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Have a question you’ve always been too embarrassed to ask? Send it to me: https://sexwithemily.com/ask If you’re in a relationship where sex has quietly disappeared, you already know it’s not just about the lack of sex. It’s the questions that start creeping in—is she still attracted to me? Did I do something wrong? Why does every touch now feel loaded? Let’s talk about what actually happens to men emotionally and relationally when a marriage goes sexless, and what you can do to start changing things without making it worse. ABOUT EMILY: Emily Morse is a Doctor of Human Sexuality, author and host of the #1 rated Sex with Emily podcast. Known as a renowned sexologist, Dr. Emily has helped millions of people around the world navigate their sex lives. Her candid and often funny conversations challenge cultural taboos, misinformation and awkward sex talks to create a future where people can deeply connect and embrace pleasure-filled lives. Because, life is too short for bad sex. CONNECT: Best Sex Ever Tour: https://sexwithemily.com/events Shop With Emily: https://shop.sexwithemily.com Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/sexwithemily/ X: https://twitter.com/sexwithemily Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/sexwithemily TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@sexwithemily Threads: https://www.threads.net/@sexwithemily WANT MORE? Visit the Website: https://sexwithemily.com/Includes FREE guides. Free Downloadable Guides: https://sexwithemily.com/guides/ Text With Me: https://sexwithemily.com/text Receive Sex Tips On The Regular: https://sexwithemily.com/subscribe Interested in 1:1 Coaching with Emily? Go to https://sexwithemily.com/coaching to apply! Chapters: 0:00 – Intro0:40 – What a mismatched-desire marriage feels like1:15 – Listener question: no sex in almost a year2:35 – Effect 1: You start taking it personally3:35 – Why this hits men especially hard5:00 – Effect 2: You pull away, even from affection6:35 – Taking sex off the table to rebuild touch7:35 – Effect 3: You feel disconnected and lonely8:10 – Seeking outside validation9:15 – What do you actually know vs. what are you assuming10:20 – Mismatched desire is common: building a growth mindset around sex Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Have a question you’ve always been too embarrassed to ask? Send it to me: sexwithemily.com/ask What if the secret to getting turned on has nothing to do with what happens in the bedroom? Sometimes the best foreplay starts hours earlier, with the right kind of adventure, connection, or touch that works with your brain chemistry instead of against it. Let’s talk about the trust, titillate, and touch framework for bonding activities that actually prime your nervous system for desire — plus I’m answering your questions on sexual incompatibility, rebuilding your sex drive after having a baby, reigniting a stalled marriage, and reclaiming your sexuality after a relationship that made you feel unseen. ABOUT EMILY: Emily Morse is a Doctor of Human Sexuality, author and host of the #1 rated Sex with Emily podcast. Known as a renowned sexologist, Dr. Emily has helped millions of people around the world navigate their sex lives. Her candid and often funny conversations challenge cultural taboos, misinformation and awkward sex talks to create a future where people can deeply connect and embrace pleasure-filled lives. Because, life is too short for bad sex. CONNECT: Best Sex Ever Tour: https://sexwithemily.com/events Shop With Emily: https://shop.sexwithemily.com Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/sexwithemily/ X: https://twitter.com/sexwithemily Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/sexwithemily TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@sexwithemily Threads: https://www.threads.net/@sexwithemily WANT MORE? Visit the Website: https://sexwithemily.com/ which includes FREE guides. Free Downloadable Guides: https://sexwithemily.com/guides/ Text With Me: https://sexwithemily.com/text Receive Sex Tips On The Regular: https://sexwithemily.com/subscribe Interested in 1:1 Coaching with Emily? Go to http://sexwithemily.com/coaching to apply! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Have a question you’ve always been too embarrassed to ask? Send it to me: ⁠sexwithemily.com/ask⁠ Let’s talk about the questions men are too embarrassed to ask about sex… because most of what men learn about sex comes from porn, from friends who are also just figuring it out, or from nothing at all. And then they spend years wondering if they’re broken, performing wrong, or missing something everyone else seems to already know. In this episode I’m answering seven of the most common questions I get from men, and I promise you are not the only one who has been too embarrassed to ask. ABOUT EMILY: Emily Morse is a Doctor of Human Sexuality, author and host of the #1 rated Sex with Emily podcast. Known as a renowned sexologist, Dr. Emily has helped millions of people around the world navigate their sex lives. Her candid and often funny conversations challenge cultural taboos, misinformation and awkward sex talks to create a future where people can deeply connect and embrace pleasure-filled lives. Because, life is too short for bad sex. CONNECT: Best Sex Ever Tour: ⁠⁠https://sexwithemily.com/events⁠⁠ Shop With Emily: ⁠⁠https://shop.sexwithemily.com⁠⁠ Instagram:⁠⁠ https://www.instagram.com/sexwithemily/⁠⁠ X:⁠⁠ https://twitter.com/sexwithemily⁠⁠ Facebook:⁠⁠ https://www.facebook.com/sexwithemily⁠⁠ TikTok:⁠⁠ https://www.tiktok.com/@sexwithemily⁠⁠ Threads:⁠⁠ https://www.threads.net/@sexwithemily⁠⁠ WANT MORE? Visit the Website:⁠⁠ https://sexwithemily.com/⁠⁠ which includes FREE guides. Free Downloadable Guides:⁠⁠ https://sexwithemily.com/guides/⁠⁠ Text With Me:⁠⁠ https://sexwithemily.com/text⁠⁠ Receive Sex Tips On The Regular:⁠⁠ https://sexwithemily.com/subscribe⁠⁠ Interested in 1:1 Coaching with Emily? Go to⁠⁠ http://sexwithemily.com/coaching⁠⁠ to apply! Try the We-Vibe Touch X to show your partner what works and make partner sex feel as good as solo: https://tinyurl.com/We-Vibe-Touch-X-Vibrator Chapters: 0:00 – Intro: the questions men are too embarrassed to ask0:55 – Is it bad to m********e every day?2:39 – How long is sex actually supposed to last?3:53 – Why most women don’t orgasm from penetration alone4:46 – Why you can lose your erection even when you’re attracted to her6:55 – Should you worry if you don’t wake up with an erection?8:11 – Why you can orgasm alone but not with a partner10:34 – If you finish before your partner, is sex over?12:45 – Send in the questions you’ve been too embarrassed to ask13:19 – How to tell your partner you’re anxious about sex15:10 – Why perfect sex isn’t the goal: presence, communication, and patience Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Let's talk about 69… because whether you love it, hate it, or have been too intimidated to try it, chances are nobody ever actually taught you how to do it well. In this episode I'm breaking down everything you need to know about giving and receiving oral sex simultaneously, including the modifications that turned me from a 69 skeptic into someone who actually gets it. I'm also answering your oral sex questions, from what to do when size makes a b*****b feel impossible to the listener who discovered the most unexpected erogenous zone of her life mid-session. If you've ever written off 69 or felt like you were doing oral sex wrong, this one is going to change some things for you. ABOUT EMILY: Emily Morse is a Doctor of Human Sexuality, author and host of the #1 rated Sex with Emily podcast. Known as a renowned sexologist, Dr. Emily has helped millions of people around the world navigate their sex lives. Her candid and often funny conversations challenge cultural taboos, misinformation and awkward sex talks to create a future where people can deeply connect and embrace pleasure-filled lives. Because, life is too short for bad sex. CONNECT: Best Sex Ever Tour: ⁠https://sexwithemily.com/events⁠ Shop With Emily: ⁠https://shop.sexwithemily.com⁠ Instagram:⁠ https://www.instagram.com/sexwithemily/⁠ X:⁠ https://twitter.com/sexwithemily⁠ Facebook:⁠ https://www.facebook.com/sexwithemily⁠ TikTok:⁠ https://www.tiktok.com/@sexwithemily⁠ Threads:⁠ https://www.threads.net/@sexwithemily⁠ WANT MORE? Visit the Website:⁠ https://sexwithemily.com/⁠ which includes FREE guides. Free Downloadable Guides:⁠ https://sexwithemily.com/guides/⁠ Text With Me:⁠ https://sexwithemily.com/text⁠ Receive Sex Tips On The Regular:⁠ https://sexwithemily.com/subscribe⁠ Interested in 1:1 Coaching with Emily? Go to⁠ http://sexwithemily.com/coaching⁠ to apply! 34+35 tastes better with the right lube. Trust me on this one 😉 Playground Lube: https://shop.sexwithemily.com/search?options%5Bprefix%5D=last&q=playground Flavored Lube: https://shop.sexwithemily.com/search?options%5Bprefix%5D=last&q=jo+lube Chapters: 00:00 Introduction 01:37 Why People Love and Hate 69 03:30 What Research Says About Giving Oral Sex and Happiness 05:00 How to Be a Better Giver in the 69 Position 07:30 Your Hands Are Your Best Friend in 69 09:00 How to Actually Receive Pleasure While Giving 11:00 Mindful Masturbation as a Tool for Better Receiving 13:00 The Sideways 69 and the Power 69 15:30 How to Stop Getting in Your Own Head During Oral 18:00 Question 1: I Discovered My Ear Is an Erogenous Zone Mid Session 21:00 The Science Behind Extra Genital Erogenous Zones 23:00 Question 2: How Do I Give Oral to a Much Larger Penis 25:00 Hands Lube and Permission to Mix It Up 27:00 The Only Rule That Actually Matters in Oral Sex Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Great oral sex isn’t about mastering a technique, memorizing tutorials, or finding one magic trick. It’s about being present enough to listen to your partner’s body. In this episode, I’m sharing how to build a sexual language with your partner through attention, communication, and responsiveness. We’re talking about why starting slow matters, how to read the signals your partner is giving you, what it means to follow the “yes,” and why feedback like “don’t stop” or “softer” is an invitation—not a critique. If you want oral sex to feel more connected, more pleasurable, and less like a performance, this episode is for you. ABOUT EMILY: Emily Morse is a Doctor of Human Sexuality, author and host of the #1 rated Sex with Emily podcast. Known as a renowned sexologist, Dr. Emily has helped millions of people around the world navigate their sex lives. Her candid and often funny conversations challenge cultural taboos, misinformation and awkward sex talks to create a future where people can deeply connect and embrace pleasure-filled lives. Because, life is too short for bad sex. CONNECT: Best Sex Ever Tour: https://sexwithemily.com/events Shop With Emily: https://shop.sexwithemily.com Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/sexwithemily/ X: https://twitter.com/sexwithemily Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/sexwithemily TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@sexwithemily Threads: https://www.threads.net/@sexwithemily WANT MORE? Visit the Website: https://sexwithemily.com/ which includes FREE guides. Free Downloadable Guides: https://sexwithemily.com/guides/ Text With Me: https://sexwithemily.com/text Receive Sex Tips On The Regular: https://sexwithemily.com/subscribe Interested in 1:1 Coaching with Emily? Go to http://sexwithemily.com/coaching to apply! Try JO flavored lube to make oral sex taste as good as it feels: https://bit.ly/systemjoshopSWE Chapters: 0:00 – Intro: what this episode covers1:24 – The oral sex skill nobody teaches: no secret move, just paying attention2:49 – Step one: start way slower than you think you need to4:29 – Why arousal needs a runway5:52 – Step two: read the body and be a detective7:35 – Step three: follow the yes9:29 – What to do when the yes goes away10:32 – Step four: talk about it11:22 – Why feedback is direction, not criticism12:36 – The question to ask: "What was your favorite part?"14:08 – The real skill: attunement and the full feedback loop Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Let's talk about why foreplay might be the most misunderstood thing in your sex life… because the way most couples think about it is exactly backwards. In this episode I'm breaking down why foreplay doesn't start in the bedroom and what to do when your partner goes straight to penetration every single time, when the sex has gone stale and neither of you knows how to say it, when one person won't reciprocate, and when a medical situation forces you to get creative in all the best ways. If you have ever wished your partner understood what you actually need before sex even starts, this one is for you. ABOUT EMILY: Emily Morse is a Doctor of Human Sexuality, author and host of the #1 rated Sex with Emily podcast. Known as a renowned sexologist, Dr. Emily has helped millions of people around the world navigate their sex lives. Her candid and often funny conversations challenge cultural taboos, misinformation and awkward sex talks to create a future where people can deeply connect and embrace pleasure-filled lives. Because, life is too short for bad sex. CONNECT: Best Sex Ever Tour: https://sexwithemily.com/events Shop With Emily: https://shop.sexwithemily.com Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/sexwithemily/ X: https://twitter.com/sexwithemily Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/sexwithemily TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@sexwithemily Threads: https://www.threads.net/@sexwithemily WANT MORE? Visit the Website: https://sexwithemily.com/ which includes FREE guides. Free Downloadable Guides: https://sexwithemily.com/guides/ Text With Me: https://sexwithemily.com/text Receive Sex Tips On The Regular: https://sexwithemily.com/subscribe Interested in 1:1 Coaching with Emily? Go to http://sexwithemily.com/coaching to apply! Chapters: 00:00 Introduction 02:15 Foreplay Starts After the Last Orgasm 04:00 Why Spontaneous vs Responsive Desire Changes Everything 06:00 The Psychology of Arousal and What Gets You There 07:30 Call 1: He Goes Straight to Penetration Every Time 10:00 How to Tell a Sensitive Partner What You Actually Need 13:00 The Compliment Sandwich and Why It Works 15:30 Call 2: Our Sex Has Gone Stale and I Don't Know How to Fix It 18:00 What to Do When Foreplay Has Disappeared From Your Relationship 21:00 Call 3: My Partner Won't Reciprocate Foreplay 24:00 How to Ask for What You Want Without Making It a Fight 27:00 Call 4: I Have Never Had an Orgasm 30:00 Why Most People Skip the Most Important Step 33:00 Your Homework: 30 Minutes Three Times a Week 35:00 Call 5: I Can't Have Sex for 6 Weeks After My Procedure 36:00 How to Stay Sexually Connected When Penetration Is Off the Table Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Sexual communication isn’t a sign that something is wrong—it’s how sex gets better. When your partner says “slow down,” “stay right there,” or asks for something different, they aren’t rejecting you. They’re giving you the roadmap to what feels good for them right now. In this episode, I’m talking about how to create the safety to give and receive direction during sex without anyone getting defensive, embarrassed, or shutting down. We’ll explore why learning basic anatomy is only the beginning, how bodies and desires change over time, and why staying curious is the real secret to being a great lover. If you want more connected, responsive, and satisfying sex, this episode is for you. ABOUT EMILY: Emily Morse is a Doctor of Human Sexuality, author and host of the #1 rated Sex with Emily podcast. Known as a renowned sexologist, Dr. Emily has helped millions of people around the world navigate their sex lives. Her candid and often funny conversations challenge cultural taboos, misinformation and awkward sex talks to create a future where people can deeply connect and embrace pleasure-filled lives. Because, life is too short for bad sex. CONNECT WITH EMILY: Best Sex Ever Tour: ⁠⁠https://sexwithemily.com/events⁠⁠  Shop With Emily: ⁠⁠https://shop.sexwithemily.com⁠⁠  Instagram: ⁠⁠https://www.instagram.com/sexwithemily/⁠⁠  X: ⁠⁠https://twitter.com/sexwithemily⁠⁠  Facebook: ⁠⁠https://www.facebook.com/sexwithemily⁠⁠  TikTok: ⁠⁠https://www.tiktok.com/@sexwithemily⁠⁠  Threads: ⁠⁠https://www.threads.net/@sexwithemily⁠⁠  WANT MORE? Visit the Website: ⁠⁠https://sexwithemily.com/⁠⁠ which includes FREE guides. Free Downloadable Guides: ⁠⁠https://sexwithemily.com/guides/⁠⁠  Text With Me: ⁠⁠https://sexwithemily.com/text⁠⁠  Receive Sex Tips On The Regular: ⁠⁠https://sexwithemily.com/subscribe⁠⁠  Interested in 1:1 Coaching with Emily? Go to http://sexwithemily.com/coaching to apply! Try the Dame Pom to explore sensation and actually get out of your head during sex: https://shop.sexwithemily.com/swe08 Chapters: 0:00 - What Nobody Taught You About Vaginas1:24 - The Vagina Is Not the Whole Thing — Here's Your Anatomy Refresher3:00 - The Sex Ed We Got Was Basically Useless (And What Was Missing)4:00 - Step 1: Learn the Map — What You're Actually Working With5:30 - Why We've Been Treating Penetration Like the Main Event (And Why That's a Problem)7:00 - What Actually Happens in Your Body When You Become Aroused8:30 - Look at Your Vulva — Yes, With a Mirror. Here's Why It Matters10:30 - We Know Our Skincare Routine Better Than Our Own Pleasure Anatomy12:00 - Step 2: Stop Assuming — There Are No Universal Settings13:30 - The "Starting Gun" Problem: Why Timing Is Everything15:00 - Closing the Tabs: How to Actually Get Fully Present During Sex16:30 - When Your Body Is Telling You Something Needs Attention — Don't Ignore It17:30 - Step 3: Keep Talking — Stop Saving the Conversation for When It Goes Wrong18:30 - The GPS Analogy for Sexual Communication19:45 - What Great Lovers Actually Have in Common Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Try the We-Vibe Nova to explore internal and external stimulation together, no experience necessary: https://bit.ly/wevibenovadual Let's talk about what actually gets in the way of connected, present, pleasurable sex… because it is almost never what you think it is. In this episode I'm taking live listener calls from people who are done settling for sex that feels disconnected, performative, or just plain stuck. A divorced mom of two who spends every sexual encounter watching herself from the outside instead of actually feeling anything. Someone navigating intimacy after leaving a religion that made sex feel like something to be ashamed of. A 19 year old who wants to take control in the bedroom but freezes every time. And more. If you have ever felt like you were in the room but not really there, this episode is going to give you a way back in. ABOUT EMILY:Emily Morse is a Doctor of Human Sexuality, author and host of the #1 rated Sex with Emily podcast. Known as a renowned sexologist, Dr. Emily has helped millions of people around the world navigate their sex lives. Her candid and often funny conversations challenge cultural taboos, misinformation and awkward sex talks to create a future where people can deeply connect and embrace pleasure-filled lives. Because, life is too short for bad sex. CONNECT: Best Sex Ever Tour: https://sexwithemily.com/events Shop With Emily: https://shop.sexwithemily.com Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/sexwithemily/ X: https://twitter.com/sexwithemily Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/sexwithemily TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@sexwithemily Threads: https://www.threads.net/@sexwithemily WANT MORE? Visit the Website: https://sexwithemily.com/ which includes FREE guides. Free Downloadable Guides: https://sexwithemily.com/guides/ Text With Me: https://sexwithemily.com/text Receive Sex Tips On The Regular: https://sexwithemily.com/subscribe Interested in 1:1 Coaching with Emily? Go to http://sexwithemily.com/coaching to apply! Chapters: 0:00 – Cold open: why we don't talk about sex like we talk about everything else2:21 – Caller #1: breaking free from "spectatorship" during sex8:33 – Caller #2: what to do when your partner won't go down on you12:33 – Caller #3: postpartum libido and not enjoying receiving oral17:07 – Caller #4: performance anxiety and disconnecting during sex22:17 – Why focusing on your partner's pleasure can ease performance anxiety25:22 – The trap of people-pleasing in relationships27:07 – Caller #5: how to finally make the first move29:11 – Caller #6: freezing up during a casual hookup33:52 – Healing sexual shame with EMDR therapy37:53 – Caller #7: learning to take control in the bedroom Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Great sex isn’t about finding one perfect moment and trying to recreate it forever. It’s about getting curious about what made that moment feel so good in the first place. In this episode, I’m sharing how to talk with your partner about your best sexual memories without turning it into a complaint meeting. We’re exploring the questions that uncover what really turns each of you on: Was it the flirting all day? Feeling unrushed? The freedom, the anticipation, the way you looked at each other? Those details are the roadmap to creating more desire and connection now. If your sex life feels fine but you want it to feel more alive, connected, and uniquely yours, this episode is for you. ABOUT EMILY: Emily Morse is a Doctor of Human Sexuality, author and host of the #1 rated Sex with Emily podcast. Known as a renowned sexologist, Dr. Emily has helped millions of people around the world navigate their sex lives. Her candid and often funny conversations challenge cultural taboos, misinformation and awkward sex talks to create a future where people can deeply connect and embrace pleasure-filled lives. Because, life is too short for bad sex.` CONNECT WITH EMILY: Best Sex Ever Tour: ⁠⁠https://sexwithemily.com/events⁠⁠  Shop With Emily: ⁠⁠https://shop.sexwithemily.com⁠⁠  Instagram: ⁠⁠https://www.instagram.com/sexwithemily/⁠⁠  X: ⁠⁠https://twitter.com/sexwithemily⁠⁠  Facebook: ⁠⁠https://www.facebook.com/sexwithemily⁠⁠  TikTok: ⁠⁠https://www.tiktok.com/@sexwithemily⁠⁠  Threads: ⁠⁠https://www.threads.net/@sexwithemily⁠⁠  WANT MORE? Visit the Website: ⁠⁠https://sexwithemily.com/⁠⁠ which includes FREE guides. Free Downloadable Guides: ⁠⁠https://sexwithemily.com/guides/⁠⁠  Text With Me: ⁠⁠https://sexwithemily.com/text⁠⁠  Receive Sex Tips On The Regular: ⁠⁠https://sexwithemily.com/subscribe⁠⁠  Try the toy I talk about in the video here: ⁠⁠https://shop.sexwithemily.com/swe07⁠ Chapters:00:00 Cold Open / Welcome to Sex with Emily01:24 Is This It? The Problem With "Fine" Sex02:33 Step 1: Notice What's Actually Happening06:20 Step 2: Name What You Actually Want09:47 Using Toys as Shared Discovery10:48 Step 3: Share It (Timing Matters)11:50 The Postpartum Story: Same Moment, Different Experience14:04 Turn the Complaint Into a Request16:19 Step 4: Experiment Without the Overhaul19:53 The Reset Recap & This Week's Exercise21:47 Closing Thought: Someone Worth Discovering Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Low desire isn’t always about your relationship or something you need to “fix” inside yourself. Sometimes, feeling more connected to your sexuality begins outside the bedroom: with creativity, friendship, novelty, connection, and getting back in touch with the parts of life that make you feel alive. In this episode, I’m talking about why libido is shaped by so much more than sex, how to get curious before diagnosing yourself, and the small ways you can spark eroticism without putting pressure on yourself or your partner. Because a better sex life might not start with another conversation, supplement, or dating app—it might start the moment you step back into the world. If you’ve been feeling disconnected from desire, stuck in a rut, or wondering whether it’s you or your relationship, this episode is for you. #SexWithEmily #EmilyMorse #Monogamy #RelationshipAdvice #Relationships ABOUT EMILY: Emily Morse is a Doctor of Human Sexuality, author and host of the #1 rated Sex with Emily podcast. Known as a renowned sexologist, Dr. Emily has helped millions of people around the world navigate their sex lives. Her candid and often funny conversations challenge cultural taboos, misinformation and awkward sex talks to create a future where people can deeply connect and embrace pleasure-filled lives. Because, life is too short for bad sex. CONNECT WITH EMILY: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/sexwithemily/ X: https://twitter.com/sexwithemily Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/sexwithemily TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@sexwithemily Threads: https://www.threads.net/@sexwithemily WANT MORE? Visit the Website: https://sexwithemily.com/ which includes FREE guides. Free Downloadable Guides: https://sexwithemily.com/guides/ Text With Me: https://sexwithemily.com/text Receive Sex Tips On The Regular: https://sexwithemily.com/subscribe Interested in 1:1 Coaching with Emily? Go to http://sexwithemily.com/coaching to apply! Try Sliquid H2O to keep things comfortable without overthinking whether you're "wet enough": ⁠⁠https://shop.sexwithemily.com/swe06⁠ Chapters:00:00 Cold Open: "Get Uncomfortable"00:17 Welcome to Sex with Emily (+ Tour Dates)01:54 Why Connection Is the Missing Piece03:12 The EV Charging Station Story06:05 Your Environment Shapes You More Than You Realize06:56 The Missing Wellness Pillar: Social Health09:43 What This Has to Do With Sex13:19 Your Body Knows Before Your Brain Does15:28 The 7-Day Challenge: Increase Your Exposure to Life16:35 Listener Q&A: Roommates, Dating Apps & Libido24:34 Today's Message & Outro Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Let's talk about five things that are quietly killing your sex life that have absolutely nothing to do with attraction, technique, or how much you love your partner… because after 20 years of helping people improve their sex lives, I can tell you we are way too quick to assume low desire means something is wrong with us. Sometimes the conditions around your sex life just suck. In this episode I'm giving you five very unsexy tips that can make your sex life a whole lot better, and I promise at least one of them is going to make you go, oh that's exactly us. Fair warning: number three is the one everyone rolls their eyes at. And it's the one that actually works. ABOUT EMILY: Emily Morse is a Doctor of Human Sexuality, author and host of the #1 rated Sex with Emily podcast. Known as a renowned sexologist, Dr. Emily has helped millions of people around the world navigate their sex lives. Her candid and often funny conversations challenge cultural taboos, misinformation and awkward sex talks to create a future where people can deeply connect and embrace pleasure-filled lives. Because, life is too short for bad sex.` CONNECT WITH EMILY: Best Sex Ever Tour: ⁠https://sexwithemily.com/events⁠  Shop With Emily: ⁠https://shop.sexwithemily.com⁠  Instagram: ⁠https://www.instagram.com/sexwithemily/⁠  X: ⁠https://twitter.com/sexwithemily⁠  Facebook: ⁠https://www.facebook.com/sexwithemily⁠  TikTok: ⁠https://www.tiktok.com/@sexwithemily⁠  Threads: ⁠https://www.threads.net/@sexwithemily⁠  WANT MORE? Visit the Website: ⁠https://sexwithemily.com/⁠ which includes FREE guides. Free Downloadable Guides: ⁠https://sexwithemily.com/guides/⁠  Text With Me: ⁠https://sexwithemily.com/text⁠  Receive Sex Tips On The Regular: ⁠https://sexwithemily.com/subscribe⁠  This episode is sponsored by: Bellesa: EVERYONE who signs up wins a FREE Rose suction toy with their order! ⁠https://www.bboutique.co/vibe/emilymorse-podcast⁠ ============================= Chapters:00:00 Cold Open / Welcome to Sex with Emily01:24 Maybe Your Sex Life Doesn't Need Fixing01:48 The Five Unsexy Things Overview02:29 Tip 1: Stop Making Sex the Last Thing on the List05:38 Tip 2: Lube Is Not a Report Card07:54 Tip 3: Put Possibility on the Calendar (Schedule Sex)10:46 Tip 4: Your Sex Life Doesn't Live Outside Your Body12:38 Where to Keep Your Lube (Plus a Product Note)13:21 Tip 5: You Can't Go From Project Manager to Sex Goddess in 30 Seconds16:21 Recap: Pick One Unsexy Thing to Start17:29 Outro & Where to Find More Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

What if the reason you keep having the same fight with your partner isn't that you don't love each other, it's that you're speaking completely different love languages? You may be giving love exactly the way you'd want to receive it, while your partner is waiting for something totally different. In this throwback episode, I'm breaking down the five love languages, acts of service, gift giving, physical touch, quality time, and words of affirmation, and how understanding yours (and your partner's) can help you move through resentment, feel more connected, and bring more intimacy into your relationship. We also get into how each love language can show up sexually, what to do when yours don't match, and simple ways to make your partner actually feel the love you're already trying to give. If you've ever wondered why your efforts don't seem to land, why the same relationship frustrations keep coming back, or how to create more love and better sex without overcomplicating it, this episode is for you. ABOUT EMILY: Emily Morse is a Doctor of Human Sexuality, author and host of the #1 rated Sex with Emily podcast. Known as a renowned sexologist, Dr. Emily has helped millions of people around the world navigate their sex lives. Her candid and often funny conversations challenge cultural taboos, misinformation and awkward sex talks to create a future where people can deeply connect and embrace pleasure-filled lives. Because, life is too short for bad sex. CONNECT WITH EMILY: Best Sex Ever Tour: https://sexwithemily.com/events  Shop With Emily: https://shop.sexwithemily.com  Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/sexwithemily/  X: https://twitter.com/sexwithemily  Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/sexwithemily  TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@sexwithemily  Threads: https://www.threads.net/@sexwithemily  WANT MORE? Visit the Website: https://sexwithemily.com/ which includes FREE guides. Free Downloadable Guides: https://sexwithemily.com/guides/  Text With Me: https://sexwithemily.com/text  Receive Sex Tips On The Regular: https://sexwithemily.com/subscribe  0:00 - What If Love Languages Could Lead to Better Sex?2:42 - The Five Love Languages Explained5:00 - Acts of Service in and Out of the Bedroom9:00 - Gift Giving (and the Sex Act That Falls Under It)13:00 - Physical Touch — Emily Gets Personal18:00 - When Your Partner Doesn't Share Your Love Language22:00 - Quality Time: Being Together vs. Being Present26:00 - Words of Affirmation (Yes, Dirty Talk Counts)28:00 - When You and Your Partner Speak Different Languages32:11 - Love Languages in Long Distance Relationships33:23 - How to Spot Someone's Love Language Without Asking35:18 - How Each Love Language Translates Into Sex37:00 - Caller #1: She Accidentally Shamed His Penis41:00 - Caller #2: Not Attracted to His Girlfriend Anymore Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Let's talk about why initiating sex in your relationship started feeling like a test… because somewhere along the way, that moment of reaching for your partner stopped feeling like closeness and started feeling like a pass-fail question hanging in the air. Am I about to get rejected? Am I going to disappoint them? And when initiation starts to feel that way, both people stop doing it. In this episode I'm giving you five concrete steps to change the whole dynamic, starting with one reframe that makes everything else possible. We're talking about how to read the room before you even reach for your partner, what to say instead of do you want to have sex, how to bridge the gap when one of you has been thinking about it all day and the other just got done folding laundry, and the one response to a no that either builds or destroys trust over time. If you've ever felt guilty for saying no, talked yourself out of initiating, or noticed that the affection in your relationship quietly disappeared along with the sex, this episode is for you. ABOUT EMILY: Emily Morse is a Doctor of Human Sexuality, author and host of the #1 rated Sex with Emily podcast. Known as a renowned sexologist, Dr. Emily has helped millions of people around the world navigate their sex lives. Her candid and often funny conversations challenge cultural taboos, misinformation and awkward sex talks to create a future where people can deeply connect and embrace pleasure-filled lives. Because, life is too short for bad sex. CONNECT: Instagram: ⁠https://www.instagram.com/sexwithemily/⁠ X: ⁠https://twitter.com/sexwithemily⁠ Facebook: ⁠https://www.facebook.com/sexwithemily⁠ TikTok: ⁠https://www.tiktok.com/@sexwithemily⁠ Threads: ⁠https://www.threads.net/@sexwithemily⁠ WANT MORE? Visit the Website: ⁠https://sexwithemily.com/⁠ which includes FREE guides. Free Downloadable Guides: ⁠https://sexwithemily.com/guides/⁠ Text With Me: ⁠https://sexwithemily.com/text⁠ Receive Sex Tips On The Regular: ⁠https://sexwithemily.com/subscribe⁠ Interested in 1:1 Coaching with Emily? Go to ⁠http://sexwithemily.com/coaching⁠ to apply! This episode is sponsored by: Bellesa: EVERYONE who signs up wins a FREE Rose suction toy with their order! ⁠https://www.bboutique.co/vibe/emilymorse-podcast⁠ ============================= Chapters: 00:00 When Initiation Starts to Feel Like a Test 01:20 Meet Dr. Emily & Why Initiation Trips Couples Up 02:08 The Mindset Shift: Invitation, Not Contract 02:28 Reframing Initiation as an Invitation 03:40 The Five-Step Overview 03:55 Step 1: Time the Invitation 04:26 Step 2: Make It an Invitation, Not an Audition 05:34 Step 3: Close the Desire Gap 07:18 Step 4: Ditch the Yes-or-No Trap (Try the 1-10 Scale) 08:48 Step 5: Protect the No 09:59 The Bigger Conversation to Have Outside the Bedroom 10:31 Recap: Building Safety So Desire Can Grow Don't miss a video! Subscribe NOW: https://www.youtube.com/@sexwithemilyofficial?sub_confirmation=1 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Let's talk about the sex skills nobody teaches you and why most people are still waiting for their partner to figure it out instead of just saying it out loud… because that's exactly what today's callers are done doing. In this episode I'm taking live calls from people who are done leaving their pleasure up to chance. We've got a 27 year old who wants to learn how to squirt on her own without relying on anyone to do it for her, a couple who wants to bring others into their play but can't figure out how to find the right people, and a woman whose new partner flat out refused to try to make her orgasm. I promise that last one goes somewhere really good. If you have ever felt like you were the only one carrying the weight of your own pleasure, this episode will change that. ABOUT EMILY: Emily Morse is a Doctor of Human Sexuality, author and host of the #1 rated Sex with Emily podcast. Known as a renowned sexologist, Dr. Emily has helped millions of people around the world navigate their sex lives. Her candid and often funny conversations challenge cultural taboos, misinformation and awkward sex talks to create a future where people can deeply connect and embrace pleasure-filled lives. Because, life is too short for bad sex. CONNECT: Instagram: ⁠https://www.instagram.com/sexwithemily/⁠ X: ⁠https://twitter.com/sexwithemily⁠ Facebook: ⁠https://www.facebook.com/sexwithemily⁠ TikTok: ⁠https://www.tiktok.com/@sexwithemily⁠ Threads: ⁠https://www.threads.net/@sexwithemily⁠ WANT MORE? Visit the Website: ⁠https://sexwithemily.com/⁠ which includes FREE guides. Free Downloadable Guides: ⁠https://sexwithemily.com/guides/⁠ Text With Me: ⁠https://sexwithemily.com/text⁠ Receive Sex Tips On The Regular: ⁠https://sexwithemily.com/subscribe⁠ Interested in 1:1 Coaching with Emily? Go to ⁠http://sexwithemily.com/coaching⁠ to apply! This episode is sponsored by: Bellesa: EVERYONE who signs up wins a FREE Rose suction toy with their order! ⁠https://www.bboutique.co/vibe/emilymorse-podcast⁠ ============================= Chapters: 00:00 Introduction 02:19 Call 1: How Do I Learn to Squirt on My Own 04:30 Squirting vs Orgasm: Are They the Same Thing 06:30 What Actually Helps With Squirting 09:00 Teaching Yourself Before You Teach a Partner 11:30 Call 2: We Want to Open Things Up But Can't Find the Right People 14:00 How to Find Partners for Ethical Non-Monogamy 17:00 The Conversations to Have Before You Start 20:00 Call 3: He Refused to Try to Make Me Orgasm 23:00 What That Tells You About Someone Early On 26:00 Why Talking About Sex Early Saves You So Much Time 29:00 If You're Naked With Someone It's Time to Start Talking 31:00 What Sexually Healthy Actually Means Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

If anal play sounds like something you'd have to grit your teeth through, I want to change your mind about one thing first: a painful first try isn't your body's final answer. It's usually a sign something was rushed, unprepared, or out of your control, not proof this isn't for you. In this episode, I'm walking through my five-step, comfort-first framework for exploring anal: getting a real yes before anything starts, setting yourself up for success, warming your whole body up first, moving in layers instead of straight to penetration, and learning to actually read your body's feedback. I'm also busting a few myths along the way, including the one that penetration is the goal at all. Pleasure, not performance. Let's get into it. ABOUT EMILY: Emily Morse is a Doctor of Human Sexuality, author and host of the #1 rated Sex with Emily podcast. Known as a renowned sexologist, Dr. Emily has helped millions of people around the world navigate their sex lives. Her candid and often funny conversations challenge cultural taboos, misinformation and awkward sex talks to create a future where people can deeply connect and embrace pleasure-filled lives. Because, life is too short for bad sex. CONNECT: Instagram: ⁠https://www.instagram.com/sexwithemily/⁠ X: ⁠https://twitter.com/sexwithemily⁠ Facebook: ⁠https://www.facebook.com/sexwithemily⁠ TikTok: ⁠https://www.tiktok.com/@sexwithemily⁠ Threads: ⁠https://www.threads.net/@sexwithemily⁠ WANT MORE? Visit the Website: ⁠https://sexwithemily.com/⁠ which includes FREE guides. Free Downloadable Guides: ⁠https://sexwithemily.com/guides/⁠ Text With Me: ⁠https://sexwithemily.com/text⁠ Receive Sex Tips On The Regular: ⁠https://sexwithemily.com/subscribe⁠ Interested in 1:1 Coaching with Emily? Go to ⁠http://sexwithemily.com/coaching⁠ to apply! This episode is sponsored by: Bellesa: EVERYONE who signs up wins a FREE Rose suction toy with their order! ⁠https://www.bboutique.co/vibe/emilymorse-podcast⁠ ============================= Chapters: 00:00 Cold Open / Welcome to Sex with Emily 01:24 Why Your First Time May Have Hurt 02:08 The Five Step Framework (Meet Dr. Emily) 02:56 Anal Isn't All or Nothing 03:44 Your Nervous System Is the Real Sex Organ 04:07 The Two Rings of Muscle, Explained 04:49 Step 1: Start With a Real Yes 05:28 The Receiving Partner Is Always in Charge 06:00 Step 2: Set Yourself Up for Success (Hygiene) 06:41 Lube, Toys, and the Pre-Talk 07:17 Step 3: Warm Up Your Whole Body 08:22 Step 4: Move in Layers, Not Pressure 09:59 Step 5: Listen to Your Body and Talk About It 10:51 Busting the Biggest Anal Myths 11:11 Recap: The Five Steps to Try Anal Comfortably 11:58 Outro & Where to Find More Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices