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Want to know how porn is affecting your sex life? Find out here: https://sexwithemily.com/porn-your-sex-life/ Why does he have sex like a porn star? And why does it make you feel used instead of satisfied? In this episode, I'm taking your calls on one of the most common questions I get: porn. What happens when your partner seems more into porn than you, when you cry after sex because you felt like a prop, or when your own fantasies make you feel ashamed. I break it all down, with real listener calls and zero judgment. We also get into the uncomfortable truth that most young people are learning how to have sex from porn. And that's a problem we all need to talk about. ABOUT EMILY: Emily Morse is a Doctor of Human Sexuality, author and host of the #1 rated Sex with Emily podcast. Known as a renowned sexologist, Dr. Emily has helped millions of people around the world navigate their sex lives. Her candid and often funny conversations challenge cultural taboos, misinformation and awkward sex talks to create a future where people can deeply connect and embrace pleasure-filled lives. Because, life is too short for bad sex. CONNECT: Best Sex Ever Tour: https://sexwithemily.com/events Shop With Emily: https://shop.sexwithemily.com Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/sexwithemily/ X: https://twitter.com/sexwithemily Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/sexwithemily TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@sexwithemily Threads: https://www.threads.net/@sexwithemily WANT MORE? Visit the Website: https://sexwithemily.com/ which includes FREE guides. Free Downloadable Guides: https://sexwithemily.com/guides/ Text With Me: https://sexwithemily.com/text Receive Sex Tips On The Regular: https://sexwithemily.com/subscribe This episode is sponsored by: - EVERYONE who signs up wins a FREE Rose suction toy with their order! https://bbvibes.com/emily - Try AIRS by SkinGenuity today at https://shop.sexwithemily.com/AIRS Timestamps: 0:00 - Cold open: why he likes “porn star sex” 2:38 - Listener email: my boyfriend secretly watches porn to get hard 4:08 - Why you have to practice satisfying yourself 5:51 - Caller #1: navigating single life without feeling used 8:45 - Why he likes porn star sex: it's the only sex he's had 11:35 - Why porn is a terrible sex teacher 14:34 - Caller #2: bringing porn into his marriage 18:08 - Listener email: only able to climax to a rough fantasy 20:10 - Mindful masturbation to stay present 21:17 - Listener email: my boyfriend masturbates to porn next to me 22:35 - How to talk to your partner: timing, turf, and tone Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Have a question you've always wanted to ask? Send it to me: https://sexwithemily.com/ask What are the conversations you're not having with your partner, and what is that silence actually costing you? Dr. Jennifer Freed, psychological astrologer and therapist, is back and we went deep. We cover victim language vs. power language in sex, the three real reasons we avoid intimacy conversations, and how to actually get to your "power yes." Plus listener questions on threesomes, low libido, spotting a sensual lover, and what EMDR really does to your brain. Jen also coins the term "emo porn" and we both have to admit we're guilty. Find Dr. Jennifer Freed:Website: https://www.jenniferfreed.com/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/drjenniferfreed/ ABOUT EMILY:Emily Morse is a Doctor of Human Sexuality, author and host of the #1 rated Sex with Emily podcast. Known as a renowned sexologist, Dr. Emily has helped millions of people around the world navigate their sex lives. Her candid and often funny conversations challenge cultural taboos, misinformation and awkward sex talks to create a future where people can deeply connect and embrace pleasure-filled lives. Because, life is too short for bad sex. CONNECT: Best Sex Ever Tour: https://sexwithemily.com/events Shop With Emily: https://shop.sexwithemily.com Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/sexwithemily/ X: https://twitter.com/sexwithemily Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/sexwithemily TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@sexwithemily Threads: https://www.threads.net/@sexwithemily WANT MORE? Visit the Website: https://sexwithemily.com/ which includes FREE guides. Free Downloadable Guides: https://sexwithemily.com/guides/ Text With Me: https://sexwithemily.com/text Receive Sex Tips On The Regular: https://sexwithemily.com/subscribe This episode is sponsored by: EVERYONE who signs up wins a FREE Rose suction toy with their order! (https://bbvibes.com/emily) Try AIRS by SkinGenuity today at https://shop.sexwithemily.com/AIRS Chapters: 0:00 - Where Your Words Go, Your Energy Goes2:34 - Meet Dr. Jennifer Freed: Psychological Astrologer and 30-Year Therapist4:03 - Men’s Biggest Sexual Challenge (And It’s Not What You Think)5:08 - Sex as an Expectation vs. an Invitation: Why the Framing Changes Everything5:28 - The Victim Behaviors Secretly Killing Your Power in the Bedroom7:36 - “I