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Are you exhausted from doing all the things, checking all the boxes, and still feeling like you're drowning? You're not broken. You've just been sold the wrong version of resilience. In this episode, I'm breaking down why "staying positive" and "bouncing back" is actually heightening your stress—and what to do instead. What you'll learn: The #1 thing stealing your energy (and how to set boundaries with your own brain) Why that word "should" is keeping you trapped in burnout The difference between being fear-driven vs. value-driven (and why it matters) How to make progress when you're completely overwhelmed Why people-pleasing isn't actually kindness—it's self-abandonment Real talk: I'm teetering on the edge of burnout myself right now. So I'm not just teaching these strategies—I'm actively using them to protect my capacity through a really challenging season. If you're tired of performing optimism while your nervous system screams for help, this episode is your permission slip to stop. A quick update: I'm hitting pause on the podcast through February to protect my energy ahead of the trial for the driver who killed mum and our March 8th concert celebrating her legacy.  If you're in Sydney or surrounding areas, please join us for Because of Julie: Her Legacy Takes Centre Stage on March 8th at The Pavilion Performing Arts Centre. Let's pack the auditorium and celebrate that love always wins. Get your tickets here. Stuck in the people-pleasing, burnout cycle and can't seem to break it on your own? Book a free consultation at kategladdin.com. I'll help you identify what's actually draining you and give you personalized strategies you can use immediately. I respond within 24 hours because I know waiting when you're burned out feels impossible. See you in mid-March. 💛

Ever catch yourself thinking, "Why am I like this?" Too much. Too quiet. Too emotional. Too in your head. What if the thing you criticize yourself for most… isn't a flaw at all? In this episode, I unpack a powerful reframe that challenges the way we try to "fix" ourselves. Because what if your so-called weakness is actually a strength that's just been turned up too high? If you've ever called yourself an overthinker, a people-pleaser, disorganized, shy, or "too much"—and felt stuck in shame because of it—this one will hit close to home. No fluffy self-love. No personality overhaul. Just a simple shift that brings clarity, balance, and relief. Less "What's wrong with me?" More "How do I work with who I already am?" Press play if you're ready for self-improvement without self-loathing. Ready to stop self sabotaging? I've got limited one-on-one coaching spots opening up where we dig into your specific patterns and create practical strategies that actually work for you. Visit https://www.kategladdin.com/coaching to book your call.

For the high achievers who think they need to be harder on themselves. You're holding yourself accountable, chasing your goals, refusing to waste time. But somewhere along the way, self-discipline turned into self-loathing. And now you're wondering: if I stop being so hard on myself, will I just... stop trying? This episode breaks down why hating yourself into change is like taking a 36-hour flight with unnecessary layovers. You'll eventually get there, but you'll be exhausted, depleted, and resentful. There's a direct flight available. In this episode: Why shame triggers your nervous system into protection mode (and kills your follow-through) The cycle that keeps you stuck: shame → avoidance → more shame Why loving your body BEFORE it changes is what actually creates change Four mantras to redirect your brain when the shame spiral starts The difference between self-discipline and self-attack (and which one actually works) You don't need more discipline. You need to stop taking the long way around. Ready to stop self sabotaging? If you need someone to help you push through (not just give you another pep talk), I've got limited one-on-one coaching consult spots available each week. Visit https://www.kategladdin.com/coaching to book your call.

You're three weeks into your goal. The excitement's worn off. You're questioning everything. Your brain is screaming at you to quit. And then someone tells you to "just stay motivated." Here's the truth: motivation doesn't last. It's not supposed to. And the reason you keep quitting your goals has nothing to do with willpower, laziness, or not wanting it badly enough. There are five predictable emotional stages every single person goes through when making real change—and most people quit at Stage 3 because no one told them it was coming. In this episode, you'll discover: Why that initial excitement is designed to fade (and what happens when reality hits in Stage 2) The Valley of Despair—where dreams go to die and your only job is to not quit How to recognize when your brain is throwing a tantrum versus when something's actually wrong Why the struggle isn't evidence you're failing—it's evidence you're growing The one mindset shift that changes everything: seeing discomfort as proof it's working, not breaking Here's what nobody tells you: every successful person you admire has stood exactly where you're standing right now—in the messy middle, doubting everything, wanting to quit. The difference isn't that they didn't experience the Valley of Despair. It's that they expected it, prepared for it, and pushed through it. This episode gives you the framework to do the same. Whether you're building a fitness routine, launching a side hustle, or finally going after that goal you've been putting off—understanding these five stages will change how you approach change forever. Because once you know Stage 3 is coming, you stop using it as a reason to quit. Ready to stop quitting on yourself? If you're in Stage 2 or 3 right now and need someone to help you push through (not just give you another pep talk), I've got limited one-on-one coaching consult spots available each week. Visit https://www.kategladdin.com/coaching to book your call. Remember: The best time to plant a tree was 20 years ago. The second best time is now.

