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What happens when families navigating neurodevelopmental disabilities step into faith communities hoping for soul care, only to be met with misunderstanding, behavioral judgment, or even exclusion? In this powerful, candid conversation, host Patti Kasper sits down with returning guests and authors Carl Young and Joel Sheagren to discuss their groundbreaking new book, Embrace Neurodiversity. Sharing vulnerable personal stories—from being served legal letters banning them from church property to being asked if they had considered an exorcism for their child—Joel and Carl reveal the deep heartbreak of church hurt. Yet, this conversation is not about grievance or blame; it is saturated with grace, theological depth, and practical solutions. Together, they explore how ministry teams can move from managing behavior to understanding underlying symptoms, why concrete language must replace abstract religious phrases, and the profound biblical truth that in Christ, every wire has a purpose. Key Discussion Takeaways Transforming Church Hurt into Hope: Turning painful exclusions—like legal dismissal letters and isolation—into positive advocacy and a gentler, more inclusive ministry model.Seeing Symptoms, Not Behaviors: Why physical discomfort, sensory saturation, or dysregulation in a pew or Sunday school classroom is a physiological stress response, not moral defiance.Concrete vs. Abstract Church Language: How abstract theological statements (like "Christ died for your sins") can baffle concrete thinkers, and how to translate biblical love into literal, practical actions (like specific hospitality tasks)."In Him, Every Wire Has a Purpose": Moving beyond deficit checklists to recognize that atypical neurological wiring reflects intentional design and brings vital spiritual gifts to the whole body of faith.Addressing PAE and Stigma in Congregations: Confronting the reality that over 15% of children may be prenatally exposed to alcohol, and why churches must replace parental blame with generational support.Reaching the Margins: Returning to the biblical mandate of Isaiah and the gospels to minister to the disenfranchised rather than protecting institutional comfort.Featured Resources & Links Get the Book: Pick up Embrace Neurodiversity by Carl Young and Joel Sheagren. Available on Amazon, or for 15% off if you scan the QR code on Monday’s New Episode Announcement post)!Read Patti's New Book: 4D Living with FASD: Shared Voices, Clearer Understanding by Patricia Kasper, MA is available now at books.by/yourfasdcoach!Remember to like/share/subscribe wherever you watch/listen to the podcast – dong so will help more people find it and learn about FASD.

During my prep week ahead of today’s release, I was traveling for an out-of-state medical appointment. Because of this, I have compiled 6 clips from earlier in the year, which I hope you will enjoy… my first ever “best of” episode, featuring Alice Foote, Barb Clark, Carl Young, Mary Byrnes, Shannon Butts and Antonia Rathbun Lindsey. Please leave me a comment and let me know how I did, because for non-techy me, the learning curve was steep. Meanwhile, if you would like to pick up a copy of my “groundbreaking book” (per Sandra Flach), – 4D Living with FASD: Shared Voices, Clearer Understanding. In it, I weave a tapestry of many threads – living experiences voices as well as professionals of many types, voices of FASD pioneers, and my new 4D Framework to better understand FASD and support those living with it. You can find it at please visit books.by/yourfasdcoach or Amazon

In this episode of Living with FASD, host Patti Kasper is reunited with UK advocate, horticulturist, and mentor Maggie May for a lively, candid, and deeply practical conversation. Catching up on their journeys since Season 1, Patti and Maggie dive into the Adult Leadership Collaboration’s (ALC) newest groundbreaking project: the 3rd Lay of the Land Survey, focusing on funded services versus the reality of unfunded supports for adults living with FASD. Together, they pull back the curtain on why millions of dollars in allocated funding often never trickle down to the individuals who need it most. From bureaucratic hurdles—like lack of printers, transportation barriers, and confusing paperwork—to the sheer burnout of navigating unaccommodating systems, Maggie shares why lived-experience research is essential to redirecting resources where they actually matter. They also explore the life-changing power of peer mentorship, travel hacks for sensory regulation, and why "normal" belongs on a map, not on a human being! Meet Maggie May Maggie May is an adult FASD advocate, mentor, and horticulturist based in the UK and Ireland. A member of the Adult Leadership Collaboration (ALC) and an admin for the Flying with Broken Wings peer