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Christi introduces a phrase God gave her in prayer for what it means to grow into fullness of life as a woman, wife, and mother—tender and fierce. In this episode, she defines both words, describes their function, and talks about how we can reclaim tenderness where we lost it and fierceness where it’s gone sideways. Christi also talks about why tenderness is critical for loving others but has become rare in today’s world, and how we can embrace fierceness not as a weapon, but as a gift to love others and ourselves. What does it mean to be tender & fierce? What is the structure of her new group coaching program? We talk about this and more in this episode. All of the information about Tender & Fierce can be found by clicking here or visiting www.famousathome.com/tenderandfierce Show Notes: Ladies, sign up for Tender & Fierce Group Coaching Cohort with Christi! Begins April 1, 2024: https://www.famousathome.com/tenderandfierce The MyKidsEQ Coaching Cohort launches March 4! Get first 8 weeks of KidsEQAcademy curriculum. Sign up here: https://www.famousathome.com/offers/7izP4Puk/checkout Watch this episode on Youtube: https://youtu.be/ROWDc1UbeSY

Christi is back this week! Not only that, we have a new “studio” (check it out on Youtube). This week, Christi and I (Josh) sit down and talk about the lessons we’ve learned since God told us to “jump” last year and sell our house. The last six months have been a wild adventure. At first, we thought we’d be RV’ing the country. But, as God would have it, a different path was laid out before us. And on that path came lessons we may never have learned if we hadn't obeyed and jumped. In this episode, we talk about where we are now, why we pivoted, and the lessons we’re learning. God uniquely walks with each of us. We hope this episode is an encouragement to you that not only is He indeed walking alongside your family, but that He delights in it! We just have to be willing to listen and say yes. Show Notes: The MyKidsEQ Coaching Cohort launches March 4! Get first 8 weeks of KidsEQAcademy curriculum. Sign up here: https://www.famousathome.com/offers/7izP4Puk/checkout Ladies, sign up for Tender & Fierce Group Coaching Cohort with Christi! Begins April 1, 2024: https://www.famousathome.com/tenderandfierce Watch this episode on Youtube: https://youtu.be/ZFhonjE82M8

Dr. Gary Oliver is a modern day Job. Though he holds some titles (theologian, psychologist, therapist), he is a Christ follower at heart, leading men and women into deeper walks with Jesus through Going Deeper Retreats. This episode is like free admission into a mastermind on life’s secrets to finding joy, coming from a man who’s lived through unbelievable loss and heartache. In the span of four years, Gary lost his entire nuclear family and half of his current family. If that weren’t enough, he battled 7 cancer surgeries during that time, lost 90% of his tongue, was told he’d never speak again, eat from a feeding tube, and was even told he had less than 3 months to live by one of the nation’s top cancer doctors. That was 13 years ago. What Gary discovered after years of serving God all over the world, writing books, and speaking to millions of men, was that God’s sovereign joy, in the moment, is what truly matters. He joins us this week to reveal beautiful, hard-earned lessons, to experience God’s joy every day, no matter our circumstances. Two of Gary’s quotes from this episode: ⁃ “I don’t [seek God] to get something, but to obey.” ⁃ “God’s promises are always more powerful than Satan’s pessimism.” In this episode, Gary talks about:
 How he had to answer the questions, “Have I failed God?” and “Why would He do this to me?”How to seek God and experience His joy even when you’re raising little kids!The four lessons he learned about sovereign joy that we can practice, beginning todayInsights on what a rule of life is, how to practice gratitude, and the best book of the Bible for everyday readingShow Notes: To learn more about Going Deeper Retreats for both men and women, click here. https://www.goingdeeper.org/ Listen to Dr. Oliver’s message called Sovereign Joy by clicking here. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=QS8V0JXxfQ8 Gentlemen, apply now for The Leader's Heart Men's Cohort, Feb. 26-29, 2023: https://www.famousathome.com/theleadersheart The MyKidsEQ Coaching Cohort launches March 4! Get first 8 weeks of KidsEQAcademy curriculum. Sign up here: https://www.famousathome.com/offers/7izP4Puk/checkout Ladies, sign up for Tender & Fierce Group Coaching Cohort with Christi! Begins April 1, 2024: https://www.famousathome.com/tenderandfierce

In 2011, Pastor Davey Blackburn moved from South Carolina to Indiana to plant a church with his wife, Amanda. By late 2015, coming back from a staff retreat, Davey and Amanda were feeling encouraged and seeing the church beginning to establish roots. A few days after that retreat, Amanda, who was also pregnant with their second child, was caught up in a home invasion and shot three times. Their son, Weston, who was in his crib at the time of the invasion, was left unharmed. Unfortunately, Amanda died the next day, four years to the day they planted the church. The details of how God showed up, and what emerged out of the pain, was remarkable. Davey joins the show this week to discuss the trauma he endured, his journey toward healing, and how his newly blended family prioritizes being famous at home. What came out of his story is a ministry called Nothing is Wasted. He shares how this ministry began and the purpose behind it: Helping people partner with God to take back their story to find purpose in their pain. They match people all over the globe with someone who also went through a similar pain. In this episode, Davey talks about:
 His own grief journey following the murder of his wife and unborn childHow to walk through our own trauma and how Jesus shows up in the middle of our storyWhat he means by “running towards the roar”Why not to look at triggers as the villain, but an invitation by God into deeper healingHow he and his wife Kristi blended their familiesHow they parent through the lens of, “Is this a trauma response,” or “Is this normal childlike behavior?”Show Notes: Text NIW to 66866 for a teaser of the Pain to Purpose devotional Check out the Nothing is Wasted podcast and coaching resources: https://www.nothingiswasted.com/ The MyKidsEQ Coaching Cohort launches March 4! Get first 8 weeks of KidsEQAcademy curriculum. Sign up here: https://www.famousathome.com/offers/7izP4Puk/checkout Ladies, sign up for Tender & Fierce Group Coaching Cohort with Christi! Begins April 1, 2024: https://www.famousathome.com/tenderandfierce Order a copy of Famous at Home by Dr. Josh and Christi: https://amzn.to/3y1jJFz Apply now for The Leader's Heart Men's Cohort, Feb. 26-29, 2024: https://www.famousathome.com/theleadersheart Watch this episode on Youtube: https://youtu.be/9DfMUdsy71o

In our fast-paced Western culture, it’s too easy to run to the next “thing” and dismiss the meaning of the previous activity, event, or season. But is this healthy for our souls? Take breastfeeding, for example. Or sending your kids off to kindergarten. Or for your kids, leaving their grandparent's house after an extended vacation. Perhaps moving to a new house. Every one of these moments are beautiful, but also have an end, a transition that includes a goodbye. In this episode, theologian and professor Amy Davis Abdallah joins us to provide a framework for putting meaning to all of the life transitions we experience on a daily, weekly, monthly, and yearly basis. The author of Meaning in the Moment: How Rituals Help Us Move Through Joy, Pain, and Everything in Between, Abdallah describes how rituals can shape our family and form the hearts of our kids. In this episode, Amy describes: The meaning and purpose of a ritualHow we’ve embraced cultural rituals, yet rarely think of them for our own lives Simple ways you can create rituals for your kids to honor life transitionsHow simple rituals can help us hold grief and joy at the same timeShow Notes: Order a copy of Meaning in the Moment by Amy F. Davis Abdallah https://amzn.to/3UbfNi7 Gentlemen, apply now for The Leader's Heart Men's Cohort, Feb. 26-29, 2023: https://www.famousathome.com/theleadersheart The MyKidsEQ Coaching Cohort launches March 4! Get first 8 weeks of KidsEQAcademy curriculum. Sign up here: https://www.famousathome.com/offers/7izP4Puk/checkout Ladies, sign up for Tender & Fierce Group Coaching Cohort with Christi! Begins April 1, 2024: https://www.famousathome.com/tenderandfierce Order a copy of Famous at Home by Dr. Josh and Christi: https://amzn.to/3y1jJFz

This episode has so much purpose, content, and hope for families. It could even serve as a homeschooling study for your kids. Jordan Raynor says, “Most Christians spend more time thinking about a one-week vacation than they do thinking about eternity…but it inevitably will lead us to settle for these wishy-washy half-truths about heaven.” Raynor goes on to explain, “Here’s why it matters we as adults and parents get this (truths about heaven) right. If we get this right, our kids’ hope for the future will be so much more real and so much more concrete, and their purpose in the present will become so much richer.” If you want a theological education for your kids as it relates to finding their purpose, this episode is absolute gold. If you’re struggling with whether your work has eternal impact, this episode is for you. If you’re looking for a biblical framework for how to set a family vision for building for the Kingdom of God, Raynor provides the path forward. In Jordan’s new book, The Sacredness of Secular Work: 4 Ways Your Job Matters (Even When You’re Not Sharing the Gospel), Raynor defines the terms sacred and secular and why it matters for us, and our children, to understand them. In our conversation, he addresses parents and kids through this lens and cites Charles Spurgeon, who once said, “For the Christian, nothing is secular, and everything is sacred.” Raynor encourages us: “Imagine the freedom if every child understood that when the Holy Spirit is in them, everywhere they go is sacred.” Here are some hot topics we discuss: Your life and work are a vehicle for bringing God eternal pleasureYour life and work matter for eternity because it’s how we earn rewards and eternal treasuresYour life and work matter because through them you scratch off the thin veil between heaven and earthHow you can leverage your life and work to the instrumental end of making disciplesShow Notes: Order a copy of The Sacredness of Secular Work by Jordan Raynor: https://amzn.to/3Sngaor Gentlemen, apply now for The Leader's Heart Men's Cohort, Feb. 26-29, 2023: https://www.famousathome.com/theleadersheart The MyKidsEQ Coaching Cohort launches March 4! Get first 8 weeks of KidsEQAcademy curriculum. Sign up here: https://www.famousathome.com/offers/7izP4Puk/checkout Ladies, sign up for Tender & Fierce Group Coaching Cohort with Christi! Begins April 1, 2024: https://www.famousathome.com/tenderandfierce Order a copy of Famous at Home by Dr. Josh and Christi: https://amzn.to/3y1jJFz Watch this episode on Youtube: https://youtu.be/luYGDw6oExM

We live such busy lives that we rarely take the time to evaluate how our kids are experiencing us, their parents, in the environment of our homes. In this episode, our two oldest kids join me (Josh), as I ask them questions about how they experience our parenting. As you listen, our hope isn't that you focus on the content as much as you do the essence of the conversation, so that you, too, can take its format and implement it with your own kids to see what you learn about they experience you. Here are some highlights: Our kids share where they see us doing well as parentsOur kids share where they see we could be doing betterWe also talk about Straub family rhythms, our current stressors, and insights into our weekly family meetingOur kids share with us what they most need from us as parentsBeyond the content of this episode, take the essence of it with you to ask similar questions of your own kids Show Notes: Apply now for The Leader's Heart Men's Cohort, Feb. 26-29, 2023! https://www.famousathome.com/theleadersheart The MyKidsEQ Spring 2024 Cohort launches March 4! Sign up here: https://www.famousathome.com/offers/7izP4Puk/checkout Interested in group coaching with Christi? Click here for interest form: https://www.famousathome.com/groupcoachinginterest Order a copy of Famous at Home by Dr. Josh and Christi: https://amzn.to/3y1jJFz Order a copy of Imagine Heaven by John Burke: https://amzn.to/3Hkdf9U

In loving memory of our dear friend, mentor, and father figure, Bill Lokey, we're concluding our 4-part series on the Heart of Leadership (originally recorded in 2020). When we lead, we influence the culture. Whether the culture you're cultivating is at home with your kids, or it's at work, how you show up has a ripple effect on the environment around you. Bill Lokey joins Josh for the final episode in our 4-part series on the Heart of Leadership to talk about the heart of your environment: at home and at work. In part 4, Bill and Josh talk about:The game of spiritual mathematics in relationshipsWhy healthy culture starts with understandingHow we can enter into the stories of those we lead and loveThe multiplying power of making our world smallerWays to cultivate healthy culture both at home and work Show Notes: Apply now for The Leader's Heart Men's Cohort, Feb. 26-29, 2023! https://www.famousathome.com/theleadersheart Sign up for MyKidsEQ Winter Cohort: https://www.famousathome.com/offers/7izP4Puk/checkout Interested in group coaching with Christi? Click here for interest form: https://www.famousathome.com/groupcoachinginterest Order a copy of Famous at Home by Dr. Josh and Christi: https://amzn.to/3y1jJFz

In loving memory of our friend, mentor, and father figure, Bill Lokey, we're in the middle of a four-part series, recorded in 2020, where Bill shares insights on leadership, connection, and trauma. In part 3 of our 4-part series, Bill talks about how trauma influences our heart, soul, and how we lead. Here are some highlights: Why we tend to feel like impostersThe definition of trauma and how it shows up in how we act toward othersThe subtle traumas we may have never labeled as suchHow trauma influences our relationshipsWhy we tend to medicate our trauma and what we use to medicateThe power of feelings in healing the pain from our pastWhy it's so difficult for us to face shame and trauma as an adultPractical ways to face our trauma and show up for those we leadShow Notes: Apply now for The Leader's Heart Men's Cohort, Feb. 26-29, 2023! https://www.famousathome.com/theleadersheart Sign up for MyKidsEQ Winter Cohort: https://www.famousathome.com/offers/7izP4Puk/checkout Interested in group coaching with Christi? Click here for interest form: https://www.famousathome.com/groupcoachinginterest Order a copy of Famous at Home by Dr. Josh and Christi: https://amzn.to/3y1jJFz

