and text coaching throughout the month of January. Go to this link to sign up: Sign up for coaching here: https://calendly.com/ranela/50-min-breakthrough-session Follow me on IG: https://www.instagram.com/lifewithranela/ About Ranela: Ranela Kaligithi is a therapist, coach, actor, and life enthusiast. Growing up in a pastor's family, she moved from state to state often, navigating the complexities of being an asian child of immigrants, the pressures of church expectations, purity culture, and being a woman in patriarchal society. Ranela went through several iterations of herself after her identity began to shatter in her late 20's, leaving her with the work of reconstructing it all from the ground up. She is passionate about sharing her story of resilience, giving her community permission to fail and learn, in their process of building self-trust and redefining their relationship with themselves. Ranela teaches women how to rebuild self-worth, release relationship anxiety, and confidently pursue their dreams.