support community, Maggie works directly with neurodivergent teens and adults to foster self-advocacy, communication skills, and connection. Her passion centers on creating safe spaces where individuals with FASD can unmask, connect, and thrive without judgment. Key Takeaways & Discussion Points The 3rd Lay of the Land SurveyThe Paperwork & Access BarrierFinding Your Tribe & UnmaskingDeconstructing the "Normal" Myth Travel Survival & Sensory Dosing: Peer Mentorship Participate in the 3rd Lay of the Land Survey! If you are an adult (18+) living with an FASD, your voice and experience are critically needed. Take the survey at your own pace, take breaks whenever you need, and help reshape the future of adult funding and community support!    👉  https://www.linkedin.com/safety/go?url=https%3A%2F%2Fbrock.ca1.qualtrics.com%2Fjfe%2Fform%2FSV_3VQc769cKFvMDxs&trk=flagship-messaging-web&messageThreadUrn=urn%3Ali%3AmessagingThread%3A2-ZGU3NGVkY2UtMGVlMC00OGViLTlmNmQtMjExN2EzZWM4ZmYzXzEwMA%3D%3D&lipi=urn%3Ali%3Apage%3Ad_flagship3_messaging_conversation_detail%3BUV0qSlXATnOohb0nVxb6OQ%3D%3D Featured Books & Resources Read the New Book: 4D Living with FASD: Shared Voices, Clearer Understanding by Patricia Kasper, MA is officially out now! Grab your copy and check out companion resources at books.by/yourfasdcoach.Peer Community: Connect with Maggie May and peers in the Flying with Broken Wings adult FASD support community. Help Spread the Word! Please take a moment to Like, Subscribe, and Share this episode on your favorite podcast platform and YouTube! Every share helps the algorithms place these vital conversations in front of families, adults, and professionals—expanding understanding, funding equity, and dignity for the entire FASD community.

In this episode of Living with FASD, host Patti Kasper welcomes Dr. Carol Brown, Ed.D., founder of the Equipping Minds Brain Development Center in Kentucky. Drawing on more than four decades of experience across counseling, crisis centers, school administration, and neurodevelopmental intervention, Dr. Brown shares her journey into cognitive training and neuroplasticity. Inspired by her own son’s processing delays and working memory challenges, Dr. Brown created a holistic, play-based curriculum designed to strengthen cognitive pathways across the lifespan—from young children to adults navigating neurodevelopmental conditions, trauma, and cognitive decline. Patti and Dr. Brown explore the profound power of games, multi-layered symbology, and mediated learning to disarm brain defenses, eliminate anxiety, and unlock potential. They also discuss the "Cognitive Bloom," the lifelong reality of FASD, and why the brain remains capable of growth at any age. About Dr. Carol Brown Dr. Carol Brown, Ed.D., is the developer of the Equipping Minds Cognitive Development Curriculum. She has dedicated her career to helping learners who struggle with processing speed, working memory, executive functioning, and attention. Through her clinic, school partnerships, and international outreach, Dr. Brown equips educators, therapists, and parents with affordable, research-backed tools that utilize games, movement, and ancient coding systems to foster genuine cognitive growth. Key Takeaways Play Disarms the Defense System: Fear and anger shut down learning; intentional, joyful games open up neurological pathways and make skill-building sustainable.Ancient Coding & Cognitive Growth: Using shapes, colors, letters, animals, and symbols in layered card games trains working memory, visual processing, and multi-step direction following.Meeting the Brain Where It Is: Cognitive training works best when it builds strictly on what the learner already knows, avoiding overwhelm and frustration.The "I See You" Verbal Visualization: Adapting an instruction technique used by emergency personnel and surgeons—stating and repeating actions aloud—transforms self-perception and executive execution.Lifespan Neuroplasticity & The Cognitive Bloom: Brain development and emotional maturity don’t end in childhood; with the right environmental scaffolding and intentional exercises, growth happens across all ages. Resources & Connect with Dr. Carol Brown Website: equippingminds.comFree Video Content: Check out the Equipping Minds YouTube Channel for over 100 demonstrations and webinars.Curriculum & Materials: Explore the beginner/extreme card decks, teacher workbooks, and the Roses Program online.Exciting Book Announcement! 📚 4D Living with FASD: Shared Wisdom, Clearer Understanding officially launches September 9! Pre-order your copy, explore study resources, and dive into the 4D Framework at books.by/yourfasdcoach. Help Spread the Word! If this episode encouraged or enlightened you, please take a moment to Like, Subscribe, and Share the podcast on your favorite streaming platform and YouTube!

