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Emily Nagoski shares the game-changing tool from her new book, Come Together: The Science (and Art!) of Creating Lasting Sexual Connections. The Core Emotional Floorplan is a framework that allows all of us to more clearly see and share their own unique emotional experience, and find pathways back home towards Care, Play and Lust. Join Chris for a guided video practice in mapping your own emotional floorplan and mapping your own paths to lust – it’s included in your FREE first month of Pleasure Pod membership. Thanks To Our Episode Sponsor: * Explore Dipsea Stories for an immersive erotic soundscapes, explicit stories and more. Use the code PLEASURE for an extended 30 day FREE trial! * Get fresh, healthy ready to go meals delivered from Factor Meals, and use the code PLEASURE50 for 50% off! Listen to part one of this interview here: The Surprising Science of Lasting Sexual Connection: An Interview with Emily Nagoski

In this intimate interview, Emily Nagoski shares her insights from authoring her new book Come Together: The Science (and Art!) of Creating Lasting Sexual Connections. We dive into the common misconceptions about long term erotic relationships, and what really works when it comes to creating a sex life worth wanting. For a bonus interview and guided practice on Mapping Your Emotional Floor Plan and finding your specific pathways back to LUST, join us in The Pleasure Pod Thanks To Our Episode Sponsor: * Explore Dipsea Stories for an immersive erotic soundscapes, explicit stories and more. Use the code PLEASURE for an extended 30 day FREE trial! Books by Emily Nagoski: * Come Together: The Science (and Art!) of Creating Lasting Sexual Connections * Come As You Are – REVISED and UPDATED * Burnout: The Secret to Unlocking the Stress Cycle Pleasure Mechanics Interviews with Emily Nagoski: * Episode #079: The Surprising Science of Sex With Emily Nagoski, Part 1 * Episode #080: The Surprising Science of Sex With Emily Nagoski, Part 2 * Episode #330: Burnout: The Stress and Sex Connection – An Interview With Emily Nagoski * Episode #389: Come As You Are Interview with Emily Nagoski, Ph.D. More Resources Mentioned In This Episode * Why Good Sex Matters by Nan Wise * Mediated Intimacy article by Meg-John Barker, Rosalind Gill, and Laura Harvey

When we Touch To Feel, we unlock boundless potential for sensual, emotional and relational pleasures. Touching To Feel is a lifetime practice of waking up our bodies to FEEL more, feeling the true depth and range of our own emotions, expressing ourselves through touch and touching with purpose and intention to create a wide range of extraordinary erotic feeling states! All of this, in three simple words: Touch To Feel * Join us for erotic touch training at PleasureMechanics.com/touch * Explore Dipsea Stories for an immersive erotic soundscapes, explicit stories and more. Use the code PLEASURE for an extended 30 day FREE trial! This episode was inspired by a voicemail from a listener. Thanks Andrew! You can leave your own message for us, sharing your wins, stories or questions at PleasureMechanics.com/hello

Tend The Tender is a phrase that invites us all to bring more loving attention to our most tender places, and to allow others to care for us when we are feeling a bit raw. To be tender is to be human, and yet many of us struggle to ask for care when we need it most. If we learn how to tend the tender, we can bring more compassionate care to ourselves and those we love the most. Get Equipped With These Generous Offers From Our Podcast Sponsors: * Get ED medications and at-home STI testing from ShamelessCare.com and use the code PLEASURE for $30 off your first order! Continue The Conversation With These Speaking of Sex Episodes * Episode 423: Just Hold Me * Episode 467: Touch Hunger

What happens after your lover discloses their fetish- or you discover a fetish or kink and need to talk about it? In this episode we discuss how to bring more compassion and curiosity to conversations about newly disclosed kinks and fetishes. Want more guidance into kink? Join us here. This call was inspired by a listener’s voicemail – share your questions, wins or aha! moments with us at PleasureMechanics.com/hello Get Equipped With These Generous Offers From Our Podcast Sponsors: * Get ED medications and at-home STI testing from ShamelessCare.com and use the code PLEASURE for $30 off your first order! * DipseaStories : Explore an audio library of immersive erotic soundscapes, explicit stories and more. Use code PLEASURE for 30 day free trial