After such a heartbreaking, life-shattering year, I wanted to record this little message for you as we head into 2026. ❤️ Ready to Stop Forcing Happiness and Actually Start Healing? You can know all the "right" things to say to yourself, all the strategies, all the steps—but if you're still trying to push through grief, anxiety, or life's hardest moments alone, nothing truly shifts. That's where coaching comes in. I help women navigate the messy, non-linear process of healing—not by forcing happiness or bypassing pain, but by figuring out what YOU actually need (not what others think you should need), how to honor your grief while still moving forward, and most importantly—how to trust your own healing timeline without guilt. Book your free Coaching Clarity Call: https://www.kategladdin.com/coaching It's one-on-one with me, completely private, and you'll walk away with actionable strategies whether or not coaching is right for you. A huge shoutout to Kevin Lowe at K-Lowe Music, the talent behind my intro song. Listen to the full version here. Or explore custom music options here. Connect with Kate: Instagram: @kategladdin Website: https://www.kategladdin.com/

If you've lost someone, you've probably heard people say "they would just want you to be happy." Well-meaning? Absolutely. Helpful? Not always. In this episode, I'm sharing why that phrase hasn't been landing for me—and what I wish people would say instead. Because grief isn't about forcing happiness. It's about something much more important. Whether you're navigating loss or supporting someone who is, this one's for you. You don't owe anyone happiness. But you do deserve healing. Take this episode slowly. Pause when you need to. Let it meet you wherever you are today. Ready to Stop Forcing Happiness and Actually Start Healing? You can know all the "right" things to say to yourself, all the strategies, all the steps—but if you're still trying to push through grief, anxiety, or life's hardest moments alone, nothing truly shifts. That's where coaching comes in. I help women navigate the messy, non-linear process of healing—not by forcing happiness or bypassing pain, but by figuring out what YOU actually need (not what others think you should need), how to honor your grief while still moving forward, and most importantly—how to trust your own healing timeline without guilt. Book your free Coaching Clarity Call: https://www.kategladdin.com/coaching It's one-on-one with me, completely private, and you'll walk away with actionable strategies whether or not coaching is right for you. A huge shoutout to Kevin Lowe at K-Lowe Music, the talent behind my intro song. Listen to the full version here. Or explore custom music options here. Connect with Kate: Instagram: @kategladdin Website: https://www.kategladdin.com/  

There's a loneliness that comes with loss that's hard to describe until you've felt it. That moment when you realize the person you'd normally call isn't there to answer anymore. Tara Accardo knows this pain intimately. In December 2019, she lost her mom to cancer. Six months later, her dad. Then, her beloved dog of 19 years. Each loss compounding the one before, leaving her asking: "What am I going to do?" But this conversation isn't about finding silver linings or moving on. It's about the messy, visceral reality of grief—and the unexpected strength that emerges when you're forced to find your own way forward. Kate and Tara share openly about: The physical, gut-wrenching response to loss that catches you off guard Why grief is a tunnel, not a black hole (and why holding onto that truth matters) How to navigate people who mean well but can't hold space for your pain The strange, sacred empowerment of learning to trust yourself through the darkness Finding your people in a club no one wants to join If you've lost someone, if you're watching someone you love decline, or if you're simply terrified of the loss you know is coming—this episode will remind you that you're not alone in the dark. Connect with Tara: Instagram: @lossesbecamegains + @lifewithgriefpodcast Podcast: Life with Grief (available everywhere) Website: https://lossesbecomegains.com/ Ready to Stop Feeling Like You're Doing Grief Wrong? You can listen to every episode and relate to every story, but if you're still wondering why you're not "better" yet or feeling guilty that you can't just move on, you need more than information. That's where coaching comes in. I help women stop judging themselves for how they're grieving, learn to trust their own timeline (not everyone else's expectations), and find a way forward that honors both the person they lost and the life they're still living. Book your free Coaching Clarity Call: https://www.kategladdin.com/coaching It's one-on-one with me, completely private, and you'll walk away with clarity and support whether or not coaching is right for you. A huge shoutout to Kevin Lowe at K-Lowe Music, the talent behind my intro song. Listen to the full version here. Or explore custom music options here. Connect with Kate: Instagram: @kategladdin Website: https://www.kategladdin.com/