In this special roundtable, Patti Kasper is joined by four leaders and authors in the FASD community—Barb Clark, Carl Young, Jodee Kulp, and Dr. Kathryn Page—for an open, unfiltered conversation about aging with Fetal Alcohol Spectrum Disorder. While headlines and resources frequently focus on pediatric care, adults with FASD face a unique lifespan trajectory. The panel explores the tension between experiencing a midlife "Cognitive Bloom" while navigating accelerated physical burnout, the reality of managing complex whole-body comorbidities, and how late-life identification replaces decades of self-blame with profound self-grace. Meet the Panelists Dr. Kathryn Page (Kathy): Former director of the FASD diagnostic clinic at a county hospital in Northern California and the trainer for Los Angeles County's recent mandatory FASD mental health training. Kathy also joined Patti as co-host for the first three episodes of Living with FASD.Jodee Kulp: Co-founder of the global Red Shoes Rock movement, international speaker, certified health coach, advanced service dog trainer, and the most prolific author in the FASD space. She is the founder and operator of the Better Endings, New Beginnings publishing company.Barb Clark: FASD author (Raising Kids and Teens with FASD and the upcoming The A to Z of FASD), professional life coach, parent advocate, speaker, and trainer.Carl Young: FASD author (Embracing Hope, Embracing Neurodiversity, and Embracing Capacity), professional speaker, trainer, and active legislative policy advocate in North Dakota.Featured Books & Author Links Patti Kasper:4D Living with FASD: Shared Voices, Clearer Understanding – Launching September 9, 2026! Get yours at books.by/yourfasdcoachDiscover Your 4D Life: The FASD Living Experience (Companion Study Guide) – Coming soon!Jodee Kulp:Explore Jodee’s full collection of memoirs, fiction, and educational series on her Amazon Store and via Better Endings, New BeginningsBarb Clark:Raising Kids and Teens with FASD: Advice and Strategies to Help Your Family to Thrive!Carl Young:Embracing Hope: Innovative Strategies to Empower Parents Raising Neurodiverse Teens (co-authored with Joel Sheagren)Browse Carl's co-authored series on AmazonHelp Spread the Word! If this conversation resonated with you, please Like, Subscribe, and Share this episode on your favorite podcast app and YouTube! Doing so helps algorithms put these vital conversations in front of more people.