Have To” vs. “I Get To”: The Language Shift That Rewires Your Brain Around Sex9:34 - The 30-Minute Body Mapping Exercise That Can Transform Your Sex Life Tonight10:21 - Your Feelings and Sensations Are the Only Irrefutable Truth11:22 - Men and Performance Anxiety: What Would Happen If They Were Just Allowed to Receive?13:22 - The Serial Sex Guy Who Was Depressed (And What It Reveals About Frequency)16:05 - The Forbidden Conversations in Your Relationship Are Exactly Where the Juice Is16:36 - The Three Reasons We Hide Things From Our Partners: Security, Control, Approval18:45 - The Gaps in Relationships Are Where the Damage Lives19:48 - Q: How Do You Keep the Fire Going While Still Being Vulnerable?20:35 - Your Partner Is Not Your Therapist: What to Share and What Not To22:11 - Revelation Is Not a Dump: Trust Is Built Through Accretion23:37 - Erotic Tension and Otherness: Why Mystery Is Essential to Attraction24:04 - Things You Should Never Say — and How to Say the Hard Things Instead26:09 - The Conversation Is an Invitation, Not a Confrontation27:06 - Q: How Do You Reconcile With Men After a Painful History With Them?28:55 - Q: Hookup Buddy Wants a Relationship and You Don’t — What Do You Do?30:01 - Mixed Messages, Time Limits and Why You Need Friends Who Tell You the Truth32:03 - “Emo Porn”: The Concept That Explains Your Most Dramatic Friendships33:47 - Q: How to Spot a Sensual Lover Without Sleeping With a Lot of People36:14 - Astrology and Compatibility: What Your Sun Sign Actually Cannot Tell You37:48 - Every Relationship Is a Teacher — the Most Courageous Spiritual Path38:12 - Q: How to Ease Into an Open Relationship or Fulfill a Threesome Fantasy41:08 - Q: Does EMDR Therapy Actually Work? 43:03 - Q: Low Libido at 25 After Five Years Together — What’s Happening?44:21 - It’s Not Low Libido, It’s High Boredom (And the Real Fix)45:10 - The Secret to Reigniting Desire: Go Back to Courtship Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Have a question for me? Send it here: sexwithemily.com/ask  Here's something I wish someone had told me years ago. Young doesn't mean sexually confident, 40s doesn't mean sexually over, and the biggest mistake most couples make has nothing to do with technique. It's assuming they already know what their partner wants. In this episode I'm walking through what actually happens to a woman's body and desire across her 20s, 30s, 40s, and beyond: what changes, what stays the same, and what you can do to be a better partner at every stage. Shop Women's Health: https://shop.sexwithemily.com/womens-health  ABOUT EMILY: Emily Morse is a Doctor of Human Sexuality, author and host of the #1 rated Sex with Emily podcast. Known as a renowned sexologist, Dr. Emily has helped millions of people around the world navigate their sex lives. Her candid and often funny conversations challenge cultural taboos, misinformation and awkward sex talks to create a future where people can deeply connect and embrace pleasure-filled lives. Because, life is too short for bad sex. CONNECT: Best Sex Ever Tour: https://sexwithemily.com/events  Shop With Emily: https://shop.sexwithemily.com  Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/sexwithemily/  X: https://twitter.com/sexwithemily  Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/sexwithemily  TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@sexwithemily  Threads: https://www.threads.net/@sexwithemily  WANT MORE? Visit the Website: https://sexwithemily.com/ which includes FREE guides.  Free Downloadable Guides: https://sexwithemily.com/guides/  Text With Me: https://sexwithemily.com/text  Receive Sex Tips On The Regular: https://sexwithemily.com/subscribe  Interested in 1:1 Coaching with Emily? Go to http://sexwithemily.com/coaching  to apply! This episode is sponsored by: EVERYONE who signs up wins a FREE Rose suction toy with their order! https://bbvibes.com/emily  Try AIRS by SkinGenuity today at https://shop.sexwithemily.com/AIRS  Timestamps:0:00 - Cold open: does sex get worse as a woman gets older?1:44 - Her 20s: young doesn’t mean great sex4:12 - Why most women don’t orgasm from penetration alone5:33 - Her 30s: more confidence, new challenges6:06 - After a baby: why her desire changes9:11 - Her 40s: what perimenopause does to desire and arousal11:58 - Spontaneous vs. responsive desire13:51 - Menopause and beyond: sex has no expiration date15:02 - Treatments for painful sex after menopause15:39 - Why sex shouldn’t be defined by penetration17:31 - The biggest mistake: assuming you know what she likes Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Have a question you've always wanted to ask? Send it to me: https://shop.sexwithemily.com/pages/ask?utm_source=youtube&utm_medium=video&utm_campaign=yt-E-nDTzNdcMI&utm_term=why-you-dont-want-to-have-sex-anymore-with-dr-jenni-skyler&utm_content=description Ever wonder what really happens inside a sex therapist's office? Dr. Jenni Skyler, certified sex therapist, founder of the Intimacy Institute, and co-host of Sex and the Psyche, pulls back the curtain on what couples are really struggling with, why low desire is more normal