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Is it ADHD, or is it just the overwhelming mental load of motherhood? For many women, ADHD goes unrecognised until they become mothers. Suddenly, the routines, responsibilities and never-ending mental to-do lists become harder to manage. And when you're raising twins or multiples, that mental load can feel even greater. This week, we're joined by Jane McFadden from ADHD Mums — an autistic and ADHD mum, neuroscientist and certified ADHD and autism assessor — for an honest, relatable conversation about neurodivergence, motherhood and burnout. In this episode, we cover: Why so many women first recognise ADHD after becoming mothersThe mental load of raising twins and multiples when you have ADHDMasking, overfunctioning and the pressure to appear like you have it all togetherRecognising possible signs of ADHD in young children and when to consider an assessmentThe challenges of parenting neurodivergent children when you're neurodivergent yourselfWhy routines and systems can be both helpful and incredibly difficult to maintainUnderstanding your capacity, setting boundaries and letting go of unrealistic expectationsWhether you have ADHD, suspect you might, or simply feel overwhelmed by the demands of motherhood, this episode is a reminder that sometimes the answer isn't to do more — it's to take some of the pressure off yourself. Find out more about Jane and ADHD Mums: Website: https://adhdmums.com.au Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/adhd_mums/ Follow along for the raw, unfiltered reality of raising multiples. Instagram: @allatonce_coTikTok: @allatonce__YouTube: @allatonce_coThanks for being here. If this resonated, sharing, rating or leaving a comment helps more parents of multiples find us.

You asked, we answered! This week, it's just Gabi and Sinead behind the microphones as we tackle the questions you've been sending through about raising twins, navigating toddlerhood and finding your feet as a parent of multiples. From the logistics of taking two toddlers out alone to toilet training twins at different stages, we're sharing what's worked for us, what hasn't and the things we've learnt along the way. We also get into some of the pressures that come with raising twins — making time for each child, encouraging their individuality and the age-old advice to keep twins on the same schedule (something we have very different experiences with!). In this episode, we chat about: Encouraging individuality and different interests in twinsFinding one-on-one time without the guiltNavigating playgrounds, outings and errands alone with two toddlersToilet training twins and managing different timelinesTwin sleep schedules — structure versus flexibilityCelebrating twin birthdays and making each child feel specialIt's an honest conversation about the everyday realities of raising multiples, with plenty of laughs, different perspectives and a reminder that there's no one-size-fits-all approach to parenting twins. Because sometimes the most helpful thing is hearing how another twin parent is navigating exactly what you're going through. Follow along for the raw, unfiltered reality of raising multiples. Instagram: @allatonce_coTikTok: @allatonce__YouTube: @allatonce_coThanks for being here. If this resonated, sharing, rating or leaving a comment helps more parents of multiples find us.

Trigger warning: This episode discusses pregnancy and infant loss, including the death of one or both twins, pregnancy termination, premature birth and potential neurological complications. Please take care while listening. Twin-to-twin transfusion syndrome (TTTS) can be one of the most overwhelming complications to hear about when you’re expecting twins — particularly when you’re suddenly faced with new terminology, frequent scans and a lot of uncertainty. In this episode, we’re joined by obstetrician and Maternal Fetal Medicine specialist Dr Ini Thevathasan to break down TTTS and what it can mean for families carrying twins who share a placenta. We talk through what TTTS actually is, which twin pregnancies are at risk, the different stages and why progression isn’t always predictable. Dr Ini also explains what doctors are looking for during those frequent ultrasounds, when closer monitoring becomes necessary and what happens if intervention is needed. We also unpack laser surgery — how it works, when it may be recommended and what recovery and monitoring can look like afterwards — as well as the realities of navigating TTTS care through Australia’s public and private health systems. We chat about: What TTTS is and which twins are at riskThe difference between stages 1–5 and why TTTS doesn’t always progress in orderWhat doctors look for during ultrasound surveillanceSymptoms mums may notice between scansWhen monitoring becomes treatmentHow fetal laser surgery works and the risks involvedWhat happens after surgeryPremature delivery and other possible outcomesWhat TTTS care looks like in Australia, including for families living rurallyThe questions parents should be asking their care teamMost importantly, Dr Ini explains why specialised ultrasound surveillance is so important for twins sharing a placenta — and reminds parents that they should expect care appropriate for their specific type of twin pregnancy. Whether you’ve recently found out your twins share a placenta, you’re navigating a TTTS diagnosis, or you simply want to better understand the condition, this episode offers a clear and compassionate guide to what can be an incredibly complex part of twin pregnancy. Please note: This episode is for general information only and is not a substitute for individual medical advice. Always speak with your own healthcare team about your pregnancy and care. Connect with Dr Ini:   https://www.melbournemfm.com.au/Follow along for the raw, unfiltered reality of raising multiples. Instagram: @allatonce_coTikTok: @allatonce__YouTube: @allatonce_coThanks for being here. If this resonated, sharing, rating or leaving a comment helps more parents of multiples find us.