In this episode of Living with FASD, Patti sits down with neurodevelopmentalist Toni Hager to explore practical, bottom-up approaches to brain organization and sensory integration. Toni shares the origin of the Hager Vortex—a 12-level developmental framework developed alongside Jodee Kulp—and explains why struggling brains are not disabled, but disorganized. From simple daily sensory exercises like deep pressure stimulation to visual tracking and primitive reflex integration, Toni breaks down accessible, hands-on strategies to calm the nervous system, reduce meltdowns, and support lifelong neurodevelopment. Key Takeaways Brain Organization vs. Disability: A struggling brain often lacks foundational sensory organization rather than the ability to learn; addressing developmental levels from the base up allows higher functions to fall into place.The Hager Vortex: Human brain development builds sequentially from the metabolic system and primitive reflexes up through sensory channels (tactile, visual, auditory) to motor and cognitive output.Calming Overwhelm with Deep Pressure: Firm, deep pressure applied to joints, hands, arms, and feet stimulates deep proprioceptive nerves, lasting up to two hours to help ground dysregulated nervous systems during sensory overload.Visual & Auditory Digit Spans: Simple daily sequencing exercises (e.g., repeating numbers with a 1-second pause or identifying visual objects) directly strengthen auditory and visual processing speed.Movement as Brain Food: Repetitive functional movements—like standing up and sitting down from a chair or gentle trampoline bouncing—activate the vestibular system and organize neural pathways.Timestamps 00:00 – Welcome & introducing neurodevelopmentalist Toni Hager01:05 – The origin story: Meeting Jodee Kulp and creating the Hager Vortex07:35 – Understanding the base of the brain: Metabolic foundations & primitive reflexes12:03 – Deep pressure technique: How and why proprioceptive input calms the nervous system17:05 – Vision, tracking, and the development of the visual cortex21:55 – Practical exercises to boost auditory and visual processing (digit spans)31:54 – Primitive reflex integration and its link to fight-or-flight reactions37:25 – De-escalating sensory meltdowns and rages through tactile input39:35 – The neurological impact of music, rhythm, and auditory environments42:45 – Closing reflections & how to connect with ToniConnect with Toni Hager Email: [email protected]

COMING SOON! The launch of Patti’s second book, made possible by this very podcast – 4D Living with FASD: Shared Voices, Clearer Understanding launches Sept 9, and its companion study guide, Discover Your 4D Life: The FASD Living Experience will launch shortly thereafter! Both will be available at Patti’s online store at books.by/yourfasdcoach as well as Amazon and your local bookseller. In this week's deeply personal and eye-opening episode of Living with FASD, host Patti Kasper welcomes back Dr. Kristina Uban, director of the Developing Brains Laboratory at UC Irvine. After two and a half years, Dr. Uban returns to explore a topic rarely discussed in the context of neurodivergence: the reality of marriage, long-term relationships, and significant partnerships when navigating Fetal Alcohol Spectrum Disorder (FASD). Together, Patti and Kristina unpack the intersection of personal experience and academic research, challenging historical research stigmas, discussing the invisible load of complex medical comorbidities, and reframing the unique "wildflower intelligence" that comes with an FASD diagnosis. Key Discussion Points: Bridging the Academic and Personal: How Kristina’s professional world in neuroimaging collided with her personal life, reshaping her understanding of historical research pools and the narrow narratives surrounding FASD.The Realities of Marriage with FASD: Examining the unique relational pressures caused by financial strain, medical trauma, chronic illness, and the need for deep foundational trust.The "Car Breakdown" Analogy: A powerful framework for understanding when a partner's behavior is driven by burnout or a neurodivergent "breakdown" rather than personal malice.Moving Past Shame and Stigma: Embracing vulnerability, walking straight through social stigma, and finding resilience, authenticity, and leadership within the FASD community.As always, if you enjoyed today’s episode, Invisible Disabilities & Workplace Discrimination: Challenging the System with Julie Harris, then please remember to like, subscribe and share this podcast episode, because the more it is shared, the more people can find Living with FASD and learn more about the many and varied effects of Prenatal Alcohol Effects. If you would like to reach Kristina, please email her at [email protected]   If you want to reach Patti to discuss either FASD training or life coaching, you can schedule a call using this links: https://calendly.com/kaspertrainingandcoaching/consultation . Additional training topics can be found on her website, www.patriciakasper.com . You can also email Patti at [email protected] I

In this episode of Living with FASD, host Patti Kasper is joined by Brett Williams from the Learning Disabilities Association of Saskatchewan (LDAS). Together, they explore the complexities of non-apparent disabilities, late-in-life neurodivergent diagnoses, and the phenomenon of "diagnostic overshadowing"—where a single label can obscure an individual’s full spectrum of strengths and needs. From unpacking why "no pattern is the pattern" in FASD cognitive testing to rethinking accommodations in the workplace and classroom, Patti and Brett share a candid, compassionate, and humorous conversation on moving away from individual blame and toward true interdependence. 📚 Special Book Announcement & Teaser Mark your calendars for International FASD Awareness Day! Patti Kasper’s upcoming book, 4D Living with FASD: Shared Voices, Clearer Understanding, officially launches on September 9th. Grounded in qualitative research and lived experience, this book brings together real voices from the FASD community to shift paradigms, break down stigma, and build genuine understanding. 📖 Available September 9th at books.by/yourfasdcoach, Amazon, or your favorite local bookseller! 💡 Key Takeaways & Discussion Highlights Diagnostic Overshadowing: How focusing solely on a single diagnosis can blind us to an individual’s unique cognitive profile and strengths."No Pattern is the Pattern": Why traditional, uniform testing patterns don't always fit neurodevelopmental conditions like FASD, and how scattered test results should be interpreted.The High Cost of Masking: Understanding the cognitive and metabolic energy tax that neurodivergent individuals pay to perform and "showtime" in daily life.Shift to Interdependence: Challenging the hyper-focus on absolute self-sufficiency and embracing social connectedness and mutual support.Preventative Accommodations: How simple, zero-cost support—like the gift of extra processing time—benefits entire organizations, schools, and communities. 🎙️ About Our Guest Brett Williams (he/him) is the Director of Program Service Delivery for the Learning Disabilities Association of Saskatchewan (LDAS). He has professional experience providing mental health counseling and consultation across the education, health, community, and private sectors. Brett has personal experience receiving mental health services, and is grateful to have a wonderful wife, a dynamic daughter, and a multitude of imaginary friends. 🔗 Resources & Links Mentioned Learning Disabilities Association of Saskatchewan (LDAS): ldas.org

When we talk about Fetal Alcohol Spectrum Disorder (FASD), the conversation often centers around childhood behaviors or brain function. But what happens as we age with FASD? How does early exposure impact the rest of the body, from our immune system to our joints and digestive health? In this episode, Patti Kasper sits down with Dr. Tamara Bodner, Associate Professor at the University of Calgary, to break down the latest research on adult FASD outcomes, whole-body health, and aging. From her early preclinical work with legendary FASD researcher Dr. Joanne Weinberg to her current clinical studies in Calgary, Dr. Bodner shares crucial insights into how FASD manifests across the lifespan. In This Episode, You’ll Discover: From the Lab to the Lived Experience: How a simple question at a conference shifted Dr. Bodner’s focus from animal models to human clinical health.The Prevalence Gap: Why FASD remains underdiagnosed and misunderstood despite impacting 1 in 12 to 1 in 20 people across North America.Autoimmune & Inflammation: The connection between FASD, elevated inflammatory markers (cytokines), and early symptoms of autoimmune challenges.Aging & Dementia Questions: What the data actually reveals about brain biomarkers, cognitive decline, and why one-size-fits-all diagnostic tools don't always fit FASD.The Gut-Brain-Immune Axis: Emerging research on the gut microbiome in FASD and how modifiable lifestyle factors (diet, sleep, mobility) foster resilience.Participating in Research: How adults with lived experience in both the U.S. and Canada can get involved in ongoing studies. Resources Mentioned in This Episode: Dr. Tamara Bodner’s Lab (University of Calgary): Search Tamara Bodner University of Calgary to explore active studies and research updates.Books Mentioned: Sip by Sip by Patti Kasper (https://books.by/yourfasdcoach) Connect & Follow: Website: patriciakasper.comWork With Patti:  https://calendly.com/kaspertrainingandcoaching/introductory-chat-with-patti . Email her at [email protected] & Share: If this episode gave you clarity or hope, please leave a review on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or share this video with a friend or colleague!