In loving memory of our friend, mentor, and father figure, Bill Lokey, we're releasing this four-part series, recorded in 2020, to share with you again Bill's insights on leadership, connection, and trauma. Bill joins Josh for part 2 of our 4-part series, and this week, we talk about something we all tend to struggle with: meaningful connection and how we show up with those we love. In part 2, Josh and Bill talk about: The barriers to meaningful connection and how we can overcome themShame as a bad motivator for changeHow to silence shame so we can connect deeply with othersHow self-medicators keep us from intimacyWhat it feels like to spend time with someone who really likes youHow to show up for someone you really like spending time withSpiritual disciplines for meaningful connection with GodShow Notes: Apply now for The Leader's Heart Men's Cohort, Feb. 26-29, 2023! https://www.famousathome.com/theleadersheart Sign up for MyKidsEQ Winter Cohort: https://www.famousathome.com/offers/7izP4Puk/checkout Interested in group coaching with Christi? Click here for interest form: https://www.famousathome.com/groupcoachinginterest Order a copy of Famous at Home by Dr. Josh and Christi: https://amzn.to/3y1jJFz

This past year we lost one of our dearest friends and mentors, Bill Lokey. As we close out the year, we were listening back to some of his wisdom and gold nuggets and thought it would be a tremendous gift to re-release a series we did together in 2020. He was a gift to us, and his insights, wisdom, and influence will continue to echo across generations, no doubt. In his honor, we're releasing this four-part series, recorded in 2020, to share with you again his insights on leadership, connection, and trauma. In part 1 of the series, we begin with the heart of leadership. Because no matter our stage, we lead people. As a parent, you lead your kids. As a spouse, you lead your husband or wife. At work, you lead your employees, congregants, soldiers, clients, and teams. How would each person you lead describe your ability to connect to their reality? And how much do we pay attention to those realities versus focusing solely on our own? As Bill describes, the quality of how well we lead rises or falls on our inner world. And the people we lead, feel it. In this series, we cover The Heart of Leadership, The Heart of Connection, The Heart of Trauma, and The Heart of Your Culture. In this first episode, Josh and Bill talk about: What makes a person a leaderWhat happens when we feel like we're not enough or don't have what it takes to leadWhy we have a tendency to focus more on reputation than characterWhat happens when your stage is ripped out from under youHow to transition well as a leader when bad things happenWhat it means to grieve and why it's critical for how we leadShow Notes: Apply now for The Leader's Heart Men's Cohort, Feb. 26-29, 2023! https://www.famousathome.com/theleadersheart Sign up for MyKidsEQ Winter Cohort: https://www.famousathome.com/offers/7izP4Puk/checkout Interested in group coaching with Christi? Click here for interest form: https://www.famousathome.com/groupcoachinginterest Order a copy of Famous at Home by Dr. Josh and Christi: https://amzn.to/3y1jJFz

Did you know that the English word "priority," when it came into the English language, stayed singular for 500 years? Not until the 1900's did we make it plural. As Greg McKeown suggests, the result is quite dangerous. When everything is priority, nothing is priority. As we evaluate our overwhelmed schedule, this one simple exercise has helped us cut through the noise. What is the priority (singular)? This evaluation has led us to make some intentional adjustments, which Christi shares on this week's episode. Here are some takeaways: Practical ways to simplify an overwhelming scheduleHow to not only give yourself permission to do less, but other people around youThe preciousness of time and how we won't get these years back with our kidsWhy Christi is taking a step back and what that looks likeShow Notes: Apply now for The Leader's Heart Men's Cohort, February 26-29, 2024: https://www.famousathome.com/theleadersheart Order a copy of 25 Days of the Christmas Story: An Advent Family Experiencehttps://amzn.to/47YdliY Interested in group coaching with Christi? Click here for interest form: https://www.famousathome.com/groupcoachinginterest The MyKidsEQ Winter Cohort is officially open for registration! Cohort begins February 5, 2024! Click here to sign up! Order a copy of Essentialism: The Disciplined Pursuit of Less by Greg McKeown: https://a.co/d/ek1OaMA Order a copy of Famous at Home by Dr. Josh and Christi: https://amzn.to/3y1jJFz Watch this episode on Youtube!