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Question: We’ve been waiting for a little over a year, and so far, no birth mom has asked to meet with us. I think we need to revamp our profile book. Resources: What is an Adoptive Parent Profile? (Resource page)Understanding the Birth Parent's Experience (Resource page)Adoption Process & Important Considerations (Resources)This podcast is produced by www.CreatingaFamily.org. We are a national non-profit with the mission to strengthen and inspire adoptive, foster & kinship parents and the professionals who support them. Creating a Family brings you the following trauma-informed, expert-based content: Weekly podcastsWeekly articles/blog postsResource pages on all aspects of family buildingPlease leave us a rating or review RateThisPodcast.com/creatingafamily Support the showPlease leave us a rating or review RateThisPodcast.com/creatingafamily

Nicole Chung, author of All You Can Ever Know, has done it again with another wonderful memoir about growing up as a transracial adoptee and then losing both her adoptive parents. A Living Remedy is a story about family love and loss, regardless of how the family is formed. In this episode, we discuss: Family love. You were well, if not always perfectly, loved.You were temperamentally different from your parents, especially your dad. This may be more common in adoption. How did these differences impact you growing up?Things my mom sent me, I sent my mom, my mom gave me. Growing out of the socioeconomic level you were raised in.Your mother thought you were ashamed of them. What is middle class?There is a big difference between being working class and middle class.“Our “broke” bore no resemblance to my parent's “broke.” …We always had options.The impact of lack of money on health.Impact of Covid on families trying to care for loved ones.Your sister Cindy. Cindy wasn’t well-loved. How did she deal with the differences in her life vs your life?This podcast is produced by www.CreatingaFamily.org. We are a national non-profit with the mission to strengthen and inspire adoptive, foster & kinship parents and the professionals who support them. Creating a Family brings you the following trauma-informed, expert-based content: Weekly podcastsWeekly articles/blog postsResource pages on all aspects of family buildingPlease leave us a rating or review RateThisPodcast.com/creatingafamily Support the showPlease leave us a rating or review RateThisPodcast.com/creatingafamily

Question: We are adopting an 8-year-old little girl from the country of Georgia. I would love some concrete tips on how our family (four bio kids) can best communicate with her and foster attachment despite the language barrier. Are there any tools you can recommend or strategies to help non-English speaking adoptees feel more comfortable in their new environment? Resources: Creating and Cultivating Attachment (Resource Guide)Sibling Relationships (Resource Guide)Traveling With Newly Adopted Children (Podcast)Preparing Children for the Adoption of a Sibling (Suggested Books)This podcast is produced by www.CreatingaFamily.org. We are a national non-profit with the mission to strengthen and inspire adoptive, foster & kinship parents and the professionals who support them. Creating a Family brings you the following trauma-informed, expert-based content: Weekly podcastsWeekly articles/blog postsResource pages on all aspects of family buildingPlease leave us a rating or review RateThisPodcast.com/creatingafamily Support the showPlease leave us a rating or review RateThisPodcast.com/creatingafamily

We talk to our kids all day, but how can we use these conversations to help them reach their full potential? Our guest is Rebecca Roland, a speech pathologist, Harvard lecturer, and author of the book The Art of Talking with Children. In this episode, we discuss: What is rich talk, and why is it important?You talk about different types of conversations. What are some of the different conversations we should have with our children?Conversations for learning.Conversations for empathy.Conversations for social skills.Conversations for confidence and independence.Conversations for building relationships.Conversations for openness.Conversations to promote joy and creativity.This podcast is produced by www.CreatingaFamily.org. We are a national non-profit with the mission to strengthen and inspire adoptive, foster & kinship parents and the professionals who support them. Creating a Family brings you the following trauma-informed, expert-based content: Weekly podcastsWeekly articles/blog postsResource pages on all aspects of family buildingPlease leave us a rating or review RateThisPodcast.com/creatingafamily Support the showPlease leave us a rating or review RateThisPodcast.com/creatingafamily

