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Do you need closure to move on from a relationship? In this episode of All Things Melanin, we explore how to move on without closure, let go of relationships that no longer serve you, and find peace when you don’t get the answers you hoped for. We’re also sharing the story behind the relaunch of our YouTube Channel, All Things Melanin TV, including why we stopped, why we’re starting again, and what you can expect from the new channel. Plus, we discuss how to overcome imposter syndrome when starting over or stepping into a new season, and reflect on Romans 12:12 and what it teaches us about hope, patience, and prayer. In this episode, we dive into: Is closure necessary to move on?How to move on without closureHow to let go and move forwardWhy we’re relaunching All Things Melanin TVHow to overcome imposter syndromeRomans 12:12 and trusting God through changeLet's Stay Connected: Check out our website, All Things Melanin Follow us on Instagram @allthingsmelanin__ Follow us on Threads @allthingsmelanin__ Follow us on Facebook Follow us on YouTube Keep up with Erica Keep up with Shelby

In this episode of All Things Melanin, Erica and Shelby talk about dating with purpose in your 30s and building the life and relationships you truly want. They discuss recognizing when someone is serious, chemistry vs. compatibility, overlooked green flags, and making sure you’re not settling out of fear of being alone or starting over. Plus, they share time management tips for side hustlers, including creating an intentional schedule, setting boundaries, staying consistent, and avoiding burnout. In Mentor Moment, they answer a listener’s question about balancing a demanding full-time job with a newly launched business without burning out. Words of Encouragement: Habakkuk 2:3 — Trusting the timing of the vision, even when the wait feels long. Have a question for us? Email: [email protected] | DM: @allthingsmelanin__ to have your question answered on our Mentor Moment segment. Stay Connected With Us Follow us on Facebook Follow us on Instagram @allthingsmelanin__ Follow us on Threads @allthingsmleanin__ Follow us on YouTube Keep up with Erica Keep up with Shelby

In this episode of All Things Melanin, Erica and Shelby celebrate 9 years of conversations, growth, and community. They discuss what they’ve learned about dating and relationships, what they’re committing to do for themselves, and the lessons that come with building something meaningful. Plus, they tackle a real-life girls’ trip friendship dilemma in Mentor Moment and share encouragement from Psalm 37:5.Connect With UsFollow Us on YouTube Follow Us on Instagram @allthingsmelanin__ Follow us on Threads @allthingsmelanin__ Follow Us on Facebook Keep up with Erica Keep up with Shelby

Are you tired of "entertaining" people who don't fit your future? In this episode of All Things Melanin, Erica and Shelby help you distinguish between intentional dating and simply dating out of boredom, and much more. Dating & Relationships: The signs of “entertaining” someone when dating vs. being intentional The Journey: Navigating the "slow seasons" of building a brand, business, or ministry. How do you maintain your fire when the results aren't immediate? Mentor Moment: We answer a listener's letter about navigating the search for true love when your options seem slim.  Words of Encouragement: Joshua 1:3 - Remembering God’s promises. Have a question for us? Email: [email protected] | DM: @allthingsmelanin__ to have your question answered on our Mentor Moment Segment. Sermon Mentioned: Subtle Until Suddenly - Sarah Jakes Roberts  https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=izGXLEZVaZE&t=5270s  Follow us on YouTube Follow us on Instagram @allthingsmelanin__ Follow us on Threads @allthingsmelanin__ Follow us on Facebook Keep up with Erica Keep up with Shelby

Are you struggling to navigate dating and relationships, or wondering how to change your career after a long gap year? In this episode, Erica and Shelby discuss how to navigate various transitions occurring in life. This episode tackles: Dating & Relationships: Unlearning bad dating habits to improve future dating experiences The Journey: Navigating following trends vs. staying authentic to your brand and/or business Mentor Moment: Navigating your career goals when your family doesn’t agree with your career path  Words of Encouragement: Lamentations 3: 22-23:  - Having faith in throughout every season Let’s Stay Connected

Are you standing at a crossroads? Is it ever too late to change your career? From the heartache of post-breakup recovery—deciding whether to go back or move on—to the courageous leap of starting a career from scratch, we explore how to rebuild with intention. In this episode, we tackle: Dating & Relationships: Going Back vs. Moving On The Journey: How to create relevant content consistently Mentor Momen: Sharing advice on changing career paths and starting over when you’re not fulfilled Words of Encouragement: Psalm 126:5  Let’s Stay Connected Visit our website at www.allthingsmelanin.org Follow us on YouTube Follow us on Instagram @allthingsmelanin__ Follow us on Threads @allthingsmelanion__ Follow us on Facebook Keep up with Erica Keep up with Shelby

Are you actually seeing a red flag, or are you just projecting past fears onto a new situation? This week, Erica and Shelby dive deep into the psychology of discernment—both in our relationships and our creative journeys. We’re exploring what it looks like to "do your best" when your "best" changes every single day. In this episode, we discuss: The Check-In: Redefining what "doing your best" looks like in this current season of life. Dating & Relationships: How to distinguish between an actual red flag and your own internal defense mechanisms. The Journey: The honest reality of staying obedient to your vision without burning out. We share personal stories of "doing too much," trying to prove our worth through our work, and the warning signs of resentment and exhaustion. Mentor Moment: "He checks every box, but I don't feel peace." We help a listener navigate the difficult decision to walk away from a "perfect on paper" partner. Words of Encouragement: A grounding reflection on Romans 12:12—remaining joyful in hope and faithful in prayer through every affliction. Have a question for us? Email: [email protected] | DM: @allthingsmelanin__ to have your question answered on our Mentor Moment Segment. Let's Stay Connected Visit our website at www.allthingsmelanin.org Follow us on YouTube Follow us on Instagram @allthingsmelanin__ Follow us on Threads @allthingsmelanin_ Follow us on Facebook Keep up with Erica Keep up with Shelby

Is your plate full, but your cup empty? This week, Erica and Shelby are talking about the art of the "pour"—how we invest in ourselves to keep the momentum going without burning out. We’re getting practical about the tools that keep All Things Melanin running and getting personal about the relationships that might be running their course. In this episode, we cover: The Check-In: What "pouring into yourself" looks like in this current season. Dating & Relationships: How to identify the "enough is enough" moment in both romantic and platonic relationships. The Journey : We’re pulling back the curtain on the tech stack that runs our brand while we work 9-5s. From Later and Canva to using AI for brainstorming, we discuss how to choose tools that actually make you more efficient. Mentor Moment: A 6-figure earner asks: "My childhood friend is making snide comments about my success and calling me greedy. How do I handle the 'it must be nice' energy?" Words of Encouragement: A grounding reminder from Matthew 6:24 on why today’s grace is enough for today’s troubles. Have a question for us? Email: [email protected] | DM: @allthingsmelanin__ to have your question answered on our Mentor Moment Segment. Connect With Us: Visit our website at www.allthingsmelanin.org Follow us on YouTube Follow us on Facebook Follow us on Instagram @allthingsmelanin__ Follow us on Threads @allthingsmelanin__ Follow us on Facebook Keep up with Erica Keep up with Shelby

Is privacy the new "flex" in dating? In this episode, we explore whether you should keep your romantic relationship off social media and how much of your relationship you should actually share online. We dive into The Journey of getting back to business basics to avoid burnout and scale with intention. Plus, we tackle the big question: Is it time to take a leap of faith and apply for your dream job? This episode dives into: Dating & Relationships: The pros and cons of keeping your partner private. The Journey: Why returning to the basics is the ultimate power move for your brand and/or career. Mentor Moment: How to overcome the fear of "the leap" and have the audacity to go after your dream role. Words of Encouragement: Zechariah 4:10—The importance of never despising small beginnings. Visit our website at www.allthingsmelanin.orgFollow us on YouTube Follow us on Instagram @allthingsmelanin__ Follow us on Threads @allthingsmelanin__ Follow us on Facebook Keep up with Erica Keep up with Shelby