Gabby Bate spent six years at home raising four children, including identical twin boys. Then she and her husband made a decision that completely flipped the traditional family dynamic: Gabby returned to work full-time, while her husband Cam became the stay-at-home dad. In this episode, Gabby joins us to share the story behind their role reversal — and what it has really looked like to challenge the expectations still placed on mums and dads when it comes to work, parenting and who carries the load at home. But Gabby’s journey with twins began years earlier with an incredibly complicated pregnancy. After an early rollercoaster of being told there were two babies, then one, then potentially no viable pregnancy, Gabby eventually discovered she was carrying two healthy identical twins. At 20 weeks, the pregnancy became complicated by twin-to-twin transfusion syndrome (TTTS), before the boys were delivered at 30 weeks and admitted to NICU. One twin was transferred to another hospital with a heart condition, meaning Gabby didn't meet him until he was five days old. Then, when the twins were just three months old, Gabby unexpectedly fell pregnant with her fourth child. We follow Gabby’s story from those intense early years of motherhood to the decision, six years later, that she wanted her career back — and the family restructure that followed. We chat about: Finding out she was having identical twins — after initially being told otherwiseFalling pregnant again when her twins were just three months oldSpending six years as a stay-at-home mum before returning to workWhy Gabby became the primary breadwinner and Cam became a stay-at-home dadChallenging traditional gender roles around work and parentingCareer identity, mum guilt, finances, resentment and the mental loadWhat both parents learned after experiencing life as the primary caregiverRaising identical twins as individuals rather than constantly comparing themIt’s an honest conversation about what happens when a family stops asking who should stay home and who should work — and starts asking what actually works for them. Follow along for the raw, unfiltered reality of raising multiples. Instagram: @allatonce_coTikTok: @allatonce__YouTube: @allatonce_coThanks for being here. If this resonated, sharing, rating or leaving a comment helps more parents of multiples find us.

Caterina Mete has spent more than 20 years with The Wiggles, eventually stepping into the iconic role of the Red Wiggle. But behind the tours, performances and red skivvy is a deeply personal journey to becoming a mum. In this episode, Caterina joins us to share her path to solo motherhood — from freezing her eggs in her 30s and deciding to pursue motherhood on her own, to miscarriage, fertility treatment and the moment she discovered her final embryo had split into identical twin girls, Dolly and Gigi. We talk about the reality of a high-risk twin pregnancy, pre-eclampsia, a planned C-section and two weeks in NICU, before bringing two babies home as a first-time solo mum. Caterina also shares what life looks like now: raising toddler twins, building a village around her, taking Dolly and Gigi on tour with The Wiggles and learning to accept support without losing her independence. We chat about: Caterina’s 23-year journey with The Wiggles and becoming the Red WiggleFreezing her eggs and choosing solo motherhoodMiscarriage, fertility treatment and discovering she was having identical twinsNavigating a high-risk twin pregnancy and NICUBringing two babies home and finding her feet as a solo mumThe family, friends and Wiggles team who make up her villageWhat it actually looks like taking toddler twins on tourHow becoming a mum has changed the way she performs for children and familiesWhy she believes twins should be raised as two individual people — not constantly comparedIt’s an open conversation about motherhood not always arriving in the way you imagined — and creating a family and a life that looks different from the original plan, but is entirely your own.  Follow along for the raw, unfiltered reality of raising multiples. Instagram: @allatonce_coTikTok: @allatonce__YouTube: @allatonce_coThanks for being here. If this resonated, sharing, rating or leaving a comment helps more parents of multiples find us.