Question: Last week my husband and I flew across the country to meet our potential adoptive baby. We had been matched 5 weeks earlier and were full of happiness. We’ve always known the risks of having a fall through but based on the case, we didn’t think it would be the case. It was.  Despite being in contact with birthmom via email and text, getting her updates and baby pictures, she ghosted us and the agency. We met her and birthfather, she let us take pictures holding the baby and gave the agency’s social worker some missing paperwork. She had a change of heart last minute which is fine, but what made things more painful was that she never informed us. Resources: Failed Adoption Matches: How Common? How Costly? How to Survive?Twelve Signs that an Adoption May FailA Panel of Birth Moms Talk About AdoptionThis podcast is produced by www.CreatingaFamily.org. We are a national non-profit with the mission to strengthen and inspire adoptive, foster & kinship parents and the professionals who support them. Creating a Family brings you the following trauma-informed, expert-based content: Weekly podcastsWeekly articles/blog postsResource pages on all aspects of family buildingPlease leave us a rating or review RateThisPodcast.com/creatingafamily Support the showPlease leave us a rating or review RateThisPodcast.com/creatingafamily

What are the microaggressions or stigmas in the world of adoption and how do they impact adoptees, birth parents, and adoptive parents?  We talk with Dr. Amanda Baden, a Professor and the Doctoral Program Director at Montclair State University in the graduate counseling program and a licensed psychologist in private practice in Manhattan. She is an adult adoptee from Hong Kong and an adoptive parent of a daughter from China. In this episode, we cover: What are microaggessions in general and how do they apply to adoption? These microaggressions apply to all members of the adoption kinship network (adoptees; adoptive parents, grandparents, siblings; first/birth parents/grandparents).Where do some of the unconscious attitudes and stigmas toward adoption come from? Common microaggression themes for adoptees:biology is best/normative is based upon the belief that biological ties are superior, more permanent, and more authentic than ties formed through adoption or foster care bad seed adoptees or damaged goodsgrateful adoptees, a third theme, refers to the idea of adoptees as both lucky and privileged to have been adopted cultural limbo and invalidation of heritage What are some of the microagressions against birth parents?What are some of the microaggressions against adoptive parents?Lack of intent to hurt.How can microsaggressions impact the mental health?Danger of a Single Story by Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie This podcast is produced by www.CreatingaFamily.org. We are a national non-profit with the mission to strengthen and inspire adoptive, foster & kinship parents and the professionals who support them. Creating a Family brings you the following trauma-informed, expert-based content: Weekly podcastsWeekly articles/blog postsResource pages on all aspects of family buildingPlease leave us a rating or review RateThisPodcast.com/creatingafamily Support the showPlease leave us a rating or review RateThisPodcast.com/creatingafamily

Question:  Is it possible to adopt a child from another state, provided that all parental rights were terminated on both mother and father’s sides?  What extra complications or legalities do families adopting out of state face? Resources: Adopting a Child Out of State (Parent Training Education Course)Foster Care AdoptionDomestic Infant AdoptionWorking with an Adoption AttorneyThis podcast is produced by www.CreatingaFamily.org. We are a national non-profit with the mission to strengthen and inspire adoptive, foster & kinship parents and the professionals who support them. Creating a Family brings you the following trauma-informed, expert-based content: Weekly podcastsWeekly articles/blog postsResource pages on all aspects of family buildingPlease leave us a rating or review RateThisPodcast.com/creatingafamily Support the showPlease leave us a rating or review RateThisPodcast.com/creatingafamily

