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Have you ever had one of those moments when you just don't feel like you're in sync? Maybe your voice is shaky, you can't find the words that you want to use, and/or your body feels stiff. Join me as I fly solo today and share my tips to help you overcome these no-flow moments! A no-flow moment is when, for whatever reason, your vocal cues, your verbal cues, and your body language are not synchronized, and I share with you how to get back into a synchronized flow! You, for starters, need to be able to recognize that you're having a no-flow moment, and I give you three no-flow moments and what you can do. I walk you through the three different types of no-flow moments – the previously mentioned vocal cues, verbal cues, and non-verbal cues (or body language) – giving examples of each and tips on how to overcome them. These tips include mindful breathing, a verbal fluency test that can help you determine whether or not you're going to experience a verbal no-flow moment, and letting your hands flow rather than clasping them or restricting them. These are all ways that you can help yourself so that your voice, your verbal cues, and your body language are all in sync, and I really hope that these tips are helpful for you! If you have any questions about any of what is discussed in this episode, please feel free to reach out! Show Notes: [0:13] – Deirdre is flying solo today! [1:16] – Today's topic is on overcoming no-flow moments. [1:39] – The first step is to recognize a no-flow moment when it happens. [1:54] – Hear an example of a vocal no-flow moment. [2:26] – Breathing is the best way to overcome a vocal no-flow moment. [3:10] – Deirdre offers an example of a verbal no-flow moment. [4:13] – Learn about a test that will help you anticipate a verbal no-flow moment. [5:33] – The last one is non-verbal cues. [6:13] – Deirdre argues that a lot of our body language is energy. [6:53] – Discover how to combat a no-flow moment related to body language. [7:29] – Reach out to Deirdre if you have any questions for her! CONTACT ME: Website Facebook Twitter LinkedIn Email: [email protected]

Loss of any kind in one’s life is tragic and soul-altering. The grieving process that follows, while painful and difficult, is necessary in order to return to a place where you can live life to the fullest. Someone who knows a lot about this process is Kristine Carlson, the co-author of the book Don’t Sweat the Small Stuff.  Richard Carlson, her late husband, wrote the book and was considered the foremost expert on happiness and stress reduction. Then one day in 2006, he left to go on a trip, and due to a pulmonary embolism, never made it home.  This harrowing experience has forever altered Kristine’s life and her work. It was through the process of her own grieving that she realized how prepared she was despite the sudden nature of her loss. She had the tools to be able to find her way back to a life worth living.  Much of that was due to her late husband’s work and the way they lived their lives together.  What she realized is that most people do not have the same tools and practices to help them through loss of any kind. Now she’s using her experiences to help women all over the world find their way through grief to continue living their lives.  Listen as she shares her story, her work, and most importantly her advice for anyone who is going through any kind of loss. Grief is not limited to loss through death. Any kind of loss can trigger grief. She’s here to help others grieve in a healthy way and find their way past it.  Show Notes: [02:29] Welcome Kristine Carlson. [03:15] Is she best known for Don’t Sweat the Small Stuff?  [04:12] Was the loss of her husband the beginning of her desire to help other women?  [10:12] What would prevent someone from being able to move past their grief?  [13:15] Her recommendations for practicing living in the present moment.  [15:55] Breathwork and yoga, when done every day, can help you become more present.  [18:37] It’s important to pay attention to how you’re feeling.  [19:21] However, don’t isolate yourself in grief. [22:06] Were there any AHA moments as she’s gone through life?  [24:33] It’s important to find your way and figure out how to heal and what you need to heal.  [28:04] A couple of things Richard said to her before he died have stuck with her. [30:17] Her last piece of parting advice.  Links and Resources: Kristine’s Website Kristine’s Books Don’t Sweat the Small Stuff Podcast Facebook | Twitter | Instagram | YouTube | Pinterest FOLLOW ME AT: Website: https://www.deirdrebreakenridge.com/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/DeirdreBreak... Twitter: https://twitter.com/dbreakenridge LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/deirdrebr… Email: [email protected]

So many women believe they’re bad at negotiations because it’s not a skill they’ve ever been successful at building. Not because they haven’t sought out the knowledge and advice, but because the advice they were given was not gender neutral.  That’s right. Negotiation is a highly gendered skill, and that needs to change.  Kathryn Valentine founded Worthmore Negotiations after having a bad experience with negotiations while she was in college. She had an amazing internship where she’d completed her tasks in a fraction of the time allotted. However, when it was time to present her project, she was told that she wasn’t a good fit for the company.  Why? Because she’d tried to negotiate like a man.  This experience led her down the path of researching more about this issue overall. Come to find out, women really do need to negotiate in a different way in order to be heard, respected, and compensated.  Listen as Kathryn shares the three main principles women should keep in mind as they’re negotiating, her 9-step framework for helping her clients become amazing negotiators, and some fantastic resources to get you started.  This is a jam-packed episode filled with thorough research and data as well as actionable strategies to get you going on your negotiation journey. Are you ready to lock in your next big compensation package?  Show Notes: [02:46] What led Kathryn Valentine down this path to helping women with their negotiation skills? [06:13] Negotiation is a highly gendered skill and research shows that the advice women get is holding them back.  [08:03] Learn some of the first steps women can take in order to increase their negotiation skills.  [09:34] The three sources you should use as you’re benchmarking the value of a role.  [12:30] What are some of the most common mistakes women make when they enter that salary and benefits conversation.  [15:29] Do women give up on negotiations too soon?  [17:16] The three main principles of negotiating as a woman.  [20:11] A demonstration of these principles in action.  [21:52] Learn the 9 steps she takes her clients through to help them negotiate better pay and benefits in their jobs.  [27:31] Have there been any impactful moments along the way that have stuck with Kathryn?  [29:25] Kathryn shares one last piece of advice for all of our Women Worldwide community.  [31:07] Connect with Kathryn.  Links and Resources: Worthmore Negotiations Kathryn on LinkedIn FOLLOW ME AT: Website: https://www.deirdrebreakenridge.com/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/DeirdreBreak... Twitter: https://twitter.com/dbreakenridge LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/deirdrebr… Email: [email protected]

Dr. Martha Saunders, the President of the University of West Florida, has worked in higher education for over three decades. She has served in academic leadership roles in Florida, Georgia, Wisconsin, and Mississippi, and is known for her ability to manage and navigate crises.  She credits her ability to help move through tough times to her views on innovative learning and creating cutting-edge academic programs. Higher education is facing some big challenges these days and she’s passionate about creating innovative solutions to deal with them.  Academic leadership was not her first stop on her career journey. She actually started out in communications and helped navigate the waters of creating proper communication channels during crises.  Those years have served her well as she has worked to make UWF one of the top three public schools in all of Florida. Listen as she shares her story, why they were already prepared for an instance like Covid, and what it takes to truly step into innovative learning. Dr. Saunders is a font of knowledge and her views on how to properly prepare for the unknown are unmatched. You won’t want to miss out on this discussion. Show Notes: [02:35] What led Dr. Martha Saunders to academia and innovative learning?  [04:24] How is her university leading the charge in changing learning structures?  [07:14] Dr. Saunders shares how they attract new students with their messaging and culture.  [09:20] Some of the challenges they’ve faced as the narrative shifts around education.  [10:33] Ways they’ve tackled all of the changes brought about by Covid.  [13:24] They were ahead of the game when it came to crisis management due to the nature of their location.  [14:20] Dr. Saunders shares a big AHA moment she had and how it’s helped her in her career.  [16:50] It’s so important to paint a picture for yourself of the outcome you want.  [19:42] What does her work/life balance look like?  [22:16] There will never be perfect balance, but remember to recenter.  [22:51] The things she does to alleviate stress when things pile on. [26:04] How you can raise your level of innovative learning to achieve your passion and goals. [28:14] Connect with Dr. Saunders. Links and Resources: University of West Florida Dr. Saunders’ Biography LinkedIn | Twitter | Facebook  FOLLOW ME AT: Website: https://www.deirdrebreakenridge.com/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/DeirdreBreak... Twitter: https://twitter.com/dbreakenridge LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/deirdrebr… Email: [email protected]

For so many people, finding love is one of the most difficult things they’ve ever done. It makes you wonder, why do some people find love so easily and others have immense trouble? Venus Castleberg, author of Here to Forever: Finally Free to Be Me, joins me to chat about looking for love in all the wrong places, and where she finally found hers.  Venus has spent much of her life jumping from modality to modality, practice to practice looking for something to fix her. What she finally realized was that she was never broken; she simply didn’t love herself. How can you find love with another person if you don’t have love for yourself?  This realization changed so much in her life, her career, and her relationships. She’s now an Access Consciousness Certified Facilitator and coaches others in rediscovering their love for themselves.  Writing Here to Forever: Finally Free to Be Me gave Venus even more insights into her own issues with self-love. It had always been a bucket list item to become an author, but she didn’t realize that the story she needed to tell was her own. As she wrote, rewrote, and rewrote again Here to Forever, she unearthed a love of the negative self-talk that was keeping her stuck.  The adage that we teach what we need to learn has never had more meaning than in the process of writing a memoir.  Listen in to hear Venus’s story and all of the advice she gives around finding love for yourself, within your being. Looking for love in the wrong places happens because you stopped trying to find it in the right one. Within you! Show Notes: [02:09] Learn about Venus and her penchant for looking for love in all the wrong places.  [03:45] Is there a type of relationship that can’t be fixed?  [05:03] How does somebody find the wholeness of themselves?  [06:58] Why do we tend to repeat the same patterns over and over?  [08:54] What did Venus want her readers to know when she wrote her book?  [11:28] Did she ever reach a point while writing that she had to walk away from her story?  [12:41] Venus’s encouragement to anyone who is trying to write a book right now.  [14:01] Learn the tools Venus has used to fall in love with herself.  [15:18] She shares her clairvoyant gifts.  [16:56] What’s Venus’s definition of vulnerability?  [19:29] How does she handle the stress of life and relationships?  [21:34] Ways Venus stays true to herself when things get hard.  [23:33] Her parting advice for everyone who’s trying to find love.  [24:11] Connect with Venus.  Links and Resources: Here to Forever: Finally Free to Be Me by Venus Castleberg Venus’s Website LinkedIn | Facebook | YouTube | Instagram FOLLOW ME AT: Website: https://www.deirdrebreakenridge.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/dbreakenridge/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/DeirdreBreak... Twitter: https://twitter.com/dbreakenridge LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/deirdrebr… Email: [email protected]

Have you ever been faced with a decision that could mean someone lived or died? Jillian Haslam, author of the new book, A Voice Out of Poverty, has faced life-threatening decisions, which kept her younger sister alive. Jillian is an inspiration and her story is one you won’t want to miss. Listen as Jillian shares her inspirational story and learn more about the principles behind her decision-making process. She took those words to heart and when her little sister was born and given only three days to live, she said no. Instead, she took a bowl to tea shops in the area and asked for milk. That one decision saved her sister’s life and now she’s happily married and thriving.  Despite their poverty, her parents were unbelievably giving because no matter what they had they always had room to give.  Growing up around such truly inspirational people helped her to never see the suffering in the situation. Instead, she and her siblings found happiness and joy. She’s now a successful author, speaker, and entrepreneur and her goal is to give back in huge ways.  Jillian is an inspiration and her story is one you won’t want to miss. Listen in to hear all of her advice and the advice of those she’s learned from.  Show Notes: [02:30] Jillian shares her story and the decisions she made as a child that led her here.  [04:55] “Your end is up to you.” - Jillian  [05:51] How do we better trust and tap into our gut instinct?  [09:50] Is any one principle more important than another?  [11:29] What does she want readers to take away from her book when they read?  [13:51] Has she had any lessons learned or aha moments as she’s built her career?  [15:56] Does she have a self-care routine to keep herself balanced and centered?  [18:10] Why isolation leads to depression.  [19:14] As a child, how did she handle the stress of living in poverty?  [22:34] Jillian shares her final bit of advice.  [23:57] Connect with Jillian.  Links and Resources: A Voice Out of Poverty by Jillian Hazlam  Man’s Search for Meaning by Viktor E. Frankl Finding Your Voice - TEDx Talk Jillian’s Website YouTube | LinkedIn | Twitter | Facebook | Instagram FOLLOW ME AT: Website: https://www.deirdrebreakenridge.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/dbreakenridge/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/DeirdreBreak... Twitter: https://twitter.com/dbreakenridge LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/deirdrebr… Email: [email protected]

I was recently chatting with a colleague and she was sharing with me her frustrations because she felt like no one was paying attention. It got me thinking about why that might be. I’m going to impart the knowledge I shared with her here. Let me know, are people listening to you?  First, be fully present when you’re in a meeting or one on one. Think about it, why would someone connect with you if your mind is obviously elsewhere. Be present and focused on the person you’re having a meeting with.  Second, are you stating facts and figures or are you using the data to paint a picture of next steps? Anyone can read from a report. Anyone can read numbers and figures off of a spreadsheet. If you want to be heard, you need to be able to share facts and figures in a way that tells a story.  Next, dig down to the essential information you’re sharing and be sure that’s all you share. You don’t want to jump down into rabbit holes and start providing irrelevant information. That’s a surefire way to lose your audience’s attention.  Lastly, ask yourself, are you a listener? When others are talking, are you focused on them and showing them that you care about what they’re saying? If you’re not listening to others, they won’t listen to you! What are your tips for getting others to listen?  Show Notes: [01:01] Welcome back! It’s time to talk about listening.  [01:24] The inspiration for this episode.  [01:37] Tip number one for getting the people around you to listen.  [02:07] Are you just stating facts and figures or are you creating a story?  [02:48] What is the essential information you’re sharing?  [03:29] Stay away from the rabbit holes.  [03:47] Ask yourself, am I a listener? Links and Resources: FOLLOW ME AT: Website: https://www.deirdrebreakenridge.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/dbreakenridge/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/DeirdreBreak... Twitter: https://twitter.com/dbreakenridge LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/deirdrebr… Email: [email protected]

Maria Brito started her career as an attorney. She grew up in a household that believed the best way to make money was to become a professional. Once she graduated and started working in law, she realized she couldn’t do that work.  She hated every single minute that she spent at the law firm. The final straw came when she had her first child and the thought of going back devastated her.  When she was a kid she was always writing plays and creating exciting new worlds. Maria wanted to be involved in the arts somehow. She started following the art world and figured out exactly what she wanted to do.  Now Maria helps art collectors procure special pieces and consults on how to create art catalogs and more.  Every single time she has made gains in her business or found that something was working, it was when she was leaning into her creativity. Without creativity, progress stops.  Listen as Maria shares her story and why she’s so passionate about helping others find and use their own creativity. Show Notes: [02:05] Welcome Maria Brito to the show and learn how she got started down her path.  [04:53] How she became an entrepreneur.  [07:25] The difference between the art world 13 years ago and now.  [10:01] Why her business has been successful.  [11:52] What skills or traits has she honed to be able to move forward with confidence?  [14:02] Learn how she uses her intuition to make decisions.  [17:57] The biggest takeaways she wants readers to receive when reading her book.  [20:13] How do we find the time to create?  [23:00] “If you stop ideas you stop progressing.” [24:04] Ways she recommends people overcome their creative blocks.  [28:18] Her advice for raising your creative bar.  [31:08] Connect with Maria Links and Resources: How Creativity Rules the World by Maria Brito Maria’s Website Facebook | Instagram | Twitter | Pinterest | LinkedIn FOLLOW ME AT: Website: https://www.deirdrebreakenridge.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/dbreakenridge/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/DeirdreBreak... Twitter: https://twitter.com/dbreakenridge LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/deirdrebr… Email: [email protected]

In this day and age people have trouble being alone with themselves. With social media opening the door into our lives in new and persistent ways, we no longer have the solitary space to just be. Alone time however is necessary for growth, alignment, and joy.  Listen as Rebekah Iliff and I chat about her new book and why having the space to be alone is so important.  Rebekah is an author, speaker, and entrepreneur who has spent a lot of time alone. Between getting married a little later in life to moving frequently, she’s had time to get comfortable with herself. Then she experienced a tragedy and her need for alone time grew.  Through her grief, she authored Champagne For One which is a humorous take on why alone time is a requirement for life. When you sit in silence and spend time with yourself, oftentimes you’ll find answers to questions you’ve been asking yourself for a long time. So, do you feel comfortable when you’re alone? Or do you avoid alone time like? If you’re the latter, listen in as Rebekah shares a few tips on how to get started on finding your comfort. Show Notes: [01:47] Welcome Rebekah Iliff back to the show to share why she wrote her new book.  [04:01] What are some of the top hangups for people today in being alone?  [05:21] The main takeaways she hopes readers get from her book.  [07:46] Does she have a favorite story?  [10:03] When she took time to process her grief, did she have to push back from those in her circle? [12:27] Has Rebekah learned any big lessons as she’s grown in her career?  [15:02] The first steps to take when trying to determine what you love to do.  [17:45] Why the pandemic had people seriously rethinking their lives and careers.  [20:14] What keeps Rebekah inspired when things get tough?  [23:29] Rebekah shares her parting advice for the community.  [25:58] Connect with Rebekah.  Links and Resources: Creativity and Problem Solving Through the Lens of Writing with Rebekah Iliff Rebekah’s Website Champagne For One by Rebekah Iliff Rebekah on Twitter Rebekah on LinkedIn Rebekah on Medium The Untethered Soul by Michael A. Singer FOLLOW ME AT: Website: https://www.deirdrebreakenridge.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/dbreakenridge/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/DeirdreBreak... Twitter: https://twitter.com/dbreakenridge LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/deirdrebr… Email: [email protected]

Have you ever woken up on a Monday and wondered why you’re doing what you’re doing? You dread the day and know there’s something better out there for you? Listen as Anne Benveniste shares how you can transform your career from something that looks good on paper to something that you truly love.  Anne is a former marketing professional turned career coach. After spending years in the field of marketing and realizing she didn’t love it the way she thought she did, Anne started making changes. It wasn’t perfect. In fact, she took a bunch of detours on her road to coaching.  But man is she happy she did. She now helps professionals figure out what their true passion is and how they can make their careers reflect that passion. We’ve all had moments when we felt we needed a change, but so many times we resisted it.  We are chatting all about the reasons people are looking for a career change, what keeps them stuck, and why you’ll never look back when you finally work in the realm of your passion and genius. Anne has so many amazing tips. Listen in to hear them all.  Show Notes: [02:57] Why and how did Anne Benveniste make the pivot to launch The Career Studio?  [05:33] What are some of the starting steps to make changes in your career?  [08:04] Does our current lifestyle prevent us from making big changes?  [10:38] You have to own who you are and what matters to you.  [11:56] Is complacency one of the issues she runs into when it comes to coaching her clients?  [13:37] One of the aha moments that changed Anne’s career.  [16:33] Which generation does she find herself working with the most?  [20:16] Anne shares her parting advice for the community.  [21:34] Connect with Anne.  Links and Resources: The Career Studio Anne on LinkedIn FOLLOW ME AT: Website: https://www.deirdrebreakenridge.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/dbreakenridge/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/DeirdreBreak... Twitter: https://twitter.com/dbreakenridge LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/deirdrebr… Email: [email protected]

It’s a new year and for many of us, we’re looking to make this year the most profitable and successful ever. But how do we do that? What do we do differently to create different results from years prior? Joining me to chat all about prosperity and success is Samantha Varner. Samantha focuses on helping other women find success and consistent profit in their businesses. She founded She Collective in 2018 to serve female entrepreneurs as a profit coach and money-making business creator.  It wasn’t until she had to move three times, to three different countries, in quick succession that she realized the value of having and building her own business. Rather than having to obtain accreditation every single time she moved, her business would move and grow with her.  Listen as she shares why she’s so passionate about helping women find and own their financial independence. It all starts with becoming financially aware and the first step to awareness is knowledge. Learn how to track your finances in a way that isn’t burdensome and allows you to make sound financial decisions in your business and life.  Are you ready to find prosperity and success this year?  Show Notes: [01:45] Welcome back and get ready to learn about profitability from Samantha Varner.  [03:08] How did she get to the point of launching her business to help women in leadership?  [05:47] Did her background help her form her business and get it out there? [07:28] What blocks women from their prosperity?  [10:53] How do you become more financially aware?  [12:22] Learn the steps to creating consistent profitability.  [14:42] Has she had any AHA or UH OH moments that stuck with her?  [14:39] What inspires her to keep going and keep helping others? [20:38] Does she ever feel stressed or have to overcome challenges?  [23:17] Samantha shares what you can do to find your prosperity this year.  [24:40] Connect with Samantha.   Links and Resources: She Collective She Needs Grit Podcast Instagram Facebook YouTube FOLLOW ME AT: Website: https://www.deirdrebreakenridge.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/dbreakenridge/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/DeirdreBreak... Twitter: https://twitter.com/dbreakenridge LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/deirdrebr… Email: [email protected]

Have you ever had a perfect moment on stage or during a meeting where you just felt “on”? Everything you said came out perfectly, you felt comfortable and calm, and you were connecting with your audience? You were in your communications flow.  Listen as I share three techniques to help you get into your flow more quickly.  Everything starts with breath. Not just any breathing. The deep, rhythmic breaths that you take from your diaphragm. This type of breathing will help you calm any nerves and get your body ready to perform.  Next, you’ll want to visualize your perfect presentation. Imagine yourself in front of your audience, presenting your information. Imagine it going perfectly. Imagine yourself truly rocking your presentation. If you can visualize it, then your brain will believe it to be true which helps that perfect moment come to fruition.  Lastly, you want your words to connect with your body language. This means you need to channel your energy into your arms and hands so that you can better paint a picture for your audience. On stage body language is key to having an amazing presentation.  Getting into your communications flow faster means having less awkward build-up as you get into the rhythm of your presentation. You’ll start off strong which will help your audience trust you more quickly and take away more from their time with you. Show Notes: [01:27] Do you know when you’re in your communications flow?  [02:52] Getting into your flow starts with proper breathing.  [03:48] Then you want to start visualizing the perfect communication moment.  [05:07] You’ll then want your words to connect with your body language. Which means channeling energy.  [06:58] Getting in flow means you’re calm and relaxed and these techniques will help you.  Links and Resources: FOLLOW ME AT: Website: https://www.deirdrebreakenridge.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/dbreakenridge/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/DeirdreBreak... Twitter: https://twitter.com/dbreakenridge LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/deirdrebr… Email: [email protected]