In this episode of Living with FASD, Candid Conversations, I am joined by two incredible guests: AJ Locashio, founder and CEO of Umbrella ND, and Carl Young, a self-advocate, FASD trainer, and author. We dive into the complex role of Artificial Intelligence in our daily lives, moving beyond the simple "good vs. bad" binary to discuss how AI can be both a powerful tool and a potentially deceptive companion. Key Discussion Points AI: Tool or Companion? We explore how AI is layered into modern systems and the risks for neurodivergent individuals who may be susceptible to AI’s conversational design, which mimics social cues and strokes the ego.The Problem with "Hallucinations": We discuss why AI models "hallucinate" or present false information as fact, and why it is critical for users to double-check sources rather than accepting AI output at face value.Accessibility and Education: We talk about how AI can support communication needs and accessibility for those struggling with brain fog or executive functioning, while emphasizing the need for ethical education in schools and colleges.The "Neurotype" Distinction: We clarify the importance of distinguishing between individual "neuroprints" and collective "neurotypes" when discussing how AI models are trained on professional datasets.Practical Resources: We introduce helpful tools like Goblin Tools, which can act as a bridge for communication by adjusting the tone of writing to be more accessible or professional.Resources Mentioned Umbrella ND (Organization providing resources for neurodivergent adults)Goblin Tools (A helpful app for adjusting tone and managing communication)Fragile Intelligence (An upcoming book by Carl Young regarding AI from a small-town and farming perspective)Thank you for listening to this week’s episode. If you found this discussion valuable, please subscribe and share it with your community.  To order Patti’s book, Sip by Sip: Candid Conversations with Adults Living with FASD, go to https://books.by/yourfasdcoach . To reach Patti, email her at [email protected] .

In this episode of Living with FASD, Candid Conversations, I am honored to host Dr. Claire Coles, a pioneer in the FASD field from Emory University. Dr. Coles shares the history of her groundbreaking longitudinal study—spanning 40 years—which has been instrumental in our current understanding of how prenatal alcohol exposure affects development, health, and aging. We discuss the critical need for better medical protocols, the realities of aging with FASD, and why stories from the community are the key to moving the needle on policy and research. Key Discussion Points 40 Years of Research: Dr. Coles reflects on starting in the early 1980s when FASD was considered a "rare event" and discusses the transition from studying birth defects to understanding long-term health outcomes.Health Across the Lifespan: We delve into the findings regarding increased risk for chronic health issues in adulthood, including cardiovascular health, gastrointestinal problems, and early onset cognitive decline.The "Premature Aging" Phenomenon: We discuss the lived experience of accelerated aging in the FASD community and current research into immunological factors that may explain why many feel older than their chronological age.Collaboration and Advocacy: Dr. Coles emphasizes that research needs to be a partnership between scientists and the FASD community, urging listeners to speak up and share their stories to drive change in legislative and medical circles.Future Directions: We explore the urgent need for funded intervention studies and standardized medical protocols that support individuals with FASD throughout their lives, regardless of their access to insurance.Resources Mentioned Emory University School of MedicineCIFASD (Collaborative Initiative on Fetal Alcohol Spectrum Disorders)Sip by Sip: Candid Conversations with Adults Living with FASD by Patti Kasper, available at https://books.by/yourfasdcoachThank you for listening to this episode. Please subscribe to stay updated on our latest conversations with leaders in the FASD field. Please like this channel and this video to help others find this information. You can email Patti at [email protected]

Workplace discrimination against neurodivergent individuals and those with invisible disabilities is a widespread reality, often occurring behind closed doors where HR policies meet individual needs. In this episode, I am joined by Julie Harris, who shares her powerful, lived experience of navigating seizures, workplace discrimination, and the EEOC mediation process. We dive deep into the legal realities of the Americans with Disabilities Act (ADA), specifically the often-misunderstood concept of "undue hardship" and the importance of the interactive process. Whether you are currently facing challenges at work or simply want to better understand your rights, this conversation provides the practical knowledge and encouragement you need to advocate