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Dr. Matt James is back home in Hawaii after a hurricane just passed through, and his heart goes out to everyone in the community who was impacted. But today Dr. Matt is talking about something different: the people who annoy you.   His take: the people who bug you the most aren’t random. A former student, Kristin, reminded him of something he used to teach, that the people who annoy you the most are here to give you the biggest lessons because they’re actually a mirror for you.   Dr. Matt shares his own example. Getting cut off in line used to set him off until he realized the real issue wasn’t the other person’s behavior, it was his own reaction. If you lose control of your energy, your mindset, or your emotions because of somebody else’s behavior, that’s a clue pointing back at you. It’s not proof that their behavior is universally wrong. Some people brush the exact same thing off without a second thought.   The real question isn’t “why did they do that.” It’s “why does this bother me, and what do I need to work on?”   Want tools to master your mindset and stop letting others control your energy? Join the 4-Day NLP Practitioner Training: https://trainings.nlp.com   #Mindset #Empowerment #NLP #DrMattJames #Hawaii #ShadowWork         Empowerment, Inc. is the leading authority on NLP, Huna, Mental and Emotional Release®, and Hypnosis.   For more information, visit us at www.nlp.com or www.empowermentinc.com     Music: “Reach for Success” by Scott Holmes https://scottholmesmusic.com/

Dr. Matt James keeps it real today: yes, connecting to your why gives you energy, but we still live in a world where you have to grind. That’s just fact.   The key isn’t avoiding the grind. It’s finding the small moments inside it, five minutes of coffee outside, grilling steaks, sitting on a balcony, to ground and rebalance yourself. With back-to-back travel ahead (Houston → a brand-new training he’s never taught before → solo for 5 days → a 3am flight to teach in Hilo), Dr. Matt is being intentional about grounding himself now, because even when you’re living your purpose, burnout is still possible.   The takeaway: purpose doesn’t make you immune to burnout. You still have to build in the moments that ground you, even if it’s just 5 or 10 minutes.   Shout out to the team (Karl, Ethan, Britt) holding down San Diego this week, much appreciated!   Want tools to build a life you don’t need to escape from? Join the 4-Day NLP Practitioner Training: https://trainings.nlp.com   #Grind #Balance #Burnout #NLP #DrMattJames #Empowerment         Empowerment, Inc. is the leading authority on NLP, Huna, Mental and Emotional Release®, and Hypnosis.   For more information, visit us at www.nlp.com or www.empowermentinc.com     Music: “Reach for Success” by Scott Holmes https://scottholmesmusic.com/

Dr. Matt James is deep into Trainers Training with a room full of soon-to-be NLP trainers and today’s topic came straight from watching them work through filter patterns.   Here’s the thing: if you don’t know your own filter pattern, you can’t tell someone else what you actually need to understand something deeply. Dr. James shares his own daughter’s story. She thought she was “dumb” in school simply because she’s a detailed, literal listener and processed information differently than how it was taught. Once she learned her filter pattern, she realized she was never the problem… she just filters differently.   At the Master Practitioner level, students learn all 22 major filter patterns — including one simple one Dr. James shares here: big picture vs. detail. He’s big picture, his wife is detail-oriented. Instead of that becoming a source of conflict, understanding each other’s filters means he gives her the details she needs, and she gives him space to stay big picture.   Different people think differently and that’s something to celebrate, not fight.   Want to learn all 22 filter patterns and transform how you communicate? Join the 4-Day NLP Practitioner Training: https://trainings.nlp.com   #NLP #FilterPatterns #Communication #DrMattJames #TrainersTraining #Empowerment         Empowerment, Inc. is the leading authority on NLP, Huna, Mental and Emotional Release®, and Hypnosis.   For more information, visit us at www.nlp.com or www.empowermentinc.com     Music: “Reach for Success” by Scott Holmes https://scottholmesmusic.com/

Live from Carlsbad, Day-something of the 41st Annual Trainers Training — but today Dr. Matt James is staying home to focus on clients and building AI technology to help those who help others, while his wife takes over teaching for the day.   Watching her get completely re-energized — rewriting the entire day’s curriculum because she loves teaching so much — inspired today’s topic: your why.   If you can’t connect what you’re doing to a bigger purpose, that’s the real question to ask: why are you doing it at all? Purpose doesn’t mean the work gets easier — you still put in effort — but it should be effortless to find the motivation. That’s the difference between people who are thriving and the ones who’ve lost their drive at work, in relationships, in life.   Even hosting the team for dinner tonight has a why: connection.   Ready to find your why and build the skills to live it out? Join the 4-Day NLP Practitioner Training: https://trainings.nlp.com   #TrainersTraining #NLP #KnowYourWhy #DrMattJames #Empowerment #Purpose         Empowerment, Inc. is the leading authority on NLP, Huna, Mental and Emotional Release®, and Hypnosis.   For more information, visit us at www.nlp.com or www.empowermentinc.com     Music: “Reach for Success” by Scott Holmes https://scottholmesmusic.com/

Leadership starts with YOU.   Fresh from Week 1 of Trainers Training (our flagship program, running strong for 41 years), Dr. Matt James shares one powerful tip he couldn’t fit into a full training day: before you can lead others, you have to learn to lead yourself.   The difference between a manager and a leader? Managers dictate policy and procedure. Leaders help people tap into something deeper — inspiring growth beyond any ceiling they thought they had. And that starts with how you talk to yourself, especially in the moments that test you (like showing up for that workout).   Are you managing yourself… or leading yourself?   Want to develop real leadership and communication skills? Join Dr. Matt James for the 4-Day NLP Practitioner Training. Register now: https://trainings.nlp.com   #Leadership #NLP #PersonalDevelopment #TrainersTraining #DrMattJames #Empowerment         Empowerment, Inc. is the leading authority on NLP, Huna, Mental and Emotional Release®, and Hypnosis.   For more information, visit us at www.nlp.com or www.empowermentinc.com     Music: “Reach for Success” by Scott Holmes https://scottholmesmusic.com/

Energy + Speed + Follow Through = Results   Live from Carlsbad, Dr. Matt James just wrapped Week 1 of Master Practitioner Training with 60+ students — capped off with a board break that’s way more than it looks like. It’s a lesson in goal setting: you need energy, speed, and follow through to break through.   Dr. James shares a story that still gets him — a woman who pitched him an incredible healing center idea, had trainers lined up, hearts fully in it… but couldn’t answer where, what state, or how it would run. She’d been “talking about it” for 10 years. That was 20 years ago. Still hasn’t happened.   The lesson? Great ideas without action are just ideas. If you don’t take the first step, someone else will.   Ready to stop talking about your goals and start following through? Join the 4-Day NLP Practitioner Training: https://trainings.nlp.com   Subscribe for more real talk on mindset, leadership, and NLP.   #FollowThrough #GoalSetting #NLP #MasterPractitioner #DrMattJames #Empowerment         Empowerment, Inc. is the leading authority on NLP, Huna, Mental and Emotional Release®, and Hypnosis.   For more information, visit us at www.nlp.com or www.empowermentinc.com     Music: “Reach for Success” by Scott Holmes https://scottholmesmusic.com/

You can’t out-willpower your baggage.   I’ve heard this from professionals for decades. “I’m just going to push through it.”   If that worked, psychology would have solved this 100 years ago. When the field first began, the question on the table was: can you think a certain way and get past your emotional baggage? The answer was no then. It hasn’t changed.   Your baggage lives in your unconscious mind. Willpower is a conscious-mind function. They operate in different places. One cannot override the other. No matter how much discipline you bring to it.   This shows up in leadership, in sales, in high-pressure roles. The professional who powers through burnout. The executive who compartmentalizes grief and wonders why their decision-making feels off six months later. The salesperson who white-knuckles through call reluctance instead of addressing what’s underneath it.   Here’s the reframe. The willpower you need is the willingness to find a technique that goes to the root. That’s where your effort belongs. Once you have the right tool, the process is about trusting your unconscious mind to release what conscious effort never could.   We’re running our master level event in California right now. 68 people. Two full weeks of deep work. In week two, we teach Mental and Emotional Release®, a technique I developed for exactly this purpose. It goes to the unconscious and helps people release the anger, sadness, fear, guilt, and shame that willpower alone can’t reach.   Follow for more on the psychology of performance, leadership, and emotional release.   Check out live trainings at trainings.nlp.com.   Join our free community, Empowerment Home: https://empowermentinc.mn.co/spaces/9453123?utm_source=manual         Empowerment, Inc. is the leading authority on NLP, Huna, Mental and Emotional Release®, and Hypnosis.   For more information, visit us at www.nlp.com or www.empowermentinc.com     Music: “Reach for Success” by Scott Holmes https://scottholmesmusic.com/

People are paying to walk into a room and smash plates.   Rage rooms are a growing trend. And the psychology behind why they feel good is real. Catharsis works in the moment. You let it out. The pressure drops. You feel lighter.   About an hour later, everything comes back.   This is what I call the catharsis trap. You release the surface tension without ever addressing the root. It’s like cutting the top off a weed. Looks clean. Grows right back.   I see this pattern in professional settings too. A hard conversation with a colleague turns into venting over lunch. A frustrating quarter turns into a team gripe session. Everyone walks away feeling heard. Nothing changes. Because the actual root of the misfire never got examined.   In my own relationship with my wife Kristina, when we hit a miscommunication, we let it out first. Then we go deeper. Where did the disconnect happen? Was I operating too big-picture while she needed detail? Where exactly did the misfire take place? That’s how you course-correct.   The same principle applies in teams, partnerships, and leadership. Letting it out is step one. Getting to the root is where actual change happens.   Follow for more on the psychology behind how we communicate, lead, and release what holds us back.   Check out live trainings at trainings.nlp.com   Join our free community, Empowerment Home: https://empowermentinc.mn.co/spaces/9453123?utm_source=manual

Someone once asked me, “How do you protect yourself from energy vampires?” I said, “Garlic? A cross?”   She didn’t laugh. But the real answer was more useful than a joke.   If you believe that someone has the ability to drain your energy, you just handed them the keys. The belief itself is the open door.   I’ve been teaching NLP and Huna since the ’90s. One concept I come back to over and over is congruency. When your beliefs are solid and aligned, the door closes. You keep your energy.   You keep your focus. And when someone shows up looking to pull from the people around them, you make a clean decision. You disengage. You move on.   That works in a room full of students. It also works in a boardroom. It works in partnerships, negotiations, and every professional relationship where energy dynamics are at play.   It starts with beliefs. And beliefs can be changed.   Follow for more on NLP, beliefs, and the psychology of personal empowerment.   Check out live trainings at trainings.nlp.com   Join our free community, Empowerment Home: https://empowermentinc.mn.co/spaces/9453123?utm_source=manual         Empowerment, Inc. is the leading authority on NLP, Huna, Mental and Emotional Release®, and Hypnosis.   For more information, visit us at www.nlp.com or www.empowermentinc.com     Music: “Reach for Success” by Scott Holmes https://scottholmesmusic.com/

Your partner is your shadow. The closest mirror you’ll ever look into.   You let them sleep in the same bed with you. So whatever you see in them, the thing that irritates you, the thing you wish they’d change, that’s a reflection of something inside you waiting to be dealt with. That’s hard to swallow. It’s also where the real growth lives.   In this episode, I sit down with my daughter Skylar back home in Hawaii and talk about something that comes up with almost every relationship client I coach: how do you actually get better at your relationship?   You’ll learn: Why “grow together or grow apart” is more than an old saying How polarities attract so the two of you can find harmony (big picture meets detailed, introvert meets extrovert) What to do with the trait in your partner that drives you up the wall Why doing your own growth work can quietly create friction at home How to decide whether your partner should walk this path with you When you harmonize inside yourself, you stop traveling the road alone and start bringing the people you love along with you.   Check out live trainings at trainings.nlp.com. We’re in Phoenix, Fort Lauderdale, Atlantic City, San Diego and there’s still time to jump in.   Join our free community, Empowerment Home: https://empowermentinc.mn.co/spaces/9453123?utm_source=manual   Aloha, Dr. Matt         Empowerment, Inc. is the leading authority on NLP, Huna, Mental and Emotional Release®, and Hypnosis.   For more information, visit us at www.nlp.com or www.empowermentinc.com     Music: “Reach for Success” by Scott Holmes https://scottholmesmusic.com/

Tom Brady has seven Super Bowl rings. The Pittsburgh Steelers, as a franchise, have six.   One man outpaced an entire team’s legacy. The reason was not talent. It was routine. In this YouTube Live, Dr. Matt breaks down why the most successful people in any field do not just have goals. They have a non-negotiable routine that runs 365 days a year, and why copying someone else’s routine will not get you there.   You’ll learn: Why Tom Brady’s “I don’t play football. I am football.” mindset applies to every area of life Why following someone else’s routine sets you up to fall short How to identify YOUR routine by looking back at when you were at your best Why how you show up in one area begins to impact how you show up in every area   Your routine is not Tom Brady’s. It is not Dr. Matt’s. Find yours. Run it every day.   Check out live trainings at trainings.nlp.com   Join our free community, Empowerment Home: https://empowermentinc.mn.co/spaces/9453123?utm_source=manual         Empowerment, Inc. is the leading authority on NLP, Huna, Mental and Emotional Release®, and Hypnosis.   For more information, visit us at www.nlp.com or www.empowermentinc.com     Music: “Reach for Success” by Scott Holmes https://scottholmesmusic.com/

Most people think making yourself a priority means saying yes to more of what you want.   Dr. Matt is back in Waimea with a follow-up to last week, and this one goes a level deeper.   In this episode, Dr. Matt builds on last week’s conversation about making yourself a priority, introducing the Eisenhower Matrix and the two types of procrastination most people never recognize.   You’ll learn: The two types of procrastination, and why the second one is harder to catch How the Eisenhower Matrix helps you sort what only you can do from what should be delegated Why staying busy in the wrong area is its own form of avoidance How to identify what truly requires your time and what should be handed off Making yourself a priority is the first step. Knowing what only you can do is what makes it stick.   Check out live trainings at trainings.nlp.com. Join Empowerment Home, our free Mighty Networks community where Dr. Matt is taking these conversations even deeper.   If you are not in yet, it is free. Come in. empowermentinc.mn.co/spaces/9453123?utm_source=manual         Empowerment, Inc. is the leading authority on NLP, Huna, Mental and Emotional Release®, and Hypnosis.   For more information, visit us at www.nlp.com or www.empowermentinc.com     Music: “Reach for Success” by Scott Holmes https://scottholmesmusic.com/

“Dad, when’s the last time you unplugged for four or five weeks?”   That was my son. Right before he left to run our training in Denver. And I told him. It’s been years.   Now I’ll openly admit. I coach. I teach. I run a business. I host webinars. Even when I say I’m “off,” I’m still working. If your work is taking care of other people, you probably know what I mean.   In this week’s check-in from Hawaii, I’m talking about something most high-functioning people refuse to face. People use “I’m too busy helping everyone else” as a way to avoid working on themselves. We just wrapped our NLP Practitioner Training in Houston, and this kept surfacing with the assistants and the team. What about me? What about me? Not in a selfish way. In a harmonious way.   Look, morning sets the tone. Water. Nature. A few quiet minutes that belong to you. These small foundational things are what let you show up well for everyone else. Most people skip them and wonder why nothing feels solid.   So I’m taking some real downtime here. And I’ll be coming to you every week from here.   What’s one small thing you could do today that helps you show up better for the people who need you?   Subscribe and I’ll see you next week. Aloha.         Empowerment, Inc. is the leading authority on NLP, Huna, Mental and Emotional Release®, and Hypnosis.   For more information, visit us at www.nlp.com or www.empowermentinc.com     Music: “Reach for Success” by Scott Holmes https://scottholmesmusic.com/

MIT just released a study on loneliness and AI. The results are not what most people expect. If you’ve been relying on AI more than usual lately, this is worth watching.   Dr. Matt James breaks down what the research actually found, why AI can’t replace human connection no matter how advanced it gets, and how to use AI in a way that genuinely works for you instead of against you.   In this video: What the MIT study revealed about loneliness and AI Where AI helps and where it makes things worse How to use technology intelligently without losing what matters most Ready to experience real transformation in person? Dr. Matt’s NLP Practitioner Trainings are happening across the US all year long. Four days. Live. In-person.   Find a training near you: trainings.nlp.com Want to connect with a real community? Join Dr. Matt on Mighty Networks. Email [email protected] to get access.   #NLP #DrMatt #AI #PersonalDevelopment #HumanConnection #NLPTraining #Mindset #MentalHealth         Empowerment, Inc. is the leading authority on NLP, Huna, Mental and Emotional Release®, and Hypnosis.   For more information, visit us at www.nlp.com or www.empowermentinc.com     Music: “Reach for Success” by Scott Holmes https://scottholmesmusic.com/

Everyone is talking about regulating your nervous system. Dr. Matt has a different take. You already know how.   After four 8-hour long breakthrough sessions in nine days, Dr. Matt had a lot of reasons to think about this one. What he landed on is simpler than the trending conversation gives it credit for.   In this YouTube Live, Dr. Matt breaks down why your unconscious mind already knows exactly what to do, and what gets in the way of listening to it.   You’ll learn: Why most of the trending advice on nervous system regulation is noise How your unconscious mind signals what it needs, and how to read those signals The 90-minute natural reboot cycle Dr. Matt uses at every training What gets in the way of listening to your own body   Your body is already talking. The work is learning to listen.   Learn more Empowering tools at our live trainings at trainings.nlp.com         Empowerment, Inc. is the leading authority on NLP, Huna, Mental and Emotional Release®, and Hypnosis.   For more information, visit us at www.nlp.com or www.empowermentinc.com     Music: “Reach for Success” by Scott Holmes https://scottholmesmusic.com/