When you have twins, it’s almost impossible not to compare. One rolls first. One crawls first. One starts walking while the other seems perfectly happy taking their time. So how do you know what’s normal — and when there might actually be something worth checking? In this episode, we’re joined by paediatric physiotherapist Ali Day, founder of Little Ones Physiotherapy and author of The Baby Playbook, to take some of the pressure out of baby development. Ali explains why milestones are better thought of as windows rather than deadlines, why twins born on the same day can still develop months apart, and how corrected age should be considered for babies born prematurely. We also get practical about what developmental play actually looks like when you’re juggling two babies — including tummy time, floor play, cuddling and connection — and why supporting development doesn’t need to mean adding another long list of things to your day. We chat about: Why twins don’t need to reach milestones at the same timeHow corrected age affects developmental milestonesTummy time — when to start and how to make it achievable with multiplesWhy quality of play matters more than quantityCuddling, bonding and dividing your attention between two babiesWalkers, activity centres, bouncers and other baby equipmentWhen it might be worth checking in with a paediatric physiotherapistHip dysplasia and why it can be particularly relevant for multiplesWhy free floor play can be one of the best things you can give your babyMost importantly, Ali reminds us that our babies are individuals. One twin being “behind” the other doesn’t necessarily mean they’re behind at all — and supporting their development doesn’t need to be complicated. Resources from Ali & Little Ones Physiotherapy Little Ones Physiotherapy Book an appointment, explore resources and read the blog The Baby Playbook — Hardcover 10% off for All At Once listeners with code ALLATONCE10 The Crawling Playbook — eBook 10% off for All At Once listeners with code ALLATONCE10 Free Milestone Guide — 0–2 years Free Milestone Guide — 2–5 years Follow along for the raw, unfiltered reality of raising multiples. Instagram: @allatonce_coTikTok: @allatonce__YouTube: @allatonce_coThanks for being here. If this resonated, sharing, rating or leaving a comment helps more parents of multiples find us.

When you’re raising twins or multiples, exhaustion and overwhelm can feel like part of the job. But when does the mental load become something more — and would you know the signs? In this episode, we’re joined by Julie Borninkhof, CEO of PANDA — Perinatal Anxiety & Depression Australia, to talk about parental mental health through the lens of raising multiples. Julie explains what perinatal mental health can look like, why parents of multiples are at greater risk, and how difficult it can be to recognise when you’re struggling when sleep deprivation, stress and overwhelm already feel normal. We also talk about the impact of high-risk pregnancy, prematurity, NICU and birth trauma, the loss of identity that can come with becoming a parent, and why the mental load doesn’t necessarily ease once you’re out of the newborn stage. We chat about: Why parents of multiples are at greater risk of mental health challengesWhat postnatal depression and anxiety can look likeWhen normal postpartum overwhelm becomes something moreThe impact of prematurity, NICU, birth trauma and sleep deprivationIdentity loss and the mental load of raising multiplesWhy the challenges can continue into the toddler yearsMental health in dads and non-birthing parentsRecognising the signs, starting the conversation and where to seek supportMost importantly, this conversation is a reminder that mental health is something to maintain — not something we should only address when we reach breaking point. If something doesn’t feel right in yourself or someone you love, it’s worth talking about. Learn more about PANDA: Visit panda.org.au for information, resources and perinatal mental health support. If you or someone you know needs support: PANDA — National perinatal mental health helpline: 1300 726 306Lifeline Australia — 24/7 crisis support and suicide prevention: 13 11 14If you or someone else is in immediate danger, call 000. Follow along for the raw, unfiltered reality of raising multiples. Instagram: @allatonce_coTikTok: @allatonce__YouTube: @allatonce_coThanks for being here. If this resonated, sharing, rating or leaving a comment helps more parents of multiples find us.