than you think, and the two metaphors that change everything: the erotic piggy bank and the car on the highway. We also get personal about Vyleesi. Our own experiences, the side effects, and what it actually feels like when desire comes back online. Spoiler: it gets good. And yes, we go there. The myths, the duty sex, the midnight shoulder tap, the pressure to have simultaneous orgasms like it's a Hollywood movie. All of it on the table. In this episode:- The erotic piggy bank: rebuilding desire through non-sexual deposits- Why spontaneous sex is a myth and what to do instead- The ten-minute invitation technique that changes everything- Vyleesi vs. Addyi: our honest, personal take Learn more about Vyleesi: https://vyleesi.com ABOUT DR.JENNI SKYLER Website: ⁠The Intimacy Institute Podcast: ⁠Sex and the Psyche Instagram: ⁠@drjenniskyler YouTube: ⁠Sex and the Psyche Podcast Coming Soon: SavvySex – The App ABOUT EMILY: Emily Morse is a Doctor of Human Sexuality, author and host of the #1 rated Sex with Emily podcast. Known as a renowned sexologist, Dr. Emily has helped millions of people around the world navigate their sex lives. Her candid and often funny conversations challenge cultural taboos, misinformation and awkward sex talks to create a future where people can deeply connect and embrace pleasure-filled lives. Because, life is too short for bad sex. CONNECT: Best Sex Ever Tour: https://sexwithemily.com/events Shop With Emily: https://shop.sexwithemily.com Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/sexwithemily/ X: https://twitter.com/sexwithemily Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/sexwithemily TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@sexwithemily Threads: https://www.threads.net/@sexwithemily  WANT MORE? Visit the Website: https://sexwithemily.com/ which includes FREE guides. Free Downloadable Guides: https://sexwithemily.com/guides/ Text With Me: https://sexwithemily.com/text Receive Sex Tips On The Regular: https://sexwithemily.com/subscribe Interested in 1:1 Coaching with Emily? Go to http://sexwithemily.com/coaching to apply! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Have a question for me? Just ask: https://shop.sexwithemily.com/pages/ask?utm_source=youtube&utm_medium=video&utm_campaign=yt-B_NJuDUJF5I&utm_content=description Real people. Real questions. No filters. In this hotline episode I take live calls from listeners navigating some of the most common and least talked about sexual dilemmas — from a woman in a good relationship who can’t stop fantasizing about women, to a 19-year-old whose birth control has wiped out her desire entirely, to a man trying to reconnect with his wife after a miscarriage, and more. These are the conversations people carry around for years without ever knowing who to ask. Let’s talk about them. ABOUT EMILY: Emily Morse is a Doctor of Human Sexuality, author and host of the #1 rated Sex with Emily podcast. Known as a renowned sexologist, Dr. Emily has helped millions of people around the world navigate their sex lives. Her candid and often funny conversations challenge cultural taboos, misinformation and awkward sex talks to create a future where people can deeply connect and embrace pleasure-filled lives. Because, life is too short for bad sex. CONNECT: Best Sex Ever Tour:⁠ https://sexwithemily.com/events⁠ Shop With Emily:⁠ https://shop.sexwithemily.com⁠ Instagram:⁠ https://www.instagram.com/sexwithemily/⁠ X:⁠ https://twitter.com/sexwithemily⁠ Facebook:⁠ https://www.facebook.com/sexwithemily⁠ TikTok:⁠ https://www.tiktok.com/@sexwithemily⁠ Threads:⁠ https://www.threads.net/@sexwithemily⁠ WANT MORE? Visit the Website⁠: https://sexwithemily.com⁠/ which includes FREE guides. Free Downloadable Guides⁠: https://sexwithemily.com/guides/⁠ Text With Me⁠: https://sexwithemily.com/text⁠ Receive Sex Tips On The Regular⁠: https://sexwithemily.com/subscribe⁠ Interested in 1:1 Coaching with Emily? Go t⁠o http://sexwithemily.com/coachin⁠g to apply! Chapters: 0:00 Live Hotline: Real Questions About Sex, Desire, and Connection 1:19 Call 1: I’m Fantasizing About Women But I’m in a Relationship With a Man 3:30 Why Moving In Together Can Kill the Spark 5:45 Does He Get to Decide Which Fantasies You Can Have? 8:00 How to Tell Your Partner Exactly What You Want in Bed 10:30 The Yes No Maybe List and Why Every Couple Needs It 12:55 Call 2: Birth Control Took My Sex Drive to Zero 14:45 How the Pill Quietly Affects Desire and Mood 16:30 Learning Your Own Body for the First Time 19:00 Call 3: I’m Bisexual and Leaning More Toward Men 21:00 The Double Standard Around Male vs. Female Bisexuality 23:30 Call 4: My Wife Only Wants Sex When She’s Ovulating 26:00 Sex After a Miscarriage: What Couples Get Wrong 30:00 How to Keep Your Sex Life Alive While Trying to Conceive 32:30 Call 5: My Partner Says She’s Lazy in Bed 35:00 Mutual Masturbation as a Learning Tool 37:00 Call 6: 25 Years Married and Suddenly Insecure About My Body 38:15 What to Do When Insecurity Is Getting in the Way of Intimacy Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Have a question you've always been too embarrassed