Ever feel like you’re working on a vision that only you can see? This week, Erica and Shelby get vulnerable about dating, the journey of building a brand and/or business, and much more. Inside this episode, we discuss: Dating & Relationships: Are you protecting your peace, or are you just unavailable? We discuss how to identify if you're operating from high standards or emotional armor. The Journey: We share the raw reality behind All Things Melanin. From late-night self-doubt to praying over ideas no one else sees yet—how do you build when no one is clapping? Mentor Moment: A listener in her late 30s asks: "I’ve been single for 10 years and I’m hyper-independent. How do I soften for a future spouse without shrinking myself?" Words of Encouragement: A powerful reminder from Habakkuk 2:3 on trusting the timing of your vision. If you have a question that you want us to answer, send us an email [email protected] or slide in our DMs @allthingsmelanin__ Connect With UsVisitour website at www.allthingsmelanin.org Follow us on YouTube Follow us on Instagram @allthingsmelanin__ Follos us on Threads @allthingsmelanin__ Follow us on Facebook Keep up with Erica Keep up with Shelby

This week, Erica and Shelby get real about the "busy seasons" of life.  In this episode, we discuss: Dating & Relationships: Strategies for maintaining romantic and platonic relationships when you’re navigating difficult and busy seasons. The Journey: After 10+ years in the workforce, we share the lessons we learned the "hard way" Mentor Moment: We tackle a tough listener dilemma: Do you tell your best friend her new man is a walking red flag, or do you stay quiet? Words of Encouragement: Romans 15:13 – Finding joy and peace in the overflow of hope. Stay Connected With Us:Visit our Website www.allthingsmelanin.org Follow us on YouTube Follow us on Instagram @allthingsmelanin__ Follow us on Threads @allthingsmelanin__ Keep up with Erica Keep up with Shelby

In the season finale episode, Shelby and Erica kick off the episode by sharing a random act of kindness they've experienced. In this episode, we discuss: High standards vs. Unrealistic expectationsHow to become more discoverable and find your unique voice for your brand and/or businessNavigating difficult situationsWords of Encouragement from Proverbs 16:3 If you have a question that you want us to answer, send us an email [email protected] or slide in our DMs @allthingsmelanin__ Stay Connected Visit our website at allthingsmelanin.org Follow on YouTube Follow on Instagram Follow on Threads Follow on Facebook Keep up with Erica Keep up with Shelby

Shelby and Erica kick off this week's episode by sharing one piece of advice their moms have given them that has always stuck with them. In this episode, they discuss: The impact of dating apps and social media in navigating the dating sceneUnique challenges and triumphs their brand has experiencedMaintaining a sense of individuality when in a long-term relatinshipWords of encouragement from  Psalm 56:3: If you have a question that you want us to answer, send us an email [email protected] or slide in our DMs @allthingsmelanin__Stay Connected: Visit our website at allthingsmelanin.org ⁠Follow on YouTube ⁠Follow on Instagram ⁠Follow on Threads ⁠Follow on Facebook Keep up with Erica Keep up with Shelby

Shelby and Erica kick off this week's episode with a heart of gratitude. This week's episode discusses: Navigating dating and healingBuilding meaningful relationships through networkingKnowing when to take a leap of faith vs. staying putWords of encouragement from Luke 1:45If you have a question that you want us to answer, send us an email at [email protected] or slide in our DMs at @allthingsmelanin__ Stay Connected: Visit our website at ⁠⁠⁠allthingsmelanin.org⁠⁠⁠ ⁠Follow on ⁠⁠YouTube⁠⁠⁠ ⁠Follow on ⁠⁠Instagram⁠⁠⁠ ⁠Follow on ⁠⁠Threads⁠⁠⁠ ⁠Follow on ⁠⁠Facebook⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠Keep up with Erica⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠Keep up with Shelby⁠⁠⁠

Shelby and Erica kick off this week's episode by sharing their favorite things. This week's episode dives into: When to introduce your new boo to family and friendsNavigating professional burnoutNavigating new and current friendshipsWords of encouragement from Romans 12: 6-8 If you have a question that you want us to answer, send us an email at [email protected] or slide in our DMs at @allthingsmelanin__ Stay Connected: Visit our website at ⁠⁠allthingsmelanin.org⁠⁠ ⁠Follow on ⁠YouTube⁠⁠ ⁠Follow on ⁠Instagram⁠⁠ ⁠Follow on ⁠Threads⁠⁠ ⁠Follow on ⁠Facebook⁠⁠ ⁠⁠Keep up with Erica⁠⁠ ⁠⁠Keep up with Shelby⁠⁠