Postpartum psychosis is currently part of a global conversation, with the Lindsay Clancy trial bringing a condition many people have never heard of into the spotlight. But what does postpartum psychosis actually look like — and would you know the signs? In this episode, we’re joined by twin mum and mental health advocate Katrina Weynberg for an incredibly open conversation about experiencing postpartum psychosis after the premature birth of her identical twins, Mumford and Murphy. Katrina takes us from finding out she was having twins, through an unexpected delivery at 33 weeks and seven weeks of NICU, to becoming increasingly unwell in the days after birth. At 12 days postpartum, she was diagnosed with postpartum psychosis and admitted to an adult psychiatric ward, separated from her newborn babies while receiving treatment. We also talk about what happened after psychosis — returning home with newborn twins, experiencing postnatal depression, waiting months for a place in a public Mother and Baby Unit and eventually being diagnosed with bipolar disorder. We chat about: What postpartum psychosis is and the signs families should knowThe role sleep deprivation played in Katrina’s experienceHow her husband recognised that something wasn’t rightBeing admitted to a psychiatric ward while her twins remained in NICUThe difference between postpartum psychosis and postnatal depressionAccess to Mother and Baby Units and why keeping mums and babies together mattersReceiving a bipolar diagnosis after becoming a mumWhat partners, family and friends should look out for postpartumWhere to seek help if you’re concerned about yourself or someone you loveRaising twins while navigating postpartum mental health and recoveryAt a time when postpartum psychosis is being talked about more than ever, this is an important conversation about understanding what it can actually look like, recognising when something isn’t right and making sure families know that support is available. Keep up with Katrina: Follow Katrina on Instagram @katrina.weynberg for more on motherhood, mental health advocacy and her experience of postpartum psychosis. If you or someone you know needs support: PANDA — National perinatal mental health helpline, Monday to Saturday: 1300 726 306Red Nose Australia — 24/7 bereavement support: 1300 308 307Gidget Foundation Australia — Perinatal mental health counselling support: 1300 851 758SMS4Dads — Free text support for fathersLGBTQI Health Australia — LGBTIQ+ peer support and referral13 YARN — Aboriginal & Torres Strait Islander crisis support, available 24/7: 13 92 76Lifeline Australia — 24/7 crisis support and suicide prevention: 13 11 14If you or someone else is in immediate danger, call 000. Follow along for the raw, unfiltered reality of raising multiples. Instagram: @allatonce_coTikTok: @allatonce__YouTube: @allatonce_coThanks for being here. If this resonated, sharing, rating or leaving a comment helps more parents of multiples find us.

Becoming a mum changes everything. But what happens when you’re also an elite athlete trying to make your way back to the world stage — with twins at home? In this episode, we’re joined by two-time Olympian and twin mum Morgan Mitchell for an honest, hilarious and refreshingly real conversation about twin motherhood, returning to elite sport and chasing another Olympic dream. Morgan takes us from finding out she was pregnant with twin girls Honey and Maya, through a difficult pregnancy, giving birth at 35 weeks and their time in NICU, to recovering from a C-section and beginning the biggest comeback of her career. We also talk about what it really takes to balance ambition and motherhood — training, travelling, spending time away from her girls, missing milestones and leaning on her husband, family and wider village to make it all possible. We chat about: The reality of a difficult twin pregnancy and NICU timeRecovering from a C-section and returning to elite sportThe physical and mental side of her Olympic comebackBalancing training, travel and twin motherhoodThe importance of having a strong support systemMaking time for yourself as a mumHer road to the LA 2028 Olympic GamesLetting go of parenting pressure and doing what works for your familyIt’s a conversation about motherhood and ambition existing side by side — and finding a way to keep chasing your own dreams while raising two little people. Keep up with Morgan: Follow Morgan on Instagram @morganmitch for more on motherhood, athletics and her journey towards LA 2028. Follow along for the raw, unfiltered reality of raising multiples. Instagram: @allatonce_coTikTok: @allatonce__YouTube: @allatonce_coThanks for being here. If this resonated, sharing, rating or leaving a comment helps more parents of multiples find us.