to ask? Send it to me: sexwithemily.com/ask Whether it's a body pattern you've never been able to break, a sex life that went quiet during a hard season, or a relationship where desire just doesn't match up — these are the questions people carry around for years without knowing where to take them. Let's talk about real listener questions on orgasm habits, how to restart intimacy after illness, navigating power dynamics in a relationship, and what to actually do when your partner seems completely uninterested in sex. ABOUT EMILY: Emily Morse is a Doctor of Human Sexuality, author and host of the #1 rated Sex with Emily podcast. Known as a renowned sexologist, Dr. Emily has helped millions of people around the world navigate their sex lives. Her candid and often funny conversations challenge cultural taboos, misinformation and awkward sex talks to create a future where people can deeply connect and embrace pleasure-filled lives. Because, life is too short for bad sex. CONNECT: Best Sex Ever Tour: https://sexwithemily.com/events Shop With Emily: https://shop.sexwithemily.com Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/sexwithemily/ X: https://twitter.com/sexwithemily Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/sexwithemily TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@sexwithemily Threads: https://www.threads.net/@sexwithemily WANT MORE? Visit the Website: https://sexwithemily.com/ which includes FREE guides. Free Downloadable Guides: https://sexwithemily.com/guides/ Text With Me: https://sexwithemily.com/text Receive Sex Tips On The Regular: https://sexwithemily.com/subscribe Interested in 1:1 Coaching with Emily? Go to http://sexwithemily.com/coaching to apply! Chapters: 0:00 Real Sex Questions You Were Too Embarrassed to Ask 2:00 Q: I Can Only Orgasm One Way. Can I Change That? 3:47 How to Retrain Your Body for Full-Body Orgasms 6:23 The Breathwork Practice That Changes Everything 8:30 Q: How Do We Restart Our Sex Life After Six Months Off? 10:19 How to Ease Back In Without Pressure or Awkwardness 12:43 Q: I Want to Switch Roles But My Partner Won't 14:27 Top and Bottom Dynamics and Masculine Feminine Energy 17:05 How Age and Experience Shape Power in Relationships 19:17 Q: My Wife Just Wants It Over Quickly. What Do I Do? 21:00 When Culture and Shame Shut Down Desire 23:25 Sexual Health Is Overall Health. Here Is Why That Matters Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Have a question you’ve always been too embarrassed to ask? Send it to me: https://sexwithemily.com/ask If you’re in a relationship where sex has quietly disappeared, you already know it’s not just about the lack of sex. It’s the questions that start creeping in—is she still attracted to me? Did I do something wrong? Why does every touch now feel loaded? Let’s talk about what actually happens to men emotionally and relationally when a marriage goes sexless, and what you can do to start changing things without making it worse. ABOUT EMILY: Emily Morse is a Doctor of Human Sexuality, author and host of the #1 rated Sex with Emily podcast. Known as a renowned sexologist, Dr. Emily has helped millions of people around the world navigate their sex lives. Her candid and often funny conversations challenge cultural taboos, misinformation and awkward sex talks to create a future where people can deeply connect and embrace pleasure-filled lives. Because, life is too short for bad sex. CONNECT: Best Sex Ever Tour: https://sexwithemily.com/events Shop With Emily: https://shop.sexwithemily.com Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/sexwithemily/ X: https://twitter.com/sexwithemily Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/sexwithemily TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@sexwithemily Threads: https://www.threads.net/@sexwithemily WANT MORE? Visit the Website: https://sexwithemily.com/Includes FREE guides. Free Downloadable Guides: https://sexwithemily.com/guides/ Text With Me: https://sexwithemily.com/text Receive Sex Tips On The Regular: https://sexwithemily.com/subscribe Interested in 1:1 Coaching with Emily? Go to https://sexwithemily.com/coaching to apply! Chapters: 0:00 – Intro0:40 – What a mismatched-desire marriage feels like1:15 – Listener question: no sex in almost a year2:35 – Effect 1: You start taking it personally3:35 – Why this hits men especially hard5:00 – Effect 2: You pull away, even from affection6:35 – Taking sex off the table to rebuild touch7:35 – Effect 3: You feel disconnected and lonely8:10 – Seeking outside validation9:15 – What do you actually know vs. what are you assuming10:20 – Mismatched desire is common: building a growth mindset around sex Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Have a question you’ve always been too embarrassed to ask? Send it to me: sexwithemily.com/ask What if the secret to getting turned on has nothing to do with what happens in the bedroom? Sometimes the best foreplay starts hours earlier, with the right kind of adventure, connection, or touch that works with your brain chemistry instead of against it. Let’s talk about the trust, titillate, and touch