How can you create an adoptive parent profile to help you stand out and show what makes you unique? To find out, join our guests Erin Quick, the Founder and CEO of PairTree and an adoptive mom, and Jess Nelson, the profile creation provider at Pairtree and a two-time birth mom. In this episode, we cover: What are Adoptive Parent Profiles?What other names might they go by?Each agency or attorney has their own preference, but the goal is to be yourself and to represent your family honestly. What are the different ways that agencies use profiles?Do agencies share your home study with the expectant mom or couple?How many profiles is an expectant mother or couple usually given to look at?Does each adoption agency or adoption attorney have different info they want you to share?What are the elements of a “good” profile?What should be on your cover?What sections/topics should you include?Should you discuss your thoughts on openness in adoption?Is a “closing “important?How many pictures should you include in an adoptive parent profile?Are captions to the pictures important?Quality of the pictures.Should you include a video if your adoption portfolio is digital?What type of pictures should you avoid?How to handle pictures with alcohol in them?Is there anything different you would suggest for single prospective parents? female and male Is there anything different you would suggest for LGBTQ+ prospective adoptive parents?How do you show your family support when you do not have a close family because of death or estrangement?What if your house or apartment does not look good or does not photograph well? What format should you use: hardback book, booklet, online, or stapled together?How many copies should you print? How important is the adoptive parent portfolio in the expectant parent’s decision-making?What is the experience like for an expectant mom or couple to go through profiles.Birth Parent Experiences in Adoption (1 hour Creating a Family podcast)A Panel of Birth Moms Talk About Adoption (1 hour Creating a Family podcast)This podcast is produced  by www.CreatingaFamily.org. We are a national non-profit with the mission to strengthen and inspire adoptive, foster & kinship parents and the professionals who support them. Creating a Family brings you the following trauma-informed, expert-based content: Weekly podcastsWeekly articles/blog postsResource pages on all aspects of family buildingPlease leave us a rating or review RateThisPodcast.com/creatingafamily Support the showPlease leave us a rating or review RateThisPodcast.com/creatingafamily

Question:  How are pre-adoptive matches made in foster care? I’ve heard that families may even need to network with social workers to be noticed when possible matches come up, but I’m not sure how matches are made. Resources: Working as Part of a Foster Care TeamFoster Care AdoptionPractical Tips for Fostering a Sibling GroupThis podcast is produced by www.CreatingaFamily.org. We are a national non-profit with the mission to strengthen and inspire adoptive, foster & kinship parents and the professionals who support them. Creating a Family brings you the following trauma-informed, expert-based content: Weekly podcastsWeekly articles/blog postsResource pages on all aspects of family buildingPlease leave us a rating or review RateThisPodcast.com/creatingafamily Support the showPlease leave us a rating or review RateThisPodcast.com/creatingafamily

Join us for a wonderful discussion with author and performer Susan Kiyo Ito about her new memoir, I Would Meet You Anywhere. This is a book adoptive parents should read! In this episode, we cover: It felt like much of the tension between you and your birth mother was due to her desire to keep you a secret and your desire to be seen. And also her desire to be in control of this relationship.The harsh reality that adoption reunions between adoptees and birth families can be fraught with lots of conflicting emotions. In the book I Would Meet You Anywhere, you describe this tension. “Once again, I was the secret held by our mother. I was wilting under the weight of all the not telling. Still, I couldn't resist Yumi’s siren call. I would crash on the rocks of her.” It’s not about us—the adoptive parents. It was your quest to be whole. Talk with us about your relationship with your parents—your adoptive parents –and yet still feeling a longing to understand and connect with your biological parents and roots. Did reunion change your concept of what family is?Primal wound.Why is the phrase “You’re so lucky” so off the mark, even for someone like you who had what seems like a loving, not idyllic, but fine upbringing?Japanese American parents raised you, but you sometimes felt not Japanese enough because of your white biological father. How have you made meaning out of your “biracialness”? The importance of being in a community with other adopted people.Has your birth mother read the book, and if so, has it impacted your relationship?This podcast is produced by www.CreatingaFamily.org. We are a national non-profit with the mission to strengthen and inspire adoptive, foster & kinship parents and the professionals who support them. Creating a Family brings you the following trauma-informed, expert-based content: Weekly podcastsWeekly articles/blog postsResource pages on all aspects of family buildingPlease leave us a rating or review RateThisPodcast.com/creatingafamily Support the showPlease leave us a rating or review RateThisPodcast.com/creatingafamily

Question: We are in the process of deciding whether to adopt, we have decided to give up on fertility treatment. As I listened to your podcast, I thought it would be good to ask you what you wish you had known before you had adopted? Resources: Creating and Cultivating AttachmentHelping a Child Heal from TraumaPost-Adoption DepressionThis podcast is produced by www.CreatingaFamily.org. We are a national non-profit with the mission to strengthen and inspire adoptive, foster & kinship parents and the professionals who support them. Creating a Family brings you the following trauma-informed, expert-based content: Weekly podcastsWeekly articles/blog postsResource pages on all aspects of family buildingPlease leave us a rating or review RateThisPodcast.com/creatingafamily Support the showPlease leave us a rating or review RateThisPodcast.com/creatingafamily

Could you qualify for the Adoption Tax Credit? Find out by listening to this podcast with Becky Wilmoth, an Enrolled Agent and Adoption Tax Credit Specialist with Bill’s Tax Service, and Josh Kroll, the Adoption Subsidy Resource Center coordinator at Families Rising (formerly the NACAC). In this episode, we cover: What is the Adoption Tax Credit for adoption being claimed on 2023 federal taxes?What is a “credit” and how does it differ from a deduction or some other form of tax savings?If you get a tax refund every year, how would you use the Adoption Tax Credit?If you don’t have any federal tax liability, should you still apply the credit to your federal income taxes?What type of adoptions are included or excluded? Stepparent adoption? Embryo adoption? Same-sex partner second parent adoption? Unmarried heterosexual second parent adoption? Surrogacy?Can you get credit for each adoption you complete even if completed in the same year? What about adopting siblings at the same time?What is a Qualified Adoption Expense for purposes of the Adoption Tax Credit 2022?When can you claim the Adoption Tax Credit?Domestic private adoptionInternational AdoptionRe-adoption in the US for international adoptionFoster Care AdoptionHow does the Adoption Tax Credit work with kinship adoptions? What if the child never was involved with the foster care?Special Needs Adoption: How does the Adoption Tax Credit differ for adoptions from foster care? What does the IRS accept as proof of “special needs”?$0 subsidy agreementSpecial needs child for international adoptionCan you reclaim your expenses for an attempted adoption that did not result in a placement? How?What income level (Modified Adjusted Gross Income) is excluded from claiming the Adoption Tax Credit in 2022?How long can the credit be carried over?Are you able to amend previous year tax return to claim adoption tax credit? Is adoption tax credit something you can amend for, and if so, how do you amend and how many years back?Will the Adoption Tax Credit offset self-employment tax?How does the Secure Act impact claiming the Adoption Tax Credit for 2023 taxes?What should you do if the child’s Social Security Number is unavailable when you file?Should you use an Adoption Taxpayer Identification Number (ATIN #) if you don’t have the child’s social security number?How does the Adoption Tax Credit work in conjunction with employee adoption benefits? For special needs adoption?Qualified Birth or Adoption Distribution from Qualified Retirement Plan without penalty. Under Secure Act.If you adopt, can you still get the Child Tax Credit?What do you need in order to get the Child Tax Credit for your adopted child?Do you need to send to the IRS any documentation for the Adoption Tax Credit when you file your taxes? What type of documentation should you keep in your records?How to find a tax specialist knowledgeable on the Adoption Tax Credit? https://adoptiontaxcredit.orgHow to advocate for refundability?This podcast is produced by www.CreatingaFamily.org. We are a national non-profit with the mission to strengthen and inspire adoptive, foster & kinship parents and the professionals who support them. Creating a Family brings you the following trauma-informed, expert-based content: Weekly podcastsSupport the showPlease leave us a rating or review RateThisPodcast.com/creatingafamily