Every parent has had that moment: Is this an emergency? Am I overreacting? Do I call an ambulance, go to hospital, or wait and see? In this episode, we’re joined by registered paramedic and mum Codi from Nurture & Know to talk through the baby and child emergencies every parent hopes they’ll never face — but needs to know how to respond to. From choking and CPR to fevers, breathing difficulties and head injuries, Codi breaks down what parents should actually be looking for, the red flags that shouldn’t be ignored, and when it’s time to seek medical help. We also talk about the realities of emergencies when you have twins or multiple young children — including what happens if one child needs an ambulance while you’re home alone with another, and what to consider when feeding two babies at once. And perhaps most importantly, we talk about confidence. Because in an emergency, you don’t want to be learning what to do for the first time. We chat about: How to know when to call an ambulanceThe difference between gagging and chokingWhat to do if a baby or child is chokingWhen CPR becomes necessaryHead injuries and the red flags to watch forFevers and febrile convulsionsWhat breathing distress can actually look likeWhat to do in an emergency when you’re alone with twins or multiple childrenWhen to learn baby and child first aid — and how often to refresh itIt’s one of those episodes we hope you’ll never need — but one that could make all the difference if you do. Want to feel more confident in a baby or child emergency? Codi offers online, group and private baby and child first aid courses through Nurture & Know. Use code ALLATONCE for 20% off any of Codi’s courses at Nurture & Know. Follow along for the raw, unfiltered reality of raising multiples. Instagram: @allatonce_coTikTok: @allatonce__YouTube: @allatonce_coThanks for being here. If this resonated, sharing, rating or leaving a comment helps more parents of multiples find us.

In this episode, we’re talking about one of the most overwhelming parts of preparing for twins: what do you actually need for two babies? We compare our very different hospital bag experiences — what we packed, what we wish we’d packed more of, what we barely touched, and the random things that ended up being lifesavers. Then we get into what you actually need once your twins arrive — from feeding, sleeping and changing to getting out of the house, what you genuinely need two of, and what you can absolutely wait to buy. Consider this the episode we wish we’d had when we were trying to work out WTF we actually needed for two babies. We chat about: What to pack in your hospital bag for twinsHow many outfits to pack and what sizesWhat we wish we’d packed differentlyWhat you actually need two ofFeeding, sleeping and changing essentialsThe newborn products you can skip or wait to buyFREE DOWNLOAD: Packing your hospital bag for twins? Click here to download our Twin Hospital Bag Checklist. This episode is sponsored by iL Tutto. Whether you’re expecting or already in the thick of parenthood, having a comfortable place to feed, settle, cuddle or read with your little one makes all the difference. The Henry Plus is currently 15% off as an introductory offer, and you can also save 20% on other full-price items at iL Tutto with our code ONCE20 until 30 September. Terms and conditions apply. Check out the full iL Tutto range. Follow along for the raw, unfiltered reality of raising multiples. Instagram: @allatonce_coTikTok: @allatonce__YouTube: @allatonce_coThanks for being here. If this resonated, sharing, rating or leaving a comment helps more parents of multiples find us.

In this episode, we're joined by recording artist, content creator, business owner and mum of two sets of twins, Joey Djia. After being told she may struggle to conceive, Joey was shocked to discover she was pregnant with twins. After navigating pregnancy, birth and life with her first set, she fell pregnant again... and heard the words she never expected: "It's twins." Again. Joey shares the incredible story behind raising four children under three, the grief of never experiencing a singleton pregnancy, two deeply traumatic twin births, and the routines and mindset that helped her through it all. We chat about: Finding out you’re having twins... twiceThe shock of a second twin pregnancyGrieving the singleton experienceBirth trauma and being separated from her babiesRaising four young children and making routines workWhy routine became her biggest survival toolThe beautiful parts of raising two sets of twins that no one talks aboutIf this episode made you laugh, cry or feel a little less alone, we'd love it if you shared it with another twin or multiple parent. Every share, follow and review helps us reach more families who need these conversations. This episode is sponsored by iL Tutto. Whether you’re expecting or already in the thick of parenthood, having a comfortable place to feed, settle, cuddle or read with your little one makes all the difference. The Henry Plus is currently 15% off as an introductory offer, and you can also save 20% on other full-price items at iL Tutto with our code ONCE20 until 30 September. Terms and conditions apply. Check out the full iL Tutto range. Follow along for the raw, unfiltered reality of raising multiples. Instagram: @allatonce_coTikTok: @allatonce__YouTube: @allatonce_coThanks for being here. If this resonated, sharing, rating or leaving a comment helps more parents of multiples find us.