framework for bonding activities that actually prime your nervous system for desire — plus I’m answering your questions on sexual incompatibility, rebuilding your sex drive after having a baby, reigniting a stalled marriage, and reclaiming your sexuality after a relationship that made you feel unseen. ABOUT EMILY: Emily Morse is a Doctor of Human Sexuality, author and host of the #1 rated Sex with Emily podcast. Known as a renowned sexologist, Dr. Emily has helped millions of people around the world navigate their sex lives. Her candid and often funny conversations challenge cultural taboos, misinformation and awkward sex talks to create a future where people can deeply connect and embrace pleasure-filled lives. Because, life is too short for bad sex. CONNECT: Best Sex Ever Tour: https://sexwithemily.com/events Shop With Emily: https://shop.sexwithemily.com Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/sexwithemily/ X: https://twitter.com/sexwithemily Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/sexwithemily TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@sexwithemily Threads: https://www.threads.net/@sexwithemily WANT MORE? Visit the Website: https://sexwithemily.com/ which includes FREE guides. Free Downloadable Guides: https://sexwithemily.com/guides/ Text With Me: https://sexwithemily.com/text Receive Sex Tips On The Regular: https://sexwithemily.com/subscribe Interested in 1:1 Coaching with Emily? Go to http://sexwithemily.com/coaching to apply! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Have a question you’ve always been too embarrassed to ask? Send it to me: ⁠sexwithemily.com/ask⁠ Let’s talk about the questions men are too embarrassed to ask about sex… because most of what men learn about sex comes from porn, from friends who are also just figuring it out, or from nothing at all. And then they spend years wondering if they’re broken, performing wrong, or missing something everyone else seems to already know. In this episode I’m answering seven of the most common questions I get from men, and I promise you are not the only one who has been too embarrassed to ask. ABOUT EMILY: Emily Morse is a Doctor of Human Sexuality, author and host of the #1 rated Sex with Emily podcast. Known as a renowned sexologist, Dr. Emily has helped millions of people around the world navigate their sex lives. Her candid and often funny conversations challenge cultural taboos, misinformation and awkward sex talks to create a future where people can deeply connect and embrace pleasure-filled lives. Because, life is too short for bad sex. CONNECT: Best Sex Ever Tour: ⁠⁠https://sexwithemily.com/events⁠⁠ Shop With Emily: ⁠⁠https://shop.sexwithemily.com⁠⁠ Instagram:⁠⁠ https://www.instagram.com/sexwithemily/⁠⁠ X:⁠⁠ https://twitter.com/sexwithemily⁠⁠ Facebook:⁠⁠ https://www.facebook.com/sexwithemily⁠⁠ TikTok:⁠⁠ https://www.tiktok.com/@sexwithemily⁠⁠ Threads:⁠⁠ https://www.threads.net/@sexwithemily⁠⁠ WANT MORE? Visit the Website:⁠⁠ https://sexwithemily.com/⁠⁠ which includes FREE guides. Free Downloadable Guides:⁠⁠ https://sexwithemily.com/guides/⁠⁠ Text With Me:⁠⁠ https://sexwithemily.com/text⁠⁠ Receive Sex Tips On The Regular:⁠⁠ https://sexwithemily.com/subscribe⁠⁠ Interested in 1:1 Coaching with Emily? Go to⁠⁠ http://sexwithemily.com/coaching⁠⁠ to apply! Try the We-Vibe Touch X to show your partner what works and make partner sex feel as good as solo: https://tinyurl.com/We-Vibe-Touch-X-Vibrator Chapters: 0:00 – Intro: the questions men are too embarrassed to ask0:55 – Is it bad to m********e every day?2:39 – How long is sex actually supposed to last?3:53 – Why most women don’t orgasm from penetration alone4:46 – Why you can lose your erection even when you’re attracted to her6:55 – Should you worry if you don’t wake up with an erection?8:11 – Why you can orgasm alone but not with a partner10:34 – If you finish before your partner, is sex over?12:45 – Send in the questions you’ve been too embarrassed to ask13:19 – How to tell your partner you’re anxious about sex15:10 – Why perfect sex isn’t the goal: presence, communication, and patience Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Let's talk about 69… because whether you love it, hate it, or have been too intimidated to try it, chances are nobody ever actually taught you how to do it well. In this episode I'm breaking down everything you need to know about giving and receiving oral sex simultaneously, including the modifications that turned me from a 69 skeptic into someone who actually gets it. I'm also answering your oral sex questions, from what to do when size makes a b*****b feel impossible to the listener who discovered the most unexpected erogenous zone of her life mid-session. If you've ever written off 69 or felt like you were doing oral sex wrong, this one is going to change some things for you. ABOUT EMILY: Emily Morse is a Doctor of Human Sexuality, author and host of the #1 rated Sex with Emily podcast. Known as a renowned sexologist, Dr. Emily has helped millions of people around the world navigate their sex lives. Her candid and often funny conversations challenge cultural