Ever find yourself waiting for someone to notice how hard you're struggling? Waiting for your partner to ask if you're okay, your doctor to take you seriously, or someone—anyone—to validate that yes, what you're going through really IS that hard? Here's the truth: you can't control if someone else gives you that validation. But you can give it to yourself. And no, that's not the same as toxic positivity or forcing yourself to "look on the bright side." It's about giving yourself the same compassion you'd give a friend going through the exact same thing. In this episode, I'm sharing a 6-step framework for self-validation that's helped me navigate everything from grief to everyday struggles. I'll walk you through how to actually process what you're feeling instead of bypassing it, how to connect your emotions to your values so you don't stay stuck, and the common mistakes that keep people trapped in either self-denial or self-pity. Because here's what I want you to hear: You don't need anyone else's permission to feel what you're feeling. The validation you're waiting for? You can give it to yourself. Key Topics: The difference between self-validation and toxic positivity Why naming your emotions literally calms your nervous system The 6-step framework for validating yourself through hard things Common mistakes (and what self-validation is NOT) How to honour what you actually need right now   Ready to Actually Stop Waiting for Others to Validate You? You can listen to every podcast episode and know all the strategies, but if you're still waiting for someone to notice you're struggling, nothing changes. That's where coaching comes in. I help women get clear on what they actually need (not what they think they should need), how to validate themselves without falling into toxic positivity, and most importantly—how to stop making their worthiness dependent on other people's recognition. Book your free Coaching Clarity Call: https://www.kategladdin.com/coaching It's one-on-one with me, completely private, and you'll walk away with actionable strategies whether or not coaching is right for you. A huge shoutout to Kevin Lowe at K-Lowe Music, the talent behind my intro song. Listen to the full version here. Or explore custom music options here. Connect with Kate: Instagram: @kategladdin Website: https://www.kategladdin.com/  

Ever gotten feedback at work that just... stung? Like, you worked your ass off on a project, pulled off what felt like a miracle given the circumstances, only to be told you "weren't enthusiastic enough" or "should have felt more excited"? Yeah, that's the kind of feedback that can send you spiraling. In this episode, I'm breaking down why feedback hits us so damn hard in the first place, and more importantly, what to do about it. I'll share my pistachio nut framework for figuring out what feedback is actually worth keeping versus what's just... someone else's baggage you don't need to carry. If you've ever felt like you're constantly taking things too personally or spiraling after every piece of criticism, this one's for you. Together we'll explore.. The neuroscience behind why feedback feels like a threat The "pistachio nut" framework for filtering feedback Three essential filters: truth, actionability, and source Why self-compassion beats self-criticism every time When feedback is information about fit, not failure Ready to actually stop taking things so personally? You can listen to every podcast episode and know all the strategies, but if you're still spiraling after every piece of criticism, nothing changes. That's where coaching comes in. I help women get clear on which feedback is actually worth listening to, how to separate behavior from worth without falling apart, and most importantly—how to stop making other people's opinions mean more than your own. Book your free Coaching Clarity Call: https://www.kategladdin.com/coaching It's one-on-one with me, completely private, and you'll walk away with actionable strategies whether or not coaching is right for you. A huge shoutout to Kevin Lowe at K-Lowe Music, the talent behind my intro song. Listen to the full version here. Or explore custom music options here. Connect with Kate: Instagram: @kategladdin Website: https://www.kategladdin.com/

After the hardest year of my life, I discovered something I'd been taking for granted—the one thing that held me when everything else fell apart. This isn't your typical gratitude episode. Because when you're barely holding it together, "just be thankful" doesn't cut it. In this episode, you'll discover: Why one deep breath does nothing (and what actually works) The science behind why your exhales matter more than your inhales The 60-second tool that can stop you from spiraling before a difficult conversation What happens in your nervous system when you sigh (hint: it's not dramatic, it's biological) Perfect timing before Thanksgiving week when family dynamics, grief, or anxiety might show up at the table. Come home to your breath, my friends. It's been there for you through every moment of your life—and it's not going anywhere. Ready to Actually Follow Through? You can listen to every podcast episode and read every self-help book, but if you're not implementing, nothing changes. That's where coaching comes in. I help women get clear on what boundaries they actually need, how to communicate them without falling apart, and most importantly—how to enforce them when guilt kicks in. Book your free Coaching Clarity Call: https://www.kategladdin.com/coaching It's one-on-one with me, completely private, and you'll walk away with actionable strategies whether or not coaching is right for you. A huge shoutout to Kevin Lowe at K-Lowe Music, the talent behind my intro song. Listen to the full version here. Or explore custom music options here. Connect with Kate: Instagram: @kategladdin Website: https://www.kategladdin.com/