Part Two of Louise's extraordinary story begins after the birth of her spontaneous triplets. As one of her daughters, Maggie, spent much of her first year living in hospital, Louise also faced the heartbreaking reality of being separated from her other daughters while trying to hold her family together. What should have been the beginning of life at home quickly became something very different. Louise shares the heartbreaking reality of discovering that Maggie had complex medical needs, and how their family's journey took a path they never could have imagined. From navigating the NICU and ongoing hospital admissions to balancing the needs of three babies while advocating for one medically complex child, Louise speaks with incredible honesty about grief, resilience, motherhood and finding joy alongside the hardest moments. This conversation is a powerful reminder that every family's story looks different, and that hope can exist even in the most challenging seasons. In this episode we cover: Bringing triplets home and adjusting to life with three newbornsMaggie's unexpected medical diagnosis and early health challengesNavigating the NICU, extended hospital stays and ongoing medical careThe reality of Maggie spending much of her first year living in hospitalThe emotional toll of being separated from her other daughtersParenting siblings alongside a medically complex childFinding joy, perspective and gratitude through an unimaginable journeyLouise's advice for families facing unexpected challengesIf you haven't already, be sure to listen to Part One, where Louise shares the incredible story of discovering she was pregnant with spontaneous triplets and navigating a high-risk pregnancy through to their birth. Follow along for the raw, unfiltered reality of raising multiples. Instagram: @allatonce_coTikTok: @allatonce__YouTube: @allatonce_coThanks for being here. If this resonated, sharing, rating or leaving a comment helps more parents of multiples find us.

How do you process finding out you're not having one baby... but three? Louise Shaw was happily one and done when an unexpected pregnancy changed everything. Then came an even bigger shock — she wasn’t having one baby, but spontaneous triplets. What started as a surprise pregnancy quickly became one of the rarest and highest-risk pregnancies imaginable. Louise takes us inside the moment she discovered she was expecting triplets, the emotional rollercoaster that followed, and the months of specialist appointments, difficult conversations and uncertainty leading up to their birth. This is an honest conversation about fear, resilience and navigating a pregnancy where every milestone felt hard-earned. In this episode we cover: Finding out you're unexpectedly pregnant with tripletsThe emotional reality of a high-risk multiple pregnancyThe difficult decisions and conversations that come with carrying tripletsWeekly specialist appointments and living scan to scanSpending five weeks in hospital before birthReaching 34 weeks and welcoming three baby girlsThis is Part One of Louise's incredible story. Next week, Louise shares what happened after the birth, including the beginning of daughter Maggie's complex medical journey and everything their family has navigated since. Follow along for the raw, unfiltered reality of raising multiples. Instagram: @allatonce_coTikTok: @allatonce__YouTube: @allatonce_coThanks for being here. If this resonated, sharing, rating or leaving a comment helps more parents of multiples find us.

In this episode of All At Once, we sit down with twin mum Jac Marriott to hear the incredible story of one of the rarest twin births imaginable. After an empowering labour, Jac welcomed one twin vaginally before everything changed in an instant. A cord prolapse with her second baby led to an emergency C-section under general anaesthetic, followed by an 11-minute resuscitation and a NICU journey that would change her family forever. This is a powerful conversation about birth plans, advocating for yourself, trusting your medical team, and finding strength when birth doesn't go the way you imagined. In this episode, we chat about: Finding out she was expecting twins.Navigating a high-risk twin pregnancy.Preparing for a vaginal twin birth.What happens when one twin is born vaginally and the other by emergency C-section.Umbilical cord prolapse and the emergency that followed.Recovering from both a vaginal birth and a C-section.Processing an unexpected birth experience.The NICU journey and the road to recovery.Advice for parents preparing for a twin birth.Whether you're pregnant with twins, preparing for birth, or simply love hearing honest birth stories, this episode is a reminder that even when birth takes an unexpected turn, strength, resilience and hope can still shine through. 🎭 Learn more about Jac's play, Freefall Inspired by her family's NICU journey, Jac has written Freefall, a powerful new play exploring parental mental health, resilience and wellbeing after birth. Learn more or purchase tickets here: https://events.humanitix.com/freefall If you're enjoying All At Once, we'd love it if you could follow the podcast, leave us a rating and review, and share this episode with another parent who might need to hear it. Follow along for the raw, unfiltered reality of raising multiples. Instagram: @allatonce_coTikTok: @allatonce__YouTube: @allatonce_coThanks for being here. If this resonated, sharing, rating or leaving a comment helps more parents of multiples find us.