taboos, misinformation and awkward sex talks to create a future where people can deeply connect and embrace pleasure-filled lives. Because, life is too short for bad sex. CONNECT: Best Sex Ever Tour: ⁠https://sexwithemily.com/events⁠ Shop With Emily: ⁠https://shop.sexwithemily.com⁠ Instagram:⁠ https://www.instagram.com/sexwithemily/⁠ X:⁠ https://twitter.com/sexwithemily⁠ Facebook:⁠ https://www.facebook.com/sexwithemily⁠ TikTok:⁠ https://www.tiktok.com/@sexwithemily⁠ Threads:⁠ https://www.threads.net/@sexwithemily⁠ WANT MORE? Visit the Website:⁠ https://sexwithemily.com/⁠ which includes FREE guides. Free Downloadable Guides:⁠ https://sexwithemily.com/guides/⁠ Text With Me:⁠ https://sexwithemily.com/text⁠ Receive Sex Tips On The Regular:⁠ https://sexwithemily.com/subscribe⁠ Interested in 1:1 Coaching with Emily? Go to⁠ http://sexwithemily.com/coaching⁠ to apply! 34+35 tastes better with the right lube. Trust me on this one 😉 Playground Lube: https://shop.sexwithemily.com/search?options%5Bprefix%5D=last&q=playground Flavored Lube: https://shop.sexwithemily.com/search?options%5Bprefix%5D=last&q=jo+lube Chapters: 00:00 Introduction 01:37 Why People Love and Hate 69 03:30 What Research Says About Giving Oral Sex and Happiness 05:00 How to Be a Better Giver in the 69 Position 07:30 Your Hands Are Your Best Friend in 69 09:00 How to Actually Receive Pleasure While Giving 11:00 Mindful Masturbation as a Tool for Better Receiving 13:00 The Sideways 69 and the Power 69 15:30 How to Stop Getting in Your Own Head During Oral 18:00 Question 1: I Discovered My Ear Is an Erogenous Zone Mid Session 21:00 The Science Behind Extra Genital Erogenous Zones 23:00 Question 2: How Do I Give Oral to a Much Larger Penis 25:00 Hands Lube and Permission to Mix It Up 27:00 The Only Rule That Actually Matters in Oral Sex Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Great oral sex isn’t about mastering a technique, memorizing tutorials, or finding one magic trick. It’s about being present enough to listen to your partner’s body. In this episode, I’m sharing how to build a sexual language with your partner through attention, communication, and responsiveness. We’re talking about why starting slow matters, how to read the signals your partner is giving you, what it means to follow the “yes,” and why feedback like “don’t stop” or “softer” is an invitation—not a critique. If you want oral sex to feel more connected, more pleasurable, and less like a performance, this episode is for you. ABOUT EMILY: Emily Morse is a Doctor of Human Sexuality, author and host of the #1 rated Sex with Emily podcast. Known as a renowned sexologist, Dr. Emily has helped millions of people around the world navigate their sex lives. Her candid and often funny conversations challenge cultural taboos, misinformation and awkward sex talks to create a future where people can deeply connect and embrace pleasure-filled lives. Because, life is too short for bad sex. CONNECT: Best Sex Ever Tour: https://sexwithemily.com/events Shop With Emily: https://shop.sexwithemily.com Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/sexwithemily/ X: https://twitter.com/sexwithemily Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/sexwithemily TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@sexwithemily Threads: https://www.threads.net/@sexwithemily WANT MORE? Visit the Website: https://sexwithemily.com/ which includes FREE guides. Free Downloadable Guides: https://sexwithemily.com/guides/ Text With Me: https://sexwithemily.com/text Receive Sex Tips On The Regular: https://sexwithemily.com/subscribe Interested in 1:1 Coaching with Emily? Go to http://sexwithemily.com/coaching to apply! Try JO flavored lube to make oral sex taste as good as it feels: https://bit.ly/systemjoshopSWE Chapters: 0:00 – Intro: what this episode covers1:24 – The oral sex skill nobody teaches: no secret move, just paying attention2:49 – Step one: start way slower than you think you need to4:29 – Why arousal needs a runway5:52 – Step two: read the body and be a detective7:35 – Step three: follow the yes9:29 – What to do when the yes goes away10:32 – Step four: talk about it11:22 – Why feedback is direction, not criticism12:36 – The question to ask: "What was your favorite part?"14:08 – The real skill: attunement and the full feedback loop Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Let's talk about why foreplay might be the most misunderstood thing in your sex life… because the way most couples think about it is exactly backwards. In this episode I'm breaking down why foreplay doesn't start in the bedroom and what to do when your partner goes straight to penetration every single time, when the sex has gone stale and neither of you knows how to say it, when one person won't reciprocate, and when a medical situation forces you to get creative in all the best ways. If you have ever wished your partner understood what you actually need before sex even starts, this one is for you. ABOUT EMILY: Emily Morse is a Doctor of Human Sexuality, author and host of the #1 rated Sex with Emily podcast. Known as a renowned sexologist, Dr. Emily