Ever caught yourself smiling on the outside… while dragging around that heavy, invisible rock of resentment on the inside? Yeah. Me too. In this episode, we're pulling apart that quiet tension so many of us live with — the resentment that comes from unspoken needs, swallowed frustration, and hoping people will magically "just get it." And I'm sharing the one sentence… the one simple structure… that finally helped me stop feeling like a doormat and start feeling like a grown woman with a spine and a soft heart. If you've ever: • dreaded a text from that person • walked on eggshells to "keep the peace" • hinted, suggested, or silently hoped someone would change… …this episode is going to land deep. You'll hear: • why resentment isn't a personality flaw — it's a compass • the difference between a request and a real boundary • the part that everyone hates… but is the actual key • why guilt shows up (and why it's not a stop sign) • the boundary I had to set in the middle of my grief, even when it broke my heart a little And by the end, you'll walk away ready to name one boundary you need, say it out loud, and — the hardest part — follow through. If you've been feeling stretched thin, taken for granted, or quietly simmering… this one's for you. Press play. Your future self is already exhaling. Ready to Actually Follow Through? You can listen to every podcast episode and read every self-help book, but if you're not implementing, nothing changes. That's where coaching comes in. I help women get clear on what boundaries they actually need, how to communicate them without falling apart, and most importantly—how to enforce them when guilt kicks in. Book your free Coaching Clarity Call: https://www.kategladdin.com/coaching It's one-on-one with me, completely private, and you'll walk away with actionable strategies whether or not coaching is right for you. A huge shoutout to Kevin Lowe at K-Lowe Music, the talent behind my intro song. Listen to the full version here. Or explore custom music options here. Connect with Kate: Instagram: @kategladdin Website: https://www.kategladdin.com/ Remember: Resentment is just a boundary you haven't set yet. Let's change that.  

This week, I sit down with Meghan Barakett—founder & CEO of One Girl—a woman who embodies everything this show stands for: courage, community, and choosing to create the good when life doesn't hand it to you. We talk leadership that starts on the inside. The kind that asks you to get quiet, get honest, and then get moving. We talk about grief, advocacy, and what happens when your identity is used against you online—and why that moment became a turning point, not a dead end. I won't spoil the full story (you'll feel it when you hear it), but here's what you'll learn: In this episode, we get into: "We are the leaders we've been looking for." What that actually means when life gets messy—and how to tap your own wisdom before you outsource it. Imposter syndrome vs. integrity checks. The subtle difference, and how Meghan uses self-awareness and team support to move anyway. From heartache to action. How a single incident online sparked a much bigger mission—and what that process looked like behind the scenes. Internet impersonation 101. What it is in plain English, why it's not fully covered by identity theft laws, and the bill aiming to change that. Practical digital hygiene. Simple, proactive steps (think: alerts, audits, reporting pathways) to help you protect your name and your work. Purpose as fuel. Why "finding the good" is nice—but creating it is where your power lives. About Meghan Meghan Barakett is the founder & CEO of One Girl, a social justice organization empowering women and girls through education, leadership, and community. She's also a relentless advocate—bringing story, policy, and people together to move the needle. Come hang with us in NYC! On November 15, 2025 I'm leading a resilience + leadership workshop at Women in Charge Summit (Fordham University, NYC). 🎟️ Tickets: https://www.onegirlny.org/wic  💸 Discount: Use code LUV25WIC at checkout (limited time). Feeling ready to turn pain into purpose? If you've been through something that's left you shaken — grief, betrayal, burnout, or loss — but you know there's still more you're meant to do with it, I'd love to support you. Through my 1:1 coaching, I help women process the hard stuff in healthy ways, rebuild confidence, and turn adversity into authentic strength — the kind that changes how you show up for yourself and the world. You don't have to face it alone, and you don't have to wait until you "feel ready." Visit kategladdin.com/coaching to learn how we can work together.