for yourself confidently. Key Takeaways The Right to the Interactive Process: Employers are legally required to engage in an "interactive process" when you request an accommodation, working together to identify an effective solution.Demystifying "Undue Hardship": The burden of proof for "undue hardship" lies with the employer, not the employee. It has a specific legal definition involving significant difficulty or expense, and for large companies, costs under $500 rarely meet this threshold.The "TurboTax of Employment": Julie introduces her new, web-based tool designed to guide employees through the accommodation request process, generate templates, and flag potential retaliation, making advocacy more accessible.Dismantling Internal Ableism: Julie opens up about the importance of addressing the ableism we often direct at ourselves—judging our need for rest or our changing capacity—and reframing accommodation requests as essential tools for success rather than signs of a deficit.To get a copy of Julie’s book, Boldly Belong: The Power of Being YOU in a Disabling Society, go to https://a.co/d/0j8gvk6v To reach Julie, email her at [email protected] As always, if you enjoyed today’s episode, Invisible Disabilities & Workplace Discrimination: Challenging the System with Julie Harris, then please remember to like, subscribe and share this podcast episode, because the more it is shared, the more people can find Living with FASD and learn more about the many and varied effects of Prenatal Alcohol Effects. If you want to reach Patti to discuss either FASD training or life coaching: https://calendly.com/kaspertrainingandcoaching/consultation . Email Patti at [email protected] To get Patti’s book, Sip by Sip: Candid Conversations with Adults Living with FASD - www.books.by/yourfasdcoach   Resources EEOC (Equal Employment Opportunity Commission) - https://www.eeoc.gov/ Ernest Employee - Advocacy Tool (Upcoming) - https://ernestemployee.com LinkedIn Profile of Julie Harris - https://www.linkedin.com/in/julie-harris/ Disability Rights and Law Resources - https://www.ada.gov/

In this lively, candid conversation, Patti Kasper and Carl Young explore the intricacies of aging with FASD, emphasizing the importance of understanding health outcomes, neurodiversity, and the power of community support. If you're navigating life with FASD or supporting someone who is, these insights will reshape how you see aging as an ongoing journey of adaptation and resilience. Main Topics Covered: The impact of FASD on physical and mental health across the lifespanThe significance of personalized approaches in healthcare and interventionThe role of community, support systems, and advocacy in aging wellUnique health conditions and comorbidities related to FASDThe importance of early diagnosis and ongoing research on aging and dementiaHow to foster self-understanding, forgiveness, and grace in the aging processThe value of pets and environmental adaptations for emotional regulation Key Revelations: The importance of embracing different identities and roles, especially when engaging with various systems or groupsThe amplification of health issues in individuals with FASD, emphasizing the brain-body connectionThe value of candid conversations about health, aging, and personal stories in reducing stigmaThe need for more comprehensive education about FASD in medical and educational systemsThe potential link between prenatal alcohol exposure and early onset dementiaStrategies for managing sensory overload, pain, and emotional regulation with practical, everyday toolsThe critical necessity for research follow-up on the multitude of comorbid conditions identified in large surveys As always, please remember to like, subscribe & share this podcast episode, because it is by doing these things that more people can find the podcast and learn about FASD. To reach Patti Kasper, perhaps to suggest topics or guests, or to ask questions, or even just to say hello, email her at [email protected] . To reach Patti to explore FASD Life Coaching for yourself as an adult or as a parent of a little, or to arrange for professional development or community agency training on FASD, you can arrange for a consult at https://calendly.com/kaspertrainingandcoaching/consultation To order a copy of Patti’s book, Sip by Sip: Candid Conversations with Adults Living with FASD, visit books.by/yourfasdcoach or Amazon. (Both are print on demand at a printer near you, but books.by offers its authors a few dollars more in royalties.) To reach Carl, email him at [email protected] . To order a copy of Carl’s books, cowritten with Joel Sheagren, Embracing Hope: Amazon’s ASIN: B0FQ1HDH64 Embrace Neurodiversity: Amazon’s ASIN: B0GSS4TWKW – ebook only

In this inspiring episode of Living With FASD, host Patti Kasper sits down with Aeris Wren, an AuDHD high school student, youth advocate, and the host of the Telos podcast. Together, they challenge the traditional "clinical" view of neurodiversity and discuss the importance of reframing our society's expectations of the human brain. This conversation highlights the necessity of moving away from a behavior-based paradigm and toward a supportive, grace-filled model that honors individual needs and "inconsistent mastery". Key Topics Covered: The Myth of the "Neurotypical" Bell Curve: Challenging the idea that neurotypicality is the norm, and why we should instead view neurodiversity as the natural variation of the human experience.FASD: The Elephant in the Room: A candid discussion on why Fetal Alcohol Spectrum Disorders are often excluded from neurodiversity advocacy, the impact of stigma, and the need for better research driven by lived experience.Self-Advocacy & Understanding Needs: Aeris shares personal insights on navigating the education system, the importance of "interest-based" activation for the ADHD brain, and how to communicate needs without feeling like an "attack" on existing structures.Moving Past Behaviorism: Why shaming, punishing, or rewarding "behavior" fails neurodivergent youth, and how co-regulation and curiosity can help uncover the real needs beneath the surface.The Future of Inclusion: Aeris’s vision for a world where young people have the language and resources to understand their own brains long before they reach adulthood. About My Guest: Aeris Wren Aeris Wren is a youth advocate for neurodiversity and the host of Telos: A Neurodiversity Conversation. Aeris is dedicated to making information about neurodivergence accessible and centered on lived experience. You can follow Aeris's work and listen to Telos here:  https://open.spotify.com/show/6HOp09Yy1puqkHVCXKhxfo?si=5b5bfe52ca134231 As always, please remember to like, subscribe & share this podcast episode, because it is by doing these things that more people can find the podcast and learn about FASD. To reach Patti Kasper, perhaps to suggest topics or guests, or to ask questions, or even just to say hello, email her at [email protected] . To reach Patti to explore FASD Life Coaching for yourself as an adult or as a parent of a little, or to arrange for professional development or community agency training on FASD, you can arrange for a consult at https://calendly.com/kaspertrainingandcoaching/consultation To order a copy of Patti’s book, Sip by Sip: Candid Conversations with Adults Living with FASD, visit books.by/yourfasdcoach or Amazon. (Both are print on demand at a printer near you, but books.by offers its authors a few dollars more in royalties.)

In this deeply personal and wide-ranging conversation, Patti is joined by Mary Byrnes, founder of Harrison’s Hope, a Canadian charity dedicated to supporting families living with Fetal Alcohol Spectrum Disorder (FASD). Mary shares her "full circle" story—from navigating years of infertility and a whirlwind adoption process to discovering both her son’s and her own FASD diagnosis in adulthood. Together, they discuss the critical need for lifelong caregiver support, the power of reframing "behavior as a message," and the unique challenges of aging with a neurobehavioral disability. Key Discussion Points: Harrison’s Hope: How a project manager’s skill set turned a personal crisis into a national Canadian charity that provides "womb to tomb" support, including caregiver groups and death doula services.The Adult Diagnosis: Mary discusses the "ding-ding-ding" moment when she realized her own lifelong "quirks"—social awkwardness, academic success paired with social struggle, and various comorbid health conditions—were actually FASD.Behavior as a Messenger: A breakdown of how positive emotions validate met needs, while unpleasant emotions like anger or anxiety are signals of unmet needs.Aging with FASD: The importance of "anticipatory guides" for adults as they navigate physical health issues that often appear earlier in those with prenatal alcohol exposure.Planning for the Future: The emotional and practical necessity of creating Formal Wills, Living Trusts, and multi-generational care plans for loved ones with FASD.The Power of Art Therapy: Why traditional talk therapy often fails neurodivergent individuals and how modalities like art and nature walks provide a necessary emotional release.If you would like to reach Patti, you can email her at [email protected]. Visit her website at www.patriciakasper.com to learn more about her coaching and professional development training services, or visit ttps://calendly.com/kaspertrainingandcoaching/consultation to schedule a complimentary call. If you would like to pick up a copy of Patti’s book, Sip by Sip: Candid Conversations with Adults Living with FASD, visit www.books.by/yourfasdcoach or Amazon. (Both print on demand, but due to lower overhead costs, books.by is able to pay its authors a few more dollars in royalties.) As always, please like, share & subscribe to this podcast, as doing these three things will help more people discover it, and learn if FASD is also part of their journey.