Get Equipped With These Generous Offers From Our Podcast Sponsors: * Get comprehensive at-home STI testing from ShamelessCare.com and use the code PLEASURE for $30 off your first order! * Explore SheVibe.com for a complete selection of high quality sex toys at the best prices Did you get all the information, support and kindness you deserved as a teenager emerging into your sexuality? Far from it, right? So many of us missed out on years of pleasurable exploration because we didn’t have accurate information about our bodies. So many of us still carry wounds and trauma from what happened to us in our early years, especially if we didn’t have enough non-judgmental support. Some of us were hurt or harmed when we actively were seeking help. Now more than ever, censorship efforts target the very information youth need to stay safe and make informed choices. On the podcast this week we speak with our friends at Scarleteen, in celebration of their 25 years of providing comprehensive, fact-checked, compassionate resources for young people and emerging adults – and those who care for them. ​Scarleteen.com is one of our go-to resources for all questions about supporting youth when it comes to health & wellness, consent & communication, orientation & identity. Scarleteen offers the foundational knowledge that fills in the gaps of abstinence-only education. Their website is teeming with resources, like this guide on how to “have the talk” with young people you care about. Please join us in supporting Scarleteen- make a direct donation here. Like us Pleasure Mechanics, Scarleteen is a grassroots, independent project that relies on the direct support of those we serve and who care about these resources being in the world.

Erotic Touch Mastery, Stroke by Stroke. Get started tonight. Our bodies are sensitive, but not delicate. This phrase is something Chris has been teaching for twenty years, since the early days of the Sexological Bodywork training, in response to a pattern they noticed after teaching erotic touch for hundreds of hours. Many people are hesitant when it comes to erotic touch, approaching the g******s as if they are delicate and easily hurt. The truth is, even our most sensitive bits are quite resilient and many people crave much deeper, more intense touch than they are getting from hesitant lovers. If we can remember the body is “sensitive, but not delicate” we can be both intense and gentle at the same time, and create much more fulfilling and satisfying erotic encounters. Get Equipped With These Generous Offers From Our Podcast Sponsors: * Get ED medications and at-home STI testing from ShamelessCare.com and use the code PLEASURE for $30 off your first order! * DipseaStories : Explore an audio library of immersive erotic soundscapes, explicit stories and more. Use code PLEASURE for 30 day free trial

Dr. Alexandra Solomon joins us to explore the power of daily incremental practice in the realms of love, connection and pleasure. In this free podcast episode we explore how we can all practice Love Every Day, while being patient with change, working with even the most reluctant of partners, and respecting the process of incremental growth. Join us for a compassionate and uplifting conversation about the power of practicing pleasure, joy & connection. Take a deeper dive with Dr. Solomon in her online course, Intimate Relationships 101 Big Thanks To Our Episode Sponsors: * DipseaStories : Explore an audio library of immersive erotic soundscapes, explicit stories and more. Use code PLEASURE for 30 day free trial * To obtain DoxyPEP today and take charge of your sexual health, please visit www.shamelesscare.com and click on the “prevention” tab. * Master the art of touch with our Erotic Touch Online Courses – bundled here with a steep discount just for podcast listeners! More About Alexandra H. Solomon, PhD Over the last two decades, Dr. Alexandra H. Solomon has become one of today’s most trusted voices in the world of relationships, and her work on Relational Self-Awareness has reached millions of people around the world. Dr. Solomon is a licensed clinical psychologist at The Family Institute at Northwestern University, and she is on faculty in the School of Education and Social Policy at Northwestern University where she teaches the internationally renowned course, Building Loving and Lasting Relationships: Marriage 101. In addition to writing articles and chapters for leading academic journals and books in the field of marriage and family, she is the author of three books, including her most recent daily devotional Love Every Day. More Speaking of Sex Interviews With Dr. Alexandra Solomon * Taking Sexy Back : An Interview with Alexandra Solomon * Intimate Relationships 101 with Dr. Alexandra Solomon