has helped millions of people around the world navigate their sex lives. Her candid and often funny conversations challenge cultural taboos, misinformation and awkward sex talks to create a future where people can deeply connect and embrace pleasure-filled lives. Because, life is too short for bad sex. CONNECT: Best Sex Ever Tour: https://sexwithemily.com/events Shop With Emily: https://shop.sexwithemily.com Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/sexwithemily/ X: https://twitter.com/sexwithemily Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/sexwithemily TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@sexwithemily Threads: https://www.threads.net/@sexwithemily WANT MORE? Visit the Website: https://sexwithemily.com/ which includes FREE guides. Free Downloadable Guides: https://sexwithemily.com/guides/ Text With Me: https://sexwithemily.com/text Receive Sex Tips On The Regular: https://sexwithemily.com/subscribe Interested in 1:1 Coaching with Emily? Go to http://sexwithemily.com/coaching to apply! Chapters: 00:00 Introduction 02:15 Foreplay Starts After the Last Orgasm 04:00 Why Spontaneous vs Responsive Desire Changes Everything 06:00 The Psychology of Arousal and What Gets You There 07:30 Call 1: He Goes Straight to Penetration Every Time 10:00 How to Tell a Sensitive Partner What You Actually Need 13:00 The Compliment Sandwich and Why It Works 15:30 Call 2: Our Sex Has Gone Stale and I Don't Know How to Fix It 18:00 What to Do When Foreplay Has Disappeared From Your Relationship 21:00 Call 3: My Partner Won't Reciprocate Foreplay 24:00 How to Ask for What You Want Without Making It a Fight 27:00 Call 4: I Have Never Had an Orgasm 30:00 Why Most People Skip the Most Important Step 33:00 Your Homework: 30 Minutes Three Times a Week 35:00 Call 5: I Can't Have Sex for 6 Weeks After My Procedure 36:00 How to Stay Sexually Connected When Penetration Is Off the Table Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Sexual communication isn’t a sign that something is wrong—it’s how sex gets better. When your partner says “slow down,” “stay right there,” or asks for something different, they aren’t rejecting you. They’re giving you the roadmap to what feels good for them right now. In this episode, I’m talking about how to create the safety to give and receive direction during sex without anyone getting defensive, embarrassed, or shutting down. We’ll explore why learning basic anatomy is only the beginning, how bodies and desires change over time, and why staying curious is the real secret to being a great lover. If you want more connected, responsive, and satisfying sex, this episode is for you. ABOUT EMILY: Emily Morse is a Doctor of Human Sexuality, author and host of the #1 rated Sex with Emily podcast. Known as a renowned sexologist, Dr. Emily has helped millions of people around the world navigate their sex lives. Her candid and often funny conversations challenge cultural taboos, misinformation and awkward sex talks to create a future where people can deeply connect and embrace pleasure-filled lives. Because, life is too short for bad sex. CONNECT WITH EMILY: Best Sex Ever Tour: ⁠⁠https://sexwithemily.com/events⁠⁠  Shop With Emily: ⁠⁠https://shop.sexwithemily.com⁠⁠  Instagram: ⁠⁠https://www.instagram.com/sexwithemily/⁠⁠  X: ⁠⁠https://twitter.com/sexwithemily⁠⁠  Facebook: ⁠⁠https://www.facebook.com/sexwithemily⁠⁠  TikTok: ⁠⁠https://www.tiktok.com/@sexwithemily⁠⁠  Threads: ⁠⁠https://www.threads.net/@sexwithemily⁠⁠  WANT MORE? Visit the Website: ⁠⁠https://sexwithemily.com/⁠⁠ which includes FREE guides. Free Downloadable Guides: ⁠⁠https://sexwithemily.com/guides/⁠⁠  Text With Me: ⁠⁠https://sexwithemily.com/text⁠⁠  Receive Sex Tips On The Regular: ⁠⁠https://sexwithemily.com/subscribe⁠⁠  Interested in 1:1 Coaching with Emily? Go to http://sexwithemily.com/coaching to apply! Try the Dame Pom to explore sensation and actually get out of your head during sex: https://shop.sexwithemily.com/swe08 Chapters: 0:00 - What Nobody Taught You About Vaginas1:24 - The Vagina Is Not the Whole Thing — Here's Your Anatomy Refresher3:00 - The Sex Ed We Got Was Basically Useless (And What Was Missing)4:00 - Step 1: Learn the Map — What You're Actually Working With5:30 - Why We've Been Treating Penetration Like the Main Event (And Why That's a Problem)7:00 - What Actually Happens in Your Body When You Become Aroused8:30 - Look at Your Vulva — Yes, With a Mirror. Here's Why It Matters10:30 - We Know Our Skincare Routine Better Than Our Own Pleasure Anatomy12:00 - Step 2: Stop Assuming — There Are No Universal Settings13:30 - The "Starting Gun" Problem: Why Timing Is Everything15:00 - Closing the Tabs: How to Actually Get Fully Present During Sex16:30 - When Your Body Is Telling You Something Needs Attention — Don't Ignore It17:30 - Step 3: Keep Talking — Stop Saving the Conversation for When It Goes Wrong18:30 - The GPS Analogy for Sexual Communication19:45 - What Great Lovers Actually Have in Common Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Try the We-Vibe Nova to explore internal and external stimulation together, no experience necessary: https://bit.ly/wevibenovadual Let's talk about what actually gets in the way of connected, present, pleasurable sex… because it is almost never what you think it is. In this episode I'm taking live listener calls from people who are done settling for sex that feels disconnected, performative, or just plain stuck. A divorced mom of two who spends every sexual encounter watching herself from the outside instead of actually feeling anything. Someone navigating intimacy after leaving a religion that made sex feel like something to be ashamed of. A 19 year old who wants to take control in the bedroom but freezes every time. And more. If you have ever felt like you were in the room but not really there, this episode is going to give you a way back in. ABOUT EMILY:Emily Morse is a Doctor of Human Sexuality, author and host of the #1 rated Sex with Emily podcast. Known as a renowned sexologist, Dr. Emily has helped millions of people around the world navigate their sex lives. Her candid and often funny conversations challenge cultural taboos, misinformation and awkward sex talks to create a future where people can deeply connect and embrace pleasure-filled lives. Because, life is too short for bad sex. CONNECT: Best Sex Ever Tour: https://sexwithemily.com/events Shop With Emily: https://shop.sexwithemily.com Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/sexwithemily/ X: https://twitter.com/sexwithemily Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/sexwithemily TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@sexwithemily Threads: https://www.threads.net/@sexwithemily WANT MORE? Visit the Website: https://sexwithemily.com/ which includes FREE guides. Free Downloadable Guides: https://sexwithemily.com/guides/ Text With Me: https://sexwithemily.com/text Receive Sex Tips On The Regular: https://sexwithemily.com/subscribe Interested in 1:1 Coaching with Emily? Go to http://sexwithemily.com/coaching to apply! Chapters: 0:00 – Cold open: why we don't talk about sex like we talk about everything else2:21 – Caller #1: breaking free from "spectatorship" during sex8:33 – Caller #2: what to do when your partner won't go down on you12:33 – Caller #3: postpartum libido and not enjoying receiving oral17:07 – Caller #4: performance anxiety and disconnecting during sex22:17 – Why focusing on your partner's pleasure can ease performance anxiety25:22 – The trap of people-pleasing in relationships27:07 – Caller #5: how to finally make the first move29:11 – Caller #6: freezing up during a casual hookup33:52 – Healing sexual shame with EMDR therapy37:53 – Caller #7: learning to take control in the bedroom Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Great sex isn’t about finding one perfect moment and trying to recreate it forever. It’s about getting curious about what made that moment feel so good in the first place. In this episode, I’m sharing how to talk with your partner about your best sexual memories without turning it into a complaint meeting. We’re exploring the questions that uncover what really turns each of you on: Was it the flirting all day? Feeling unrushed? The freedom, the anticipation, the way you looked at each other? Those details are the roadmap to creating more desire and connection now. If your sex life feels fine but you want it to feel more alive, connected, and uniquely yours, this episode is for you. ABOUT EMILY: Emily Morse is a Doctor of Human Sexuality, author and host of the #1 rated Sex with Emily podcast. Known as a renowned sexologist, Dr. Emily has helped millions of people around the world navigate their sex lives. Her candid and often funny conversations challenge cultural taboos, misinformation and awkward sex talks to create a future where people can deeply connect and embrace pleasure-filled lives. Because, life is too short for bad sex.` CONNECT WITH EMILY: Best Sex Ever Tour: ⁠⁠https://sexwithemily.com/events⁠⁠  Shop With Emily: ⁠⁠https://shop.sexwithemily.com⁠⁠  Instagram: ⁠⁠https://www.instagram.com/sexwithemily/⁠⁠  X: ⁠⁠https://twitter.com/sexwithemily⁠⁠  Facebook: ⁠⁠https://www.facebook.com/sexwithemily⁠⁠  TikTok: ⁠⁠https://www.tiktok.com/@sexwithemily⁠⁠  Threads: ⁠⁠https://www.threads.net/@sexwithemily⁠⁠  WANT MORE? Visit the Website: ⁠⁠https://sexwithemily.com/⁠⁠ which includes FREE guides. Free Downloadable Guides: ⁠⁠https://sexwithemily.com/guides/⁠⁠  Text With Me: ⁠⁠https://sexwithemily.com/text⁠⁠  Receive Sex Tips On The Regular: ⁠⁠https://sexwithemily.com/subscribe⁠⁠  Try the toy I talk about in the video here: ⁠⁠https://shop.sexwithemily.com/swe07⁠ Chapters:00:00 Cold Open / Welcome to Sex with Emily01:24 Is This It? The Problem With "Fine" Sex02:33 Step 1: Notice What's Actually Happening06:20 Step 2: Name What You Actually Want09:47 Using Toys as Shared Discovery10:48 Step 3: Share It (Timing Matters)11:50 The Postpartum Story: Same Moment, Different Experience14:04 Turn the Complaint Into a Request16:19 Step 4: Experiment Without the Overhaul19:53 The Reset Recap & This Week's Exercise21:47 Closing Thought: Someone Worth Discovering Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices