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If the apps have cost you confidence rather than dates, this one explains why. Scott McKay has coached men since 2005 and met his wife on Match.com twenty years ago, back when online dating actually worked. He's not anti-app , his point is that the feedback the apps gave you was never real data about you. Here's what happened. Around 2011, the correct advice was to swipe on everyone and sort it out later. So women opened the app to hundreds of likes from men who had never read their profile. She read that as hundreds of men choosing her, picked ten, and waited. Those ten never answered — they'd swiped on everyone too. You swiped on eighty women, heard nothing, and concluded something was wrong with you. Both sides were reading the same broken meter. We get into AI-generated photos, why the Hinge founder quit his own app, and what Scott tells a guy who's deleting the apps this week - including why, after almost two decades of taking men out to talk to strangers, he has never once seen the rejection scene every guy is afraid of. ─────────────────────────── Free Dating Protocol: https://www.innerconfidence.com/ Book a call with Robbie: https://www.innerconfidence.com/community Guest: Scott McKay - https://www.mountaintoppodcast.com/ ─────────────────────────── Connect with Robbie: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/robbie_kramer/ TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@robbie.kramer YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/innerconfidence

Have you ever read a dating book, felt fired up for a week, then noticed nothing actually changed? Or you've got a shelf full of self-help books and the same results you had three years ago. One of the guys in my community asked for an updated five-book list, so here are the five I'd hand a guy today — and why the order matters more than the list. He put it best: when he first met me, he was trying to put icing on a s****y cake. Most guys want the texting rules and the date protocol right now. But if the cake underneath is bad, she tastes the cake eventually. Beliefs, then the market, then purpose, then where your hope comes from, then execution. Plus a bonus book that has nothing to do with women, and how to use the list without turning reading into procrastination. If you're looking for a book on opening lines, this isn't it. ─────────────────────────── Free Dating Protocol: https://www.innerconfidence.com/ Book a call with Robbie: https://www.innerconfidence.com/community ─────────────────────────── Connect with Robbie: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/robbie_kramer/ TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@robbie.kramer YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/innerconfidence

Have you ever felt like there's one thing about you that you can't change, your height, your race, your face, your age and that it's the reason none of this is working? My guest is JT Tran, the Asian Playboy. Former aerospace engineer, 5'4", and coaching men for over 20 years. When he moved to LA, eHarmony refunded his membership because they couldn't find him a single match. At speed dating he ticked yes on every woman in the room and still got zero back. We get into the Toronto students who swore women were racist against them, until it turned out to be a resting face that looked angry and a broke-student wardrobe. Plus why the best opener in the world fails if you don't believe it, how to turn an insecurity into your opener, and why having no women in your life is usually a symptom rather than the problem. If you've built your whole understanding of dating around one thing you can't change, this one's for you. ─────────────────────────── Connect with JT Tran: Website: https://www.theabcsofattraction.com ─────────────────────────── Free Dating Protocol: https://www.innerconfidence.com/ Book a call with Robbie: https://www.innerconfidence.com/community ─────────────────────────── Connect with Robbie: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/robbie_kramer/ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/innerconfidence TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@robbie.kramer

Most dating advice tells you to keep female friends at arm's length. Don't get too close, don't be too available, don't become her emotional support guy. Some of that is real, the friend zone exists. But that advice conflates two completely different things: orbiting a girl you're attracted to while doing her emotional labor, and actually having real female friends who are part of your social world. I break down the four things genuine female friendships give you - social proof, warm introductions worth ten to fifty cold approaches, access you can't manufacture alone, and honest feedback you'll never get from women you're trying to impress. Plus how to be a cool friend without becoming a therapist, and a client story showing what changed over six months. If cold approach and the apps feel like grinding, this one gives you a different lens. ─────────────────────────── Free Dating Protocol: https://www.innerconfidence.com/ Book a call with Robbie: https://www.innerconfidence.com/community ─────────────────────────── Connect with Robbie: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/robbie_kramer/ TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@robbie.kramer YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/innerconfidence

I've got a client worth over $15 million who was seriously looking into leg lengthening surgery over one OnlyFans girl. My guest Dean Raymond's take: that's just a belief and once a guy holds a belief like that, his brain filters out every piece of evidence that says otherwise. Dean is 45, from a small village in the south of England, and was pushing 265 pounds at his heaviest. Natural introvert, shy, socially awkward. He ranks what makes a man attractive like this: emotional state first, then confidence and self-belief, then charisma, and last, game skill. Most guys work that list backwards and wonder why nothing moves. We get into the guy with the perfect Instagram who turns out to be the biggest anti-climax of her life, why going out specifically to do day game puts you in the worst headspace to approach anyone, and why Dean still approaches at 45 in Spain, Miami, and Amsterdam. If you've been fixing your photos and your jawline and still can't get a second date, this one's going to sting a little. ─────────────────────────── Connect with Dean Raymond: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/dean_raymond_dating/ ─────────────────────────── Free Dating Protocol: https://www.innerconfidence.com/ Book a call with Robbie: https://www.innerconfidence.com/community ─────────────────────────── Connect with Robbie: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/robbie_kramer/ TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@robbie.kramer YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/innerconfidence

Most guys who keep getting friend zoned think the problem is they're too nice. It's not. The problem is they're running the wrong business model - they're brokers.A broker makes himself useful, available, and helpful. He says yes to everything. And the moment she doesn't need what he's offering, he's gone. I break down the three forms of brokering that kill attraction, the three shifts that turn a broker into a product - a man women actually want to invest in and a real client story that shows exactly what the change looks like.If you've been doing everything right and still can't figure out why it doesn't translate into attraction, this one's for you. ─────────────────────────── Free Dating Protocol: https://www.innerconfidence.com/ Book a call with Robbie: https://www.innerconfidence.com/community ─────────────────────────── Connect with Robbie: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/robbie_kramer/ TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@robbie.kramer YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/innerconfidence

"Red pill cuck cope."That's the phrase my guest dropped halfway through this conversation and I haven't stopped thinking about it since.A girl doesn't write you back and you go looking for the reason why. And the reason you land on is always something you can't change. She only dates guys over six feet. There's no good women left in this city.It feels like analysis. What you're actually building is the exact excuse that stops you from talking to the next girl you see.My guest is Joe Ducard. At his heaviest he was just under 350 pounds, 19 years old, been with one girl in his life. He found this stuff while he was still that big, lost over 100 pounds, made Master Instructor at Love Systems, and has run his own coaching company for over a decade.We get into why his best friend is convinced women won't date guys under six feet, the one drop of poison principle for guarding your mindset, why you should never ask a girl why it didn't work out, why making guy friends right now is harder than getting dates, and the client who showed up with a 40-item checklist from another coach.If you've been consuming a ton of dating content and somehow feeling worse about your chances instead of better — this one's for you.───────────────────────────Connect with Joe: https://meetmoregirls.com ─────────────────────────── Free Dating Protocol: https://www.innerconfidence.com/ Book a call with Robbie: https://www.innerconfidence.com/community ─────────────────────────── Connect with Robbie: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/robbie_kramer/ TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@robbie.kramer YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/innerconfidence

Most men are playing their dating lives like a lottery. They buy a ticket, they wait. And if it doesn't hit, they tell themselves the game is rigged.Smart men play it like poker. And the difference between those two things is the difference between a guy who's been stuck for years and a guy who's actually improving his results every single month.In this episode I break down the 4 concepts every analytical guy needs to internalize - why volume is the only way to get real data, why cold approach, social circle and Instagram each run on completely different math, why your dating life is a funnel you need to find the leak in, and why small edges compound into massive results over time. Plus the stories of Jake and Ryan - two guys, two different tables, same principle.The lottery player waits for his number to come up. The poker player makes good decisions, tracks what's working, and lets the math do the rest. ─────────────────────────── Free Dating Protocol: https://www.innerconfidence.com/ Book a call with Robbie: https://www.innerconfidence.com/community ─────────────────────────── Connect with Robbie: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/robbie_kramer/ TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@robbie.kramer YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/innerconfidence

Every man is paying for his dating life right now. Most of them just don't know it.I hear this constantly from guys on the fence about investing real time and energy into getting good with women. "I can't afford it." "I don't know if it's worth it."I get the hesitation. But doing nothing isn't free. It just means you're paying a different way and you might be paying a whole lot more.In this episode I break down the 4 currencies every man spends on his dating life whether he knows it or not: time, pain, money spent compensating for no game, and the decisions you make from scarcity. Plus the story of Marcus, who spent 8 months and $3,000 figuring it out alone and came out less confident than when he started.There is no free option. You're already paying. The only question is whether you're getting anything back for it. ─────────────────────────── Free Dating Protocol: https://www.innerconfidence.com/ Book a call with Robbie: https://www.innerconfidence.com/community ─────────────────────────── Connect with Robbie: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/robbie_kramer/ TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@robbie.kramer YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/innerconfidence

Have you ever been in a conversation with a girl you like, things were going okay, and then you just ran out of things to say? The words dried up and you're standing there in the mental panic spiral trying to come up with anything to keep it going.Meanwhile some other guy has an endless supply of stories and jokes and he's effortless with it. And you're thinking, how does he just have that on demand?Here's the truth. That guy isn't naturally charming. He built a database. And you can too.In this episode I break down what the conversation database actually is, why treating conversation like improv is destroying you, and the 4 ways to build your own, stealing from people cooler than you, living a life worth recalling, running your best stories until they're automatic, and building callbacks from real interactions.The guy you think was born charming wasn't. He just has a bigger database. And you can start building yours right now. ─────────────────────────── Free Dating Protocol: https://www.innerconfidence.com/ Book a call with Robbie: https://www.innerconfidence.com/community ─────────────────────────── Connect with Robbie: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/robbie_kramer/ TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@robbie.kramer YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/innerconfidence

She was texting you every day, making plans, laughing at everything you sent. And then, nothing. One word replies. Something shifted and you have no idea what it was. Here's the problem. Almost everything men do at this exact moment makes every possible version of this situation worse. There are really only 2 reasons this actually happens, and one of them nobody wants to say out loud. In this episode I break down the two most common reactions men have and why both tank you, the two real reasons a girl goes cold and how to tell which one you're in, the difference between going silent and actually icing her, and the only re-engagement move that works either way. Her going cold is never the real test. Your reaction to it is. ─────────────────────────── Free Dating Protocol: https://www.innerconfidence.com/ Book a call with Robbie: https://www.innerconfidence.com/community ─────────────────────────── Connect with Robbie: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/robbie_kramer/ TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@robbie.kramer YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/innerconfidence

Have you ever put in real work - actual approaches, actual reps, real results and then wondered if this is just what it looks like forever? Or maybe you've got a solid social circle, you're around attractive women, and you're still going home alone most weekends. If either sounds familiar, there's a conversation we need to have about the 2 phases of this game. Most guys only ever figure out one. In this episode I break down what hunting and farming actually mean, why skipping hunting turns you into an orbiter in your own social circle, what the hunting phase builds that nothing else can, the story of George who went from committed day gamer to a social life where cold approach became optional, and the 4X multiplier framework that ties it all together. The goal isn't to become the best cold approacher on the street. It's to build a world where cold approaching is optional. ─────────────────────────── Free Dating Protocol: https://www.innerconfidence.com/ Book a call with Robbie: https://www.innerconfidence.com/community ─────────────────────────── Connect with Robbie: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/robbie_kramer/ TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@robbie.kramer YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/innerconfidence ─────────────── Free Dating Protocol (link at bottom of the page) : https://www.innerconfidence.com/ Book a call with Robbie: https://www.innerconfidence.com/community ─────────────────────────── Connect with Robbie: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/robbie_kramer/ TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@robbie.kramer YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/innerconfidence

Most guys are trying to solve their dating life as an individual problem. Better approaches. Better texts.Better profile. Better conversation. That stuff matters. But there's a ceiling on it that most guys hit and can't explain. Because the guys who actually live the life solved a completely different problem. They built an ecosystem. I just got back from Bogota, Colombia. Five days. Four nights. Four after parties. Real social circle. Real funnel. Real results. In this episode I break down exactly what happened, what it revealed about each man in the room, and the 6 key lessons that map directly onto what most guys are missing including why your environment is doing more coaching than you think, why the men around you determine your ceiling, and what honestexternal feedback actually looks like at this level. This is not for guys starting from zero.This is for the guy who has done the work and still feels like something is missing. ─────────────── Free Dating Protocol (link at bottom of the page) : https://www.innerconfidence.com/ Book a call with Robbie: https://www.innerconfidence.com/community ─────────────────────────── Connect with Robbie: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/robbie_kramer/ TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@robbie.kramer YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/innerconfidence

Six feet. Six figures. Six pack. Only 1% of men in the US actually hit all three at the same time. So either 99% of men are completely undateable or something about this whole conversation is being seriously misunderstood. In this episode I break down what the 666 standard actually reveals, why social media made it louder but didn't create it, what women say they want versus what they actually respond to in real life, why dating apps are the one place this filter has maximum power, and how social gravity beats every metric the algorithm could ever measure. This is not for the guy looking for permission to quit dating. This is for the guy who wants an honest take and something real to do about it. ─────────────── Free Dating Protocol (link at bottom of the page) : https://www.innerconfidence.com/ Book a call with Robbie: https://www.innerconfidence.com/community ─────────────────────────── Connect with Robbie: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/robbie_kramer/ TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@robbie.kramer YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/innerconfidence

If you're in a situationship right now, you put yourself there. Not on purpose. Not because you're a bad guy. But somewhere along the way your actions started writing a contract you never meant to sign. In this episode I break down exactly why this keeps happening, the two completely different situations men find themselves in, and what to actually do about each one without losing leverage or looking like the needy one. I cover why your behavior is always louder than your words, the core dynamic of who controls what in dating, the fix for both situations, the only time a man should ever bring up commitment, and the advanced move, say less and communicate through behavior. You can't act like someone's boyfriend and then be surprised when she thinks you're her boyfriend. ─────────────── Free Dating Protocol (link at bottom of the page) : https://www.innerconfidence.com/ Book a call with Robbie: https://www.innerconfidence.com/community ─────────────────────────── Connect with Robbie: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/robbie_kramer/ TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@robbie.kramer YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/innerconfidence