Here’s how to create more sensation and arousal with the pleasure of vibrations! In this podcast episode, we explore how you can create exquisite sensations of vibrations for yourself or a lover, and enjoy the wide range of feeling that vibrations can evoke for us – using just your hands and mouth! We also explore using vibrators and other tools to enjoy pleasurable, focused vibrations. Vibration is just one quality of artful erotic touch. Explore the whole range with us and become a master of erotic touch with our online courses. Big Thanks To Our Episode Sponsors: * To obtain DoxyPEP today and take charge of your sexual health, please visit www.shamelesscare.com and click on the “prevention” tab. * Master the art of touch with our Erotic Touch Online Courses – bundled here with a steep discount just for podcast listeners! * Treat yourself to a new vibrator from the well curated selection at SheVibe.com

Why do we humans enjoy being afraid? Why does it feel so good to be just the right kind of scared? This spook season, we explore the erotics of fear – what it means to want to be afraid, how we all have different appetites and preferences for fear, and how we can choose to play with fear on purpose, creating thrilling and invigorating erotic expereinces for one another. Thanks to our episode sponsors! * DipseaStories : Explore an audio library of immersive erotic soundscapes, explicit stories and more. Use code PLEASURE for 30 day free trial * Treat yourself to a new toy from the well curated selection at SheVibe.com * Uplevel your vanilla with our Kink Online Courses – bundled here with a steep discount just for podcast listeners! * Want to show your Pleasure Positive pride? Gear up for fall with official Pleasure Mechanics shirts here!

Relaxing into pleasurable touch is one of the most nourishing erotic experiences – but how do we stay relaxed while also being present with our partner, communicating our needs and expressing our pleasure to create a positive feedback loop that you’ll both enjoy? This episode was inspired by a recent personal coaching session. If you are interested in a 1-1 deep dive with us, check out our Private Coaching sessions here! Thanks to our episode sponsors! * DipseaStories : Explore an audio library of immersive erotic soundscapes, explicit stories and more. Use code PLEASURE for 30 day free trial * Treat yourself to a new toy from the well curated selection at SheVibe.com Ready to master the art of erotic touch and lavish your lover with pleasure? Click here to enroll in Erotic Touch Mastery, five erotic touch courses in one bundle! Episode Summary: In this episode of “Speaking of Sex With the Pleasure Mechanics,” we discuss the concept of relaxed receiving during massage, erotic touch or other kinds of shared intimacy. We emphasize the importance of active and engaged receiving, even during moments of quiet enjoyment. We provide strategies for both givers and receivers to enhance communication and connection while learning how to communicate non-verbally through touch and presence. We also touch on the power of erotic relaxation and the benefits of building our capacity to move between relaxed and aroused states during our intimate encounters. Join us as we explore the balance between active and passive receiving during our intimate moments and unlock the potential for deep connection and pleasure in both states.

Vanilla can be so delicious on it’s own, but with permission to enjoy a wide range of toppings, the possibilities for pleasure become boundless. Maybe it is the whipped cream of extra romance, the sprinkles of sensation play or the spicy popcorn of adding in new toys, you can add so many toppings to your favorite vanilla and never get bored. Tell us about YOUR favorite pleasures to add to vanilla by recording us a voice memo here. Grab Your Essentials From Our Sponsors & Support The Show! * Check out the high quality CBD infused lubricant from Morgasm.com and use the code PLEASURE for 15% off and Free Shipping * Treat yourself to a new toy from the well curated selection at SheVibe.com * Uplevel your vanilla with our Erotic Touch Online Courses – bundled here with a steep discount just for podcast listeners! * Want to show your Pleasure Positive pride? Gear up for fall with official Pleasure Mechanics shirts here!