When someone you care about loses someone they love, it's hard to know what to say. You want to comfort them, to make it better, but most of us were never taught how to show up in the face of raw grief. After losing both my mum and sister in separate tragedies, I realized we're walking through one of the most universal human experiences - grief- with zero training. No wonder we're all fumbling through it. In this episode, I'm sharing the grief education we all missed: Why we freeze up and don't reach out (and how to get past that) The well-meaning words that actually invalidate pain What "making it bearable" really means (vs. trying to fix it) The bear hug that taught me everything about true support How to check in months later when everyone else has moved on  I'm not coming at this from a judgy, preachy place—because none of us were taught this. I just want us all to do better now that we know better. Whether you've avoided reaching out because you didn't know what to say, or you're grieving and feeling misunderstood—this one's for you. Needing extra support? If you're struggling to navigate intense emotions and wish you had support to help you process what you're going through in healthy ways, I offer one-on-one personalized coaching for women who are ready to stop stuffing their feelings down and start healing for real. Visit https://www.kategladdin.com/coaching for more info on how we can work together.

Ever open your laptop to work on that big project and suddenly find yourself deep in a TikTok scroll? Or decide that right now is the perfect time to snack instead of finishing that report? Yep, we've all been there, right? That's because procrastination isn't laziness, it's humanness.  In this deeply personal episode, I'm sharing the story behind my first tattoo: my late mother's heartbeat and my late sister's initial, permanently inked on my wrist in honour of them both taken too soon and as a reminder that we only get a limited number of heartbeats on this earth. But this isn't just a tearjerker (though you might want tissues). It's a wake-up call wrapped in a pep talk you can return to again and again. Because every heartbeat is a countdown. And most of us don't realize it… until we're suddenly out of time. So why do we waste so many of heartbeats waiting to "feel ready"? We delay the workout. We postpone the dream. We distract ourselves from the discomfort of growth. We let the toddler brain in our head call the shots. But here's the truth no one teaches us: You don't need motivation to start. You just need movement. Inside this episode, I'm giving you 20 powerfully simple mantras that snap you out of procrastination and into action — even on the days you're tired, overwhelmed, or completely stuck in your own way. You'll learn: • Why resistance is actually a sign you're on the right path • How to show up even when you don't "feel like it" • The mindset shift that will change how you respond to discomfort • How to make future-you proud instead of panicked • How to use your heartbeats on what truly matters This isn't about hustle culture or perfection. This is about honouring your life. Honouring the people you love. Honouring the moments you still have left. Because the clock is ticking… and today is too precious to postpone. If you're stuck, listen. If you're scared, listen. If you're done wasting your heartbeats… press play now. Save this episode. Seriously. You'll want to come back to it every time procrastination creeps in. Jot down your favorite mantras, write them on sticky notes, put them where you'll see them when your brain starts negotiating with you about doing the hard thing. Because future you deserves a high five, not a headache. Resources I mentioned: Book a free clarity call with me: https://www.kategladdin.com/coaching Connect with me on Instagram: @kategladdin Remember: Done is better than perfect. Progress over perfection. Always.

What if I told you that the rejection you fear most isn't coming from other people? Most of us spend our lives trying to avoid hearing "no." We don't send the email. We don't make the call. We don't start the business, ask for the promotion, or put ourselves out there—because we're terrified of being rejected. But here's what nobody talks about: there's a type of rejection that's far more painful than anything the world can throw at you. And chances are, you're experiencing it right now without even realizing it. In this episode, I'm sharing a lesson my late sister taught me about rejection—one that completely changed how I approach fear, failure, and putting myself out there. She faced constant rejection as a professional dancer, yet somehow, she never let it stop her. And what she understood is something that successful people like J.K. Rowling, Oprah, and Steven Spielberg all figured out too. In this episode, you'll discover: The two types of rejection we all face (and why one is guaranteed to keep you stuck) What your fear of failure is really costing you The one question that will change how you make decisions forever Why the most successful people are also the most rejected people How to finally stop playing small and start going after what you really want If you've been holding back on something—whether it's a career move, a difficult conversation, or a dream you've been sitting on—this episode will shift everything for you. Ready to stop letting fear run your life? Book a free 20-30 minute coaching call with me and let's talk through what's keeping you stuck and what your next step forward looks like. Schedule your clarity call here: https://www.kategladdin.com/coaching